Freedom from CPTSD & Anxiety

The Underlying Fear In Trauma

An episode of Freedom from CPTSD & Anxiety

By Monique Koven,BSW,CTRC,CC
Monique Koven is a certified Trauma Recovery and Resilience Coach. She was diagnosed with C-PTSD and Anxiety from childhood trauma. She is fully recovered and helps others uncover their resilience and peace of mind. Monique offers 1:1 online coaching for anxiety/trauma.
Disclaimer. I am not a licensed mental health professional and do not treat or diagnose mental health illnesses. The information provided is of my own and not a replacement for medical and mental health advice. Always follow the advice of your medical or licensed mental health professional.
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Our Authentic Self
In this episode, Monique is talking about our authentic self that is there beneath the trauma.
October 10, 2019
Understanding Our Trauma Adaptive Responses
In this episode, Monique talks a little bit about The Polyvagal theory, and the autonomic nervous system with its survival adaptions in response to threat and safety.
October 6, 2019
An Anxiety Disorder Recovery Story with Drew From The Anxious Truth
Today on the podcast, I have Drew Linsalata from The Anxious Truth. He will be sharing his own personal story of living with anxiety in various forms and recovering from it.
October 2, 2019
Resilience Within With Guest Viviene Edgecombe
In today’s episode Monique is talking with author and transformational coach Viviene Edgecombe about what resilience is and where it comes from.
September 25, 2019
The Underlying Fear In Trauma
In this episode, Monique shares some of her thoughts on what she thinks may be the underlying fear in trauma.
September 17, 2019
Alana’s Story - Recovery From Childhood Trauma.
*Trigger Warning - violence, sexual abuse. In this episode, Alana talks about living with PTSD and anxiety from childhood sexual abuse. She shares about how she has been able to uncover her true self after years of not feeling worthy of love.
September 11, 2019
Vanessa’s Recovery Journey From Childhood Abuse and Anxiety
*Trigger Warning* In this episode, Vanessa talks about her childhood sexual trauma and how she is moving through recovery from anxiety and CPTSD.
September 4, 2019
It Isn’t Yours To Carry
So much of what we think is our stuff to carry isn’t.
August 27, 2019
Parenting With Complex Trauma and Anxiety with Guest Jacci Jones
In the episode therapist Jacci Jones and I talk about parenting children while experiencing complex trauma symptoms and anxiety.
August 23, 2019
Tina ‘s Recovery
Tina suffered with chronic PTSD, panic attacks, anxiety, depression and agoraphobia. In this episode she shares her story and how she is finding freedom from CPTSD and anxiety.
August 16, 2019
Narcissistic Tendencies Explained - With Jacci Jones
Today’s episode features a discussion with therapist and coach Jacci Jones. We talk about narcissistic tendencies in relationships with parents and partners.
August 10, 2019
Is home a place? In this episode, Monique talks about the concept of home.
July 31, 2019
PTSD- Feeling The Past
Why does it feel so familiar? That was a question many of us have when we are experiencing PTSD. In this episode, Monique shares how she has come to understand what was going on for her.
July 25, 2019
Connection and Recovery
In this episode, Monique talks about recovery beginning with the connection to a safe relationship.
July 19, 2019
Growth In Recovery with Kimberly Weeks
In this episode, I’m joined with my friend and colleague Kimberly Weeks. We talked about recovery and growth in the healing journey.
July 12, 2019
Our Story
In this episode, we look at who we are outside of any circumstances we may have found ourselves in.
July 5, 2019
The Problem With Listening To Our Thoughts - w/"That Anxiety Guy"
Great conversation with Drew (That Anxiety Guy) - about thoughts!  
June 26, 2019
You Are Not Who You Think You Are
When we start to see that we are not who we thought we were, things start to change.
June 21, 2019
Finding Power When You Feel Powerless - w/That Anxiety Guy
My conversation with Drew from the That Anxiety Guy podcast about how even in what seem like our most helpless and powerless moments, we are empowered and capable.
June 18, 2019
In this episode Monique talks about regret and compassion.
June 14, 2019
Sharing Your Story
In this episode, Monique talks about how sharing our story can help us feel seen, heard and validated.
June 7, 2019
You Are Not Responsible For The Happiness Of Others - w/That Anxiety Guy
My conversation with Drew from the That Anxiety Guy podcast about how making ourselves responsible for the happiness of others can be a problem.  
June 4, 2019
Mental Chatter
We have chatter going on all day. Much of it we take as truth, and in turn feel the effects of our own thinking.
June 1, 2019
Self Worth
In this episode, Monique talks about our personal beliefs and self worth.
May 28, 2019
Understanding Anxiety
In this episode, Monique shares an example of how anxiety looks now to her
May 24, 2019
A Little Mother’s Day Reminder
Monique shares a little message as we are coming close to Mother’s Day.
May 10, 2019
We Are Not Our Trauma
Our trauma often feels like an identity. In this episode, Monique talks about how we are not defined by what has happened to us.
May 8, 2019
Grief- Why We Can’t Just Get Over It.
Many people assume that because the trauma happened a long time ago, we should be able to move forward.
May 6, 2019
Anxiety- Where does It come from?
In this episode, Monique talks about anxiety and where our experience comes from in the moment.
May 4, 2019
In this episode, Monique looks at shame from the perspective of CPTSD.
April 29, 2019
My Memories Keep Coming
In this episode Monique talks about having memories that keep coming up.
April 27, 2019
What if-ing ?
In this episode, Monique talks about anxiety and what- ifing.
April 22, 2019
Our Mind and Our Wisdom
In this episode Monique talks about our built in wisdom and resilience.
April 18, 2019
CPTSD/Anxiety & Exhaustion
Feeling tired is common for those living with GAD and C-PTSD.
April 16, 2019
Emotional Flashbacks Are Safe
Emotional Flashbacks can feel very frightening when we don’t understand their nature.
April 14, 2019
My Partner & PTSD
Living with ptsd and anxiety and having a partner who does not understand, can feel challenging.
April 14, 2019
C-PTSD - My therapist Doesn’t Get It.
In this episode Monique addresses a listener’s question regarding working with a therapist who doesn’t seem to understand the impact of ongoing repetitive childhood trauma.
April 11, 2019
Uncovering The You underneath the anxiety and trauma
Monique shares the hope that things can really change from the inside out.
April 9, 2019
We Are All The Same.
In this episode Monique discusses our design and how we all work the same way.
April 8, 2019
Listener Ask’s- “ How Did You Recover From Anxiety?”
In this episode, Monique responds to a listener’s question about recovery from anxiety.
April 4, 2019
Self -Talk & Self- Compassion
In this episode Monique talks about how we can learn to be more compassionate with ourselves.
April 3, 2019
We Feel Our Thinking.
In today’s episode, Monique responds to a listener’s question.
April 2, 2019
Learned Helplessness and Empowerment
In this episode Monique talks about learned helplessness in relation to trauma and chronic anxiety.
March 21, 2019
You Are Not Stuck
Living with chronic anxiety and chronic PTSD can feel like you are living in a prison. We often conclude that we are stuck.
March 19, 2019
Do I Need The Abuser To Apologize In Order To Heal?
Many people who have been abused in childhood believe they need the Abuser to apologize in order to heal.
March 17, 2019
Anxiety, Trauma and Secondary Thoughts
In this episode Monique talks about how we often increase our suffering by adding secondary thoughts.
March 15, 2019
Should I Change My Thoughts?
We are often told to take our negative thoughts and make them positive. Monique discusses this idea in today’s episode.
March 12, 2019
Triggers & Flashbacks
In this episode Monique talks about being triggered and experiencing a flashback.
March 10, 2019
In this episode Monique addresses the topic of trust in interpersonal relationships.
March 9, 2019
Generational Trauma
In this episode Monique looks at the burdens we carry and how it’s often tried to many generations past.
March 8, 2019
Personality and Identity.
In this episode Monique talks about our identity.
March 7, 2019
Thoughts and Beliefs
In this episode Monique talks about thoughts and beliefs.
March 3, 2019
Making Meaning Out Of Our Experiences
In this episode Monique looks at how we give meaning to our experiences.
March 2, 2019
Generalized Anxiety-A Little Deeper
A continuation of the last episode on the experience of Generalized Anxiety.
February 27, 2019
Generalized Anxiety
Generalized Anxiety feels like it’s fixed and permanent. Monique discusses her own experience of being labeled with it and finding freedom from it.
February 26, 2019
Empathy for Others, even when you were not given any.
In this episode, Monique talks about her own experience with empathy.
February 24, 2019
Trauma Is Not A Mental Illness
Trauma is not a mental illness it’s an injury, therefore it can be healed
February 19, 2019
Hope and Resilience
Getting in touch with who we are underneath the trauma is the beginning of freedom.
February 15, 2019
Boundaries and Going Low to No Contact
Establishing good boundaries is essential in trauma recovery. Deciding how this plays out is a personal choice.
February 14, 2019
A Closer Look At Our Beliefs
We often carry into adulthood old beliefs we picked up in childhood.
February 9, 2019
Does It Spark Joy?
In this episode Monique talks about living our lives from a place of joy rather than from obligation.
February 6, 2019
CPTSD - When You Didn’t Have A Before
In this episode Monique talks about not having a personal frame of reference before complex trauma.
February 2, 2019
Being Heard Heals
Part of the healing recovery of complex trauma is allowing yourself to speak and be heard.
February 1, 2019
You Are Not Negative
Always looking at the worst case scenario is very common for those who grew up in homes where life was unpredictable.
January 31, 2019
You Are Not Your Diagnosis
Sometimes we can become attached to our diagnosis and it can become an identity.
January 27, 2019
CPTSD - Why do I still feel like a child?
If you have had developmental trauma or ongoing childhood trauma feeling child like is a common experience.
January 25, 2019
Hypervilgilance and CPTSD
Hyper vigilance is one the hallmark symptoms of Chronic PTSD.
January 24, 2019
Overwhelm with CPTSD
Feeling Overwhelmed is a common response to trauma. Monique briefly discusses how ongoing trauma in childhood can set the brain up for the fear.
January 22, 2019
CPTSD Giving ourselves outrageous self compassion
There is nothing as important as giving ourselves self compassion and self acceptance in trauma recovery.
January 17, 2019
It Wasn’t About You
Self loathing is a common response to ongoing repetitive trauma. We tend to believe it was about us.
January 14, 2019
CPTSD and The Plastic Brain
Changes occur in the brain as a result of early childhood trauma. The hopeful news as that our brains have the capacity to change.
January 12, 2019
CPTSD and Emotional Flashbacks
Emotional flashbacks are a common symptom with those diagnosed with PTSD/ complex trauma.
January 9, 2019
Anxiety and Avoidance
Many people will avoid things, places and people that they believe cause them anxiety. In this episode we look at where the experience of fear is really coming from.
January 8, 2019
Trauma Recovery is about discovery of who you really are.
Part of the Trauma Recovery process is discovering who you are underneath your perceptions and beliefs.
January 6, 2019
You are not broken.
Many people who experience chronic PTSD and anxiety conclude that there is something wrong with them.
January 3, 2019
The Pattern of Generalized Anxiety
Living with generalized anxiety appears to come out of no where. Monique talks about where anxiety really stems from.
December 31, 2018
What is Trauma?
Monique talks about what the experience of trauma is.
December 29, 2018
Holiday Triggers with CPTSD
Many people who have experienced trauma in the past experience triggers from the past. Validation helps ease the pain as you move towards your recovery.
December 24, 2018
Letting go of “should’s”
In this episode Monique talks about giving yourself permission to let go of the “should do” list.
December 23, 2018
Fight & Flight with Anxiety and CPTSD
Monique talks about the flight and flight mechanism in relation to anxiety and PTSD and our experience of life.
December 18, 2018
What is the difference between Anxiety and PTSD?
In this short episode Monique explains in a general way the difference between Anxiety and PTSD.
December 12, 2018
Feeling Stuck In Anxiety & Ptsd
In this episode Monique talks about the experience of feeling stuck in anxiety and PTSD from childhood trauma. Monique is fully recovered today.
November 30, 2018
Why we need a compassionate witness to heal from trauma.
In this episode, Monique talks about how having a compassionate witness deeply listen to your trauma can start you on your road to recovery.
November 22, 2018
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