Welcome to the Parenting In The Thick Of It show - the place where you will feel heard, supported and guided through YOUR parenting challenges. If you are tired, stressed, frustrated & struggle with kids not listening/being disrespectful, difficult behaviours, social media, or have a son with ADHD, tune in! By taking inspired action steps, I can help you re-align & create the life you deserve as a parent: to be the parent you know you can be and the parent your child needs you to be. You can find out more about me and get some great FREE parenting tips and tools atwww.yourparentingpartner.com
And for years I've been onto it too, and trust me, I'm so not "woowoo"! At least I don't think I am. Haha! So many parents say to me that they want to find ways to really connect with their child. This is how you do it. You have to first connect with YOURSELF. Tune in...
Doing this has been THE most empowering and rewarding thing in my life as a parent. I cannot stress this enough. I truly believe that THIS is where it is at. It is doing THIS that will help you stay calm in the moment when you are caught up in the thick of it. It's the only way out! Tune in...
This is where it's at. If you can master this, you are good to go! Haha, wouldn't that be nice! It is a work in progress but with practice, you can become so attuned with where your mind is that in the moment, you are more able to sniff the reactivity rising within you and stop it before you do any further damage! Such an important skill to develop. Tune in...
Sometimes when you are so caught up IN IT, and in the thick of it, you just can't see a way out. Being able to look into it from the outside, offers us the chance to see the big picture. From here, the next step is often more obvious than you realize. Tune in...
Sibling Rivalry... it's so draining and awful to watch and be a part of. What many parents don't realize is that they are inadvertently, and unintentionally, fuelling the fire. If you struggle with this and it's been going on for too long, you will be fuelling the fire! Tune in and find out why, and what you can do.
One minute you are oooogling over how much you love them, then BOOM... you are triggered beyond anything you have ever experienced before! In this episode I share with you some ways to help you communicate with your teenagers and steer discussions in a specific direction without lecturing! Tune in...
This is possibly one of the most important things we have done as a family and doing so has given our 3 kids the opportunity to develop some super important life skills. Curious... Tune in!
http://yourparentingpartner.com/how-do-i-get-my-kid-to-eat/ BONUS Downloads included
Such a HUGE topic and one which I'll no doubt revisit over and over again on the show. It's a challenge to all of us but WHY? Why does it bother us as much as it does? You HAVE TO work out your why in order to deal with this beast. Tune in as I share what I try and do...
Understanding and recognizing the difference between praise and encouragement cannot be under-estimated. One helps your child in more ways than you could imagine whilst the other... it's toxic. Tune in. I also wrote about this in a recent blog post and have an awesome FREE download that accompanies it. Knowing this took my parenting to another level altogether. You can find it here: http://yourparentingpartner.com/discussing-report-cards-with-kids/
When things get heated it's easy to forget about the most important thing - to validate our child's feelings. All too often we go straight to the point, to "fix" things only to find it fuels the fire. Tune in and find out what you can do...
Many parents struggle with consequences. How, What, When, Why? Consequences are the greatest of teachers for our children because they teach them cause and effect: if X then Y. This is something they have to learn and these tips will help you handle consequences more effectively. Tune in...
Have you thought about how a conversation might go in the event that your teen comes home drunk or stoned? What will you say and do? In the episode today I discuss just this. What works and what might not work. Some ideas and food for thought. Tune in...
There's nothing more frustrating than a child who will not eat what you put in front of him/her. In this podcast I share 8 tips which will help you manage this with more ease. You can find all the tips I discuss in this episode in the blog post (link below) including access to a cheat sheet (summary of all the tips), weekly meal planning table and family food preference table. http://yourparentingpartner.com/how-do-i-get-my-kid-to-eat/
Setting the boundary is the easy piece - "You can have 30 minutes on your iPad". However, making sure it IS 30 minutes is the hard part. Why is it so hard? Because kids will push back on it. Every time. They don't want it to end. In this episode I discuss just this and what you can do. Listen in...
The holidays are fast approaching and remember, history repeats itself...They often are far from the relaxing break we thought we would be getting! Yes? In todays episode I discuss what you can do in advance of the holidays to bring more R and R. Tune in...
Have you ever read a parenting book, got some awesome advice and tips only to find they missed the biggest piece... that being what to do when what they recommend doesn't work!! In this episode I discuss this help you understand what does work and why. Tune in...
Judgment... Do you do it? Are you aware of when you do it and why it never turns out well? It's a toxic pattern and one that many parents do without even knowing they are doing. In this episode I explain why we do it and what you can do to get out of it. Tune in...
Sometimes kids find it hard to actually get to sleep, adults too!! It can often be just the perfect time for our minds to take us for a ride. In this episode I share how I help my son to mind his mind, exit his mind, and use his breath to help him get to sleep. Listen in...
What do you do? In this episode I discuss this and give you lots of ideas and tips around the subject of apologizing. It is so so vital that our kids are able to apologize and it all starts with us and our ability to role model this behaviour to them.
Our behaviours and responses to what we see on our child's report card is critical to them developing courage and self-motivation... or not. We have to be aware of how powerful our influence is regarding this. Listen in.
Children inherit so many of their behaviours from us, their parents so best we give them something acceptable and good to imitate! In this episode I discuss just this and how being aware of our internal landscape can help us shape our behaviours more positively.
In this episode I discuss just this and what happens when you use these methods to "discipline" your child. I refer to a piece called "No Need For Threats" on page 32 of The Parents Tao Te Ching by William Martin.
How do you respond to that? It seems like no matter what you say, it's never right? Trust me you are not alone! If you struggle with this, tune in. In this episode I discuss ways that work for me and give you lots of ideas to try out.
Life is so busy for parents today. There are so many distractions. So many things our children can do and be a part of. We have to be unabashedly badass in our ability to make sure our children are getting their basic needs met.
Almost every emotional reaction you have will be as a result of an unmet expectation. They play a huge part in our lives as parents and learning to manage them well and understand the impact of them, is key to being able to find more joy, calm and ease in your life as a parent.
Do you find yourself triggered by your teen, and find it hard to control your reactivity? Then tune in, this is for you. In this episode, I offer some super effective strategies for dealing with this. FYI, I refer to the book "Brainstorm" by Dan Siegel.
Learning that you have a child with ADHD can be a shock to many parents. It was a shock to me, but also in a funny way, a relief to hear. In this episode I share our story on ADHD and hope that in me sharing mine, it helps you in yours.
Here is the link to the You Tube video on ADHD by my then, 15 year old son:
Do you feel an increasing sense of dis-connect in communities and in your life as a parent? Being truly connected to your child, family and community is hard today - there are so many distractions. In today's episode I discuss how you can become more connected with your children and family.
This is such a common problem today and dealing with child that wants to control everything is both exhausting and frustrating. In this episode I reply to a frustrated and about to lose it mum who reached out for help. I discuss a few things you can do in order to start bringing about some positive changes.
You have to first understand that you have played a part in creating the patterns of control that exist.
You can't change your child but you can change the way in which you respond to them. This is key. You are the leader and the guide.
There can be no fight if there are not two people willing to fight.
Can you pick two things that you continually fight for control of and let go of them. For example: food, clothes, a raincoat, the chair he sits on at dinner. I know, it seems ridiculous when you read it here, but these are exactly the sorts of things we usually end up fighting over!
Can you pick two things that you can ask him to start doing for himself.
Can you ask him to help you
Are you tired of your kids not listening to you?
Fed up with them being on their devices ALL. THE. TIME?
Done with nagging because it doesn't change anything except continue to drain you?
Do you feel like you never get any time to yourself?
You are not alone.
Welcome! I'm so excited to be here with you IN THE THICK OF IT.
I understand where you are at and I'm happy you have found this place: a safe place to land.
Send me your parenting questions via the CONTACT tab at the top of my website page: www.yourparentingpartner.com
Each week, I'll be picking one and helping YOU through the thick of it.
Who is going to be first?
PS. It's anonymous. No names.