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LIFE MASTERY with Nhlanhla

LIFE MASTERY with Nhlanhla

By Nhlanhla G. Mafarafara

Life Mastery is a Coaching Podcast that offers personal development solutions and short burst peak perfomance coaching content to help you live your best life yet. I discus with you practical Self-Mastery and personal development principles with easy applications that will not only inspire and excite you, but challenge you to be so good such that no one can ignore you.

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41: The power of attitude

LIFE MASTERY with NhlanhlaOct 02, 2020

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75. Time and Moments
Aug 08, 202312:28
74. Can you follow your own advice?

74. Can you follow your own advice?

Can you follow your own advice?
When you look at your life, the choices you have made,opportunities you have missed, e.g. would you say you have lead yourself well?

You are only as powerful as your last excuse. Whatever happened in your life, what ever is happening and whenever it is going to happen in your life.
Jul 26, 202315:13
73. “I can/ I can’t”- Conversations with self

73. “I can/ I can’t”- Conversations with self

If you have convinced yourself that you can, opportunity will open up to you. In this episode I share simple and yet powerful principles to better your attitude towards positive action. Both potential and will are intertwined in success. If you really want to experience success, you need replace the thoughts and words “I cannot” to “yes I can.”
Jul 20, 202314:48
72. The hidden cost of life

72. The hidden cost of life

People can praise you to the grave
Life has hidden costs. Calculate the cost of doing vs the cost of not doing. For example, it is not what the the book cost, but how much it cost not reading it. It is not the cost of going to the gym, but how much it cost not going to the gym. It is not the cost of fixing something, but how much it cost not fixing it or not fixing it the right way. We calculate the cost of attending a seminar, a workshop, a dinner meeting or a network session but does not calculate the cost of not attending such meeting.
There hidden cost of life is both the cost it self and the reward. It is the missed opportunity itself and the opportunity it self . In every opportunity there is a hidden thing: the benefit of the opportunity in tangibles and the benefit of the opportunity in intangibles. Often we fix our eyes on the tangibles, but miss the lessons of the intangibles. The later is how we measure an opportunity. The intangibles are the transfarables, the redoubles, the things no one can take from you and the lessons no book and no school can teach you. For example, there are ideas you may have had for years, sometimes the whole decade but you did not act on them. You did not act Ont hem becuase you felt the idea was too small to wa rant your attention or you did not have the technical skills to act on it. Or something else. If you had acted on it, you have have had it go one of the two ways: South or north (good or bad, successful or fail.
If it failed/ you’d have learned what not to do next time, what to do better, when to launch, how to prepare, how to sell the idea, how to network your idea, how to hire (if it elated to that), how to work hard, how to pay attention. Some of these lessons can’t be learnt from a class, you may need to reinvent the wheel using available screws and rubber. You would have learned to be a better person inside or have actually a better, bold, clear thinking persons
The opposite would be the idea worked so good it changed your whole life and opened even more opportunities. That is life.
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Jan 10, 202311:09
71. 10 Challanges facing young people today with their solutions

71. 10 Challanges facing young people today with their solutions

Young people today are faced with so many challanges. The older generation need to assess what decisions they made that could have contributed to today’s challanges and what decisions were not made that could have prevented these challenges. The challanges range from Social, mental, economic and health. Challanges incoude among others: Suicide, Unemployment, Poor Education, Family problems, Wayward thinking and more.
Jul 29, 202230:13
70. Eight Critical Questions to Answer to Buy the Future

70. Eight Critical Questions to Answer to Buy the Future

In this episode, I share wit you 8 critcal questions to helo you buy the future. Life does not get better by chance. So as you answer them, take time to make notes, respond to them and find value within yourself. the Questions are 1. Who do you want to be? 2. What do you want to achieve? Why do you want it? When do you want it? How does it look like? What does it cost? Are you willing ot pay the price for it? When do you start tpaying the price and for how long. do send your feedback to admin@ngmafarafara.co,za or via whatsapp to +27760235161 and share the podcast with others. See you on the other side.
Jun 28, 202223:56
69. Eight (8) ways to have a great year
Jan 10, 202229:57
68. A Gift that Gives (Nhlanhla’s interview with Hlekani Shikwambana on Capricorn FM_bonus episode)

68. A Gift that Gives (Nhlanhla’s interview with Hlekani Shikwambana on Capricorn FM_bonus episode)

Covid-19 pandemic had hit many people financially sic that they are not able meet their ordinary traditional family obligations. During the festive seasons, people exchange gifts as part of their family gatherings. However, you may not be able to do so, therefore, how do you tell your friends, family and loved ones that you will not be contributing on the gift exchange when you are not able to?
Dec 20, 202112:11
67. The need for present & available fathers
Dec 06, 202118:14
66. The World through a Child’s Imagination

66. The World through a Child’s Imagination

Given the right circumstances, the mind is a very poweful with capacity to transform a man’s life from one state to another. “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.” How you imagine your world is critical in realising your next level. If adults use the realities created by the child’s mind to envision themselves and their future, a lot could turn out great
Nov 29, 202110:05
65. Hands wash each other

65. Hands wash each other

During a time where unemployed high, we still have young people chowing careers with no value. In addition, African people often find themselves working towards their dreams alone, without the contribution of others while in real essence, they need the contribution of other people. If we all find someone to mentor, and they intern find someone to mentor, the exponentialeffext will be worthwhile. In addition to Mentorship, Africans need to support one another instead of walking on the sidelines predicting the demise.
Nov 22, 202106:48
64. Life by design

64. Life by design

You can chose to live a life by default. Or you can live by design. Living by default is waiting for the acts of nature to decide what happens in your life. Designing your life requires you develop discipline, have courage, self-initiate change and have mental strenght to go through life.
Jun 29, 202112:07
63: Confront yourself, buy the future

63: Confront yourself, buy the future

No matter how much life throws punches at you, you got to find it in you to pick yourself up, confront yourself and go ahead and buy the future.
Jun 28, 202106:25
62: Don’t lose yourself

62: Don’t lose yourself

Life does not get better by chance, it’s a choice you have to make that when an opportunity to sell your future for a bowl of soup, you will resist the temptation and the urge to bend your back too low to break it.
Feb 12, 202114:23
61: BEING A CONVERSATION STARTER

61: BEING A CONVERSATION STARTER

When you get to a level where your name becomes a conversation starter in boardrooms, tea parties parties and friends’ zones... just know your accountability levels have doubled! You are not living for you anymore, but you have become their moral campus. As a parent, Freind, spouse, manager or leader, you should know that you no longer live for you. There are other people who find reference for their life through your actions and behavior
Feb 11, 202113:43
60: DEVELOPING GROWTH MINDSET
Dec 14, 202010:14
59: Self-fulfilled Prophecy- how to play a trick on your mind

59: Self-fulfilled Prophecy- how to play a trick on your mind

Whatever you repeat to yourself becomes your reality. Whatever you expect with confidence becomes your own self-fulfilling prophecy. You can play a trick in your mind by repeatedly telling and exposing yourself to positive information that creates a pattern of what you want to be... the work at it to make it real... once you hit your first success, the next one becomes easy.
Nov 03, 202012:17
58: We All have 24 Hours

58: We All have 24 Hours

What is the value of your time? The value of an hour is built on accumulated knowledge prior to the hour.
Nov 03, 202008:18
57: Mental Conditioning- The Power of a Dream

57: Mental Conditioning- The Power of a Dream

“The greatest tragedy in life is no death, but what we let die in us while we yet live”... When you don’t dream, you become satisfied with the crumbs from your master’s table. A dreamless person a one who has given up on his life and given himself to be a tool in the hands of a dreamer. In this Episode I share with you 6 poweful insights about a dream.
Oct 29, 202017:19
56: Increase Positive Exposure

56: Increase Positive Exposure

Success is a choice you make by constantly exposing yourself to more information and experiences that stretch your mind. A stretched mind never goes back to its original position... it stays expanded. In this episode I share with you 9 tips on how to increase positive exposure that will help you condition your mind for more, for better and for greatness.
Oct 28, 202018:37
55: Four Levels of Mental Conditioning

55: Four Levels of Mental Conditioning

“The greatest weapon in the hands of the oppressor is the mind of the oppressed”-Steve Biko. The mind determines how low you or how high one goes. It has ability to fabricate reason for no action when you do not actively condition it to benefit you. In the four levels of mental conditioning, I show you how the level of mental conditioning affect your altimate end.
Oct 27, 202018:46
54: Stuck Life- Stuck Minds

54: Stuck Life- Stuck Minds

You were born a progressive person, until the day you decided to become stuck. There is no poverty for a person who had Made an investment in his mind.
Oct 26, 202012:43
53: Kingdom Entrepreneurship-

53: Kingdom Entrepreneurship-

AFRICA is an opportunity for the world... yet Africans eat the crumbs of the wealth they sit and walk on. It takes one to identify a problem, package it well and sell it to create wealth. But to do it sustainably, one needs to know how to constantly solve current and emerging problems in the market place and in society...
Oct 20, 202017:33
52: Be Exceptional- Solve Problems

52: Be Exceptional- Solve Problems

What comes to your mind when you hear names such as Trevor Noah, Robert Mugabe, Nelson Mandela, Oprah Winfrey? What comes to people’s minds when people hear your name? Being exciptional is a choice you make to be great at what you do so that no one affords to ignore you... Note this... It’s a Choice!
Oct 19, 202011:56
51: The Power of Habits

51: The Power of Habits

If you keep on doing what you have been doing for the past five years, you will keep on getting the same results. So many people want to change the world, but they do not want to change themselves. Did you know that almost everything you do is a result of a form of habit that you developed over a certain period... now things just happen without your conscious application...
Oct 16, 202029:01
October 15, 2020

October 15, 2020

Oct 15, 202000:54
50: Excuses Cost You

50: Excuses Cost You

This is part two of Being Busy is an Excuse. Excuses will cost you more than attempting to do the things you make excuses against. Take time to develop yourself, count the cost of excuses and change your life little by little
Oct 15, 202017:00
49: Being Busy is an Excuse

49: Being Busy is an Excuse

Often saying “I’m busy” is an excuse against being more effective and a negative incentive for comfort, yet you cannot show results of your being busy.
Oct 14, 202006:26
48: The Hidden Power of Pain and Pleasure (Part 2)

48: The Hidden Power of Pain and Pleasure (Part 2)

With most pains that we go through, there is a hidden pleasure thereafter. However, to enjoy the pleasure, you need to understand that you have the power to make a choice in any given circumstances. With every choice you make, there is a downside to it and an upside. Whether you gravitate towards the downside of your choices or the upside depends on your pain, risk and excuses threshold balance...
Oct 13, 202008:58
47: The Hidden Power of Pain and Pleasure (part 1)

47: The Hidden Power of Pain and Pleasure (part 1)

Whenever you conceive a new goal, action, intention, dream or plan, your mind goes to work overtime to produce evidence of pain related to the new action. The evidence of pain has been passively recorded in your subconscious mind through past failures or abandoned attempts. What it does not do is to “actively” find pleasure related to that pain once you have gone through it. You have to actively pursue whatever goal, even if your mind naively says “it will be painful” Becuase that short-term mental, emotional, or physical pain is the only price to be paid for the long term pleasure you have been hoping for or dreaming about.
Oct 12, 202009:52
46: Celebrating Your Goals, Dreams and Talents

46: Celebrating Your Goals, Dreams and Talents

Telent that is not celebrated cannot be rewarded. A goal or dream that is not put to the test cannot be rewarded.
Oct 09, 202010:02
45: The power of association

45: The power of association

No man has ever achieved great results alone. In This episode, Nhlanhlaand Rebecca are in conversation on how powerful good Association is to anyone. You are the sum total of the people you spend your time with. Man was not created complete. He was created with something missing in him that can only be found in others. What is missing in you is found in somebody else. There are certain elements of your dream that you can do by yourself. But there are people assigned to be part of your dream, and those people are located in Strategic places. Our ability to connect with others is what makes us powerful.
Oct 08, 202026:07
44: The Power of Showing up part 3: GETTING READY TO SHOW UP

44: The Power of Showing up part 3: GETTING READY TO SHOW UP

This is session 3 of the 3 part series on the power of Showing up. In this session we talk about GETTING READY TO SHOW UP. I’m in conversation with Rebecca Phala on Energy FM. I introduce to you that “Showing up up sounds easy”, but you may have to show up a million times to reach your desired ending. Its gonna get tough and rough, but it is still gonna get good. however, you have to be intentional in your way of showing up .you . Get ready to show up. Note this is a piece of the long audio clip to help you. It ends before you expect it to
Oct 07, 202012:48
43: The Power of showing-Up (part 2: Know your why?!)

43: The Power of showing-Up (part 2: Know your why?!)

This episode was recorded in Energy FM on the 10th September 2018. I’m talking about the power of showing up. Today you will learn about the power of saying YES, and the power of knowing your WHY?
Oct 06, 202008:10
42: The Power of Showing-Up (part 1)

42: The Power of Showing-Up (part 1)

Opportunities present themselves in strange ways. Sometimes all you need is being the right place at the right time with the right people and do one right thing which will open you up to the next level.
Oct 05, 202006:46
41: The power of attitude
Oct 02, 202010:18
40: High Achievers Principle7; Why people remain average?

40: High Achievers Principle7; Why people remain average?

You were born great until the day you decided to be average. In this episode I share with you 7 reasons why people remain average. 6 of these reasons are shred in the podcast, the servent one is called Failure to Maximise Opportunities, it’s available as a PDF download by sending a whatspp text to 0670987253
Oct 01, 202014:23
39: High Achievers prince 6; Predicting Your Future

39: High Achievers prince 6; Predicting Your Future

In this episode I take you back to sessions 1-3. We are all self-made and predict our future by practicing certain daily habits, beliefs and actions that lead to a positive or negative reinforcement
Sep 30, 202017:34
38: High Achievers principle 5; From Intentions to Fulfiled Dreams

38: High Achievers principle 5; From Intentions to Fulfiled Dreams

In this session, my goal is to inspire you by showing you the power of mindset on making dream come true. With practical skills in visualization, new dreams can be conceived and birthed. Where you feel that the Podcast is helping, or you liked t in some way, I’d like you to send to your friends and post it on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. (with a note on how you appreciate the podcast)
Sep 29, 202016:56
37: High Achievers principle 4; Self-Leadership
Sep 28, 202016:56
36: High Achievers principle 3; Values and Beliefs

36: High Achievers principle 3; Values and Beliefs

In this session 3 of 7 part series, I share with you the power of Values, Beliefs and Attitudes towards achieving your goals.
Sep 27, 202017:37
35: High Achievers Principle 2; Completions

35: High Achievers Principle 2; Completions

In this session, we help you to achieve your goals by completing small daily task, these will create a framework for achieving even more goals.
Sep 26, 202015:11
34: High-Achievers principles 1; Setting intentions

34: High-Achievers principles 1; Setting intentions

In this session I will be coaching you on achieving great results by setting daily intentions. A clear intent to be a better person starts by setting an objective to achieve small daily goals.
Sep 25, 202011:19
33: A dream that consumes you

33: A dream that consumes you

Dreams have a power to liberate a person. If you view the world as a canvas, and your dream as paint and you are the artist, that gives you the power to create anything of your life. In this Episode, I had a chat with Rebecca Phala on Energy FM and we break down this power to you. What does it mean to be consumed by a dream?

For some reason, everyone or almost every living person will tell you that they have a dream… how should one contextualize it?

How powerful or significant is a dream in a person’s life?

When having a dream, should one consider the circumstances around them? Like if their dream requires more money to make come true and they are currently poor?

What are the challenges or obstacles of being a dreamer?
Apr 17, 202026:28
32: SELF-MADE: Progress vs Stagnancy

32: SELF-MADE: Progress vs Stagnancy

Progress is the ultimate desire of every human being.
Apr 16, 202027:32
31: FOCUS

31: FOCUS

Whatever you pay attention it expands. As recorded in books of greatness: “great heights attained and kept by great men, were not attained by sudden flight, but they, while their companions slept, they toiled through the night”
Apr 16, 202027:07
30: VISION 2020 (part 2 or 3)- Captured by vision

30: VISION 2020 (part 2 or 3)- Captured by vision

LAST WEEK WE STARTED A three part series on vision 2020 by reviewing what we have done or been through this year

Today we go a step future or exploring vision it self and say one has to be captured in order to achieve good results. We help step to the next level by answering the following questions:

1. What is the Meaning of being captured by vision and vision itself.
2. How powerful is vision or how important is it to have a vision?
3. What are the characteristics of a compelling vision?
4. To achieve a vision, to fully release and realise its power, you need to develop failure proof systems. How do we protect ourselves from living in a bubble dreaming over and over again?
5. There is a relationship between vision and habits, can you explain this relationship and how to nurtur
Dec 10, 201927:14
29: VISION 2020 (part 1 of 3): REVIEWING 2019

29: VISION 2020 (part 1 of 3): REVIEWING 2019

Before you start with a new season or a new vision, take time to look back over where you came from. Assess your all year actions against your key resolutions or goals and check where did you go wrong, how good have you done and what can you take into the next level.
Nov 25, 201924:41
28: PATIENCE (episode 4 of Personal Management)
Nov 08, 201926:06
27: LEADING YOURSELF WELL (episode 3 of Personal Leadership)

27: LEADING YOURSELF WELL (episode 3 of Personal Leadership)

Taking charge of your own life as your own leader. At one time you will be a leader, and times when you will be following. But when you are following yourself, make sure you take the right decisions that affect different areas of your life as a leader, and in the direction of your purpose.
Nov 05, 201924:40