Parenting In The Thick Of It with Louise Clarke

Episode 26: Exams, Tests, End Of The Year Pressure...Help!

An episode of Parenting In The Thick Of It with Louise Clarke

By Louise Clarke
Welcome to the Parenting In The Thick Of It show - the place where you will feel heard, supported and guided through YOUR parenting challenges. If you are tired, stressed, frustrated & struggle with kids not listening/being disrespectful, difficult behaviours, social media, or have a son with ADHD, tune in! By taking inspired action steps, I can help you re-align & create the life you deserve as a parent: to be the parent you know you can be and the parent your child needs you to be. You can find out more about me and get some great FREE parenting tips and tools at
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Episode 123: The HUGE Difference Between Consequences & Punishment
There is a huge difference between consequences and punishment and understanding this deeply influences how your child will grow and learn or not... If you struggle to use consequences effectively and know you resort to punishing when you shouldn't then tune in...
October 17, 2018
Episode 122: Handling Your Child's Monumental Meltdowns
It can be incredibly hard to stay in control of ourselves when our child is screaming at us and behaving unacceptably but if you want your child to learn how to behave differently, we have no choice. If you struggle with this, tune in...
October 16, 2018
Episode 121: Grades Are Not Everything
The pressure on kids to achieve high grades seems to be spiraling out of control. Kids are so much more than their grades and sure, at a certain stage in their lives, of course, the grade matters, but what is the cost? As Jay Shetty said: grades only matter when the subject matters and I add: when the subject matters, the child will get the grade. Tune in... Useful Links: Instagram: Pinterest: Facebook: Twitter: You Tube: FB Parent Support Group: Podcast: Parenting In The Thick Of It Family Organizer:
October 15, 2018
Episode 120: Could Our Wish For Our Children To Be Successful & Happy Perhaps Cause Them Stress?
We all want our kids to be successful and happy but how does this translate for them and impact them? What will they say about us wanting them to be successful and happy when we are gone? Is our wish perhaps adding to the pressure they are already under to achieve achieve achieve? Tune in... Useful Links: Instagram: Pinterest: Facebook: Twitter: You Tube: FB Parent Support Group: Podcast: Parenting In The Thick Of It Family Organizer: The Parents Tao Te Ching can be found via the following Amazon link:
October 12, 2018
Episode 119: Do You Think You Might Be Addicted To Your Phone?
Have you heard of the book called "How To Break Up With Your Phone" by Catherine Price? It is a highly thought-provoking read and inspired me to write a blog post on the subject and dedicated this episode to reading it. If you are looking for some ideas as to how to be less attached to your phone and are interested in role modeling a healthy relationship with your phone to your kids, then tune in... Useful Links: Instagram: Pinterest: Facebook: Twitter: You Tube: FB Parent Support Group: Podcast: Parenting In The Thick Of It Family Organizer: How To Break Up With Your Phone by Catherine Price can be found at the following Amazon link:
October 11, 2018
Episode 118: The Biggest Parenting Challenge Is How We Control Ourselves!
Dealing with our kid's emotional outburst or poor choice of behaviour can sometimes leave us at our wit's end and result in us not behaving much better than they did!! Learning to control ourselves is THE hardest thing to do as a parent. Trust me, you are not alone. Tune in... Instagram: Pinterest: Facebook: Twitter: You Tube: FB Parent Support Group: Podcast: Parenting In The Thick Of It Family Organizer:
October 10, 2018
Episode 117: A Vital Piece When Parenting Toddlers
When your toddler has behaved in a socially unacceptable way (tantrum, kicking, biting etc) it is vitally important that you separate the deed / behaviour from the do-er / your toddler. In other words, it's the behaviour that is questionable, not them. Doing this will allow you to remain compassionate, empathetic and kind while trying to work out what the need was beneath the behaviour. This is what they need from you, especially in the heat of the moment. Tune In... Useful links: Instagram: Pinterest: Facebook: Twitter: You Tube: FB Parent Support Group: Podcast: Parenting In The Thick Of It Family Organiz
October 9, 2018
Episode 116: How "Vaguely" Understanding What's Going On In The Teenage Brain Has Helped Me Parent Them!
Understanding just what is going on inside my teenagers' heads has really helped me develop more empathy for them and help maintain the strong connection I have with them. In this episode, I share with you some of the takeaways from Dan Siegel's book, Brainstorm which is all about understanding the teenage brain! It helped me so much that I wanted to share it here with you. Tune in... Useful links: Instagram: Pinterest: Facebook: Twitter: You Tube: FB Parent Support Group: Podcast: Parenting In The Thick Of It Family Organizer:
October 8, 2018
Episode 115: Here's An Interesting Way To Save Your Energy!
Do you worry about what other moms might think of you or your child? What if your child misbehaves? Then what? I have taught my kids this one thing that allows them to save their energy and I share it with you here. Tune in...
October 5, 2018
Episode 114: Do You Run Out Of Time?
I am fascinated with time. My relationship with time is intriguing to me. What is your relationship with time? How do you interact with it? It never stands still. It never stops, yet we believe that we run out of it? What do your children understand about time? Will your patterns become theirs? Tune in...
October 4, 2018
Episode 113: Let It go!
Letting go of material things that no longer serve us is one thing, but learning to let go of the non-tangible things like for example, expectations, the need to be perfect, inherited beliefs and conditioning, control, the need to do everything is even better. The trees are letting go of their leaves! What are you going let go of this fall?
October 3, 2018
Episode 112: Why It's Not Good To Do For A Child What They Are Capable Of Doing For Themselves
In this episode, I share with you some of the things that my kids now do for themselves and how empowering it has been for them. It can be damaging to a child's developing sense of self and self-esteem to have a parent do too much for them as it strips them of the capacity to learn how to do it for themselves and feel capable as a result of doing it. Tune in...
October 2, 2018
Episode 111: Why I Share My Mistakes With My Kids
Sharing a mistake we might have made and the action we took as a result of it is a powerful way to help children realize that it's okay to make mistakes. It helps them develop the capacity to own their mistake, not deny it and come up with a plan. It helps them learn and grow and role modeling this to them is so important. Tune in...
October 1, 2018
Episode 109: Find Yourself Head-To-Head With Your Strong-Willed Child ?
In this episode, I share with you a success story with a mom I worked with years ago. Her son was super controlling and with my support, she got through it. Wind the clock forward about 6 years and this boy knew exactly what to do when he had to "look after" a strong-willed child! Tune in...
September 28, 2018
Episode 110: How Often Do You Think You Are "Lost" In Thought?
Do you know you have 50,000 - 70,000 thoughts per day! That's 35 - 48 per minute. It's mind-boggling for me to try and get my mind around that. Add to this, we spend 54% of our time not where our minds are. If this isn't motivation to do something about it, I don't know what is. Not the thoughts. Those are okay. It's the not being present bit that blows my mind. If you are keen to do something about it, tune in... This YouTube video is for parents who are interested in developing a meditation practice: Episode 44: An Introduction To Meditation For Parents
September 27, 2018
Episode 108: If This Isn't Proof That Meditation Works For Me...
I've always known that meditation is a powerful tool for me. It brings me so many benefits many of which I have discussed on the podcast. However, this really amazed me and my GP was seriously impressed. I think she'll be onto meditation in a big way after this. Curious? Tune in... This You Tube video is for parents who are interested in developing a meditation practice: Episode 44: An Introduction To Meditation For Parents
September 26, 2018
Episode 107: You Prioritize The Bedtime Routine For Your Kids But Your Partner.... Not So Much!
What to do when bedtime runs away with you and what do to when you and your partner are not always on the same page regarding bedtime. This can cause many moms a lot of stress. I have a couple of ideas. Tune in... 10 Tips To End Your Bedtime Struggles: Episode 87: Episode 93:
September 25, 2018
Episode 106: Sometimes It's Better Not To Ask
If you don't have enough energy to deal with the pushback you might get from asking your child to do something, like picking up their toys or their "stuff", I truly believe it's better not to ask. Tune in and I'll tell you why...
September 24, 2018
Episode 105: I Don't Expect My Kids To Tell Me Everything But I Do Want Them To Feel Safe Enough To Share Anything
It is so vital that we create a safe place for our children to feel vulnerable enough to share things with us. If they fear us, our reaction, a punishment or being judged, they will never tell us anything. Tune in...
September 21, 2018
Episode 104: Do You Want More "Calm" In Your Life?
Tapping into Mother Nature has helped bring so much more gratitude, peace and calm into my life as a mom. "She" is my ultimate teacher. Learning to use her magnificence and expansiveness to guide me as a mom has been powerful. So much so that I had to share it with you. Tune in...
September 20, 2018
Episode 103: The Power Of Yet & How You Can Use It To Encourage Your Child
This little word is so inspirational for me. I use it a lot to help my kids understand that just because they might not be able to do something now, does not mean they will not be able to do it ever. Add yet and it immediately delivers hope. Tune in...
September 19, 2018
Episode 102: When I Learned To Give Without Expectation My Life As A Mom Changed For The Better
When I talk about giving, I don't mean gifts and things, I mean of ourselves. I spent many years feeling unappreciated until I realized that I was, unbeknownst to me, creating the dissatisfaction within myself. When I realized this, life changed dramatically. And for the better. Tune in...
September 18, 2018
Episode 101: Do You Find Yourself Getting Impatient With Your Kiddos?
There are times when kids can be and are infuriating. I hear you. And it can cause you to become irritable and impatient with them. Don't worry, you are not alone. In this episode, I share with you what I do to try and curb it because at the end of the day, it never feels good to be impatient with a child, tween or teen and the ramifications of doing so, are not good for them either. Tune in...
September 17, 2018
Episode 100: My Most Embarrassing Moment EVER & So Much More...
In celebration of this, the 100th episode on the podcast, I am sharing my story. There's the hilarious comment I made age 5 while playing dominoes, my most embarrassing moment (trust me it's good, you don't want to miss it...), my most profound moment and the boy next door. A bit longer than usual but I hope you enjoy getting to know me a bit better. Tune in... To enter the Podcast Giveaway (the winner gets 2 x 1 Hour Parent Coaching Sessions with me), please go to and sign up in the box just below the photo of me! Good luck. And if you share this episode, or any other episode and tag me, I'll send you a coupon code to download a FREE copy of the THEME pages for The Parenting In The Thick Of It Family Organizer.
September 14, 2018
Episode 99: Do Your Kids See You Looking After Yourself?
It is so important that our kids see us prioritizing our self-care and us meeting our needs so that they learn to do this for themselves. How else will they learn? I want my daughter to value her self-care and do what she needs to do to show up as the best version of herself. I want my sons to do it too. Tune in...
September 13, 2018
Episode 98: Why You Don't Need To Be Anything Other Than Who You Are
If we are not careful we can get so caught up in trying to be something or someone that we are not. We think we should be more like so in so because she has got her s#*t together or whatever it might be... So, she might have, but you don't have to be like her. You only have to be like YOU. Tune in...
September 12, 2018
Episode 97: Everyone Else's Parents Do It, You're The Only One Who Doesn't...
Ever heard that from your kids? If so, just know that you are not the only one. Last night my son announced he wanted a new backpack and that he would be the only one who won't have a new one... In this episode, I share with you what I said, or didn't... Tune in!
September 11, 2018
Episode 96: There's Not A Mom I Know Who Does Enough Of This...
We are all pretty darn good at giving this to others (but not always to our kiddos) but generally not so good at giving it to ourselves. I'm hopeless at it! Can you guess what it is? I'm going to keep you in suspense, tune in...
September 10, 2018
Episode 95: Do You "Should" On Yourself Or Worse Still, "Should" On Your Kids?
When I realized just how much "shoulding" I was doing it was scary! But I'm so glad that I discovered it because letting go of the should's has had a profound effect on me in my role as a mom and for my kids. Do you should on those around you? Tune in...
September 9, 2018
Episode 94: Frustrated With The Kids And Don't Know What To Do?
Doing this one simple thing in the height of frustrating moments I face with my kids has rescued me more times than I care to imagine. Curious? In this episode, I share my tip with you. Tune in...
September 8, 2018
Episode 93: 10 Tips To End Your Bedtime Struggles (Part 2)
In today's episode, I read part 2 of the blog post I wrote to help you end your bedtime struggles. Part 1 can be found in episode 88 and you can tune in to more bedtime antics in episodes 79 and 80.
September 7, 2018
Episode 92: It Takes Great Courage To Face The Truth
The truth is sometimes hard to face and never more so than the moment we realize that we have played a part in creating some of the socially unacceptable patterns of behaviour we see in our children (eg. not listening, disrespect, control). In order to fix things, we need to look at fixing ourselves over trying to fix our kiddos. They are not broken. Tune in...
September 6, 2018
Episode 91: Valuable Lessons From A 13 Year Old!
In this episode, I have a special guest with me... my 13-year-old son! He has meditated for a few years now and has gained some valuable insights on it all. It's always great to hear it from the mouths of babes. Tune in...
September 5, 2018
Episode 90: You Upgrade Your Phone, Do You Upgrade Your Mindset?
We all spend $$$ and time to make sure our phones are equipped with the latest operating systems but what if we were to do the same for our minds. How could we? Why would we? And should we? I believe we "should" be doing this. I do and it has been deeply rewarding, especially in my role as a parent. Tune in... Mindset by Carol Dweck is the book I referred to in this episode.
September 4, 2018
Episode 89: 3 Steps For Managing The Meltdowns - The Detail
In Episode 88 I shared with you 3 steps you can take to help you manage the tantrums and emotional outbursts. In the episode today, I use an example to explain how you can do this. Tune in...
September 3, 2018
Episode 88: 3 Steps For Managing The Meltdowns - Big Picture
When our child has a meltdown it is vitally important that we do not join them with an "adult" meltdown of our own! It can be oh so hard to remain cool, calm and collected but we have to. In this episode I discuss the three steps you can take to make sure you stay on the high road and in Episode 89, I discuss an example. Tune in...
August 31, 2018
Episode 87: Top 10 Tips For Ending Bedtime Struggles (Part 1)
In this episode, I read you part 1 of a blog post I wrote on finding ways to end bedtime struggles. Tune in... If you want to read the post, here is the link. In this, you will also get access to the link for the Meal Planning FREE Download that I mention in the blog.
August 30, 2018
Episode 86: The Most Impactful Tip On How To Manage Technology In Your Home
Doing this can have a powerful effect on everyone in the home. Our family does this and I rate it as one of THE most important things we can do to help us better navigate technology. Tune in...
August 29, 2018
Episode 85: Mirror Mirror On The Wall Who Behaves The Fairest Of All?
Have you ever stopped to think why your kids might have developed certain patterns of behaviour? Whilst understanding this can be a bitter pill to swallow, understanding it can be very revealing and rewarding. Tune in...
August 28, 2018
Episode 84: Should Kids Have To Fit In A Particular "Hole"? Who Designs The Hole Anyway?
Round peg in a square hole. Square peg in a round hole. Don't get me started! Too many parents are told that their child just doesn't fit in and this breaks my heart. As parents, we need to help our child see their "shape" as being perfect & unique just the way they are. That they are WHOLE and don't have change who it is they are to fit in any HOLE. Tune in...
August 27, 2018
Episode 83: How Compassion & Zipping Is A Better Way To Be - Here Is The Evidence!
In this episode, I share with you how my ability to show up in the moment with compassion and calm allowed me to parent in a way that worked for both my son and I. Had I said what I really "wanted" to say, it would have gone downhill and fast. Tune in...
August 24, 2018
Episode 82: Are You A "No, No, No.... Well Okay, Yes... But Just This Time Parent?
Your parenting style & your behaviour shapes your child's behaviour more than you realize and more than anything else in their lives. How you show up in the moment and respond to them matters. Tune in...
August 23, 2018
Episode 81: This Was A Game Changer For Helping Me Deal With My Kids Various Behaviours
Understanding this key thing about behaviour was one of those AHA moments for both my husband and me. In this episode, I take you through it and offer you 3 super important questions to ask yourself in relation to your child's behaviour. Tune in...
August 22, 2018
Episode 80: Bedtime Has Just Got Too Late & School Starts Soon...
If you haven't already listened to Episode 79, please do so before you listen to this because it will help you create new bedtime patterns and routines. However, when things have just got too late the kids just can't get to sleep earlier. Don't worry, I have a plan for you. Tune in...
August 21, 2018
Episode 79: Do You Struggle To Get The Kids To Bed On Time?
This is such a challenge for so many parents. Life is busy right! There is a way and in this episode, I share with you my bedtime secrets. Clue: It all depends on the way you are showing up. Tune in... And don't forget to listen to Episode 76, it paves the way for what you have to do here.
August 20, 2018
Episode 78: Breaking The Patterns Of Control & Knowing Why They Exist
In order to break the toxic cycles of control that might exist in your home, you first have to understand why they are there and why your child is running the show. There's a reason for it all. Tune in... If you haven't had a chance to listen to Episode 76 and 77, they speak to this and will be helpful to you in your quest to change any patterns of unhealthy control.
August 17, 2018
Episode 77: Do You Have A Child Who Controls Everything, Everyone & Runs The Show?
I get more calls from parents regarding this than anything else. So, if you struggle with this, you are not alone. Understanding the one fundamental thing that I share in this podcast is key to dealing with this and changing the patterns. You have to start with this. Tune in... If you have not yet listened to Episode 76, I encourage you to do so as it speaks to this and will help you start to break the patterns.
August 16, 2018
Episode 76: My Parenting Secret Is Out... It Will Change Your Life!
This is the first time I have shared this on the podcast and it is HUGE! This is the key. When I work with parents, THIS is what we work on and the results are amazing. Tune in...
August 15, 2018
Episode 75: Struggling To Set & Hold Limits On Screen Time? This Is Genius...
If you are struggling to set and hold the limits on Screen Time with your child, this is for you. I discuss a genius strategy that my dear friend Kate Muker came up with for her 5-year-old. Tune in... Kate is a proud, conscious mama who uses entrepreneurship to fulfil her purpose: creating opportunities for women to live a connected abundant life. You can check out Kate's website here:
August 14, 2018
Episode 74: Does Your Child Continually Push The Limits?
In order to set a limit and hold it, you have to mean what you say and your child has to believe you. Do you mean what you say? Tune in...
August 10, 2018
Episode 73: Choosing Compassion Over Frustration Is A Win-Win In Parenting A Child With ADHD
It's so easy to become frustrated, impatient and judgmental when parenting a child with ADHD. However, it never works, for you or your child. Compassion and empathy is what your child really needs. Tune in...
August 9, 2018
Episode 72: The ONE Thing That Never Fails Me, Or My Kids...
Doing this always puts me on a better path, it never fails me. This way of showing up as a Mom is what makes the most positive impact in my life and I share it here with you. Tune in...
August 8, 2018
Episode 71: You Empty The Trash But Do You Empty Your Mind?
In order to parent "well", I believe that being able to empty our mind of the constant planning, what if's, should's, doubts and worries is THE most important thing we can do. Simply put, if we can't do this and develop the skill to mind our minds, we cannot hope to be present with our child and give him/her what he/she needs. Curious? Tune in...
August 7, 2018
Episode 70: Have Your Kids Ever Told You They "Hate" You?
It can be terrifying when your child venomously shouts "I hate you". But... do you believe them? What do you do? What do you say? How do you respond? In this episode, I discuss some things that have helped many parents and share in the hope it will help you too. Tune in...
August 6, 2018
Episode 69: How Do You Choose The "Right" Sport Or Activity For Your Child?
Should you choose? Should your child choose? What do you do when they don't like it? In this episode, I share with you some ideas as to how to get this right. Tune in...
August 3, 2018
Episode 68: Time Outs - Do They Really Work.... I Think Not
With the best of intentions, many parents turn to timeouts only to find the tantrum or unacceptable behaviour continues. In this episode I explain why they don't work and share with you an alternative technique that works really well.
August 2, 2018
Episode 67: During The School Holidays It's Way Too Easy To Forget About Yourself!
With the kids home from school, do you find yourself catering to everyone else's needs and forgetting about your own? In this episode, I share with you what I do to make sure I honour my needs. When I do this, life is always better, for everyone. Tune in...
August 1, 2018
Episode 66: OMG Is That A Coffee Table Under All That Clutter?
I don't know about you, but typically, around four weeks into the summer holidays, the coffee table can resemble a bit of a junkyard! When my living room takes on that "holiday" look, here's what I do to reset things and restore some order. Tune in...
July 31, 2018
Episode 65: Hot Tips For Communicating With Your Teenager!
How do you know when they might want to chat? They can be hard to read, but if you look carefully, the signs will be there. When I found what I was looking for, I keep finding more of it! In this episode, I share with you some of my tips. Tune in...
July 27, 2018
Episode 64: Are We Creating A Generation Of "Keep Your Options Open"?
I had the fortune of stumbling across this BRILLIANT video in my Facebook feed. Too good to miss and a great thing to chat about in today's episode on the Parenting In The Thick Of It Show. Tune in and catch the video in the link below:
July 26, 2018
Episode 63: Queen Of Multi-Tasking Or Queen Of Distraction
I used to think multi-tasking was the bee all and end all. Don't get me wrong, it definitely has its place but is the kiss of death if it becomes all we do. It is vital that we know when we can and when we can't so we don't become The Queen Of Distraction. Tune in...
July 25, 2018
Episode 62: Get This Right And Life At Home Will Be Much Calmer
When my kids know exactly what is expected of them on any given day during the holidays, the days are way better. Despite wishing they were born with crystal ball reading skills, alas, they were not! I have to tell them. But when I remember to do this, life is much calmer. Tune in... If you liked this episode, you will probably like this one too:
July 24, 2018
Episode: 61: Car Rides - Do You Find Yourselves Arguing Over What To Listen To?
Trust me, this used to happen in our car. Bad rap, not so bad rap! Bad teen bands, not so bad teen bands! A steady stream of it. Not any longer. Tune in...
July 23, 2018
Episode 60: Balancing Screen Time & Green Time
Do you know that the average child in America spends only 5 minutes per day freely playing outside? I found this staggering. I knew the stats were bad, but this bad! In this episode, I discuss what you can do to help your child develop an interest in the real world versus being caught up in the thrill of the virtual one. It is VITAL to the healthy development of their brains. I share with you the blog post that inspired me to talk to this.
July 20, 2018
Episode 59: Teens, Alcohol, Drugs, Par-tays & The Holidays...
You hear parents discussing this and think you have it all dialled in until it happens to you! What is your plan? Do you have one? A plan for you and a plan for them? Tune in...
July 19, 2018
Episode 58: How Honest Are You?
I value honesty. A lot. And I hope to instil this value in my children, but how do you do it? I'm not sure there is a "right" answer but in this epidsode, I share my views on it all. Tune in...
July 18, 2018
Episode 57: It's Amazing What An Aerial Perspective Can Do!
Sometimes when you are in the thick of it you need to see things through a different lens, yes? This particular lens has brought me so much relief and I wanted to share it with you. Tune in...
July 17, 2018
Episode 56: Smelly Boy, Oh Smelly Boy...
When my neighbour knocked on my door and asked to borrow... my nose, I was intrigued. Little did I know that I already knew the answer, for I had no teenagers at the time. Tune in, it's a good one!
July 16, 2018
Episode 55: Should Kids Listen To Music While They Are Studying?
This causes many parents much anguish, myself included. Yet, our children claim that it helps them study more effectively!!! What do we do? Lo-Fi might just be a better alternative. If you don't know what it is, tune in...
July 13, 2018
Episode 54: If We Think Our Children Are Distracted By Screens, We Need To Look At Ourselves...
Little is written and spoken about the fact that adults are becoming more and more distracted by their smartphones. And it is wreaking havoc with their ability to connect with their children. Never before have a generation of parents spent so much "time" face to face with their children and yet be so disconnected from them. This is a huge problem. Tune in...
July 12, 2018
Episode 53: Can You Force Your Teenager To Do What You Used To Do?
Many parents I work with say this: "When I was his age, I was working so hard... I just don't know why he can't seem to do it?" "Because he is not you" I reply compassionately. It's a tough place to find yourself but as long as we "put" our expectations on our child, they will most probably resist. And, at the end of the day, by the time they are teenagers, it's pretty hard to force them, without the use of bribes, rewards or punishment, which, never works long term. Tune in..
July 11, 2018
Episode 52: Not On The Same Parenting "Page" As Your Spouse?
Being on a different page is a common thing between parents. It can cause friction between the parents and confusion and inconsistency for the child. If this is something you struggle with, tune in...
July 10, 2018
Episode 51: I Thought You Would Get A Kick Out Of This!
I just got back from visiting my family in Scotland and this was what my daughter had to say about being left at home with her brothers and about being a "mom"... Tune in!
July 9, 2018
Episode 50: They Say That High EQ Is A Better Predictor Of Success Over IQ
However it is we choose to quantify or qualify "success", building Emotional Intelligence in our children is super important and in this episode I share with you, where you might start. Tune in...
July 6, 2018
Episode 49: How Can We Know How To Do Something That We Have Never Done Before?
There is nothing that says we "should" know how to parent. In fact, how can we fully know how to do something that we have never done before? Yet, the reality is, many parents are embarrassed and ashamed of the fact that they sometimes find themselves not knowing what to do. In this episode, I discuss the fact that I see this admission as a sign of great strength. Tune in...
July 5, 2018
Episode 48: Toddlers, Teens & Triggers
There is nothing that can test us quite like a toddler or teen. It can be exhausting and leave us feeling like we have failed as a parent. Believe it or not, toddlers and teens have a lot in common. When we get these 3 key things right, we find ourselves able to work with them rather than against them. Tune in...
July 4, 2018
Episode 47: Do You Have A Child That Negotiates With You Over Everything?
When your child argues with you and negotiates with you over everything, it can leave you feeling at your wit's end. In this episode I discuss some strategies that work well for managing exactly this. Tune in...
July 3, 2018
Episode 46: Why Do I Behave & React The Way I Do?
In episode 45 I discussed the subject of our child's behavior and the fact that there is always more to it than meets the eye. We are no different. If we hope to be able to "react" in socially acceptable ways to our child's various behaviors we have to be aware of all that is going on beneath the surface within us. We have to address our unmet needs. Tune in...
July 2, 2018
Episode 45: There's Always More Than Meets The Eye
In this episode I help you understand WHY your child sometimes behaves the way he/she does. There's always more going on than meets the eye. We have to ask ourselves: what is the unmet need beneath the behavior and there is always one, if not more. Tune in...
June 29, 2018
Episode 44: Many Of You Have Requested I Do This, So... Here It Is!
On the show today, I talk you through how you can start to meditate, what you will do and what might happen when you start. We all like to know what to expect, so this is what to expect! At the 4.5 minute mark, I take you through a 2 minute guided meditation, just as I do in my meditation practice. You can use this 2-minute meditation every day to help get you started. It's pretty simple... just you and your breath. Tune in
June 26, 2018
Episode 43: In My Role As A Parent, Doing This Has Helped Me More Than Anything
I have been discussing the topic of mindfulness and meditation on the Podcast a lot recently. And for good reason. If you are interested in finding more about meditation and HOW you can start to do it, tune in to the show today... For more information on this subject, this link is to a blog post I wrote on just this:
June 25, 2018
Episode 42: Do You Struggle To Set Boundaries Around Screen Time?
It's Friday and on the podcast today, I read my most recent blog post: Do You Struggle To Set Boundaries Around Screen Time? Tune in if you need some extra help with this common challenge. It is one that almost every parent I know struggles with. We blame the screens, but at the end of the day, when we can see that the bigger problem is actually our inability to set effective boundaries around it: for ourselves and for our children, we can take positive steps to doing something about it. Within the blog post is access to an awesome Guide & Workbook which I created to help you put it all into action. You can download your copy HERE:
June 22, 2018
Episode 41: The "Woowoos" Were Onto Something. Something HUGE...
And for years I've been onto it too, and trust me, I'm so not "woowoo"! At least I don't think I am. Haha! So many parents say to me that they want to find ways to really connect with their child. This is how you do it. You have to first connect with YOURSELF. Tune in...
June 21, 2018
Episode 40: Do You Know What Has Helped Me MOST As A Mom?
Doing this has been THE most empowering and rewarding thing in my life as a parent. I cannot stress this enough. I truly believe that THIS is where it is at. It is doing THIS that will help you stay calm in the moment when you are caught up in the thick of it. It's the only way out! Tune in...
June 20, 2018
Episode 39: How To Stay Calm In The Thick Of It? There Is A Way...
This is where it's at. If you can master this, you are good to go! Haha, wouldn't that be nice! It is a work in progress but with practice, you can become so attuned with where your mind is that in the moment, you are more able to sniff the reactivity rising within you and stop it before you do any further damage! Such an important skill to develop. Tune in...
June 19, 2018
Episode 38: Arghhhh... I'm So Caught Up In It
Sometimes when you are so caught up IN IT, and in the thick of it, you just can't see a way out. Being able to look into it from the outside, offers us the chance to see the big picture. From here, the next step is often more obvious than you realize. Tune in...
June 18, 2018
Episode 37: Top Strategies For Discussing Report Cards With Your Kids
In this episode, I read this week's blog post on how to facilitate healthy discussions around your child's report card. Tune in...
June 15, 2018
Episode 36: Fed Up With The Kids Bugging Each Other & Fighting?
Sibling Rivalry... it's so draining and awful to watch and be a part of. What many parents don't realize is that they are inadvertently, and unintentionally, fuelling the fire. If you struggle with this and it's been going on for too long, you will be fuelling the fire! Tune in and find out why, and what you can do.
June 14, 2018
Episode 35: Instagram... Are You On It? Do You Follow Your Kids On It?
I had such a cool discussion with a mom about this that I wanted to share it with you. If you follow your kids on Instagram, what are your reasons for doing so? I'd love to hear from you. Tune in...
June 13, 2018
Episode 34: "My Son Is Soooo Disrespectful"... R.E.S.P.E.C.T... Show Me Some!
This is one of THE most common things parent's complain to me about. Sound familiar? The solution to this is not what you think it will be. Understanding this is so key. Tune in...
June 12, 2018
Episode 33: OMG... Teenagers! They Are So Amazing And Yet So...
One minute you are oooogling over how much you love them, then BOOM... you are triggered beyond anything you have ever experienced before! In this episode I share with you some ways to help you communicate with your teenagers and steer discussions in a specific direction without lecturing! Tune in...
June 11, 2018
Episode 32: All Families Need To Do This... Do You?
This is possibly one of the most important things we have done as a family and doing so has given our 3 kids the opportunity to develop some super important life skills. Curious... Tune in! BONUS Downloads included
June 8, 2018
Episode 31: Hot Topic Alert! Devices, Screen Time, Social Media... It's A Biggie!
Such a HUGE topic and one which I'll no doubt revisit over and over again on the show. It's a challenge to all of us but WHY? Why does it bother us as much as it does? You HAVE TO work out your why in order to deal with this beast. Tune in as I share what I try and do...
June 7, 2018
Episode 30: The Most Encouraging Parenting Tip I Can Think Of...
Understanding and recognizing the difference between praise and encouragement cannot be under-estimated. One helps your child in more ways than you could imagine whilst the other... it's toxic. Tune in. I also wrote about this in a recent blog post and have an awesome FREE download that accompanies it. Knowing this took my parenting to another level altogether. You can find it here:
June 6, 2018
Episode 29: Dealing With Things In The Heat Of The Moment
When things get heated it's easy to forget about the most important thing - to validate our child's feelings. All too often we go straight to the point, to "fix" things only to find it fuels the fire. Tune in and find out what you can do...
June 5, 2018
Episode 28: Wait Till Your Hear My Consequence Story!
Many parents struggle with consequences. How, What, When, Why? Consequences are the greatest of teachers for our children because they teach them cause and effect: if X then Y. This is something they have to learn and these tips will help you handle consequences more effectively. Tune in...
June 4, 2018
Episode 27: Teenagers...Parties, Alcohol, Drugs & Rock 'n Roll
Have you thought about how a conversation might go in the event that your teen comes home drunk or stoned? What will you say and do? In the episode today I discuss just this. What works and what might not work. Some ideas and food for thought. Tune in...
June 2, 2018
Episode 26: Exams, Tests, End Of The Year Pressure...Help!
This time of the year can be a stressful one for parents but also for children. Kids today are under so much pressure to achieve that I believe it is almost at breaking point. In this episode I discuss ways in which you can deal with this, specifically in helping you shift your focus from the grade or result to the process that will bring about the result. THIS is where the magic can happen. Tune in...
May 31, 2018
Episode 25: How Do I Get My Kid To Eat?
There's nothing more frustrating than a child who will not eat what you put in front of him/her. In this podcast I share 8 tips which will help you manage this with more ease. You can find all the tips I discuss in this episode in the blog post (link below) including access to a cheat sheet (summary of all the tips), weekly meal planning table and family food preference table.
May 30, 2018
Episode 24: Why It Is Vital To Hold The Limits
Setting the boundary is the easy piece - "You can have 30 minutes on your iPad". However, making sure it IS 30 minutes is the hard part. Why is it so hard? Because kids will push back on it. Every time. They don't want it to end. In this episode I discuss just this and what you can do. Listen in...
May 29, 2018
Episode 23: You Ask Once, Twice, Thrice And Then What?
The holidays are fast approaching and remember, history repeats itself...They often are far from the relaxing break we thought we would be getting! Yes? In todays episode I discuss what you can do in advance of the holidays to bring more R and R. Tune in...
May 28, 2018
Episode 22: Why The Parenting Books Don't Always Work
Have you ever read a parenting book, got some awesome advice and tips only to find they missed the biggest piece... that being what to do when what they recommend doesn't work!! In this episode I discuss this help you understand what does work and why. Tune in...
May 25, 2018
Episode 21: Why Judging Our Kiddos Is So Toxic
Judgment... Do you do it? Are you aware of when you do it and why it never turns out well? It's a toxic pattern and one that many parents do without even knowing they are doing. In this episode I explain why we do it and what you can do to get out of it. Tune in...
May 24, 2018
Episode 20: How To Help An Anxious Child Before They Go To Sleep
Sometimes kids find it hard to actually get to sleep, adults too!! It can often be just the perfect time for our minds to take us for a ride. In this episode I share how I help my son to mind his mind, exit his mind, and use his breath to help him get to sleep. Listen in...
May 23, 2018
Episode 19: You Just Lost Your Sh*t, Exploded And Stormed out...Now What?
What do you do? In this episode I discuss this and give you lots of ideas and tips around the subject of apologizing. It is so so vital that our kids are able to apologize and it all starts with us and our ability to role model this behaviour to them.
May 22, 2018
Episode 18: When We Let Fear Drive Us
What you can do when you realize that you are caught in fear and how it prevents you from being able to do what is needed in the present moment. Tune in!
May 21, 2018
Episode 17: What To Do When Things Don’t Go To Plan
You are faced with a tantrum, or a reactive teenager, find yourself caught in an argument or you child announces they want to quit something... what do you do? Listen in and I’ll give you some ideas.
May 18, 2018
Episode 16: Preparing Ourselves For Report Cards
Our behaviours and responses to what we see on our child's report card is critical to them developing courage and self-motivation... or not. We have to be aware of how powerful our influence is regarding this. Listen in.
May 17, 2018
Episode 15: Is Your Behaviour "Good" For Your Kids To Copy?
Children inherit so many of their behaviours from us, their parents so best we give them something acceptable and good to imitate! In this episode I discuss just this and how being aware of our internal landscape can help us shape our behaviours more positively.
May 16, 2018
Episode 14: Bribes, Rewards, Punishment... Do They Really Work?
In this episode I discuss just this and what happens when you use these methods to "discipline" your child. I refer to a piece called "No Need For Threats" on page 32 of The Parents Tao Te Ching by William Martin.
May 15, 2018
Episode 13: How To “React” When Your Kids Interrupt You
In this episode I share something that happened to me last week which highlights this.
May 14, 2018
Episode 12: WT*... Did My TEENAGER Really Just Say That!
How do you respond to that? It seems like no matter what you say, it's never right? Trust me you are not alone! If you struggle with this, tune in. In this episode I discuss ways that work for me and give you lots of ideas to try out.
May 11, 2018
Episode 11: Arrghhhh Picky Eaters
Do you have a picky eater? Do you dread meal times and find yourself cooking three different things every night? In this episode I discuss some ideas that might help you out. Listen in...
May 10, 2018
Episode 10: Why You Need To Be An Unabashedly Badass Mom!
Life is so busy for parents today. There are so many distractions. So many things our children can do and be a part of. We have to be unabashedly badass in our ability to make sure our children are getting their basic needs met.
May 9, 2018
Episode 9: Are Your Kids On Their Devices ALL.THE. TIME?
If you find yourself frustrated and over-whelmed with this, then tune in. In this episode I give you lots of ideas as to how you can manage the beast, aka technology, and navigate it with more ease.
May 8, 2018
Episode 8: Why Managing Your Expectations Plays Such A Vital Part In Parenting Well
Almost every emotional reaction you have will be as a result of an unmet expectation. They play a huge part in our lives as parents and learning to manage them well and understand the impact of them, is key to being able to find more joy, calm and ease in your life as a parent.
May 7, 2018
Episode 7: We Cannot Parent Each Child The Same Way!
In this episode I discuss how there is no one style fits all. We have to learn to fine tune and tweak our parenting style to match our child's unique spirit and make up.
May 4, 2018
Episode 6: Teenagers And How To Tame Your Reactivity When Dealing With Them
Do you find yourself triggered by your teen, and find it hard to control your reactivity? Then tune in, this is for you. In this episode, I offer some super effective strategies for dealing with this. FYI, I refer to the book "Brainstorm" by Dan Siegel.
May 1, 2018
How To Get Your Kids To Listen - Listen In!
Do you struggle to get your kids to listen? Many parents do. In this episode I discuss why it is I believe kids don't listen and what you can do to help your kids be better listeners.
April 30, 2018
Sharing My Story On Having A Son With ADHD
Learning that you have a child with ADHD can be a shock to many parents. It was a shock to me, but also in a funny way, a relief to hear. In this episode I share our story on ADHD and hope that in me sharing mine, it helps you in yours. Here is the link to the You Tube video on ADHD by my then, 15 year old son:
April 6, 2018
How To Connect Deeply To Your Child
Do you feel an increasing sense of dis-connect in communities and in your life as a parent? Being truly connected to your child, family and community is hard today - there are so many distractions. In today's episode I discuss how you can become more connected with your children and family.
March 17, 2018
Dealing With A Controlling Child
This is such a common problem today and dealing with child that wants to control everything is both exhausting and frustrating. In this episode I reply to a frustrated and about to lose it mum who reached out for help. I discuss a few things you can do in order to start bringing about some positive changes. You have to first understand that you have played a part in creating the patterns of control that exist. You can't change your child but you can change the way in which you respond to them. This is key. You are the leader and the guide. There can be no fight if there are not two people willing to fight. Can you pick two things that you continually fight for control of and let go of them. For example: food, clothes, a raincoat, the chair he sits on at dinner. I know, it seems ridiculous when you read it here, but these are exactly the sorts of things we usually end up fighting over! Can you pick two things that you can ask him to start doing for himself. Can you ask him to help you
March 4, 2018
Episode 1
Are you tired of your kids not listening to you? Fed up with them being on their devices ALL. THE. TIME? Done with nagging because it doesn't change anything except continue to drain you? Do you feel like you never get any time to yourself? You are not alone. Welcome! I'm so excited to be here with you IN THE THICK OF IT. I understand where you are at and I'm happy you have found this place: a safe place to land. Send me your parenting questions via the CONTACT tab at the top of my website page: Each week, I'll be picking one and helping YOU through the thick of it. Who is going to be first? PS. It's anonymous. No names.
March 4, 2018
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