N.A.R.C. Troopers: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Collaborators
By P. Pesqueda
N.A.R.C. Troopers: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery CollaboratorsApr 24, 2020
Interview with ROBERT TORBAY
You may know Robert Torbay from Quora where he has various sites about Cluster B disorders and writes fan fiction.
Like Dr. Sam Vaknin and HG Tudor, these are the giants of our time who understand narcissism and other Cluster B disorders from the inside out.
His writing is poignant, his insight profound, and as a conversationalist, he possesses a candid and unvarnished approach to elevated topics with occasional controversial underpinnings.
Sit back, grab a treat or some tea, and enjoy this exploration into the dark corners of the narcissist's world.
Narcissists Don't Speak Your Language
Regardless of how you say it, how many times you say it, the different ways you say it , no matter what you do, the narcissist does not speak your langaue. They may look at you and nod in agreement or parrot your words, but they can't understand what you are saying. And they never will.
So preserve your dignity and just walk away. It's the only thing you can do.
Just Say No to the Narcissist, Psychopath, & Anti-Social Disordered
Understanding these dangerous and disordered people is critical to recognizing them and keeping your distance.
The Hobosexual Narcissist
A hobosexual does not necessarily have to be a narcissist, but many times they are. The somatic narcissist is an alpha predator and opportunist, so the idea of leveraging their bodies to receive "fuel" is quite understandable. Welcome to the first episode of season 10!
PLAUSIBLE DENIABILITY-THE NARCISSIST;S SECRET WEAPON
Understanding this concept helps to understand how the narcissist operates and what to watch for. As people with Cluster B disorders increase in number, it is good to now who you're dealing with and what to watch for.
* Last episode of season 9
Est. 20 podcasts per season
The 10 Things That Get in Your Way in Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse
The things to avoid in the journey to wellness after a relationship with a narcissist.
Is a Narcissist Made or Born? How Much is Genetics?
Research shows that narcissism is heritable. Let's see how much is in our genes.
Adjusting to reality after the narcissist
When you are cast out of the shared fantasy, and you hit the ground with a thud, it is tough to stand up, dust off, and keep going. But that is exactly what you have to do.
Spatial and Language Deficits in Narcissists-NARC Troopers
The person with NPD has spatial and language deficits that shape their disorder. Let's unpack the fundamental beggings of these impaired individuals.
Public Enemy #1 Our Growing Mental Health Crisis
Not only do we need to work on healing ourselves, we need to work on healing the world around us. . . and by doing so, we will get better.
Ending suffering is important as a fundamental human right for all peoples, and that is a great thing to work towards.
Letter to Potential New Partners After Narcissistic Abuse
I think this what we all want to say to all the people out there who may be potential new partners in our lives. Feel free to share it with them, then use it as a springboard for conversation. Their response might be quite telling!
THE EPIC HERO QUEST: THE NARCISSIST AS DON QUIXOTE
The narcissist is Don Quixote
from Man of La Mancha
To dream ... the impossible dream ...To fight ... the unbeatable foe ...To bear ... with unbearable sorrow ...To run ... where the brave dare not go ...To right ... the unrightable wrong ...To love ... pure and chaste from afar ...To try ... when your arms are too weary ...To reach ... the unreachable star ...This is my quest, to follow that star ...No matter how hopeless, no matter how far ...To fight for the right, without question or pause ...To be willing to march into Hell, for a Heavenly cause ...And I know if I'll only be true, to this glorious quest,That my heart will lie will lie peaceful and calm,when I'm laid to my rest ...And the world will be better for this:That one man, scorned and covered with scars,Still strove, with his last ounce of courage,To reach ... the unreachable star ...
Enmeshment, Entrainment, and How the Narcissist Stole My Mind
These two concepts are instrumental in understanding what happens in a relationship with a narcissist. I share how it happened to me. Please learn more. Dr. Vaknin has many great lectures on entrainment.
New Year New You After the Narcissist
Six steps to get you going down the right road following narcissistic abuse.
Dream Clues: 5 Things That Hold You Back After Narcissistic Abuse
We begin with a dream that illustrates the layers of unresolved torment that lurk in our subconscious and the deepest parts of our brains. Then we discuss the 5 major things that hold us back from a full recovery following abusive relationships with those who have NPD>
INTERVIEW: Amy Punt-Systems Failing-The Spiritual Narcissist
Amy Punt is my guest and the topic is about the infiltration of narcissists into every major system including the church. She discusses her experience with spiritual narcissism. We explore the cult-like conditioning, the support of the masses, and the consequences of a culture that glorifies narcissistic traits. Winning is everything, regardless of how you do it or who gets hurt on that road to victory.
You can find Amy Punt on Medium and other writing platforms.
Loneliness After Narcissistic Abuse
Why do victims of narcissistic abuse feel so lonely and have trouble connecting with others after their experience with them? It is quite typical, so how to we end the loneliness during what can be a lengthy recovery.
Bonus: What is PNSD?
The Solopsistic Narcissist
Solipsism and narcissism have quite a bit in common. Let's take a look at what that means with a brief philosophical examination.
Interview: Co-parenting with Kshama Singhi
Interview with Kshama on co-parenting with a narcissist.
Kshama is an Empowerment Coach. She coaches professional women to transform their lives by shifting from feeling rejected and fearful to empowered and happy. Her mission is to empower women to deepen their self-awareness, find their purpose and direction, and move from inaction to powerful action.
Being married to a narcissist and coming out a winner led her to become an Empowerment Coach. Kshama would like to share her experience and expertise on your show.
Coach Kshama Singhi's Profile Links:-
Email - singhikshama@gmail.com
Website - https://www.coachkshama.comLinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/kshamasinghiFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/JourneyToYourBestSelf/Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/being_you_with_kshama/
Media Page - https://coachkshama.com/podcasts-and-media/
Prajinta, please let Coach Kshama know if she is a good fit, and what would be the next steps.
Awaiting your response.
The Narcissist is a Parasite That Lives Inside of You!
The narcissist may be gone, but they live on inside of you. Because of the enmeshment, brainwashing, entrainment, intermittent reinforcement, parentification, and more manipulative and predatory techniques, you are poisoned. You are filled with introjects (the narcissist's voice), ruminations, peptide addiction dopamine cravings, trauma bonding and the list goes on!
This explains in part why recovery from such a relationship is so difficult and unlike any other!
Can We Be Healthy in Such a Sick World?
Welcome to Season 9! Each season has about 20 episodes and we are now approaching 250 podcast episodes.
"Holy trauma, Bayman!"
Today, we take an expanded 45-minute deep dive into the failing systems and warnings that should compel us to do better. The time is ripe for narcissists to rise to power and we are rapidly producing a new crop of them continually with our misplaced priorities and bad choices. Probably a bit preachy at times but painfully true all of the time. Not just opinions but facts about where we are headed and why. Even some tips on how to turn it around. Enjoy
NOTE: The podcast begins after a 5-minute explanation of where Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Collaborators (N.A.R.C. Troopers) is at this juncture and where I am headed.
1,527 Days After the Discard: What I Have Learned
A reflection on the valuable lessons I learned in the months and years following the discard.
The Narcissist is an Lethal Alpha Predator who is Smarter Than You
"You're in the jungle, baby. I'm gonna watch you bleed."
It's hard to believe that your dream come true could shapeshift in the most heartless cold-blooded predator you could ever imagine.
It's nothing personal. It's just what they are.
Fear and Loathing in Narcopath Land
The person with NPD with a splash of psychopathy may have no fear, but they sure know how to loathe you. It's a wild trip to Fantasy Island, then a mysterious death.
SADISM Is a Component of Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Sadism and Narcissism are "close cousins" in every sense and often overlap in pathological ways. Let's explore the sadistic narcissist.
How Could Such a Sweet and Charming Person be So Deadly?
The shy vulnerable covert narcissist is often adorable, polite, charismatic, and helpful. Beware, they even convince themselves they are the good guy, but make no mistake. They are missing key components of humanity and are actually empty hollow actors only playing a part in a play.
If You Love a Monster. . .
How does the world perceive someone who stays with a mentally ill predatory beast and chooses them over their friends and family? You know the answer. It is not kind. But they will never really understand, so who can blame them? What you can focus on instead. . .
Self Trashing After Narcissistic Abuse
After the narcissist, it is not uncommon to experience a period of self-trashing, and this self-trashing often involves unsavory sexual liaisons. Forgive yourself, find your boundaries, and create a safe space to recover fully before rushing out into the world. It is dangerous out there.
How to Keep Going After the Music Ends with a Narcissist
How do you summon the will to live after a brutal discard?
Many of us find it hard enough to get through the daily anxieties and injustices of every day life. When the narcissist abandons you, there is usually a scorched earth policy where they burn your whole life to the ground with you in it, then erase you like it never happened.
How do you rise from the smouldering ashes to start again?
While I Was Sleeping. . . Lost Time When Away with the Narcissist
When you are in the shared fantasy with the narcissist, time keeps moving on without you. It is as if you were in a coma and when you awaken, everything is different and the people who were most important to you have gone on with their lives without you. It is a confusing and heartbreaking loss. The sooner we get back to reality, the better!
When You've Lost More Than You Can Bear
8/episode 11 looks at what happens after narcissistic abuse. You lose everything and have a really hard time getting up and getting on. What can we do about it?
Are You Alive?
What does it mean to be alive? The person with NPD is not truly alive by most definitions. Let's take a look at what it means to be alive and what separates the narcissist from a neurotypical healthy human.
Anxiety - The Beast that Must Be Tamed
After a relationship with a disordered narcissist, it is common to have anxiety and even panic. We discuss 5 maladaptive bad ways to respond to anxiety that can lead to the bad place. Then we discuss better alternatives to get a positive outcome.
Ding Dong, the Witch is Dead. Now What?
A relationship with a narcissist is all about death. Their death (they killed themselves a long time ago), your death (the narcissist must "kill you" to separate and individuate), the "dead mother (that caused all this in the first place), the death of your identity and agency, and the death of everything around them.
So when they are gone, why is there still a problem? And what can we do to get past it!
Are You a Narcoholic?
There are soooo many effects that a covert malignant narcissist has aon their significant other. And the worst part is that all of this abuse can cause an addiction to them which in turn causes emotional, psychological, physiological, neuro-chemical, energetic, and just about every other type of disruption, sickness, and injury in the victim.
The Sound of Silence
The silent treatment is one of the narcissist's favorite weapons to use against you at different stages in the relationship. At some point, we need to accept what they are and let them go- knowing they are very sick people. In the meantime, getting to know our own silence spaces can bring us peace.
Interview with Teahna N. Edralin: Disempowerment and Powering Up
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Attachment Styles Impact Trauma Recovery
THE TYPE OF ATTACHMENT STYLE we have influences how we RECOVER from relationships with MALIGNANT NARCISSISTS. Neurotypical people can modify or change their attachment styles, but the narcissist has flat attachment and can never change.
Object Constancy & Object Relations: The Root of Most Narcissistic Disorders
What is at the heart of narcissistic personality disorder? Understanding Object inconstancy, discontinuous memory, and object relations will make everything come into focus.
Stop Re-Traumatizing the Victim of Narcissistic Abuse
Well meaning people may do more harm then good when they try to support the narcissistic abuse victim. It's important to understand the unique journey to recovery.
Interview Phoenix Gould: They Change Us- How They Do It & How We Heal
After the narcissist, we are different. How does their brain work, and how does it change us? For more with guest, Phoenix Gould, visit these links.
Free Radical Self-Love MeditationFacebook Group For WomenFacebook Group for Men
E-mail Phoenix
Book Free 20min Coffee chat with Phoenix
Collateral Damage
There are casualties in a relationship with a person with NPD. Everyone goes down, and the narcissist rides into the sunset to live hollowly ever after.
The Dark Passenger that Inhabits the Narcissist
My assertion is that all narcissists and psychopaths are walking invitations for dark forces to inhabit them. I believe they carry a "Vacancy" sign that draws entities to them who crawl into the empty space within them and proceed to influence their decisions, perceptions, behavior, etc. . .
I have witnessed this phenomenon face to face. This is my testimony and a cautionary plea to protect yourself.
INTERVIEW Betty Jo Greenlee Discusses Shame, Blame, & Advocacy
Betty Jo Greenlee discusses shame, blame, and finding your voice on today's interview/
Betty Jo is the founder of Discover Life Coaching and a former victim of emotional abuse who needlessly carried the embarrassment and shame of two toxic marriages that ended in divorce. Now, Betty Jo is a victorious survivor who uses everything she learned, climbing out of her pain to help others. Coupling that with her 10 years of experience as a mental health advocate, today, she guides those who feel lost, don't trust themselves, or know what they want, to rise up and take charge of creating a life they love. Her mission through her 1 on 1 personal coaching and her online course is to help many discover what lights them up so they become the change they want.
website lifecoachdiscover.com
FBhttps://www.facebook.com/dicovercoach
INTERVIEW Dr. Praveena Rajendra on PARENTAL NARCISSIM
Today's guest speaks about parental narcissism, the shame and blame , and ways to move beyond the abuse.
Dr. Praveena is a Certified Mental Health & Awareness practitioner and works with parental narcissistic abuse victims. She uses various techniques and coping mechanisms, including her personal life experience, to help victims recognize abusive behaviors, heal and live an empowered life. She has also created a framework known as the Narcissistic Victim Empowerment Technique (NVET) to help victims find freedom from manipulating and controlling thoughts of toxic parenting. She understands that many may find it difficult to speak about parental narcissistic abuse due to the trauma bondage and societal perception associated with it, hence Dr. Praveena takes it as a personal mission to empower as many individuals out there to take the reins of their own life.
Dr. Praveena has a dedicated column called “Mind the Mind” in The Sun; Malaysia’s national daily where she writes about mental health awareness. Also, Dr. Praveena sits on the board of the Malaysia Mental Health Association (MMHA)
On the professional front, Dr. Praveena wears various hats. As an engineer, academician, researcher, and avid animal activist, Dr. Praveena holds notable positions in multiple non-profit organizations and serves as a voice for issues pertaining to the environment and animals. She is currently a senior lecturer at Taylor’s University.
For her numerous contributions to society as a whole: people, environment, and animals namely, Dr. Praveena has received Malaysia's Women Leaders Award from the World Women Leadership Congress.
Website - https://www.dr-praveena.comLinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/praveenarajendra
The Power of Imagery to Heal Trauma
Imagery is another tool for your toolbox that works wonders for many who are suffering from the aftermath of narcissistic abuse.
How to Prepare for What's to Come While Recovering from Trauma
Tough times are here and you may be recovering from a relationship with a narcissist. Double whammy!x!
So how do you navigate these perilous waters? I have some tips for you.
Tit's Up
When the going gets tough, the tough put their tits up. It's all about being resilient and plucky.
Mental illness is contagious
Time is Marked by Memories, but Not for the Disordered
Continuous memory is an essential to emotional empathy, compassion, and reflection. Cluster B disordered people who do not have it are lacking a core quality that makes them human. When they leave, and they all leave sooner or later, they hit the delete button and you disappear as if you never existed. No memories, no regrets, not accountability, no sadness- just instant erasure and complete amnesia. What could be more soul-crushing to their partner than to be deleted and forgotten with absolutely no reflection or remorse? It is a fate worse than death. We remember the dead with respect and kindness. Not so with the narcissist, sociopath, or psychopath. You disintegrate in a moment, and there is nothing to remember.