Mostly Balanced
By Carleigh
Mostly BalancedMay 06, 2024
203. How To Get Over Imposter Syndrome In Your Relationship
Welcome back! Today we're chatting about imposter syndrome in relationships & answering listener questions.
what we talk about:
- why imposter syndrome happens in relationships
- how to stop worrying things are "too good to be true"
- ways to be more confident
- balancing busy schedules in a relationship
- what to do if your needs aren't being met
- deciding if it's worthy trying long distance
& more!
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As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
202. Why Are All My Relationships Ending At The 3 Month Mark?
Welcome back! Today we're diving into listener questions.
what we talk about:
- is it a red flag if they say they don't like labels?
- getting from "exclusive" to DTR
- should you double text or consider it ghosting?
- is it a red flag if they don't wish you a happy birthday in early dating
- how to handle "awkward" silences on dates (& in relationships)
- what to do when you can't get past the 3 month mark in dating
- exchanging numbers on a dating app before going on a date
& more!
📝 Questions to ask about the future early on
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💌 Sign up for my free newsletter, Mostly Dating
📖 Date with intention with my digital dating planner or ebook (use code IG10 for $10 off)
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
201. A Step-By-Step Guide To Building The Best Dating App Profile
Welcome back! Today's episode starts with a step-by-step guide to creating the best possible dating app profile for better matches and better dates that will lead to a relationship. We end with three listener questions (starting at 30:40).
what we talk about:
- How to pick the best photos for your app profile
- A specific breakdown of what photos to use
- Which prompts spark the most conversation
- How to write better prompt responses (with examples)
- A listener question on saying I love you
- What to do when they say they want to go out but keep putting off plans
- What to do when they keep bringing up past fights in new arguments
& more!
📣 Get a custom dating app profile makeover from me
📣 Book a 1:1 video or phone call with me
💌 Sign up for my free newsletter, Mostly Dating
📖 Date with intention with my digital dating planner or ebook (use code IG10 for $10 off)
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
200. Friends & Family with Different Relationship Timelines + Working While Mom-ing with Lucie Fink
Welcome back! It's episode 200 (!!) of Mostly Balanced, and today we're joined by content creator and 2x TEDx speaker, Lucie Fink.
what we talk about:
- a brief rundown of Lucie's career and why she recently decided to start her podcast, The Real Stuff
- Lucie's relationship with her now husband, dating back to high school, college, and moving to NYC
- maintaining independence and a sense of self in a relationship
- how we were both impacted by having a twin
- friends and family members with different dating timelines
- how sex changes when you move in together
- dividing responsibilities between parents
- balancing motherhood with working full time
& more!
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As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
199. Is It Okay To Date Multiple People At Once In Early Dating Stages?
Welcome back! Today we're answering listener questions...
what we talk about:
- How to book a live 1:1 dating consultation with me before the prices increase!
- Should you try again with someone one year after a first date that never panned out?
- Is it weird for a dating app match to mention other dates they have planned?
- If you go on a great first date but the person says they aren’t looking for something serious at the moment, should you still try a few more dates to see where it might go?
- The biggest indicator that you’re about to end up in a situationship
- How to stop a relationship from moving too fast (and why you might want to slow down)
- Is it okay to date multiple people at once in the early dating stages?
& more!
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**The post referenced during the last question in the episode.
**Date with intention with my digital dating planner & ebook. (use code IG10 for $10 off)
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
198. What To Do When You're A Few Dates In & Don't Know What They're Looking For
Welcome back! Today we're answering listener questions...
what we talk about:
- how to enter our 100K giveaway!
- what you should know by dates 3 and 5
- timelines in dating and relationships
- is it a bad sign if they update their app profile after a few good dates?
- what to do when you're a few dates in and you haven't talked about what you're looking for
- should you stay with someone when you know there's potential for a relationship but they aren't there yet?
& more!
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
197. How To Break Your Dating Patterns & Find A Better Relationship with Ilana Dunn
Welcome back! Today we have Ilana Dunn, host of Seeing Other People, back on the podcast.
What we talk about:
- Ilana’s dating patterns before meeting her fiancé
- Conversations she had before getting engaged
- Tips for better communication in relationships
- The hardest parts of wedding planning, why she isn’t having bridesmaids, and what she’s looking forward to most about being married
- What to do when your family is disappointed about your breakup
- Boundaries to set early on in dating
- How to have better conversations on dating apps
& more!
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
196. Getting From Dating To A Relationship + How To Improve Communication
Welcome back! Today we're answering listener questions...
what we talk about:
- how to enter our 100K giveaway!
- how to integrate into each other's lives in the early dating stages
- what does it mean when someone keeps viewing your social media?
- how to get past your bf dating someone else while you were on a break
- what to do if you feel like you aren’t in someone’s league but they ask you out
- what to do when you're 2 months into a relationship and it feels like you barely know each other
- how to strengthen communication in a 3 year relationship
& more!
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
195. Signs A Relationship Isn't Right Even If Nothing Is "Wrong" (+ how to end it)
Welcome back! Today we're chatting about questioning whether a relationship is right for you.
what we talk about:
- how to enter our 100K giveaway!
- early signs someone isn't the one
- signs a relationship isn't right
- habits of healthy relationships
- how to end things with someone you still care about
& more!
Posts I referenced:
- 10 Signs Your Relationship is Over
- 9 Qualities That Are Not Healthy In A Relationship
- 11 Tips For Ending Something With Someone You Still Care About
- 12 Feelings You Shouldn't Ignore In Any Relationship
- 16 Signs Someone Isn't The One
- 9 Signs You Might Be Settling
- 10 Habits Of Healthy Couples
- 12 Signs A Relationship Isn't Right Even If Nothing Is Wrong
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
194. What To Do When An Ex Comes Back + Questions To Ask On A First Date
Welcome back! It's just Carleigh today and she's diving into listener questions.
what we talk about:
- should you tell a friend you have feelings for them? + how to do it
- what to do when someone blocks you
- should you send a letter/text to a friend or ex after a breakup?
- what to do when people tell you you're "hard to read"
- how to be more vulnerable and open up more in relationships
- how long should you want for attraction to build/arise + how to make it build
- dates you should be going on early on
- questions to ask on early dates
- should you reach out to your ex?
- what to say when an ex reaches out
& more!
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
193. Breaking Down The Pleasure Gap + The Easiest Way To Have Better Sex
Welcome back! Today we're joined by Mackie Swan ,CEO of Woo More Play, a sexual wellness brand on a mission to inspire people to have better sex.
what we talk about:
- the origin story of Woo More Play & the products the offer (including my fav coconut love oil 👀)
- the benefits of using lubricant during sex
- why the *right* lube makes such a big difference
- the physical and mental benefits of orgasms & healthy sex life
- how to talk more openly about sex in a new relationship
- what to do if you're unhappy with your sex life in a long term relationship
- the pleasure gap (what it is, why it happens, and how to close it)
+ we answer listener questions on how to show love with acts of service, how to bring up defining the relationship, and more.
Find Woo More Play on Instagram @woomoreplay and learn how to become a partial owner here.
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
192. How To Turn A Breakup Into A Good Thing with @alessiasculpt
Welcome back! Today we're joined by (returning guest) Alessia Scauzillo, @alessiasculpt, founder of A Sculpt Body. We dive deep into how Alessia's life has changed over the past year, her divorce, and her dating experiences since then.
what we talk about:
- signs you and your partner are growing in different directions
- ending a relationship when nothing is really "wrong"
- getting back into dating after a divorce or breakup
- recognizing signs of a toxic relationship
- how to date more intentionally on dating apps
- tips to be more confident
- Alessia's go-to methods for reducing anxiety and feeling like her best self
the two books we referenced:
the meditation app we mentioned: Superhuman
Find Alessia on Instagram or TikTok at @alessiasculpt and head to asculptbody.com for a free 7-day trial of her workout program.
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
191. What's Holding You Back From Your Best Relationship with @therapyjeff
Welcome back! It's our first episode since we went on a brief hiatus, and what better way to kick off this new era of Mostly Balanced than with the internet's favorite therapist and dating expert, Jeff Guenther, LPC—or, as you probably know him, @therapyjeff.
what we're talking about:
- Jeff's upcoming book, Big Dating Energy (*preorder it here!!)
- what's holding you back from meeting your person
- how to be more successful on dating apps
- how to actually get approached IRL
- how to let someone know you are interested
- how to communicate what you need in a relationship
- what to do if you're not happy in a situationship (+ how to get over it) *here's the post we discuss
- defining a relationship/bringing up exclusivity
- what to do when they haven't said I love you but you want them to say it first
& more!
Find Jeff on Instagram and TikTok @therapyjeff + head to his website to preorder his book.
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
190. The First Date Never Happened, Should I Follow Up?
Welcome back! Today we're diving into listener questions all about early stages of dating, plus Mia shares advice on wedding planning and dress shopping.
what we talk about:
- How to not get overwhelmed when wedding dress shopping
- What to do when you feel like they're waiting for you to say "I love you" first
- How soon is too soon to say I love you?
- What to do when you plan a date but they don't follow through to confirm
- Are dating apps slow right now?
Find us on Instagram at @mostlybalancedpodcast and email your questions to hello@wearemostlybalanced.com.
Thanks for listening!
189. Help! I'm Nervous My Family Won't Like My Partner
Welcome back! Today we're chatting all about spending the holidays with a partner's family (or taking them home to yours!) and about meeting the family in general.
what we talk about:
- gift ideas for significant other depending on stages of the relationship
- when you should start sharing holidays with a partner
- how to set your partner up for success when meeting the family
- what to do when you're nervous your family won't like your partner
- advice for meeting their family for the first time
- gifts to bring when meeting the family
& more!
188. RACHEL GLASS on Creating Glosslab & Balancing Entrepreneurship With Motherhood
187. Can Attraction Actually Grow?
Welcome back! Today we're answering listener questions and sharing our own experiences on a range of dating/relationship issues. what we talk about: How to bring up the topic of gifts with a newer partner How important is physical attraction in early dating? Can attraction grow? What to do when you feel a shift in energy early on in dating & more! Find us on Instagram at @mostlybalancedpodcast and email your questions to hello@wearemostlybalanced.com. Thanks for listening!
186. Should I Tell My Partner I Cheated Or Just Break Up?
Welcome back! Today we're answering listener questions and sharing our own experiences on a range of dating/relationship issues.
what we talk about:
- How to deal with anxiety while SO is traveling
- Whether we think you should tell someone you cheated or just break up without giving a reason
- Age gaps in relationships
- How our past relationships impact our current relationships
- How to set communication expectations with a partner
- What to do when you have a lot of great first dates but no second dates
& more!
Find us on Instagram at @mostlybalancedpodcast and email your questions to hello@wearemostlybalanced.com.
Thanks for listening!
185. How To Motivate Yourself To Date If You Also Love Being Single
Welcome back! Today we're answering questions about how to motivate yourself to date when you love your single life, if you should consider getting back with your long distance ex who is moving to your city, how to bring up marriage with your partner who is divorced, and how to grow intimacy in a long distance relationship. We also talk about the struggle of saying no to plans when the answer is "I just don't want to".
Find us on Instagram at @mostlybalancedpodcast and email your questions to hello@wearemostlybalanced.com.
Thanks for listening!
184. Help! I Don't Like My Friend's Significant Other
Welcome back! Today we're diving into a listener question about what to do when you think your friend could do better—but they're about to get engaged. Should you tell your friend you don't like their partner, or should you keep it to yourself? We share our own experiences with friends expressing their concerns over our past relationships and how we'd approach the conversation with one of our friends.
Plus, we answer two brief listener questions about whether watching porn is cheating and who should pay for dates in a heterosexual relationship.
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. Thanks for joining us and please leave a rating or review if you enjoyed the episode!
183. I'm Not Cheating I Was Just Bored
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182. NATASSIA MILLER on How To Keep The Spark In The Relationship
Welcome back! Today we're joined by Natassia Miller, sexologist and founder of Wanderlust.
what we talk about:
- talking to your partner about sex
- how to keep the relationship exciting
- one key indicator of whether the relationship will be successful
- how to make the sex better
- how to improve intimacy during sex
& more!
181. VANESSA & XANDER MARIN on Research-Backed Ways to Improve Intimacy In Your Relationship
Welcome back! Today we're joined by Vanessa Marin, licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience in the sex therapy field, and her husband, Xander, chatting about all things sex and intimacy.
what we talk about:
- Why Vanessa decided to be a sex therapist & how Xander decided to start working with her
- Each of our experiences getting (or not getting) "the talk"
- How to actually talk to a partner about sex (no matter the relationship stage)
- What to do if you've been faking it with your partner (and want to stop)
- Why foreplay is important and how to do it right
& more!
Find Vanessa & Xander on Instagram or their website where you can purchase their courses and learn about working with them.
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. Thanks for joining us and please leave a rating or review if you enjoyed the episode!
180. What To Do When You & Your Partner Can't Stop Arguing
Welcome back! Today we're answering rapid fire listener questions about what to do when you feel like you're arguing too much early on in a relationship, how long to banter before asking them out yourself, how to deepen the conversation 4 or 5 dates in, and how to get your partner to plan more date nights.
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. Thanks for joining us and please leave a rating or review if you enjoyed the episode!
179. How To Be A Better Communicator In Your Relationship
Welcome back! It's just us today and we're diving into a longer listener question about a 6 month relationship that ended abruptly. How do you close the door when the other person leaves it slightly open? Can you try again once you've both worked on the issues? We also answer a listener question about how to improve communication in a relationship and share what we've each learned about our own communication style. We wrap up by giving advice to a listener who feels stuck in their career and jealous of the people around them living their dream lives.
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. Thanks for joining us and please leave a rating or review if you enjoyed the episode!
178. JARED FREID on “The Ick” & Why It’s Ok To Be “Picky”
Welcome back! Today we’re joined by Jared Fried (!!!), comedian and host of the J Train podcast & @betches @u.up.podcast, fresh off the release of his hit Netflix special, 37 & Single. what we talk about:
- Jared’s Netflix comedy special
- women getting “the ick” (& why most men don’t)
- our own “icks”
- why he tends to end things before the next step
- what changes about dating as you get more comfortable with yourself
- a listener question about a LDR that was going great until it wasn’t
- a listener question about shooting your shot on a dating app vs in real life & more!
Go follow @jaredfreid for more laughs & advice + WATCH HIS SPECIAL, 37 & Single, ON NETFLIX.
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. Thanks for joining us and please leave a rating or review if you enjoyed the episode!
177. Can You Rebuild Trust In A Relationship? (& other listener questions)
Welcome back! Today we're answering listener questions and sharing our own relevant dating experiences.
what we talk about:
- Should you stay in touch with their family and friends after a break up?
- How to get from the app convo to a date
- Can you rebuild trust in a relationship?
- What core values should you align on for a successful relationship?
- What to do when they say you're too good for them
& more!
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. Thanks for joining us and please leave a rating or review if you enjoyed the episode!
176. Should I Give A Marriage Ultimatum? (+ other listener questions)
175. Is It The Ick Or Am I Just Not Used To Being Treated Well?
Welcome back! Today we're diving deep into recent listener questions.
what we talk about:
- How much should you look someone up before a date?
- Is it normal to be weirded out by someone Googling you and sharing what they found?
- How to handle it when someone is being overly affectionate
- Bridging different communication styles early on in a relationship
- Is it normal to have mixed feelings after moving in with someone?
- How to make someone feel at home if they move into your space
& more!
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. Thanks for joining us and please leave a rating or review if you enjoyed the episode!
174. How To Compromise On Big Decisions In Relationships (+ other listener questions)
Welcome back! It's just us today and we're diving deep into listener questions + catching up on what's been going on with both of us.
what we talk about:
- How much should you be talking leading up to a first date?
- How do you verbalize the amount of communication you want early on?
- Does the way someone communicates early on indicate their communication style will be for the rest of the relationship?
- We answer a listener question about a 5 year relationship with two people who can't decide who's home city to live in
- How many dates in can you go to their apartment to cook dinner together?
- How to stop comparing yourself to friends who have the things you want
& more!
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. Thanks for joining us and please leave a rating or review if you enjoyed the episode!
173. STARIELLE HOPE on Why Dating Is Not A Numbers Game
Welcome back! Today we’re joined by Starielle Hope, human relationship & intimacy expert.
what we talk about:
- why Starielle does not believe dating is a numbers game
- actual ways to improve your dating app profile so you get the RIGHT matches, not necessarily more volume
- why some people can't get past a first date (and onto dates two, three, etc.)
- can attraction grow over time or should it feel like it looks in the movies?
- how to identify what might be holding you back in relationships
- identifying dating patterns in yourself
- why we are drawn to the same wrong relationship over and over
& more!
In today's intro, Mia shares more about an obstacle she's had in her own relationship and Carleigh & Mia discuss their thoughts on how to be more original on dating apps.
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. Thanks for joining us and please leave a rating or review if you enjoyed the episode!
172. When The Honeymoon Phase Ends (+ How To Keep It Going)
171. CANDICE HORBACZ (aka Eva Lovia) on What It's Really Like To Be A Porn Star, Mismatched Sex Drives, & How To Tell Your Partner What You Want In Bed
Welcome back! Today we’re chatting all things sex, boundaries, non-monogamy, and adult entertainment with Candice Horbacz (most commonly known as Eva Lovia), former adult entertainment star and multi-hyphenate entrepreneur
what we talk about:
- How Candice started webcamming & eventually built a career in the adult entertainment space
- What people get wrong about the porn industry
- Setting boundaries early on in a relationship
- How to tell your partner what you like sexually
- Misconceptions about how often you “should” be having sex
- Why having sex is sort of like going to the gym
- Why women have such a hard time saying no to things
- How to actually have better sex
& more!
We end the episode by asking Candice a few listener questions about what to do when a guy ghosts you and then resurfaces, whether you should end a relationship simply because something feels “off,” and more.
Find Candice on Instagram @evalovia and listen to her podcast anywhere you listen to podcasts.
170. CARLY & ILANA on Am I The Only One Without A Group Chat? (+ Other Friendship Struggles)
Welcome back! Today we are chatting about all things friendship with content creators and hosts of the new podcast, Life In Progress, Carly Silverman and Ilana Dunn.
what we talk about:
- How Carly & Ilana met and why they decided to start a podcast
- How they bonded over losing their jobs
- Carly & Ilana's matchmaking program
- Similarities between Carly & Ilana's friendship and Carleigh & Mia's friendship
- The dating app 3 out of 4 of us met our current partner on
- How to make friends as an adult
- Our own experiences with friendship breakups
- What to do when you're the only single friend
- How friendships evolve
- Feeling like the only one who doesn't have a large friend group
& more!
You can find Carly and Ilana on Instagram @lifeinprogress @seeingotherpeople@ilana.dunn & @carlyrsilverman. Listen to Life In Progress anywhere you listen to podcasts, and head to either of their Instagram accounts to learn more about their matchmaking company.
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. Thanks for joining us and please leave a rating or review if you enjoyed the episode!
169. The One That Got Away, Bad Texters, & When To Meet The Family
168. JOE FEMINELLA & STEVE ROSSITER on The Difference Between Playing Games & Playing Your Cards Right
Welcome back! Today we're joined by Joe Feminella & Steve Rossiter, of First Round's On Me, for a male's prospective on modern dating and how to use dating apps more intentionally.
what we talk about:
- How Joe first came up with the idea for FROME
- What sets FROME apart from other dating apps
- How to use any dating app more intentionally
- The "maximizer" mentality of always wanting someone/something better
- The one thing that makes you way less likely to go out on a date
- Common red flags men see when dating women
- Their thoughts on these common dating behaviors: thank you texts, women making the first move, sleeping together early on
& more
Learn more about FROME by heading to their Instagram @firstroundsonme or downloading the app from the app store. You can find Joe and Steve at @firstroundsonjoe and @steverossiter_.
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. Thanks for joining us and please leave a rating or review if you enjoyed the episode!
167. Is It Time To Reassess Your Relationship?
166. MARIN HAUGO on 28 Dates In 28 Days
165. Is This Love Bombing?
Welcome back! It's just us today and we're diving deep into listener questions.
what we talk about:
- when to delete the apps in a new relationship
- how to bring up defining the relationship
- should you tell someone if their boyfriend cheated on them with you?
- advice for getting over a bad breakup
& more!
+ we close with a new "love bomby or cute" segment.
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast and on our website. Thanks for joining us and please leave a rating or review if you enjoyed the episode!
164. MARIA AVGITIDIS on What To Talk About On A First Date + How Long To Wait To Sleep With Someone New
Welcome back! Today we're joined by Maria Avgitidis, matchmaker and founder of Agape Match.
what we talk about:
- the matchmaking process at Agape
- how long you should stay on a first date
- what to talk about on a first date
- Maria's 12 date rule
- how to weed out people who are only looking for a hookup (if you want a relationship)
& more!
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast and on our website. Thanks for joining us and please leave a rating or review if you enjoyed the episode!
163. Why You Shouldn't Go On Elaborate First Dates
Welcome back! It's just us today and we're answering a round of listener questions...
what we talk about:
- when the "spark" fades after the first few dates
- the ebbs & flows of sex in a relationship
- moving past the honeymoon phase
- what to do when you feel like there's no romance in your relationship
- how moving in together can impact the relationship
- the problem with friends with benefits
- what to do when you develop feelings for a friend with benefits
- dealing with grief in a relationship
- why you shouldn't put in so much effort on early dates
- what to do when they're a bad texter
& more!
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast and on our website. Thanks for joining us and please leave a rating or review if you enjoyed the episode!
162. CONNOR BEATON on Early Signs A Man Is Emotionally Available & How To Get Your Partner To Open Up
Welcome back! Today we're joined by coach, speaker, author, and founder of Man Talks, Connor Beaton for a peek inside the male mind.
what we talk about:
- Conor's dating history and the obstacles that led him to make a change
- Why he created Man Talks
- The most common issues men come to him for
- Early dating green flags
- Signs a man is emotionally available
- How to get a man to open up
- The importance of male friendships
- Why men care about a woman's sexual history
& more!
You can find Conor on Instagram @mantalks, order his book, or head to his website to learn more about working with him.
In today's intro, we answer listener questions about:
- Dating multiple people at once
- Things you should know by month 3
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast and on our website. Thanks for joining us and please leave a rating or review if you enjoyed the episode!
161. ANNA KAI on Why You Need To Be On Dating Apps If You're Single
Welcome back! Today we're joined by digital creator, Anna Kai (aka @maybeboth) chatting all about dating in NYC, what we wish we knew in our 20s, and how to actually meet people on the apps.
what we talk about:
- Anna's path to becoming a digital creator
- How she found her niche
- Dating in NYC
- How Anna met her husband
- Waiting to have sex until you're in a relationship
- Why everyone who's single should be on dating apps (+ how to use them successfully)
- How to talk about moving in together
- Things to talk about before getting married
- Forcing a relationship that isn't right
& more!
You can find Anna on Instagram @maybeboth or TikTok @maybebothstyles
In today's intro we answer listener questions about when you "should" meet the family and why some straight men say they had a good time on a date and then change their mind about wanting a relationship.
What we're loving:
- Fresh floral recovery calming mask
- Seed probiotic
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast and on our website. Thanks for joining us and please leave a rating or review if you enjoyed the episode!
160. JEREMY JACOBOWITZ on A Male's Perspective On NYC Dating
Welcome back! Today we're joined by digital creator, food influencer, director, and host, Jeremy Jacobowitz, , otherwise known as “brunchboys,” and the face behind some of our favorite food content on Instagram.
What we talk about:
- how Jeremy started his career as a content creator
- how his career has evolved
- what it was like being in a room with 10 of his former app dates
- how the article in The Cut about his online dating history came to be
- mistakes he thinks straight women make on dating apps
- things that make him swipe no (and yes)
- his ideal first date and how he plans dates
- ghosting and anti-ghost texts
- who should pay for dates, how long you should stay on a date, sex on a first date, and other dating rules
- advice for meeting someone’s family
& more
Find Jeremy and all his food recs on Instagram @jeremyjacobowitz, or head to his YouTube or TikTok.
In today's intro we discuss:
- Carleigh's obsession with her Jolie shower filter and how it's changed her skin and hair
- What Mia's been watching
- Listener questions: compromising with your fiancé on a wedding date, compromising with your partner when you have different love languages
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast and on our website. Thanks for joining us and please leave a rating or review if you enjoyed the episode!
159. KELLEY KNIGHT on How To Manifest Your Dream Partner
Welcome back! Today we are joined by return guest, Kelley Knight, founder of Modern Mystic Shop & co-writer of Spells for the Modern Mystic.
what we talk about:
- what people do wrong about manifesting
- tips and tricks for calling in a partner
- the crazy alignment of how Kelley met her boyfriend
- how to tune into your intuition
- how Kelley specifically gets her intuitive hits
- Kelley's process for creating spells & rituals
- real examples of things she has manifested into her life
- why you shouldn't be afraid to admit what you want in a relationship (or that you want one at all)
Find Kelley on Instagram @kelley_knight and @modernmystic_shop + purchase her book here.
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast and on our website. Thanks for joining us and please leave a rating or review if you enjoyed the episode!
158. KEVIN NAHAI on Why You're Dating All The Wrong People (+ How To Find The Right One)
Welcome back! Today we're joined by speaker, therapist, and coach, Kevin Nahai.
what we talk about:
- how to learn what you want in a partner
- the biggest cause of dating burnout
- dating with intention
- when to have sex with someone new
- how to tell someone what you're looking for in a relationship
- what Kevin thinks women get wrong about straight men
& more!
Find Kevin on Instagram @kevinnahai or head to his website to schedule a free consultation.
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast and on our website. Thanks for joining us and please leave a rating or review if you enjoyed the episode!
157. LINDSEY METSELAAR on Boyfriend Privileges, Jealousy, & How To Make The Sex Better Before You Have It
Welcome back! Today we're chatting with return guest, Lindsey Metselaar, host of dating podcast We Met At Acme.
what we talk about:
- Lindsey's dating rules
- How to maintain your own life in early dating stage
- Boyfriend and husband privileges
- How sex changes when you move in
- Talking to a new partner about sex
- Jealousy in relationships
- Can men and women have a platonic friendship?
& more
Find Lindsey on Instagram @wemetatacme and @lindzmetz or listen to her podcast wherever you listen to podcasts.
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast and on our website. Thanks for joining us and please leave a rating or review if you enjoyed the episode!
156. Is It The Right Person But The Wrong Time?
Welcome back! It's just us today and we're answering a bunch of listener questions.
what we talk about:
- high school/college love and how relationships change as an adult
- why situationships are only good for one person
- how to stop romanticizing past relationships
- our thoughts on "right person wrong time"
- discussing money in relationships
- what to do when your partner isn't a planner
& more
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast and on our website. Thanks for joining us and please leave a rating or review if you enjoyed the episode!
155. DR. CARLI BLAU on Why We're Not Attracted To The Nice Guy + How To Have a Better Sex Life
Welcome back! Today we're joined by sex and empowerment therapist and women's health expert, Carli Blau, PhD.
what we talk about:
- our history of dating the "bad boy" & men who are emotionally unavailable
- why women don't find "nice guys" attractive
- how to get over a toxic relationship
- how to be more confident in your body
- conversations to have with a new partner about sex
- how to tell your partner about past sexual trauma
- how much you should tell your partner about your past
- learning what turns you on, masturbating, self pleasure
- why sex on the first date is ok
- Carli's own relationship with her husband and their dating history
& more!
Find Carli on Instagram @sexdoccarli or head to her website to make an appointment.
+ in today's intro we discuss:
- The wellness product Carleigh has been loving (MOSTLYBALANCED for 15% off!)
- Mia's latest experience with Sakara (XOBALANCED for 20% off!)
- TV shows & movies we've been watching
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast and on our website. Thanks for joining us and please leave a rating or review if you enjoyed the episode!
154. AMY NOBILE on Everything We're Getting Wrong About Early Dating (+ What To Do Instead)
Welcome back! Today we are joined by Amy Nobile, dating coach and highly requested guest! Get your notes app out because there are a lot of great tips in this one.
what we talk about:
- how to make a swipe-worthy dating profile
- how to swipe more mindfully on apps
- why you aren't excited by the people you're seeing on the apps
- how to find someone who does excite you
- how to flirt and build chemistry on early dates
- whether you should kiss someone on a first date
- how long to wait to have sex
- defining the relationship
- is it ever too soon too compliment?
& more!
Find Amy on Instagram @love.amy.nyc or head to her website to book a free consultation!
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast and on our website. Thanks for joining us and please leave a rating or review if you enjoyed the episode!
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