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Neurotic Tornado

Neurotic Tornado

By Yuvi Zalkow & Jackie S Hollis
A podcast that explores relationships and all the beautiful messiness of being together.
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S3-31: It was a good marriage, but…

Neurotic Tornado

S3-38: Very much our space
We conclude the Beyond Coupled season. We talk through what we learned. And we share an exciting update about Ben... We loved doing this season; we’re so appreciative that you joined us; we appreciate the honesty of the crew we interviewed; we’re even appreciative of the semicolon. But now we need to take a nap.
July 5, 2016
S3-37: The beautiful messiness
We dig a little more into the nature of their relationship. Some things we can immediately identify with, and some things we have to talk through...
June 20, 2016
S3-36: Defining the relationship
In this podcast episode, Nikki, Ben, and Stevan start to define their relationship now that everything is out in the open. If you're just tuning in, be sure to go back to episode 31 for the beginning of the season: It was a good marriage, but...
June 6, 2016
S3-35: They go to therapy
We go with Nikki, Ben, and Stevan to therapy. This is the first therapy session with all of them at the table together. Find out what happens!......
May 22, 2016
S3-34: An upended fishbowl
We finally check in with Ben (the husband!) to find out how he learned about his wife's affair, and how he began processing it. Whew. Heavy stuff....
May 9, 2016
S3-33: Preparing the ground
In this episode, we listen to Stevan and Nikki talk about their continuing affair. At this point, the affair is still a secret, but Nikki is preparing to tell her husband. I don't know about you, but I'm already starting to get chest pains...
April 25, 2016
S3-32: How an affair begins
In this episode, we meet Stevan. He is recently divorced when he meets Nikki, a married woman in a not-completely-happy marriage. Find out what happens next.
April 10, 2016
S3-31: It was a good marriage, but…
In this episode, we begin our quest into this season's relationship. Meet Nikki. She was mostly happy in her marriage, but there was one thing missing. Listen to the episode to find out what she was looking for...
March 27, 2016
Season 3 Intro *** (S3-30)
Neurotic Tornado is (almost) back for season 3. In this ShOrT podcast episode, we tell you what's coming... and how we got to know the three people you're going to hear from...
March 11, 2016
S2-29: Wisdom, Advice, Analysis
We go back one last time to the four couples we interviewed to hear any wisdom, analysis, or advice they shared. We also rudely interrupt couples trying to eat at the Portland food carts to score any free advice. This is our last official episode of the season, but we may have some bonus episodes soon. And stay tuned for what is to come with season 3...
September 14, 2015
S2-28: Gender Roles, Attraction, Sexuality
Jackie and I explore the non-traditional gender roles for two of the couples we interviewed. And we question what the labels mean in the first place. We look at attraction in this light. And I think I confess my attraction for a brooding vampire... If you haven't already done so, check out the previous episodes from this season, which dealt with sex, conflict, and started with introductions. Fun for the whole family! Actually, not the whole family… just the adults.
August 12, 2015
S2-27: The Sexpisode
In this podcast episode (third in the Being Coupled season), Jackie & I... uhhh... actually... uhhh... try to talk about sex. With the couples we interviewed. And with our partners. But this stuff isn't easy. So we use a New York Times article about sex talk in therapy, along with a few other tools, to help navigate these sometimes-unsexy waters. After you listen to our conversation, check out the links below...
July 29, 2015
S2-26: Communication & Conflict
We dig into how the four couples we interviewed communicate with each other, and what arguments look like for them. We use research from the Gottman Institute as the basis for some of our ideas about relationships and the different personality types in a relationship. Except we simplify it down to 'avoider' types and 'prodder' types. Stick this episode in your ear for more info! No couples were injured during the making of this episode...
July 14, 2015
S2-25: Meet the Couples
Jackie and I introduce you to the four couples we interviewed for this season. We share with you how they met and what they consider their "mission" as a couple. We had a great time putting this series together and we're excited to finally get this thing into your... ears. So here we go, the first episode of the series...
June 30, 2015
Season 2 Intro *** (S2-24)
We go behind the scenes to explain what is coming in season two. Jackie Shannon Hollis and I interviewed four couples to prepare for this season. You'll hear why I'm doing it, why Jackie is doing it, and what my wife thinks about me podcast-cheating on her...
June 17, 2015
S2-23: Writing About Loved Ones
Jackie, Bill, and I discuss what it is like to write about the people we care about, and how it affects them. Jackie is currently working on a (second) memoir and I've written lots of autobiographical-sounding fiction (along with a few essays). So apparently we can easily BS about this subject for over an hour. (I edited it down to 65 minutes, though we spoke for longer!) It was again great to have Bill's perspective so he could chime in on how it felt to be written ABOUT, even in cases that weren't necessarily flattering. Give it a listen...
December 6, 2014
S2-22: Alone Time with Jackie and Bill
I talk to Jackie and Bill about a writer's need for alone time, and how that goes over with the writer's partner...
October 23, 2014
21: The Podcast Effect
This is the fifteenth podcast episode my wife and I have done together. So in this episode, we talk about how the podcast has affected our relationship. It has caused some ups and downs, with more ups than downs. We also talk about how you too can reap the benefits of this experience, without having to be foolish enough to start your own podcast to discuss your relationship issues...
September 2, 2014
20: Hey Jealousy
In this podcast episode, my wife and I talk about jealousy -- her jealousy of me and my jealousy of her. Although a certain amount of jealousy is allowed in our relationship, are we jealous enough???
August 14, 2014
19: Drawn to Women
In this podcast episode, my wife and I analyze why we both typically prefer to talk with women more than men. This isn't an across the board thing though -- we both have close male friends -- and so we try to untangle why it's that way. Hopefully no genders were harmed in the making of this podcast...
July 16, 2014
18: Sex and Marriage
In this podcast episode, my wife and I actually try to talk about our sex life -- or at least our struggle with getting sex into our busy lives. WARNING: This discussion is not so sexy...
July 1, 2014
17: Resentment and You
My wife and I talk about resentment. Or at least we try to talk about resentment -- a little bit of my resentment and a little bit of my wife's resentment. We bicker about our messy home. You'll also learn a brilliant (or horrifying) technique for saving time when folding (or not folding) your laundry...
June 15, 2014
16: New Frontiers of Vulnerability
In this podcast episode, my wife and I discuss vulnerability, shame, and my own craziness. We talk about Brene Brown's research and we talk about the essay I recently published (His First Dress). Join us for this delightfully vulnerable romp.
May 27, 2014
15: Neurotic Tour of the Vagina Tour
Yeah, you're just going to have to listen to this one to make sense of it. Sorry.
May 12, 2014
14: Money Trouble
My wife and I talk about money. Or more specifically, we talk about our money problems. Or more specifically, we talk about our relationship problems that relate to our money problems.
April 27, 2014
13: Repair Attempts
My wife and I discuss something known as a repair attempt. It is a term coined by John Gottman. He is a psychologist who has done 40 years of research on relationships and marital stability and divorce prediction. A repair attempt relates to the way a couple tries to reconnect after a fight. Find out how well (or poorly!) we do with our repair attempts...
April 13, 2014
12: Marrying an Insecure Angsty Depressive
I talk to my wife about what it is like to be married to an insecure, angst-ridden, depressed person. Is it as sexy as it sounds? I was particularly insecure and full of anxiety in the first few years of our relationship and we talk about how that impacted our relationship. Join us for this delightful romp!
March 30, 2014
11: Marrying a Divorcée
The wife and I discuss the impact of us getting together later in life, as a couple and as parents. Join us and let's get old together...
March 18, 2014
10: Our Couples Counselors
The wife and I take you on a tour of every one of our couples counselors. What could be more arousing than analyzing a whole bunch of analysts?
March 10, 2014
9: Our Unromantic Romance
My wife and I recorded this podcast episode on Valentine's Day after having NOT celebrated V-Day, so it seems fitting that we talk about how unromantic we are. Though we end up finding romance in our marriage in less typical places. I again try (and fail) to pick a fight with her. I again get us to talk about Buffy the Vampire Slayer, even when it is off topic. I again worry if you're enjoying this ride with us...
February 22, 2014
8: Our Dark Periods
I talk to my wife about our "dark period." Actually, she clarified for me that we have had several dark periods -- these are periods in our marriage where we have really struggled to connect, nearly to the point of it all falling apart. Not only do we talk about our dark periods, but we talk about my obsession about talking about our dark periods. And we talk about my (previous) fear of having kids. What's not to like?
February 11, 2014
7: Never Good Enough
I bully my wife onto the show. Listen to her talk about my various failings as a husband. Everything from my failures as a lawn mower-er to my inability to plan trips with the family to our combined attraction for Angel, the brooding vampire with a soul from Buffy the Vampire Slayer. What's not to like?
January 29, 2014