Neurodiverse Love with Mona Kay

During this episode, with authors Bontle Senne and Sara-Louise Ackrill we talk about their new book "The ND Lovers Club-How Women Lust, Like and Love" and I hope all of you will buy this book today!Bontle is an AuDHD speaker, sex and ADHD coach and global transformation leader. Sara-Louise is a renowned neurodiversity specialist therapist and coach, professional speaker, and social entrepreneur. Together, they share so much valuable information that we all need to understand if we are ND women, or want to build a relationship with an ND woman. Some of the topics we address in this very candid conversation include:Why do you want to be in a relationship and how do you want to show-up?Unmasking before or during a relationship.Learning to relax and do things alongside someone.Parallel play or being “alone together”.The challenge of taking things personally when you don’t understand each others needs.What to do during unstructured time.Debunking damaging myths.We need more visibility on all the issues that people across  the spectrum experience.What does it mean to be clitmatized, dickmatized or to have “emotional support dick”.Using sex as a substitute to get something else.Sex may be used to avoid eye contact, conflict, the effort of getting to know someone, and small talk.Understand what you each define as sexual and explore whether sex is “responsive or spontaneous” for each of you.You don’t have to minimize your discomfort and assume that you’re not the problem.Yes, No, Maybe Checklist available through “Sex with Emily” podcast.Understand your sexual story and the messages you got as a kid and share this information with your partner so you can understand each other better.May want to write down or share your fantasies with your partner, even if you may never explore them.Understand more about what it means to be asexual, aromantic, demisexual, bisexual, and what sexiness means to you and your partner.Trauma may impact your sexual interests or preferences.Embrace your imagination about what is possible in your relationship.You can learn more about the book, Bontle and Sarah here or check them out on LinkedInTo learn more about the Neurodiverse Love Documentary or to see the trailer for the film click here. If you would like to learn more about the other resources Mona offers check out the links below: Buy the Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards or WorkbookNewsletter | Instagram | Website | YouTube

In 2017, when I discovered I was in a neurodiverse marriage I bought every book on neurodiverse relationships by Maxine Aston and several of Tony Attwood's books. Each of the books I read made me feel less alone and helped me understand that after 29 years of marriage my journey to understanding was just beginning. In 2020, when I started the Neurodiverse Love podcast I reached out to Maxine to let her know how much her books helped me and I invited her to meet with me to talk about joining me as a guest on the podcast. Maxine graciously responded and we set up what would be the first of many Zoom calls over the years that gave us an opportunity to share our lived experiences and the ups and downs of working with neurodiverse couples.In addition, Tony Attwood and Michelle Garnett have been guests on the Neurodiverse Love podcast and they have done presentations at both the 2023 and 2025 Neurodiverse Love conference.I am now honored to have had an opportunity to talk with Maxine and Tony about their new book "Relationship Counselling With Autistic Neurodiverse Couples-A Guide for Professionals". During this episde, they each share a little about their work together and the ways in which they have helped us learn more about how much support and guidance neurodiverse couples need as they navigate their unique journeys. They also share how critical it is for helping professionals to have in-depth knowledge of how neurodivergence may impact couples and each partner. In addition, we discuss the following:Why this book is so important for ND couples and helping professionals.Information about the respondents and their priority needs.Training or personal knowledge was very important.Cost of counseling was high.Both partners may experience depression because of challenges in the relationship.The importance of making your office more ND friendly Need to make it mandatory to get training on ND relationships Addressed different genders and cultural differences.Feels like you’re talking different languages (culturally and neurologically).Both partners will feel validated in reading the book.Being believed and validated was important.Many felt hopeless after counseling and ended their relationship.How to understand if you are working with an Autistic partner and may not know it.Emotional, financial and time cost invested in counseling. The value of mediation for ND couplesI highly recommend this book for both helping professionals and ND couples and I hope that all of you who buy the book will learn that you are not alone in the struggles you have had with therapists and coaches who have never been educated about neurodivergent adults.  As a society, we need to do a better job of providing in-depth education on the strengths, challenges and differences that ND couples and families experience!You can learn more about the resources available from Professor Tony Attwood  here and from Maxine Aston hereYou can also learn more about 9the resources Mona has available at the links below:Host of the Neurodiverse Love PodcastBuy the Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards or WorkbookNewsletter | Instagram | Website | YouTube

If you are interested in learning more about the resources and services Mona offers, including support groups and individual and ND couples coaching you can click here.__________________________________________________________During this episode with David Helfand, PsyD we explore brain mapping and neurofeedback, as well as other ways to understand how our brains work and can change. We also talk about how we can learn more about why we react or respond differently to triggers and experiences in our lives. In addition, we discuss the following:◦Brain mapping is the diagnostic test.◦Neurofeedback is physical therapy for your brain. ◦Using both can help you look at your brain activity and then learn how to change what may not serve you anymore.◦Our brains are wired to focus on negativity to protect us.◦Fight or flight is designed to deal with a real or perceived threat. Understand how to reset and create a plan for follow-up. ◦Having curiosity and empathy after a misstep.◦Tend and befriend-protect what’s important and use your community for help.◦Sometimes people will lie to get out of conflict.◦Addictions are well worn pathways in your brain.◦Asking questions can put your partner on the defensive.  Ask yourself why you’re asking the question and rephrase what you are saying.◦Understand how your different auditory processing speeds are impacting your relationship.◦Remember...oil changes are a lot less expensive than an engine replacement!!◦Learn how to create more happy hormones in yourself and your partner.◦Based on research from Dr. William J. Doherty, 40% of couples who divorce regret it.◦How unmasking can impact you individually and your relationship.◦Executive functioning differences.  Work on having more empathy for your partner’s challenges in this area.◦Pillars of a happy relationship and what skills need to be learned. Then deciding if you can, or want to, learn new skills.◦Your brain looks for sameness, so your nervous system will rebel against changes in your relationship.◦Incongruency around political views in your relationship and connecting through kindness and curiosity. Work on the understanding behind your partner’s political belief.◦Intimacy-"into me see".◦Narcissism and borderline personality disorder and the impact trauma can have on the personality.◦The importance of exploring challenges and differences in your relationships through curiousity, empathy, patience, and compassion.◦How the retreat experience is different than traditional therapy. Information about David's couples retreats are available here. You can also get information about the other services David offers here.

During this episode with Jamie Johnston you will learn more about how the Mattr app is making dating more enjoyable for neurodivergent folks and those with mental health challenges. In addition, Jamie talks about why he is so passionate about his work and how understanding his dyslexia and AuDHD is helping him assist others on their on-line dating journey. Other topics discussed include:We are taught that anything that can be "perceived" shouldn’t be shared on dating apps or while dating.During the pandemic vulnerability and transparency became more acceptable on social media, but not on dating apps. Vulnerability first is the focus of the Mattr app. It is an online dating platform where you can feel safe to share whatever you want.Dating in a digital space can be very challenging for neurodivergent people.  Mattr is very user-friendly for people who have mental health challenges and/or are neurodivergent. The app is based on research and psychology/psychiatry.Dealing with rejection sensitivity dysphoria and dopamine hits through swiping or ghosting. The app uses colors that are comfortable for Autistic individuals and they have a "time out toggle". No swiping is involved and each person is given 6 matches.Some of the biggest challenges in dating and maintaining a relationship include: emotional regulation; rejection densitivity dysphoria; hyperfocus on a person or your special interest.ND folks may experience Inherent shame. Things to look for that may help you understand that someone is neurodivergent: reactions to the space you are in and sensory issues; hyperfocusing on a topic/infodumping; executive functioning challenges- like planning a date; different communication styles; emotional intensity (differences in emotional reciprocity; differences in physical intimacy preferences.“Be for someone, not for everyone”Why the Mattr app was created and different resources available through the app.  Partnerships with lots of businesses in London,  also have offsite events.You can learn more about the app here. They are hosting a special live event in London on June 25th. You can also follow Jamie on IG @Dating withJamie_To learn more about the resources Mona has available for neurodiverse couples and individuals in neurodiverse love relationships click here.

During this episode with therapist and coach Eva A. Mendes she shares some of the important information neurodiverse couples shared with her for her newest book titled: “Armchair Conversations on Love  and Autism: Secrets of Happy Neurodiverse Couples”.Some of the important things  that top performing neurodiverse couples do:Accept the diagnosis and talk openly about each partner’s neurotypes.  Work together to understand the root cause of their challenges as a couple.Have a beginners mindset as an individual and a couple.Trust each other and be able to be influenced by their partner.Some of the other topics discussed include:The challenge with taking things personally and not understanding your partner’s love.Understanding different ways of communication with your partner and others.The importance of building on your strengths.Understanding what you each may need to do differently to connect.Staying humble and curious with your partner.Going “beyond the midline”for both partners.The importance of working with a professional who has experience working with ND couples.Both partners working on the relationship to the best of their ability.Addressing different issues that come up over the lifespan. Focusing on “solvable” not “perpetual” problems.Working on empathy for each other.Understanding your partner in the greater context of their life.Acknowledging that you can’t get everything from one person.  It takes a village!Sometimes couples don’t have enough bandwidth for each other anymore.We are all here to grow and have an opportunity to learn more about ourselves and our partners.Contact Eva by clicking here.Buy the Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards or WorkbookSubscribe to the Neurodiverse Love Newsletter Follow Mona on Instagram Check out the Neurodiverse Love Website Listen to the Neurodivergent Connections YouTube channel Mona co-hosts

During this episode with neurodivergent counselor Jarral Boyd we address the connection between trauma and neurodivergence and ways to think about romantic love as well as the following: ​Navigating neurodivergence and trauma ​Understanding your emotional vocabulary. ​Addressing challenges through somatics and getting to know your body and acknowledge what is going on.​Creating a routine can be helpful to better understand your body and emotions and help you get more in tune.​Understand how to experience joy in your body.​Translating what’s happening in your body when you have alexithymia.​Information shared through AANE certification includes using a 1-5 scale to share with your partner how you’re feeling emotionally.​Memory issues during or after a meltdown.​Apologizing when you don’t feel you have done anything wrong. ​Trauma can make being wrong scary and unsafe.​Cassandra Syndrome ​Benefits of decentralizing romantic love for neurodivergent folx ​Removing relationship hierarchy and being open to different types of romantic relationships. This can help reduce expectations of one or both partners. ​The value of expanding the idea of love.​Asking youself "Is it the person I want or the situation?"You can contact Jarral Boyd at: jarralboyd.comIf you are interested in the free support groups Mona offers for the non-autistic/neurotypical partners you can email her at neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com to get the Zoom links.Mona Kay, MSW, Ph.D. Host of the Neurodiverse Love PodcastBuy the Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards or WorkbookNewsletter | Instagram | Website | YouTubeClick here if you and your partner are interested in joining the support group Mona facilitates for neurodiverse couples on the 3rd Wednesday of the month from 7:30-9pm EST.

Joanne Davies is AuDHD and is a clinical hypnotherapist who works with individuals and couples.  During this episode she shares so much valuable information about how hypnosis can help neurodivergent individuals and neurodiverse couples with sensory challenges, emotional differences and intimacy issues.  The topics she addresses during this episode include:How hypnotherapy can help bridge the gap between neurotypes.The parts of hypnosis: Induction, deepening and healing.The process of hypnotherapy and how neurodivergent individuals and their partners can benefit. How it can be used to help with sensory processing.The value of pendulating between something that feels good and something that doesn’t.Can help to create safety and address triggers.“Cloaking” helps you create a virtual shield to help protect you from sensory overload.How to “anchor” in a certain feeling you had during hypnosis. How hypnosis can help with emotional identification and regulation.May be able to help with reducing meltdowns or shutdowns.Helps with “reparenting”.Understanding how to meet each others needs through hypnotherapy.Using tantric processes and body mapping to help with intimacy challenges.The process to use to create your own self-hypnosis process. You can contact Joanne at Jqhypnosis.com

To learn more about the resources and information that Mona Kay has available you can check out her website at: neurodiverselove.com__________________________________________________________During this episode with Sadie and her mom Lynn they share how unknown neurodivergence impacted Sadie's childhood, adolescence, and early adulthood, In addition, they address the topics below:Terrible two's.Sensory overload and meltdowns. Restrictive eating and sensitivities.Not understanding why you are so different as a child.Masking in school and being different at home.Expectations in school were more structured and easier to understand.Overwhelm during high school and changes in social rules.Being diagnosed with an auto-immune disease in high school.Stimming at home and walking in circles helps with nervous system regulation,Having a spiky profile. When younger, being able to socialize better with adults. Being a perfectionist and the struggle with some things that others do automatically. Challenges with learning to drive and driving…being “perceived” by other drivers.Masking and then having no spoons after school.Giftedness.  Different ways that children may process and develop language.

If you would like to learn more about the resources Mona offers you can click here. In addition, if you would like to join the new community that Mona is creating for non-autistic/neurotypical partners called "Neurodiverse Love Conversations" click here to register for the 4 week series that will be held every Thursday from June 5th-June 26th from 7-8:30-pm EST (US). The cost is ONLY $149 and each participant will get the Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards and Workbook and lifetime access to the 2023 and 2025 Neurodiverse Love Conference sessions. If you are trying to make sense of how two people could love each other yet repeatedly misunderstand and hurt each other, then this community is for you. If you are repeatedly confused and don't understand why conflict, contempt or stonewalling have become more the norm than the type of connection and attunement you are looking for then this community is where you will find understanding, tools and strategies that can help you work towards achieving more peace and joy in your relationship and life!Spaces are limited, so if you feel called to join this supportive community I hope you will register today!____________________________________________________________This podcast episode was originally published on Jodi Carlton’s podcast called “YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship” and is a conversation between Jodi Carlton, Mona Kay and Michael Daniel, the developer of the "Neurotranslator" and his wife Elise.The goal for sharing this episode on the "Neurodiverse Love" podcast is to spread information about the life-changing Neurotranslator app and to highlight the story behind its creator and the challenges he and his wife had been experiencing before learning he was neurodivergent.The topics addressed in this episode include:How having children changed everythingLearning about neurodivergence through a child’s diagnosis Communication challenges Being high masking in life and marriageHow misunderstandings contributed to conflictUnmaskingUnderstanding your identity after learning you are neurodivergent Reliving trauma through a neurodiverse lensHow ability to function can change after diagnosisAutistic burnoutSituational mutismAbleismWishing you could have a husband with a NT brainHow the “NeuroTranslator” was born Both partners need to work to understand each otherYou can learn more about the Neurotranslator app here

Lori Crowley, M.A., LMFT, LPCC is a therapist and coach who works with neurodivergent families and couples.  During this episode she shares some of her lived experiences and her expertise as well as the importance of taking a somatic approach to psychotherapy. We discuss so many important issues for neurodiverse couples to understand and addresss including:​How to integrate sensory differences.​Dealing with sensory overwhelm.​Neurons that fire together wire together.​Sensory resourcing.​Understanding all of our senses including vestibular, neuroception, and interoception.​Understanding being sensory seeking, sensory avoidant, neutral or a combination.​Brain story on Neuroclastic website​Logicalizing or invalidating emotions.​“Toward” energy and “Away” Energy.​Rewiring your neural pathways.​Double empathy problem.​Changing the frame in which we are holding our experiences.​Opposites can “complete” each other.​Is it a “can’t” or a “won’t”?​Overwhelm, lack of agency/choice and sense of imminent demise can lead to trauma.​How do I repair?  1) Create safety in the environment: Person you are interacting with needs to be seen.  Look at them through a sensory lens: 2) They need to be heard.  Hold what comes at you; 3) Teding-people want to feel respected. This can help the other person’s energy relax.  Remember not to say “but”, however you can say “and”.​Unpacking some of the sensory issues in play that led to Mona moving forward on a divorce.​Understanding if it’s overwhelm or lack of care?​Understand that repair may not be possible, however forgiveness can be very healing.You can contact Lori for therapy here or for coaching here.If you missed the 2025 Neurodiverse Love Conference you can still buy "lifetime access" to the 31 sessions and the 4 recorded Q&A sessions. To buy access to the conference sessions or to learn more about the presentation topics, presenters and the bonuses you will receive click here.You can click here also learn more about the other resources Mona offers or at the links below: Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards or WorkbookNewsletter | Instagram | Website | YouTube

During this episode with Mike and Amy Matthews you will learn about the challenges this neurodiverse couple experienced trying to find the root cause of Mike's depression and the difficult journey they went on to discover he had been in Autistic burnout for years and didn't know it. (I apologize for the tech glitches we had for about 5 minutes from about 20-25 minutes in.)Some of the topics we discussed are:How things changed after they had their first child.How before becoming a parent Mike had created a life that fit his brain.Little time for special interests after kids were born.Saw a psychiatrist and went on 5 different antidepressants and none worked.Loneliness of watching your partner go through this process.Psychiatrists and therapists said Mike couldn’t be Autistic because he showed “empathy” and could maintain "eye contact".Relationship challenges after trying to figure out what was happening for about 5 years.Mike did research on Autism and everything fit. Went for Autism assessment and the results were that Mike had schizoid personality disorder, but Mike now self identifies as Autistic.Probably wasn’t depression it was Autistic burnout.The importance of understanding sensory needs.Amy tried to enjoy the good days during the process. The importance of having a partner who wants to do the work. Creating a neuro-affirming household and family.Celebrating everyone’s differently wired brains.Understanding the ways you are different and sharing your needs without guilt.The importance of having positive role models.Many in the medical/mental health community do not have the education and knowledge that they need to understand and work with neurodivergent adults.Contact Amy at amatthews@prairiewellness.org  or click hereIf you would like to learn more about the resources Mona offers including the Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards & Workbook, the 2023 and 2025 Neurodiverse Love Conference Sessions, support groups for Neurodiverse Couples and for the non-autistic partners, please check out her website.

If you did not have a chance to join us live for the 2025 Neurodiverse Love Conference you can still get "lifetime access" to the video recordings of the 31 amazing sessions and the 4 Q&A panels. In addition, you will also get the FREE BONUSES (Neurodiverse Love Conversaton Cards & Workbook and lifetime access to the 27 sessions from the 2023 Neurodiverse Love Conference). Click here to learn more about the conference sessions and to buy access to the conference videos today.____________________________________________________________During this episode with returning guest and relationship and life coach, Robin Tate we talk about many important topics that may be impacting your neurodiver relationship including:How AuDHD presents for women and the self discovery process.Differentiation and overlap between Autism and ADHD.Seeing patterns in people.Executive functioning challenges in ND relationships.The importance of knowing that you can have a dual diagnosis of AuDHD.Executive functioning is every step you need to take to accomplish every task you do every day.Executive dysfunctioning challenges in communication. Object permanence.Time blindness, future planning and staying regulated.Creating interdependency around executive functioning. Grieving the relationship you thought you were going to have.You may not be compatible anymore if one of you has been masking.The struggle between ADHD and Autism when you are AuDHD and how that looks in a relationship.Behavioral differences and internal state of each partner.Understanding how your family of origin has impacted your life and your relationship.The positive impact of somatic therapy.Thinking about the potential stigma you may have to deal with when disclosing your neurodivergence to your family.Stephanie and Dan Holmes new book is -"Uniquely Us -Gracefully Navigating the Maze of Neurodiverse Marriage" (Robin wrote chapter 8 which is on Executive Function)You can reach out to Robin through her website at: www.robintatellc.com

During this episode Mona Kay and her sister Ilysa talk about how so many things they experienced in their childhood began to make sense once they realized their father was Autistic (possibly AuDHD). Although their father passed away 20 years ago, the insights this understanding has brought have helped heal childhood wounds and bring understanding to dynamics in their family of origin and they have both learned more about how unidentified neurodivergence impacted the men they chose to love.Mona and Ilysa also talk about how their father made friends around special interests; not following through on his promises because of overwhelm; deep dives into lots of special interests; the importance of routines; sensory challenges that led to meltdowns; food preferences; smoking 3 pack of cigarettes a day and taking Valium; masking; dealing with the emotions of all his female family members; being financially secure and a good provider; choosing comfortable clothes to wear to work; black and white thinking; cutting family members off rather then dealing with emotions or conflict; being very blunt and the "unintentional" hurt; challenges with implementing boundaries; and mindblindness.If you are interested in learning more about the resources Mona offers you can check out her website at: www.neurodiverselove.com

If you didn't have a chance to join us at the phenomenal 2025 Neurodiverse Love Conference you can still learn from the more than 30 presenters who shared their lessons learned, lived experiences and expertise. For ONLY $97 you can get "lifetime access" to all 31 conference sessions and the 4 recorded Q&A panels. To begin watching the conference sessions today, or to get more information about the conference presentations and presenters click here.___________________________________________________________During this episode with coach Magi Nock we talk about ways to create more joy, safety and connection in your neurodiverse relationship. We also address the following: Accepting and acknowledging that the differences exist;Addressing grief that is unique to each partner; Compassion towards what is happening in your relationship;Cultivating curiosity about each others perspective;The bigger the trauma the more expanded your support system may need to be;Having tools and people to turn to when your dysregulated;Co-creating connection in unique ways;Finding unique ways to communicate;Understanding that you each  can “choose” to stay in the relationship;There is hope and possibility for change. You can contact Magi and learn more about her coaching services here Neurodiverse Coaching

The 2nd Virtual Neurodiverse Love Conference will be held on March 6th-8th, 2025. All the sessions are recorded, so even if you are not able to join us live you will get "lifetime access" to ALL 31 phenomental sessions!If you use the discount code Mona50 you will also receive $50 off the ticket price and the investment is ONLY $47! In addition, you will get some amazing FREE BONUSES WORTH OVER $120. To learn more about the sessions and to register click hereIf you have any questions about the conference please send an email to: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com____________________________________________________________During this podcast episode you will learn more about the "predictive processing framework" (PPF) from Autistic therapist, Sarah Bergenfield. Sarah shares why understanding this framework is so important and how learning more about it can positively impact any neurodiverse relationship. Sarah talks about the ways in which the PPF impacts social interactions, sensory processing, physical intimacy, routines, socializing, and change. This discussion will help increase your understanding of some the challenges you may be experiencing in your neurodiverse relationship and can help both partners create more connection, have more more grace, and possibly heal some emotional wounds and "unintentional' hurt.If you would like to contact Sarah please check out her website here.If you would like to learn more about the Neurodiverse Love Documentary click here.

If you are looking for tools and strategies to learn how to manage the ups and downs of your neurodiverse relationship then you don't want to miss the 2nd Virtual Neurodiverse Love Conference. All the sessions are recorded and everyone who registers will receive lifetime access to all 31 sessions.Whether you are looking for ways to better manage change, improve emotional reciprocity or understand the sensory issues that may be impacting your relationship this conference is for you!!! Use the discount code Mona50 to get $50 off the registration price and your investment in yourself and your neurodiverse relationship is ONLY $47You can see the list of presenters, their session topics and register here.____________________________________________________________During this episode with Jana M. Smith, you will learn more about the importance of nervous system regulation and how to expand your window of tolerance. In addition, we also discuss the following:◦ Tools to manage undiagnosed ADHD;◦ Addressing dysregulation in your marriage and family;◦ Chronic pain and health issues and attempting to manage symptoms;◦ Fight or flight hyper-vigilance;◦ Sensory sensitivities;◦ Rewiring your brain to begin healing;◦ Getting out of survival mode;◦ How your brain is responding to stress and how it’s maladaptive;◦ Negativity bias keeps us in a dysregulated state;◦ How to function more effectively in a neurodiverse relationship when both partners are dysregulated;◦ Impact of challenges with interoception;◦ Moving quickly from being fine to dysregulated;◦ The importance of implementing somatic exercises;◦ You can build new communication highways in the brain;◦ Do your own work and then work together to understand what accommodations are needed;◦ Expanding the window of tolerance and creating safety for the nervous system;◦ The brain does not rewire from avoidance and the more we avoid the more sensitive we get;◦ Learning how to expand your window of tolerance and what you can do to regulate your nervous system;◦ How you support yourself when multiple family members are repeatedly dysregulated;◦ Understanding your sensory profile;◦ Challenges with physical intimacy when your nervous system is dysregulated;◦ Have compassion for yourself and others in your life because there is hope for change.You can learn more about Jana and the resources and services she offers here

I am SO excited to be hosting the 2nd Virtual Neurodiverse Love Conference from March 6-8th, 2025. Check out the list of presenters and sessions topics at: www.neurodiverselove.com You can register here using the discount code Mona50 to get $50 off the ticket price. In addition, you’ll get 3 FREE BONUSES worth more than $120.! All the sessions are recorded and everyone who registers will have lifetime access to all 31 sessions!!!During this episode, I have an opportunity to talk with Greg and Michelle Fuqua about their mixed neurotype marriage (Autistic/ADHD) and their journey together. More specifically we discuss:- How they met and what attracted them to each other. - Miscommunication and early triggers.- Challenges before knowing they were a neurodiverse couple.- Limited capacity to work a full-time job.- Addressing the need for autonomy.- Challenges after having kids.- Emotional barriers to protect oneself.- Cognitive dissonance. - Reframing experiences with a neurodivergent partner and child.- Not taking things so personally.- The benefit of individual therapy.- Improvements in communication. - Neglect and abandonment triggers.- Being able to communicate challenges clearly.- The importance of doing the work individually and as a couple.- Creating emotional safety for each other.- Loving each other for their differences.- Shame triggers.- What they would have changed that they now know caused the other unintentional hurt.- The importance of taking care of yourself.

I am so excited to invite all of you to join me and more than 30 amazing presenters, of many different neurotypes, to the2nd Virtual Neurodiverse Love Conference on March 6-8, 2025. All the presentations are recorded,so everyone who registers will get lifetime accessto all the sessions.If you use the the discount code Mona50 you will get $50 off the registration and your cost is ONLY $47. Click here to register today!In addition, you will get 3 awesome BONUSES FOR FREE:Digital version of the Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards and the digital workbook ($23.97 value)27 video sessions from the 1st Virtual Neurodiverse Love Conference ($97 value)To see the list of presenters click here.____________________________________________________________During this episode, you will hear from AuDHD Therapist, Lindsay Averbook. Lindsay shares about her journey to get herAutism diagnosis and describes the challenges she had with medical providers who weren’t listening to her.She chose to get a neuropsychological evaluation and was diagnosed as Autistic. She also had received an ADHD diagnsosis while in college.Lindsay also shares how she went through an identity crisis after the Autism diagnosis and how she didn’t know what to do after the diagnosis.  She also began questioning whether she could still be a therapist. We also talk about the need for more education about adult neurodivergence for mental health and medical providers and the stigma associated with diagnosis.We discuss the fear of disclosure with friends, family, your romantic partner or colleagues and how everything  in life can make more sense after a diagnosis and how validating it can be as you begin to understand so many things from your past.Lastly, we talk about how media is portraying adult neurodivergence differently and how many newly diagnosed individuals may go through a grieving process as they begin to unmask and discover their most authentic self.You can contact Lindsay at:L.averbooklmhc@gmail.com

During this episode with Benjamin Meyer, LCSW we talk about how important it is to be open to understanding each person's differences throughout the dating process. We also address: Different kinds of connections and chemistry Asexuality Gender Identity Difference between romantic and sexual feelings Different kinds of romantic feelings Being upfront about your needs Meeting people who have similar special interests Getting to know people over time Understanding different perspectives and double empathy Managing rejection You can contact Benjamin at: www.benjaminmeyerlcsw.com If you would like more information about the resources Mona has available you can check out her website at: www.neurodiverselove.com

During this episode, author Eleanor Vincent shares some of the ups and downs she and her ex-husband experienced in their neurodiverse relationship. More specifically she addresses: The 1st break-up, years of friendship, reuniting and then marriage; How things changed when they moved in together;  Masking and unmasking; Challenges with emotional reciprocity; Using love scripts; Communication challenges;  Short-term improvements, but not long term and consistent; Meltdowns and shutdowns; The impact of COVID;  Health challenges; Change in physical and sexual Intimacy;  Patterns in an neurodiverse relationship;  Unmet needs; Deciding to end the relationship and having no contact;  Being part of “The Lost Generation” You can learn more about Eleanor's story in her new book: "Disconnected: Portrait of a Neurodiverse Marriage" In addition, you can contact Eleanor at: www.eleanorvincent.com or contact Mona at: www.neurodiverselove.com

During this episode, Dr. Roianne Ahn shares some of the things she has learned through her lived experiences and in her 30 years as a therapist, coach, and researcher. She addresses ways in which we can better understand our wounded neural pathways (and those of our partner) and give each other grace. She shares the importance of finding your North Star as a couple and how neurotoxins may be impacting you as you and your partner react to stress through a flight or fight response. Dr. Ahn also talks about the importace of accessing your joy individually and as a couple and the value of managing a separation or divorce with grace. You can learn about Roiann's therpay and coaching practice at www.ahnpsychology.com or you can email her at ahn@ahnpsychology.com

During this episode, Misty Schmidt, LMFT shares how she navigates the communication and culture differences in her neurodivergent family and with her neurodivergent clients. She addresses the importance of having a therapist/coach who can translate the different types of communication and understanding that one partner may be very literal/concrete and the other may be more abstract. Misty also talks about the research she is conducting for her disseration. She is focusing on the dyamics between romantic partners who are both neurodivergent. She is also writing a book about navigating neurodiversity, which will include a variety of worksheets and tools including the "meltdown scale". Misty also addresses the impact of living with an incorrect diagnosis and how important it is for therapists/counselors to have training regarding neurodivergent adults, as some challenges may be identified as part of a personality disorder or trauma, however they may actually be related to neurodivergence. Unfortunately, some therapists may not understand or recognize neurovariance, sensory sensitivities and executive function differences and may think they are a trauma response and not consider neurodivergence. Explaining your internal world to a neuroaffirming therapist can help them determine what issues may be due to trauma and which may be due to neurodivergence. Misty also talks about Pre-Menstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD) and how this may look for a neurodivergent individual and the importance of understanding it and recognizing what can be done to help reduce the impact. You can contact Misty at: www.schmidtfamilycounseling.com If you are looking for a neurodivergent therapist you can check out this site: https://neurodivergentinsights.com/ndi-directory In addition, if you would like to work with a coach or therapist who has expertise working with neurodiverse couples you can check out Mona's website

During this episode, Toni Borneo, a late discovered Autistic who is also the host of the "Autistic at 40" podcast shares what she has learned about Persistent Drive for Autonomy (aka Pathological Demand Avoidance). More specifically we address the following: Learn how this is a heightened stress reaction to anything that is out of the person's control There is a strong desire for autonomy over "what, when and how" and being addicted to finding ways to maintain control Why your partner may say "no" often Fight, flight, freeze response from threats or "perceived" threats The impact of "internalized" PDA Masked PDA and issues around trust Shame around PDA and secretive or sneaky behavior Creating a no-judgment zone The impact on executive function skills Your body may be in hyperarousal all the time How to get your autonomy back through equalizing with acts that are safe, boundaried and not damaging to your relationship Reframing requests and sharing declarative statements, rather than asking questions You can follow Toni on IG @autistic_at_40_podcast You can also listen to her podcast "Autistic at 40" or learn more about her on-line free space at Autisthood. If you would like to learn more about the resources Mona has available you can check out her website . If you would like to buy the digital version of the Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards or the Workbook click here.

To learn more about the Neurodivere Love Conversation Cards and Workbook, the Neurodiverse Love Conference videos and the other resources available for individuals or couples in mixed neurotype relationships, check out ⁠Neurodiverse Love._________________________________________________ Sex has a language all its own, and it is both spoken and unspoken. Sex with our partner and with ourselves can be fun, invigorating, a great way to unwind, how we connect to our body and to our partner. When one or both partners are experiencing ND Burnout, sex can be overwhelming or require more energy than we have along with a few other hidden elements. When we don't know to look for some of these hidden elements in our relationship and sex life, the story we tell ourselves about why sex isn't happening like it used to, or how we aren't enjoying it the way we once did, can create a cassum between partners, along with feelings of rejection, guilt, shame and unwant. Those reasons just aren't the case when ND Burnout is a factor and during this episode Carole Jean Whittington shares: What ND Burnout is. How it can look from the outside. What it feels like on the inside. The hidden elements of ND Burnout that impact our sex and relationship. First step in Burnout Restoration to restart your sex life. You can learn more about Carol Jean Whittington's book, YouTube channel, podcast and the many other resources she has available at: www.whittingtonwellbeing.com

To learn more about the Neurodivere Love Conversation Cards and Workbook, the Neurodiverse Love Conference videos and the other resources available for individuals or couples in mixed neurotype relationships, check out ⁠Neurodiverse Love. ______________________________________________________________ Dr. Bronwyn Wilson provides information on some of the significant discoveries that she made during her research. She reveals how different needs for interaction between two groups of people in neurodiverse relationships creates an unconventional relationship which introduces unique challenges for the people involved. She describes how these different needs and resulting challenges are linked to the development of an ongoing dynamic system of communication that often becomes a specific feature in these relationships. She also give details on the particular strategies that she uncovered for the potential positive outcomes in neurodiverse relationships. To learn more about Dr. Bron's research or her books you can click here.

To learn more about the Neurodivere Love Conversation Cards and Workbook, the Neurodiverse Love Conference videos and the other resources available for individuals or couples in mixed neurotype relationships, check out ⁠Neurodiverse Love.____________________________________________ Neurodiverse relationships can sometimes be difficult to navigate, but if we have clear ways to both communicate and understand each other, it can be easier and more gratifying. During this episode, Lawrence Siegel, MA, CSE explores some of the things we can do to communicate more effectively about our sexual and intimate needs. Things like understanding nonverbal expression and creating shared experiences of physical pleasure, using code words to communicate in the moment, and learning how to accept our partner's lack of desire without feeling personally rejected. Hopefully, the information shared will help partners relate to how they see some of the important foundations of creating a succesful, sexually rewarding relationship. You can contact Lawrence Siegel at the Sage Institute for Family Development or at the Modern Institutes for Sex Therapy Training

To learn more about the Neurodivere Love Conversation Cards and Workbook, the Neurodiverse Love Conference videos and the other resources available for individuals or couples in mixed neurotype relationships, check out ⁠Neurodiverse Love. _________________________________________________ In working with Neurodiverse individuals and couples it's apparent that teaching about diverse perspectives and providing a structure for solving conflict is not enough to overcome the common neurological differences. Co-creating strategies for each person to identify, regulate and communicate about their own emotional state is essential to the success of the dynamic. In a relationship, staying calm involves self-regulation, as well as co-regulation. In this episode, Robin Tate will define each of these terms. She will also talk about the potential barriers to self-regulation and strategies that help each person, as well as the team, stay calm as they work through conflict to achieve greater connection, understanding and agreement. You can contact Robin Tate, MA, MS at: www.robintatellc.com or at robintatellc@gmail.com

To learn more about the Neurodivere Love Conversation Cards and Workbook, the Neurodiverse Love Conference videos and the other resources available for individuals or couples in mixed neurotype relationships, check out ⁠Neurodiverse Love. _________________________________________________ Do you feel like your struggling to navigate parenting children while also being a neurodiverse couple? Kate and Clark Webb certainly do! This episode will highlight common daily parenting struggles from both the neurodivergent and neurotypical sides. Clark and Kate explore different scenarios, how each responds, and reflect on what they could have done differently. No parent is perfect, so let's embrace surviving one day at a time together! You can contact Kate and Clark at: neurodiversecouple@gmail.com or on IG @neurodiversecouple

To learn more about the Neurodivere Love Conversation Cards and Workbook, the Neurodiverse Love Conference videos and the other resources available for individuals or couples in mixed neurotype relationships, check out ⁠Neurodiverse Love. _______________________________________________ During this episode, Leslie Sickels, LCSW discusses how intimacy and sex are healthy, natural aspects of human relationships, yet this topic often goes unaddressed in neurodiverse couples therapy. While difficulties a nd challenges related to intimate connections are not unique to neurodiverse couples, there are core areas of neurodiversity that frequently arise and can be effectively identified, addressed, and managed in neurodiverse couples therapy. Leslie aims to normalize challenges related to intimacy and sex in neurodiverse partnerships and assist couples in identifying strategies to begin speaking more opening about these areas in couuples therapy. You can contact Leslie Sickels at LeslieSickelsLCSW.com or at LeslieSickelsLCSW@gmail.com

If you would like to learn more about the resources available through Neurodiverse Love you can check out our website at: www.neurodiverselove.com _______________________________________________ During this episode with Natalie Roberts she will be sharing the truth she has lived and is so passionate about sharing, that the impact of unknown neurodiversity in your relationship is reversible and you can thrive...and flourish! You'll find clarity about what that impact is for you plus hope and possibility that you can be YOU again in your neurodiverse relationship! You can contact Natalie at: natalie@natalieroberts.com or at www.natalieroberts.com

To learn more about the Neurodivere Love Conversation Cards and Workbook, the Neurodiverse Love Conference videos and the other resources available for individuals or couples in mixed neurotype relationships, check out ⁠Neurodiverse Love._________________________________________________ During this episode with Cheryl Rhodes, MS, LMFT, LPC you will learn more about the benefit of understanding your love languages. You've heard this term before and know that the love languages describe different ways to express and experience love. Do you know how to determine your personal love language and that of your partner? Are there Autistic or neurodivergent love languages? This episode will answer these questions and give practical suggestions for partners to give love in ways that will be best received. You can contact Cheryl Rhodes at: myrhodesmap@gmail.com

To learn more about the Neurodivere Love Conversation Cards and Workbook, the Neurodiverse Love Conference videos and the other resources available for individuals or couples in mixed neurotype relationships, check out ⁠Neurodiverse Love. _________________________________________________ During this episode, Michelle and Andrew Preston share the story about how they were struggling in their relationship until Michelle read a chapter in a book that made her realize Andrew may be Autistic. She approached him about and it and they were able to go through the diagnosis process together and learned that Andrew is in fact Autistic. Learning this strengthened their bond and improved their communication. It also helped Michelle take things less personally as she began to understand that Andrew's lack of emotion had nothing to do with her, and everything to do with how his mind works. If you are interested in learning more about Michelle and Andrew's story you can buy a copy of their book: Friendship Love Autism-Communication Struggles and Autism Diagnosis That Gave Us a New Life Together. You can follow Michelle and Andrew on TikTok@ MichelleandAndrew or email Michelle at: michellepreston@gmail.com

To learn more about the Neurodivere Love Conversation Cards and Workbook, the Neurodiverse Love Conference videos and the other resources available for individuals or couples in mixed neurotype relationships, check out ⁠Neurodiverse Love. ________________________________________________ During this episode Heather Parks busts one of the many myths that exist about neurodiverse relationships-the belief that "things will only get better if my partner changes". When we put all the responsibility for change on our partner, we can feel powerless, stuck and frustrated. But the great news is that there's a different way to create change in a relationship! And it doesn't involve coercing others to make changes or to engage with therapy! Instead, the invitation is to become more aware of our own defense modes, to focus on ourselves. It takes two to create a pattern and only one to change it! Heather shares how we are all contributing to the Relationship Defense Cycle, and how we can interrupt it so that we can have a better experience in our neurodiverse relationships. You can contact Heather at: heather@heatherparks.co.uk or on her website at www.heatherparks.co.uk. You can also find Heather at: www.lovingdifference.net or on social media @neurodiversefamilycoach

To learn more about the Neurodivere Love Conversation Cards and Workbook, the Neurodiverse Love Conference videos and the other resources available for individuals or couples in mixed neurotype relationships, check out ⁠Neurodiverse Love. _________________________________________________ During this episode Sarah (Autistic) and Larry (NT) share some of the most useful strategies they have developed for communicating and thriving together as partners, as lovers, and as parents. These are their most impactful tools for effective neurodiverse communication, which they learned "the hard way" in this journey of making love work together for the past 10+ years. You will also gain insight into both perspectives, from an autistic point of view and a "neurotypical" point of view. What are their most frequent and most entrenched communication struggles? What are the best ways they've found to hack each other's daily communication styles, build long-lasting connection, and understand each other on a deeper level? Sarah and Larry will also share many actionable strategies that can be adapted and applied to your own relationship, such as SOS/trigger words, high and low contexts, nonverbal cues, and reset moments. You will be both inspired and better prepared for the realities of successful communication between people who think and act so differently to each other. You can contact the Nannery's on social media at: www.sarahnannery.com sarahnannery@outlook.com IG & X (Twitter) @sarahnannery LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/sarahfike Facebook: @quirkyandbright You can also learn more communication strategies in the Nannery's book called "What to Say Next: Successful Communication in Work, Life, and Love with Autism Spectrum Disorder"

To learn more about the Neurodivere Love Conversation Cards and Workbook, the Neurodiverse Love Conference videos and the other resources available for individuals or couples in mixed neurotype relationships, check out ⁠Neurodiverse Love. During this episode Grace Myhill, MSW shares several simple but important tools that can help neurodiverse couples communicate better and have more healthy connections. Grace is the Director of Couples and Partner's Services at AANE and the Director of the Peter M. Friedman Neurodiverse Couples Institute at AANE. You can contact Grace at www.gracemyhill.com.

To learn more about the Neurodivere Love Conversation Cards and Workbook, the Neurodiverse Love Conference videos and the other resources available for individuals or couples in mixed neurotype relationships, check out ⁠Neurodiverse Love. Successful intimate relationships don't just happen by themselves. Building a life together requires us to solve hundreds of everyday problems that all couples encounter. Love for your partner means it's natural to go to great lengths to help them to be happy, to work with their quirks, to be understanding of their limitations, and personal struggles, but what about your own needs? Your own happiness? Are you giving so much to your partner that your're neglecting yourself? Are there areas of your life or your relationship where you feel resentful or unappreciated? During this episode, Paul Micallef from Autism From the Inside will explore the importance of self-care and boundary setting in order to set you and your partner up for success. To learn more about Paul Micallef's work or his amazing YouTube channel, Autism From the Inside click here.

To learn more about the Neurodivere Love Conversation Cards and Workbook, the Neurodiverse Love Conference videos and the other resources available for individuals or couples in mixed neurotype relationships, check out ⁠Neurodiverse Love. ________________________________________________ Eva Mendes is an autism and ADHD specialist, couples counselor, and psychotherapist. She facilitates worshops and training at various universities, mental health and medical centers. Eva has a private practice where she works with clients from all over the world. During this presentation, Eva talks about the critically important things that can contribute to a happy and healthy relationship. She also recently published a new book titled "Armchair Conversations on Love and Autism-Secrets of Happy Neurodiverse Couples". If you haven't had a chance to get a copy of this book I highly recommend it. I was honored to have been asked to write the foreward for the book and I know that many of you will enjoy reading how other couples are successfully navigating the ups and downs in their neurodiverse relaitonship. You can contact Eva at: https://www.eva-mendes.com/

To learn more about the Neurodivere Love Conversation Cards and Workbook, the Neurodiverse Love Conference videos and the other resources available for individuals or couples in mixed neurotype relationships, check out ⁠Neurodiverse Love._________________________________________________ Living in a neurodiverse marriage poses unique challenges. This episode includes information on how partners in marriages where one or more partners are on the spectrum can work with Drs. John and Julie Gottman's Sound Relationship House Theory-7 research-based principles for making marriage work to better their relationships. This will include brief, significant strategies partners can use to bridge their differences or build upon friendship, intimacy, and romance; manage conflict and create an even more meaningful relationship. You can learn more about Dr. Michael McNulty at: www.chicagorelationshipcenter.com

To learn more about the Neurodivere Love Conversation Cards and Workbook, the Neurodiverse Love Conference videos and the other resources available for individuals or couples in mixed neurotype relationships, check out ⁠Neurodiverse Love. When sex is an issue in a neurodiverse relationship, it often happens for both common and less common reasons. While sex can be a relationship strength and a reliable source of comfort and connection for neurodiverse relationships, when it's not, understanding why can sometimes be a challenge. In this episode, Dr. Kathy McMahon addresses both universal and neurodiverse specific sexual challeges in these relationships, including initiation and seduction, sexual give and take, pornography, and understanding sex as a "special interest". You can contact Dr. Kathy McMahon at: www.CouplesTherapyInc.com

To learn more about the Neurodivere Love Conversation Cards and Workbook, the Neurodiverse Love Conference videos and the other resources available for individuals or couples in mixed neurotype relationships, check out ⁠Neurodiverse Love.________________________________________________ Do you or have you ever, as a couple or family really thought about your values and what's important to you? What gives you purpose and meaning in life? How do you want to deal with conflict and disagreement? What is your belief system and how does it guide your decisions and behavior? Where are you going as an individual and as a team-what is your destiny? Diving into your values in a meaningful and regular way indicates that you are an intentional couple or family. It is only the intentional couple or family that sustains the storm winds of life. Stressors will come and those that are unprepared are the least likely to withstand the challenges that they bring. In this session, Dr. Lucking will discuss the XYZ system of creating values that drive behavior. This system can be used with couples or families. It's great for parenting as it's simple enough for children but practical enough for adults. Love requires effort and neurodiverse love sometimes requries even more effort. Your effort can be reduced with the right tools and theory. As Mahatma Gandhi said: "Your beliefs become your thoughts. Your thoughts become your words. Your words become your actions. Your actions become your habits. Your habits become your values. Your values become your destiny." You can contact Dr. Lucking at: www.SiliconValleyTherapy.co

To learn more about the Neurodivere Love Conversation Cards and Workbook, the Neurodiverse Love Conference videos and the other resources available for individuals or couples in mixed neurotype relationships, check out ⁠Neurodiverse Love. _________________________________________________ The topics addressed during this episode are: The challenge of discerning "wanting to" vs "wanting to want to". The former leads to action, the latter doesn't go anywhere. How to present what's verbally expressed as "important" compared to the actions that "show" what's important. What are the challenges or expectations for the NT partners to know? What is a challenge or observation for the Autistic partner? Keys of growth and health: individual work, humility and teachability. To learn more about the work Stephanie and Dan do to help ND couples you can check out their website at: www.christianneurodiversemarriage.com

To learn more about the Neurodivere Love Conversation Cards and Workbook, the Neurodiverse Love Conference videos and the other resources available for individuals or couples in mixed neurotype relationships, check out ⁠Neurodiverse Love. _________________________________________________ Reactivity wreaks havoc in Neurodiverse partnerships. It is implicated in the breakdown of connection, communication and skillful conflict and gets in the way of efforts to recover despite both partner's desires and intentions. Jill discusses the role of reactivity and pathways to change your relationship with it. You can learn more about Jill's work at: www.jillcorvelli.com or www.ndpartnerscompass.com

To learn more about the Neurodivere Love Conversation Cards and Workbook, the Neurodiverse Love Conference videos and the other resources available for individuals or couples in mixed neurotype relationships, check out ⁠Neurodiverse Love. _________________________________________________ Discover the 4 stage communication method that provides neurodiverse couples with the insights and tools to bridge the communication gap that exists in mixed neurotype relationships. This solution-focused method provides what traditional therapies have never done. Designed specifically to help partners understand the root causes of their misunderstanding and confusion, this method provides implementable tools for clarification of meaning and for updating relationship narratives while attending to each partner/s unique preferences and needs. To learn about the services and resources Jodi Carlton provides you can check out her website at: www.jodicarlton.com

To learn more about the Neurodivere Love Conversation Cards and Workbook, the Neurodiverse Love Conference videos and the other resources available for individuals or couples in mixed neurotype relationships, check out ⁠Neurodiverse Love. _________________________________________________ Through the lens of neurodiversity, a movement to de-pathologize atypical neurological wiring, we will look at the application of IFS (Internal Family Systems therapy) to working with mixed neurology couples-effectively "looking under the hood" of what is happening for couples when they don't get along. A case example is discussed. You can contact Kim at: www.kimbolling.com

To learn more about the Neurodivere Love Conversation Cards and Workbook, the Neurodiverse Love Conference videos and the other resources available for individuals or couples in mixed neurotype relationships, check out ⁠Neurodiverse Love. _________________________________________________ Just about everyone in a neurologically mixed relationship is confused about their partner's behavior and is often quick to assign motive. Instead, Joe Biel and Faith Harper offer tools to step back, listen, take care of yourself, and learn how to attack challenges as a team.  You can learn more about Joe at: joebiel.net You can contact Dr. Faith at: www.faithharper.com

To learn more about the Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards and Workbook, the Neurodiverse Love Conference videos and the other resources available for individuals or couples in mixed neurotype relationships, check out ⁠Neurodiverse Love. If you would like register for the 4 week workshop series that Mona Kay, MSW, Ph.D. and Sarah Swenson, LMHC will be co-facilitating titled " How Can I Love My Partner and Still Struggle to Imagine a Healthy Future Together" that begins on July 9th, 2024 at 7:30pm EST click here. _________________________________________________ During this episode, Margot Alexis and Chelle share information about the long-term effects of Cassandra syndrome. Many NT women endure chronic isolation, anxiety and depression. Others have difficulty sleeping, digestive disorders and serious autoimmune diseases. Some exhibit persistent anger, severe resentment and feel helpless to change the situation. Almost all will experience a loss of self.  In this episode, Margot and Chelle discuss what Cassandra Syndrome is, it’s effects and how you can heal from it. They also share information on the following topics: Why NT women have a difficult time getting support from friends and family? The first step in recovery. What healthy emotional detachment looks like. How letting go is different than giving up. The support that is available, To learn more about Margot and Chelle please check out: www.healingcassandra.com

If you would like to register for the 4 week workshop series titled " "How Can I Love My Partner and Still Struggle to Imagine a Healthy Future Together", with Sarah Swenson, LMHC and Mona Kay, MSW, Ph.D. ⁠click here. To learn more about the Neurodivere Love Conversation Cards and Workbook, the Neurodiverse Love Conference videos and the other resources available for individuals or couples in mixed neurotype relationships, check out ⁠Neurodiverse Love.__________________________________________________________________ During this episode, Dr. Ali Arena Perkinson shares information about the 4 communication styles she has identified to help individuals and couples better understand themselves and each other. The goal is for you and your partner to learn more about your different styles and how you can better understand each other and communicate more effectively. The 4 communication styles are: Purposeful Captivator Listener Facter To learn more about Ali and the work she does, please check out her website at: https://www.connection-squared.com/

If you would like to register for the 4 week workshop series titled " "How Can I Love My Partner and Still Struggle to Imagine a Healthy Future Together", with Sarah Swenson, LMHC and Mona Kay, MSW, Ph.D. click here. To learn more about the Neurodivere Love Conversation Cards and Workbook, the Neurodiverse Love Conference videos and the other resources available for individuals or couples in mixed neurotype relationships click here. _________________________________________________ Although the global awareness of autism continues to show signs of growth, little empirical research has been done on the way in which neurodiversity impacts romantic relationships. The existing body of knowledge points at a severe state of distress in women who are in couple relationships with men on the autism spectrum. However, the literature is mainly based on personal accounts of these women, in many cases, without their partner being formally diagnosed. Most professionals aren’t trained or lack the experience to recognize or diagnose ASD in adults. Hence, they fail to provide efficient help for neurodiverse couples and women in neurodiverse relationships. Aiming to raise the awareness, change the existing situation and help these women and couples, Dr. Pnina Arad conducted an extensive quantitative study about the physical and mental well-being of women in neurodiverse relationships. During this episode she describes her research, shares the findings, and discusses the conclusions and implications of her study results. To learn more about Dr. Pnina Arad, please check out her website.

To learn more about the Neurodivere Love Conversation Cards and Workbook, the Neurodiverse Love Conference videos and the other resources available for individuals or couples in mixed neurotype relationships click here. _________________________________________________ Professor Tony Attwood and Dr, Michelle Garnett have learned through their many years of clinical experience that there are some unique challenges to being in a love relationship as a female autistic partner, and yet much of the literature on relationships where one partner is autistic focuses on the male autistic/female neurotypical experience. In this session, they both describe some of the experiences they have discovered to be challenging for autistic women in love relationships, and give some ideas about how to manage these challenges. This session will be helpful to both autistic women and their partners. If you would like to learn more about the workshops and resources that Tony and Michelle have available, please check out their website.

To understand yourself, your partner and your neurodiverse relationship better, invest in the Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards, Workbook, and the Neurodiverse Love Conference videos. In addition, check out the other resources available to help you find guidance as you move forward on your Neurodiverse Love journey. ———————————————————————During this session from the Neurodiverse Love Conference, Dr. Harry Motro shares how "Trauma Informed Neurodiverse Couples Therapy" can help create a path to lasting healing. When one or both partners has been traumatized by relationship patterns that are rooted in their neuro-differences, the partners must overcome two distinct challenges: 1. Heal the trauma, and 2. Understand and build bridges across the neurological differences. Unfortunately, most approaches to Neurodiverse couples counseling do not adequately address the trauma. As a result, couples get stuck in trauma-fed reactive behaviors that keep them stuck.