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Nonviolent Communication - Marshall Rosenberg's NVC Training

Nonviolent Communication - Marshall Rosenberg's NVC Training

By Joe Public

Nonviolent communication is a process that consists of an intention to contribute to our own well being, and the well being of others, compassionately.

So that whatever we do is done willingly, not done out of guilt, or shame, or fear of punishment, or trying to buy love, by submitting to what we think others expect us to do.

That we give solely out of the joy that comes naturally from contributing to life. Our own life and the lives of others.

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An Interview with Marshall Rosenberg 2015
An Interview with Marshall Rosenberg 2015
An Interview with Marshall Rosenberg 2015
51:05
March 29, 2021
 Marshall Rosenberg Einfuhrung in die Gewaltfreie Kommunikation Teil 3 & 4
Marshall Rosenberg Einfuhrung in die Gewaltfreie Kommunikation Teil 3 & 4
Marshall shares the message of nonviolent communication for a German audience accompanied by a translator. Parts 3 and 4.
01:35:35
March 22, 2021
Marshall Rosenberg Einfuhrung in die Gewaltfreie Kommunikation Teil 2
Marshall Rosenberg Einfuhrung in die Gewaltfreie Kommunikation Teil 2
Marshall shares the message of nonviolent communication for a German audience accompanied by a translator.
02:34:58
March 10, 2021
Marshall Rosenberg Einfuhrung in die Gewaltfreie Kommunikation Part 1
Marshall Rosenberg Einfuhrung in die Gewaltfreie Kommunikation Part 1
Marshall shares the message of nonviolent communication accompanied by a German translator
02:25:53
March 03, 2021
PEACE TALKS: Nonviolent Communication (KUNM Airdate: June 27, 2003)
PEACE TALKS: Nonviolent Communication (KUNM Airdate: June 27, 2003)
Peace Talks is a series of public radio programs that investigates how people can make peace and pursue nonviolent solutions to conflict - within themselves, their families and communities, and the world. In addition to the KUNM half-hour series, a national series is in development. Each episode of Peace Talks national series would be recorded before a live audience in a town hall format at venues across the United States and will feature a renown leader in peace studies or negotiation as well as a peacemaker chosen from the host community. http://www.goodradioshows.org/peaceTalksL05.htm
01:16:47
February 22, 2021
Self Empathy by Marshall Rosenberg
Self Empathy by Marshall Rosenberg
Self Empathy by Marshall Rosenberg Leave a voice message https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message
02:07:47
February 08, 2021
Paula Glorias Interview with Marshall Rosenberg
Paula Glorias Interview with Marshall Rosenberg
Nonviolent Communication Paula Glorias Interview with Marshall Rosenberg Leave a voice message https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message
01:22:48
January 31, 2021
3. Marshall Rosenberg NVC Workshop 2004 Portland OR
3. Marshall Rosenberg NVC Workshop 2004 Portland OR
3. Marshall Rosenberg NVC Workshop 2004 Portland OR Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast: https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast, contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
01:06:09
January 19, 2021
2. Marshall Rosenberg NVC Workshop 2004 Portland OR
2. Marshall Rosenberg NVC Workshop 2004 Portland OR
Marshall Rosenberg NVC Workshop 2004 Portland OR Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast: https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast, contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
58:48
January 13, 2021
1. Marshall Rosenberg NVC Workshop 2004 Portland OR
1. Marshall Rosenberg NVC Workshop 2004 Portland OR
Marshall Rosenberg NVC Workshop 2004 Portland OR Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast: https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast, contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
01:00:24
January 10, 2021
Communication for deepening intimacy - Marshall Rosenberg
Communication for deepening intimacy - Marshall Rosenberg
Communication for deepening intimacy - Marshall Rosenberg Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
57:18
January 02, 2021
Needs and Empathy with Marshall Rosenberg
Needs and Empathy with Marshall Rosenberg
Needs and Empathy Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
01:05:51
December 26, 2020
Speaking Peace - Part 2
Speaking Peace - Part 2
Speaking Peace - Part 2 - Introductory Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
01:16:56
December 13, 2020
Speaking Peace - Part 1
Speaking Peace - Part 1
Speaking Peace - Part 1 - Introductory Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
01:16:19
December 12, 2020
 Making Life Wonderful #8 - An Intermediate Training
Making Life Wonderful #8 - An Intermediate Training
 Making Life Wonderful #8 - An Intermediate Training Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
01:21:39
December 06, 2020
 Making Life Wonderful #7 - An Intermediate Training
Making Life Wonderful #7 - An Intermediate Training
 Making Life Wonderful #7 - An Intermediate Training Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
56:41
December 06, 2020
Making Life Wonderful - #6 - An Intermediate Training
Making Life Wonderful - #6 - An Intermediate Training
Making Life Wonderful - Part 6 of 8 - An Intermediate Training Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
58:60
December 03, 2020
Making Life Wonderful - #5 - An Intermediate Training
Making Life Wonderful - #5 - An Intermediate Training
Making Life Wonderful - Part 5 of 8 - An Intermediate Training Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
01:02:49
December 03, 2020
Making Life Wonderful #4 - An Intermediate Training
Making Life Wonderful #4 - An Intermediate Training
Making Life Wonderful - Part 4 of 8 - An Intermediate Training Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
01:00:35
December 01, 2020
Making Life Wonderful #3 - An Intermediate Training
Making Life Wonderful #3 - An Intermediate Training
Making Life Wonderful - Part 3 of 8 - An Intermediate Training Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
59:03
December 01, 2020
Making Life Wonderful #2 - An Intermediate Training
Making Life Wonderful #2 - An Intermediate Training
Making Life Wonderful #2 - An Intermediate Training Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
50:29
November 27, 2020
Making Life Wonderful (1 of 8) An Intermediate Training
Making Life Wonderful (1 of 8) An Intermediate Training
Making Life Wonderful (1 of 8) An Intermediate Training Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
01:09:16
November 27, 2020
Words are Windows, or They're Walls #2
Words are Windows, or They're Walls #2
Nonviolent Communication, also called Giraffe Language, is amazingly simple, given how profoundly valuable it has been to thousands of people. It entails clearly expressing and receiving information about what is going on within oneself without in any way criticizing or attacking others in the process and with empathy receiving information about what is going on within others, even when it is expressed in a hostile manner. Nonviolent Communication focuses attention on actions that can enrich our lives and the lives of others. Words are Windows, or They're Walls Was recorded at a presentation in Copenhagen, where Marshall Rosenberg introduces Nonviolent Communication with humor and clarity. He illustrates the model with everyday situations presented by the audience. The American Psychologist Marshall Rosenberg is the founding director of The Center for Nonviolent Communication in the US and Switzerland, an educational organization providing individuals and organizations with the interpersonal communication skills needed to resolve personal, professional, and political conflicts through mutual understanding. Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
01:11:19
November 17, 2020
Words are Windows, or They're Walls #1
Words are Windows, or They're Walls #1
Nonviolent Communication, also called Giraffe Language, is amazingly simple, given how profoundly valuable it has been to thousands of people. It entails clearly expressing and receiving information about what is going on within oneself without in any way criticizing or attacking others in the process and with empathy receiving information about what is going on within others, even when it is expressed in a hostile manner. Nonviolent Communication focuses attention on actions that can enrich our lives and the lives of others. Words are Windows, or They're Walls Was recorded at a presentation in Copenhagen, where Marshall Rosenberg introduces Nonviolent Communication with humor and clarity. He illustrates the model with everyday situations presented by the audience. The American Psychologist Marshall Rosenberg is the founding director of The Center for Nonviolent Communication in the US and Switzerland, an educational organization providing individuals and organizations with the interpersonal communication skills needed to resolve personal, professional, and political conflicts through mutual understanding. Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
01:03:32
November 17, 2020
Marshall Rosenberg - Resolving Conflicts with Children #2
Marshall Rosenberg - Resolving Conflicts with Children #2
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01:00:22
November 10, 2020
Marshall Rosenberg - Resolving Conflicts with Children #1
Marshall Rosenberg - Resolving Conflicts with Children #1
Video on Youtube Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
59:50
November 10, 2020
Experiencing Needs as Gifts
Experiencing Needs as Gifts
Marshall Rosenberg 2000 Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
58:08
October 31, 2020
Nonviolent Communication Marshall Rosenberg "San Francisco Lecture"
Nonviolent Communication Marshall Rosenberg "San Francisco Lecture"
Nonviolent Communication Marshall Rosenberg "Lecture Hall" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eF6kMJxOpvI&t=60s Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
01:03:03
October 24, 2020
Expressing and Receiving Anger Compassionately Using the Principles of NVC - Marshall Rosenberg - January 1, 1998
Expressing and Receiving Anger Compassionately Using the Principles of NVC - Marshall Rosenberg - January 1, 1998
Expressing and Receiving Anger Compassionately Using the Principles of NVC - January 1, 1998 Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
44:30
October 18, 2020
The power we have to create the world of our choosing
The power we have to create the world of our choosing
Marshall Rosenbergs keynote address at the United Church of Religious  Science 2005 Community Gathering in San Diego, California a lively and  witty introductory presentation of NVC showing how we can make life  miserable or wonderful for ourselves and others depending upon how we  think and communicate. Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
01:00:26
October 11, 2020
Giraffe Fuel for Life
Giraffe Fuel for Life
Marshall Rosenberg’s topics include: Gratitude exercises, the making of  giraffe fuel for life, components of gratitude, reward and punishment,  hearing people’s feelings and needs rather than their thoughts, what  stops us from celebrating life, and more. Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
01:12:52
October 05, 2020
3. The Basics of Nonviolent Communication with Marshall B. Rosenberg
3. The Basics of Nonviolent Communication with Marshall B. Rosenberg
I sometimes do workshops just with the married couples or other people living together in a love relationship and what we do to begin the workshop. We identify the couple who has had a conflict, the longest outstanding conflict that could not be resolved. I make a prediction and it's right. My prediction has been accurate and it may be I'm sure at least 75% of the cases, but my prediction is this that we will resolve the conflict within 20 minutes, within 20 minutes. From the point at which both parties can tell me what the other party is needing. (2:00:09) Okay. One time we found a couple married, 39 years had a conflict, had not been able to resolve this conflict. The wife said to me, Marshall, I can tell you right We're not going to be able to resolve this within 20 minutes, we have a good marriage. We communicate well. But this is just one of those things that we're different people. We just have a conflict here. I said, let me correct. One thing I didn't say we're going to resolve it within 20 minutes. I said within 20 minutes, from the point at which you can both tell me what the other party is needing. Oh, she said Marshall, when you've been married 39 years and you've talked about something almost every day, I can tell you we understand each other. The problem isn't that we're just two different people in this issue. Well, I said, I've been wrong before. I can sure be wrong this time, but let's see. We'll find out within 20 minutes. First tell me what his needs are in this situation. (2:01:12) He doesn't want me to spend any money. He responds immediately. That's ridiculous. 39 years of communicati on. First of all, doesn't want me to spend any money is not a need. Needs, and strategies need to be separated. They had been talking about how much mone tould spend and not spend, but the more important issue there was,,ae main, issue between them. See, but that's, I'm sayin Int the couple to talk about the strategies or the solutions until the connection is there. When the connection is there, the conflicts usually resolve themselves. I pointed out to her, no, that's not a need. Even if it was notice, he's saying that's not accurate. It, okay. Let me then tell you what his needs are. (2:02:12) Marshall. You see t's just like his own father. They both have a depression mentality when it comes to money. ,Iato that, no, I'm not asking for an analysis of his personality. I'm saying, what are his needs? She didn't know,. After 39 years, she had no awareness consciou Is. I said to him, okay, well she doesn't know why don't you tell her? Well, Marshall, let me tell you what her needs are. She's a lovely woman, wonderful mother, a wonderful wife. But when it comes to money, she's totally irresponsible. Here comes another 39 years. I asked her a need and he gives me a diagnosis. Of course she immediately says, that's unfair. I said, hold it.  read more at CognitiveTech Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
01:06:43
September 10, 2020
2. The Basics of Nonviolent Communication with Marshall B. Rosenberg
2. The Basics of Nonviolent Communication with Marshall B. Rosenberg
How to make clear requests after we have expressed our unmet need. A clear request defined in giraffe is first, it's a positive action. We say what we do want, not what we don't want. A woman gave me a very good example of what happens when you say what you don't want, in a workshop. She said, you've really helped me understand what happened to recently, Marshall. I said to my husband, I don't want you spending so much time work. Then I got furious with him, when he signed up for a golf tournament. A teacher gave me a similar example. She said just yesterday, Marshall, I said to this young boy, please, I don't want you tapping on your book while I'm talking. He started to tap on his desk. Saying what we don't want, doesn't make clear what we do want. If we frame our objectives in getting rid of something, it leads to violence, very often. It makes violence seem attractive, when we try to get rid of something. For example, I was working with some teachers in the school in Rockford, Illinois, their observable behavior they wanted to work on is, on the average every three months, 38 broken windows in the school. We got down to the request. I said, what do you want different from the students? It's obvious. We don't want them breaking windows. You're saying you don't want the children breaking windows. Yes. What should we do? Kill them? Research has demonstrated dead children break no windows. Almost any time we think of what we want to get rid of. It makes violence look attractive. As stupid as that example was, I just gave, you look in the newspaper on any given day and see how many world leaders are saying, we're going to teach them not to. We're going to get them to stop. They think the violence is going to, see this always makes violence seem attractive. It's only as I said earlier, when we get to questions clear, what do we want people to do? What do we want their reasons to be for doing it? Then I think we'll see violence never works. We want to say what we want to say in the positive. What do we want the other person to do? What do we want them to start doing differently? Second that it needs to be clear action language. (1:07:27) We can't do what this one wife did with her husband who came to a workshop with him. She said, I want you to listen to me when I talk. He said, I do listen. No you don't. Yes I do. No you don't. They told me they'd had this same conversation for 11 years. The problem is with the word. Listen, I see what does that. We can use the word, listen as a need. I have a need to be listened to. But when we moved to requests, we need to speak action language. What specific action do we want this person to take? We can't use the verb to be. I want you to be more friendly, not doable. We can't use feeling language. I want you to feel confidence in yourself. That's not doable. We need to be able to make very concrete requests, try it out with the behavior you've been writing about, in relation to what the other person did and your feelings and needs in relation to the action. Imagine you're talking directly to the person and express a request using this form. I would like you to, what do you want the person to do to meet your needs? continue reading at CogntiveTech Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
54:28
September 10, 2020
1. The Basics of Nonviolent Communication with Marshall B. Rosenberg
1. The Basics of Nonviolent Communication with Marshall B. Rosenberg
The Purpose of Nonviolent Communication & Expressing Observations and Feelings Comment First let me begin by clarifying the purpose of Nonviolent Communication. Its purpose is to help you to do what you already know how to do. Why do we need to learn something today that you already know how to do? Because sometimes we forget to do this. We forget because we’ve been educated to forget. Now what is it that i’m talking about that we already know how to do? The purpose of this process is to help us to connect in a way that makes natural giving possible. 01:01 What do I mean by natural giving? Let me do you a song to make it clear what i mean by natural giving. Given To I never feel more given to than when you take from me – when you understand the joy I feel giving to you. And you know my giving isn’t done to put you in my debt, but because I want to live the love I feel for you. To receive with grace may be the greatest giving. There’s no way I can separate the two. When you give to me, I give you my receiving. When you take from me, I feel so given to. Ruth Bebermeyer You all know that giving, you know how to do it, and that’s what i’m interested in. Remembering to stay with that quality of giving, moment by moment, in any connection. But we also all know that it’s easy to lose that connection, so that instead of enjoying that quality of giving which is possible every moment in every contact we have. In spite of how precious that is we forget. Instead of playing the game that song is about which i call making life wonderful for us, it’s the most fun game i’ve ever heard. Instead, much of the time we play another game called who’s right? have you ever played that game? It’s a game where everybody loses. Isn’t this amazing? We all know about this quality of giving that this song is about, it’s possible every moment, we find that the richest thing to do. Much of our life we end up playing who’s right. Read the rest of this transcript at CognitiveTech Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
01:04:33
September 10, 2020
Role of Sincere Gratitude - Session #9 - Nonviolent Communication Training - Marshall Rosenberg
Role of Sincere Gratitude - Session #9 - Nonviolent Communication Training - Marshall Rosenberg
In this session, I'll be talking about the role that sincere gratitude plays in helping us to remember what nonviolent communication is intended to serve. And to help us to maintain the energy that it takes to stay compassionate in a world that often makes that quite challenging. In an earlier session, I described the spirituality that nonviolent communication was designed to serve this process, nonviolent communication has great power to enrich our lives, when it is our intention to create the connections necessary for compassionate giving to take place. It's a great tool to support our being conscious of what's alive than others, and to hear what's alive and others in a way that makes giving enjoyable It's a process that helps us to share that information with others, how to be honest and share what's alive in us in a way that enables others to enjoy compassionately giving to us. A very important component in keeping this consciousness alive in us is the process of expressing gratitude to one another in a way that can be trusted, that it is a celebration of life, and not a form of communication that's designed to manipulate us to do things that others want. To clarify this, I'd like to make a difference between sincere gratitude and praise and compliments, very clear. Praise and compliments are given for the purpose of rewarding Parents, teachers, managers and industry that I have worked with, have told me that they have been in programs that have taught them that if you praise and compliment people daily, they work harder. So parents use praise and compliments, to reward their children to do things around the house that they want them to do. Teachers have been educated to use praise and compliments to get students to work harder. managers and industry tell me that they have been through similar programs. I point out to all of these groups, and if they look at the research, that is based on people using praise and compliments as rewards, they'll see that it isn't even that effective when used as a reward. It's only effective for a short time until the people see that the praise and the compliments are really not sincere expressions of gratitude. But they are at attempt to manipulate them to behave in ways that others want them to behave. And research shows that when people see that they sense that the praise and compliments are given out of that energy, they lose their desire to work harder and to contribute to what the authorities want them to do. So from the very beginning, I'd like to make it clear that the way of expressing gratitude that we'll be talking about in this session, the intent is to celebrate life, not to reward people for doing what we want them to do. And by celebrating life, I mean that we let people know how our needs have been fulfilled and how our life has been enriched by something they have done. And then our only intention is to celebrate that, and not in any way to put them under pressure to continue doing that which we would like them to do. On Youtube Full Transcript Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
01:06:21
February 03, 2020
NVC for Social Change - Session #8 - Nonviolent Communication Training - Marshall Rosenberg
NVC for Social Change - Session #8 - Nonviolent Communication Training - Marshall Rosenberg
In this session, I'll be focusing on how nonviolent communication can support our social change efforts. In previous sessions, I've shown how social change can be used to communicate with ourselves. We've also looked at how it can be used to communicate with others and our family relationships and our work relationships. Now, let's take a look at social change, which for me, to a large extent, shows how to use nonviolent communication when we are communicating with gangs. Now some gangs call themselves gangs, street gangs. I'm not so worried about these gangs and the damage that they might be doing. But I am concerned about some other gangs. These other gangs, don't call themselves gangs, these other gangs that I'm worried about. Some of them call themselves governments. Some of the gangs that I'm worried about, call themselves corporations. What I mean by these gangs that I'm worried about our organizations of people that have a big impact over our lives, and who are doing some things that I think contribute to great violence on the planet and great suffering. So how can each of us develop our own power, become conscious of our power and use it to transform these structures, these organizations so that they serve life rather than threatened life. Now, this can be quite a challenge because the spirituality, language and means of influence that these gangs that I'm worried about, perpetuate, make it very hard for us to become conscious of our power and to use it. The gangs that I'm worried about control through punishment and reward and try to get their own interest met at the cost sometimes of the environment, sometimes through exploitive labor practices, sometimes through the use of violence, to get employees to do as they would like. The organizations that are doing the most damage on our planet can be quite a task for us to think of how we as individuals, can change them. We are often overwhelmed just with our own personal lives, and trying to get our needs of our family met. And it seems beyond what we can do to try to deal with these organizations that are creating a lot of pain on our planet. On Youtube Full Transcript Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
49:43
February 03, 2020
The Power of Empathy - Session #7 - Nonviolent Communication Training - Marshall Rosenberg
The Power of Empathy - Session #7 - Nonviolent Communication Training - Marshall Rosenberg
I'll be showing the power that empathy has in three functions, healing, mediation, and reconciliation. In the previous session, we looked at the dynamics of empathy. We saw how it requires our full presence to another person, and full presence on what's alive in them, what they're feeling and needing. In this session, I will show just how powerful that process can be. In healing past wounds, mediating conflicts between people, and reconciling groups that are at war with each other, to see how they can live in peace and harmony, the power of empathy. First, let's look at how empathy supports healing. The word healing has some aspects that I get concerned about, because when it's applied to people's emotional pain, we use this term mental illness, and then we think of trying to heal the illness. I have some deep concerns about the concept of mental illness. My concerns about this concept began when I receive some precious gifts from a professor I had at the university just before I was ready to graduate with my doctor's degree in clinical psychology. This professor showed me the scientific limitations of the concept of mental illness, and the political dangers of this concept. He helped me to see that there was almost no reliability about how professionals use these terms because it was an real scientific basis for all of the different problems that were defined in the basic manual used by psychiatrists and psychologists to make diagnoses. So what one professional might call a bipolar disease, another might call something else. And research shows that there's very little reliability of a scientific nature about how all of these terms in the manual are used. But what's more important to me is the political dangers he pointed out to this. He pointed out to me that we live under political and economic structures that require a certain education that contributes to great pain on the part of large numbers of people. He helped me to see how the concept of mental illness takes the focus away from what might be causing the problems, the structures and the education they require. And by making it look like it's something that's wrong within individuals, we take away from what's really creating the problem. And we do it in a way that isn't really helpful and helping the people because we talk as though they have an illness. When it isn't an illness they have, it's an educational problem that they have. They've been educated in a way that might make them depressed, or educated in a way that might make them insensitive to other people's needs and preoccupied only getting their own needs met regardless of how it affects other people. On Youtube Full Transcript Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
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February 03, 2020
Authority: Respect vs Fear - Session #6 - Nonviolent Communication Training - Marshall Rosenberg
Authority: Respect vs Fear - Session #6 - Nonviolent Communication Training - Marshall Rosenberg
In this session, I'll be talking about authority, both how we exercise authority, and how we experience it, and how certain institutions are set up to give us certain qualities of authority. nonviolent communication suggest that we get certain things clear when we're in a position of authority or when we're dealing with people in positions of authority.  Some very important differentiations. One of these is the difference between respect for authority and fear of authority. Getting these mixed up creates a great deal of pain for people is I would use these terms. respect for authority involves three ingredients. When we're in a position of authority, we get respect for our authority. When one we know some things or can do some things that the people we're working with, or living with, do not have. Second things people see these things that we know or can do. They see them as valuable. They see how these things will enrich their lives. And third, they see us as offering these things which we know that are valuable. We offer we don't impose them. Respect for authority as I use the term is manifest when we know things that people don't know, or can do things that they don't know how to do. They see that these things are very valuable and they see that these things are being offered to them and not imposed upon them, then they would have what I call respect for authority. Now, fear of authority is quite a different thing that is usually built into the structure of either the family, the school, the business, the government. This structure gives us the right to impose things on people that we can reward or punish, to get people to do what we want. So respect for authority needs to be earned. We need to clearly communicate with people so they can see the value of what we're offering. On Youtube Full Transcript Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
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February 03, 2020
Intimate Relationships - Session #5 - Nonviolent Communication Training Course - Marshall Rosenberg
Intimate Relationships - Session #5 - Nonviolent Communication Training Course - Marshall Rosenberg
In this session, I'll be talking about how nonviolent communication can support us in deepening our intimate relationships. And let's start with a dialogue that is likely to be heard in almost any intimate relationship, at least variations of it. One person says to the other, do you love me? And the other person said, Oh, yes, of course.  And the first person said, but I want you to be really sincere about this. I want you to seriously look at this. Do you love me?  And the other person seriously contemplates this and waits and thinks and then finally said, Yes, I really do. The first person said, then why did it take you so long to respond? This question is very important, you know, do you love me And it's very hard to answer because we very often don't get clear in intimate relationships what we really mean by that word love. In an earlier session, I mentioned how some people use the word love as a feeling and emotion. And if they do that, it's pretty hard to know how to answer that question without reference to a specific time and place because feelings change every few seconds. In nonviolent communication, we use the word love as a need, and a very important need. What's very important that is to know how to manifest this need, what to do to contribute to that need being met, in people that we care for, and that we have intimate relationships with. I have found in working with couples for many years, that the best way that we can really meet people's need for love is to do two things. First of all, express those needs within us those messages within us that are the hardest to express the most scary to express. Because when we have that ability to share that which is not easy to express, we get a chance to get these needs fulfilled. But if we are so frightened of expressing these needs that we don't say anything that creates barriers in the relationship. Yet it's very difficult for many reasons for people to express these needs that need to be expressed in intimate relationships and when they do express the need Very often it's done with an energy that provokes the very opposite of what we would really like. On Youtube Full Transcript Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
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February 03, 2020
Dynamics of Empathy - Session #4 - Nonviolent Communication Training - Marshall Rosenberg
Dynamics of Empathy - Session #4 - Nonviolent Communication Training - Marshall Rosenberg
I relate empathy to surfboard riding. Imagine yourself getting up on a surfboard, this requires getting in touch with a certain energy. If you don't get on exactly, you can get knocked off. To me, empathy is somewhat like that. Empathy is getting in touch with a life energy that's coming through another person. Now, as I have expressed in other sessions, the life energy that's coming through people at each moment, I have learned can best be described in words by referring to what that person is feeling and needing. The empathic connection that I am interested in sustaining is one in which I can stay connected to the life energy coming through another person. That's what makes it like surfboard riding. It's a challenge because many people, they don't know how to directly express what's alive in them. So they use a rather choppy language, they often tell you what's alive in them with reference to what's wrong with you. When people need empathy the most, they're often expressing it in a pretty violent way. In that sense, it's very much like surfboard riding. How to get in touch with this energy and flow with it. The energy coming through people is, for me, a very beautiful divine energy. So when I can really stay connected with it, I feel like I'm riding in a very precious flow of energy. Session #4 The Dynamics of Empathy  Transcript with References Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
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February 03, 2020
The 4 Part NVC Model - Session #3 - Nonviolent Communication Training - Marshall Rosenberg
The 4 Part NVC Model - Session #3 - Nonviolent Communication Training - Marshall Rosenberg
Observations and Evaluations - Developing a Literacy of Needs and Strategies We're interested, in nonviolent communication, with the kind of honesty that supports people connecting with each other in a way that makes compassionate giving inevitable, that makes it enjoyable for people to contribute to each other's well being. This kind of honesty basically involves telling people what's alive in us, without using any words that criticize, and tell people what would make life more wonderful for us, what we are requesting, without presenting this as a demand, but presented as a request. Many of us have been educated by an honesty that evolves from our system of justice, retributive justice which judges people is right or wrong, good or bad, with the attachment to that, that if you are good, right, appropriate, etc, you deserve to be rewarded. But if you are bad, wrong, etc. You deserve to suffer, be punished, etc.  THE FOUR BASIC STEPS OF NON-VIOLENT COMMUNICATION 1. OBSERVATION: Share a non-judgmental observation without any charged language that might put someone on the defensive 2. FEELINGS: Identify the feelings that are coming up 3. NEEDS: Connect these feelings to an underlying and universal human need 4. REQUEST: Make a request for the person to reflect back what you said and/or take a specific action. On Youtube Full Transcript Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
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February 03, 2020
How We Communicate with Ourselves - Session #2 - Nonviolent Communication Training - Marshall Rosenberg
How We Communicate with Ourselves - Session #2 - Nonviolent Communication Training - Marshall Rosenberg
Working with anger, depression, self-judgement, and not giving away our power to cultural programming In this session, I would like to focus on how we apply non violent communication within ourselves. Then violent communication requires quite a transformation from how many of us have been programmed to communicate. Many of us have been programmed to communicate in terms of a language of categorizing people and their actions to judge what they are for doing what they’re doing. Excerpt: OJ Harvey at the University of Colorado, went around the world and took samples of literature from different cultures to see how often this verb “to be” was used in judging people’s actions good, bad, right, wrong, etc. And he correlated this with measures of violence - violence toward oneself, violence toward others, and he finds a high correlation the more cultures think in terms of what people are and their actions, the more violence in those cultures. We have four friends that can help alert us that we are thinking in a way that contributes to violence. These four feelings are very helpful because when we feel these feelings, we can use them as an alert, that we’re thinking in a way that’s contributing to violence on the planet. And here is an opportunity for us to transform that thinking. So what are these four friends that we have? anger, depression, guilt, and shame. Whenever we’re feeling those feelings, we are thinking in a way that we have been taught to think for about 10,000 years. A way of thinking designed to make us obedient to authority, but a way of thinking that is not conducive to safety and peace on our planet. So we can use those feelings as a wake up signal. Wake up, we’re thinking in a way that’s not conducive to peace, on the planet. Let’s transform the thinking into one that promotes peace on our planet. So let me show you what I mean. Training Session # 2 Marshall Rosenberg CNVC org (youtube) Full Transcript Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
01:07:51
February 03, 2020
Introduction to Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg
Introduction to Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg
In this session, I’ll be giving you an introduction to how I came about the process I’ll be talking about and I’ll be sharing with you its purpose and give you an outline of it. The process I call nonviolent communication. Excerpt: The process that I call nonviolent communication consists of an intention to contribute to our own well being, and the well being of others, compassionately [14:57] And what I mean by giving compassionately is first of all of it, whatever we do is done willingly. It’s not done out of guilt, or shame, or fear of punishment, or trying to buy love by submitting to what we think others expect us to do. I saw that the intention I wanted to live by, I thought was necessary for compassionate giving, is that we give solely out of the joy that comes naturally from contributing to life. Our own life and the lives of others. And I organized what I was learning about this into the program that I now call nonviolent communication. And at the time, I was in private practice of psychology. So in my private practice, people were coming to me because of depression. Children were sent to me because they were having problems in school. And couples were coming to me because of marital problems. I found that this process that I was putting together was much more effective as a healing tool for people than the way I hadn’t been taught to do psychotherapy at the university. [16:27] At first I was shocked by this because it was so different than how I had been trained to analyze people and provide psychotherapy. It seemed too simple to just show them how some different ways of behaving different ways of thinking communicating using power, how quickly this could correct problems that were taking me months and not getting the same result. But then when I really saw the power that the program had. I also saw that the way I was offering it to people was not the way that I wanted to continue. By offering it in a private practice as a psychologist, the people who were coming to me, were defining that there was something wrong with them, something mentally ill about them for which they needed healing. And I was seeing more and more how that very concept of mental illness was a destructive concept because it implied something was wrong with people that needed fixing. And that very concept is I’ll talk about in subsequent sessions, I see gets in the way of people’s evolution and human development. Youtube Full Transcript Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.
01:00:52
February 03, 2020