Dr. Patricia Bay - Therapy in a Nutshell

Dr. Patricia Bay - Therapy in a Nutshell

By Dr. Patricia Bay
Dr. Patricia Bay, "Dr. Patty," has created a radio show based on her 30+ years of experience as a Marriage, Family Therapist and on her book entitled THERAPY IN A NUTSHELL. You may listen to the show on her podcast to help with challenges we all face in this world. She will help you with your own personal growth, your relationships, families and friends. Join Dr. Patty and help her heal the world one hour at a time.
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POLITICAL STRESS - The Other Pandemic
The chaos and conflict of our current political environment can be deeply troubling to many people. It can affect friendships, family relationships and professional connections. Sometimes irreversible changes occur. Are you feeling stressed and overwhelmed by everything that is currently happening?
48:11
August 1, 2020
SUICIDAL THOUGHTS - A Call to Consciousness
Sometimes the desire to die is a coping mechanism for controlling emotional pain. This is not about severe suicidal feelings but that slight "I just want things to stop hurting" feeling that some people channel into subtle suicidal thoughts. Learn how this can be am unhealthy coping mechanism and how to find healthier coping tools.
50:26
July 18, 2020
HABITS - Making Them and Breaking Them
Understanding how habits are formed will let you learn how to either make a new habit or break an old habit. It isn't difficult. There are some very specific steps that will help you accomplish your goals. (I apologize that I could not edit out the commercials in this episode. There has been a glitch in the app and I'm working on it. Just zoom through them.)
54:57
July 11, 2020
PERSONAL RULES
What are your personal rules that you have developed in an effort to keep yourself safe? These rules, formed over your lifetime from experiences, traumas, modeling from your upbringing, and more, can be a window into your soul. Learn how to take a look at yourself so you can grow and evolve. (Note: I apologize that I was unable to edit out the commercials from my radio show. Just zoom through them, if you would like.)
54:55
July 4, 2020
GROWING OLD IS NOT FOR WEENIES
Does the prospect of growing old frighten you? Do you feel like your get up and go, got up and went... and didn't leave a forwarding address? Dr. Richard Malotky joins me to talk about aging well.
48:50
June 20, 2020
ABANDONMENT ISSUES
Unresolved abandonment issues can create havoc in your life. Relationships, friendships, jobs, and much more, can be compromised and ruined by unconscious, dysfunctional coping mechanisms. This episode goes into how these issues can be created and acted out. Learn how to resolve your abandonment issues so they are not continuing to affect your life.
48:56
June 13, 2020
SOCIAL MEDIA FRUSTRATION- Do You Need a Break?
Are social media apps such as Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat and others creating anxiety, frustration, and anger for you? Many are saying the FUN is gone and now it is mostly negative. Explore this issue and figure out what you want to do for yourself.
47:10
June 6, 2020
DR. GOOGLE
Do you find yourself obcessively googling medical issues trying to figure out what is wrong with you or a loved one? Do you create anxiety and fear in yourself? Medical professionals often refer to this as "Dr. Google." It can be informative or at times annoying or incredibly harmful.
48:26
May 30, 2020
BARELY HANGING ON
I AM SO WORRIED ABOUT MANY PEOPLE. Clients, friends, family and other professionals' patients who are struggling emotionally. Many of those doing okay financially, and especially those who are not, are sliding down into a scary emotional place. Quarantine, loneliness, grief, loss, uncertainty and feeling forced into a horrible financial place, are all taking their toll. Adding to this is that the "finish line" keeps moving. People are going under and barely hanging on. I am hearing severe stress, relationship deterioration, hopelessness and suicidal ideation from people I have never seen, nor would have predicted, they could get this low. Richard Malotky, MD joins me and clarifies medical information. I believe this is an important show for more people than anyone knows.
48:48
May 16, 2020
I AM NOT BEGGING ANYONE TO LOVE ME
How do you cope when someone you love stops loving you? Many begin to feel desperate, lost, confused and angry. Often the desperation and the grief create a willingness to beg that person to love you again. There are healthy ways to handle this difficult issue.
48:52
May 9, 2020
Should I stay or should I go?
Trying to decide to stay or leave your relationship is difficult. It is hard to be "the bad guy" and at times it is difficult to endure and stay. This is a decision you must make for yourself. You cannot decide it for anyone else. This episode will help you explore some of the factors in this challenging issue.
48:53
May 2, 2020
SOCIAL MEDIA - A Love Hate Relationship
Are you addicted to social media? It can make you laugh, feel connected and popular. It can also contribute to anxiety, depression and loneliness. Many feel very inadequate after perusing their social media accounts. This episode can help you explore how your social media impacts your life.
49:00
April 25, 2020
CoVid19 BLUES
How are you dealing with the quarantine, social isolation, financial stress, relationship issues and the many other issues we are facing right now? Are you developing some unhealthy coping mechanisms or healthy ones?
48:53
April 18, 2020
UNDERSTANDING SLEEP
For many, sleep is illusive and difficult. Stress can severely compromise the ability to get productive and restful sleep. Understand what is going on during sleep and why stress can really mess it all up. Learn some healthy coping skills to get the rest you need. Richard Malotky, MD joins Dr. Patty to provide clear and important medical information.
48:51
April 11, 2020
SOCIAL ISOLATION
Is social isolation bringing out the best or the worst in you? How is it affecting your relationships and your family? Work on coming out of this virus crisis a better person with a stronger relationship and a healthier family.
43:43
April 4, 2020
PATIENCE
Do you consider yourself a patient person? Did you know that you can learn to be more patient? This episode will break down the elements involved with learning patience. It can help you and also give you the tools to teach patience to those around you, including your children.
49:03
March 28, 2020
CORONA VIRUS FEARS
The fears surrounding this challenging time are not just about illness and death. Many are facing financial devastation, severe losses, crushing anxiety and much more. Special guests Richard Malotky, MD and Master James Matthews, PhD Martial Arts (small business owner) add to the discussion
47:21
March 21, 2020
LOVING YOURSELF
Stepping into LOVING YOURSELF is actually much easier than you ever thought. It is a shift in perception. This episode of Therapy in a Nutshell will explore the differences between SELF-ESTEEM / SELF-CONFIDENCE and LOVING YOURSELF. Learn how you can have good self-esteem and self-confidence while still need to step into LOVING YOURSELF. 
47:56
March 15, 2020
REFINED BY FIRE
Special guest, Jennifer "Jas" Shaw, shares her personal story of literally rising from the ashes after she and her daughter were terribly burned in a home fire. The love, perseverance and strength this woman has shown, as well as her daughter, is awe inspiring. Learn how this brave human being has gone on to help others.
48:53
March 8, 2020
BROKEN
Do you feel broken and having a hard time getting back to your stronger self? You might feel mentally, physically and/or spiritually broken. You may be broken and confused about how and why you are broken or just about how to get unbroken. You might even be broken and not confused but still feeling stuck. This episode will help you find your joy again.
48:50
February 29, 2020
EMPOWERING CHILDREN and ADULTS
Master James Matthews (8th degree Black Belt in Kung Fu San Soo) discusses his work with children and adults using martial arts to teach strength, power, honor and discipline. His studio, PHD MARTIAL ARTS, helps people on their journey through life with physical, intellectual, emotional and social skills. This is truly empowering people to be their best selves.
48:53
February 22, 2020
FAMILY SECRETS
Almost everyone has personal or family secrets that they guard. What are your secrets and why do you keep them? How do family secrets harm your family? Should we tell our secrets?
47:24
February 15, 2020
COLONOSCOPY and UPPER G.I. TESTS
Are you avoiding the preventative care that you SHOULD be doing? Cancers of the gastrointestinal tract (throat, esophagus, stomach and colon) are preventable with simple, regular screenings. This episode explores why people avoid these important tests, why they should step into doing them and how to proceed. GET IT DONE!! Special guest, Richard Malotky MD, tells you why.
48:41
February 8, 2020
BOUNDARIES OF PROTECTION
People have limitations that they deal with on a regular basis. These can be physical, mental or emotional issues that we need to, have to, or should set boundaries for ourselves. These boundaries are to protect our bodies and/or our minds. Learn how to do this without shame, guilt or self-condemnation.
48:41
February 1, 2020
PARENTS OF PRISONERS
When your child, whether an adult or a minor, is incarcerated, it rips at your very being. Huge emotions, fears and frustrations radically alter life as you knew it. Three sets of parents share their journey regarding their children being in jail and/or prison. They offer suggestions and support for others parents of prisoners.
47:45
January 25, 2020
DNR - Do Not Resuscitate
What does DNR actually mean? Have you thought it out and are you prepared, in advance, of any need to deal with this possibility? Understand DNR and get your wishes put together long before you might be faced with decisions during crisis.
48:27
January 19, 2020
FAMILY FEUDING AFTER DEATH
Families often experience emotional difficulties after a death. Sometimes they are minor but often catastrophic. Right when most people believe a family should, and will, come together in mutual grief and cooperation, emotions escalate and relationships are altered. Why? Also, learn how you can help prevent this from occurring in your family.
48:38
January 13, 2020
RADICAL HONESTY
Why is honesty important to us and why do people lie? How can we learn to stop lying and begin to be honest with not only others, but ourselves? The practice of radical honesty is freeing and much less exhausting than all the work it takes to tell a lie.
48:55
January 4, 2020
NEW YEAR'S RESOLUTIONS - WHY?
Why do we make New Year's Resolutions? 80% of them are discarded by February. Why? This episode will help you learn how to make true lifestyle changes, not temporary intentions that leave you feeling like a failure.
48:56
December 28, 2019
MEDICAL AVOIDANCE
Do you, or someone you love, avoid going to the doctor or dentist? Are you embarrassed or afraid? This episode explores how many people avoid taking care of themselves. Sometimes with deadly consequences. Learn how to get over the avoidance and step into it.
48:52
December 21, 2019
HYPNOSIS
Hypnosis, utilized in professional psychotherapy, is a powerful tool. It can help with anxiety, depression, PTSD, guilt, shame and much more. This episode explain what hypnosis is and how it can be part of effective therapy. Dr. Patty also discusses past life regression.
47:17
December 14, 2019
PERFORMANCE ANXIETY
Many become anxious when it is time to perform. Whether it is on stage playing music, singing, public speaking, oral reports in school, an important meeting at work or anxiety about sexual performance. It can be debilitating. Gain some understanding and easy coping skills with this episode.
48:28
December 8, 2019
HOLIDAY STRESS - Physical & Emotional Issues
Dr. Patty, along with Richard Malotky MD, discuss the emotional and physical symptoms that often manifest during the holidays. Each have been in practice 34 years and have seen the same issues each year. Learn to do things differently this year.
48:48
November 30, 2019
POLITICAL DERANGEMENT SYNDROME
Today's political unrest is creating anger and anxiety in people across the country. It is affecting relationships, families and friendships. Many have expressed anxiety about holiday gatherings and the risk if them turning into fiascoes.
48:55
November 23, 2019
RYAN O'CALLAGHAN discusses his book "My Life on the Line"
Retired NFL player, Ryan O'Callaghan, speaks openly about his life in the NFL, "coming out" and his new book. My Life on the Line is a vulnerable, brave memoir that has loads more to offer than just football.
48:51
November 16, 2019
Has your relationship lost the FUN?
Many couples feel that the fun, the spark, is gone from their relationship. Exhaustion, boredom, emotional distance and lack of intimacy can all be factors. This episode will help you take a look at your relationship. Figure out where the problems are, why they are occurring and some steps to get you back on track.
48:54
November 9, 2019
ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY
Even people who are not particularly anxiety-prone can get caught up in "anticipatory anxiety" when they are worrying about something. Learn why we think this helps us and how to create healthier coping skills.
48:54
November 2, 2019
GRIEF and LOSS
Grief is a very difficult emotion. This episode helps differentiate between a "normal" or "usual" grief response to loss and "complicated" grieving reactions. When does someone need help through this difficult process? Help yourself or someone you care about survive the challenges of grief.
45:04
October 26, 2019
PTSD PREVENTION
This episode talks about how to keep a stress reaction from going into full-blown PTSD. It also gives tools for preventing PTSD.
48:55
October 19, 2019
SAFETY IN RELATIONSHIPS
Feeling safe with your partner is the foundation of intimacy. It is necessary for healthy, successful communication. Is your relationship your safe place? This episode will help you look at your relationship and determine how emotionally safe you feel with your partner.
48:39
October 12, 2019
EFFECTIVE DISCIPLINE
Learn an effective, consistent, easy to put into practice disciplinary technique for your household. Stop feeling like a nag or bad parent. Reduce the negativity and chaos and start feeling better about your parenting. This will help you raise respectful, honorable children. What better way to create awesome adults?
48:17
October 5, 2019
ULTRA-SENSITIVES
Are you, or someone you care about, an "ultra-sensitive" individual? Ultra-sensitives easily take things personally, often excessively doubt themselves, have trouble separating the feelings of others from their own feelings. This episode will teach you about this personality style and how to manage it and embrace it as a gift.
48:51
September 28, 2019
HEALTHY DATING
Is your picker broken? Do you think there is no one worth loving out there for you? Have you settled for a relationship that is not what you truly want? This episode will teach you the skills you need for healthy dating and finding a great relationship. It's also good for teens and young adults to teach healthy dating skills.
48:55
September 23, 2019
DEPRESSION
Many people struggle with depression. It is exhausting. This episode will discuss some different times of depression, treatment and coping skills. Most importantly, those challenged with mood disorders need to KNOW they are worth getting help.
45:32
September 14, 2019
PTSD and FIRST RESPONDERS
First Responders are susceptible to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), many of whom never seek help. They suffer in silence. My special guest, Redding Fire Department Battalion Chief (recently retired) Wil Francis, speaks out about this issue and offers insight and advice.
46:38
September 7, 2019
UNHAPPINESS - The Call to Consciousness
Burying your unhappiness does not serve anyone, especially not you. This episode with help you explore just how happy or unhappy you are with some or all of your life. Learn some tools to help you handle your awarenesses.
46:19
August 24, 2019
FAMILY DRAMA
Almost every family has their own share of drama. Some have more than others. This episode will discuss how to figure out how you feel and how to develop some healthy coping skills to survive your family.
48:27
August 10, 2019
BETRAYAL
Feeling betrayed by someone you care about is very challenging. This episode discusses the complicated emotions of betrayal, how to heal and how to make amends if you have hurt someone.
47:17
August 4, 2019
CARR FIRE SURVIVAL
In 2018 in Redding, CA the deadly CARR FIRE burned about 230,000 acres and killed 8 people. Over 1600 structures were burned. Special guest, Julie Kaplan, tells her story about losing their home in the fire. She also gives great advice to being prepared if evacuation occurs again.
48:47
July 27, 2019
BOYS TO MEN - Raising mature, emotionally developed men.
Raising boys into wonderful, adult men is a very important job. For them to become mature, sensitive, caring, emotionally developed men, they must have certain emotional skills. This show discusses many of these attributes. Guest, Richard Malotky, MD, discusses raising his son and his own journey into more emotional awareness.
48:52
July 20, 2019
FAIR FIGHTING - Learn the do's and don't's of FAIR FIGHTING. It is easy and effective.
Fair fighting is about effective communication when things are difficult. This episode will discuss things you should not do and things that will help you have a healthy argument. Effective conflict leaves you feeling resolved and closer to each other.
48:29
July 13, 2019
NARCISSISM - Living With a Partner With a Difficult Personality
Living with a partner who has a difficult personality such as NARCISSISM can be extremely difficult. It is easy to forget who you are and to feel powerless. This episode will help you identify and understand the narcissist so you can find your strength again.
48:55
July 6, 2019
LETTING GO
How do we let go of something we have had high hopes for? Understanding how we attach and what our expectations are can help us know how to accomplish letting go of that which is not healthy or what makes us unhappy.
47:38
June 29, 2019
BULLYING
Bullying is a huge problem in our schools. Special guest, 12-year-old Allison Bedford, discusses her experience with bullying. Her insight and advice is far beyond her years. Karleen Speers, a teacher with 19 years of experience, tells us about her school's anti-bullying program.
49:12
June 17, 2019
LOVE WITHDRAWAL
When someone you care about gives you the silent treatment, pulls away, refuses to talk things out or other forms of LOVE WITHDRAWAL, it can be very hurtful and destructive. Learn why LOVE WITHDRAWAL happens and some skills to change your behavior if you do it, or deal with someone who does it to you.
48:51
June 8, 2019
AFFAIR RECOVERY
Recovering and healing your relationship from an affair is possible. It takes hard work and the desire to do so . This episode will help to teach you how to recover and maybe even be stronger then ever.
54:58
June 2, 2019
WHY PEOPLE CHEAT IN RELATIONSHIPS
There are reasons why people cheat on their significant other. Understanding why is important for everyone involved. It can help with recovery from an affair and also help safeguard your relationship.
54:58
May 25, 2019
BUILD YOUR BONE DENSITY
(Note: The recording started a bit too soon. Skip through the little bit in the beginning that is not my show I tried to edit it but was unsuccessful. Thanks. Dr. Patty) Osteoporosis, the condition where your bone density becomes an issue, can cause severe problems. Your health and youthful vibrancy can be compromised. This episode will help you understand what is happening to your body and how to not only combat osteoporosis but also reverse it and build your bone density.
55:01
May 14, 2019
BBS - BUSY BRAIN SYNDROME
Many struggle with an over-active mind  This can create stress, anxiety and fear. BBS or Busy Brain Syndrome can ruin your ability to be present in your life and keep you from experiencing happiness. This "monkey mind" often seems like it is necessary to keep up with today's fast moving pace. We can fool ourselves into believing that if we think of every possible outcome to whatever situation we are concerned about, then we will be ahead of things and can keep bad things from happening.  In this episode, Dr. Patty explores this tendency of overthinking that so many people struggle with and gives some coping skills to help calm your busy brain. "My happiness is trying to catch me, but my anxiety is running too fast." - Khalil Gibran
54:57
May 4, 2019
LOVING YOURSELF
Stepping into LOVING YOURSELF is actually much easier than you ever thought. It is a shift in perception. This episode of Therapy in a Nutshell will explore the differences between SELF-ESTEEM / SELF-CONFIDENCE and LOVING YOURSELF. Learn how you can have good self-esteem and self-confidence while still need to step into LOVING YOURSELF. 
54:58
April 27, 2019
STRESS - Identifying and managing it
Managing the stress in our lives seems to be a constant battle for everyone. In this episode, I will help you identify your stress and learn some coping tools to reduce it.
54:57
April 20, 2019
GUILT, SHAME and BLAME
The feelings of guilty, shame and blame can get in the way of your happiness. Learn how to recognize these powerful emotions and begin to move into a healthier, happier existence.
54:58
April 13, 2019
SURVIVING SUICIDE - The Journey Through Tragic Loss
Dr. Patty talks with special guest, Rhonda Nehr, whose son took his own life 22 years ago. They discuss the journey from horrid, tragic loss to finding joy again.
54:58
April 6, 2019
RIDING THE DRAGON - Facing Your Fears
Are you unhappy? Do you know what is in the way of your happiness? in this episode you will learn techniques to face your fears and RIDE YOUR DRAGON..
54:59
March 30, 2019
Healing Through Music
This episode explores the healing power of music, especially from profound grief. Carrie Newcomer, singer and songwriter, is my special guest whose 19 CD's have helped so many throughout the world.
54:58
March 23, 2019
Technology's effect on relationships
How does your cell phone and other technology affect your relationships? Are you addicted to your smart phone? This program will help you take a look at how you handled your usage.
54:58
March 16, 2019
CONFLICT RESOLUTION SKILLS
It's easy to be positive and loving. It is much harder to deal with negative and contentious conflict. This episode will give you some basic skills to deal with conflict in your life.
54:58
March 10, 2019
CAREGIVING
Dr. Patty, along with guests Connie Spooner and Lillian Deeble, discuss caregiving the terminally ill. All three women had husband's who suffered from Frontotemporal Degeneration and all three cared for their men for over ten years. Learn how you can survive caregiving or how you can help a caregiver you know.
54:58
March 2, 2019
TRUST
Developing healthy relationships is one of life's greatest challenges. The quality of your relationships can determine the level of fulfillment and happiness you experience in life. Trusting is a very important part of a healthy relationship. This episode will talk about how we learn to trust, how do we heal broken trust and how do we create a life of connection and intimacy.
54:58
February 23, 2019
ANXIETY
Let's talk about anxiety. What are some of the causes, what happens in your brain and what can you do to help yourself. learn some great coping skills.
47:50
February 16, 2019
Empty Hands
How do we let go of all the old pain, trauma and experiences that color how we deal with our current world? The things we hold onto, believing they make us feel safe, can actually increase our stress. This episode will help you define what you cling to, help you learn to let go, and deal with the things that come at you in your life. Learn to empty your hands.
54:58
February 9, 2019
Homelessness
This is Dr. Patty's first show. She tells a little bit about herself and then discussed the issue of homelessness. How do we keep our humanity and still want things to change in our communities?
54:57
January 29, 2019
Communication Basics
This episode will give you some great skills to improve all your relationships. Whether you are wanting to improve communications with your partner, kids, friends or coworkers, this podcast will help bring a better you to the table.
53:47
January 28, 2019
Standing in Your Truth
Do you have trouble stating exactly how you feel about something? This is especially difficult when you have negative or controversial thoughts and feelings. Do you get too aggressive? Do you often feel like a doormat and cannot stand up for yourself? This podcast will teach you an effective and positive way to express your true thoughts and feelings.
46:01
January 20, 2019
The Home Supervisor
Who is the "home supervisor" in your house? Does one person do a larger share of the  "gotta do's" that keep a home running smoothly? Do you fight with your partner about "helping more around the house?" This podcast will define the home supervisor role and give you concrete skills to talk about this with your partner and family.  There is also an exercise to help you make the division of labor much more fair.  
54:34
January 20, 2019