Kids Are People Too!

If you want to see changes in anything the way that you speak about it has a monumental impact on what you experience, even in parenting.

Want to see a change in your child's behaviors? Changing the way you speak about those behaviors is one of the first and crucial steps.

In this episode, Khia shares the way that the words you speak and the beliefs that you hold about your children and your experiences with them changes the way you interact with them and how they see themselves way beyond the current moment.

It's so interesting when I talk to adults about respecting children it's like I'm speaking a foreign language or something. If you do not show your children respect how do they learn how to look for it in other relationships and interactions? If their own parents do not believe they are worthy of respect (what you're saying each time I say respect kids and you choose not to) why would they expect respect from others? It starts with you. They are people too!

If I had $10 for every time I've heard someone say, "we didn't have all that back in our day" when I talk about children's mental health among minority adults...

We tend to avoid or dismiss what we don't understand. But, are we really doing our young people any justice by expecting them to just ignore their feeling like past generations or are we really doing them a disservice? Leaving them isolated in their feelings doesn't seem like a great idea to me...

In This Episode:

- I share with you a journey with my client who's personal anxiety and her desire to protect her child has really been inhibiting for her child and family.

- When you feel your child may be manipulating you with your behaviors and what really it means

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Often times as parents your children can trigger unhealed parts of yourself. This may be the reason you find yourself lashing out at them and getting so angry about their behaviors. In this episode I teach you how to determine if that is happening, how it typically plays out, how it can be harmful for your child, and how to fix it.

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It's International Women's Month and I have a powerhouse with me this week, Jana K. Jones! 

Jana K. Jones is a Charlotte-area native who attended East Mecklenburg High School. After high school, Ms. Jones studied sociology at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill (UNC-CH). While enrolled at the UNC-CH, she was a member of Phi Delta Phi Legal Fraternity.

Ms. Jones mentored "at-risk" students in multiple programs including Carrboro, North Carolina's Teens Climb High and Durham, North Carolina's Standards Based Solutions. Ms. Jones also participated in a UNC-CH's MANO Program that provided English as a second language and mentoring services to immigrant women.

As an undergraduate student, she received UNC-CH's Academic Achievement Award as well as The National Dean's List Multiple Year award. Ms. Jones graduated from UNC-CH on the UNC-CH's Dean's List and was a member of their Sociological Honor Society.

While a student at NCCU Law, Ms. Jones was trained as a Certified Mediator by the Alternative Dispute Resolution Commission. After her certification, she mediated cases in Wake County, North Carolina. Ms. Jones also participated in the Innocence Project. The Innocence Project is dedicated to exonerating wrongly convicted people through DNA testing. For her work in public service, Ms. Jones was awarded the North Carolina Bar Association's Certificate of Achievement for Public Service.

When Ms. Jones is not practicing law she enjoys traveling, trying new restaurants and spending time with her husband and daughter.

Ms. Jones has extensive knowledge of family law and has been in private practice in the greater Charlotte area for over 12 years.

Ms. Jones understands the importance of family. Her experience and compassion will help you navigate the tedious family law process. Ms. Jones works hard for her clients and looks forward to working hard for you. 

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What is new for the podcast and Notes by Khia? 

What's up with the name change?

Introduction of Notes by Khia's Bloom Awards 💐

It seems like more and more youth are taking on (or taking off) labels that maybe you're not used to hearing. 

I was joined by LGBTQ+ advocate, Jennifer Boudrye, to discuss what is going on with our youth and how we, as the adults, can show up for them. 

With June having Men's Mental Health Month, Father's Day, and Juneteenth I wanted to do an episode celebrating Black Fatherhood and giving them a chance to speak the truths we do not always hear!   

Stanley Peavy, Marquis Antwine, Kevin Woodfork II, Jesse Woodfork, and Rob Allen joined me to talk about their experiences being a Black father and what they are doing to make sure they are being present and connected with their children.   

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This week is Men's Mental Health Week. As we know the mental health of men starts in childhood so this week I am joined by Mrs. Kathryne Imabyashi, parenting coach of Sonhood Coaching. Kathryne specializes in supporting parents raising "remarkable men". 

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June is PTSD Awareness Month

Did you know that children at any age can be diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)? It is often misdiagnosed as ADHD or Oppositional Defiant Disorder. In this episode we are discussing PTSD in children and how it is often missed and misdiagnosed and how you may be able to recognize it in your children. 

Have a topic you would like me to discuss? Email me at podcast@notesbykhia.com or DM me on social 

In this episode I got the chance to speak to Lalaine Frankel, of Parenting with Lalaine, Inc., about sibling relationships. We cover whether you should let your kids fight, how to intervene, and so much more! 

Lalaine is a mother of twin girls, a son that was born just 10 months later, and a fourth son born with Down syndrome. Lalaine is a parent coach and has worked with children for many years as an early childhood teacher, program director, school-site director, and volunteered countless hours of working with children. Lalaine has a Bachelor of Arts degree in child development and is credentialed by the state of California in adult education, specializing in parent education and family management. Lalaine specializes in helping parents with children under the age of 12 create a path from sibling rivalry to sibling harmony. 

Be sure to connect with Lalaine: 

Instagram.com/parentingwithlalaine

www.facebook.com/Lalaine.Parent.Education.Coach

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Mindful Parenting is WORK!! One of the most common things I hear when teaching parents about being mindful in their parenting is, "We tried that, it didn't work". The thing is, as frustrating as it may be you have to keep working at it, it won't change over night - tbh, it probably won't change completely in the next 3 months. In this episode I am taking you through why it seems to be taking so long or not working and what you can do to make this a better experience for you and your family. 

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Happy New Year!! 

Wow, 2022 

In this episode I talk to you about why I am so passionate about black parents switching from the old, abusive, way of parenting to mindful parenting. 

You may experience some resistance in this episode but just hear me out! 

October is Bullying Prevention Month and we often think of bullying as something that happens on the playground between children. However, sometimes adults are the bullies. In this episode we discuss what an adult bully is, how to identify them, and how this can be changed. 

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I often talk about Mindful Parenting and Teaching and that meaning that your interactions with your children/students have an impact beyond today. In this episode I will break down the three major ways that your interACTIONS with children impact them and what you can do about it. 

P.s. don't mind the hammering in the background 🙄 We had yet another hail storm in Oklahoma for the second time this year and as I work on becoming more consistent this had to be done AND I lost all audio the first time 🤦🏾‍♀️😭 ...it wasn't getting recorded again 😤

Please be sure to share, comment, and rate! 

Let's Talk About Sex Pt. 2! 

Last episode I talked about a few things including why you should be talking with your kids about sex, why you shouldn't wait or avoid the conversation, and more. This episode I am talking to you about the elder women and the sexualization and shaming of young girls. 

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Sex...it's everywhere! And as much as you try to shield your children from it, it is pretty much impossible. I am amazed at how many parents/caregivers simply ignore the topic and act as if it does not exist. But, if you are not talking about it with your children and being honest and transparent about it who will be? 

Be sure to share and subscribe so you don't miss Pt. 2! 

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Happy Thanksgiving!

This week on the podcast I am giving you tips on how to be mindful in your parenting during the holiday season. 

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Do you find yourself always giving orders but not often giving your child affirmations and compliments? This week I share with you 3 things that you should be saying to your child daily. 

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We all know that children's emotions can be difficult to read, let alone manage. This week on the podcast we are discussing how to respond in a way that puts teaching and grace first. 

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Join me this week as I explain 

• Dos and Don'ts for when your child is suicidal and/or depressed 

• What it is like to be suicidal 

• Myths vs Facts about suicide 

Today I am sharing with you the very vulnerable experiences that I have had with suicide and how parenting impacted my depression. 

Be sure to tune in next week as I give you specific Do's and Don'ts when you child expresses suicidal thoughts and ideations. 

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In this episode we dive into the definition of mindful parenting, why you should be doing it, and what difference it makes in your chid's mental health. In the Parenting in Media segment we discuss what Iman Shupert said about supporting your children and so much more. 

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In this episode we dig into the importance of your relationship with your child, the barriers to building those relationships, and tips for moving forward. 

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It's official!! I have started a podcast! I am so excited about this. 

We are going to talk all things mental health, mindful parenting, relationships with your children, and so much more! You can look for new episodes every Friday. Be sure to subscribe on your favorite podcast platform. 

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