American Cheers, Jeers, and Tears

Whatever we do or not do, whatever we think, value or hate, how we behave and whatever we believe in or not in our life mainly depends on one thing: our worldview.  An oversimplified analogy might be: Whenever we change our eyeglasses, our view of things around us changes because our eyeglasses determine what we are able to see or not to see. Everybody has a worldview.  Rich or poor, smart or stupid, believer or non-believer.  All things in our life depend on our worldview. Derived from the German word “Weltanschauung,” it refers to a belief system holding all significant concepts of our life such as God, cosmos, knowledge, behavior, values, humanity and history. It is like a kind of a grand perspective of our world and our life. In more scientific terms, worldview is a mental structure forming our ultimate beliefs. It provides a general context for life, including a vision of what we consider “authentic” or “real.” Having a peace of mind requires a well-balanced life, based on realistic assumptions of all basic and critical aspects of our human being. Philosophers identify the worldview as the “big question of life.”   According to philosophers, our worldview should answer to the following most important questions of our life: 1. Ultimate reality: What kind of God, if any, in fact,the  exists? 1. External reality: Is there anything beyond the cosmos? 2. Knowledge: What can be known – and how can anyone know it? 3. Origin: Where did I come from? 4. Identity: Who am I? 5. Morals: How should I live? 6. Values: What should I consider of the greatest worth? 7. Predicament: What is humanity’s fundamental problem? 8. Resolution: How can humanity’s problems be solved? 9. Past/Present: What is the meaning and direction of history? 10. Destiny: Will I survive the death of my body and if so, in what state?

The short answer is: Virtually everything we know, love and cherish seems to be upside down. We are irritated and don’t’ know what to believe, where we belong and what our identity is. The detailed answer is in my book Find peace of mind or lose your mind. Here is my short explanation. Everybody needs a home. We all agree with that. However, we all also assume our physical “home” for our physical body. Only a few people know what psychologists found out and this is that our mind also needs a “home”.  In another word, our mind needs to know where we “mentally and spiritually belong” in order to reach peace of mind. Nowadays, this is not an easy task. Our personal and public lives have changed over the last decades dramatically. Is this one of the reasons why so many people can’t find peace of mind anymore, can’t sleep as they used to, can’t manage their relationships properly, can’t function at their jobs as required, are often depressed and feel confused and totally helpless? There are probably many reasons and explanations for the struggle for our own identity, confusion and even our self-worth. Our public arena doesn’t offer us any help in understanding where we stand and where society stands. How can I find peace of mind? My book “Find peace of mind or lose your mind” is devoted to solutions to this problem. Here is a general summary of aspects you must consider to find and reset yourself

Just look around you. Anywhere. On the street, at their job, in stores, at public events, on TV, and even at their own homes. Watch how the people look, what they say, how they behave, how they treat their own people, and how they treat others. You are asking yourself, am I crazy or are they totally out of whack? Some of your more progressive friends may say, this is “the new normal.” You say to yourself, wait a minute. Am I supposed to accept all that? No way! “Normal” for me is only what I accept and can live with.  This is not how I was raised. This is not our culture, this is neither normal, nor decent, civilized, or appropriate. In short, there are many things our Marxist-infested, progressive culture is forcing on us. Cultural norms are self-imposed limitations on speech and actions, meant to preserve peace and order in a society. Our “new normal” is anything but peaceful.

We are all more or less emotional. It would be terrible if we wouldn’t be. Emotions are the most important part of our lives, determining our feelings and our state-of-mind. Nobody wants to become an ice-cold, emotionless, Roboter-like human being. Emotions enable us to enjoy life, make life worth living. Women are, generally speaking, more emotional than men. This makes them even more attractive and lovable. However, like in most areas, we can get overboard – and we do! According to studies and statistics, nowadays we tend to do most of our decisions purely emotionally. This disables any rational problem-solving and often screws our lives terribly. “It feels so good,” mostly women say, “when I do my decision when I am in the right mood, emotionally. Emotions are how I feel, think, act, and react.” Subjectively, this might be true, but they disregard how terribly are they hurting themselves and their cause down the road. Hours or days later, they often say to themselves: What was I thinking? To be fair, in real-lifeRoboter problem situations it’s often difficult to balance between feelings and logic. Whenever the emotions take over, you are in great danger to make irrational decisions.

We live in an unfriendly, rough, sometimes even hostile and cynical world. Many people are so self-centered and narcissistic that they don’t care about other people, their needs or feelings. Selfish people, and there are many of them, don’t see how others suffer, and they don’t want to see it because they are just too busy with themselves and their self-indulgence. Compassion is not something that would ever cross their mind. A few years ago, I read a story in a newspaper reporting a hard-to-believe occurrence. A kid was in the process ow drowning in a river, and the people close to that place recorded a video of the drowning instead of helping or at least crying for help. Recording a dramatic video of a drowning kid for a Facebook post was more important to them than saving a kid’s life. It doesn’t get more cynical than that. We all have our good and not-so-good days, and we all depend on the kindness of others. We all appreciate a nice compliment, we all love to be treated nicely, and we all love to be loved. This is especially the case when we experience bad days, are sick, old or helpless. In other words, there is a big need for random kindness everywhere all the time. Can’t we do something about it? Yes, we can! There so many kind things you can do to make others happy without any kind of big effort. A few days ago, I went to a store and the lady at the cashier looked incredibly ugly. I had the feeling that she never gets complimented for anything, and I felt the urge to express some kind of kindness to her. I asked her what her name is. She said Janice, and I replied, this is a really nice name. I like it very much. You won’t believe how her face defrosted into a happy smile. I am sure, she was very grateful, I made her day. There are so many things we can do to display our random acts of kindness to others. Random means that we should do it whenever the opportunity arises. Not just randomly every other year.

We all have our problems. Small or big. Short-term or lifelong. Some are just a little nuisance; others trouble us for years without being able to overcome them. First of all, this is normal. Problems, struggles, complications are a part of our life. We can’t avoid them. If we think about them rationally, it is not so much about our struggles, it is mostly about how we deal with them. As always, everything is about our attitude, how we deal with difficulties in our life. With a negative energy in mind, we tend to love playing the victim card. We like to be depressed, gloomy, and miserable. We use to blame others for our misfortune. We do nothing and we are waiting for a miraculous rescue by others, often the government. We are deeply convinced, our problems are not our fault. It’s the society to be blamed for. If you are rather a positive person with peace of mind, your attitude reflects your problems in a completely different way. Yes, you are aware that you have problems, and you admit that there are difficulties you cannot overcome. With a positive energy, you are probably a doer rather than a talker. You don’t wait for others to bail you out. You refuse to be taken down by your daily struggles. You refuse to be a victim of unavoidable life’s circumstances. You are deeply determined to accept the challenge and to solve your minor or major problems. Mostly, you find a solution if you are creative enough and don’t take a no for a no easily.

What is trust? It is a firm reliance on the integrity of a person we consider reliable, honest, truthful, and decent. A person who won’t lie, deceit or cheat on us. In short, a human with moral values prohibiting him to be a jerk and to turn on us.  Trust is a basic foundation of most human connections, from most casual friendships to most intimate relationships. It practically rules all human interactions we have with each other.  You don’t fly on an airplane if you don’t trust the pilot. You don’t take a car ride with somebody you don’t consider a good driver, reliable and trustworthy. You don’t spend your life together with a person you don’t completely trust. In short, all cultures, our society, and our entire civilization depends on trust.  Generally speaking, trust can be learned. If you have been raised in a family led by honesty, straightforwardness, moral and ethical values, you experienced trust from your childhood on. You are ready and easily able to trust other people.   “Trust is like a piece of paper. If you ever crumble it, it’s never going to be perfect again.” What do we have to know about trusting other people? This episode is based on my book "Whom Can We Still Trust?" available on Amazon as a paperback for just 8.95 or eBook for only 2.95. More information is available @NeverGiveUpYourDream.US

We celebrate our divisions. We celebrate our egoism, hatred, fraud, deception, resentment, alienation, anger, frustrations, fear, retributions, vendetta, conspiracy, dishonesty, victimhood, and even despair. We celebrate our moral decline, we applaud the decay of our society, we hail the destruction of Judeo-Christian morals, principles, and values. For the sake of progressivism, social justice, and political power play, we sacrifice everything our civilization ever fought for. Truth and facts don’t matter anymore, only social, political, and personal expedience does. Truth, freedom, decency, honesty, reasoning, equality, and individuality are out. Our way of life, our culture, our history, and our future are sheer forever lost.  Human decency used to be a vital part of raising, educating, and treating us. Most people used to be proud of being honest, polite, honorable, and trustworthy. This might be a bygone era now. Nowadays, facts and truth depend on the point of view, especially in politics. When our over-zealous left claims that there is no biological difference between men and women, this is not a fact, this is an opinion, a foolish one. If over ninety percent of most dangerous drugs enter the US through our Southern border and over hundred thousand arrests of illegals are made in just one month, is this a crisis or not? Facts are facts, opinions are opinions. Denying facts is mostly nothing more than just a cheap political talking point. For generations, media filtered most of the lies, deceptions, and fraud out of their reporting, but this is not the case anymore. Nowadays, they usually cover up inconvenient stories and report only talking points confirming their worldviews. Bias in the media is not an exception anymore. It’s the rule.

The episode by Pierre A. Kandorfer reveals an open secret of our life: Why are good, kind, and positive people always happier than the uncaring, mean, and narcissistic ones? It is based on his latest book with the same title. Link: http://NeverGiveUpYourDream.US We all want to be happy, but only some people succeed. Most of them fail because they are searching where nothing can be found. Empty success, instant gratification, and shallow pleasures don’t lead to peace of mind and happiness. If you are chasing materialism, status, prestige, and public approval by others, just forget about ever getting genuinely happy. If you are interested in a daily experience of joy, contentment, positive well-being, and a sense that your life is good, meaningful, and worthwhile, in short happiness, you must turn to kindness, goodness, decency, and modesty. Research tells us that good, kind, and decent people are generally much happier than the negative, mean, and angry ones. This book reveals why and how. Pierre Kandorfer is a veteran journalist with thirty-five years of a media background. He wrote thousands of articles, hundreds of TV programs, and a dozen books such as “You Don’t  Know Who You Really Are,” “No More Doubt – Science Confirms the Bible,” “Whom Can We Still Trust,” “Fight Back Manual,” “Find Peace of Mind or Lose Your Mind,” in addition to some media textbooks. Pierre’s books are available at NeverGiveUpYourDream.US, Amazon, and other booksellers. Pierre taught media communications, acted as Dir. of Programming of a nationwide TV broadcasting, worked as TV host and producer of a movie series and hundreds of TV shows. He also is a commercial pilot, speaks several languages, and is a proud Christian and passionate Constitutionalist. http://NeverGiveUpYourDream.US

Most people have very extensive dreams about what to do with their lives, but only some are able to reach them and convert them into their reality. This is not because their dreams are necessarily too exotic or difficult to reach. This is mostly because most of them don’t really believe in their own dreams, and this is a tragedy. Such dream losers often listen to the wrong people, look in areas where there is no such thing as dreams, and get discouraged by our ungrateful, untruthful, jealous, mean and often very cynical society. All this has a root in a negative energy, and most of it comes from the contemptuous and divisive Marxist worldview. Unless you are able and ready to believe in yourself and your dreams, you will be stuck in your could-de-sack of discouragement and depression. Break out! Don’t be afraid of any mistake of failure. The most successful people in the world have failed hundreds of times before they, finally, got their breakthrough. If Thomas Edison didn’t have redone his experiments hundreds of times, he never would have invented the light bulb. In other words, there are not the potential difficulties that keep you away from your dream. It’s your attitude, and your attitude is easy to change if you really want to. You can find an extensive explanation about this in my book “Find peace of mind or lose your mind.” Let me walk you through the most important aspects to consider if you want to pursue your dream. Take a piece of paper and a pen if you want to make some notes.