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Neurodiverse Love

Neurodiverse Love

By Neurodiverse Love
Are you or your partner autistic (aka: on the spectrum)? Do you feel misunderstand, have different communication, emotional & social needs, think about & process things differently & have different sensory needs? Do you want to value & appreciate each other, however you don't understand each other's differences or strengths? If so, this podcast is for you! We share lived experiences, lessons learned & strategies for understanding each other in a mixed neurotype (ASD/NT) relationships. No relationship is perfect, but we believe “when you BOTH know better, you CAN choose to do better”.
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Relationship Renewal-How to Create “Values” Based Plans & Strategies to Thrive- Dr. Thomas Lucking

Neurodiverse Love

Relationship Renewal-How to Create “Values” Based Plans & Strategies to Thrive- Dr. Thomas Lucking

Neurodiverse Love

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SAAIL Project-"Supporting Autistic Adults' Intimate Lives"-Monique Huysamen & Marianthi Kourti
During this fantastic episode, Mona has an opportunity to talk to two amazing researchers who are in the UK doing groundbreaking work to better understand autistic adults intimate lives.  Monique Huysamen and Marianthi Kourti share some of the findings from their phenomenal qualitative research study that is focused on learning what autistic adults want and need in their intimate lives.  This study included an analysis of a multitude of government documents on autism, interviews with 20 autistic individuals and on-line focus groups with 50 autistics individuals.   Learn more about what the autistic adults shared: what they like, what they want to be different and what some of their challenges have been. Many of the adults shared how they didn't know how to do relationships or intimacy because they had no guidance.  Unfortunately, as autistic children become adults they may feel more isolated and begin to lose some of the supports they had through school and government agencies.  Some of the participants talked about both the challenges and joy of sensory differences and understanding both.  Others addressed how they might be more comfortable exploring in different ways in their intimate lives.  In addition, others shared the importance of finding a community where they could feel safe and comfortable.  For some, this might be in the BDSM or Kink community, where the communication patterns were more direct and the boundaries clearly stated.   In the future, Monique and Marianthi will be creating toolkits for the autistic partners and non-autistic/neurotypical partners to help more autistic adults and their partners live their best intimate lives. Note: we apologize for the technical challenges we had during this episode.  We were also disconnected from one of the guests at about 1/3 of the way through the episode, but were able to reconnect with them.    You can contact Monique and Marianthi through the SAAIL website at: https://autlives.wixsite.com/research  or on Twitter @autspace ___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ The Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards are available for purchase.  If you would like to buy a deck, please check out the "Conversation Cards" page on our website at: www.neurodiverselove.com _____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ If you liked this episode, please rate the episode and subscribe to the podcast, so that you don't miss an episode. If you would like to learn more about neurodiverse relationships, you can check out our website at: www.neurodiverselove.com You can also follow Mona on Instagram @neurodiverse_love If you are interested in joining the free on-line peer support groups being offered for the non-autistic/neurotypical partners, please send Mona a DM on Instagram or send an email at: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com Thanks for being a part of the Neurodiverse Love community!
01:05:30
May 24, 2022
Candice & Chris-Deep Love Mixed With Misunderstanding & Communication Challenges...Until the Autism Diagnosis-Sharing Tools & Mindset Shifts That Changed Everything!
Candice and Chris have a special, deep love for each other and couldn't understand why they kept having SO many communication challenges and misunderstandings in their relationship.  As Candice began to get feedback from Chris and her colleagues, she realized that she needed a way to communicate better.  Based on a look back at some of her past and current challenges she began to suspect she was autistic and moved forward on a formal diagnosis. After her diagnosis, everything changed for her and her husband Chris.  Candice calls Chris her "special interest" as she shares some of the things she not only understands better, but that she and Chris have worked on improving individually and in their marriage, so that they can thrive in all areas of life.   Working from a place of grace, compassion, and curiosity Candice and Chris have learned so many positive strategies for better communication and implemented lots of effective tools and strategies that have helped them create a healthy relationship, that is filled with lots of humor and understanding. Candice is a therapist and Chris is a coach who is working on getting his Ph.D. in psychoneuroimmunology.  Together, this amazing couple are shifting the paradigm for neurodiverse couples by inspiring hope, providing training, coaching and therapy and sharing information through "Fabulously Candice-The Sexiest Podcast About Neurodivergence". Both Candice and Chris have done IFS (Internal Family Systems) therapy and understand how their "parts" have impacted their lives and their relationship. They are also Gottman certified and use both of these therapeutic modalities and the tools in each, to create a thriving, healthy relationship for themselves, as well as many of the individuals and couples they work with at "Namaste Center For Healing. We end this episode discussing porn addiction and sexual sensitivities and the ways in which Candice and Chris work with couples to heal from betrayal through porn.  We also address how they can help couples move forward to create a healthy sex life and a trusting relationship.  This is definitely another important episode that can be very helpful for both partners to listen to individually and/or together.  It was such a pleasure getting to talk to this awesome couple and I hope you will check out the services and resources they have available by checking out the websites below.   To contact Candice and Chris go to: www.namasteadvice.com You can also learn more about Candice at: www.candicechristiansen.com __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ If you like this podcast, please follow us or subscribe so you don't miss an episode.  Please also take a minute to rate the podcast. For more information on Neurodiverse relationships or to purchase a deck on the Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards please check out: The Neurodiverse Love website at: www.neurodiverselove.com The Neurodiverse Love Instagram page: @neurodiverse_love If you would like to join one of our free online Neurodiverse Love peer support groups, please send a DM on IG, or send us an email at: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com Also, if you would like to share your Neurodiverse Love story, or you work with neurodiverse couples and would like to be a guest on the podcast, please send us a DM or an e-mail. Thanks for being part of the Neurodiverse Love community!
01:07:10
May 16, 2022
Employment, Special Interests & Communicating Your Needs-Collaborative Podcast between "Loving Difference" & "Neurodiverse Love"
Many of us would love to turn our special interests or passion into paid employment, however that isn't always possible.  During this episode, Mona, Heather and Natalie talk about the challenges they experienced in school and employment and how they have worked to create ways to use their gifts and talents through paid employment, volunteering or hobbies.  They also share some of the challenges and experiences their partners/ex-partners have experienced, as well as their children. They address the things they wish employers and our society could do differently to support everyone's strengths and meet their needs, so that more people could be successful and supported in school and in the workplace. Whether you are unemployed, underemployed, employed at a job you like (but don't love) or have been able to turn your passion or special interest into paid employment, this is a don't miss episode.  Knowing your needs and being able to ask for them in your personal and professional relationships can be the key to success.  However, how do you begin to understand your needs and be able to effectively communicate them to others in a way that you will be heard and understood, rather then ignored, judged or misunderstood? During this episode we talk about all these issues! Your well-being is SO important!  Learn how to become the CEO of your own "Department of Well-Being" and take small steps to do the things you love and are most passionate about.  Share this information with your partner, friends, family and mentors and hopefully one day, more people in the world will be doing what they love, sharing their gifts and talents with the world and living lives that are filled with the things that bring them peace and joy. ___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ If you like this podcast, please follow us or subscribe so you don't miss an episode.  Please also take a minute to rate the podcast. For more information on Neurodiverse relationships, please check out: The Neurodiverse Love website at: www.neurodiverselove.com The Neurodiverse Love Instagram page: @neurodiverse_love The Loving Difference on-line community at: https://www.lovingdifference.net If you would like to join one of our free online Neurodiverse Love peer support groups, please send a DM on IG, or send us an email at: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com Also, if you would like to share your Neurodiverse Love story, or you work with neurodiverse couples and would like to be a guest on the podcast, please send us a DM or an e-mail. Thanks for being part of the Neurodiverse Love community! .    
01:05:43
May 11, 2022
Teamwork, Love and Understanding In Neurodiverse Families-Stephanie & Dan Holmes from the Neurodiverse Christian Couples Podcast
This is another fantastic episode that neurodiverse couples may want to listen to together!   Stephanie and Dan Holmes have known each other since they were 10 and have been married almost 30 years. After their daughter was diagnosed with Asperger's in the mid-2000’s, Stephanie read about adults on the spectrum and realized that her husband was autistic too (he already suspected he was). Prior to learning about their neurodiversity, Stephanie thought a lot of their miscommunication and struggles occurred because Dan is very intelligent. However, once they learned he was autistic, so many challenging things started to make more sense.  Through the years, Stephanie and Dan have learned that they don't have to stay in gender roles to have a healthy relationship and instead have focused on using their individual strengths and complimentary skills to help their family thrive.  Dan says he is more like a crockpot and Stephanie is more like a microwave and because they understand each other's differences, they are able to give each other grace and kindness as they navigate life together.  During our conversation, Stephanie described a neurodiverse relationship like a game of "Chutes and Ladders", rather then chess or checkers and that made so much sense!  Although there may be lots of unexpected ups and downs, when you both understand they will occur, the end result can be very positive.  Stephanie is a therapist and Dan is a life coach and together they work with neurodiverse couples that can benefit from both of their perspectives.  To add credibility to his work with neurodiverse couples, Dan got an official diagnosis and sees that as tool to help other autistic partners who want to improve their love relationships. Stephanie talked about the importance of trust in a neurodiverse relationship and how trust can be broken when partners don't understand each other.  In her work as a therapist she has learned that the process of rebuilding trust has to involve learning new skills to avoid creating more trauma.  Repetitive positive behavior is critical, otherwise the past is not the past, it is still the present!  Dan talks about how important it is to see the the action behind the desire. He no longer believes people when they use the words “I want to” unless he see’s the action follow the words.   Dan and Stephanie founded the International Association of NeuroDiverse Christian Marriages, LLC to bring hope, help and possible healing to neurodiverse Christian marriages and they use the a three phase process to help 1) Educate, 2) Equip and 3) Provide Effective Strategies to neurodiverse couples who are looking for support and resources on their neurodiverse journey. To learn more about Stephanie and Dan you can check out their website at: christianneurodiversemarriage.com or listen to their podcast: Neurodiverse Christian Couples.   ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________  The Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards are available for purchase. If you would like to buy a deck, please check out the "Conversation Cards" page on our website at: www.neurodiverselove.com.  Also, if you liked this episode, please rate it and subscribe to the podcast, so that you don’t miss any future episodes.  If you would like to learn more about the resources we have available for neurodiverse couples, please check out our website at: www.neurodiverselove.com  Thanks for being a part of the Neurodiverse Love community!
01:09:51
May 03, 2022
Getting Real About Communication, Boundaries, Physical Intimacy & SO MUCH MORE with the authors of "The Autism Relationship Handbook & Workbook"-Joe Biel & Faith Harper
If you haven't read "The Autism Relationship Handbook and The Autism Relationship Workbook by Joe Biel and Dr. Faith Harper" you will definitely want to order copies of both after this episode.  Joe is the founder of Microcosm Publishing in Oregon and Faith is a therapist is Texas.  Working together for a number of years, they have partnered on several books and even have the same birthday.  Joe shares his lived experience and expertise as a coach, mentor and business owner in a healthy Neurodiverse Love relationship and Faith shares her lived experience as a parent of a neurodiverse child and her expertise as a therapist and sexologist.   During this episode, we talk about the importance of presuming "best intent" in your neurodiverse relationship and how critical it is to name and get granular about your boundaries and needs.  We also talk about the 4 levels of communication and how each couple is usually getting stuck in one (or more) levels. Getting clarity about this and shifting perspective can reduce the "communication roundabout" some couples find themselves in.  We also talk about physical intimacy, dealing with sensory differences and how to move from masking, struggling and being misunderstood to striving and thriving with a partner who truly appreciates and values you. Whether you are the autistic or allistic (non-autistic) partner in the relationship, this is a "don't miss episode.  Joe and Faith provide SO many nuggets of gold that you may want to listen to this episode twice! WARNING: This episode is labeled "explicit" because at the end of the episode we talk about sexual intimacy and some books that have titles that may be considered explicit to some.  If you would like to contact Joe Biel you can follow him on Instagram @joebiel or check out his website at joebiel.net or Microcosm Publishing at: www.microcosmpublishing.com If you would like to contact Faith Harper you can follow her on Twitter and Instagram @theintimacydr or check out her website at: www.faithgharper.com  _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ The Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards are available for purchase.  If you would like to buy a deck, please check out the "Conversation Cards" page on our website at: www.neurodiverselove.com _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ If you liked this episode, please rate the episode and subscribe to the podcast so that you don't miss an episode. If you would like to learn more about neurodiverse relationships you can check out our website at: www.neurodiverselove.com You can also follow Mona on Instagram @neurodiverse_love If you are interested in joining the free on-line peer support groups being offered for the neurotypical partners, please send Mona a DM on Instagram or send us an email at: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com Thanks for being a part of the Neurodiverse Love community!
01:02:25
May 03, 2022
Are You Parenting Your Partner in Your Neurodiverse Love Relationship?
During this episode Mona and Manecia talk about a topic that may be difficult for both the autistic and non-autistic partners to hear, but is important to address, because it is something that has happened in both of their relationships (and may be happening in yours). No one wants to feel like they have to parent their partner, however acknowledging that this may be happening and talking about ways in which the non-autistic/neurotypical partner can ask before stepping in to help (or parent) can be SO helpful. Some people might call this type of "support" co-dependency or enmeshment, however in a neurodiverse relationship, when support is valued and provided because of challenges with executive function, social and emotional differences or sensory sensitivities, it can also create a partnership that helps both partners thrive. Mona shares that when her and her ex were talking outside the courthouse as they were planning to file for divorce, her ex said to her that she had two children, even though they only had one child.  Mona's response was that she hadn't wanted to be her ex-husband's parent, she had wanted to be his partner!  This conversation was both sad and enlightening at the same time. Mona and Manecia talk openly about how important it is to let go of assumptions and the need to "help" when we haven't been asked and how sometimes our embarrassment, does not mean we need to solve a problem that is not ours to solve. How can we stop parenting our partners, when we think they are awkward, anxious or angry and instead offer to help without "needing" to help?  Mona and Manecia share the lessons they have learned on their neurodiverse journey's and hope this episode brings some "aha" moments for the listeners. The Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards are available for purchase.  If you would like to buy a deck, please check out the "Conversation Cards" page on our website at: www.neurodiverselove.com _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ If you liked this episode, please rate the episode and subscribe to the podcast so that you don't miss an episode. If you would like to learn more about neurodiverse relationships you can check out our website at: www.neurodiverselove.com You can also follow Mona on Instagram @neurodiverse_love If you are interested in joining the free on-line peer support groups being offered for the neurotypical partners, please send Mona a DM on Instagram or send us an email at: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com Thanks for being a part of the Neurodiverse Love community!
49:55
April 19, 2022
The Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards-Understand, Value and Appreciate Each Others Strengths and Differences, One Question At A Time
During this short bonus episode of the podcast, Mona shares “WHY” she created the Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards,  “HOW” they can be used so that each partner can feel safe to share their needs and wants, and “WHAT” can be achieved when both partners come from a place of grace and compassion. Mona's parents were in a Neurodiverse Love marriage for over 40 years and never knew.  In addition, she didn't know she was in a neurodiverse relationship until the 29th year of her 30 year marriage.  By creating and releasing the cards, Mona hopes more neurodiverse couples will feel valued, heard and appreciated and gain understanding of each others strengths and differences.  When we know better, we CAN  do better! ___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ If you would like to purchase a deck of the Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards please check out the "Conversation Cards” page on our website at: www.neurodiverselove.com If you like this podcast, please follow us or subscribe, so you don't miss an episode.  Please also take a minute to rate the podcast.  For more information on Neurodiverse Love relationships, please check our our website at: www.neurodiverselove.com or follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love If you would like to join one of our free online Neurodiverse Love peer support groups, please DM Mona on IG, or send an email to: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com  Also, if you would like to share your Neurodiverse Love story, or you work with neurodiverse couples and would like to be a guest on the podcast, please send us a DM or an e-mail.  Thanks for being part of the Neurodiverse Love community!
06:37
April 13, 2022
Eva A. Mendes-Author of-Marriage and Lasting Relationships with AS/ASD-Successful Strategies for Couples or Counselors
Eva is a psychotherapist, an ASD specialist and the author of several books, including "Marriage and Lasting Relationships with Asperger's Syndrome (Autism Spectrum Disorder).-Successful Strategies for Couples or Counselors.  During this episode Eva shares so much valuable information for both partners in a Neurodiverse Love relationship.  Our conversation addresses ways to avoid meltdowns and shutdowns; how to address or change expectations; getting your needs met and doing things together that work well for both partners.  We also talk about physical and sexual intimacy, ways in which to get accountability, the value of medication for some and the impact of trauma in the intimate relationship. Eva also addresses the importance of understanding and addressing the root cause of emotional challenges, giving each other time to work through your emotions and how to address sensory sensitivities that can impact physical intimacy.  This episode provides so much valuable information for both partners in a neurodiverse relationship. Eva is also the author of: Gender Identity, Sexuality and Autism-Voices from Across the Spectrum and she has a new book being published soon. You can learn more about Eva through her website at: www.eva-mendes.com or contact her at: eva@eva-mendes.com ___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ If you like this podcast, please follow us or subscribe, so you don't miss an episode.  Please also take a minute to rate the podcast. For more information on Neurodiverse Love relationships, please check our our website at: www.neurodiverselove.com or follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love If you would like to join one of our free online Neurodiverse Love peer support groups, please DM us on IG, or send us an email at: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com Also, if you would like to share your Neurodiverse Love story, or you work with neurodiverse couples and would like to be a guest on the podcast, please send us a DM or an e-mail. Thanks for being part of the Neurodiverse Love community!
01:03:06
April 12, 2022
Alix & Roy-Misdiagnosis, Trauma, Understanding, Love and Compassion-A Neurodiverse Journey
During this episode, Alix and Roy share so many of the lessons they have learned together since their friendship began in 2008.  After building a wonderful friendship for 5 years they started dating in 2013 and have been married since 2018.  Alix shares opening about her misdiagnosis and how at 13 she was placed in a facility that led to trauma that continues to impact her today.  Alix also talks about her resiliency and strength and the way in which she and Roy have grown together in their relationship. Both Roy and Alix share some of the strategies they use to support each other during difficult times and how understanding their differences and their individual needs has created a loving partnership.  This is a very powerful episode that may be triggering to some of our listeners who have experienced a misdiagnosis and the trauma that can occur when that happens.  Please take this into consideration when listening to this episode.  If you want to learn more about Alix please check out her YouTube video: Undiagnosed Autism: Alix's Journey.  You can also follow her on Instagram @generousalix or check out her website at: alixgenerous.com ___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ If you like this podcast, please follow us or subscribe, so you don't miss an episode.  Please also take a minute to rate the podcast. For more information on Neurodiverse Love relationships, please check our our website at: www.neurodiverselove.com or follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love If you would like to join one of our free online Neurodiverse Love peer support groups, please DM us on IG, or send us an email at: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com Also, if you would like to share your Neurodiverse Love story, or you work with neurodiverse couples and would like to be a guest on the podcast, please send us a DM or an e-mail. Thanks for being part of the Neurodiverse Love community!
01:02:59
April 11, 2022
Addressing the Triggers in Our Neurodiverse Love Relationships
Our triggers provide opportunities for us to heal and grow or they continue to create situations that we react to, rather then respond to.  Unfortunately, this can create lots of resentment and anger, as well as unintentional pain and hurt.  During this episode, Mona and Manecia talk about the triggers they have had in their neurodiverse relationships and how some of those are connected to unresolved issues in their family of origin. They also talk about how they have reduced their "reactions" to various triggers because they understand themselves better.  Instead of getting triggered and holding on to anger and resentment they are choosing to respond to themselves and their partners with more grace and compassion.   _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ If you like this podcast, please follow us or subscribe, so you don't miss an episode.  Please also take a minute to rate the podcast. For more information on Neurodiverse Love relationships, please check our our website at: www.neurodiverselove.com or follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love If you would like to join one of our free online Neurodiverse Love peer support groups, please DM us on IG, or send us an email at: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com Also, if you would like to share your Neurodiverse Love story, or you work with neurodiverse couples and would like to be a guest on the podcast, please send us a DM or an e-mail. Thanks for being part of the Neurodiverse Love community!
55:52
April 11, 2022
Sharing What Makes Their Neurodiverse Love Relationship Thrive-Sira & Marcel
Sira Busch received her formal autistic diagnosis a year ago and during this podcast episode she and her partner Marcel share their lived experience before and after the diagnosis.  They were both interested in math and that was one of the things that attracted them to each other.  Sira talks about the relationship she has had with herself for the last 28 years and how she fully accepted all the differences she saw, even though others may not have understood them.  Sira shares how she was often observing her feelings and herself through her own beautiful lens.  Sira wants to go on adventures alone and enjoys observing life in her own way.  Marcel and Sira both do power building and love sharing that common interest.  They talk about the way in which they make their meal time together work, the importance of Sira's routines and how they each treasure their own individual rooms and space, but have also created ways in which they can both have quality time together.  Sira addresses the accomodations she needed at work, but didn't get, and how that created some challenges with employment. This is another wonderful episode that you may want to listen to with your partner.  Sira and Marcel have found such a beautiful flow that works for both of them to get their needs met, understand each other's routines and view their neurodiversity as a gift that gives them opportunities to grow as individuals and as a couple. Sira just published a book on norms and stereotypes .  The book is in German, but if you want to check it our here are 2 links to her book: https://www.lektora.de/buecher/weltbilder/ https://www.amazon.co.uk/Weltbilder-Normen-Stereotype-Gleichberechtigung-verhindern/dp/3954612267 You can also follow Sira  on Instagram @omnomnomknusper _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ If you like this podcast, please follow us or subscribe so you don't miss an episode.  Please also take a minute to rate the podcast. For more information on Neurodiverse Love relationships, please check our our website at: www.neurodiverselove.com or follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love If you would like to join one of our free online Neurodiverse Love peer support groups, please DM us on IG, or send us an email at: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com Also, if you would like to share your Neurodiverse Love story, or you work with neurodiverse couples and would like to be a guest on the podcast, please send us a DM or an e-mail. Thanks for being part of the Neurodiverse Love community!
01:02:41
March 21, 2022
Paul Micallef from "Asperger's from the Inside"- Emotional Intelligence & Letting Go of Unconscious Expectations in Your Neurodiverse Love Relationship
Do you wonder why your partner doesn't understand your needs?  Do you have challenges communicating your boundaries effectively in your Neurodiverse Love relationship? Do you know what emotional intelligence is and how it can help you communicate more effectively with your partner?  These are some of the important topics that Paul Micallef addresses in this fantastic podcast episode!  Paul has had a successful career as an engineer and from a young age he had an interest in emotional intelligence (EI) and has spent his life becoming an expert in this area.  Diagnosed at 30, Paul started sharing his autistic journey on social media through his channel Asperger's from the Inside.  Through his numerous YouTube videos, coaching sessions and courses, he has provided guidance to SO many people who are also on a neurodiverse journey.  Through his on-line work, Paul serves as a translator and helps autistic and non-autistic people better understand the strategies and tools they can both use to understand how to let go of unconscious expectations! Paul provides his EI courses on-line to help those who have a logical, rational brain understand the skills they need to increase their emotional intelligence. Paul also shares the strategies he uses to thrive in life and his neurodiverse relationship.  Being open about his lived experience and sharing his expertise, Paul is helping neurodivesre couples around the world learn how to understand themselves and each other better  This is another insightful, valuable episode that you may want to listen to with you partner.   Enjoy! If you want to learn more about the fantastic work Paul is doing, please check out his website at: www.paulmicallef.com.au You can also check out his YouTube channel at: Aspergers from the Inside __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ If you like this podcast, please follow us or subscribe so you don't miss an episode.  Please also take a minute to rate the podcast. For more information on Neurodiverse Love relationships, please check our our website at: www.neurodiverselove.com or follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love If you would like to join one of our free online Neurodiverse Love peer support groups, please DM us on IG, or send us an email at: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com Also, if you would like to share your Neurodiverse Love story, or you work with neurodiverse couples and would like to be a guest on the podcast, please send us a DM or an e-mail. Thanks for being part of the Neurodiverse Love community!
59:11
March 14, 2022
Stephanie Bethany-Understanding Each Other's Perspective, Processing and Emotions & Being Able to "De-Code" for Each Other
When Stephanie Bethany married her husband at 19 she didn't know she was autistic, however when she was diagnosed at 23, things began to make more sense.  Working together she and her husband have grown and learned so much.  During this episode, Stephanie shares how understanding neurodiversity has helped her and her husband let go of so many misunderstandings they had in the earlier years of their relationship and marriage.  They both have a better understanding of each other's intentions and know that they are there to help and "de-code" things for each other.  Stephanie shares openly the ways in which she has reduced her feelings of being overwhelmed at family functions and social events because she knows her limits and when she needs time to decompress.  She is able to advocate for herself in most situations and is comfortable asking for accommodations when she needs them.  She also talks about how she is working on creating a schedule that not only includes her work and school commitments, but quality time with her husband.  In addition, she shares how she is learning how to deal better with emotional shutdowns and periods of feeling overwhelmed. During this episode Stephanie and Mona share lots of laughs and discuss how important grace, compassion and love are when your partner is having trouble speaking during emotional times and also may have challenges with processing emotions.  This is another important episode that neurodiverse couples may want to listen to together. You can find Stephanie on YouTube at: https://www.youtube.com/stephaniebethany or check out her website at: www.stephaniebethany.com ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ If you like this podcast, please follow us or subscribe so you don't miss an episode.  Please, also take a minute to rate the podcast. For more information on Neurodiverse Love relationships, please check our our website at: www.neurodiverselove.com or follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love If you would like to join one of our free online Neurodiverse Love peer support groups, please DM us on IG, or send us an email at: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com Also, if you would like to share your Neurodiverse Love story, or you work with neurodiverse couples and would like to be a guest on the podcast, please send us a DM or an e-mail. Thanks for being part of the Neurodiverse Love community!
58:45
March 08, 2022
Dan Jones of "The Aspie World"-Thriving in Life and His Neurodiverse Relationship
It was a pleasure to talk with Dan Jones, the creator of The Aspie World about how he is thriving in life and in his Neurodiverse Love relationship. When Dan was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome at 26, he didn't know what that meant and began searching for information that would help him better understand his diagnosis.  After finding limited content about neurodiversity and adult autism, he decided that he wanted to share his story and the lessons he was learning on his journey and he created The Aspie World. Dan's positive attitude and energy is contagious!  During this episode, he shared that he is always finding new things to learn and discover and doing this helps him reduce depression.  What a great strategy! Dan and his partner have a young son together and they have created a family life that provides opportunities for them to share quality time as a couple and a family.  Dan makes parenting and his romantic relationship a top priority and shares some of the lessons he has learned to show he cares.  This episode is filled with SO many awesome lessons learned and opportunities for neurodiverse couples to better understand each other. Listen to this episode with your partner and find new ways to connect and focus on the strengths you both have and bring to the relationship.  Follow Dan on social media on YouTube, Facebook, Instagram or Twitter @theaspieworld, or check out his website: www.theaspieworld.com to learn about all the resources and products he has available. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ If you like this podcast, please follow us or subscribe, so you don't miss an episode.  Please, also take a minute to rate the podcast. For more information on Neurodiverse Love relationships, please check our our website at: www.neurodiverselove.com or follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love If you would like to join one of our free online Neurodiverse Love peer support groups, please DM us on IG, or send us an email at: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com Also, if you would like to share your Neurodiverse Love story, or you work with neurodiverse couples and would like to be a guest on the podcast, please send us a DM or an e-mail. Thanks for being part of the Neurodiverse Love community!
01:05:05
March 02, 2022
Recognizing the Differences in Your Relationship & Getting Real About Your Feelings-Collaborative Podcast with "Neurodiverse Love" & "Loving Difference"
This is the first collaborative podcast between members of the "Neurodiverse Love" team and the "Loving Difference" team.  We will be doing collaborative podcast episodes throughout the year and look forward to sharing our different perspectives and the lived experiences we have had, as we all address both the strengths and differences in our neurodiverse relationships.  During this episode, Mona, Natalie and Heather share soae of the differences they noticed in their love relationships, that others did not experience.  In addition, they go deep on how important emotional boundaries are to reduce anger and resentment and how meeting your own needs and finding the things that bring you joy and peace, can move you towards reducing loneliness and depression.  There is also a lot of great discussion about what really impacted us and our partners in our neurodiverse relationships and how we had to "become the change we wanted to see", to start creating the love relationships we wanted. _______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ If you like this podcast, please follow us or subscribe so you don't miss an episode.  Please also take a minute to rate the podcast. For more information on Neurodiverse relationships, please check out:  The Neurodiverse Love website at: www.neurodiverselove.com  The Neurodiverse Love Instagram page: @neurodiverse_love The Loving Difference on-line community at: https://www.lovingdifference.net If you would like to join one of our free online Neurodiverse Love peer support groups, please send a DM on IG, or send us an email at: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com Also, if you would like to share your Neurodiverse Love story, or you work with neurodiverse couples and would like to be a guest on the podcast, please send us a DM or an e-mail. Thanks for being part of the Neurodiverse Love community!
01:04:13
February 25, 2022
The Value of Understanding Perspectives, Paradigm Shifts, & Social Quotas-Leslie Sickels, LCSW
During this episode, Leslie Sickels, LCSW shares so many important strategies for creating a strength based, successful "Neurodiverse Love" relationship.  Leslie talks about how important it is to ground your relationship in neurodiversity and understand that having different brains means each partner will have an opportunity to learn and grow in ways that will help them succeed individually and in their relationship.  She talks about the importance of communicating what you need from your partner in conversations.  For example: Do you need support or problem solving?;  and what happens when you are clear with your partner about what you need to help to reduce conflict and misunderstanding.  We also discuss  the value of planning.  Why planning can also create challenges and how to address this conundrum to reduce anxiety and other challenges.  We also discuss how partners can have different "social quotas" and the ways in which each partner can get their quota met without feeling overextended.  Leslie also shares the importance of understanding "spoon theory" and how this can help reduce autistic burnout, meltdown and shutdown. Whether you are the autistic or non-autistic partner in the relationship, Leslie provides valuable strategies for creating a relationship that is filled with respect, trust and validation.  To contact Leslie about the services she offers for neurodiverse couples please check out her website at: http://www.lesliesickelslcsw.com/ ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ If you like this podcast, please follow us or subscribe, so you don't miss an episode.  Please also take a minute to rate the podcast. For more information on Neurodiverse Love relationships, please check our our website at: www.neurodiverselove.com or follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love If you would like to join one of our free online Neurodiverse Love peer support groups, please DM us on IG, or send us an email at: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com Also, if you would like to share your Neurodiverse Love story, or you work with neurodiverse couples and would like to be a guest on the podcast, please send us a DM or an e-mail. Thanks for being part of the Neurodiverse Love community!    
01:02:10
February 23, 2022
Dr. Valerie Gaus-Strategies and Tools to Make "Any" Love Relationship Successful
Dr. Valerie Gaus is a clinical psychologist whose focus is on treating mental health issues in adults with autism spectrum disorder, including depression, anxiety, stress and trauma. She is also the author of "Living Well on the Spectrum. How to Use Your Strengths to Meet the Challenges of Asperger Syndrome/High-Functioning Autism" and  "Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Adults with Autism Spectrum Disorder, Second Edition" During this episode, Valerie talks about the circuitous route her career took to put her on the path to begin working with autistic adults.  She also focuses on how communication is the key to "any" successful relationship and how many neurodiverse couples may need to create a "third language" so that they can communicate effectively and understand each other.  She also discusses the results of an important study that highlighted the most critical factor to predicting that romantic relationships will be successful.   Dr. Gaus also talks about how important it is for both partners to make "some changes" and be willing to do "uncomfortable things" to move from "struggling to thriving".  She also shares how destructive shame can be in a love relationship.  She addresses how a partner may feel when they are repeatedly told they are not meeting their loved ones expectations, and why dealing with that shame is a critical step to move forward to create a healthy relationship For more information on the counseling and coaching services Dr. Gaus offers, you can contact her through her website at: http://www.drvaleriegaus.com/  ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ If you like this podcast, please follow us or subscribe so you don't miss an episode.  Please also take a minute to rate the podcast. For more information on Neurodiverse Love relationships, please check our our website at: www.neurodiverselove.com or follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love If you would like to join one of our free online Neurodiverse Love peer support groups, please DM us on IG, or send us an email at: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com Also, if you would like to share your Neurodiverse Love story, or you work with neurodiverse couples and would like to be a guest on the podcast, please send us a DM or an e-mail. Thanks for being part of the Neurodiverse Love community!
01:02:52
February 23, 2022
Professor Tony Attwood & Dr. Michelle Garnett: Keys to Successful Neurodiverse Relationships
During this episode, two of the most well-known experts in autism and neurodiverse relationships, Professor Tony Attwood and Dr. Michelle Garnett, share key tips and tools that will help both partners thrive in a Neurodiverse Love relationship   There are so many nuggets of gold in this conversation, that we hope neurodiverse couples will listen to this episode together.  Whether you are trying to understand each other's communication differences; wondering whether using texts, emails or sharing songs, will work better to express your thoughts and feelings; or you are working to understand the value of your partners special interests or emotional needs, you will learn more about all these topics during this episode. In addition, we discuss the value of scheduling time to talk, how to provide feedback to each other effectively, and how to better understand the things that may trigger shutdowns or meltdowns.  We also talk about the importance of understanding both "Theory of the Autistic Mind" and "Theory of the Neurotypical Mind" and the value of knowing what you can each change, but also need to accept, in yourself and your partner, to live your best life together. Whether you and your partner are working to understand your individual needs, or the needs you have in your love relationship, this episode will provide both of you with tools and information that you can both use to move from "misunderstanding to clarity" in your neurodiverse relationship.  To learn more about strategies for successful Neurodiverse Love relationships, check out this Live Webcast being offered by Tony and Michelle titled Autism in Couple Relationships being held on 2/25/22 from 9:30am-4:00pm (Australia Eastern Time-in Brisbane) .  (For those of you who live in the U.S. this is 6:30pm EST on 2/24/22).  You can register for the webcast at: https://attwoodandgarnettevents.com/product/live-webcast-autism-in-couple-relationships-25-february-2022/ You can also learn more about Professor Attwood on his website at: www.tonyattwood.com.au Recommended Books: The Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome by Tony Attwood and Spectrum Women-Walking to the Beat of Autism-Edited by Barb Cook & Dr. Michelle Garnett:-) ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ If you liked this podcast, please follow us or subscribe, so you don't miss an episode.   Please also take the time to rate the podcast and write a review. For more information on Neurodiverse Love relationships, please check out our website at: neurodiverselove.com or follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love If you would like to join one of our free online Neurodiverse Love peer support groups, please DM us on IG or send an email to neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com Also, if you would like to share your Neurodiverse Love story, or you work with neurodiverse couples and would like to be a guest on the podcast, please send us a DM or an email.                                                      Thanks for being a part of the Neurodiverse Love community!
01:05:25
February 19, 2022
Relationship Renewal-How to Create “Values” Based Plans & Strategies to Thrive- Dr. Thomas Lucking
Dr. Thomas Lucking, Ph.D., LMFT, started his career in technology and then chose to pivot and become a therapist.  Having these two areas of expertise gives Dr. Thomas a unique and important perspective on neurodiverse relationships.  During this episode, Dr. Thomas provides a wealth of important information and concrete strategies to help neurodiverse couples understand each other better, while working on the issues that create the most challenges in their relationships. Dr. Thomas shares how couples can understand each others priorities and values and create a "Values Based Family Plan" together.  This plan can then held lead to increased understanding and better communication.  He also talks about the strategies he has created to help couples begin "relationship renewal" and reconcile with each other when there have been lots of misunderstandings and challenges in the relationship. Dr. Thomas provides so much insightful information on a variety of topics that will provide guidance and inspiration to neurodiverse couples, including: the communication challenges for the "turtle-vs-the hailstorm" and "death by 1000 cuts". Don't miss this important episode that may help you and your partner turn the corner and move from struggling to thriving. To reach Dr. Thomas and learn more about his counseling and coaching services, check out his websites at: www.siliconvalleytherapy.com or www.thomaslucking.com ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ If you liked this podcast episode, please rate it and follow us, or subscribe, so you don't miss and episode. For more information on "Neurodiverse Love" relationships, please check out our website at: www.neurodiverselove.com You can also follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love If you would like to join one of our free "Neurodiverse Love" peer support groups for the neurotypical partner, please DM us on IG or send us and email at: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com Also, if you would like to share your "Neurodiverse Love" story, or if you work with neurodiverse couples and would like to be a guest on the podcast, please send us a DM or and e-mail. Thank you very much for being a part of the "Neurodiverse Love" community:-)
52:42
February 14, 2022
Happy, Positive & Confident Sex for Adults on the Autism Spectrum & Beyond-Michael John Carley
Michael John Carley has spent many years as an advocate, educator and collaborator.  He is the author of several books and he joined us on the podcast to talk about his book titled "The Book of Happy, Positive, and Confident Sex for Adults on the Autism Spectrum and Beyond" that was published in 2020 by Neurodiversity Press. From 2003-2013 Michael was the founder and Executive Director of GRASP (Global and Regional Asperger's Syndrome Partnership) where he learned about the many gaps that exist for autistic adults who are looking to thrive.  He has written for the Washington Post, Huffington Post, New York Times and many others.  His compassion, authenticity, and great sense of humor made our conversation with him both enlightening and inspirational. During this episode, Michael talks about the path he traveled to write his most recent book and how important it is for all of us to have access to the sex positive information that we need to thrive in that aspect of our life.  Whether you are in a neurodiverse relationship and are trying to create a mutually satisfying sex life with your partner, or you are single and want to engage in sexual experiences that are satisfying for you, this episode will provide helpful information and insight. We talk about ways to expand your sexual options, some of the challenges both partners may experience and why it is so important that we do more as a society to help "everyone" have access to the information they need to make well-educated decisions about their sexual interests and preferences. No matter where you are in your adult life, or what neurotype you are, this episode and Michael's book will provide you with information that may help you choose the path to create a "Happy, Positive and Confident Sex Life". To learn more about Michael John Carley and his work around the world, please check out his website at: www.michaeljohncarley.com  ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ If you liked this podcast episode, please rate it and follow us, or subscribe, so you don't miss an episode. For more information on "Neurodiverse Love" relationships please check out our website at: www.neurodiverselove.com You can also follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love If you would like to join one of our free "Neurodiverse Love" peer support groups for the neurotypical partner, please DM us on IG or send us an email at: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com Also, if you would like to share your "Neurodiverse Love" story, or if you work with neurodiverse couples and would like to be a guest on the podcast, please send us a DM or an e-mail. Thank you for being a part of the "Neurodiverse Love" community:-)
01:10:09
February 12, 2022
Healing Cassandra Podcast Host, Margot-Found Her Voice After 20+ Years of Marriage & Began Healing
When Margot Alexis found out that she was in a "Neurodiverse Love" marriage she began to focus on the only person she could change..."herself". In this episode, Margot shares that when a friend of hers suggested that her husband might be autistic,  that took her on a journey to learn everything she could about neurodiverse relationships and autism spectrum disorder.  After more then 20 years of marriage, she made her own healing journey a priority and didn't discuss neurodiversity with her husband, until she had done a lot of her own work.  When she finally brought up the subject with her husband he was open and ready to hear what she had learned.  Through counseling with a therapist that has expertise in ASD, and a lot of grace and compassion, Margot and her husband now understand each other in ways they hadn't for many, many years.  Margot shares openly about the challenges she experienced with her husband regarding communication, emotional reciprocity, different processing styles and co-parenting.  She also shares the wonderful strengths that make her and husband a good team.  Margot also shares why she started the "Healing Cassandra" podcast and how she has created a community for women to heal and find their voice. You can contact Margot Alexis through her website at: www.healingcassandra.com You may also want to check out the "Healing Cassandra" podcast through Apple or Spotify.  ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ For more information about "Neurodiverse Love" relationships, check out our website at: www.neurodiverselove.com You can also follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love If you would like to attend one of our free "Neurodiverse Love" Peer Support Groups for the neurotypical partner, you can send us a DM on IG or an email at: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com If you would like to be a guest on the podcast please send us a DM or e-mail. Please rate and review this podcast and let us know what you like.  In addition, please share this episode with others who might be interested in this topic.  Thanks! Thanks for being a part of the "Neurodiverse Love" community.
58:58
February 05, 2022
Grace Myhill-Director of the Neurodiverse Couples Institute & Partners and Couples Services at AANE
During this episode Grace Myhill, MSW shares her extensive experience on ways in which neurodiverse couples can gain better understanding of each others perspectives, learn how to check for understanding to reduce communication challenges and learn how to share and support each others expectations.  In addition, she also discusses important strategies for working together effectively as a couple and how important it is to understand the concept of a "sensory budget". Grace is the Director of the Peter M. Friedman Neurodiverse Couples Institute and the Partners and Couples Services at AANE.  She also has a private practice where she provides support groups and private coaching for neurodiverse couples, the neurotypical partner and the autistic partner. You can contact Grace at AANE by e-mail at: grace.myhill@aane.org  For coaching services or support groups you can also reach out to her through her website at: gracemyhill.com AANE is a nationally recognized non-profit organization that works with individuals, families, and professionals to help people with Asperger’s and similar autism spectrum and neurodiverse profiles build meaningful, connected lives. AANE provides information, education, community, support, and advocacy, all in an atmosphere of validation and respect. To learn more, visit www.aane.org.
55:00
January 29, 2022
Jodi Carlton-Helping to "Crack the Communication Code" as a Neurodiverse Couples Coach
Jodi Carlton, M.Ed. is an internationally recognized autism relationship and neurodiversity expert and coach.  During this episode she shared her own lived experience and how she is helping neurodiverse couples around the world find better ways to understand each others strengths and differences.  She shares how important it is to value and respect each other's perspective and has created the "Crack the Communication Code" course to help neurodiverse couples work through the communication challenges that may keep recurring.  You may also want to check out her website to link to the free resource to get your Neurodiversity/Autism Score. Whether you are the autistic partner or the neurotypical partner in your neurodiverse relationship, there is SO much valuable information in this episode that you don't want to miss! You can contact Jodi Carlton through in the following ways: Website: spectrumrelationships.org Instagram: @neurodiversecouplescoach Facebook: Autism Relationships-Jodi Carlton, M.Ed. (private FB group) YouTube-Neurodiverse Couples Coach ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ For more information on Neurodiverse Love relationships please check out our website at: www.neurodiverselove.com You can also follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love If you would like to join one of our free Neurodiverse Love peer support groups for the neurotypical partner, please DM us on IG or send us an email at: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com Also, if you would like to share your "Neurodiverse Love" story, or you work with neurodiverse couples and would like to be a guest on the podcast, please send us a DM or an e-mail. If you like the podcast, please follow us or subscribe and rate the podcast.   Thanks for being a part of the Neurodiverse Love community!
01:06:41
January 22, 2022
Strategies to Reset Your Neurodiverse Relationship and Thrive with Dr. Harry Motro from the Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center
Dr. Harry Motro spent the earlier part of his career in technology and then chose a second career in counseling.  HIs passion to take the best tools and strategies and combine them to help neurodiverse couples move from "barely surviving" to "thriving" is so enlightening and inspirational.  During this episode, you will learn the value of the "red, yellow and green cards" to proactively and compassionately deal with issues that previously might have become arguments, meltdowns, or shutdowns.  You will also learn how to create a "love list" with your partner that can help you both learn how to value and appreciate each other.  In addition, you will gain a better understanding of the importance of reflective listening and how the W.I.N. tool can reduce misunderstanding and increase validation in honest conversations.  This is another "don't miss" episode that you will want to listen to more then once, so that you and your partner can begin practicing these strategies today. If you would like to contact Dr. Harry Motro to learn more about the counseling and coaching services he and his colleagues offer for neurodiverse couples, please check out his website at: neurodiversecouplescounseling.com ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ For more resources on Neurodiverse Love relationships check out our website at: www.neurodiverselove.com You can also follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love If you would like to attend one of our free Neurodiverse Love Peer Support Groups please send us a DM on Instagram or an email to  neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com If you would like to be a guest on the Neurodiverse Love podcast. please feel free to send us a DM on Instagram or an email. If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe to the podcast and share this link with others who may be interested in learning more about Neurodiverse Love relationships. Thanks for being a part of the Neurodiverse Love community.
01:05:14
January 15, 2022
How Boundaries and the" Four Agreements" Can Improve Life in a Neurodiverse Relationship
Happy New Year to all our listeners!  This episode provides a lot of food for thought and great information that can help you make improvements in yourself and in turn, in your neurodiverse relationship During this episode, we talk about how  important it is for us to communicate and maintain our boundaries for our mental, emotional and spiritual health.  We also discuss how understanding and implementing the "Four Agreements", by Don Miguel Ruiz can help improve life in a neurodiverse relationship.   The Four Agreements are: 1) Be Impeccable With Your Word 2) Don't Take Anything  Personally 3) Don't Make Assumptions 4) Do Your Best We also talk briefly about the Fifth Agreement, which is: Be Skeptical, but Learn to Listen ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ If you would like to learn more about neurodiverse relationships, please check out our website at: www.neurodiverselove.com You may also want to follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love If you are interested in joining one of our "Neurodiverse Love Peer Support Groups", please DM us on Instagram or send us an e-mail at: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com Thank you for being a part of the "Neurodiverse Love" community.  Please subscribe to the podcast.  If you liked this episode, please leave us a rating and write a review. Thanks!
55:51
January 08, 2022
Mona's 32 Year Journey Through Love, Confusion, Loneliness, Anger, Separation and Divorce. Then Moving to Healing, Growth and Thriving.
In this episode, Manecia interviews Mona as she shares about some of the experiences she had when she did not know she was in a neurodiverse marriage. She and her ex loved each other very much, but that was not enough to get them to a place of understanding, which was what was greatly needed in their marriage.  Not knowing you are in a neurodiverse relationship can lead to SO much confusion and loneliness, which can then turn into repeated anger and fights, that never seem to get resolved.  Mona talks about what led her to move forward on a separation and the last straw that led her to move forward on divorcing a man she still loved, but no longer trusted.  Throughout the Neurodiverse Love podcast, Mona has shared so much about her 32 year journey. In this episode, she shares some of the most significant positive experiences that kept her marriage going as long as it did.  She also shares some of the most challenging experiences that led to the end of her marriage.  Mona also talks about the path she has taken to get from the lowest point in her life, to a place of healing, exponential growth and thriving in a life that is filled with joy, peace, balance and fun.   ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ If you would like more information on Neurodiverse Relationships, please check out our website at: www.neurodiverselove.com Follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love If you would like to join one of our Neurodiverse Love Peer Support Groups, please send us a DM on Instagram or send us an email at: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com Thank you for being a part of the Neurodiverse Love community.  Please follow and rate this podcast and share the podcast with others who may be interested in hearing more about neurodiverse love relationships.  Thanks!
01:04:08
January 01, 2022
Alina Kislenko-Changing Therapeutic Models & Creating Paradigm Shifts in Neurodiverse Couples Counseling
Psychotherapist and Professor Alina Kislenko is redesigning therapeutic models for neurodivergent individuals and neurodiverse couples.  She is committed to training other therapists so that ableism and oppressive views of neurodiversity became a thing of the past.  Alina shared how her "PI" model of "Parts Inclusion" can create new words and ways of communicating emotions in neurodiverse relationships.  In addition, her and her neurodivergent husband (who is also a therapist) are both ADHD and autistic and they work together regularly to reassess their strengths and challenges. Alina talks about the importance of having regular "State of the Union" meetings (a concept developed by Dr. John Gottman) with your partner to prevent divisive fights that can create ongoing challenges.  She also talks about how her husband and her talk about "planning their divorce" so that they are aware of what norms and traits they may need to address as individuals and as a couple to ensure that they continue to thrive individually and in their relationship. Alina also offers very important advice on the determining factor to whether a neurodiverse relationship can thrive...specifically, whether "both partners are willing to do the work the other needs within the timeframe the other partner needs it done".  Each partner has an opportunity to determine which of their partners traits are not going away or changing and if they can (and will) accept that trait.   Alina also talks about how many neurodiverse relationships that include two neurodivergent partners may be very similar to LGBTQ+ relationships, because both partners may be more flexible and understanding of the norms that are critical to each partner. This is another "don't miss" episode where we talk about things we have never talked about on this podcast.  Alina offered so many nuggets of gold and we will be having her back on the podcast with her husband in early 2022. If you would like to reach Alina or the other therapists at the Centre, you can check out their website at: www.ADHDInterrupted.com. You can also join Alina's Facebook group at ADHD Interrupted. ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ If you are interested in learning more about neurodiverse relationships, please check out the resources available on our website at: www.neurodiverselove.com If you would like to join one of the Neurodiverse Love Peer Support Groups you can send us a DM on Instagram @neurodiverse_love, or send us an e-mail at neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com Thank you for being a part of the Neurodiverse Love community.  Please subscribe or follow our podcast and share this episode (or others) with friends or family that might be interested in this issue.
01:03:23
December 25, 2021
The Social Autie-Carole Jean Whittington-Lessons Learned on Her Neurodistinct Journey
We learned SO much during this episode with Carole Jean Whittington who is "The Social Autie' on social media.  Carole Jean received an ADHD diagnosis in early adulthood, but wasn't diagnosed as autistic until she was 39. Her "neurodistinct" journey has led her to help so many other late diagnosed autistic adults go from burnout to balance.  Carole Jean's honesty and vulnerability provided us with so many lessons on how to be better romantic partners in a neurodiverse relationship, as well as how to create space for understanding and grace when we really don't understand ourselves or our partners, but want to.  Carole Jean is a gift to the neurodiverse/neurodistinct community and it was such a pleasure learning from her and learning a little bit about the challenges she has experienced and grown and healed from, and the many strengths she has in her current relationship with her partner Josh:-) For more information on Carole Jean and the amazing work she is doing to help other late diagnosed adults thrive, please check her out on Instagram @socialautie and check out her podcast "Mind Your Autistic Brain". ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ If you are interested in learning more about neurodiverse relationships please check out our website at: www.neurodiverselove.com or follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love If you would like to join our Neurodiverse Love Peer Support Groups please send us a DM on Instagram or an e-mail at: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com Thank you for being a part of the Neurodiverse Love community.  Please follow or subscribe to our podcast, and share the podcast with others you know who may need to hear our message.  
01:11:46
December 18, 2021
Their 29 Year Journey of Learning & Love-Joe (a Therapist) & Mike (an engineer)
Joe is a therapist and Mike is an engineer and in many ways they might be considered opposites.  However, during this episode they share how during their almost 30 years together, they have learned how to navigate their differences and focus on each others strengths.  When they started getting serious in their relationship Joe moved into Mike's house and Joe shares some of the challenges that presented during the first few years of living together. They now have a great arrangement where they each have living space on different floors of their home and they spend time together watching tv and sharing meals.   After watching the movie Adam, where the main character has Asperger's, Joe recognized his husband in almost everything Adam did.  He then approached Mike with this new found information and the rest is history.  Joe and Mike also share how learning that they were a neurodiverse couple literally cut their arguments and disagreements by 50%.  They began to understand each other and see things through the "neurodiverse lens".  As we have often said on previous podcasts "Once you know better, you can choose to do better".  Joe and Mike share how their lived experience shows what it looks like to turn that saying into action. ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ For more information on neurodiverse relationships you can check out our website: www.neurodiverselove.com Follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love If you are interested in attending our free "Neurodiverse Love" Peer Support Groups send us an email at: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com or a DM on Instagram. If you would like to share your "Neurodiverse Love" journey on the podcast please feel free to reach out. Thanks for being a part of the "Neurodiverse Love" community.   Please share this podcast with others who might benefit from hearing it.
50:28
December 11, 2021
Michelle & Andrew-Inspirational Neurodiverse Couple, New Parents, TIkTok Stars and Soon-to-Be Published Authors
Mona and Manecia had such a wonderful time talking to Michelle and Andrew learning about their "Neurodiverse Love" journey.  After they met on a dating app, they were friends for a year before they started dating.  Michelle shared that she almost broke up with Andrew twice and she shares why.  Fortunately, while reading a book chapter about "Autistic Echos" Michelle recognized many of the things she didn't understand about Andrew and approached him with compassion and kindness to discuss what she had read.   During this episode Michelle and Andrew share some of the strategies they have been using to learn and grow together as a neurodiverse couple. Life isn't always a bed of roses, however they share with such honesty how they work together to find new ways to understand each other and ways in which they can support each others strengths and value their individual differences.  If you want to learn more about Michelle and Andrew's  neurodiverse journey you can follow them on TIkTok  @michelleandandrew In addition, you can also check out their website at: www.bellamimalifestyles.com ___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ If you would like to join any of our free "Neurodiverse Love" peer support groups, please email us at neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com, or send us a DM on Instagram. If you are interested in getting additional resources about neurodiverse relationships you can check out our website at: neurodiverslove.com You can also follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love Please subscribe to the "Neurodiverse Love" podcast wherever you listened to this episode and share this episode with others that might find it helpful. Thank you for being a part of the "Neurodiverse Love" community! .   
01:11:43
December 04, 2021
Understanding the Misinterpretations and Unintentional Hurt, Pain and Trauma Both Partners Can Cause
During this episode, Mona and Manecia talk openly and honestly about some of the unintentional hurt and pain that they have both caused in their relationships, as well as what their partners may have done in past or present relationships.  When you don't know you are in neurodiverse relationship, or you know, but don't have the skills and tools needed to navigate the challenges and differences between the two different neurotypes, lots of arguments, disagreements, meltdowns and shutdowns can lead to unintentional hurt, pain and trauma.  None of these create harmony and peace in any relationship, however in a neurodiverse relationship, having the same fight over and over again, without learning any new skills to navigate this path, can create so much unintentional trauma for both partners.  Finding resources and/or a counselor, or coach ,who has expertise in translating both partners  experiences through a neurodiverse lens, can help change "barely surviving" to "thriving".  However it is also important to remember that the journey to "thriving", is often filled with lots of patience, compassion and a desire to understand yourself and your partner! If you are interested in learning more about "Neurodiverse Love" relationships, check out our website at: neurodiverselove.com If you would like to join one of our free "Neurodiverse Love" peer support groups, please send us an e-mail at: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com You can also follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love If you would like to be a guest on the "Neurodiverse Love" podcast, please send us an email or a DM on Instagram. Please subscribe to the podcast or follow us, so that you don't miss any of the upcoming episodes. Thanks for being a part of the "Neurodiverse Love" journey.
01:01:19
November 26, 2021
Internal Family Systems & How Our "Parts" Impact Our Relationships with Dr. Kim Bolling
Join us for this fantastic episode where we have an opportunity to talk with Dr. Kim Bolling.  Kim is a couples therapist and provides counseling and coaching for neurodiverse couples.  Kim talks with us about how she uses Internal Family Systems (IFS)  and Intimacy from the Inside Out (IFIO) to help individuals and neurodiverse couples learn more about the "parts" that can create challenges in their relationship.  Kim provides the tools and techniques to help you and your partner work through some of the things that may keep you in the "communication roundabout" where you keep having the same arguments or unproductive conversations over and over again.  Learn how to regulate your nervous system. breathe and make "slow" the new "fast"! Unblending from our parts can help create safety and stability in our love relationship and make communication more effective with your partner.  Learn how scaffolding can help you and partner process issues better and understand how important it is to "err on the side of communication" to create a healthier "Neurodiverse Love" relationship. You can reach out to Dr. Kim Bolling through her website at: www.kimbolling.com  Also, please subscribe to the "Neurodiverse Love" podcast, so that you don't miss an episode. If you are interested in being a guest on the podcast, please e-mail us at: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com For more information on "Neurodiverse Love" relationships, please check out our website at: neurodiverselove.com You can also follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love If you would like to join our FREE "Neurodiverse Love" support groups for the neurotypical or autistic partner you can send us an e-mail or a DM on Instagram. Thanks so much for listening to this episode and for joining us on the "Neurodiverse Love" journey:-)
01:00:18
November 20, 2021
How an ASD Diagnosis Began to Transform Their 24 Year Marriage
Alina and her husband have been married for 24 years and have 5 sons. Throughout their marriage, they have experienced lots of challenges that other couples weren't having.  However, it wasn't until her husband was diagnosed, earlier this year, with Autism Spectrum Disorder, that those challenges began to make sense.  When Alina found the "Neurodiverse Love" podcast she realized she was not alone and her thinking and the way she communicated with her husband began to change.  Alina shares openly and honestly about the journey she is on to understand how to thrive in her marriage.  During the past few months, she has asked her husband for forgiveness for the way she has communicated with him and has learned healthier ways to communicate.  She is beginning to understand the ways in which their brains are wired differently and she and her husband are working together to make their marriage thrive.  Understanding why there had been so many arguments, misunderstandings and misinterpretations, and finding ways to appreciate and value each other again, has begun to transform Alina's marriage.  She feels tremendous hope for the future and is excited to spend the rest of her life with her very kind husband.  Whether you are the autistic partner or the allistic partner, you will find some hope, clarity and understanding in this episode.  When we know better, we can "choose" to do better and Alina is proof of that! If you would like to find more resources about neurodiverse relationships, check out our website at: neurodiverselove.com You can also follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love If you would like to join one of our free "Neurodiverse Love" peer support groups you can get more information by sending an email to: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com or send a DM on Instagram. If you would like to be a guest on the "Neurodiverse Love" podcast and you are in a neurodiverse relationship and would like to share your story, or if you are a counselor, therapist or coach who works with neurodiverse couples, please send us an email or a DM on Instagram. Thank you for being a part of the international "Neurodiverse Love" journey:-)  
01:03:53
November 13, 2021
Filling the Void & Feeding Our Needs...Food Addiction & Other Addictions
We are issuing a "trigger warning" for this episode, as we are talking about food addictions and other addictions that some of our listeners may be dealing with and may be very sensitive about.   During this episode, Mona and Manecia talk with an anonymous guest who has been dealing with food addiction issues and has recently realized that she was using food to fill voids in her life and her neurodiverse relationship.  Mona and Manecia also share how they have used food as their "drug of choice", as it brings instant gratification and helped increase dopamine, serotonin and endorphins, the "happy hormones".  Understanding why we  become addicted to food and other substances (or activities like sex, porn, shopping, exercise, gambling) can help us all lead a healthier life, however facing those issues that have led us to the addiction can be a challenge. For those dealing with a food addiction, Mona recommended the book "Bright Line Eating" by Susan Peirce Thompson, Ph.D. ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ If you are interested in learning more about Neurodiverse Love Relationships please check out our website at: neurodiverselove.com If you would like to join one of our free Neurodiverse Love peer support groups you can e-mail us at: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com or you can DM us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love If you would like to be a guest on the podcast, please feel free to e-mail us or send us a DM. Thank you for listening to this episode and we hope you  follow us or subscribe and that you will share this podcast with others who may be interested in this topic. Thank you for joining us on the Neurodiverse Love journey.
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November 06, 2021
When Your Man is On the Spectrum-To Know, Understand and Transform Your Relationship-Author & Neurodiverse Couples Coach-Dr. Pnina Arad-
For her doctoral dissertation, Dr. Pnina Arad conducted ground-breaking research with women in neurodiverse relationships and published her book, "When Your Man is On the Spectrum-To Know, Understand and Transform Your Relationship" to share all that she learned during her research.  During this episode, Pnina provides us with insightful information that will help provide neurodiverse couples with ways in which they can better understand each other and begin to build a healthy neurodiverse relationship.    Our discussion about some of the key differences and misunderstandings that neurodiverse couples may be experiencing can help both partners navigate their different social, emotional and thinking world that they both may find confusing.  In addition, we talk about the "Lost Generation" of autistic adults that never received supports they may have benefited from, because when they were growing up in the 1950's, 1960's and 1970's, at a time when Asperger Syndrome and Autism Spectrum Disorder were not diagnoses in the DSM. One of the many important lessons that listeners can take away from this episode is that each partner has strengths, needs to work to understand their triggers and opportunities for improvement, and that both partners can work together to make accommodations and changes to create a healthy "Neurodiverse Love" relationship. Pnina lives in Israel where many autistic people are not diagnosed and she is one of the only professionals in Israel providing coaching to neurodiverse couples. We hope that after you listen to this podcast you will purchase Pnina's phenomenal book, "When Your Man is On the Spectrum-To Know, Understand and Transform Your Relationship".   You can contact Pnina at pninacoaching@gmail.com or check out her "Lead Up"  website at: www.lp.vp4.me Check out more information on Neurodiverse Love relationships on our website at: neurodiverselove.com If you would like to join one of our free peer support groups for the neurotypical or autistic partner in a Neurodiverse Love relationship, please feel free to e-mail us at: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com or send a DM on Instagram @neurodiverse_love  Please subscribe to the Neurodiverse Love podcast and share this episode (or others) with people you know who may be in a Neurodiverse Love relationship. Thanks for being a part of the worldwide "Neurodiverse Love" journey:-)
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October 30, 2021
Loving Difference-On-line Community for Learning How to Thrive in Life & a Neurodiverse Relationship-Coaches and Co-founders: Natalie Roberts and Heather Parks
During this episode you will hear from two of the four co-founders and coaches in the "Loving Difference" on-line community.  This site was created to help individuals and couples learn how to thrive in life and in their neurodiverse relationships. Natalie Roberts and Heather Parks share some of the lessons they have learned in their neurodiverse relationships and provide insightful information and strategies on how they have managed and worked through the ups and downs in their neurodiverse marriages.  Their honesty, sense of humor and passion for helping others thrive is both inspirational and educational. You can join the "Loving Difference" on-line community at www.lovingdifference.net and you can reach Natalie and Heather through the site. In addition, you can following Natalie on Instagram @neurodiverserelationshipcoach or contact her through her website at: www.natalieroberts.com-The Asperger's Relationship Coach. If you would like to get more information on neurodiverse relationships please check out our website at: neurodiverselove.com You can also follow us on Instagram@neurodiverse_love If you would like to join one of our free Neurodiverse Love Peer Support Groups for the neurotypical or autistic partner you can send an email to neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com or send a DM on Instagram. Thanks for listening to the podcast and for being a part of the Neurodiverse Love community.  
01:13:50
October 23, 2021
What to Say Next--Successful Communication in Work, Life, and Love with Autism Spectrum Disorder-Meet the Authors of this Book-- Sarah & Larry Nannery who are a Very Inspirational Neurodiverse Couple
During this episode, Sarah and Larry Nannery share the lessons they have learned during their 10 year Neurodiverse Love relationship. Their motto is "Better Together" and it is clear that they personify this motto.  Sarah sought a diagnosis after she became a parent and realized that managing all of her new responsibilities was more then she was prepared for, and at 31 she received a formal ASD diagnosis.  She has now taken some of the lessons she has learned on her journey and partnered with Larry to write "What to Say--Successful Communication in Work, Life, and Love with Autism Spectrum Disorder". Throughout their relationship, both Sarah and Larry have worked hard to become a better version of themselves, individually and as a couple,. After hearing a piece of their story, it is clear that that may be one of the most important factors in a successful neurodiverse relationship.  They both share great insight about the ways in which they address their social and emotional differences, as well as the ways in which they think about and process their family life and their relationship. Larry shared how he believes that we are all different in some way and we should focus on our unique traits and strengths, so that we can learn who we are and how those traits are presenting in all the relationships we are in.  In addition, we had a great discussion about parenting and family life and how important self-care, structure and knowing what the plan is are for Sarah.  Several things that were said during the podcast showed the genuine compassion, love and respect that Sarah and Larry have for each other. Sarah shared that when she is on emotional or sensory overload she knows that she can come home and "Larry will take care of her" and those words were such a wonderful expression of the trust and safety that their relationship provides.  In addition, when Sarah was talking about the challenges of parenting, Larry stopped and said "Sarah you are a wonderful mother" and although we couldn't see Sarah's face, she probably had a big smile when he said that.  This is a part of what makes their neurodiverse love so special.  Sarah and Larry share the way in which Neurodiverse Love can thrive and how each partner in the relationship can feel safe to be themselves and be supported and understood.  We know you will really enjoy meeting Sarah and Larry:-) You can follow Sarah on Instagram or Twitter @sarahnannery or you can check out her website at sarahnannery.com We also hope you will buy their new book.  It provides excellent insight and strategies on how to communicate effectively in all types of relationships. If you would like to join one of the free Neurodiverse Love Peer Support Groups for the neurotypical or autistic partner, you can send us an email at: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com or send us a DM on Instagram @neurodiverse_love For more information on neurodiverse relationships please check out our website at: neurodiverselove.com If you are a neurodiverse couple or one of the partners in a neurodiverse relationship and would like to be a guest on the podcast, please send us a DM or e-mail. Thanks for being a part of the Neurodiverse Love journey.  Please subscribe to the podcast and share this episode with others who you know who might benefit from hearing it.
01:01:49
October 16, 2021
The Value of an ASD Diagnosis & the Impact of Knowing on Our Love Relationships
During this episode we talk about whether it's important to have a formal ASD diagnosis to understand the best ways to create a successful relationship.  No one can make this decision for you, however Mona and Manecia discuss how they feel about the different ways to understand that you and your partner have different neurotypes.  They also discuss the value of disclosing that you are autistic while dating.  Whether you or your partner have a formal diagnosis, are self diagnosed or you suspect that one or both of you may be on the autism spectrum, this episode will give you things to think about and consider as you move forward on your neurodiverse journey. If you would like more information about neurodiverse relationships check out our website at: neurodiverselove.com If you would like to join the Neurodiverse Love peer support groups for the neurotypical or the autistic partner please send us an e-mail at neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com or send a DM on Instagram @neurodiverse_love If you would like to be a guest on the Neurodiverse Love podcast and share your relationship story please send us an email or a DM on Instagram. Thanks for listening and please follow this podcast and share it with others who may be interested in this topic:-)
53:24
October 09, 2021
Mona and Olga Share Some Lessons Learned & Celebrate 1 Year Anniversary of "Neurodiverse Love" Podcast
To celebrate the one year anniversary of the Neurodiverse Love podcast, Mona and Olga are co-hosting this special episode to talk about some of the important lessons they have learned in their various neurodiverse relationships.  During the first season, at the end of each podcast episode, lessons learned have been shared about the topic that was discussed.  During this special episode, some of those important lessons are revisited. Mona and Olga started this podcast a year ago, because they hoped that sharing their stories about their Neurodiverse Love relationships would help at least one person, or one neurodiverse couple.  Knowing that there have been almost 5500 plays of the Neurodiverse Love podcast, Mona and Olga are so thankful that people all over the world are learning that they are not alone and there are others who have been in neurodiverse relationships.  Throughout the last year SO many people have sent emails or DM's on Instagram to say thank you for sharing our lived experiences and lessons learned and Mona and Olga are thankful that Neurodiverse Love is making a difference for so many of you.  Thanks to all of you for your support, we are so proud to be able to be a part of your neurodiverse journey. If you are the neurotypical or neurodivergent partner in a Neurodiverse Love relationship and would like to join one of our free Peer Support Groups please DM us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love or email us at neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com Also, please feel free to check out our website at: neurodiverselove.com If you would like to be a guest on the Neurodiverse Love podcast please send us a DM on Instagram or an email. Thanks for being a part of the Neurodiverse Love journey.  We are SO glad that our lived experiences and lessons learned have been helpful to hundreds of people all over the world:-)
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October 03, 2021
Learning Better Communication Strategies for Neurodiverse Couples-Dr. Ali Arena
During this episode, Mona and Manecia have the pleasure of talking with communication expert, Dr. Ali Arena.  Ali has been working for years with autistic children, parents and neurodiverse couples to help them improve their communication skills.  During our conversation, Ali provides so many insightful and helpful strategies for dealing with black and white thinking, different processing styles, and emotional differences that can help neurodiverse couples understand each other better.  We also explore why each neurotype may have so many challenges understanding their partners communication methods and reactions.  This is definitely an episode you don't want to miss! To learn more about Ali, or to schedule an appointment with her, please check out her website at: aliarenacommunications.com (***We apologize for the technical difficulties we had at various times throughout the episode) _______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ For additional resources on neurodiverse relationships  please check out the "Neurodiverse Love" website at: neurodiverselove.com If you would like to participate in the "Neurodiverse Love" peer support group please send a DM on Instagram @neurodiverse_love or send an e-mail to: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com To listen to the podcast episodes in Season 1 please check out the bio link on the Instagram page. Thanks for listening and please share this episode with others that you think might be interested in learning more about neurodiverse relationships.
01:05:41
September 25, 2021
Neurodiverse Couples Coach, Minister, Wife and Mother in a Neurodiverse Marriage-Janelle Harding
This episode is filled with pearls of wisdom and lots of laughter as Mona and Manecia welcome Janelle Harding to the "Neurodiverse Love" podcast. Janelle has been in a neurodiverse relationship for a few years and her and her husband have a one year old son. She talks about her no nonsense way of dealing with her husband's mind-blindness, black and white thinking, food preferences and special interests. Janelle also shares some of the lessons she has learned as a coach for neurodiverse couples and through her role as a minister.  She also addresses the importance of autonomy and self-care in her marriage.  Throughout this episode, we get "real" about how serious some of these issues are and how valuable it is to not take things so seriously (or personally) and to find the humor in our neurodiverse lives. If you would like to contact Janelle on Instagram her handle is: @Grace_and_compassion Janelle can also be reached through her Facebook Group: Grace and Compassion Neurodiverse Life and Love Coaching You can also e-mail her at: graceandcompassion@outlookdownload.net --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- For more information on neurodiverse relationships please check out our website at: neurodiverselove.com If you would like to join our FREE "Neurodiverse Love" peer support group please send a DM on Instagram @neurodiverse_love or send an email to neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com If you would like to be a guest on the "Neurodiverse Love" podcast please feel free to send a DM on Instagram or send us an email. ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Thanks for listening and please subscribe to the podcast and share this episode with others you think will find it helpful:-)
01:07:16
September 18, 2021
Discovering ASD After 20 Years of Marriage & 4 Children-Listen to Heidi's Story
During this episode Mona and Manecia have an in-depth conversation with Heidi who has been married for over 25 years and found out 5 years ago that her husband is on the autism spectrum.  After raising 4 kids together and having ongoing communication challenges, things started to make sense when Heidi learned about ASD.  Learn about how special interests played a big part in the beginning of this neurodiverse marriage and about the ups and downs of parenting, emotional and social differences and the way in which Heidi has dealt with all of these over the years. ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ If you are interested in joining our FREE "Neurodiverse Love" peer support group for the neurotypical partner, please send us an e-mail at: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com or send a DM on Instagram: @neurodiverse_love.  The group meets the 1st Tuesday of the month at 6:30PM EST and the 3rd Saturday of the month at 11:30AM EST. If you would like to access more resources on neurodiverse relationships please check out our website at: neurodiverselove.com If you are interested in telling your "Neurodiverse Love" story or you work with neurodiverse couples and would like to be a guest on the podcast, please send us an e-mail, or a DM on Instagram. Please subscribe to the podcast and share it on social media with others you know that are in a "Neurodiverse Love" relationship. Thanks everyone:-)
59:20
September 11, 2021
Ashley Grubbs-Counselor & Coach for Neurodivergent Couples & Partner in a Neurodivergent Marriage
Ashley is a licensed counselor and a coach who has worked with many neurodivergent couples.  She focuses on the strengths of each partner to address challenges and opportunities for growth to create a path to a healthy partnership.  During this episode, Ashley shares what she has learned in her own neurodivergent marriage, as well as what tools she uses to guide other neurodivergent couples on their path to a thriving relationship. Ashley also explores the process her husband went through to learn that he was autistic, as well as how  the information impacted their relationship.  She also talks about the social, emotional and thinking differences her and her husband experience and some of the tools and processes they use to address them.  In addition, Ashley provides information that couples can use to address physical and sexual intimacy challenges they may be having.  Ashley shares both her lived experience, and so many helpful techniques that can provide guidance to other neurodivergent couples. If you are interested in reaching out to Ashley Grubbs for counseling services, you can check out her website at: blueharbortherapy.com If you are interested in reaching out to Ashley to learn more about her coaching services, you can check out her website at: seaportcoaching.com You can also follow Ashley on Instagram @blueharborcounseling ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ To find more information about "Neurodiverse Love" relationships please check out our website at: neurodiverselove.com If you are interested in joining our free "Neurodiverse Love" peer support group for the neurotypical partner, you can DM us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love or e-mail us at: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com If you would like to be a guest on the "Neurodiverse Love" podcast please DM us on Instagram or send us an e-mail. Thanks for listening and please subscribe to the podcast and share this episode with others who might benefit from hearing it.
56:51
September 04, 2021
Thinking and Processing Differences-Understanding Executive Function
Welcome to Season 2 of the Neurodiverse Love podcast. In this episode we talk about the challenges that can occur when you and your partner think and process things differently.  We share stories about differences in planning and organization, as well as the ways in which our partners could get stuck trying to multitask or prioritize and take action on their "things to do" list.  Knowing our brains are wired differently can be so helpful in a neurodiverse marriage and finding ways to let each partner take the lead on the things their brain does best can greatly reduce stress. Follow us on Instagram: @neurodiverse_love Check out our website: neurodiverselove.com If you are the neurotypical partner in the relationship and we like to join our free Neurodiverse Love peer support group, please DM us on Instagram or email us at neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com Thanks for being a part of the Neurodiverse Love tribe:-)
57:26
September 04, 2021
How Important is Socializing and Why Do We Do It So Differently?
During this episode we talk about how challenging it can be when socializing, friendships and travel have different value to us and impact us differently in our neurodiverse relationships.  As neurotypicals, socializing is very important in our love relationships, however our neurodivergent partners didn't place the same importance on socializing and social events as we did.  Understanding how both partners can see things through a neurodiverse lens can help reduce anxiety, frustration, anger and disappointment.  We also talk about some of the lessons we have learned about these topics as we move forward on our Neurodiverse Love journey. Please share this episode with others who may be interested and subscribe so you can be notified when new episodes are released. Follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love and check out our website at: neurodiverselove.com If you are the neurotypical partner in the relationship and would like to join one of our twice monthly Neurodiverse Love peer support groups, please send a DM on Instagram or e-mail us at: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com. Thank you for listening and for joining us on the Neurodiverse Love journey.   
42:50
August 29, 2021
Season 2-Neurodiverse Love podcast is on a new account-"Please subscribe again"
The first season of the "Neurodiverse Love" podcast includes 30 episodes of our lived experiences and lessons learned in "Neurodiverse Love" relationships.  In addition, we published five episodes with various guests, who share their very interesting neurodiverse stories.  We had to change the account we are using to record Season 2 of the podcast, so if you want to continue with us on this "Neurodiverse Love" journey please subscribe to both Season 1 and Season 2. Thanks everyone! Follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love Check out our website @ neurodiverselove.com E-mail us@ neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com  for more information about our "Peer Support Groups for the Neurotypical Partner"
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