Patti Crouch and Heather Dragulescu host a podcast about their crazy lives as stand up comedians and foster adopt mothers to three children each! Patti is the Hispanic mama with African American children and the youngest has a disability called Fetal Alchohol Spectrum Disorder. Heather is the Hapa tiger mom with Mexican children that were adopted together as an older sibling set. Both Patti and Heather turned to standup comedy as an outlet for the frustrations they felt at home. Listen each week as they discuss comedy, motherhood, foster care, adoption, and whatever else is bugging them.
Quickie: Class Clowns - Comedy a la Carte Show
In the second part of this interview the MEs discuss with Kari how she was ultimately able to build her family. It's a story with many fun twists and surprises!
Quickie: News Break - Fight At Disneyland
The MEs interview Kari, a personal friend of Heather's from high school. She's the person who introduced Heather to their FFA and has been there every step of Heather's adoption story. On top of that, she has 5 BOYS and is an adoptive mother herself.
Quickie: Pop Quiz - How Well Do You Know Your Mom?
In this episode the MEs take time to talk to Patti's 8-year old twin girls, Lexi and Xandi. Both have very interesting and different opinions on adoption and dyslexia. Check it out and if you have adopted kids at home, make sure you take the time to check in with how they are feeling.
The MEs go over the "To Do" list of how to behave as a professional comic once you book a show. From promoting beforehand and how to act the night of the show, listen to these tips to be a better comedian.
Quickie: Update - OMG OMAD
In this episode Patti and Heather talk with a favorite comedian and friend, Renée Percy. You can tell Renée is fancy and amazing because she has an apostrophe in her name. Starting with her early career on Degrassi High in Canada, the MEs talk to Renée about how she got into stand-up comedy and how her struggles with infertility have shaped her current views on comedy.
This episode also has an abrupt ending as the recording device suddenly stopped. The MEs are incredibly thankful Renée Percy stopped by to chat openly about her career and infertility struggles. Please follow her at reneepercy.com and check out her link for classes. She is an incredible teacher and mentor to fellow comedians!
Quickie: Small Talk - Happiest Memory
It's been quite a week for the MEs. With school ending and balancing work/comedy/life, Patti and Heather have been struggling to get through it all. On top of that, things reached a boiling point with Heather's mom. Listen to find out the difficult decision she had to make about their relationship.
Quickie: Small Talk - Fundraisers
Summer is here! Which means the MEs are running a touch behind each week. Thank you for your patience with us as we edit and upload our episodes. This week Patti and Heather talk about their summer plans and how to survive the many long weeks till school starts up again.
Patti and Heather went to see improv... willingly! Cast members of THE GOOD PLACE performed a charity improv show called the TOTAL FORKING SHIRT SHOW. The event easily became one of Patti's "Top 5 L.A." moments.
Quickie: Book Club - Marissa's Top Three Books
The Colors Of Grief
Child Called It
Bonus: The Primal Wound
Patti and Heather interview Marissa this week, the FFA Intake Coordinator who matched Patti with her twin daughters! They discuss how Marissa ended up working in foster care, get some specifics on how potential foster parents are viewed, and then find out what Marissa is currently up to and how she now feels about foster care after working with the system.
Quickie: Mini-Interview - Jaxon Crouch
The school year has ended and the Mother Effers are catching up on where they're at with comedy and family. Give us a message about how you're life is going via email: firstname.lastname@example.org, by phone: 818-533-8656, or by leaving us an Anchor Voice Message.
Quickie: Class Clowns - Mic Stand Etiquette
This week is the second part of a two part interview with Cory Ringhdal. In the second part of Cory's story, he finds out he's a birth father and signs over his parental rights so his daughter can be adopted by another man. The story doesn't end there so listen to hear all the twists and turns it takes!
Quickie: Class Clowns - Mic Etiquette
This week is the first part of a two part interview with Cory Ringhdal. Adopted as an infant Cory discusses growing up in North Dakota, being adopted as an infant, and ultimately reconnecting with his birth family. His story doesn't end there! Make sure you listen next week as there is a surprise second half to his story.
Quickie: Worst Day Ever - Alex
Do you have a Worst Day Ever? Leave us a call at 818-533-8656 or email us at email@example.com.
This week we have a Nikki from California on to talk about her journey through the foster care system as an older child and ultimately aging out. Her journey with the foster care system did not end there. As an adult she adopted two children through the Los Angeles County Foster Care system.
Quickie: Small Talk - Small Bladders
The MEs have returned from spring break with varying levels of success! Heather had a busy trip in Tennessee visiting many interesting places in Nashville and Memphis like the National Civil Rights Museum, The Parthenon, and Third (yes, Heather says Three) Man Records. Patti was more of a homebody and had her challenges balancing the new job and the kids taking a total of three weeks of spring break. Who managed to sneak in some comedy during this busy period where the kids were out of school?
Quickie: Rant - Kids Books
In this episode, the ME's speak with Jacinda from Northern California. It's a GAME OF FOSTER/ADOPT THRONES as her story is filled with dramatics, twists, turns, and surprise endings. You will not believe how adoption has transformed her family.
Quickie: Rant - Van Blues, Patti and Heather discuss the state of their cars and discuss the frustrations of trying to keep their vehicles clean.
This week is a TIPS filled episode about going to Disneyland! Make your family trip the happiest on Earth by following the MEs advice on FastPasses, food, and the necessities to take with you. But first, Heather and Patti spill some details about working in theme parks.
Quickie: Pop Quiz - Harry Potter House
Heather stresses Patti out by quizzing her Harry Potter house loyalty.
It's SPRING BREAK! The MEs share their plans and tips for going on the road and traveling with three kids.
Mother Effer Heather and guest ME Father, Bobby, discuss the new movie Shazam with talking points for parents of kids in foster care.
Shazam (2019) synopsis: We all have a superhero inside of us -- it just takes a bit of magic to bring it out. In 14-year-old Billy Batson's case, all he needs to do is shout out one word to transform into the adult superhero Shazam. Still a kid at heart, Shazam revels in the new version of himself by doing what any other teen would do -- have fun while testing out his newfound powers. But he'll need to master them quickly before the evil Dr. Thaddeus Sivana can get his hands on Shazam's magical abilities.
Quickie: Call In - Tina
We get a call from one of our Mother Effin' Listeners! Hear what Tina has to say about this podcast.
Patti has gone back to work (for now - she claims) and discusses with Heather the pros and cons of working. Along with trying to find the work/life/comedy balance, the MEs throw out tips on how to keep your head above water as a working parent. Additionally, they review Heather's chore chart for her kids as she believes kids need to learn good working skills while they are still young.
Quickie: Small Talk - Happy April Fools Day! Patti and Heather talk about their favorite pranks.
The saying goes, "April showers bring May flowers" and the MEs discuss their favorite gardening tips and what crops they are planning to try and grow this year.
Quickie: Small Talk - Heather's On A Diet
It's time to have the talk, and Patti and Heather sure talk a lot about sex. How do you find the time to have sex with kids? How do you explain sex to kids? How do you explain sex to kids with sexual trauma? All this is discussed as well as celebrity lists and bad comics in this episode.
Quickie: News Break - Operation Varsity Blues
Stressed? Of course, we're stressed. Patti and Heather discuss the stress of being a foster parent and their new stress of finding the right kind of school for their kids. Homeschool? Public? Private? Charter? There are so many options out there and it can be challenging to figure out what's best the children.
Need something to do this weekend with the kids? Take them to the movies! Patti and Heather discuss the recently released Dreamworks animated film, HOW TO TRAIN YOUR DRAGON: THE HIDDEN WORLD. They review the entire DRAGON franchise and talk about what upset their kids and talking points to address.
Quickie: Update - Valentines Day 2019 with the Mother Effers.
This episode the Mother Effers discuss Patti's first job at a video rental store and Heather talks about the time she tried to rent Titanic. Then it's on to a discussion of kindness, being kind, and raising children with trauma to be kind.
Quickie: Rant - Bella and PE. Heather's got a problem. Her eldest daughter is failing all her classes, including PE.
Next is Part 2, of our interview with Sean Anders, Director and Co-Writer of the film Instant Family starring Mark Wahlberg and Rose Byrne. Instant Family was the ME's favorite film of 2018 and they dig deep into Sean's experiences as a foster parent, his future endeavors with the foster community, and the answer to the hotly debated question: fold or unfold.
First up is a Quickie: Review of 3 Big Questions for a Frantic Family by Patrick Lencioni (not a sponsored review). Patti is very excited about the changes she has witnessed with her own family from implementing a few of the suggestions.
Then it's Part 1 of our interview with Sean Anders, Director and Co-Writer of the film Instant Family starring Mark Wahlberg and Rose Byrne. Instant Family was the ME's favorite film of 2018 and they dig deep into Sean's inspirations for writing the film, how Hollywood reacted, and then begin discussing his own experience of adopting three children from foster care.
Welcome to a new feature called Quickies! These are short bonus clips you can listen to get your Mother Effin' fix on during the week.
Our first Quickie is a Worst Day Ever from Heather's sister Mi, in North Hollywood, CA.
Want to tell us your Worst Day Ever? Leave us a message at 818-533-8656 or email us at firstname.lastname@example.org.
It's been a year since the Mother Effers started comedy and met each other. They rehash their memories of their first show and talk about why they think they became such good friends so quickly. Then continuing the "how we met" topic, each of the MEs discusses how they met their spouse, what their proposal was like, and what they thought about their wedding. Can you guess who has the more romantic story?
The Mother Effers will be performing together March 04, 7:30pm in the Yoo-Hoo Room at Flappers Comedy Club in Burbank, CA. If you're in the Los Angeles area make sure to stop by and catch your favorite foster adopt comedic moms in action.
It's a week discussing the Self Esteem Demon. That's the voice in your head or that little guy on your shoulder that tries to convince you everyday that you're a failure. These ladies face off with theirs as Heather reveals her biggest fear of performing on stage. Then the moms have some sad rants about having to be continuously confronted about the fact their foster adopt children are neurotypical and each day is a constant reminder of the challenges they face.
It's a discussion about frustrations, tantrums, and name changes. First the ladies dig into what's frustrating them with standup comedy and the difficulties of balancing their home life with the open mic scene. Then it's on to a touchy subject - do you change your foster adopt child's name. Hear how each Mother Effer addressed this situation. After this, the moms discuss tantrums and trying to teach their kids that life isn't fair.
Heather has a manager and booked a commercial on her second audition. Listen as she describes the process of auditioning and how well she enjoyed her first commercial shoot. Then the MEs dig deep into their "Go To" lists. From meals, to comedians, to date nights with the husband, the divide between the two mothers grows wider. Patti likes to keep things simple and easy with 3 steps or less, while Heather prefers specifics and detail that are 5 steps or more. Is Heather's ramen meal too complicated? Should Patti wash her belly button? Will they ever agree again?
The Mother Effers sit down with Cassie Hawkins-Leone and discuss her experience as an older child in foster care and being adopted at 16. It's an emotional discussion that digs deep into very raw and honest feelings. How has foster care impacted her? How did the abuse affect relationships as she matured? What is her relationship like with her birth and adoptive families then and today? Find out this and much more, including Cassie's own words of inspiration for other foster kids.
This week the Mother Effers discuss various reactions they have had in their lives. First, it's about their comedy and how it has grown into something more for themselves. Then they discuss the family and friend reactions to their choice to adopt. It's not all hugs and smiles as they deal with social abandonment, cultural challenges, and their own feelings at unexpected moments of loss.
Patti and Heather are trying to get back into the swing of things in the New Year. Battling sleep deprivation, lack of privacy, and what's bugging them they find the humor and discuss where they find material for their jokes. In this episode they also discuss the benefits of taking a comedy class to help hone their skills. Then it's on to the MOMMY WARS. Moms, and even Dads, you know these other parents. These are the ones who have something to say about how everyone else is living their life. They also delve into not looking like their kids and trying out 23 and Me.
Heather and Patti go over their New Year’s Resolutions for comedy, family, themselves, and the Mother Effin’ podcast. The Mother Effers have had an exciting 2018 and look towards an even brighter 2019. Of course, they will be sharing each failure and victory with, you, the listeners. Thank you for listening and sharing! We’ll see you in the New Year!
Patti and Heather discuss emotional comedy, including Hanna Gadsby’s, NANETTE and Neal Brennan’s 3 MICS. No spoilers, but Heather has also watched the first half of the second season of THE MARVELOUS MRS. MAISEL. Then it’s on to the ups and down of the Christmas holiday season. Heather is fighting with Target and then the Mother Effers discuss their traditions and get into a heated discussion about ornaments crafted by children.
For our 10th episode we have a special guest, Holly Gates! Holly is a good friend of Patti's who is a mother to three young boys. Her oldest son has autism and the Mother Effers discuss the challenges. Holly has recently begun to perform stand up comedy and is also using it as an outlet for her emotions and thoughts of parenting a special needs child.
The Mother Effers are wrapping up the year with their comedy and recap their time hosting an open mic together. Then it's onto the dreaded topic of laundry where Patti and Heather break into an epic debate of FOLD or DON'T FOLD your underwear. Please let us know your feelings in an anchor voice message or email us at email@example.com. After this near friendship killing discussion, it's on to tips about kid's clothing organization, dressing properly, and when traveling. Bonus travel tips in regards to snacking! Kids with trauma and neglect often have challenges with food so get two perspectives on how each mom deals with the drama.
Heather went to the very first Palm Springs International Comedy Festival and it was... interesting. Then Patti and Heather recap their Thanksgiving hijinks which included some unforeseen travel bumps, a holiday with the kids split between parents, a trip to Universal Studios Hollywood, and taking the family to see the movie INSTANT FAMILY. It was a busy holiday weekend and they managed to come out of it... just okay.
Patti discusses the evolution of her Curious George set and then Heather joins in to discuss the pitfalls of watching television and movies with children from foster care and adoption. Then it's a deep dive into why Heather chose to adopt an older sibling set of three children and the challenges of raising children who suffered serious neglect, trauma, and emotional, physical, and sexual abuse. Also, find out why Heather can no longer cry (don't worry, Patti cries instead).
Patti and Heather discuss the unexpected benefits, life changes, and life lessons that came from doing comedy. Then they deep dive into met and missed expectations of adoption, parenting, and the inevitable expectations they’ve created for their kids. Also, Heather’s Tiger Mom views on life come out.
SPOILERS! Patti and Heather saw the new movie INSTANT FAMILY (starring Mark Wahlberg and Rose Byrne) and give their honest take on how the film deals with foster care and adoption. Also, they recap Patti's stand up comedy show Fostering Funny and talk about their Thanksgiving plans.
Patti and Heather discuss their first comedic influences (Bill Cosby and Lucille Ball respectively). Then it’s a recap of Halloween and how they manage their kids needs while keeping the spirit of the holiday alive. Then Heather talks about her kids ups and downs of the week; her youngest daughter finished trauma therapy and her eldest daughter decided to try and forge a note to get out of PE.
First up, Heather had a show and the Mother Effers talk about the challenges of performing to a lukewarm audience. Then it’s an emotional discussion with Patti about FASD and adopting a special needs child. It’s an emotional episode and the Crouch Cry Count is high. Grab those tissues!