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Not A Tomboy | Raising a Trans Son

Not A Tomboy | Raising a Trans Son

By Vanessa Nichols

Welcome to Not A Tomboy! This is where I talk about my journey of raising a transgender son, raising trans voices, centering the needs of the trans community.

I'm dispelling myths, sharing resources, answering questions, and giving some raw honesty on parenting a transgender child.

Thanks for listening! Please send me a voicemail if you have questions or topic suggestions!
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Pride Month Is Here! | An Interview With LGBTQ+ Activist Marissa McCool

Not A Tomboy | Raising a Trans SonJun 09, 2020

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PRIDE MONTH IS HERE! | A Chat With Advocate, Author, and Activist Amber Leventry
Jun 28, 202059:20
PRIDE MONTH IS HERE! | A Chat With Transgender Activist Nikole Parker
Jun 22, 202042:43
PRIDE MONTH IS HERE! | A Chat With Social Media Influencer Tia Samuda

PRIDE MONTH IS HERE! | A Chat With Social Media Influencer Tia Samuda

Tia Samuda is just so many amazing, wonderful things: a Jamaican native, an educator, a healthcare worker, a make-up artist, and a social media influencer. And to top it off, she's funny and kind. Tia and I talk all things from what it was like being raised in a country where being gay is literally still a crime, to BLM, to pride, to make-up. Tia is a member of the LGBTQ+ community and an amazing visible presence. This is a must listen because Tia is a ray of sun. 

Tia is asking listeners to support black owned business. Make-up: Juvias Place, Rainbow Station, Ikavins Cosmetics, Creole Cosmetics

Jun 16, 202001:00:05
Pride Month Is Here! | Interview with Transgender Activist Nate Quinn
Jun 14, 202001:00:30
Pride Month Is Here! | An Interview With LGBTQ+ Activist Marissa McCool

Pride Month Is Here! | An Interview With LGBTQ+ Activist Marissa McCool

Marissa A. McCool, LGBTQ+ activist, women's semi-pro football star, author, pod-caster and Minneapolis resident, breaks it all down with me: what we should be celebrating this pride month 2020, what it's like being in the epicenter of this civil rights revolution, what coming out as trans looked like for her, and much, much more.  Marissa drops invaluable knowledge during this episode.  Marissa and I acknowledge our white privilege discussing these historic times we're in. Marissa passes on excellent information on ally-ship to all marginalized communities. This episode is a must listen. 

WE ARE ENCOURAGING LISTENERS TO DONATE TO MARISSA'S FAVORITE CHARITY, RAISING BLACK VOICES, Black Nonbelivers: https://blacknonbelievers.com/donate/

Jun 09, 202001:08:55
Interview With My Son Dylan Pt 2: PRIDE IS COMING!!!

Interview With My Son Dylan Pt 2: PRIDE IS COMING!!!

In this episode, we cover a LOT of ground. 

We talk about pride and how we will celebrate one another in the LGBTQ+ community social distance style. Dylan talks about his favorite pride experiences, gives suggestions on social distancing pride celebrations, we talk about The Trans Love Project, and MUCH MORE. It's a packed 25 minutes with my amazing, brave son.

May 27, 202025:05
My first guest speaker! A chat with Dylan!

My first guest speaker! A chat with Dylan!

On today’s episode, we talk about what it’s like being a kid in quarantine, as well as hear from Dylan about what it’s like to be a public, visible trans kid. Dylan gives some great answers to some difficult questions!
Apr 22, 202015:33
Using Social Media Wisely During a Global Pandemic, Deleting Facebook, and an Appearance By My Son

Using Social Media Wisely During a Global Pandemic, Deleting Facebook, and an Appearance By My Son

We are all using social media incessantly during this quarantine but when is it too much? When your child tells you it is! In this episode, I’ll talk about weighing the pros and cons of using social media during this unprecedented time and why I chose to delete Facebook, a platform where I had previously done so much LGBT advocacy work. My son Dylan also weighs in on the topic in a special guest appearance!
Apr 14, 202034:18
Episode 5: The Hate We Receive. Advocacy on social media and the hate that tags along.

Episode 5: The Hate We Receive. Advocacy on social media and the hate that tags along.

Sharing a special moment with our special bubble on social media that went awry. The lessons learned, the hurt, and the pause button.
Sep 13, 201947:15
It Was All A Dream: The Evolving Emotions of Raising a Trans Kiddo

It Was All A Dream: The Evolving Emotions of Raising a Trans Kiddo

In this episode, I dive into some of the emotions of my journey so far. As parents of trans kids, we rarely discuss our emotions because this journey isn’t about us. But that doesn’t mean we aren’t grappling with some enormous emotions.
Nov 01, 201828:36
Episode 3: Coming Out As Trans In Elementary School

Episode 3: Coming Out As Trans In Elementary School

This episode highlights our experience of my son coming out at school. I will give resources to parents on this journey, highlight the positives and negatives of our experience, give some talking points.
Sep 26, 201834:57
Episode 2- Q&A Time!

Episode 2- Q&A Time!

Some Questions With Answers. Answering questions about name choices, hormones, surgery, and gender identity versus sexuality.
Sep 14, 201822:42
Welcome! Our story and why I’m here.

Welcome! Our story and why I’m here.

In this episode, I tell my story of how I got here, parenting a transgender child. And how Caitlyn Jenner gave my son his voice.
Sep 11, 201820:21