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Understand Suicide

Understand Suicide

By Paula Fontenelle
Here we will create a safe community to fight the stigma surrounding suicide. I will interview specialists, survivors, and individuals who have a story to tell. We will cover a variety of themes: grief, warning signs, risk factors, contagion, youth, and most importantly, what can be done to prevent suicide.

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Ep. 41 - He is a comedian with chronic suicidal ideation | Interview Frank King
Frank King is one of those perfect examples of the saying “don't judge by the cover.” For over twenty years, he wrote comedy for the Tonight Show, but while world audiences laughed at his jokes, he struggled with chronic suicidal ideation. No one knew of his pain. In 2012, while talking to an older cousin about their great-aunt’s death, it was revealed to him that the story he knew about her, which was that she had died peacefully, was a lie. When told of the details of her suicide, all the memories came back to him at once. Right there and then, he remembered that, at the age of four, he had actually witnessed the suicide but had no recollection of it. That revelation encouraged him to unveil other family secrets, as well as to open up about his own internal pain. He found out that mental illness is prevalent in his family, something that was kept a taboo, so Frank decided to break the silence. He came out during a TED Talk, and his decision has positively impacted his marriage and relationship with friends. In this interview, he talks about how his determination to open up influenced his family, the reaction he often gets from his audiences, the importance of reaching out, and how liberating it is to be authentic about who he is. He also addresses the toxic culture of masculinity, which hinders men from getting in touch and processing their emotions. As a way to raise awareness regarding this issue, he recently published the book “Guts, Grit & The Grind: A MENtal Mechanics MANual: Advanced Mechanics in Preventative Maintenance.” Find Frank King: https://bit.ly/2HjOChJ Buy his book: https://amzn.to/3csFdjn If you want to watch this interview, visit my YouTube Channel "Understand Suicide" https://youtu.be/S18FSjh771E Visit my page www.understandsuicide.com Find my book "Understanding suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention" https://amzn.to/2ANczuR Contact me and exchange experiences on my Facebook page: https://bit.ly/3h8sIet
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September 24, 2020
Ep. 40 - Building hope when talking to a suicidal person | Interview John Sommers-Flanagan
I wanted the one-year anniversary episode to be a special one, so I reached out to a person I admire deeply for his work with people who are at risk for suicide. John Sommer-Flanagan is one of those individuals who can get anyone to open up and truly feel listened to. I came across his name when taking an online course for therapists on how to treat suicidal patients and developed immense respect for him. His soothing voice and demeanor touched my heart. I learned a lot and you will too.  With more than thirty years of practice and many books published, John deeply understands psychological pain and how to address it. He became interested in suicide after losing a patient early in his career. The painful experience made him question his ability to help others. Thankfully, he turned it around, and instead of giving up, he learned with it and decided to keep treating this population. In this interview, John gives us valuable, practical examples of how to instill hope in a person who is contemplating suicide. This is no easy task because they are usually in such pain that seeing any other option is a struggle, or what he calls “black-and-black thinking.”  Find John Flanagan: https://johnsommersflanagan.com/  If you want to watch this interview, visit my YouTube Channel: https://youtu.be/RDmY8kgf6Zc  Visit my page www.understandsuicide.com  Find my book "Understanding suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention"  https://amzn.to/2ANczuR  Contact me and exchange experiences on my Facebook page: https://bit.ly/3h8sIet
56:47
September 17, 2020
Today we celebrate 1 year of the podcast
I talk about the things I've learned with the podcast and ask the listeners if they would be interested in having a monthly group to share our stories. Doing the podcast is great, it gives me purpose but it is quite solitary, so I would love to be able to hear more from my audience. Thank you for a fulfilling year and the chance to honor my dad's memory. Check my YouTube Channel, the interviews are there too for those who - like me - enjoy seeing the people I interview. https://bit.ly/3kxXuPp
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September 17, 2020
Ep. 39 - Anxiety and intergenerational trauma | Interview Sarah Payton
Sarah Peyton is an international speaker who applies groundbreaking knowledge of neuroscience in treating individuals. She is the author of "Your resonant self: Guided meditations and exercises to engage your brain's capacity for healing."  In this interview, she explains how trauma is imprinted and passed on through our DNA, which later can be expressed in emotions such as fear and anxiety. Sarah describes anxiety as having two ' flavors:' fear, which most of us associate it with, and the realm of alarm/loneliness. She also talks about the different ways in which individuals deal with trauma depending on which hemisphere of the brain is more dominant, including how the person may respond to suicidal ideation and grief. Find Sarah Peyton: https://empathybrain.com/ If you want to watch this interview, click on the link below: https://youtu.be/fkFIspP5Ils Visit my page www.understandsuicide.com Find my book "Understanding suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention" https://amzn.to/2ANczuR Contact me and exchange experiences on my Facebook page: https://bit.ly/3h8sIet
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September 10, 2020
Ep. 38 - Do you live according to your values? Interview Jenna LeJeune
Have you ever felt disconnected from the things that are important to you? This may be a strange question when thinking about suicide, but I assure you, it is central and should be assessed in different phases of our lives because when we are out of touch with what we believe in and from whom we want to be, life feels meaningless. To talk about values, I invited the clinical psychologist Jenna LeJeune, author of the book “Values in Therapy: A Clinician’s Guide to Helping Clients Explore Values, Increase Psychological Flexibility, and Live a More Meaningful Life.” Jenna helps us look deeply into our lives in search of an authentic way of showing up, to reflect on whether or not we choose our paths, and to guide us back when we derail from a purposeful existence. During our conversation, she carried out an exercise that involves seeing my body language and facial expression, so if you want to watch this interview, click on the link below: https://youtu.be/YSyQeXhXp3s Visit my page www.understandsuicide.com Find my book "Understanding suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention" https://amzn.to/2ANczuR Contact me and exchange experiences on my Facebook page: https://bit.ly/3h8sIet
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September 4, 2020
Ep. 37 - Healing from trauma even if you don't remember them | Interview Shari Botwin
For many years of her life, Shari felt like a misfit, which was quite confusing and hurtful for her because she could not understand where all that pain came from. She had a hard time building relationships, was haunted by self-doubt, and struggled with suicidal ideation. When she finally decided to explore her story, she sought treatment with a therapist, and what she found out was that she had repeatedly been sexually abused as a child. Her painful repressed memories surfaced but only after she felt safe to open up. “For two years, I sat in therapy once a week and told my therapist that my life was fine and that my family was supportive,” she recalls. Today, Shari is a clinical social worker who treats trauma survivors, many of them with suicidal ideation. In 2019, she published the book “Thriving after trauma: Stories of living and healing.” In this interview, she enlightens us about the ways in which we can heal from trauma, even if we have no memories of them. She addresses many themes from the perspectives of an individual who contemplates suicide and those who have lost loved ones in this manner. FIND SHARI BOTWIN: http://www.sharibotwin.com Watch this interview on my YouTube Channel "Understand Suicide.” Visit my page www.understandsuicide.com Find my book "Understanding suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention" https://amzn.to/2ANczuR Contact me and exchange experiences on my Facebook page: https://bit.ly/3h8sIet
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August 26, 2020
Ep. 36 - What is trauma and how it impacts our lives / Interview Esly Carvalho
Esly Carvalho is a Brazilian/American clinical psychologist with decades of experience treating trauma patients. Her specialty is the technique EMDR, which stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (she is a trainer of trainers). In this interview, I wanted to invite my audience to reconsider some of their misconceptions about trauma because we tend to see it only as something that includes violence. This is true but it doesn’t give the full picture. Esly did a great job explaining what trauma is with many examples from her clinical work. She also explored the many ways traumatic experiences impact many aspects of our life: our physical and mental health, the way we related to others, the fear it imprints in us, and some of the options out there for treatment. COVID-19 was also examined in our conversation. Listen to this interview on my YouTube Channel "Understand Suicide." Visit my page www.understandsuicide.com My book "Understanding suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention:" https://amzn.to/2ANczuR Contact me and exchange experiences on my Facebook page "Understand Suicide." FIND ESLY CARVALHO: EMDR International Association Her Books (they are free on Kindle): Rupture and Repair Healing the Folks Who Live inside Heal Your Brain, Heal Your Body
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August 20, 2020
Request: Send me your questions
This podcast is for you and I'm sure that one of the reasons to come here is to find answers. This doesn't mean you find them all, so if you do have questions regarding suicide, please send them to me and I will do my best to answer them through interviews. I will never reveal your name, so feel free to ask, ok? Here are two ways to do it: https://www.understandsuicide.com/contact-1 (just click and fill out the form) Facebook Page (on Facebook, search for "Understand Suicide") Let's do this together.
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August 16, 2020
Ep. 35 - How guilt, shame, and religion show up in suicide grief / Interview Tamara Webb (part 2)
This is part two of my interview with Tamara Webb, a professional counselor in Portland/OR who specializes in grief. In this episode, we focus on the impact of guilt, shame, and religion on suicide loss. I also pose myself as a client and ask her a few common questions regarding suicide grief:  1. what to say when feels their loved one's death was their responsibility?  2. How about when the last thing you said to him/her was harsh/rude? Find Tamara Webb here. Listen to this interview on my YouTube Channel "Understand Suicide." Visit my page www.understandsuicide.com My book "Understanding suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention:" https://amzn.to/2ANczuR
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August 13, 2020
Ep. 34 - When talking therapy is not enough / Interview Tamara Webb (part 1)
Tamara Webb is a professional counselor who specializes in grief. Her approach to therapy is what caught my attention because she doesn't just focus on talking therapy. She presents herself as a holistic counselor, which means that  when clients come into her office, they will be assessed on what she calls the "five bodies common to the human experience: the physical, energetic, mental/emotional and narrative bodies and the body of the connected heart."  In this interview, Tamara addresses how you can move toward healing by paying attention to what you eat and the importance of exercise: "The most powerful thing that we do in terms of any kind of medical treatment starts with what we eat. Health begins in the gut," she said. We also talk about suicide grief, particularly when guilt, self-blame, and regrets are present. How blaming affects families was also explored. Find Tamara Webb here. Listen to this interview on my YouTube Channel "Understand Suicide." Visit my page www.understandsuicide.com My book "Understanding suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention:" https://amzn.to/2ANczuR
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August 6, 2020
Ep. 33 - My interview to Lori Massicot on her "To 50 and Beyond" Podcast
Lori Massicot has an empowering podcast called To 50 and Beyond, where she invites guests to discuss various topics. I encourage you to check it out.  In this episode, we talked about the myths about suicide, my personal story and how I delt with my father's death, warning signs, tips on what to do (and to avoid) when talking to someone who is contemplating suicide, misconceptions regarding this theme, the stigma that surrounds it, and my mission to help break the silence around this subject.
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July 30, 2020
Ep. 32 - Dealing with daily struggles: your emotional response may be the natural way to react to them / Interview Dr. Steven Reisner
American clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst Dr. Steven Reisner is a human rights activist; this gives him a very unique perspective on how the mental health profession interacts with culture and society. I start this conversation by asking him whether or not he believes that COVID-19 will constitute a traumatic experience for most of us. Through a social justice lens, he argues that this will depend on our capacity to learn from it and society's ability to mobilize and demand change. Another topic covered in this episode is loneliness. The pandemic has pushed the theme of loneliness to the forefront, but this trend has been present for a long time in our communities. We also discuss the current tendency of the mental health field to pathologize natural human responses to distress, which can be detrimental to the transformation of not only the individual but society as a whole. Dr. Reisner ends by talking about his podcast called Madness, where he weaves psychoanalysis concepts with politics, democracy, and the most relevant topics currently being discussed in America and the world. Listen to this interview on my YouTube Channel "Understand Suicide." Visit my page www.understandsuicide.com My book "Understanding suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention:" https://amzn.to/2ANczuR
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July 28, 2020
Ep. 31 - Are clinicians afraid to treat suicidal patients? Interview Dr. Steven Reisner (Part 1)
American clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst Dr. Steven Reisner has fought tirelessly to improve the ethics of his profession. During more than a decade, he denounced the participation of psychologists in designing programs of torture for the US government, which resulted in a shift in the policies of the American Psychological Association, APA. He is also critical of his colleagues for the way they often treat suicidal patients, which is the main topic of Part 1 of our conversation. In this interview, Dr. Reisner talks about the increased fear of mental health professionals to manage suicidal clients, possible ways to approach these patients, and how the current pandemic has been mishandled in the US.  Dr. Reisner has a private practice in New York but he is currently in France, where he decided to move due to the outbreak of COVID-19 in his hometown.  Listen to this interview on my YouTube Channel "Understand Suicide." Visit www.understandsuicide.com My book "Understanding suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention:" https://amzn.to/2ANczuR
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July 21, 2020
Ep. 30 - What to say to a suicidal person / Interview Stacey Freedenthal
Knowing how to help a suicidal person is difficult for most of us. We are afraid to “do the wrong thing” and stimulate their resolve. In order to help with this issue, the clinical social worker Stacey Freedenthal wrote the book “Helping the suicidal person,” with eighty nine tips on how to approach someone who is contemplating suicide. Stacey has personal experience with suicide ideation because she experienced it herself in her 20’s; she also lost friends to voluntary death. Today, she works in Dever, Colorado, treating suicidal patients and grief related to this kind of loss. In this interview, I ask her to explain some of the suggestions explored in the book, not only regarding what to say but also what we should all avoid doing when listening to individuals at risk for suicide. Listen to this interview on my YouTube Channel "Understand Suicide." https://bit.ly/31OE8za Visit www.understandsuicide.com My book "Understanding suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention:" https://amzn.to/2ANczuR Find Stacey Freedenthal’s book: https://amzn.to/2VQVpnr
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July 6, 2020
Ep. 29 - Suicide grief and how COVID-19 has impacted bereavement - Interview Jill Johnson-Young (Part 2)
Jill Johnson-Young knows grief profoundly and from many perspectives. She was widowed twice before the age of fifty; as a medical social worker, she has worked with dying patients; she has run grief support groups; she has created the Your Path Through Grief program, and she is married to a funeral director. In part 2 of our conversation, Jill focuses on the peculiarities of suicide grief. One of the topics we covered was how to respond to those we love but make us uncomfortable with our own pain.  The impact of COVID-19 on bereavement is also explored. According to Jill, the pandemic has been creating layers of trauma in many of us, particularly for those who lost loved ones: "All of the traditional ways of saying good-bye have been removed by this virus...It has made losses so much bigger.. it's causing families to not know what happened." More information about Jill: https://yourpaththroughgrief.com/ Visit my page:  www.understandsuicide.com This watch this interview on my YouTube Channel called "Understand Suicide" My book "Understanding suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention" https://amzn.to/2ANczuR
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June 25, 2020
Ep. 28 - Phases of grief? Interview Jill Johnson-Young (Part 1)
Jill Johnson-Young knows grief profoundly and from many perspectives. She was widowed twice before the age of fifty; as a medical social worker, she has worked with dying patients; she has run grief support groups; she has created the Your Path Through Grief program, and she is married to a funeral director.  In this first part of our conversation, she gave us an insightful view on Dr. Kübler-Ross's popularized 'phases of grief'. Jill also walked us through the need to address emotions after the loss of a loved one, the differences between depression and grief, and her experience with the dying and their families. How can we deal with people around us who are trying to push us to "get over it," "go on with life," and similar messages? What about regrets regarding the person who died? These are some of the topics we talked about in this interview. More information about Jill: https://yourpaththroughgrief.com/   Visit my page:  www.understandsuicide.com This watch this interview on my YouTube Channel: https://bit.ly/3fzct8X My book "Understanding suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention" https://amzn.to/2ANczuR
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June 18, 2020
Ep. 27 - Her sexual assault led her to a suicide attempt - Interview Catherine Chapman
Catherine is a victim of child sex abuse, and as it often happens with children, she grew up believing it was her fault. There were times when she tried to warn her parents about her contact with pornography but they often dismissed her claims. Later, as an adolescent, her internalized shame and distorted self-image - one that shouted ‘you are ugly, dirty, and chronically bad,’ - pushed her towards self-harming behavior.  Being a pastor’s daughter, she felt that her family had to serve as an example of what it means to be Christian, which often meant keeping a façade of perfection and righteousness even in the face of pain. Her mother struggled with depression although this was never discussed at home.  In this episode, Catherine shares her story publicly for the first time - including her suicide attempts. She talks about how she went from wanting to end it all, including a recent attempt after being sexually assaulted in 2018, to becoming a counselor who helps others process their traumas and find healing. What helped her? This is one of the questions I asked during the interview.  Watch this interview on my YouTube Channel: https://youtu.be/kOpnzau7tt0  My book "Understanding suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention" https://amzn.to/2ANczuR  Visit www.understandsuicide.com
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June 11, 2020
Ep. 26 - How can schools be prepared to address suicide? Interview Jonathan Singer
Jonathan Singer is a clinical social worker, the president of the American Association of Suicidology, and co-author of the book “Suicide in Schools: A Practitioner’s Guide to Multi-level Prevention, Assessment, Intervention, and Postvention.” In this interview, he explains how schools can be ready to address suicide in a holistic and effective way.  All the resources (programs) mentioned by Dr. Jonathan Singer can be found https://www.understandsuicide.com/for-schools Watch this interview on my YouTube Channel: https://bit.ly/2UcrJ3n Visit the American Association of Suicidology: https://suicidology.org/ My book "Understanding suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention" https://amzn.to/2ANczuR
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June 4, 2020
Ep. 25 - The pandemic and its toll on mental health - Interview Jonathan Singer
Jonathan Singer is a clinical social worker and the president of the American Association of Suicidology. In this interview, we discuss how the pandemic has impacted individuals, families, work relations, and communities. He talks about the challenges we all face to maintain a healthy routine, how mental health workers are dealing with the demand, the effect of losing social connection with others, and how to deal with anxiety and loneliness during the quarantine. Dr. Singer is the co-author of the 2015 Routledge text “Suicide in Schools: A Practitioner’s Guide to Multi-level Prevention, Assessment, Intervention, and Postvention.” He is the founder and host of the award-winning podcast series, the Social Work Podcast. Visit the American Association of Suicidology: https://suicidology.org/ For more information on suicide, visit:  https://www.understandsuicide.com/ Watch this interview on my YouTube Channel "Understand Suicide" https://bit.ly/2M9BYRO My book "Understanding suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention" https://amzn.to/2ANczuR
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May 28, 2020
Ep. 24 - She reinvented her life after losing her brother to suicide / Sally Spencer-Thomas
Sally Spencer-Thomas is an award-winning speaker in mental health. After losing her brother Carson to suicide, in 2004, she focused her work as a psychologist to fighting the stigma surrounding suicide.  In this interview, she tells her Carson's story, how it impacted her family, and how she dealt with her own mental illness, which was partially caused by the trauma of losing him.  Sally discusses how suicide affects first-responders, who often experience compassion fatigue, the importance of being open about our own struggles, and sends a powerful message to religious leaders regarding their approach to suicide.   She has earned an international reputation as an entrepreneur and innovator in social change and has held leadership roles with the International Association of Suicide Prevention and the American Association of Suicidology. In 2016, she was invited to speak at the White House on men’s mental health.   Her website https://www.sallyspencerthomas.com/   For more information on suicide, visit:  www.understandsuicide.com   This watch this interview on my YouTube Channel "Understand Suicide" https://youtu.be/V5rLKYnpskY  My book "Understanding suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention"  https://amzn.to/2ANczuR
42:21
May 21, 2020
Ep. 23 - The masks we wear when in pain: he attempted suicide but all everyone saw was a perfect life / Interview John Nieuwenburg
John Nieuwenburg is an award-winning business coach from Canada with a supportive family and wife, but this is only one side of his story. For years, he hid from everyone his feelings of hopelessness, until his depression took its toll and he attempted suicide.   In this interview, John told me that when he looks back, it's hard for him to recognize the man from that past, particularly the person who attempted suicide. "The last 5 years have been the best in my life. Off the charts great!"    He also talks about the shame he felt for not being happy despite everything he had accomplished, the impact his Ted Talk had on his career and personal life, and his dedication to breaking the silence surrounding mental illness and suicide.   Watch his Ted Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=STMp6w38k3g  For more information on suicide, visit: www.understandsuicide.com This interview can be watched on my YouTube Channel "Understand Suicide."  https://youtu.be/Ro3iKJ301Tw
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May 14, 2020
Ep. 22 - Stigma and mental illness: Is awareness enough? Interview Dr. Patrick Corrigan
Psychologist Dr. Patrick Corrigan has struggled with mental illness all his life and has dedicated his profession to fighting the discrimination experienced by those with psychiatric conditions. In this eye-opening interview, I asked him what we can do to help society fight the stigma associated with mental illnesses, which leads so many people to suicide. He said that contrary to general belief, education is just a small step; sometimes, it can make matter worse. The most effective way is to connect with others who have lived experience with mental illness.  Dr. Patrick has dedicated his life to understanding what works and the misconceptions we have when combatting stereotypes, prejudice, and discrimination against the mentally ill.  His research group is currently recruiting for a study on stigma and suicide. They are seeking adults with lived experience of suicidal thoughts or a suicide attempt to take a 20-minute survey about suicide disclosure. If you are interested in participating, CLICK HERE or copy the link below: https://iitresearchrs.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_2bO6dp7cMEEzoZD If you want more information on suicide visit: www.understandsuicide.com  This interview can be watched on my YouTube channel. My book "Understanding suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention" is on Amazon.
39:57
May 6, 2020
Ep. 21 - Childhood grief: how to tell kids about death / Interview Donna Schuurman
In this interview, Donna Schuurman talks about how to open up a dialogue about grief with children. She gives valuable tips on finding appropriate language, how kids express emotions, what to avoid, and ways in which families can come together after the loss of a loved one. She also discusses the peculiarities of suicide grief and the challenges that come with having to talk about this kind of death.   Donna is the senior director of advocacy and training at The Dougy Center, in Portland/OR, a place where families receive free grief therapy and other services. For more information visit www.dougy.org. They also have a podcast called "Grief out loud."   For more information on Suicide, visit: www.understandsuicide.com   You can watch this interview and many others on my YouTube Channel "Understand Suicide."  My book "Understanding suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention" can be found on Amazon.
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April 28, 2020
Ep. 20 - Youth suicide: helping parents take action / Interview Norine Vanderhooven
For the past 3 years, Norine Vanderhooven has been the Chair of the Youth Suicide Prevention Committee of the American Association of Suicidology. As a clinical social worker, she has vast experience in treating trauma and suicide-related issues.   In this interview, she helps parents understand the main factors associated with youth suicide, identify signs, and take action to protect their kids.   You can watch this interview is available on my YouTube channel "Understand Suicide" For more information on suicide visit www.understandsuicide.com  My book "Understanding suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention" is available on Amazon.
31:45
April 20, 2020
Ep. 19 - Talking to my sister about dad's suicide
Suicide has a devastating impact on families, especially if blaming is present and the individual ways of grieving are not respected. In this conversation, I talk to my older sister Renata about the ways we see dad's suicide and our personal grieving processes. We go through some of the emotions both of us experienced (or not), such as sadness, anger, guilt, memory loss, and mental confusion, as well as the differences in our views. If you want to watch this interview, go to my Youtube channel "Understand Suicide." More information on suicide at www.understandsuicide.com. My book "Understanding Suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention" can be found on Amazon.
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April 12, 2020
Ep. 18 - Grieving a loved one / A conversation with clinical psychologist Brian Goff
Brian Goff is a Clinical Psychologist with a private practice in Portland, OR. In this interview, he talks about the natural responses we experience when grieving, particularly when the death is by suicide.  We discuss emotions, society's expectations of what is "healthy," what differentiates suicide grief from other types of death, and ways to go through it in a more compassionate manner. If you want to watch this interview, go to my Youtube channel "Understand Suicide." More information on suicide at www.understandsuicide.com. My book "Understanding Suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention" can be found on Amazon.
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April 2, 2020
Ep. 17 - Struggling with suicidal ideation / Interview Heidi Lindman
Heidi Lindman has struggled with suicidal ideation since her teenage years, but she has found a compassionate way to deal with them. In this interview, we talk about when these thoughts first came up, their impact on her life, and how she has developed a relationship with them. Heidi says that her recurrent ideation has taught her how to recognize and welcome emotions. Today, she works as a therapist in Broomfield/CO, helping others find alternatives to suicide, as well as to reframe their suicidal thoughts. Click to watch this interview, go to my Youtube channel "Understand Suicide." More information on suicide at www.understandsuicide.com. My book "Understanding Suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention" can be found on Amazon.
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March 26, 2020
Ep. 16 - She lost her brother to suicide, then turned pain into healing others / Interview Mariangela Abeo
Mariangela Abeo attempted suicide at the age of 17. Her brother helped her then. Years later, he took his own life. One of the ways she found to cope with the pain was by creating the project Faces of Fortitude. She travels the country photographing people who lost loved ones to suicide. In this interview, she shares what led her to a suicide attempt, the need we survivors have to break the silence surrounding this theme, and how her initiative has helped bring healing to those touched by voluntary death. If you want to watch this interview, go to my Youtube channel "Understand Suicide." More information on suicide at www.understandsuicide.com. My book "Understanding Suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention" can be found on Amazon.
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March 19, 2020
Ep. 15 - He had given up / Interview Steven Webb
Steve has lived a life of adversity. Some of the struggles he deals with on a daily basis would make most of us question the meaning of life, including being paralyzed from the neck down, having experienced a painful divorce, and bankruptcy. In this interview, we talk about the day he planned to take his life, and what made him change his mind. In his own words: "I have found ways to have freedom, calmness and ultimately peace of mind.  I love my life. By helping you to change your perspective, look at things differently and take control of your life I will give you the freedom and serenity back you deserve."  If you want to watch this interview, visit my Youtube channel "Understand Suicide." More information on suicide at www.understandsuicide.com. My book "Understanding Suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention" can be found on Amazon.
40:55
March 12, 2020
Ep. 14 - Trauma and the body / Interview Danielle Rousseau
We tend to believe that trauma is a "thing of the mind," but that is not true. Part of this experience is stored in the body, which should be incorporated into one's healing journey. In this interview, I talked to author Danielle Rousseau, who teaches at Boston University and works as a counselor, and a certified yoga teacher. She discusses the many ways in which trauma expresses itself in the body, how to treat it, and the benefits of adopting a holistic approach to trauma-informed care. Find more resources on trauma-informed yoga, including links to online classes, on my website under Resources/Podcast.  My book "Understanding Suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention" can be found on Amazon.
41:12
March 4, 2020
Ep. 13 - The US Military, PTSD and suicide / Interview Timothy Wienecke
There are many misconceptions regarding the US Military, PTSD, and suicide. In this episode, Timothy Wienecke - who was in the Air Force for five years and now works as a counselor - talks about the struggles surrounding the military community, how they deal with mental health, myths that need to be combatted, and how to support this population.  For the Veterans Crisis Line, call 1-800-273-8255 and Press 1, use the Veterans Crisis Line online chat, or send a text message to the Veterans Crisis Line at 838255. More information on suicide at www.understandsuicide.com. My book "Understanding Suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention" can be found on Amazon.
40:46
February 25, 2020
Ep. 12 - Grief or PTSD? Interview Casey VanHoutan
Losing someone to suicide is a traumatic event, and trauma can lead to Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, PTSD, but how can one know the difference? In this episode, therapist Casey VanHoutan explains how PTSD affects people, its symptoms, the various types of treatment available for patients, and how to address it without judgment in a society that tends to rush through trauma as a way to avoid pain. If you are interested in more resources on attachment theory, visit my website and click on "podcast." My book "Understanding Suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention" can be found on Amazon.
26:11
February 18, 2020
Ep. 11 - Relationships and suicide / Interview Peter Lovenheim
Having a strong support system is a protective factor against suicide, so relationships are central to healing. In this interview, the award-winning journalist Peter Lovenheim, author of "The Attachment Effect" talks about how early childhood bonds shape the way we relate to others. For more on the author, visit www.peterlovenheim.com. If you are interested in more resources on attachment theory, visit my website and click on "podcast." My book "Understanding Suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention" can be found on Amazon.
39:36
February 12, 2020
Ep. 10 - Helping suicidal people / Interview Khara Croswaite
Most of us have encountered a person who is contemplating suicide, but very few of us know that. In this interview, counselor Khara Croswaite Brindle talks about the common traits shared by those who are suicidal, how to approach them and build effective safety plans, and how suicidality shows up in the younger generations. Khara works in Denver, Colorado. Her work focuses on young adult professionals, with an emphasis on healing trauma and supporting personal growth. For more information on suicide, visit: www.understandsuicide.com My book "Understanding Suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention" can be found on Amazon.
36:23
January 21, 2020
Ep. 9 - Suicide Warning Signs
Knowing how to identify warning signs is the first step to save a life. In this episode, I give many examples of the verbal and non-verbal warning signs given by those who are contemplating self-inflicted death. After detailing them, I give suggestions on what can be done in case you believe a loved one is at risk for suicide, as well as the common mistakes that should be avoided so that such actions can lead to saving lives. For more information on suicide, visit: www.understandsuicide.com My book "Understanding Suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention" can be found on Amazon.
24:55
January 11, 2020
Ep. 8 - Suicide in schools / Interview Marti Diaz Domm
Marti Diaz Domm worked in the Oregon educational system for more than two decades. She describes how mental health issues are handled within the schools, the changes that need to be made so that educators are better prepared to deal with them, and she shares with us her own story involving a loss of a dear student by suicide. For more information on suicide, visit: www.understandsuicide.com My book "Understanding Suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention" can be found on Amazon.
36:19
December 23, 2019
Ep. 7 - My interview to Cynthia Boyd
In this interview, we covered quite a range of topics. Cynthia Boyd asked me about youth suicide: its causes, the impact of social media, and why it has been rising in the United States. We also talked about warning signs and what to do if you know someone at risk for suicide, especially how to listen to them. Cynthia’s podcast Our Collaboration Station is a space for people to connect and encourage one another to pursue their goals and obtain their peace in life. It can be found on Anchor.fm and Spotify. If you find that you could be a guest on her podcast, send her a message to mywritingsinthesand@gmail.com For more information on suicide visit www.understandsuicide.com Or find my book Understanding suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention on Amazon.
36:48
December 9, 2019
Ep. 6 - Struggling with mental illness / Interview Doree D'Angelo
Doree talks about her life with mental illness and how it led her to suicide attempts. In the midst of her struggle, she found people who were understanding of her condition and willing to help. Doree brings a message of hope to those who are at risk for suicide. For more information on suicide, visit: www.understandsuicide.com My book "Understanding Suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention" can be found on Amazon.
26:26
November 30, 2019
Ep. 5 - Support groups and grief counseling / Leslie Storm part 2
In this episode, Leslie Storm talks about grief counseling and support groups. She also shares the story of her own loss as a counselor, when one of her patients took her own life.  For more information on suicide, visit: www.understandsuicide.com My book "Understanding Suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention" can be found on Amazon.
25:01
November 11, 2019
Ep. 4 - Losing a husband to suicide - Interview Leslie Storm Part 1
Leslie Storm knows suicide from both personal and professional viewpoints. After losing her husband to self-inflicted death, she became a grief counselor and a facilitator of suicide support groups in Portland, Oregon. In part one of this interview, she talks from the perspective of a survivor, highlighting the events that led to her husband's death to how friends and family reacted to it. For more information on suicide, visit: www.understandsuicide.com My book "Understanding Suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention" can be found on Amazon.
26:11
October 26, 2019
Ep. 3 Religion and suicide - Interview Dr. Rand Michael
Dr. Rand Michael is a clergy person, a counselor, and was a professor for twenty-six years. In this interview, he talks about the importance of listening to someone's pain without judgment, regardless of one's religion or spiritual view on suicide. For more information on suicide, visit: www.understandsuicide.com My book "Understanding Suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention" can be found on Amazon.
31:38
October 14, 2019
Ep. 2 - Losing a daughter to suicide / Interview Mindy
Mindy lost her daughter to suicide in 2017. She shares her grief process, what has helped her, rituals that keep her daughter present, and how her other kids have each dealt differently with the loss. For more information on suicide, visit: www.understandsuicide.com My book "Understanding Suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention" can be found on Amazon.
30:46
October 4, 2019
Ep. 1 - My story
In this episode, I tell the story of my father's suicide and how it affected my family.  For more information on suicide, visit: www.understandsuicide.com My book "Understanding Suicide: living with loss, paths to prevention" can be found on Amazon.
21:07
September 14, 2019