YKF: Your Kinky Friends
By Nicholas Tanek
Nicholas Tanek is an author, speaker, and podcaster. He is best known for his memoir, The Coolest Way to Kill Yourself, which chronicles his experiences as a young man in the 90's rave scene and BDSM subcultures. He is the author of the book and podcast, Your Kinky Friends, interviewing people involved in BDSM, kink, and other alternative lifestyles.
Lo-fi Punk Rock Style - No theme songs, no editing.... It's RAW. It is what it is.
YKF: The Baroness - 5.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
"I was just a latex big boobie hypnotist."
The Baroness is a kinky content creator, writer, and Dominatrix in DFW Texas. We talk about being a descendant of Elizabeth Báthory, dronification, vacuum beds, Exxxotica, growing up in Hungary, Darkside Magazine, and fantasy cosplay with her live-in slave.
"Don't give random people on the internet your chastity keys."
YKF: 𝔍𝖆𝖓𝖊 𝕽𝖔𝖘𝖊 - 5.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
"I wish I was chained up in someone's closet."
Jane Rose is a professional torture doll. We discuss how kink is art, hormones, medical play, Doms wearing chastity, ruined orgasms, and wearing latex with nails.
"Always more latex!"
YKF SUNDAYS: 5.12.2024 part 2 – Nicco Noire, Miss Sweet, Neci Archer, & Nicholas Tanek
“Have you been in a pool filled with lube while wearing a latex catsuit?”
Let’s celebrate Mother’s Day by talking about CBT (Cock & Ball Torture) with Nicco Noire, Miss Sweet, Nicholas Tanek, and Neci Archer!. We discuss forced clownification, proper foot worship, vacuum beds, and Neci Archer’s role as the show’s slut.
YKF SUNDAYS: 5.12.2024 w/ Miss Kaz B, Nicco Noire & Nicholas Tanek
"I will laugh at you crying."
Miss Kaz B (UK) and Nicco Noire (Texas, USA) take this Mother's Day 2024 to talk about CBT, having drinks with mum, chastity help, and what BDSM/kink essentials they would take on the Ark if the world gets flooded.
"Getting my house cleaned while getting paid for it is the best."
YKF: Empress Mysti & Neci Archer - 5.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
"I stuck a sound in her after lighting her on fire." - Empress Mysti
Empress Mysti is a Dominatrix, BDSM Dungeon owner, & content creator who has her submissive Neci Archer as her live-in submissive in Dallas, TX. We discuss dungeon life, wax play, strict diet protocols, posture collars, living with a horny slut, the good kind of crying, and the struggle of organizing transexual gangbangs.
"I was extremely turned on yet terrified at the same time." - Neci Archer
SUNDAYS w/ Nicco Noire & Nicholas Tanek – 5.5.2024
SUNDAYS w/ Nicco Noire & Nicholas Tanek – 5.5.2024
Every Sunday, Nicco Noire and Nicholas Tanek catch up on the week and our kinky lifestyle.
This is the very first episode. We talk about financial domination, licking Tres Leches off of toes, wearing corsets under her Chef uniform, and how pantyhose are the perfect tool for forced bi-sessions.
It’s going to be an interesting week.
YKF: Ariel Anderssen - 4.2023 w/ Nicholas Tanek
"Writing about my life felt more exposing than being naked on camera."
Ariel Anderssen is the author of "Playing To Lose: How a Jehovah's Witness Became a Submissive BDSM Model." We discuss the romance of being submissive, fetish modeling, finding a suitable photographer, emancipating oneself from religion, the protection of Doms, overcoming the shame of porn, and creating homemade corsets. Did she turn a particle physicist into a bondage photographer?
"The word resolution this year is HONESTY"
YKF: Mistress Manita w/ Nicholas Tanek 7.2020
VIDEO CHAT: Mistress Manita w/ Nicholas Tanek 7.2020
“Pay attention! Shut up and just watch!” – Mistress Manita
Mistress Manita is a Dominatrix in the Netherlands! We talk about bullwhips, leather, sadism, needle play, and nailing a tray to a man’s nipples so he can serve wine to her guests from it.
YKF: Cherry Cruz 4.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
"The male *sshole is a magical portal to pleasure."
Cherry Cruz is a Professional Dominatrix, FinDomme, HypnoDomme, ethical slut and Fetishist at Peplove. We talk BBC, castration, sissification, the sissy hypno narrative, 420 intoxication play, and making chastity sissies wear diapers to work.
"I want to do so many wonderful and disgusting things."
YKF: Miss Lady Louisa - 4.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
YKF: Miss Lady Louisa - 4.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
"Who doesn't love being pegged?"
Miss Lady Louisa is a professional Domme from West Midlands, UK who talks about ABDL, sissification, trampling, barefoot ballbusting, CBT while in chastity, sounding, staples, needles, using a slave as a piss pocket, anal edging devices, and making subs eat maggots.
"I can just piss, piss, and piss."
YKF: Goddess Narcissa – 4.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek (live from Mischief Manor)
YKF: Goddess Narcissa – 4.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek (live from Mischief Manor)
“I enjoy hurting people, but harming someone is completely different.”
Goddess Narcissa is a professional/lifestyle Domme, founder of Mercy Whips, fetish model, and chef. We talk about the art of whipping, an all-Asian BDSM dungeon, fetish photography, bottom-led learning, finding a dependable whip bottom, and retaliating against attackers with a huge kitchen knife.
“When Narcissa does something, she does it until she gets to the marrow.”
YKF: Daisy Chains - 4.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
"Bring the orgasm rates up and the STD rates down."
Daisy Chains is a professional Dominatrix from Chicago. We talk about Peplove taboo phone sex, kink events, sissification, ABDL play, latex, leather, medical play, chastity, the Chicago rave scene, scat candy bars, her toilet slave, her piss baby, and how she's going to squirt on the top of every mountaintop.
"I like being so cute and terrifying at the same time."
YKF: Elizabeth Hendrick (EXODAI) - 4.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
"I was craving torture."
Elizabeth Hendrick, author of EXODAI talks about her experiences of sexual torture in Japan, writing/promoting her book, being waterboarded with urine, huge electrical butt plugs, sinister gas masks, straight women who lead lesbians on, and being made to walk around on a stone floor on her kneecaps.
"The submissive is there for the Dom. The masochists are there for themselves"
YKF: Mistress Fenris & Lady Lilah Wilde w/ Nicholas Tanek - October 23, 2018
VIDEO CHAT: Mistress Fenris & Lady Lilah Wilde with Nicholas Tanek
Mistress Fenris Wolf & Lady Lilah Wilde are friends and business partners. Mistress Fenris is a sadist and a professional Dominatrix. Lady Lilah Wilde is also a professional Dominatrix who embodies values of cruelty, comfort, and culture. They both run Wilde Fenris Production.
YKF: Lady Absinthe w/ Nicholas Tanek - June 26, 2018
June 26, 2018 VIDEO CHAT: Lady Absinthe w/ Nicholas Tanek
Lady Absinthe is a fetish model, Mistress, and cam girl. She specializes in Anal Training, Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Jerk-off Instruction, Orgasm Denial, Chastity Training, Submission, Tit/Nipple Torture, Whips, Condoms, Gags & Blindfolds, Humiliation, Masks, Rubber / Latex / PVC, Smoking, Foot Fetish, Outfit, Tattoos, FinDom.
YKF: Dirk Hooper – 3.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
“Drown out the ignorance with intelligence.”
Dirk Hooper talks about the re-release of his book DOMINATRIX BOSS (by Asher Lake). We talk about how pen names are like role play, comics, art, sleazy boudoir photographers, Cawoman, Exit to Eden, Femdom fiction, bad erotica, how to stop dating vanilla, indie publishing, the Domme deficit, and how he has never been pegged. What does that mean? Find out…
“Kink allowed me to be better.”
YKF CHAT: Leah Piper - 3.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
YKF CHAT: Leah Piper - 3.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
"Did I get double penetrated?"
Leah Piper is the host of Sex Reimagined Podcast, founder of More Love Works, and an advocate of tantra anal sex. We talk about being a vulva owner, clitoral orgasms, reaching the male g-spot, exploring new fetishes, soft-ons on clits, trantra sex, her Dominatrix training, and how pursuing anal sex is badass.
"Anal, anal, and more anal. Your ass is chakra #1"
YKF: Princess Kaz B - 3.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
"I'll chain you to the radiator in my bathroom as I luxuriate."
Princess Kaz B from Wiltshire (UK) is back to discuss her upcoming documentary, her books (Confessions of a Dominatrix), erotic poetry, chastity teasing, the UK kink scene, transexual sex dolls, sissification, and having subs suck mud off of her toes.
"I think we are all a little sadistic sometimes."
YKF CHAT: Sex Ed With Tim – 3.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
YKF CHAT: Sex Ed With Tim – 3.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
“There are some really tight holes out there.”
Tim Lagman (host of Sex Ed with Tim podcast) is a sex therapist and a semi-retired male escort. We discuss having thousands of lovers, why escorts should not charge per orgasm, the film “Good Luck To You Leo Grande,” using grapes for scat play, and New York City gays vs. Los Angeles gays,
“People who embrace their sluttiness are more on top of their health than the average person.”
YKF VIDEO: Director Jezebelle - 3.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
YKF VIDEO: Director Jezebelle - 3.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
"In my collar, I am free."
Director Jez (founder of K!nkify! and Waxing Moon Wicks) reads Nicholas Tanek's tarot card talks about wax play, candles, being submissive while having a house boy, the plateau of awesomeness, leather witching, scent training, impact play, how BDSM/kink saved her from alcohol, and human sacrifice roleplay.
"Now, I'm a sparkling masochist."
(Note: technical issues at first but life is like that sometimes, isn't it? The meaning of life is to continue. We did.)
YKF VIDEO: Miss CatastroV - 3.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
"I love hurting people... consensually."
Miss CatastroV is a lifestyle & commercial Dominatrix in the Netherlands who lives a TPE (total power exchange) and female-led relationship with her live-in submissive. We discuss Amsterdam, heels, love of leather, breath control, OWK (Other World Kingdom), and how she loves her dirty sluts as much as her trained sissy maids.
"I love to crawl into the mind of the submissive."
YKF: Depeche Mode For Dungeons – Nicco Noire, Nicholas Tanek & The Commandant
Depeche Mode For Dungeons – Nicco Noire & The Commandant
“The longest relationship in my life was with Depeche Mode.” – Nicco Noire
Why do so many of my cool kinky friends love Depeche Mode and goth synth music? Nicco Noire & The Commandant claim the music of Depeche Mode should be played in all BDSM dungeons.
We discuss the Depeche Mode discography, the atmospheric style, drug use, romance, songs for edging, a DM tattooed woo-hah, and why “Christmas Island” is the best Depeche Mode song to flog to.
“Martin Gore is naturally a kinky person.” – The Commandant
YKF VIDEO: Miss Sweet - 2.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
"I go so through so much lube, Amazon inquires what I am using it for."
Miss Sweet is a CBT Artist out of Texas who specializes in all things CBT and ballbusting. We discuss blood lust, clowns for fear play, pussy clamps with 18 gauge needles, fire, using ballbusting as a self-defense mechanism, and making spider webs out of scrotums with hook pulls. She also mixes blood play, CBT, and medical play to make people "scaroused."
YKF VIDEO: The Commandant – 2.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
YKF VIDEO: The Commandant – 2.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
“I’m a sadist, not an asshole.”
The Commandant, known for being KINKY GOOGLE, is a traveling kink educator and lifestyle Dominatrix from Texas. We talk about sissification vs. feminization, how kink saved our lives, a women-led queer-inclusive space, the sex life of physicists, wanting to run an ethical whorehouse, Depeche Mode for dungeons, the cum receptacle competition, and which Wu-Tang Clan song is best to flog to.
“Any hole’s the goal.”
YKF CHAT: Jade Desires 2.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
YKF CHAT: Jade Desires 2.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
“If you want to make my day, let me ruin your orgasm.”
Jade Desires returns to talk about the power of orgasm denial and control. We also discuss mindfuckery, first-time forced bi, kinky sex parties, foot parties, blue laws, and teaching men how to worship women.
“There are so many ways to bust balls. Why limit yourself?”
YKF: Mistress Holly GoLightly – 2.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
YKF VIDEO: Mistress Holly GoLightly – 2.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
“I end up fisting half of them.”
Mistress Holly GoLightly returns to talk about domestic discipline, ABDL play, sissification, hypnosis, Bondassage, castration play, erotic humiliation, and spacing out while doing art.
“No one wants me to set them on fire for some reason.”
YKF CHAT: Goddess Sydney - 2.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
"I've trained him to adore ruined orgasms."
Goddess Sydney returns to talk about her performance art, her sissies, her lifestyle slave, witchcraft, love spells that went wrong, sissification vs feminization, CFNM, the art of cuckolding, and pissing on the faces of men with ruined orgasms.
"It's about my experience and journey claiming the slutty side of me that society rejects."
YKF: Baroness V w/ Nicholas Tanek - 10.2020
VIDEO CHAT: Baroness V w/ Nicholas Tanek
Baroness is an expert in BRAINWASHING. We talk pegging, CBT, feminizing men, how to make your girlfriend be sadistic, castrating males, and LIPSTICK BONDAGE.
YKF CHAT: Mistress Shadow w/ Nicholas Tanek - 7. 2020
VIDEO CHAT: Mistress Shadow w/ Nicholas Tanek
Mistress Shadow is Femdom sensual sadist, a Calgary, Canada based Domina. We talk PONYPLAY, sissification, ripping someone’s c*ck with her nails, The Marque de Sade, polyamory, pony play, chastity, and stepping on men’s throats.
YKF VIDEO: Presently Sarah – 2.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek & Nicco Noire
YKF VIDEO: Presently Sarah – 2.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek & Nicco Noire
“It will all be about the visuals.”
Presently Sarah is a MtF artist who returns to discuss The Detroit Dirty Show, Chaturbate, porn, cam shows in chastity, the art of production value, R. Crumb, Tennesee anti-gay laws, being in your 60s, and being asked to piss into ice cube trays. Nicco Noire from Texas joins us.
“Am I going to get $20 added to my bill because I’m trans?”
YKF CHAT: Abby Haute – 2.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
YKF CHAT: Abby Haute – 2.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
“There are so many nuances to the smoking fetish.”
Abby Haute returns to talk about her smoking fetish videos, being a hotwife to her husband, the differences between being a cuckoldress vs. a hotwife, More Menthol 120’s, and her new cannabis strain.
“Cuckolding is a way for them to lose control.”
YKF: Mercenary Mistress - 12.2019 with Nicholas Tanek
VIDEO CHAT: Mercenary Mistress with Nicholas Tanek
Mercenary Mistress is a sensual (and sadistic) Professional Dominatrix based in Austin, TX. We discuss owning a dungeon, SENSUAL NIPPLE TORTURE, chastity, humiliation, CBT, impact play, role play, toilet training (the whole rainbow), and more. OH!!!! She also whips her slave with a riding crop during the word association game towards the end of this interview.
YKF: Indian Goddess 2020 w/ Nicholas Tanek
VIDEO CHAT: Indian Goddess Swasthika w/ Nicholas Tanek
Indian Goddess Swasthika (It’s a name – nothing to do with nazis) is an Indian Dominatrix who is IN India. We talk mind control, Indian food, pain, the sexual/cultural laws in India, and branding a man’s testicles.
NOTE: Towards the end, there is an echo on my side but you can hear her.
YKF: Domina Silvia - 7.2020 - w/ Nicholas Tanek
VIDEO CHAT: Domina Silvia w/ Nicholas Tanek
Domina Silvia is a legendary Dominatrix and owner of SM Studio Production. She is famous for her facesitting. We talk queening, chastity, sissification, forced-bi, licking bananas off of her boots, using men as human toilets, and using electricity to shock testicles.
YKF: Sarah Xum Part II 3.2020 with Nicholas Tanek
VIDEO CHAT: Sarah Xum Part II with Nicholas Tanek
Sarah Xum is an MtF transgender cam model on Chaturbate who does private shows on Skype. She also loves make-up and clothes. We talk about hypnosis, weird Chaturbate videos, making Chance from the film “Being There” into porn, shooting videos in Motel 6 with bright colored walls, and making erotic puppet shows.
YKF: Sarah Xum Part I with Nicholas Tanek - 2019
VIDEO CHAT: Sarah Xum with Nicholas Tanek
Sarah Xum is a trans cam model on Chaturbate who does private shows on Skype. She also loves make-up and clothes.
YKF: Mistress Danielle (Denver, CO) - 1.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
"He was able to ejaculate just from me kicking him in the balls."
Mistress Danielle from Denver sits down to talk with us about kinky couples, autism, crossdressers, pegging, ballbusting/CBT, chastity, and more. She also apologizes for her burps while she talks about diaper play.
"I like to empower my submissives... because they are shamed enough."
The 2024 YKF CHASTITY Episode w/ Nicco Noire, Starla Vamp & Nicholas Tanek
“The Domme is an artist. The sub is an artist. It’s lifestyle art.” – Starla
Nicco Noire and Starla Vamp sit down with Nicholas Tanek to discuss Nicco’s chastity sub (The Norwegian), fast chastity, male squirting, CBT, female sounding, and teasing the tip with a single finger. They also show us their metal cages!
“It is a form of sexual meditation”
YKF: Ezra (Ask Ezra) - 1-2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
"I want my sex to hurt a little bit... so what?"
Sir Ezra of Ask Ezra returns to talk about his new book The Path Through. We discuss being a professional male Dom, poetry, romance, healing, grief, body degradation, Jack Kerouac, sexting, and oral sex with hot sauce.
"Be a good houseguest to your feelings."
YKF: Maddie Royce – 1.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
VIDEO CHAT: Maddie Royce – 1.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
“I’m excited for the the cum eating revolution.”
Maddie Royce, The Soccer Domme is back to talk about chastity play (even at airports), football, mental health, peeing in someone’s eyes (watersports), kidnapping, medical play, soul-crushing JOI calls, Giallo films, and having a personal chastity sub.
“I don’t give a fuck about your dick.”
“I really want to piss on a man today.”
“Let’s make jerking off interesting again.”
“I miss peeing on men.”
YKF: Lilyann Laurent (Vulpes Niveus) – 1.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
VIDEO CHAT: Lilyann Laurent – 1.2024 w/ Nicholas Tanek
“I had my rope top tie me to a tree next to a lake with lilipads.”
Lilyann Laurent is the author of “Vulpes Niveus”. She is also a film director, singer-songwriter, spirituality influencer, and lifestyle brand designer. We discuss age-gap romance with older men, erotic fiction, poetry, the bond of rope/shibari, and primal play.
“There aren’t enough bisexual women represented in media.”
YKF: Sadist Sisters: Mrs. Vidian Vixen & Temptress Nyx -4.2021
YKF: Sadist Sisters: Mrs. Vidian Vixen & Temptress Nyx -4.2021
“You are always told to not kick men in the nuts… but then, they pay for it.”
Mrs. Vidian Vixen & Temptress Nyx are The Sadist Sisters. We discuss Femdom, their dungeon, CBT, corporal punishment, torture, sissification, selling panties online, and burning balls with cigarettes.
“I want to tie someone down and waterboard them.”
The YKF SPANKING Special w/ Miss Chris, Miss Cassie, Nicholas Tanek, & Luna Darke
VIDEO: The YKF SPANKING Special w/ Miss Chris, Miss Cassie, & Luna Darke
“When someone says ‘brand spanking new,’ my ears perk up.” – Miss Chris
YFK has 3 guests for our panel episode on SPANKING! Miss Chris, Miss Cassie, and Luna Darke join Nicholas Tanek to discuss spanking, being spanked, spanking people, education, discipline, roleplay, the history of spanking, the emotional connection, and being spanked by a Leprechaun.
YKF: Miztress Claudia - 8.2021 w/ Nicholas Tanek
YKF: Miztress Claudia - 8.2021 w/ Nicholas Tanek
“When I was in the 3rd grade, I kicked **** in the balls. Then, they came back for more.”
Miztress Claudia is a Dominatrix based out of Arizona. We talk CBT (branding, squishing, and burning testicles), strap-on play, needle play, feet, human toilets, and seeing how far she can shove her feet down a man’s throat.
“I’ve done horrible things to penises.”
YKF Goddess Kat Marie Part III – 7.2022 w/ Nicholas Tanek
VIDEO CHAT: Goddess Kat Marie Part III – 7.2022 w/ Nicholas Tanek
“Women get to decide if you keep your testicles or not.”
The glorious Goddess Kat Marie is back and she strokes her kitten in a deliciously evil way! She is a Dominatrix in Denver, CO. We talk about medical play, making art with her boobs, AB/DL (Adult babies / Diaper lovers), straight jackets, Burlesque, being a MOMMY DOMME, CBT/ballbusting, diapers, sadism, castration fetishes, and the fun of sitting on a man’s chest and zapping their testicles with her pink tazer.
“You’re bleeding all over my carpet!”
YKF: 12.2023: Nicco Noire Nurses Nicholas: Medical Play & Kink While In The Hospital
VIDEO 12.2023: Nicco Noire Nurses Nicholas: Medical Play & Kink While In The Hospital
Nicholas Tanek has been in the hospital for a month! Nicco Noire & Nicholas Tanek talk about how we should help our fellow kinksters who are sick and/or in the hospital. Then, we go off on talking about Medical Play, sounding, and more!
YKF: Empress Ming with Nicholas Tanek - March 28, 2020
Empress Ming with Nicholas Tanek
Empress Ming is an Asian Goddess / professional dominatrix. We talk about pissing on people, strap-on play, the kink of women beating men, female empowerment, the freedom found in surrender, hypnosis, and psychedelic plant medicines potential to be combined with kink and intention to dig deeper within one’s self
Nicholas Tanek sits down and talks with her.
YKF: Mistress Viola – 2.022 w/ Nicholas Tanek
Mistress Viola – 2.022
!!! NEW !!!
“I like to hurt people and giggle.”
Mistress Viola Parker is a legendary Dominatrix and educator in Portland, OR. We discuss CBT, chastity, electro play, SubRosaPDX, Batman & Catwoman roleplay, and even Trump roleplay.
“Kink is cultural catharsis.”
YKF: Vex - 11.2023 w/ Nicholas Tanek
"A lot of teasing is inspiring me these days."
Vex is a Dominatrix from Providence, RI who loves science fiction and film. We discuss Zen Buddhism, knife play, blood play, the healing power of kink, medical play, and humiliating sushi. We pitch David Fincher the film, "Dork Dom" starring Cthulhu. Vex also gives us detailed instructions on how to choke someone.
"Razors are the easiest to make designs."
"I prefer old-school medical play."
YKF: Mistress April (South Africa) – 4.2022 w/ Nicholas Tanek
VIDEO CHAT: Mistress April – 4.2022 w/ Nicholas Tanek
“Clamping foreskins with my clamp is a good day at the office.”
Mistress April is a Dominatrix in South Africa. Dressed in her nurse’s outfit and latex surgical gloves, she discusses her live-in slave, her medical fetish, her Military Bunker event, Berlin, hammering nails through balls (CBT), her poop gallery, and her “Surgical Transformation Into A Whore” film.
“Shouldn’t all men be castrated?”