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Episode 08: The Comparison Game: How it Hurts is, How to Stop Letting it Control our Next Move

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By Kaitlin Soule, LMFT
I am a Licensed Therapist who specializes in treating anxiety and helping people break free from limiting beliefs so they can live more freely and fully. , In this podcast, I share my thoughts and insights from both my clinical and personal perspective on the topic of anxiety, mental health, parenthood, and being imperfectly and courageously human. My hope is to bring you content that is empowering and give you tools to make change.

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“Don’t Feed the Monkey Mind,” with Anxiety Treatment Expert and Author Jennifer Shannon.
In this episode Jennifer Shannon, Anxiety treatment specialist and author talks about how we can learn to “live well with worry,” and welcome anxiety so that we can move towards a life that is more free and full. If you have anxiety or work with people with anxiety and you’re wanting to know how improve coping skills, this episode is the one for you! Jennifer has written multiple books on the topic of anxiety including, "Don't Feed the Monkey Mind," "The Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook for Teens," and "The Anxiety Survival Guide for Teens." You can go to Jennifershannon.com to find our more about her work. 
35:40
August 14, 2019
Episode 18: The Basics of CBT + A strategy to help cope with Anxiety
The basic principles of CBT “bonus” episode is up...it’s just me talking to you (in my car because....kids) about the basics of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy AND how you can use it in your daily life. I walk you through learning to use a CBT based tool called a thought record. Thought records are the “starting place” for the work I do work clients, and it helps to uncover and then change the thinking and behavior patterns that are keeping them stuck, anxious or depressed. “When we think better, we feel better...and when we feel better, we live better!”
21:39
July 31, 2019
Leaning into Uncertainty + Living more Freely
This episode is a quick listen for those wanting to know how they can learn to welcome uncertainty to live a life that is more free and full.
17:02
July 7, 2019
16: Being a Dad to our three kids....from my husbands perspective!
Father’s Day series part 2; I talk a lot about being a mother, and our quest to show up as our best selves, and I thought it would be interesting to hear, right from the source, an honest reflection of being a dad who is doing the same. When it comes to being a dad, my husband nails it! In this episode I got to sit down and talk with my husband/best friend about what it’s like for him to be a dad. We talk about watching the babies come into the world, the hardest parts of parenting, the coolest parts of parenting and what he hopes our children will know about themselves and the world. I might be biased, but I think he’s pretty amazing...and funny too! We recorded this episode on a camping vacay while the kids were (thankfully) sound asleep in the trailer. This episode is honest, reflective as who we are as a couple, and who we are as parents. This parenting gig is beautiful, challenging, humbling and everything in between...hope you enjoy! ✌🏻
31:19
June 30, 2019
Episode 15: The Dad Series Part 1: Reflections on the role my dad plays in my life
This episode is the first in a two part series all about dads in this episode I share about my relationship with my dad, the role he has played and continues to play in my life and all the life lessons he has taught me. For more follow me @mother_more
26:52
June 23, 2019
Episode 15: Ask A therapist...answers to listener’s questions!
This episode features answers to a range of listener’s questions! We will cover how to identify and change your limiting beliefs, how to help a loved one through a panic attack, how to support a family member or friend going through postpartum struggles, how to tackle health anxiety, and a fun fact about me! If you want to follow along with what I’m up to during the week, get some more tips, tools, and some daily inspiration to help you live your best life follow me on instagram @mother_more
37:17
June 13, 2019
Episode 14: mindfulness for busy people! The way towards less worry and more goodness...
This episode talks about what mindfulness is, how I apply it in therapy and in my own life, and then gives you the experience of a short guided-meditation. The benefits of mindfulness are backed by a ton of research, and if you’ve been wondering how you might apply it to your life- this is a great place to start. I am somewhat new to meditation and gratitude practices, so I thought it would be helpful to share my real and honest journey to applying mindfulness into my busy life as a working mom, wife, and human being! Email me your listener letter questions for a future episode: kaitlin@petalumacbt.org or DM me @mother_more
30:35
May 29, 2019
Episode 13: How to Keep your Mental and Emotional Health Strong (8 tips)
May is Mental Health Awareness Month, and in honor of it (and really you) I am sharing tips and tools to help you stay strong when it comes to mental and emotional health. Just like we know we need to take care of our physical bodies to feel out best, we also need to pay equal attention to taking care of our mental and emotional well-being by being intentional around the choices we are making. Tune in to hear my top 8 mental health and wellness tips so that you can continue down the path of living and feeling better. Follow me @mother_more on instagram for more content like this!
30:34
May 16, 2019
Episode 12: Shining a light on Maternal Mental Health; The Power of Writing and Sharing our Story
In this episode, and in honor of Mental Health Awareness month, I shed a light on maternal mental health by talking about the importance of sharing our birthing and mothering stories. I share my own birthing story, with my first daughter, and reflect on our journey together thus far, and what I know to be true about motherhood.
22:10
May 8, 2019
CBT Treatment 101; An interview with Litsa Tanner, Anxiety and OCD expert!
An expert’s perspective, tips and tools around coping with anxiety and OCD! In this episode I had the privilege of interviewing my own mentor, Clinical Director of the Santa Rosa Center for CBT, and LMFT Litsa Tanner. Litsa is an expert in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and runs one of the most highly regarded practices in Northern California for treating children and adults with Anxiety Disorders and OCD. In this convo we talked about how CBT treatment works, the role of uncertainty, why it’s important to welcome anxiety, how to identify normative anxiety versus disordered anxiety, red flags for anxiety issues in children, and how to help people with OCD, Litsa gives her thoughts on things you can do, outside of or before therapy, to help yourself or your child learn to. cope with anxiety and shares what it’s like being a therapist...the great parts and the challenges! Www.srcbt.org
48:46
April 17, 2019
Episode 11: inspired by Chicago...inside the inspired and (sometimes) anxious brain of a therapist.
In this episode, I share about my trip to Chicago- how it inspired me and challenged me on a personal and professional level. While I went to Chicago for a professional conference; it was about so much more than that. Join me as I walk through topics such as the importance of getting out of your comfort zone as a couple, exploring new cities, and how we can change our complicated relationship with anxiety. I end this episode by sharing some journaling I did on the plane to help cope with my fear of flying.
33:04
April 2, 2019
Episode 10: Let’s Talk Panic Attack’s- Why we Have Them and How we can Feel Better
Do you or a loved one suffer from panic attacks, or the fear of having them? If you do, you’re in good company as about 6 million adults suffer from panic attacks. In this episode we talk about what panic attacks are, how to distinguish them from other types of anxiety, including Panic Disorder, and then I give you my clinical perspective and things you can do to feel better. Suggested Resource: “Stopping the Noise in Your Head,” Reid Wilson
23:33
March 27, 2019
Episode 09: Tools to Overcome Emotional Obstacles, get Unstuck and Feel Better
Do you ever feel down in the dumps, depressed, bogged down or just “stuck?” In this episode we talk about the logistical and emotional obstacles that keep us feeling stuck, or not our best and then I uncover a few tools you can try to get unstuck! This episode is for anybody who is wanting to learn how to stop allowing their emotions, or the weight of life keep them from living their best.
19:49
March 20, 2019
Episode 08: The Comparison Game: How it Hurts is, How to Stop Letting it Control our Next Move
Do you ever find yourself comparing yourself to others, and allowing that comparison to making you feel stuck, or not good enough? It’s natural and learned for humans to compare, but we don’t let the fear that comparison creates control us. In this episode, I have an honest conversation about How comparison has played out in my life, how I see it play out in the lives of others and how we can change our relationship with it for the better.
17:12
March 4, 2019
Episode 07: People Pleasing- How it’s holding you back, and how to break the cycle
In this episode I share my views, both personally and clinically, around how people pleasing holds us back from living authentically, and ultimately from living our best lives. As always, I approach this topic in a way that’s real, and with the hope of inspiring new knowledge and change. If you like what you hear here, join me @mother_more on Instagram where I share my musings, offer up usable tools, and attempt to change the way mental health and therapy is viewed. Go to www.therapywithkaitlin.com to find out about working one-on-one with me via remote video sessions.
20:26
February 25, 2019
#Momlife - Reflections, and Listener’s Letters
A dive into all things motherhood...the weight, the beauty, the hard stuff, the joyous moments, and the uncertainty. A discussion around unlocking our power as women by talking about our experiences, and sharing the thoughts, feelings and behaviors that often keep women stuck. I answer listeners questions, with the spin of a cognitive behavioral therapist, and a mom (me).
23:30
February 11, 2019
Truths About Anxiety & Facing your Fears
Do you experience anxiety or panic attacks? In this episode I share some some truths about anxiety and some mottos you can use to help you face your fears. The information I share comes from “The Agoraphobia workbook” by C. Alec Pollard, Ph.D and Elke Zuercher-Whitr, Ph.D
13:31
February 7, 2019
Episode 04: Answering Listeners Questions
In this episode I answer questions from my Instagram followers and podcast listeners. I give my perspective on topics like mom guilt, dealing with toxic family members, getting help after a traumatic event, and helping parents and children with problematic behaviors. Send in your questions, or feedback via email kaitlin@petalumacbt.org or DM me on Instagram @mother_more
23:32
January 30, 2019
Episode 03: Stoping Social Anxiety From Taking the Wheel
This episode is all about social anxiety, what it is and how to begin the journey of overcoming it. Social anxiety is the most common anxiety disorder and is highly treatable. I talk about how it works, why it’s important to treat, and give three CBT tools you can start using to fight back today. If you, or a loved one, struggle with excessive worry in social situations, this episode is a helpful place to start. Don’t let anxiety take the wheel! If you are looking to do more reading around a CBT approach for Social Anxiety, check out “Don’t Feed the Monkey Mind,” by Jennifer Shannon, LMFT.
21:16
January 23, 2019
Addendum to Episode 2: Feeling Anxious vs. Having a Disorder
Adding on to episode 2, I distinguish the difference between feeling anxious and having a true anxiety disorder. What’s normative anxiety versus problematic anxiety.
03:19
January 15, 2019
Episode 02: Learn to Live Well With Worry
This one is for everyone who has struggled with the weight of anxiety. I talk about what anxiety is, and give you three usable tools that you can put into action to combat worry and stop letting fear take the wheel. The focus of this episode is on Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) Helpful reading: “Stoping the Noise in Your Head,” Dr. Reid Wilson.
20:42
January 13, 2019
The Beginning
Intro to who I am, why I started this podcast and what I hope for it.
11:46
January 7, 2019
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