American Cheers, Jeers, and Tears

“A simple way to take a measure of a country is to look at how many want in. And how many want out.” (Tony Blair) Whatever you think, say, or tell about America, one thing is sure. In the most regions of the world, the American way of life is still extremely popular. However, America’s image in the world has two diametrically opposed appearances. • An endless admiration by people who love and appreciate the American way of life. • A politically, socially, and economically motivated incredible hatred and envy, mostly based on tyrannical worldview such as Marxism, Fascism, or Islamism. Nobody in the world can beat America’s popularity among international students. By a substantial distance, the US remains the most popular country for international students to study in, hosting over 30% of all international students in the world. The attraction to studying in the US springs from three principal factors: • Commitment to excellence • Freedom of choice • Appealing culture Nothing confirms America’s greatness better than the popularity among immigrants from all over the world, legal or illegal. In addition to our legal immigrants, about one million per year, over twenty million people, mostly from Middle and South America, Asia, and Africa, live and work in the US permanently. If this is not enough, thousands of illegals are streaming daily over our Southern border into their “land of dreams,” America.

America is an exceptional nation. This is not because of what the US has achieved or accomplished. America is exceptional because, unlike any other nation, it is truly dedicated to the natural law and principles of human liberty, grounded on the truths that all men are created equal and endowed with equal rights. These permanent truths are "applicable to all men and all times," Abraham Lincoln once said. As the Heritage Foundation points out, America's principles have created a prosperous and just nation unlike any other nation in history. “They explain why Americans strongly defend their country, look fondly to their nation's origins, vigilantly assert their political rights and civic responsibilities, and remain convinced of the special meaning of their country and its role in the world. It is because of its principles, not despite them, that America has achieved greatness.” As history proves, the American Founders appealed to self-evident truths, stemming from "the Laws of Nature and of Nature's God," to justify their liberty. They are as true today as they were in 1776. The US Constitution defines the institutions of American government: three distinct branches of government that make the law, enforce the law, and judge the law in particular cases. This fundamental framework gives the American government the powers it needs to secure our fundamental rights to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. The Declaration of Independence also sets the basic vision for the American Dream, still respected and admired by millions of people throughout the world. Of course, the ultimate purpose of securing these rights and of limiting government is to protect human freedom. That freedom allows the institutions of civil society such as family, school, church, and private associations, to thrive, and form the habits and virtues required for liberty.

I was born in the very heart of Europe, full of rich history, culture, and a two-thousand-year-old tradition of feuds, wars, poverty, and human sufferings. As impressive some of the epochs might have been, they were all built on authoritarian, dictatorial, tyrannical systems. No such thing as democracy, personal freedom, or independence ever existed. With this kind of historical baggage, Europeans don’t comprehend what we call personal freedoms, life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. When I was able to learn what the American soul and the American way of life really mean for the first time, I was moved, excited, encouraged, and motivated. I was instantly attracted to the American Dream and decided this is where I want to live, work, and spend the rest of my life. From my early childhood, I remember people talking about someone who “made it” in life. These were all folks who somehow managed to escape to America, the country of our dreams, the nation of unlimited opportunities, the place of the unrestricted potential of personal success. In our vision of the American Dream, America was the only place where a poor, helpless nobody had a chance to become a millionaire. A society where anybody could generate his own fortune with hard work, proper self-discipline, and limitless determination.

We all love to be safe, certain, and resolved in our lives. We hate the uncertainty of any kind. Lose-ends make us worry about our future, and this is normal. Unfortunately, in our contemporary lifestyle one thing is certain: change. Adapting constantly to the changes around us makes us uncertain and worried. Managing the uncertainty in our life becomes a major undertaking only emotionally mature and intelligent people can manage. Let’s start at the root of the problem. Our brains are not hard-wired to the so-called modern lifestyle. When facing uncertainty, our brain signals fear causing all kinds of irrational reactions. The less reliable information we have about our future, the more fearful and irrational decisions we make. The reason is that in this scenario our brain shifts our control to the limbic system of the brain where all emotions, fears, and anxieties are generated. As soon as our brain faces uncertainty, it overrides our rational thinking and starts to over-react. With enough emotional intelligence, yes, there is something like that, we can trick our brain into making rational decisions instead of clouding our thinking. Spotting any kind of uncertainty, the primitive part of their brain is trying to take over but the logical part needs to be the one in charge. In scientific terms, we have to “quiet” our limbic system before it gets out of control. I’ll explain one proven technique how to do that by avoiding uncertainty causing irrational decisions.

Are you satisfied with your life? Or do you think your personality has much more potential waiting to be discovered and developed? If you think, with your intellect, education, and background, you could make much more out of your life, you are not alone. Many people view themselves as underrated, undervalued, and under-appreciated. But, don’t blame others if you didn’t pursue your personal growth and development in the past. However, it’s never too late. What is this all about? Be aware that personal growth is the ongoing process of understanding and developing oneself in order to achieve one’s fullest potential. You must know that personal development is a vital part in a person’s growth, maturity, success and happiness. In short, it is the foundation of emotional, physical, intellectual, and spiritual health. Each person’s personal growth has a profound effect on every single aspect of our life. Whenever we grow on a personal level, we begin to feel more passionate about life in general. We are naturally more motivated because learning and growing add motivation and a sense of excitement. Our personal growth and development provide us with both the incentive and the means to become the best possible version of ourselves. What most people don’t understand, personal growth expands our frame of reference to include the people around us instead of becoming more self-centered. When our social environment expands, so does our awareness of the possibilities and opportunities around us. Our expanded mindset fills us with an attitude of eager anticipation as we start each new day.

The way you make your decisions in life tells a lot which kind of personality you are. Do you love to agree with your friends and peers? Do you enjoy sharing their cultural opinions, personal preferences, public trends, societal judgments, and political conclusions? If so, you are a victim of group thinking, a collectivist, the opposite of an individualist. You are not forging your own opinions, lifestyle attitudes, and assumptions. On the contrary, you love to adopt the mantra of your group, you enjoy to be one of many, you want to be a sheepish follower of your trendy peers. Group thinking is a social phenomenon that occurs when the desire for group consensus overrides people's common-sense desire to present alternatives, critique a position, or express an unpopular opinion. In short, you don’t want to be an outsider, you want to think, behave, and decide exactly the way your peers do. There is an easy way how to spot a groupie. They have very specific characteristics. • Groupies are very happy if told that they are trendy, fashionable, or popular. • Groupies strongly adheres to the mindset of their friends, buddies, and peers. • Groupies feel under an intense pressure from their social environment to make the right decision. Group thinking is a cancer of our society. It is a self-imposed straightjacket, limiting our self-development, enhancement the quality of our lives, achieving more, becoming better people, and trying to be a better version of ourselves. Don’t be a groupie!

I still vividly remember when my parents told me, many years ago, you can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. The old saying summarizes it all. People don’t want to listen to your complaints, accusations, or anger. They are fed-up with everybody’s bitching and negative attitude, but they are always receptive to a positive message. People love to listen to you when you are telling a pleasant, optimistic story. We can learn a priceless lesson from that. Negativity seems to be a result of fear, disappointment, and past failures. Why are so many people pessimistic in their outlook on life? It is because most people are unhappy, struggling, and this bleak outlook shapes their negative attitude. Their negative thinking automatically causes misery in their lives. For them, the glass is always half-empty, instead of being half-full. Being positive is one of the key characteristics of successful people. Losers people are negative, they think negative, feel negative, and act negative, which results in them living a negative life full of disappointment. Don’t let that be you. Negative thinking affects our brain dramatically. Our brain is pre-wired to our thoughts and attitude. Positive contemplations always lead to positive consequences, negative reflections always point to bad outcomes. Negative mindsets are stored in our brains and automatically shape our life. There is no escape: The negative energy always produces negative results and an unhappy outcome. The good part of the message is: You don’t have to keep it that way. It may be easier than you think!

With the legalization of marijuana in many states, we opened Pandora’s box. We are bombarded with cannabis advertising, praising the benefits of this mind-altering drug and letting us believe, the pot is harmless. Let’s enjoy it! A multi-billion dollar market opened up, and like with all advertising, it’s celebrated as the greatest, fashionable new discovery of the hip generation. Just to separate facts from fiction, there are some legitimate medical uses for marijuana for people who suffer under chronic pain and can’t be helped otherwise. Nobody is denying that, but what is “medical use” anyway? There is no clear distinction between a medical need and recreational desire. Pot sellers admit it freely, you just have to “claim” a medical need, and that’s it! Marijuana is the most common psychotropic drug on the market, especially among young people. According to the National Institute of Health, almost twelve million young adults used pot in 2018. Through the politically motivated legalization of pot, drugged people are easier to manipulate,  these number exploded further. People don’t just smoke marijuana, they also use edibles such as brownies, cookies, candy, brew, or tea. Many children have access to such edible pot, too.  As determined by the National Institute of Health, marijuana has a number of effects changing your reception of the world around you.

You are not alone. Most people suffer under stress, at least occasionally. If it happens only up and on, it’s not really a big deal. However, if you suffer under permanent stress, you are not just harming your quality of life, you are endangering your health in a potentially irreparable way. Just to make it clear: There is good stress and bad stress. The good one is positive when you are working hard on something you like. This kind of stress doesn’t stress you out, it rather creates some kind of pleasure and satisfaction. The positive energy never hurts you, it’s actually beneficial. The bad stress, on the other side, is a reaction to excessive pressure. It is usually characterized as “feeling under pressure” and inability to cope with your burden. This may cause major physical symptoms such as headache, racing heartbeat, high blood pressure, and sweaty palms. If this continues over time, it may cause a series of harmful health problems. There are many ways how the long-term stress can kill you. Stress produces increased levels of cortisol, the so-called stress hormone, and this can have a number of major effects on your body. It rapidly lowers your immune system.  It also increases your cholesterol and blood pressure. At the same time, it endangers your heart function in a very serious way. Some of the most frequent effects of stress are headache, chest pain, fatigue, stomach problems, sleepless nights, restlessness, feeling overwhelmed, anger, sadness, and even depression. If you are at that point, you need help!

Good friends are one of the most important parts of our daily life. As Warren Buffett once said, it takes twenty years to build a friendship and just five minutes to ruin it. Be honest. Can you really trust all of your friends? We all tend to hang to the romantic idea that all friends are what we hope for, assume and they always supposed to be: genuinely trustworthy.   Life is simple, we just made it complicated. Nothing defines the relationship difficulties better than friendships. Show me your friends, and I going to tell  you who you are. We automatically assume that our friends like us for “what and who we are” and because we love them. Sometimes, this might be very true. The motivations of how, when and why to choose a friend are manifold. While we thank God, we still have friends who love us for what and who we are, many of them have a selfish motivation to connect with us. Very often they expect benefits or advantages. It can be advantageous to befriend with wealthy people who may own a yacht, a hotel, and a nice vacation home or throw elaborate parties with famous people. Often, it's primarily all about the purpose, not necessarily the friendship. Some friends may assume sex, other financial rewards, social status, vacation companionship, or other egotistical advantages. They are using each other just to fulfill a purpose – whatever this may be. Yes, this is social fraud.

As much as we hate experiencing conflicts, we must admit that they are a normal part of our relationships. We can’t agree on everything, and avoiding conflicts hurts both sides more than it is able to help. The smart way to deal with conflicts is not to circumvent them but to resolve them in a rational way. Conflicts arise from the differences you have with other people. They occur whenever people disagree over their values, motivations, perceptions, ideas, or desires. In particular, in personal relationships, each standpoint deserves respect and honest consideration. Any lack of understanding of each other’s standpoints can result in vicious arguments, distancing, and even break-ups. At your workplace, major differences can result in lost business deals, decreased profits, and lost jobs. We all experience conflicts. The only question is how can we deal with them without hurting ourselves, our undertakings, and others. Let’s reflect on the problem. 1. We must be aware of the fact that conflicts are more than just occasional disagreements. They are often a treat to both sides. 2. When ignored, conflicts worsen over time and can endanger our well-being. 3. We often make the mistake that we respond to conflicts only on the basis of our perception, not objective facts. Our assessment is based on our own experience, culture, values, and beliefs. 4. Conflicts always trigger strong emotions and stress. If you can’t manage them you can’t resolve the problem. 5. At the same time, conflicts are also opportunities for personal growth, re-establishing relationships, and building trust.

Compassion is one of the most powerful forces in life. It embraces empathy for people who are in need and requite our attention and help. It is our personal engagement in the fight against cold-heartedness, indifference, and injustice in our society. Compassion is a personal willingness to give, desire to donate your abilities, talents, and time. It brings out the noblest characteristic of a human being. It lets us step outside of our comfort zone to help other people who depend on the help from us. Which kind of person are you as a compassionate human being? 1. You find commonalities with other people. 2. You don't put emphasis on money. 3. You act on your empathy. 4. A major component of compassion is giving back, even in the smallest ways.   5. You're kind to yourself. 6. You teach others. 7. You're mindful. 8. You have high emotional intelligence. ... 9. You express gratitude. The purest form of empathy is if you practice your generosity toward people you never met and never will, as an anonymous donor. The reason for a genuine generosity is that you are not doing to be “repaid” somehow somewhen. You do it because you have empathy for people less fortunate people than you.

It’s a typical sign of our over-fed, selfish, and materialistic society. Our happiness appears to depend on indulging in fleeting pleasures and instant gratifications. Usually, it’s not what we need, it’s what we want. Fancy items trendy people consider a must-have. We are often so impatient that we can’t wait, we want it right now. Overnight deliveries of online-purchases are the best example of that. If doesn’t matter if this costs a lot of time, energy, and money. We just want an instant feeling of pleasure, even if it hurts us in a long-run. This is a clear sign of our lack of self-discipline, psychologists say. People forgo significant long-term benefits for insignificant short-term temptations. Why do we do that?

Selfishness is a part of our life. It doesn’t have just negative effects. A baby or toddler, for example, needs to be selfish to survive. An adult must be selfish when fighting for his or her life. Treating yourself well during tough times is a kind of selfishness, too, but this is not necessarily a bad thing if it doesn’t hurt others. Selfish behavior is generally considered bad and immoral. A closer determination, 1. Selfishness is seen as “good” if somebody is treating himself in a positive way. 2. If somebody is acting in a somehow selfish way without hurting anybody, psychologists describe this as “neutral selfishness.” 3. Any kind of arrogant and self-centered behavior hurting other people is considered “bad” selfishness. Remarkably, virtually all selfish people don’t see themselves as selfish or bad. Therefore, it may be appropriate to examine yourself. Am I selfish? There are clear signs of egotistical people. They are easy to detect, especially in close relationships.  How do they behave?

We all suffer under some kind of fears, at least sometimes. They may hold back our relationships, our careers, prevent us from achieving our goals and dreams. If we are too anxious, our angst may destroy our way of life. Not surprisingly, it doesn’t matter whether the reason for our fear is real or just imagined. The effect is the same, sometimes devastating. It is highly recommended to verify whether you too are a victim of your own fears potentially affecting your life. Let me summarize the top reasons why you might be very much limited in living your life normally. What can you do? If fears affect your life, and you are aware of that, you have no choice but to fight against your own fears and change your attitude. With the right mindset, you can overcome virtually everything, including you own fears.

In our busy, restless life, there is not much time to reflect, to make conscious choices, and to separate good from bad, right from wrong. Our daily routine runs our life, not us. We are often overwhelmed, don’t know what to do. We just take our events, projects, and problems as they come. First comes first. We feel this is not rational, not effective, and it makes us stressed-out and unhappy. You cannot do everything, and especially not immediately. What can we do? First of all, we must recognize that our priorities are screwed-up. The only way out of this mess is prioritizing our priorities. There are clearly-defined signals indicating that your priorities are undefined. 1. The first sign is that you feel overwhelmed, strained, helpless, and confused. 2. Even worse, you start having the discomforting feeling that there is no clear direction in your life. You are floating aimlessly through the day after day. Is this what you want? 3. You start procrastinating with important duties. This is a sign of significant confusion. 4. You are neglecting essential parts of your life. You start suffering, and your love-ones too. Something is terribly wrong. You need to turn your life around and prioritize your priorities. Why? 1. We have limited time and energy. 2. We have to take our unique abilities, talents, and skills into account. 3. We must simplify our life. Why don’t we act with our priorities in mind? 1. We totally depend on our routine. We use to do what we use to do. 2. We are not aware that we are stuck in life patterns hurting our lives. 3. We are not comfortable with changes requiring hard choices. 4. We have the illusion we are chasing something that matters. 5. We are trying to be polite and not to hurt others, but we pay the price. There is always the same: Your phone is buzzing, you have to prepare lunches for your kids, you have an important deadline tomorrow, and you must pay a number of bills right away. What should you do first? This information is based on my book "Find peace of mind or lose your mind" (available on amazon or NeverGiveUpYOurDream.US)

Your true identity is probably not what you think it is. It depends on thousands of factors such as your childhood experience, your education, your lifestyle, your habits, your secret and open desires, and much more. Additionally, your conscious “knowledge” about who you are is also determined by the fact who you want to be or who you hate to become. Furthermore, what we think we are is nothing but just a self-perception. Watching ourselves in a mirror or watching our pictures gives us an “impression” who we appear to be - or how we look like. However, you would be terribly surprised how this “image” differs from the truth or the way other people see us. Whether we want to admit it or not, we don’t know ourselves as good as we want to, by far. On an objective scale, others might see us much more “objectively” if they are fair and objective. The “problem” is our brain. Don’t be fooled into the belief that you know what your brain is doing just because it is your brain, psychologists say. This episode is based on my book "You Don'tKnow Who You Really Are"

Whatever we do or not do, whatever we think, value or hate, how we behave and whatever we believe in or not in our life mainly depends on one thing: our worldview.  An oversimplified analogy might be: Whenever we change our eyeglasses, our view of things around us changes because our eyeglasses determine what we are able to see or not to see. Everybody has a worldview.  Rich or poor, smart or stupid, believer or non-believer.  All things in our life depend on our worldview. Derived from the German word “Weltanschauung,” it refers to a belief system holding all significant concepts of our life such as God, cosmos, knowledge, behavior, values, humanity and history. It is like a kind of a grand perspective of our world and our life. In more scientific terms, worldview is a mental structure forming our ultimate beliefs. It provides a general context for life, including a vision of what we consider “authentic” or “real.” Having a peace of mind requires a well-balanced life, based on realistic assumptions of all basic and critical aspects of our human being. Philosophers identify the worldview as the “big question of life.”   According to philosophers, our worldview should answer to the following most important questions of our life: 1. Ultimate reality: What kind of God, if any, in fact,the  exists? 1. External reality: Is there anything beyond the cosmos? 2. Knowledge: What can be known – and how can anyone know it? 3. Origin: Where did I come from? 4. Identity: Who am I? 5. Morals: How should I live? 6. Values: What should I consider of the greatest worth? 7. Predicament: What is humanity’s fundamental problem? 8. Resolution: How can humanity’s problems be solved? 9. Past/Present: What is the meaning and direction of history? 10. Destiny: Will I survive the death of my body and if so, in what state?

Why can't we find our peace of mind? The short answer is: Virtually everything we know, love and cherish seems to be upside down. We are irritated and don’t’ know what to believe, where we belong,, and what our identity is. The detailed answer is in my book Find peace of mind or lose your mind. Here is my short explanation. Everybody needs a home. We all agree with that. However, we all also assume our physical “home” for our physical body. Only a few people know what psychologists found out and this is that our mind also needs a “home”.  In another word, our mind needs to know where we “mentally and spiritually belong” in order to reach peace of mind. Nowadays, this is not an easy task. Our personal and public lives have changed over the last decades dramatically. Is this one of the reasons why so many people can’t find peace of mind anymore, can’t sleep as they used to, can’t manage their relationships properly, can’t function at their jobs as required, are often depressed and feel confused and totally helpless? There are probably many reasons and explanations for the struggle for our own identity, confusion and even our self-worth. Our public arena doesn’t offer us any help in understanding where we stand and where society stands. How can I find peace of mind? My book “Find peace of mind or lose your mind” is devoted to solutions to this problem. Here is a general summary of aspects you must consider to find and reset yourself

Just look around you. Anywhere. On the street, at their job, in stores, at public events, on TV, and even at their own homes. Watch how the people look, what they say, how they behave, how they treat their own people, and how they treat others. You are asking yourself, am I crazy or are they totally out of whack? Some of your more progressive friends may say, this is “the new normal.” You say to yourself, wait a minute. Am I supposed to accept all that? No way! “Normal” for me is only what I accept and can live with.  This is not how I was raised. This is not our culture, this is neither normal, nor decent, civilized, or appropriate. In short, there are many things our Marxist-infested, progressive culture is forcing on us. Cultural norms are self-imposed limitations on speech and actions, meant to preserve peace and order in a society. Our “new normal” is anything but peaceful.

We are all more or less emotional. It would be terrible if we wouldn’t be. Emotions are the most important part of our lives, determining our feelings and our state-of-mind. Nobody wants to become an ice-cold, emotionless, Roboter-like human being. Emotions enable us to enjoy life, make life worth living. Women are, generally speaking, more emotional than men. This makes them even more attractive and lovable. However, like in most areas, we can get overboard – and we do! According to studies and statistics, nowadays we tend to do most of our decisions purely emotionally. This disables any rational problem-solving and often screws our lives terribly. “It feels so good,” mostly women say, “when I do my decision when I am in the right mood, emotionally. Emotions are how I feel, think, act, and react.” Subjectively, this might be true, but they disregard how terribly are they hurting themselves and their cause down the road. Hours or days later, they often say to themselves: What was I thinking? To be fair, in real-lifeRoboter problem situations it’s often difficult to balance between feelings and logic. Whenever the emotions take over, you are in great danger to make irrational decisions.

We live in an unfriendly, rough, sometimes even hostile and cynical world. Many people are so self-centered and narcissistic that they don’t care about other people, their needs or feelings. Selfish people, and there are many of them, don’t see how others suffer, and they don’t want to see it because they are just too busy with themselves and their self-indulgence. Compassion is not something that would ever cross their mind. A few years ago, I read a story in a newspaper reporting a hard-to-believe occurrence. A kid was in the process ow drowning in a river, and the people close to that place recorded a video of the drowning instead of helping or at least crying for help. Recording a dramatic video of a drowning kid for a Facebook post was more important to them than saving a kid’s life. It doesn’t get more cynical than that. We all have our good and not-so-good days, and we all depend on the kindness of others. We all appreciate a nice compliment, we all love to be treated nicely, and we all love to be loved. This is especially the case when we experience bad days, are sick, old or helpless. In other words, there is a big need for random kindness everywhere all the time. Can’t we do something about it? Yes, we can! There so many kind things you can do to make others happy without any kind of big effort. A few days ago, I went to a store and the lady at the cashier looked incredibly ugly. I had the feeling that she never gets complimented for anything, and I felt the urge to express some kind of kindness to her. I asked her what her name is. She said Janice, and I replied, this is a really nice name. I like it very much. You won’t believe how her face defrosted into a happy smile. I am sure, she was very grateful, I made her day. There are so many things we can do to display our random acts of kindness to others. Random means that we should do it whenever the opportunity arises. Not just randomly every other year.

We all have our problems. Small or big. Short-term or lifelong. Some are just a little nuisance; others trouble us for years without being able to overcome them. First of all, this is normal. Problems, struggles, complications are a part of our life. We can’t avoid them. If we think about them rationally, it is not so much about our struggles, it is mostly about how we deal with them. As always, everything is about our attitude, how we deal with difficulties in our life. With a negative energy in mind, we tend to love playing the victim card. We like to be depressed, gloomy, and miserable. We use to blame others for our misfortune. We do nothing and we are waiting for a miraculous rescue by others, often the government. We are deeply convinced, our problems are not our fault. It’s the society to be blamed for. If you are rather a positive person with peace of mind, your attitude reflects your problems in a completely different way. Yes, you are aware that you have problems, and you admit that there are difficulties you cannot overcome. With a positive energy, you are probably a doer rather than a talker. You don’t wait for others to bail you out. You refuse to be taken down by your daily struggles. You refuse to be a victim of unavoidable life’s circumstances. You are deeply determined to accept the challenge and to solve your minor or major problems. Mostly, you find a solution if you are creative enough and don’t take a no for a no easily.

What is trust? It is a firm reliance on the integrity of a person we consider reliable, honest, truthful, and decent. A person who won’t lie, deceit or cheat on us. In short, a human with moral values prohibiting him to be a jerk and to turn on us.  Trust is a basic foundation of most human connections, from most casual friendships to most intimate relationships. It practically rules all human interactions we have with each other.  You don’t fly on an airplane if you don’t trust the pilot. You don’t take a car ride with somebody you don’t consider a good driver, reliable and trustworthy. You don’t spend your life together with a person you don’t completely trust. In short, all cultures, our society, and our entire civilization depends on trust.  Generally speaking, trust can be learned. If you have been raised in a family led by honesty, straightforwardness, moral and ethical values, you experienced trust from your childhood on. You are ready and easily able to trust other people.   “Trust is like a piece of paper. If you ever crumble it, it’s never going to be perfect again.” What do we have to know about trusting other people? This episode is based on my book "Whom Can We Still Trust?" available on Amazon as a paperback for just 8.95 or eBook for only 2.95. More information is available @NeverGiveUpYourDream.US

We celebrate our divisions. We celebrate our egoism, hatred, fraud, deception, resentment, alienation, anger, frustrations, fear, retributions, vendetta, conspiracy, dishonesty, victimhood, and even despair. We celebrate our moral decline, we applaud the decay of our society, we hail the destruction of Judeo-Christian morals, principles, and values. For the sake of progressivism, social justice, and political power play, we sacrifice everything our civilization ever fought for. Truth and facts don’t matter anymore, only social, political, and personal expedience does. Truth, freedom, decency, honesty, reasoning, equality, and individuality are out. Our way of life, our culture, our history, and our future are sheer forever lost.  Human decency used to be a vital part of raising, educating, and treating us. Most people used to be proud of being honest, polite, honorable, and trustworthy. This might be a bygone era now. Nowadays, facts and truth depend on the point of view, especially in politics. When our over-zealous left claims that there is no biological difference between men and women, this is not a fact, this is an opinion, a foolish one. If over ninety percent of most dangerous drugs enter the US through our Southern border and over hundred thousand arrests of illegals are made in just one month, is this a crisis or not? Facts are facts, opinions are opinions. Denying facts is mostly nothing more than just a cheap political talking point. For generations, media filtered most of the lies, deceptions, and fraud out of their reporting, but this is not the case anymore. Nowadays, they usually cover up inconvenient stories and report only talking points confirming their worldviews. Bias in the media is not an exception anymore. It’s the rule.

The episode by Pierre A. Kandorfer reveals an open secret of our life: Why are good, kind, and positive people always happier than the uncaring, mean, and narcissistic ones? It is based on his latest book with the same title. Link: http://NeverGiveUpYourDream.US We all want to be happy, but only some people succeed. Most of them fail because they are searching where nothing can be found. Empty success, instant gratification, and shallow pleasures don’t lead to peace of mind and happiness. If you are chasing materialism, status, prestige, and public approval by others, just forget about ever getting genuinely happy. If you are interested in a daily experience of joy, contentment, positive well-being, and a sense that your life is good, meaningful, and worthwhile, in short happiness, you must turn to kindness, goodness, decency, and modesty. Research tells us that good, kind, and decent people are generally much happier than the negative, mean, and angry ones. This book reveals why and how. Pierre Kandorfer is a veteran journalist with thirty-five years of a media background. He wrote thousands of articles, hundreds of TV programs, and a dozen books such as “You Don’t  Know Who You Really Are,” “No More Doubt – Science Confirms the Bible,” “Whom Can We Still Trust,” “Fight Back Manual,” “Find Peace of Mind or Lose Your Mind,” in addition to some media textbooks. Pierre’s books are available at NeverGiveUpYourDream.US, Amazon, and other booksellers. Pierre taught media communications, acted as Dir. of Programming of a nationwide TV broadcasting, worked as TV host and producer of a movie series and hundreds of TV shows. He also is a commercial pilot, speaks several languages, and is a proud Christian and passionate Constitutionalist. http://NeverGiveUpYourDream.US

Most people have very extensive dreams about what to do with their lives, but only some are able to reach them and convert them into their reality. This is not because their dreams are necessarily too exotic or difficult to reach. This is mostly because most of them don’t really believe in their own dreams, and this is a tragedy. Such dream losers often listen to the wrong people, look in areas where there is no such thing as dreams, and get discouraged by our ungrateful, untruthful, jealous, mean, and often very cynical society. All this has a root in negative energy, and most of it comes from the contemptuous and divisive Marxist worldview. Unless you are able and ready to believe in yourself and your dreams, you will be stuck in your could-de-sac of discouragement and depression. Break out! Don’t be afraid of any mistake of failure. The most successful people in the world have failed hundreds of times before they, finally, got their breakthrough. If Thomas Edison didn’t have redone his experiments hundreds of times, he never would have invented the light bulb. In other words, there are not the potential difficulties that keep you away from your dream. It’s your attitude, and your attitude is easy to change if you really want to. You can find an extensive explanation about this in my book “Find peace of mind or lose your mind.” Let me walk you through the most important aspects to consider if you want to pursue your dream. Take a piece of paper and a pen if you want to make some notes.