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Non-Monogamy Help

Non-Monogamy Help

By Lola Phoenix
Non-Monogamy Help is a relationship advice podcast for people in non-monogamous or polyamorous relationships. With the help of a therapist with over a decade of experience, your host Lola Phoenix, answers the questions your questions about rules, hierarchies, unicorns and more.
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Episode 41 - No Rules Just Wrong

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Episode 88 - One Rule to Rule Them All
Sometimes making a rule causes the exact problem that the rule is designed to prevent. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
20:32
August 05, 2022
Episode 87 - Showering Rules
When having strict rules makes you feel controlled, coming to a compromise with a partner who wants a specific thing can seem impossible. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
18:03
July 15, 2022
Episode 86 - No Exes as Friends
Your new partner demands, during a period of grief, that you stop being friends with an ex and now might not be the best time to push back on the ultimatum. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
23:29
July 08, 2022
Episode 85 - Insecurity and Comparisons
You want to be non-monogamous but you can’t stop feeling a way about your partner commenting or liking pictures of others. How do you deal? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
25:49
June 24, 2022
Episode 84 - Disclosure and Outing
You’re in a not so open minded city. How do you tell people you want to date that you’re currently in a polyamorous or open relationship? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
20:43
June 10, 2022
Episode 83 - Recycled Dates
What happens when you’re trying non-monogamy for the first time, but you and your partner can’t come to an agreement on things like not going to the same places they’ve taken a metamour? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
35:05
May 27, 2022
Episode 82 - Dating Metamours
When your shared partner is making you both feel like you’re a triad when you’ve never agreed to that… it can get a little awkward. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
15:00
May 13, 2022
Episode 81 - Just FOMO
Thinking about the things you might be missing out on doesn’t, in fact, make you a jerk. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
18:20
April 29, 2022
Episode 80 - Trying to Convince
If you’re trying to convince your partner to be polyamorous, you may not be able to “fix” them wanting monogamy. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
15:16
April 08, 2022
Episode 79 - Outside Veto
This week's episode is about what happens when a mutual friend is unhappy with the relationship building happening between you and someone else. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on our website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
19:44
April 01, 2022
Episode 78 - Not Good Enough
Sometimes when your partner wants non-monogamy you can be left feeling like you’ve failed or not done enough. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on our website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
21:40
March 11, 2022
Episode 77 - Making the Leap
If non-monogamy is a no go, should you say goodbye to a five year relationship on a hunch? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on our website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
16:48
February 25, 2022
Episode 76 - No Way Out
If you feel you’re between crushing emotions and a family breakdown, you might feel like there’s no way out. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on our website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
28:39
February 11, 2022
Episode 75 - Overreacting
Your short term partner is snapping and says it’s a joke and your long term partner says you’re overreacting. How do you deal? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on our website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
16:59
January 28, 2022
Episode 74 - Dating Family
In starting out in polyamory, most people want to make rules — like no dating friends or family. It’s worth thinking more about that rule. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on our website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! More about Non-Monogamy Help: Read the column Subscribe to the newsletter Become a patron Follow us on Twitter Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
18:13
January 14, 2022
Episode 73 - Caveat Emptor
It’s easy to think you might be interest in non-monogamy, but what if you have some conflicting feelings when theory becomes practice?
19:33
January 01, 2022
Episode 72 - Problematic Pedestal
When you put one partner on a pedestal, it can cause a lot of constant anxiety. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help.
22:13
December 17, 2021
Episode 71 - Feelings and Friends
We create rules sometimes about what our partners can do because we’re afraid of losing them, but sometimes the rules we make don’t actually change anything.
19:51
December 03, 2021
Episode 70 - Half Ghosting
What happens when your mutual partner ghosts you, but not your partner? Rejection sucks, but this feels a bit different. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What happens when your partner and your best friend don’t get along?
19:57
November 12, 2021
Episode 69 - Self-Sacrificing Too Much
If you’ve given a partner 10 years in monogamy, but they expect you to be happy and feel compersion after deciding to be polyamorous, you might be self-sacrificing  a little too much.  That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What’s one major way your values have changed in the last 10 years?
25:34
October 29, 2021
Episode 68 - Mismatched Ideals
If your partner is polyamorous but you are non-monogamous is your relationship doomed? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What is your ideal polyamory or non-monogamy set-up?
21:45
October 15, 2021
Episode 67 - Temporary Monogamy
Can an aversion to non-monogamy come from relationship anxiety and trauma? Discussion Topic - What have you changed your mind about in terms of how you want to live your life?
34:11
October 01, 2021
Episode 66 - Hidden Metamour
Even if you have confusing boundaries and you’re not “official”, lying by omission can still feel like cheating. Discussion Topic - What is a non-monogamous setup that wouldn’t work for you?
15:22
September 17, 2021
Episode 65 - No Longer Primary
How do you force yourself out of apathy if you feel the partner you want to settle down with is slipping away? Discussion Topic - How has your ideal lifestyle changed over time?
20:39
September 03, 2021
Episode 64 - What Rules to Have
Will the rules you want to put in place prevent what you think they will prevent? Discussion Topic - If you could pick to either read your partner’s mind or have them read yours, which would you pick?
18:07
August 20, 2021
Episode 63 - Visualising Your Partner
What if you can’t see your partner with someone else in your head without feeling terrible? Discussion Topic - Was is one thing that you didn’t get as a child that you want to now have as an adult?
22:27
August 06, 2021
Episode 62 - More Metamour Toxicity
Your partner’s partner’s partner doesn’t seem like they’re good for your metamour, but what can you actually do? Discussion Topic - How many of your friends know each other?
18:58
July 23, 2021
Episode 61 - PTSD and Polyamory
A previous abusive experience of a polyam relationship is causing floods of emotions on your second try. Should you stop? Discussion Topic - If I knew I couldn’t fail in my professional life, I would like to try to…
27:55
July 09, 2021
Episode 60 - Temporarily Open
Can opening your relationship temporarily work to address an incompatibility? Discussion Topic - How do you prefer to be broken up with?
22:11
June 18, 2021
Episode 59 - Feeling Disconnected
If COVID caught a relationship when it was just forming, is it worth picking back up again if you’re feeling disconnected? Discussion Topic - How do you prefer to end a relationship? We always assume that in-person is better, but is it?
18:28
June 04, 2021
Episode 58 - Sexual Incompatibility
After more than a decade, your partner wants to open up because he’s not happy, but you think things are going too fast. What do you do? Discussion Topic - How much detail do you want to know?
25:51
May 21, 2021
Episode 57 - Begging For Time
You’ve started in a new triad but you’re feeling like the third wheel and no one is spending time with you. What do you do? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - You’ve started in a new triad but you’re feeling like the third wheel and no one is spending time with you. What do you do?
21:33
May 07, 2021
Episode 56 - Escalating Past a Metamour
Your partner is escalating your relationship and it’s making your metamour jealous. What can you do? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What does an “escalation” in a relationship mean to you?
18:01
April 23, 2021
Episode 55 - How Much is Too Much
How much is too much to know about your partner’s other relationships? Where is the line? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - Do you believe in first impressions?
25:52
April 09, 2021
Episode 54 - Sacrificing Too Much
When you're trying your best with polyamory but it feels like if you don't get it right, you may get divorced. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - Should you sacrifice for your relationship? What is worth sacrificing?
31:42
March 26, 2021
Episode 53 - Forgiving Mistakes
You have a metamour who thinks someone you're dating is a bad person. What do you do? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What do you think about forgiveness? When should one be forgiven?
28:21
March 12, 2021
Episode 52 - Anxious After Marriage
Anxiety that's so overwhelming can make you feel like non-monogamy isn't for you at the time. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What is your ideal living situation? With or without partners? How would you organise your space?
20:40
February 26, 2021
Episode 51 - Conversion Therapy
When you don't want to be polyamorous anymore and you're considering therapy to convert yourself back. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What is the biggest lesson you’ve learned from previous relationships?
20:37
February 12, 2021
Episode 50 - What Is Love?
Your partner expects you to commit to monogamy eventually but you're not sure if you've ever been in love. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - If you were to get a job offer in another country, how would your relationships change?
20:51
January 15, 2021
Episode 49 - Wanting Monogamy
A partner comes to you asking if you'd consider monogamy and then changes their mind later on, but you're still stuck on wanting it. What do you do? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What is one behaviour you never tolerate?
20:04
January 01, 2021
Episode 48 - Too Much NRE
Is 18 months enough time to give someone to decide if they want polyamory?  That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What is your love language?
33:54
December 18, 2020
Episode 47 - Harem Boy
Should you judge a guy who says that all men want a harem of submissive women? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - Describe your ideal p*rn.
29:23
December 04, 2020
Episode 46 - STI Risks
How worried should you be about STI risk as an immunocompromised person? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - Why do you think your parents are the way they are? What were the pressures and difficulties they were under?
32:29
November 20, 2020
Episode 45 - Sex Work and Polyamory
What resources are available for someone who asks about dating a sex worker? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What do you blame your parents for?
15:03
November 06, 2020
Episode 44 - You Don't Need 5 Partners
What happens when you struggle to find partners but your domestic partner does not? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What often impairs your decision making process? Lack of confidence, impatience desire to please, overexcitement…
17:14
October 23, 2020
Episode 43 - What if It Ends?
What happens when our biggest fear is losing our current relationship? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - In your worst fears, what might your colleagues at work be criticising you for behind your back?
26:47
October 09, 2020
Episode 42 - The Dreaded Veto
When you've conceded to many rules but your partner demands you dump another, what do you do? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What do you most regret so far? https://nonmonogamyhelp.com
32:03
September 25, 2020
Episode 41 - No Rules Just Wrong
In trying establish rules, does that make you less "ready" for non-monogamy or polyamory? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - List the now guilt inducing occasions when you were especially mean to certain people. https://nonmonogamyhelp.com
31:50
September 11, 2020
Episode 40 - Polyam is Valid
What if you're struggling to see the relationship you have as valid if they're married to someone else? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - If a really kind person wanted to praise me, they'd say, if a really tough person assessed me, they'd say... https://nonmonogamyhelp.com https://go.nonmonogamyhelp.com/email https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix @NonMonogamyHelp
16:39
August 14, 2020
Episode 39 - Multiple Escalators
Is it possible to build a new primary relationship on top of an existing, serious secondary relationship? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - If someone likes me, I feel... https://nonmonogamyhelp.com https://go.nonmonogamyhelp.com/email https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix @NonMonogamyHelp
18:30
July 31, 2020
Episode 38 - Is Polyamory Part of Me?
Is polyamory an inherent part of who you are or is it something you can learn to be. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Please visit @NonMonogamyHelp and view our post here: https://twitter.com/NonMonogamyHelp/status/1267089826492428288
23:39
July 17, 2020
Episode 37 - Don't Want to Share
When you and your partner are dating the same person and you're tired of sharing. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Please visit @NonMonogamyHelp and view our post here: https://twitter.com/NonMonogamyHelp/status/1267089826492428288
14:14
July 03, 2020
Episode 36 - Last Ditch Attempt
Should you go with polyamory to keep someone in your life? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Please visit @NonMonogamyHelp and view our post here: https://twitter.com/NonMonogamyHelp/status/1267089826492428288
21:38
June 19, 2020
Episode 35 - Primary Responsibility
Do titles matter when one partner asks for exclusive time? And an important commentary for all listeners. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Please visit @NonMonogamyHelp and view our post here: https://twitter.com/NonMonogamyHelp/status/1267089826492428288
17:27
June 05, 2020
Episode 34 - Afraid of Loss
Your partner doesn't want to try polyamory because they are afraid to lose you. How do you move forward from that? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What are you a little addicted to? https://nonmonogamyhelp.com https://go.nonmonogamyhelp.com/email https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix @NonMonogamyHelp
17:26
May 22, 2020
Episode 33 - Stuck in the Middle
What happens when you feel stuck in the middle of your partner and their metamour? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What are you a little addicted to? https://nonmonogamyhelp.com https://go.nonmonogamyhelp.com/email https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix @NonMonogamyHelp
18:44
May 08, 2020
Episode 32 - Dating a Colleague
If you fell for someone at work and they're now off limits, should you keep pushing it? Is your partner giving you an unfair veto? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What are you a little addicted to? https://nonmonogamyhelp.com https://go.nonmonogamyhelp.com/email https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix @NonMonogamyHelp
22:50
April 24, 2020
Episode 31 - So Uncomfortable
If you've replaced your partner's primary, how do you stop caring that you'll be replaced too? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet? https://nonmonogamyhelp.com https://go.nonmonogamyhelp.com/email https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix @NonMonogamyHelp
19:59
April 10, 2020
Episode 30 - How to Not Care
If you've replaced your partner's primary, how do you stop caring that you'll be replaced too? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What was the first thing you bought with your own money? https://nonmonogamyhelp.com https://go.nonmonogamyhelp.com/email https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix @NonMonogamyHelp
25:43
March 20, 2020
Episode 29 - Preventing Cheating
Can opening a relationship prevent cheating from ever happening? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What is the best advice you've ever gotten? https://nonmonogamyhelp.com https://go.nonmonogamyhelp.com/email https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix @NonMonogamyHelp
23:32
March 06, 2020
Episode 28 - Unhealthy or Incompatible
What do you do if your partner wants no restrictions but you need reassurance that what you have means something? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What do you think of public displays of affection or PDA? https://nonmonogamyhelp.com https://go.nonmonogamyhelp.com/email https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix @NonMonogamyHelp
32:02
February 21, 2020
Episode 27 - Signs of Seriousness
How do you know your relationship is 'serious'? Is asking about it going to bug your partner too much? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - Would you lie to make your partner happy? When does a good lie become a bad lie? https://nonmonogamyhelp.com https://go.nonmonogamyhelp.com/email https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix @NonMonogamyHelp
26:12
February 07, 2020
Episode 26 - Flirting or Cheating
What if your partner has always flirted in a way you define is cheating and now they want to be non-monogamous. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - True or False: I know how to stand up for myself. https://nonmonogamyhelp.com https://go.nonmonogamyhelp.com/email https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix @NonMonogamyHelp
25:52
January 24, 2020
Episode 25 - First Time Jitters
If your first foray into non-monogamy is cheating - but it's not sexual - are you doomed? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - If you had a memoir, what would the title of it be? https://nonmonogamyhelp.com https://go.nonmonogamyhelp.com/email https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix @NonMonogamyHelp
22:32
January 10, 2020
Episode 24 - Rules Won't Save You
Can you make enough rules to prevent your partner from leaving you? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - Which better describes you? When my partner disappoints me… 1. I go cold, tend to withdraw and like to be alone… 2. I feel panicked and explode into rage with them… https://nonmonogamyhelp.com https://tinyletter.com/NonMonogamyHelp https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix @NonMonogamyHelp
40:13
December 27, 2019
Episode 23 - Abusive Metamours
Your partner is trapped in what you think is a psychologically abusive relationship. Can you get them to leave? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on Patreon. Discussion Topic - What slightly unhealthy things feel attractive in a partner? How might this relate to your relationships with your parents? https://nonmonogamyhelp.com https://tinyletter.com/NonMonogamyHelp https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix @NonMonogamyHelp
28:33
December 13, 2019
Episode 22 - Backup Wife
A husband asks a wife to open their relationship after cancer, with some troubling caveats. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on Patreon. Discussion Topic - List five ways you are difficult to live with. https://nonmonogamyhelp.com https://tinyletter.com/NonMonogamyHelp https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix @NonMonogamyHelp Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
27:39
November 29, 2019
Episode 21 - Walking on Eggshells
A metamour's temper has this individual walking on eggshells. Is it because they aren't doing enough? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Full audio transcript can be found on Patreon. Discussion Topic - What negative character flaws do you fear other people see in you? https://nonmonogamyhelp.com https://tinyletter.com/NonMonogamyHelp https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix @NonMonogamyHelp Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
26:27
November 15, 2019
Episode 20 - Ethical Non-Monogamy
Your marriage doesn't have passion but a new friendship does. How do make what's been unethical ethical? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Full audio transcript can be found on Patreon. More about Non-Monogamy Help: https://nonmonogamyhelp.com https://tinyletter.com/NonMonogamyHelp https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix https://twitter.com/NonMonogamyHelp Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
27:16
October 18, 2019
Episode 19 - Is Polyamory Lazy?
Is polyamory just an easy way to go from person to person to get what you want. Or is there more to it than that? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Full audio transcript can be found on Patreon. More about Non-Monogamy Help: https://nonmonogamyhelp.com https://tinyletter.com/NonMonogamyHelp https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix https://twitter.com/NonMonogamyHelp Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
22:12
October 04, 2019
Episode 18 - Monster of a Metamour
You don't get along with your metamour and what's more -- you think they might be unhealthy for your partner. What do you do? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Full audio transcript can be found on Patreon. More about Non-Monogamy Help: https://nonmonogamyhelp.com https://tinyletter.com/NonMonogamyHelp https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix https://twitter.com/NonMonogamyHelp Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
28:16
September 20, 2019
Episode 17 - Delaying The Inevitable
Your partner has agreed to open your relationship, but you're afraid to make the first leap. Should you wait until they have a date first? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Full audio transcript can be found on Patreon. More about Non-Monogamy Help: https://nonmonogamyhelp.com https://tinyletter.com/NonMonogamyHelp https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix https://twitter.com/NonMonogamyHelp Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
30:17
September 06, 2019
Episode 16 - Just Deal With It
Your partner has told you that they want to sleep with other people and expects you to just deal with it. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Full audio transcript can be found on Patreon. More about Non-Monogamy Help: https://nonmonogamyhelp.com https://tinyletter.com/NonMonogamyHelp https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix https://twitter.com/NonMonogamyHelp Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
17:57
August 23, 2019
Episode 15 - Fancying An Artist
Your partner has never been too keen on non-monogamy, but you have an appointment with an artist you can't resist. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Full audio transcript can be found on Patreon. More about Non-Monogamy Help: https://nonmonogamyhelp.com https://tinyletter.com/NonMonogamyHelp https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix https://twitter.com/NonMonogamyHelp Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
14:09
August 09, 2019
Episode 14 - To Open or Not To Open
Should you end a marriage with kids just because your partner wants to be explore? Or just wait it out? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Full audio transcript can be found on Patreon. More about Non-Monogamy Help: https://nonmonogamyhelp.com https://tinyletter.com/NonMonogamyHelp https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix https://twitter.com/NonMonogamyHelp Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
31:56
July 29, 2019
Episode 13 - I Wanna Ruin Our Friendship
You've fallen for your (very monogamous) best friend. Should you take the plunge and 'ruin' your friendship? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Full audio transcript can be found on Patreon. More about Non-Monogamy Help: https://nonmonogamyhelp.com https://tinyletter.com/NonMonogamyHelp https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix https://twitter.com/NonMonogamyHelp Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
19:12
July 12, 2019
Episode 12 - Needing To Be Touched
When your partner feels like they can’t touch anyone any more, are cheating or polyamory your only options? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Full audio transcript can be found on Patreon. More about Non-Monogamy Help: https://medium.com/non-monogamy-help https://tinyletter.com/NonMonogamyHelp https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix https://twitter.com/NonMonogamyHelp Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
19:23
June 28, 2019
Episode 11 - Long Distance Lament
Your relationship has moved to long distance and your partner has a new partner... and is now ignoring your needs. What do you do? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Full audio transcript can be found on Patreon. More about Non-Monogamy Help: https://medium.com/non-monogamy-help https://tinyletter.com/NonMonogamyHelp https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix https://twitter.com/NonMonogamyHelp Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
25:60
June 14, 2019
Episode 10 - Forced into Polyamory
Your partner wants to open your relationship, but you don't. And you have kids. What now? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Full audio transcript can be found on Patreon. More about Non-Monogamy Help: https://medium.com/non-monogamy-help https://tinyletter.com/NonMonogamyHelp https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix https://twitter.com/NonMonogamyHelp Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
28:09
May 17, 2019
Episode 9 - Winning Gold Medals
Are you giving your partner a gold medal for doing something they should be doing anyway? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Full audio transcript can be found on Patreon. More about Non-Monogamy Help: https://medium.com/non-monogamy-help https://tinyletter.com/NonMonogamyHelp https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix https://twitter.com/NonMonogamyHelp Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
22:30
May 03, 2019
Episode 8 - Polyamorous and Pregnant
When a baby's on the way should you close the relationship if you feel you can't trust your partner? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Full audio transcript can be found on Patreon. More about Non-Monogamy Help: https://medium.com/non-monogamy-help https://tinyletter.com/NonMonogamyHelp https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix https://twitter.com/NonMonogamyHelp Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
27:40
April 19, 2019
Episode 7 - Polyagony
Tired of juggling partners, living in polyagony, and ready to throw in the towel. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Full audio transcript can be found on Patreon. More about Non-Monogamy Help: https://medium.com/non-monogamy-help https://tinyletter.com/NonMonogamyHelp https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix https://twitter.com/NonMonogamyHelp Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
30:24
April 05, 2019
Episode 6: Polyam in the Middle
When an attempt at kitchen table polyamory goes awry and two of your loves can't see eye to eye. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Full audio transcript can be found on Patreon. More about Non-Monogamy Help: https://medium.com/non-monogamy-help https://tinyletter.com/NonMonogamyHelp https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix https://twitter.com/NonMonogamyHelp Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
24:23
March 22, 2019
Episode 5: Tricky triangles and BPD
When is a good time to try and see if you are non-monogamous? And how can borderline personality disorder impact it? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Full audio transcript can be found on Patreon. More about Non-Monogamy Help: https://medium.com/non-monogamy-help https://tinyletter.com/NonMonogamyHelp https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix https://twitter.com/NonMonogamyHelp Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
34:53
March 08, 2019
Episode 4: Getting Married As a Triad
Is it possible to get married to both of the loves of your life? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Full audio transcript can be found on Patreon. More about Non-Monogamy Help: https://medium.com/non-monogamy-help https://tinyletter.com/NonMonogamyHelp https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix https://twitter.com/NonMonogamyHelp Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
17:08
February 22, 2019
Episode 3: Shouldn't this be easier if I've cheated?
What if you've tried non-monogamy because you cheated, and it's not working out as well as you thought? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Full audio transcript can be found on Patreon. More about Non-Monogamy Help: https://medium.com/non-monogamy-help https://tinyletter.com/NonMonogamyHelp https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix https://twitter.com/NonMonogamyHelp Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
24:36
February 08, 2019
Episode 2: STIs Don't Care About Feelings
What happens when your partner is fluid bonded with others but you want them to be fluid bonded to you instead? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Full audio transcript can be found on Patreon. More about Non-Monogamy Help: https://medium.com/non-monogamy-help https://tinyletter.com/NonMonogamyHelp https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix https://twitter.com/NonMonogamyHelp Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
34:25
January 25, 2019
Episode 1: Thruple Trouble
What do you do when you start dating a couple and things don't seem to be going right... but that's actually going according to plan? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. More about Non-Monogamy Help: https://medium.com/non-monogamy-help https://tinyletter.com/NonMonogamyHelp https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix https://twitter.com/NonMonogamyHelp Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
19:27
January 11, 2019