Season Three, Episode 4: What Can You Live With?
In this episode, I talk to Dr. Alan Winder, Psychologist and Certified Divorce and Family Mediator, about the state of relationships during the pandemic. How have things changed? Are there more people getting divorced? Are there more couples seeking therapy in light of quarantine and Corona anxiety? Have a listen as Dr. Winder tells us how to keep our marriages together, and how to know when to walk away.
For more information about Dr. Winder, you can find him at the following places: Website: https://www.drwinder.com/
Psychology Today: https://www.facebook.com/itspsych/
Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drwinder/
Today’s episode was made for you, the listener. You, personally, I mean. You see, my dear listeners, I know who you are and what you struggle with. I know that you constantly strive to make your outside prettier than your inside, because damn, although mental health is important – and you know this – but, you live in a time or a town or a world where women are not supposed to age at all, and certainly not gracefully.
You juggle a million hats. You have an idealized version of mom and wife and friend and daughter that you will never quite achieve. You don’t get sad, you go to the gym. You don’t get angry, you weigh your food and count your macros.
You shrug off the shame that still lingers from your childhood or adolescence or 20something life. Maybe the shame is the result of something you did. Maybe it was something that was done to you, through no fault of your own. And yet, you power on.
But for how long?
Dr. Margaret Rutherford is a seasoned psychologist and the author of Perfectly Hidden Depression. As psychologists, and as people, we have been taught what depression looks like. And if your outside doesn’t match your inside, if our view of depression doesn’t match what a person is putting out there, than these people, these feelings, maybe even your feelings, dear listener, are left overlooked and untreated.
Dr. Rutherford’s book, and my conversation with her, proved to be an eye-opening experience. I now ask my patients not only “Have you had thoughts about suicide?” but also, a follow up question, “Would you tell me if you did?”
For more information about Dr. Rutherford and this syndrome of Perfectly Hidden Depression, check out the links in the show notes. Usually I say that I hope you enjoy this episode. In this case, I hope you hear this episode with an open mind, and a new perspective on what you and/or your loved ones may be going through.
Season Three, Episode 2: What Would You Do To Save Your Child’s Life?
In today’s episode, I struggle not to cry – because tears would do Jordan Ogman very little good. And my tears would probably be even less helpful to David Ogman, my current guest, new friend, and Jordan’s father.
To understand this episode I think it helps if I explain how I connected with David: A few weeks ago I posted on my Facebook feed, asking if anyone had a story to share about living their best life during the pandemic. Or something along those lines.
You see, as much as I bitch and complain about remote learning and never having a free moment to myself, the truth is that I have gotten to spend more time with my ten and twelve-year old children – who, yeah, are sometimes huge pains in the ass – than I would ever have spent otherwise.
I have had the opportunity to complete my 200 hour teacher training, I have made some incredible friends on the other end of the universe, and I have managed to purchase more snarky shirts with funny phrases on them than I would have ever thought possible.
But, I have also had a lot of bad, crappy, garbage-y days.
So many of us discuss the bad, the isolation, the loneliness, the dear-god-what-I-wouldn’t-give-for-a-year-with-a-lot-less-excitement – it made me wonder, who out there is winning right now. Someone, somewhere, deserves to have a win.
David’s answer shocked the sh@# out of me.
David’s son, Jordan, is currently five years old. But, will he make it to age six?
After a normal pregnancy and a slightly difficult birth that resulted in a week at the NICU, Jordan’s first year of life went…normally. But shortly after Jordan’s first birthday it became clear that there was a developmental delay that no one could fully diagnose.
That’s because the disease that Jordan had been born with, TECPR2, was so new, and so rare, that the Jewish Genetic Screening that most Jews of Ashkanazi descent decide to undergo, had yet to develop a way to identify TECPR2 until a year after Jordan was born.
The good news is, Jordan’s smile, charisma, and devotion to the Florida Gators managed to win over the heart of a researcher at Shands Hospital in Gainesville, Florida.
But research takes time. And money. And the pandemic – although it has been an economic blow for so many, has also given David a platform to raise awareness about Jordan’s condition. And more awareness means the potential to raise more money.
To find our more about Jordan, or to donate money to Shand’s Hospital’s Research on TECPR2, visit www.savingjordan.org
Season Three, Episode 1: Suicide, Silence, And What Comes Next
In today’s episode I get to reconnect with R.R. Campbell, also known as Ryan Campbell. I can honestly say that this was one of my favorite conversations I have ever had while podcasting, and Ryan may very well be quickly becoming one of my favorite human beings.
Our conversation starts with the power of words and what we should and shouldn’t say when discussing suicide and mental health issues. I am not a fan of tip-toe-ing around word choice and diction, because I believe intentions matter more.
Ryan and I discuss what happens in the aftermath of a parent’s suicide attempt, the power of humor to get us through tough situations, and how to move forward after someone you love takes their own life. Spoiler alert: throwing yourself into your work – no matter how passionately you feel about your work – is just another form of escapism and/or addiction.
Ryan (R.R.) Campbell is an International Book Awards finalist, the Craft Development Chair for the Wisconsin Writers Association, and the founder of the Writescast Network.
His published novels include Accounting for It All and Imminent Dawn, which debuted as the number one new release for its genre on Amazon. Its sequel, Mourning Dove, is now available in print and ebook with most major retailers.
Ryan has also been an instructor for the University of Wisconsin Continuing Studies in Writing program. He has been an invited speaker at conferences and seminars including the University of Wisconsin Writers’ Institute, Write by the Lake, UntitledTown, Lakefly Writers Conference, WisCon, and Great River Writes. His short-form fiction has been featured in Five:2:One Magazine’s #thesideshow, among others.
Ryan lives in Stoughton, Wisconsin with his wife, Lacey, where they co-own and operate Kill Your Darlings Candle Company, which makes candles for the wordsmiths of the world.
Ryan’s newest book, And Ampersand: Short Stories on Endings and Beginnings (of a Sort) is available for preorder at www.books2read.com/andampersand.
You can find more about Ryan at
Justin Shanes is a comedy writer living in Los Angeles. Having left his job as a corporate litigator in 2009, he began performing standup comedy and improv around New York before eventually getting hired to write for Late Night with Jimmy Fallon.
Daytime Emmy for Word Girl, he ultimately began writing for the NBC sitcom Superstore, where he is currently a supervising producer. He is from Plainview, New York, and despite a two week-long misunderstanding on my part, he did NOT go to Georgetown.
Justin is a great guy, a good sport – he tolerated me! – and someone to follow on Twitter @justinshanes
And don’t forget to watch the new season of NBC’s Superstore, which airs Thursday, October 29th at 8 PM
Season Two, Episode 31: Darius Baxter, The Selfish Giver
Darius Baxter, CEO of GOODProjects, has made a vow to get 500 families out of poverty by 2030, and he thinks he is selfish. Because he enjoys giving to people, he enjoys empowering the impoverished community of South West Washington, D.C., and he enjoys paving the way for children in the projects to find a way out of the pattern they were born into.
Darius is a fellow Georgetown alum, who met his best friends and co-founders in college. All three men grew up poor, with a childhood that could have left anyone traumatized. In Darius’s case, his father’s murder when he was 9-years-old resulted in being homeless, as his schoolteacher mother struggled to make ends meet.
In 2016 GOODProjects began a summer camp to keep children off the streets and out of harm’s way, and employed older teens as counselors, to work and mentor these campers, or Dreamers, as they are referred to. Dreamers are fed three times a day and engage in academic enrichment, as well as fun and trauma counseling.
In 2020, GOODProjects also began to pair Family Success Managers with the parents of the Dreamers in order to guide them towards self-sufficiency and out of poverty.
This non-profit has done great things, and at 25-years-old, Darius is only at the beginning of the amazing work he will do throughout his life.
For more information on how you can help, visit www.goodprojects.organd be sure to follow Darius on Instagram @Darius Baxter or @GOODProjectsDC and on Twitter @DariusiBaxter
Ariel Elias, a Kentucky Jew turned NYC transplant, was not named after The Little Mermaid, FYI. And if you had any doubt, listen to the comedian kick ass in a Roast Battle -- no way some fish-girl could rip someone's soul out with a smile.
A lot of people in the entertainment industry have taken on new jobs during the recession of the pandemic, but Ariel's job is potentially game-changing. Ariel works for the 2020 Census Department (go to www.2020census.gov and you can fill it out online). Ariel spends her days knocking on doors in an attempt to find out more about what the individuals in a certain community need in order to better themselves.
Sometimes people answer. Sometimes assholes like me duck behind the couch and loudly whisper to their children to be quiet and pretend no one is home. (What, like you never pulled that shit?)
The thing is, the results of the 2020 Census are as important as the results of the 2020 election. Perhaps even more so.
(Disclaimer: You should get off your ass and vote, I am by no means excusing you from November 3rd)
Data collected from the 2020 Census is used to determine the number of people in a given community, the most important needs of that community, and therefore how government money should be allotted for supplemental aid such as improvements for schools, roads, healthcare, Medicaid, educational programs such as Head Start, mental health services, and nutrition assistance programs. These services are essential for the survival of some of the disenfranchised or impoverished communities. But, without the information from the census, we lack the numbers to convince the government to spend the money.
Equally important, population determines the the number of seats each state is allotted within the House of Representatives. And that can clearly be a game changer. Please, please, please spread the word about participating in the 2020 census. And please, please, please follow the amazing Ariel Elias on Twitter and Instagram @ArielSElias
Season Two, Episode 31: Mean Girls Need Not Apply With Felicia Madison
On March 16, 2020 Felicia Madison premiered her one-woman show, The Miserable Mrs. Madison. It seems like it would be a tough gig to make a pretty, privileged, well-educated, funny white woman appear likable and relatable -- and yet, Felicia does easily, while simultaneously exploring the touching relationship with her father and his loss that came too soon. The timing of the release could have been better, but this show is just the tip of the iceberg for Felicia's career.
Have a listen as Felicia and I discuss comedy in a world that needs political correctness, the need for women to help raise up and mentor other women, and why mental health has nothing to do with money.
Felicia is the host of the MTNesters Podcast, and coordinates the F Comedy Club (FComedyClub.com) that provides open mic opportunities and mentorship for comedians at all levels (currently online due to pandemic).
She has also launched the You Tube show Broadish Show (@BroadishShow), where four funny broads chop it up and spit it out:
Follow Felicia on Instagram @FeliciaMadisonComedian, on Twitter @FeliciaLMadison, and on her website www.FeliciaMadison.com
The Broadish Show:
The Miserable Mrs. Madison:
Amy Veltman is the queen of re-inventing herself and has more talents than any one should be allotted in a lifetime.
Amy was a screenwriter in Hollywood and sold a screenplay, Rock of Ages, that is really too good to not be made into a movie. I mean, if we start doing that making movies thing again any time soon.
Amy left Hollywood for the corporate world and then made the leap of faith into a career that I have no doubt she was born for: comedy.
Amy has appeared at The Comedy Cellar, Charm City Comedy Festival, The Ladies of Laughter Competition, New York Comedy Club, and many more. She was also the first place winner of the Laughing Matters Comedy Competition.
You can find out more about Amy at www.amyveltman.com or follow her on Instagram @TheRealAmyVeltman. And be sure to check out her podcast, 2 Moms On The Couch, which features her edgy take on motherhood, marriage, and being an outsider in an insider’s world.
Caitlyn Brodnick is the sweetest woman you will ever meet, from her adorable, pixie-like voice to her love for her son – she’s adorable and funny and brave and talented. In 2013, Caitlyn won an Emmy Award – yeah, a legit Emmy – for her Glamour docuseries Screw You Cancer, where she documents the experience of undergoing a voluntary double mastectomy after receiving a Braca 1 Diagnosis. Caitlyn is also the author of Dangerous Boobies, a book that proves that you can find humor in everything – even breast cancer.
Caitlyn is the co-host of the ScamWow Podcast, where she and her bestie, Sue Smith, discuss so many scams that Caitlyn could probably change careers and become a scam artist herself.
You can find Caitlyn on Instagram and Twitter @CaityBrodnick
Jim Norton makes suicidal thoughts funny. And I respect the hell out of him for that. In a world where words seem to matter more than intentions, we all need to take a pause and consider the complexity of mental health.
Comedians are clearly either thriving or drowning during this pandemic, and although Jim says he is “lucky” enough to be doing well, the truth is simply that he has spent years honing his craft of self-deprecation, honesty, and coming off as a deep-thinking dickhead.
Spoiler alert: He is actually a really nice guy, as evidenced by this interview and by the fact that he didn’t file a restraining order against me during my attempts to woo him onto the podcast.
You can find out more about Jim on his website www.jimnorton.com and follow him on Instagram @JimNorton. I, personally, highly recommend checking out The Degenerates Seasons 1 and 2 on Netflix, and be sure to check out Jim’s podcast, The Chip Chipperson Podcast, and the Jim Norton & Sam Roberts radio show on Faction Talk, available at Sirius XM Radio.
Season Two, Episode 27: What's The Lesson of 2020: Comedian Von Mychael discusses comedy during Covid, Karen and her 911 calls, and his own physical and mental growth during the pandemic.
Von Mychael, Host of the What's The Lesson Podcast, has hustled his a$$ of to become a celebrated name in comedy. Von Mychael recently won second place at Amateur Night at the Apollo, where he won 2nd place. Mychael is a 6-time winner of the Funnybone Clash of Comics. He’s opened for heavy weights in comedy such as Jamie Kennedy, John Heffron, Jon Reep, Guy Torry and Tony Woodz.
You can follow Von Mychael on:
Joe Gerics is a comedian and founder of the Fairfield Comedy Club located in (you guessed it!) Fairfield, Connecticut. He has performed on Sirius XM and in the Connecticut Comedy Festival. While he is not performing or producing comedy, Joe resides in Trumbull, CT, with his wife and their two rescue dogs, where he serves on the Town Council.
Joe is also the host of the podcast "It's A Hustle."
You can find Joe on Instagram @joegerics and if you’re in the Connecticut area and you need a date night idea, be sure to check the Fairfield Comedy Club at www.fairfieldcomedyclub.comand on Instagram @fairfieldcomedyclub
Also, today is Joe’s wife’s birthday, so Happy Birthday, Karina! And if you are looking for some nutritional guidance on surviving the pandemic, overcoming chronic pain, or dealing with hormonal imbalances, be sure to check out her website karinastrobl.com
Season Two, Episode 25: Can We Crop Dust The World With Hallucinogenic Drugs?
Today was a great day. I got to chat with one of my new favorite people to stalk, New York-based comedian, Mike Cannon.
In March 2017 Mike made his stand-up comedy television debut on AXS Gotham Comedy Live with host and stand-up comedy icon/first time stand- up performer, Fran Drescher. He was also a finalist in the 2016 (and 2014) New York Comedy Festival’s “NY’s Funniest” contest.
In 2020 Mike earned critical acclaim for his Amazon Prime film “Timing,”and released his first comedy special called “Life Begins.” Mike’s debut comedy album “I Think It Just Kicked In” released in September of 2017 through 800 Pound Gorilla Records debuted at #1 on the iTunes comedy charts and #7 on Billboard comedy charts and has over 4 million streams on Pandora. It garnered an incredible response and extremely positive reviews from audiences, comedy journalists, and fellow comedians alike. His second audio album, same title, was released February 2020 through 800 Pound Gorilla Records and debuted at the top of the iTunes Comedy Charts.
Mike is also the current co-host of the Irish Goodbye Podcast.
When we aren’t in the middle of a global pandemic, Mike tours the country, and is a regular at the major New York Clubs including The Comedy Cellar and New York Comedy Club.
Feel free to stalk Mike like I did! You can find him on:
Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and SnapChat @IamMikeCannon
And check out his podcast, Irish Goodbye Podcast
Season Two, Episode 24: Are You Smarter Than A Pandemic-Schooled Fifth Grader
In this episode, I am joined by my two children, Hunter and Elexis. Together, their averaged age is 10 years, 7 months, and 18 days, so -- Hah! A pandemic-schooled fifth grader!
Join my not-so-littles as we explore how the Coronapocalypse knowledge of a child compares to the average adult Facebook user.
Have a listen as we play True or False about Covid rumors, such as Lysol Lychee Martini's, the constitutionality of mandating masks, and whether children can get children.
We also have a fantastic conversation about conspiracy theories and who is more likely to fashion tin foil hats.
Season Two, Episode 23: In today's episode, I speak with Jennifer Vitanzo: award-winning songwriter, photojournalist, and wildlife advocate. She uses her experience living and working in the wild of the South African Bush to create a unique series of workshops that educate children about environmental and social causes. When she isn't performing, presenting at schools and community centers.
Occasionally, she sleeps.
You can find Jennifer Vitanzo's new book Santiago: True Tales of a Little Bug in a Big World (BOTH of my kids loved it, which is a bloody miracle!) here:
Season Two, Episode 22: Happy Birthday To The Anti-Tiger King: Mike Bober, President & CEO of the Pet Industry Joint Advisory Committee!
Okay, TBH, Mike isn't the Anti-Tiger King because -- well, tigers aren't typical pets. Mike is a long-time friend, a constant source of World War II information, a willing editor when I was desperately-seeking help, and my most constant AOL messenger companion when we were working crappy jobs in our early 20s.
The Pet Industry Joint Advisory Committee (PIJAC) is a community of legislative, regulatory, and governing bodies in order to:
1) Promote animal well-being and responsible pet ownerships 2) Foster environmental "stewardship" 3) Ensure the availability of healthy pets
Have a listen to us as we catch up on parenting in the pandemic and don't forget to check out pijac.org and become a member to help our adorable pets!
Season Two, Episode 21: Hope Knows No Color
In this week's episode I am joined by Nik Reese, a personal trainer and fitness fanatic who avoids fad diets and helps smart women make achieve long-lasting change. He is also a black man married to a white woman, and he was gracious enough to agree to talk to me about the current racial climate, the idea of systemic racism, and how/why white people are being told to "shut up and listen" but also to use their white privilege and platform to make a difference in the world.
Nik, I cannot thank you enough.
You can find Nik on Facebook and Instagram @ Nik Reese
Season Two, Episode 20: In today's episode I get to hang with Gae Polisner, the widely acclaimed children/young adult author about the lack of pants we wear during the pandemic. We also discuss her book about 9/11, The Memory of Things, and how books like hers can help us to comfort our children during this pandemic.
See, I know that this, too, shall pass, because I remember that day that changed everything. I remember a day when we didn't have to take off our shoes and measure out our shampoo in order to board a plane. And because I remember the before so vividly, I know that one day we will have an after. That is what I tell my kids. That is what I tell myself.
During the pandemic Gae released two new books, Jack Kerouac Is Dead To Me -- which I adored, and Seven Clues To Finding Home -- which my daughter raves about. Make sure to check out her website, gaepolisner.com, and follow her on FB @gaepolisnerauthor, and on Instagram and Twitter @gaepol
Season Two, Episode 19: It's Fun To Fuck!
Rachel Klechevsky, Sex Therapist, blogger, and the co-host of the podcast Sexistential U, joins me to discuss what a Sex Therapist does -- and does not do (keep your pics to yourself, please -- and how she went from a conservative upbringing to a fairly unconservative profession. Rachel often works with a more religious, Orthodox Jewish population, and has found away to bring the Torah and Talmud into her discussions, rather than having her clients fight against discussions of sexuality.
You can -- and should -- stalk Rachel on her website and blog RachelSexTherapy.com, on her podcast Sexistential U, and if you are interested in finding out more about Rachel you can email her at Rachel.Klechevsky@gmail.com
Season Two, Episode 18: James Morrow is the opinion editor of Sydney's Daily Telegraph newspaper and host of the weekly current affairs show OUTSIDERS on Sky News Australia. James is a political junkie, a history buff, and a keen home cook who once one the Viewers Choice Award on Come Dine With Me.
Oh, and twenty years ago, James introduced me to the beauty of the dirty vodka martini -- a fact that I am hugely grateful of to this day. I could only love him more if he had introduced me to single malt whiskey.
In this episode James and I discuss racism, Corona paranoia, quarantine anger, and why protests aren't effective right now.
Season Two, Episode 17: The Coronapocalypse is starting to get to me, and unlike many of you, I have more fear of the world re-opening than excitement. I started to feel really disconnected and last night after a few glasses (bottles) of wine (whiskey) I posted on FB asking any friends who would be willing to podcast with me to come hang for an hour.
This episode is the first of several to come, and in it I talk to Jessica. I have not had an actual conversation with Jessica in probably close to eight years, but she had a whole lot to say about relationship anarchy, polyamory, and an underground world of Long Island that I am apparently the last to know about!
Season Two, Episode 16: Happy One Year Anniversary!
My favorite co-host and bad-ass nutritionist Sharone Sapir returns for a look back on this first year. We review the top ten best moments of the pod and fawn over all the amazing people we have met along the way. Hope you enjoy!
Also, apologies in advance for the massively bad editing I attempted. Cringe your way through it.
Season 2, Episode 15: I recorded this episode with Dr. Alisa Hurwitz, or as she is better known by her fans, Dr. Drama. We discussed microagressions and the subjectivity of them. This morning I woke up to a lovely, rageful, non-sensical debate on my neighborhood facebook group.
It. Was. Harsh.
Those who commented seemed to dance around the ideas of racism and anti-semitism and bigotry -- psst, there is a word that means to judge someone by their religion, and it is bigotry. Your welcome.
Microaggressions are perceived slights against a marginalized group. My issue with this definition is that in psychology, much research has been done to examine the Fundamental Attribution Error. Essentially, if you are mean to me, I assume that you are a mean person. If I am mean to you, I expect you to intuit that I am having a bad day.
Alisa and I ended up failing to come to an agreement other than the fact that few people intend on knowingly hurting someone by committing a microaggression, but that doesn't mean we shouldn't try to be more sensitive with our words and actions.
Season 2, Episode 14: In this episode, my son and I get to hang out with Liv Albert of Let's Talk About Myths, Baby.
Liv is super-bright, super-educated, and an all-around bad-ass progressive woman. Liv has a degree in English Literature & Classical Civilizations from Concordia University in Montreal.
In this episode Liv and I -- along with a special guest appearance by my starstruck son -- discuss how her #SmashThePatriarchy podcast came to be, and her thoughts about having children: It's a decision not to be taken lightly, and a path that Liv has decided not to go down.
I found this conversation fascinating, and thought-provoking -- especially since speaking for myself, and most of my generation, I don't think the thought of not having children ever really occurred to us.
As most of us wade through the confusion and chaos of Covid-19, there are men, women, and children out there who are saddled with an additional struggle. From February to March reports of domestic violence increased 20% and Google searches for those looking for help dealing with domestic violence increased 75%.
This episode was recorded many months ago, but there seems no better time to share my conversation with Josie Naikoi about how she managed to get the courage and the means to leave an abusive relationship and find her way to a better life. Josie is a licensed nutritionist and Instagram fitspo, as well as the host of the podcast, You Can Do Better, Bitch!
Follow Josie on instagram @JosieQuitsCake
Season 2, Episode 12: I begged, pleaded, and stalked the fantastically beautiful, brilliant, and neurotic host of The Alarmist, Rebecca Delgado Smith, into coming on the podcast in an attempt to destigmatize mental health. (Trust me, my stalking made this episode kinda awkward...)
Rebecca uses her own anxiety, or catastrophizing, as fuel for her podcast as she examines past tragedies and who is to blame.
That was over a month ago. And now...well, what a long, strange trip it has been. I suggest you listen to this episode, and to The Alarmist Podcast, and keep in mind that we have been through worse in the past, and there will be worse in the future. Today's insanity will eventually lead to a new normal for tomorrow.
Follow Rebecca Delgado Smith on Instagram @thealarmistpodcast
Raif Derazzi is a smoking hot, all natural body builder, bad-ass and he just so happens to have HIV. HIV that is undetectable, scientifically, because that is how far science has come.
I know, I know, we are all struggling through this pandemic. I feel like I'm on a friggin' strugglebus, trust me. Some days I forget to eat. Many more days I have eaten twelve meals by 10:30 AM.
This is life for now. This is grief. This is anxiety. This is now.
This episode is important for now. This episode is important because we have gotten through shit before, and we will get through shit again.
This pandemic will pass. We will lose people, just as we did in the AIDS pandemic from 2008-2012.
And WE. WILL. SURVIVE.
As a people, even if not as individuals.
Please follow Raif on FB, Insta, and YouTube @RaifDerazzi
Season 2, Episode 10: I specifically chose to air this episode this week, in honor of my upcoming book, Ten Steps To Finding Happy, and with the hopes of raising awareness of teen suicide prevention and the need to destigmatize mental health #10StepsEndTheStigma.
Unfortunately, this whole pandemic pain-in-the-ass crushed my dreams. Instead, we will be doing a virtual book launch on March 20th starting at 3 PM EST in the FB group Finding Happy.
Aloise blew me away when she suggested that maybe, somehow, on a deep, spiritual level, we chose our parents. We chose our parents to work through something we need to get to the next level of higher being. Sometimes your mess is your message, she suggested. And damn, it hit me hard. In this episode we talk about suicide, mental illness, and why we got saddled with the burden we did, and why we are the perfect people to carry that burden.
Season 2, Episode 9: The difference in men who seek therapy and women who seek therapy is staggering. And yet...when a man loses his shit, it usually comes which much more dire consequences. So why won't men seek mental help?
In today's conversation I talk to Dr. John Schinnerer, who is just as much of a research dork as I am, has the same potty mouth I do, and was the psychological consultant for the Pixar movie "Inside Out."
(That's kinda the coolest part, no?)
Dr. John also has his own podcast, The Evolved Caveman, and specializes in working with men who excel in every aspect of their life -- except the ability to form solid, healthy, interpersonal relationships. Be sure to check out his pod, I'm a huge fan.
Season 2, Episode 8: There is no better way to cap off February's theme of love, lust, and everything in between than this interview with Allie Fisher of The Mommy Confessions. It's trademarked, bitches!
At the time of this interview, Allie was uber pregnant with her second child, but she was a real trouper. Allie is far braver than I am, as she chose to do this whole child-bearing thing without a partner. Twice.
There is nothing that says love more than the love of a mother for a child -- especially during a temper tantrum.
Check out my interview with one of my new favorite people! Madam Chastain is a podcaster, a mom, a polyamorist, and a retired sex worker. She talks candidly about sex addiction, abuse, low self-esteem, and the journey she took to finally liking who she is. You can learn more about Chastain and her whole polyam family on the Pod Pod Cvlt Cast -- and yes, that Cvlt with a "V", which I think is sexy as hell.
Season 2, Episode 6: Tasha Jackson, psychotherapist and dating guru, joins me to discuss her new book, Master Dater.
(TBH, she had me at the title)
For more of Tasha's brilliance and insights, be sure to follow her on Instagram @shrink_shots
And don't forget to order her book!
Season 2, Episode 5: Welcome to February, lovely listeners! This month's episodes are going to be devoted to love, lust, and everything in between. And why not start the month with a great big bang!
In today's episode I talk with Sofia Fortin, founder of the Happy Vagina project, about sexuality after motherhood, how you can get your groove back, and why sex is vital in a good relationship. Also, stay tuned for a few tips about tantric sex, which sounds both terribly appealing and terribly time-consuming. Am I right?
Sofia can be reached on Instagram @HappyVProject or on Facebook @The Happy Vagina Project
Season 2, Episode 4: I gotta be honest, I couldn't figure out what to name this episode. I thought about stealing the title of Paige Fieldstead's book, "Confessions From Your Fat Friend," but the truth is, Paige is so much more than anyone's fat friend. She is smart and funny and brave and bold and doing her best to Mom and work and live her dream. Just like the rest of us.
Her book is beautiful. Her book makes you think. I highly recommend the read.
But for now, enjoy the episode.
In this episode the amazingly bad-ass Gila Pfeffer of @the.mom.who.knew.too.much discusses her decision to actively take breast cancer by storm, the battle she has won, and why when it comes to your health, you *must* be your own greatest advocate.
Join me for an honest discussion behind the woman who makes us laugh every day, and yet reminds us every month to take care of our ta-ta's.
Sometimes motherhood isn't all it's cracked up to be. And sometimes the child you give birth to isn't the child you imagined you would have. Dr. Samantha Rodman of @dr.psychmom discusses why this can happen and how you can overcome the negativity and resentment of Momming a child that feels all wrong for you.
Here it is, faithful listeners. You asked for it, you got it. Here is the E! True Hollywood Story behind the break-up of Lindsay and Sharone.
It has been highly suggested by our legal department that we issue a warning: This episode is explicit and violent and not for the faint of heart.
Consider yourself warned and use caution before listening. Additionally, you should know that this episode description is extremely sarcastic and Lindsay sniffles a lot and cries a teensy tiny bit.
It’s holiday season and we are unearthing the SCANDALS behind the moms who make you laugh. Gila of @the.mom.who.knew.too.much fled the country and forgot about her son’s art project! Kendra of @AnxiousMoms spends a lot of time hiding under a bridge, possibly selling drugs. And Lindsay of @PsychShrinkMom made up a completely fictional description of this super-fun episode. Happy Holidays!
Season 1, Episode 30: Special Bonus Episode! Boy mom of three Sarah Dunlop of @SometimesKidsAreDicks chats about her no good, horrible, very bad day and why small town living is the best and the worst.
Four years ago today, Isabella Risinger died just before her first Christmas, just before her first birthday. Isabella was born with Trisomy 18 and her death was the result of complications from this genetic abnormality. In today's episode of Neurotic Nourishment I interview Isabella's mother, Kristina Walling Risinger, about how to move forward with life after such a devastating loss. Moving on seems nearly impossible, but Kristina credits her faith in God, the support of her husband and community, and her desire to help others as the key elements that helped her to *move forward* rather than "move on."
This episode was tough to record and may be uncomfortable to listen to. But listen to it. It's worth it.
Kristina is a grief counselor, and a blogger at justbreathe-mama.com. Her website is kristinarisinger.com and today, on the anniversary of Isabella's death, Kristina has launched her own podcast, Faith Breathed Hope. Please listen, rate, review, and subscribe as we support this incredible woman.
Zoë Aston, therapist, creator of Your Mental Health Workout, and eating disorder survivor joins us to discuss why mental health and mindfulness should be a daily decision. Zoe’s mental health workout contains simple daily and weekly steps to keep your mind in great shape!
Sharone and Lindsay sit down with the incredible Dr. Jackie Schoemaker Holmes (@eatingheryoung) to discuss the importance of female friendships, the need for better maternal care, and the power behind Jackie’s relatable words on social media.
We’re all in this together, right Mama’s? Bullshit. Do you know that women of color are 3-6 times more likely to die from pregnancy-related complications? And that’s despite the fact that 60% of pregnancy-related deaths are preventable. Time to talk, Mama’s.
Comedian Sara Buckley of @nottheworstmom is fucking hilarious. And real. And nothing is more real than talking about marriage after infidelity, something she spoke with us about, as well as aired on her recent and popular podcast, @NotTheWorstMarriage. This episode also covers fun topics such as camming and adderall. Yay for mom topics!
Alyce Chan is a NYC-based mom comedian who in addition to performing all over the city, produces one of the most brilliant parent meetups we've ever heard of - a morning BYOB (Bring Your Own Baby) comedy show once a month. This funny lady also does great work for charity, and we just really like her and her mission to connect moms and dads through honesty and raw humor. And also, for not running away when this episode takes a weird turn as Lindsay unearthes a batshit crazy email. You can find Alyce on Instagram @momcomnyc or on her website http://www.momcom.co. Buckle up because this episode is crazy pants in the best way.
Dr. Samantha Rodman aka Dr. Psych Mom, a clinical psychologist, talks to us about relationships, including monogamy, and if we have it all wrong. Is monogamy natural? Is it outdated? Are open marriages becoming more mainstream? Dr. Rodman gives it to us straight. You can find her on drpsychmom.com or Facebook.com/drpsychmom
Dr. Carla Naumburg discusses her latest book, "How to Stop Losing Your Shit With Your Kids," and makes us feel better about our own mothering frustrations, while giving us much needed tips on how to keep our sanity intact. You may also know her from The Huffington Post, Slate, Salon, and Psychology Today.
Join us as we welcome special guest Kendra, from @Anxious Moms. We explore what scared us before, what still scares us now, and how we managed to push ourselves out of our comfort zones and into a life of Instagram exposure.