Patti Crouch and Heather Dragulescu host a podcast about their crazy lives as stand up comedians and foster adopt mothers to three children each! Patti is the Hispanic mama with African American children and the youngest has a disability called Fetal Alchohol Spectrum Disorder. Heather is the Hapa tiger mom with Mexican children that were adopted together as an older sibling set. Both Patti and Heather turned to standup comedy as an outlet for the frustrations they felt at home. Listen each week as they discuss comedy, motherhood, foster care, adoption, and whatever else is bugging them.
It's been a year since the Mother Effers started comedy and met each other. They rehash their memories of their first show and talk about why they think they became such good friends so quickly. Then continuing the "how we met" topic, each of the MEs discusses how they met their spouse, what their proposal was like, and what they thought about their wedding. Can you guess who has the more romantic story?
The Mother Effers will be performing together March 04, 7:30pm in the Yoo-Hoo Room at Flappers Comedy Club in Burbank, CA. If you're in the Los Angeles area make sure to stop by and catch your favorite foster adopt comedic moms in action.
It's a week discussing the Self Esteem Demon. That's the voice in your head or that little guy on your shoulder that tries to convince you everyday that you're a failure. These ladies face off with theirs as Heather reveals her biggest fear of performing on stage. Then the moms have some sad rants about having to be continuously confronted about the fact their foster adopt children are neurotypical and each day is a constant reminder of the challenges they face.
It's a discussion about frustrations, tantrums, and name changes. First the ladies dig into what's frustrating them with standup comedy and the difficulties of balancing their home life with the open mic scene. Then it's on to a touchy subject - do you change your foster adopt child's name. Hear how each Mother Effer addressed this situation. After this, the moms discuss tantrums and trying to teach their kids that life isn't fair.
Heather has a manager and booked a commercial on her second audition. Listen as she describes the process of auditioning and how well she enjoyed her first commercial shoot. Then the MEs dig deep into their "Go To" lists. From meals, to comedians, to date nights with the husband, the divide between the two mothers grows wider. Patti likes to keep things simple and easy with 3 steps or less, while Heather prefers specifics and detail that are 5 steps or more. Is Heather's ramen meal too complicated? Should Patti wash her belly button? Will they ever agree again?
The Mother Effers sit down with Cassie Hawkins-Leone and discuss her experience as an older child in foster care and being adopted at 16. It's an emotional discussion that digs deep into very raw and honest feelings. How has foster care impacted her? How did the abuse affect relationships as she matured? What is her relationship like with her birth and adoptive families then and today? Find out this and much more, including Cassie's own words of inspiration for other foster kids.
This week the Mother Effers discuss various reactions they have had in their lives. First, it's about their comedy and how it has grown into something more for themselves. Then they discuss the family and friend reactions to their choice to adopt. It's not all hugs and smiles as they deal with social abandonment, cultural challenges, and their own feelings at unexpected moments of loss.
Patti and Heather are trying to get back into the swing of things in the New Year. Battling sleep deprivation, lack of privacy, and what's bugging them they find the humor and discuss where they find material for their jokes. In this episode they also discuss the benefits of taking a comedy class to help hone their skills. Then it's on to the MOMMY WARS. Moms, and even Dads, you know these other parents. These are the ones who have something to say about how everyone else is living their life. They also delve into not looking like their kids and trying out 23 and Me.
Heather and Patti go over their New Year’s Resolutions for comedy, family, themselves, and the Mother Effin’ podcast. The Mother Effers have had an exciting 2018 and look towards an even brighter 2019. Of course, they will be sharing each failure and victory with, you, the listeners. Thank you for listening and sharing! We’ll see you in the New Year!
Patti and Heather discuss emotional comedy, including Hanna Gadsby’s, NANETTE and Neal Brennan’s 3 MICS. No spoilers, but Heather has also watched the first half of the second season of THE MARVELOUS MRS. MAISEL. Then it’s on to the ups and down of the Christmas holiday season. Heather is fighting with Target and then the Mother Effers discuss their traditions and get into a heated discussion about ornaments crafted by children.
For our 10th episode we have a special guest, Holly Gates! Holly is a good friend of Patti's who is a mother to three young boys. Her oldest son has autism and the Mother Effers discuss the challenges. Holly has recently begun to perform stand up comedy and is also using it as an outlet for her emotions and thoughts of parenting a special needs child.
The Mother Effers are wrapping up the year with their comedy and recap their time hosting an open mic together. Then it's onto the dreaded topic of laundry where Patti and Heather break into an epic debate of FOLD or DON'T FOLD your underwear. Please let us know your feelings in an anchor voice message or email us at email@example.com. After this near friendship killing discussion, it's on to tips about kid's clothing organization, dressing properly, and when traveling. Bonus travel tips in regards to snacking! Kids with trauma and neglect often have challenges with food so get two perspectives on how each mom deals with the drama.
Heather went to the very first Palm Springs International Comedy Festival and it was... interesting. Then Patti and Heather recap their Thanksgiving hijinks which included some unforeseen travel bumps, a holiday with the kids split between parents, a trip to Universal Studios Hollywood, and taking the family to see the movie INSTANT FAMILY. It was a busy holiday weekend and they managed to come out of it... just okay.
Patti discusses the evolution of her Curious George set and then Heather joins in to discuss the pitfalls of watching television and movies with children from foster care and adoption. Then it's a deep dive into why Heather chose to adopt an older sibling set of three children and the challenges of raising children who suffered serious neglect, trauma, and emotional, physical, and sexual abuse. Also, find out why Heather can no longer cry (don't worry, Patti cries instead).
Patti and Heather discuss the unexpected benefits, life changes, and life lessons that came from doing comedy. Then they deep dive into met and missed expectations of adoption, parenting, and the inevitable expectations they’ve created for their kids. Also, Heather’s Tiger Mom views on life come out.
SPOILERS! Patti and Heather saw the new movie INSTANT FAMILY (starring Mark Wahlberg and Rose Byrne) and give their honest take on how the film deals with foster care and adoption. Also, they recap Patti's stand up comedy show Fostering Funny and talk about their Thanksgiving plans.
Patti and Heather discuss their first comedic influences (Bill Cosby and Lucille Ball respectively). Then it’s a recap of Halloween and how they manage their kids needs while keeping the spirit of the holiday alive. Then Heather talks about her kids ups and downs of the week; her youngest daughter finished trauma therapy and her eldest daughter decided to try and forge a note to get out of PE.
First up, Heather had a show and the Mother Effers talk about the challenges of performing to a lukewarm audience. Then it’s an emotional discussion with Patti about FASD and adopting a special needs child. It’s an emotional episode and the Crouch Cry Count is high. Grab those tissues!