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The Pondering Stepmom Podcast

The Pondering Stepmom Podcast

By The Pondering Stepmom Podcast
A stepmom podcast dedicated to the dynamic community of women who are navigating the realm ofstepparenting. This Podcast was inspired by my blog, The Pondering Nook, where I write about my own experiences as a stepmom AND as a mom among other topics. Each week that the podcast airs there will be a topic or question posted days prior on The Pondering Nook's Facebook & Instagram page. I'll discuss the topic on the show & read the responses (many will be anonymous!) Most episodes are 30 min or under so you can listen while you're on the go, on your lunch break, or on your drive to work.
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"Let's Talk About Mother's Day"
In this episode, I share and discuss feedback from stepmoms about how Mother's Day makes them feel and if they are celebrated by their stepchild or stepchildren. I received a huge amount of responses from stepmoms acknowledging how difficult this day can be and ways to overcome the feelings of resentment and disappointment.  Thank you to everyone who gave feedback and tuned in as the show would not be here without you! I will be on a break until next season in a couple of months! Until then, there are 2 seasons of The Pondering Podcast discussing a wide variety of topics also available on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts & Spotify. Catch my piece on Medium about What It Means To Be A Stepmom On Mother’s Day... As always, you can also visit me at The Pondering Nook! Cheers!
May 4, 2021
"Transition Fatigue"
In this episode, we discuss how stepmoms are navigating the dynamics of children going back and forth between two homes. We talk about how rules and expectations vary between the two homes as well as the transition fatigue that often comes up during these situations.  As always, thank you for tuning in and sharing your valuable feedback. xox Michelle 
April 27, 2021
"Stepmom Guilt"
In this episode, I talk about "stepmom guilt" and I share feedback from other stepmoms who describe situations where they feel this emotion bubble up and how they deal with it. Please tune in for this candid discussion about something so many stepmothers go through.  You can find my stepmom collection on Medium at 'I, Stepmother.' & more at The Pondering Nook. Cheers!
April 21, 2021
"Disengaging Isn't A Dirty Word"
In this episode, I asked other stepmoms when the last time they felt they had to disengage was and why. I also talk about how the idea of disengaging felt like a dirty word to me at the beginning of my stepmom journey and how I've learned to adapt to the concept of what it means for me.  Thank you for listening and for your feedback!
March 10, 2021
"Stepmom Origins"
In this episode, I share feedback from other stepmoms about their "origin stories" describing how they became stepmoms, and how they felt at the beginning of their stepmom journey as opposed to how they're feeling about it now. They share their challenges, triumphs, and those inevitable lessons learned along the way.  Thank you as always for tuning in! You can find my stepmom blogs along with more topics at The Pondering Nook
February 24, 2021
"Coping With Disruption"
Stepmoms, how do you cope when a biological parent jumps in and out of your stepchild's life in an inconsistent manner or is absent for years only to return without warning? In this episode, I discuss this topic along with some great feedback from other stepmoms who are going through this ever-changing and challenging journey. Thank you, as always, for joining me. xox
February 17, 2021
"Partner Frustrations"
In this episode, I discuss how stepmoms deal with their frustrations regarding how their partner handles situations with their stepchild or stepchildren. I read feedback from other stepmoms dealing with these challenges and I work through how we can deal with these feelings going forward.  As always, thank you for tuning in! xox Michelle 
February 3, 2021
As a stepmom, how is your relationship with the biological mom of your stepchild or stepchildren? Are you happy with the relationship? Are there aspects of the relationship you wish you could change or improve on? Is that even possible in your situation? In this episode, we discuss some of the different stepmom/bio mom relationships and how they have either improved or not improved over time.  Thank you to all the stepmoms who gave feedback and who support this podcast! Cheers! xox Michelle 
January 27, 2021
"Step-Teens & Dating"
Are you the stepmom of a teenager who is dating? What has been your experience? What is your advice to other stepmoms? In this episode, I discuss the challenges of a stepmom's role with their step-teens and dating. I got some feedback from my fellow ponderers about their own experience and, of course, I talk about my own! Thank you so much for listening! xox Michelle 
January 20, 2021
During this episode, I talk about stepmoms, like myself, who are also moms to biological children, and how our biological children feel about our role as stepmothers. I received some great responses detailing personal experiences with this dynamic and I also read an excerpt from an article I wrote recently regarding this topic that I will attach. As always, thank you to all the listeners and also to those who have provided the feedback I need to create this podcast! Happy New year! 'I Don't Get To Have A Stepmom'
January 13, 2021
"Facing Our Fears"
In this episode, we discuss the greatest fears stepmoms have in their stepparenting journey. From being afraid of never being appreciated to the very real fear of losing a bond that has been built over time, I read stepmom responses and discuss how we can find perspective. I also read an excerpt from a terrific article over on my stepmom publication on Medium. Check it out here & thank you once again for commenting and tuning in!  xox Find my other articles at The Pondering Nook & at Medium. 
December 9, 2020
"Don't Set Yourself on Fire"
In this episode, I talk about the challenges that high-conflict stepchildren can cause for stepmoms. As we come closer to the holidays with the added stresses of new pandemic lockdowns, many stepmoms are more frazzled and fed up than ever. Hopefully hearing about other stepmoms who are battling through the same kinds of issue can be a comfort.  Stay safe & thank you for tuning in! xox Michelle 
November 18, 2020
"Full-Time Dynamics"
In this episode, I discuss the role of a full-time stepmom and all of the challenges it brings. I share some real stepmom experiences with being full-time as well as coping with absent or dysfunctional biological mothers. As always, these stories of sadness, triumph, and determination bring much-needed enlightenment and catharsis. 
November 11, 2020
"Breaking Points"
In this episode, I discuss the issue of reaching our breaking points as stepmoms. I read the experiences that other stepmoms have shared regarding times in their own journey's when they felt like giving up and quitting the role of being a stepmom. In the discussion, we also talk about advice for moving on and healing from these incredibly difficult moments.  As always, thank you to all the stepmoms who have participated and shared pieces of their journeys. Thank you to all who listen and here's to remaining strong! Cheers! Michelle 
October 28, 2020
"I Can Be That."
In this episode, I discuss how stepmoms feel they are a positive influence on their stepchild/stepchildren and why. I read responses from real stepmoms struggling with this challenge as well as sharing some of my own thoughts and struggles with how to be a force of inspiration and light as a stepmother.
October 21, 2020
"Welcome Back"
In this episode, I do a catch-up after 7 months away from the show. How are we all doing? How have we been coping with the Covid-19 lockdowns and challenges? I check in with my own personal updates and a little bit of stepmom feedback. I also read an excerpt from "Time To Be Honest About Stepmom Life" from my Medium publication, "I, Stepmother." which contains some relatable and comforting truths for all of us. Welcome back, moms, stepmoms & blended families. Just remember that you're not alone.  Until next time... Cheers! Michelle 
October 14, 2020
Season 2 is Coming!
Hello listeners! It's been a while since season 1 of The Pondering Podcast and I'm about to launch Season 2! I need your input! What topics do you want to hear this season? What's bothering you? What's been challenging for you? Please comment on my Facebook page or Instagram page. You can also private message me OR email me at Chat soon! Michelle xox
October 5, 2020
"Who Do You Think You Are?"
In this last episode of the season, I discuss how stepmoms feel within their step-parenting role and if they think they are valued/respected for all that they do. I also share my own personal story about how I rose up from being a stepmom who did WAY too much in the beginning while feeling an avalanche of resentment to becoming a stepmom who learned how to thrive while also saying no to others and how to ask for help! Thank you all for your phenomenal feedback over the last 20 episodes and I can't wait to talk at you in season 2!! xoxo Michelle (The Pondering Nook)
April 14, 2020
"Teaching What We Can"
In this episode, I discuss feedback from stepmoms and moms as to how they're coping with homeschooling their children and stepchildren. I also share my own personal experiences with our sudden change in lifestyle. Sending everyone my hopeful thoughts for the future! Xoxo Cheers!
April 7, 2020
"Co-parenting & The Coronavirus"
This week I discuss responses from blended families about how they are handling household schedules and co-parenting duties during the Coronavirus outbreak. I also add my best friend's advice into the mix as a divorced mother who explains her reasons for making the stand to keep her kids with her during this crisis.
March 31, 2020
"The Blended Partnership"
This week I sneak in a Podcast during the wee hours of the morning while the kids are off school due to the Coronavirus scare. I (quietly) talk about the challenges many of you are facing with your spouse/partner in regards to stepparenting. I truly appreciate the feedback from all of you who commented and I hope you can still enjoy this somewhat short, somewhat whispery episode (my apologies for the low voice--listening at a higher volume should help!) Cheers! Find more of my stepmom articles at The Pondering Nook & I, Stepmother.
March 17, 2020
"Our Mistakes"
This week I discuss feedback from stepmoms about what they feel has been their biggest mistake or mistakes on their stepparenting journey and how they learned from those mistakes. The goal of this episode is to help other stepmoms who are perhaps new to this role by sharing the struggles and lessons which so many of us have gone through.
March 10, 2020
"Who Do You Turn To?"
In this episode, I explore who my fellow stepmoms turn to in their time of need. Do they have friends who are also stepmoms? Do they go to counseling? Do they join support groups online? I share great feedback from real stepmoms who describe who they have in their lives for support and how they deal with the daily stress of step-parenting. Join me! As always, find me at The Pondering Nook and for more of my stepmom articles, you can visit m at I, Stepmother. on Medium. Cheers!
March 3, 2020
"Dissecting The Drama"
In this episode, I discuss "ex-drama." I go over some stories and experiences from stepmoms who are dealing with or who have dealt with high-conflict exes. I go over their feedback and also discuss how many stepmoms have worked through some of the toughest issues and moved on to a better relationship with the biological mom.  Please join me as I try to dissect the drama and figure out the key to a more productive blended family life.  As always, find me at
February 25, 2020
"Positive Thoughts"
This week I go over feedback from stepmoms about how they feel they've been a positive influence on their stepchild or stepchildren. The comments are heartwarming, powerful, and a true testament to how stepmoms are changing lives and impacting children in a wonderful way. Please tune in to be inspired by these stories!  As always, find my blogs at The Pondering Nook or you can catch more of my parenting articles on Medium on my new publications, "I, Stepmother." & "I, Mother." Thank you for listening! 
February 11, 2020
"Is That Your Child?"
In this episode, I discuss what it's like to be a "childless stepmom." I go over the feedback from stepmoms who share their intimate stories about how the journey of being a stepmom while not having biological children has affected them. The responses are emotional, informative, and eye-opening to say the least. Join the raw and honest discussion. xox  Catch my blogs at The Pondering Nook as well as on Medium. Cheers!
February 4, 2020
"Juggling Acts"
This week I discuss the topic of being BOTH a mom and a stepmom at the same time and which role is more difficult. The overwhelming responses definitely tipped in one main direction with more fantastic feedback from real moms and stepmoms who are living the journey. Tune in to hear the responses and for the discussion of the topic. As always, find my blogs at The Pondering Nook PLUS you can read more of my content on my new Medium publications, I, Stepmother. and I, Mother. Thank you for listening! Cheers! 
January 28, 2020
"The 'Ours' Baby"
This week I discuss what it's like to have an "ours" baby while also being a stepmom. I discuss real experiences from moms and stepmoms to learn how they reacted and dealt with this very intense blended family dynamic. Tune in for some absolutely relatable experiences such as dealing with sibling jealousy, boundaries, and (step)mom guilt. Gain some helpful advice from women who have BEEN there, who ARE there, and who are LIVING the journey! As always, find me at The Pondering Nook! Cheers!
January 14, 2020
"When Does Step-parenting End?"
This week we have a reader/listener requested topic about step-parenting adult stepchildren. I discuss how we sometimes think when kids turn 18 many of our stresses or problems will be over but that is simply not the case. I discuss experiences from other stepmoms who have adult stepchildren and talk about my own worries about when my stepchild becomes an adult. At the end of the segment, I read a fabulous excerpt from an article called, "What my (step)son’s mother said to me at his wedding" by Anna Breslin. It tells the inspiring story of a stepmom's journey to her stepson's wedding and the unexpected experience she had there. Join us & as always you can find my own articles at The Pondering Nook and Medium. Cheers!
January 7, 2020
"Blended Family Homes for The Holidays"
How does the holiday season work in your blended family situation? Do you stress out over visitation schedules, co-parenting dramas, or struggle to create new traditions with your children and/or step-children? In this episode, I share experiences from stepmoms and moms about how they maneuver their way through the often chaotic weeks of the holiday season.  Join me!  As always, visit my blogs at The Pondering Nook!  Cheers & talk to you in 2020! xox Michelle 
December 17, 2019
"Step-parenting Teenagers"
In this episode, I discuss being a stepmom to teenagers. I go over feedback from my listeners as to how their own experiences with step-parenting teens are going -- plus we talk about how technology and cell phones are affecting the blended family dynamics. I offer up advice on how we can better manage our own behavior when our emotions are put to the limits with teenage and co-parenting challenges. Join me for this relatable discussion and feel free to share with a brave stepmom you know!
December 10, 2019
"Advice for The New Stepmom"
In this week's episode, I go over vital advice for new stepmoms given to me by seasoned stepmoms who have been there. I also talk about my own personal mistakes and lessons as a new stepmom back in the day while offering up my own advice. At the end of the podcast, I go over 5 points from my article, 5 Essential Questions to Ask Yourself Before Becoming a Stepmom.  I really hope this helps some beautiful stepmoms out there and thank you so much for tuning in!
December 3, 2019
"Trial by Fire"
Do you feel supported by your spouse in your blended family dynamic? This week on The Pondering Podcast, I discuss the challenges of maintaining a relationship while also navigating parenting & step-parenting. As always, I share the phenomenal feedback from real women who are in the trenches of blended family dynamics as well as sharing my own personal experiences. Tune in!  You can also read my parenting, stepparenting, and relationship blogs at The Pondering Nook!
November 19, 2019
"No One Ever Dreams of Becoming a Stepmom."
This episode I discuss how having a stepparent as a child influenced how you navigate your current role as a stepparent. Included are some wonderful reader responses on the topic as well as my own personal experiences. I also go over modern perceptions of the "wicked stepmother" idea and how that has changed in our society. 
November 12, 2019
"You Have The Power."
In this episode we discuss the relationships between stepmoms and biological moms. I go over feedback from real stepmoms who are dealing with varying challenges in trying to co-parent with their stepchildren's biological mothers and ways in which we can try to cope with the issues that arise.
November 5, 2019
"Stepmoms Are Like A Glue..."
On this first full episode of The Pondering Podcast, I delve into some of the biggest challenges stepmoms face in their daily lives such as co-parenting, biological moms, full-time stepmom challenges, finding balance parenting both stepchildren and biological children in the home... plus more. While discussing feedback from real stepmoms, I go over ways we can all move forward in a productive way and how the dynamic role of a strong stepmom is really the glue that holds the blended family together.
October 28, 2019