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The New Paths Podcast with Dan Johnson

The New Paths Podcast with Dan Johnson

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A plan to finally be free from porn...that actually works!

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#109: Birdhouse in the Bathroom (How To Successfully Pursue Freedom in the Craziness of Life)

The New Paths Podcast with Dan JohnsonApr 23, 2024

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#109: Birdhouse in the Bathroom (How To Successfully Pursue Freedom in the Craziness of Life)
Apr 23, 202415:11
#108: Your Best Friend On Your Freedom Journey
Apr 16, 202423:04
#107: Try This Little Experiment To Discover Why You Can't Stop

#107: Try This Little Experiment To Discover Why You Can't Stop

If you've ever tried breaking the porn habit, one thing becomes apparent very quickly: It's really hard. It feels impossible to not give in sometimes.


You can make promises to yourself or your loved ones. You can make plans for what you will do instead. Only to find yourself in the heat of the moment, and those promises and plans go out the window.


I know I said this to myself thousands of times: "It's just too hard!" Freedom, or anything even resembling freedom, can seem like a pipe dream. A castle in the air.


But all those years that I struggled, there was a question I never asked. WHAT...is too hard? What exactly is making it feel impossible NOT to give in? 


Have you ever asked this question? Have you ever really defined WHAT is making it so difficult to not watch porn?


If you could discover this, wouldn't it be sort of important?! Wouldn't that be discovering the real culprit, the crux, the main hurdle that is preventing your freedom and ultimately a new life??


Well, I have good news...amazing news actually. You can uncover this for yourself with a simple experiment.


In this new episode of The New Paths Podcast, I'm going to walk you through an easy experiment that will reveal what exactly is blocking your path forward. In other words, you will discover why you haven't been able to stop, AND, it will make it clear where to focus your efforts and energy going forward.


So put on your white lab coat, put on your protective eyewear, and get ready to switch into scientist mode! You're about to uncover some data that I believe could change your life, and pave your path to real, lasting freedom! Want to know EXACTLY what to do the next time you feel that intense urge to watch porn? Get the P.A.T.H. Plan for free now at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠newpaths.me/plan⁠⁠⁠

Apr 09, 202421:54
#106: Goodbye Old Friend
Apr 02, 202421:52
#105: Answer This Question If You Want To Be Free
Mar 26, 202423:48
#104: One Day, One Step
Mar 18, 202421:15
103: Frontline Ninja: How To Handle Your Next Craving Like a Martial Arts Master
Mar 12, 202424:48
#102: "Secret" Option Number Three

#102: "Secret" Option Number Three

When we are in that intense moment of temptation, when that intense craving is flooding us to pull up that image or website, we typically only see two responses. Either we give in to the craving, or we try to RESIST the craving.

 

And this is a serious conundrum, because these are both terrible options.

 

If you want to live a life free of the downward cycle of porn doom, then giving in is not a good option.

 

But if you've ever tried to resist the temptation and the craving, then you know how difficult this is as well. Resisting the craving can almost never give you a winning track record, and as the saying goes, "what you resist, persists."

 

Both options are lacking. And if neither one will lead to lasting freedom, then what in the heck are we supposed to do in those inevitable moments of temptation and craving?

 

The life-saving news is that there is a third option. In this third option, you don't have to try and resist, you don't have to give into the behavior that you want so desperately to stop, and this third option is actually the option that finally set me free from a 20+ year porn addiction.

 

That's what you're going to hear about in this new episode. You will walk away with the game plan to begin implementing this third option. And after listening, you will never again have to succumb to the false belief that you only have two options when it comes to handling those intense cravings, and ultimately, achieving lasting freedom.

 

So be sure to check out this latest episode (and subscribe to the podcast if you haven't yet).


Want to know EXACTLY what to do the next time you feel that intense urge to watch porn? Get the P.A.T.H. Plan for free now at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠newpaths.me/plan⁠⁠

Mar 05, 202417:40
#101: Please Understand How Cool You Are
Feb 26, 202413:19
#100: How To Stop Watching Porn (In One Sentence)

#100: How To Stop Watching Porn (In One Sentence)

If someone to me, "Dan, just tell me quickly, how can I stop watching porn," what would I tell him?

After struggling with porn for over 20 years, and now living in exhilarating freedom, I've boiled down the key into just one sentence.

That's what you're going to hear in this 100th episode of The New Paths Podcast. How to stop, condensed into one sentence. And I'm willing to bet that it's not what you think!

Most importantly, in this episode you're going to walk away with a specific, step by step plan that you can start using immediately to begin accumulating wins and victories.

And at the end of the episode, I'm going to share a NEW "next step" that you can take if you're ready to commit to serious action!

Want to know EXACTLY what to do the next time you feel that intense urge to watch porn? Get the P.A.T.H. Plan for free now at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠newpaths.me/plan⁠⁠
Feb 18, 202437:07
#99: 3 Less Obvious But Essential Ingredients For Your Freedom
Feb 08, 202440:58
#98: Become an Urge Jedi
Jan 27, 202423:07
#97: From Porn Zombie To Fully Alive Man
Jan 19, 202414:35
#96: 3 Ways You Can Use Your Cell Phone To Achieve Freedom

#96: 3 Ways You Can Use Your Cell Phone To Achieve Freedom

Cell phones are wonderful things. They help us stay in touch with friends, family, and loved ones. They enable us to record special memories as they are happening. They give us the ability to learn or be entertained anytime and any place. The benefits of having a cell phone are pretty astounding, and it's hard to remember what life was like before cell phones (if you're old enough to remember that!). On the other side of this double-edged sword, thanks to our cell phone, we also have instant access to view anything we want, any minute, of every day, no matter where we are. And we have this access all the time, because our cell phone is always by our side, including right now, no? Is it any wonder that porn use is so common, given the situation we are in? Our cell phone can become a black hole that pulls us into a cycle of porn doom that feels impossible to escape. But there is good news. Your cell phone can become a helpmate, rather than a hindrance to your freedom journey. In this episode, I'm going to share three practical tips that I have personally used, and that you can use starting today, to turn your cell phone into a freedom sidekick. If you just use any one of these tips, your cell phone will start to contribute to, rather than constrict, your path towards the freedom you desperately desire! So let's go! Want to know EXACTLY what to do the next time you feel that intense urge to watch porn? Get the P.A.T.H. Plan for free now at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠newpaths.me/plan⁠


Jan 13, 202418:16
#95: You're Free! Now What?
Jan 05, 202427:39
#94: What Remains (How To Achieve Real Freedom)
Dec 28, 202322:09
#93: What If You Could Only See the Road Ahead?
Dec 24, 202314:39
#92: Four Factors of Freedom
Dec 15, 202331:39
#91: The Only Way Out Is Through
Dec 08, 202317:08
#90: How To Stop Being Controlled By the Urge (Smeagol's Strategy)
Dec 02, 202319:49
#89: Start Saying "Yes!"
Nov 26, 202323:21
#88: Don't Wait Till You Hit Rock Bottom
Nov 17, 202311:36
#87: Decoding Your Urge
Nov 10, 202321:57
#86: Unprecedented Wins on a Bad Day
Nov 03, 202316:28
#85: What Do You Want?
Oct 27, 202326:04
#84: If You Fail To Plan...
Oct 21, 202324:04
#83: The Formula To Unlock Your Freedom
Oct 13, 202323:45
#82: How To Turn Your Next Urge Into Your Next Opportunity
Oct 06, 202317:45
#81: Maybe...It's Okay (Phrases To Live By)
Sep 29, 202318:52
#80: Maybe...It Makes Sense (Phrases To Live By)

#80: Maybe...It Makes Sense (Phrases To Live By)

The words we say to ourselves impact us in a big way.


On the freedom journey, there can be some intense moments. Maybe you've made a decision, and you're committed to being done with porn, to move on to something better and brighter. But though you've made the commitment, you still feel that familiar temptation, that craving. And it is still intense.


Just because you've made a decision to pursue freedom and be done with porn, this doesn't magically make the urge stop appearing. You're now having to face the crux and the front line of your journey: how to experience that intense urge, AND not give in to it. And not just one time, but many times.


In addition to having a clear, effective, actionable plan in place, something else greatly impacts those intense moments of temptation: What you're thinking.


How you THINK about that intense feeling, and what you're believing in that moment, can either aid you and give you that extra boost you need, or it can hamstring you, and make the experience of that urge even more difficult than it already is.


In the next two episodes of this podcast, I'm going to share two thoughts/beliefs that I regularly remind myself about when I'm feeling tempted to watch porn. And it helps me tremendously to get through that feeling, to go through it and to process it.


The first thought or belief that we're going to dive into in this episode is that maybe, just maybe, it makes sense that you feel tempted. Maybe, it makes sense that you feel intense cravings to go back to porn. We're going to explore this thought together, and I'm confident that it will help you the next time you feel that strong urge!


Want to know EXACTLY what to do the next time you feel that intense urge to watch porn? Get the P.A.T.H. Plan for free now at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠newpaths.me/plan

Sep 23, 202314:02
#79: How to Get Unstuck
Sep 15, 202317:17
#78: Diligence & Dreams (What To DO During the "T" Step)

#78: Diligence & Dreams (What To DO During the "T" Step)

In the previous episode of this podcast, we talked about the third step of the P.A.T.H. Plan: the timer, setting a timer for ten minutes when you're just going to allow that urge to be there. Because this is the hardest step, and where the rubber meets the road, I gave you two things that I think about during the "T" step that will help you get through those ten minutes, so you can high-five yourself and celebrate a step towards freedom.


With that foundation set, in this episode we're going to get very practical as always, and talk about what you can DO during those ten minutes of the "T" step. I'm going to give you two options of what you can do while that timer is counting down. I'm going to tell you exactly what I did when I first started implementing this plan, and what I still do to this day. I'm also going to give you a second option of what you can do, and what I actually wish I would have done when I first started using this plan! This second option will help you hack the T step so that you actually LOOK FORWARD to those intense ten minutes! Want to know EXACTLY what to do the next time you feel that intense urge to watch porn? Get the P.A.T.H. Plan for free now at ⁠⁠⁠⁠newpaths.me/plan

Sep 08, 202322:45
#77: Friends and Fitness (What To Think About During the "T" Step)
Sep 01, 202323:49
#76: What's It Worth To You?

#76: What's It Worth To You?

Want to know EXACTLY what to do the next time you feel that intense urge to watch porn? Get the P.A.T.H. Plan for free now at ⁠⁠⁠newpaths.me/plan
Aug 28, 202318:25
#75: Matt & Joe
Aug 18, 202317:07
#74: Your Porn Pattern
Aug 11, 202315:44
#73: Make Your Enemy Your Friend

#73: Make Your Enemy Your Friend

Back a couple episodes ago, we looked at three "mistakes" that I was making for many years in my pursuit to be free from porn. And I believe that these are very common mistakes that so many guys are making right now, possibly including yourself.


In the previous episode we drove a bit deeper into the first mistake that I was making, which was tracking my streaks rather than my wins. And in this episode we're going to dive a bit deeper and get a little more practical around the second mistake that I was making.


This second mistake that we're going to dive into today is viewing the urge to watch porn as an enemy, rather than as a friend simply trying to help.


Now, you may not even be fully aware of how you SEE that urge. You may not even be THINKING about how you THINK about your struggle! I never did. It never dawned on me to explore how I VIEWED that desire within me.


But this is absolutely huge to explore for yourself, because how you view your desire for porn will directly determine how you HANDLE and RESPOND to that desire when it hits you. The way you see your desire for porn is your internal roadmap, your automatic response, to how you will handle that urge when it hits you, and whether that response is an effective strategy, or an ineffective strategy.


This is why our perspective on our struggle is not only essential, it will significantly (if not absolutely) determine whether or not you will achieve freedom, and how QUICKLY you will start experiencing it. This is why it's so important to examine and discuss your PERSPECTIVE, and how you view your desire for porn.


In this episode we're going to discuss why viewing this struggle as an enemy, rather than as a friend, hindered my progress rather than helped it. I'm going to give you one specific exercise you can do immediately that will help you make this shift, and put you in a better position to effectively handle and process the next urge that you feel, and build that skill that will lead you to the exhilarating freedom that I know you desperately want for yourself.


Want to know EXACTLY what to do the next time you feel that intense urge to watch porn? Get the P.A.T.H. Plan for free now at ⁠newpaths.me/plan

Aug 04, 202318:28
#72: Sonic Progress
Jul 28, 202317:23
#71: Don't Make These Three Mistakes

#71: Don't Make These Three Mistakes

When trying to stop watching porn, there are a few default habits that we tend to fall into, ways of going about trying to pursue freedom. We usually don't question the approach we're taking. We just start doing what seems to make the most sense.


And if we're not seeing results, we figure we just have to try harder.


Back in episode 41, we discovered that when it comes to HOW to pursue freedom from porn, what appears "obvious" is often not the case. We sort of default our way into the HOW, not realizing that the default, common sense way of doing it may actually not be the most effective.


And actually, the common sense way can actually hinder our progress.


This is what I gradually discovered when I finally started experiencing the exhilarating freedom that I didn't know was possible.


When I shifted my approach, freedom came not be trying harder, but by doing things differently.


As I discovered a different way to take steps towards freedom, there were three specific things that I had gotten in the habit of doing previously. They seemed to make perfect sense, but I started to see that they were not helping me. They may have actually been part of the reason WHY I had been experiencing freedom in the first place.


In this episode, we're going to look at each of these three "mistakes" that I made, and that I think most guys are currently making as well. And most importantly, we'll discuss what you can start doing INSTEAD, that will help you finally start to gain some serious traction. And if you make these changes, you'll begin to experience massive progress towards real freedom!


Want to know EXACTLY what to do the next time you feel that intense urge to watch porn? Get the P.A.T.H. Plan for free now at ⁠⁠newpaths.me/plan

Jul 21, 202334:42
#70: Perform the Pause, Clarify the Cause

#70: Perform the Pause, Clarify the Cause

In the last episode, we looked at the barriers in your life, those internal obstacles that seem to block you from living in true freedom, and becoming more of the man you truly want to be. We uncovered how those barriers are actually difficult emotions that you run up against in the moment.


Let's recap briefly, and then we're going to take it a step further, and discuss the "How." We're going to get very practical, and look at some actionable, concrete things that you can DO, both in the moment when you are feeling that intense feeling, and a quick daily tool that you can practice in ADVANCE, that will help you take the necessary steps when you are IN that intense moment.


Maybe for you, you want to be a good husband or significant other, but you get in those moments of anger and resentment, and those intense feelings stop you from being the husband you truly want to be. You want to be a good father, but the kids disobey, you get frustrated and angry, and the way you respond is not in line with that vision of the dad you want to be.


Or, you want to stop watching porn, but you get that familiar, intense craving to pull up the computer or phone and you feel powerless against it.


Those obstacles of difficult feelings that arise in the moment, are actually where your growth and progress BEGIN. In other words, they are not barriers, they are doorways. Those difficult feelings are your frontiers.


And if you can learn the skill of moving through those difficult emotions, on the other side is that vision of the man you truly want to be. On the other side is freedom.


So how do you actually move through that frontier? How DO you turn that obstacle into a doorway? That's what you're going to walk away with in this episode. So let's dive in!


Want to know EXACTLY what to do the next time you feel that intense urge to watch porn? Get the P.A.T.H. Plan for free now at ⁠newpaths.me/plan

Jul 14, 202316:11
#69: Your Frontiers
Jul 07, 202313:05
#68: The Power of Your Attention
Jun 30, 202318:28
#67: Getting Your Reps (Your Path to Urge Mastery)
Jun 23, 202310:04
#66: The Megaphone and the Mouse
Jun 16, 202315:54
#65: The Freedom Frontier
Jun 09, 202309:55
#64: The Groundhog Day Hack (How To Use Predictability To Accelerate Your Freedom)
Jun 02, 202314:36
#63: Make This Perspective Change First
May 26, 202326:08
#62: Three Minutes to Achieve Freedom
May 19, 202309:20
#61: What Splinter Can Teach Us About Achieving Freedom
May 12, 202314:09
#60: How To Fuel Your Journey
May 05, 202310:23