Powerful Parenting for Today's Kids

Ep 397 No mixed messages

An episode of Powerful Parenting for Today's Kids

By Erin Taylor
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Welcome to Powerful Parenting for Today's Kids - a podcast to help stressed and overwhelmed parents end struggles with disrespect, tantrums, social media, anxiety, sensory issues, sports & more with their children! Erin is a Mom, Entrepreneur, Certified Parent Coach, Mindfulness Coach, Author, and Motivational Speaker. Please send your parenting questions to erin@erin-taylor.com.
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Welcome to Powerful Parenting for Today's Kids - a podcast to help stressed and overwhelmed parents end struggles with disrespect, tantrums, social media, anxiety, sensory issues, sports & more with their children! Erin is a Mom, Entrepreneur, Certified Parent Coach, Mindfulness Coach, Author, and Motivational Speaker. Please send your parenting questions to erin@erin-taylor.com.
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Ep 414 Fan the spark of your child's curiosity
In today's episode, I talk about verse 27 of The Parents Tao te Ching, and how important it is for us to fan the spark of our chid's curiosity and learning. Join me! 
09:53
December 12, 2019
Ep 413 - A beautiful example of compassion breaking down barriers
In today's episode, I share an article I was very moved by this weekend. I hope you are too! And here is the link to the original article I am referencing - https://www.boredpanda.com/non-binary-model-changes-parent-view-rain-dove/?fbclid=IwAR2H1PkoXZdVlXi9xoEowxSAuxhKILpbKJm5duvm41IYPuKZvdeMicr2bWw&utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=organic.
14:49
December 10, 2019
Ep 412 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) Just say no!
In this episode, I talk about moving through this holiday season without falling apart and how you can accomplish this. Join me! 
06:24
December 9, 2019
Ep 406 Pursuing your dreams, part 2
This episode is being posted out of order (yikes!) because we did not get a chance to record it when I had planned to. Either way, join Jay and I as we discuss the process and benefit of pursuing your soul's calling. 
40:10
December 6, 2019
Ep 411 Become the student of your child
In this episode, I talk about verse 26 of The Parents Tao te Ching. Can we become the students and allow our children to be our teachers? Join me to hear more!
07:48
December 5, 2019
Ep 410 The power of really seeing our children as they are
In today's episode, I talk about a development that occurred yesterday in my family and how I moved through it with my son. If I had not been able to truly "see" him, it would not have gone as well as it did. Join me!
08:38
December 3, 2019
Ep 409 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) Thanksgiving recap!
Join me on this Mindful Monday as I talk about the Thanksgiving weekend and how we can take a precious part of it into this holiday season!
08:17
December 2, 2019
Ep 408 A GRATITUDE practice for you this Thanksgiving!
In today's episode, I take you through my gratitude practice so that you can see how far-reaching and delicious it can be. Join me!
15:57
November 28, 2019
Ep 407 Talking youth sports with John O'Sullivan!
In this episode, I am thrilled to chat again with my good friend, John O'Sullivan about his upcoming book, Every Moment Matters: How the world's best coach inspire their athletes and build championship teams. Here is John's website where you can purchase his book. And here his wonderful TED Talk that I reference in our chat - I remember every single time I drop my son off for his soccer games. 
37:04
November 26, 2019
Ep 405 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) How do you want to spend the next two months?
I am going to be talking about how to move mindfully through this holiday season all during this holiday season. Join me for today's thoughts!  And here is the link to the article I wrote on LinkedIn about this very topic! https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/its-most-wonderful-time-year-erin-taylor
08:52
November 25, 2019
Ep 404 Can you see the true magnificence of your child?
In this episode, we look at verse 25 of The Parents Tao te Ching, which is so timely for this upcoming holiday season. Join me for some inspiration!
05:22
November 21, 2019
Ep 403 Connecting with your kids in the kitchen with Katie Kimball
I loved chatting with Katie Kimball in today's interview. She is FULL of ideas on how we can connect with our kids in the kitchen. In this episode, we talk about all the different life lessons kids can learn in the kitchen.  Here is Katie's website if you'd like to learn more about what she does - https://kidscookrealfood.com/ And here is the link to the adorable video of her children in the kitchen that we talked about - https://kidscookrealfood.com/pizza/
22:21
November 20, 2019
Ep 402 You can still up-level even when you work hard to parent well
In today's episode, I share a story that happened between me and my daughter and how surprised I was at what I needed to do as a result. Join me! 
07:54
November 19, 2019
Ep 401 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) JOYFULLY experiencing this holiday season
In this episode, I encourage you to re-evaluate all that you will do over the next two months. There IS a way to make this time of year wonderful and joyful, and in this episode, I share some of the ways you can do just that. Join me!
09:09
November 18, 2019
Ep 400 Pursuing your dreams, part 1
In today's episode, I have a special guest with me - my husband! This is actually a live conversation we recorded, and it's been several months, so we were really excited to share this update with you. Join us!
16:15
November 15, 2019
Ep 399 Agendas - yours or theirs?
In this episode, we look at verse 24 of The Parents Tao te Ching, where it talks about whether we are raising children with our own agendas and whether that is actually helping them. Join me!
07:11
November 14, 2019
Ep 398 Why negotiating can be a good thing
In this episode, I talk about why you should give serious consideration to negotiating with your child, as there may be hidden benefits you never even considered. Join me! 
09:51
November 12, 2019
Ep 397 No mixed messages
In today's episode, I look at verse 23 of The Parents Tao te Ching, where it looks at how we can avoid sending our children mixed messages and instead truly lean into who we are so that we can be the best role models for them. Join me! 
08:13
November 7, 2019
Ep 396 Become INDISTRACTABLE with Nir Eyal
I am super-excited to share with you today's episode, where I interviewed Nir Eyal, author of Indistractable. I only promote books that I personally have read and loved and this one is no exception! Nir and I talk about some really vital topics in this interview. If you are interested in getting more out of your life, you definitely don't want to miss this! You can check our Nir's book here. Here is Nir's schedule tool he mentioned. Here is Nir's distraction guide. And here is an article Nir wrote on habits vs. routines. 
43:41
November 5, 2019
Ep 395 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) When we get overwhelmed and overstressed
In today's episode, I share with you how I have recently veered off my path of mindfulness and self-care and the realizations I made along the way. I hope this inspires you to look at what you might need to do to care for your self. Join me!
11:20
November 4, 2019
Ep 394 - Snow days - love 'em or hate 'em?
In this throwback to episode 23 of Maximizing Life in the Middle, we talk about snow days and how to manage them successfully when you have kiddos. I also share one of my words for 2018 - FUN - and why I chose it!
14:32
November 1, 2019
Ep 393 Your greatest legacy
In today's episode, we look at verse 22 of The Parents Tao te Ching. You don't have to hide your mistakes, failures and mess-ups from your kids. In fact, they may be the most important thing you show them. Join me to learn more!
07:02
October 31, 2019
Ep 392 You are a bigger influence than you think
I often work with parents who are trying to be such a big influence in their children's lives. But when the desire to be an influence comes from a place of fear and unworthiness, it causes inevitable tension and power struggles between parent and child. Parents, I am here to tell you that you are a bigger influence on your children than you can possibly imagine, and you don't have to push your own agenda on your children in order to be that influence. Join me to find out more!
06:50
October 29, 2019
Ep 391 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) Give yourself a pat on the back
This episode is for all the moms out there. Too often, I hear moms beating themselves up for times when they fall short, and don't meet their own expectations. Moms - today, instead of lamenting all the times you messed up, I want you to take a moment to celebrate all the times you got it right and showed up the way you want to show up in your live. This is the way that we continue to move forward and become more of who it is we are meant to be. Join me to celebrate, won't you?
03:53
October 28, 2019
Ep 390 Checking in on my way to LA!
This week has been quite busy for me, with two airplane trips to different cities. I wanted to pop in and say Hi to you all while I am sitting in the airport waiting for my next flight to LA. Join me!
02:30
October 18, 2019
Ep 389 Raising our kids to be kind
In this episode, I talk about something beautiful I witnessed at my son's soccer game this weekend. It illustrates what REALLY matters. Join me!
08:11
October 15, 2019
Ep 387 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) How are you showing up?
How are you showing up in your life?  In this MOM episode, I talk about why it is important for you to look at how you do. Join me!
07:24
October 14, 2019
Ep 386 The hidden mystery of your child's being
In today's episode, I reviewed verse 21 of The Parents Tao te Ching, The Hidden Mystery of Their Being. Join me!
05:41
October 10, 2019
Ep 385 Is your child anxious? Check this out!
I am VERY excited to announce to you that my new course, Destination Peace is live! Tune in to hear more about it and find out if it might help YOU! You can also visit this link to find out more! 
06:20
October 8, 2019
Ep 384 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) Be the observer of your life
In this episode, I talk about how you can be not only the participant, but the observer in your life. Curious about how? Join me!
08:41
October 7, 2019
Ep 383 Maximize by minimizing!
In this throwback to episode 22 of Maximizing Life in the Middle, we talked about the power of decluttering to help clear out your physical and mental space to achieve your goals and dreams. Join us!
27:52
October 4, 2019
Ep 382 Model honesty for your children
Today, we look at verse 20 of The Parents Tao te Ching. Join me!
08:19
October 3, 2019
Ep 381 Surviving in the midst of chaos!
In this episode, I share my last two days and why I have not had time to create episodes for the last two days. Sometimes, life gets like that, right? Some of the chaos we can reduce, but there is no way to completely eliminate it. Life happens, right? But it's how we respond when chaos happens that makes all the difference. Join me to hear more!
13:49
October 2, 2019
Ep 380 A new plan for a new year
This episode is a throwback to episode 21 of Maximizing Life in the Middle. Even though this is a little bit early, the new year is a great time to re-evaluate where you are and where you are going. This year, we decided to try a different approach to staying committed to our goals and we wanted to share it with you here!
32:44
September 27, 2019
Ep 379 Do you see what's inside your child's heart?
In this episode, we review verse 19 of The Parents Tao te Ching. Join us!
04:58
September 26, 2019
Ep 378 Children can be SO different - can we see it?
In this episode, I share a story about how two of my children are vastly different and what that requires of me to be able to meet them where they are.  I hope this gives you some ideas in your own parenting!
08:50
September 25, 2019
Ep 377 The power of surrender as a parent
In today's episode, I share a triumphant moment one of my colleagues had with her toddler. She made a HUGE realization in the moment, shifted and realized remarkable results. Join me to hear more! 
10:33
September 24, 2019
Ep 376 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) Finding joy in the stress and chaos
In this episode, I share how we moved through a very hectic week last week. I hope that you find some nuggets of wisdom in here to help you through your challenging, stressful times! Join me!
09:00
September 23, 2019
Ep 375 Do you know your child's natural virtues?
In this episode, we review verse 19 of The Parents Tao te Ching. This is an important reminder, so please join me! 
08:59
September 19, 2019
Ep 374 How does your child keep track of their schedule in school?
Our school did away with agendas this school year. In today's episode, I talk about my thoughts regarding how my son will manage his schedule and his due dates now. Join me, and if you have something that works in your school, I'd love to hear about it! 
09:21
September 18, 2019
Ep 373 The FIRST step you can take to help your anxious child
Raising a child who is anxious is a challenge to be sure. In this episode, I share the very first step you can and must take in order to help your child. Join me! 
08:01
September 17, 2019
Ep 372 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) Be the observer of your life
In today's episode, I talk about this one concept that can be extremely powerful to reducing your triggers, or at least reducing acting on your triggers. Join me! 
05:56
September 16, 2019
Ep 371 Holidays and Triggers
In this throwback to episode 20 of Maximizing Life in the Middle, we talked about the upcoming holidays and being triggered and how they both tie together. To continue the holiday traditions or not? THAT is the question... or is it? Listen to find out!
25:32
September 13, 2019
Ep 370 Why punishments and rewards don't work long-term
Today, we look at verse 17 of The Parents Tao te Ching, where it talks about how we should respond when our child fails or makes a poor choice. This is one of my favorite topics - join me! 
11:19
September 12, 2019
Ep 369 What your children REALLY need from you
In today's episode, I share another excerpt from Kate Northrop's wonderful book Do Less, where she talks about an experience she had as a young mom. We can all learn from this story. Join me! 
09:45
September 11, 2019
Ep 368 Are you willing to accept help?
In today's episode, I share an excerpt from the fabulous Kate Northrop's new book, Do Less. This one concept is vital to being the kind of parent you want to be. Join me!
11:11
September 10, 2019
Ep 367 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) A great technique to keep in your back pocket!
In this episode, I share a powerful, tiny technique you can keep in your back pocket to calm and center yourself whenever you need it. Join me!
04:27
September 9, 2019
Ep 365 Empty yourself of worries
In today's episode, I talk about verse 16 of The Parents Tao te Ching. How does worrying help you? In short, it doesn't. Join me to hear more!
08:57
September 5, 2019
Ep 364 Combatting anxiety-based thoughts
In today's episode, I share a technique to help your child confront and neutralize their anxiety-based thoughts. This might be helpful for you, too! Join me! 
10:30
September 4, 2019
Ep 363 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) Paying tribute to the "labor" of parents
In this Mindfulness on Monday Labor Day episode, I pay tribute to the labor that parents expend in the most important job on the planet, raising the next generation. Join me!
05:19
September 2, 2019
Ep 362 Leveling up in life
In this throwback to episode 19 of Maximizing Life in the Middle, we talk about how the cyclical nature of being a creative person. There are times when we are called to create and produce, and there are times when we are called to learn and grow so that we can create and produce even better work in the future. And this concept can apply to many areas of life. Join us!
24:56
August 31, 2019
Ep 361 Be alert and mindful
In today's episode, I talk about verse 15 of The Parents Tao te Ching. Are you ready to shift gears in a moment? Tune in to find out!
06:53
August 30, 2019
Ep 360 The stress we pass down
In this episode, I talk about one very important thing you must do if your child is anxious, stressed and/or displaying "undesirable" behaviors. Join me to find out what it is! 
05:59
August 28, 2019
Ep 359 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) Greeting this school year with joyful anticipation
In this episode, I share with you how you can approach this new school year and get it started on the right foot with a tiny shift in your approach to it. Join me! 
04:39
August 26, 2019
Ep 358 Giving thanks
In this throwback to episode 18 of Maximizing Life in the Middle, Jay and I talk about the things we are thankful for, in our lives as well as in our "podcast" world.
22:14
August 23, 2019
Ep 357 Where are they from?
In today's episode, I talk about verse 14 of The Parents Tao te Ching. Where are our children from? And what is our ultimate responsibility as parents? Join me to find out!
08:33
August 22, 2019
Ep 356 Grieving the closing of childhood chapters to welcome the new ones
In this episode, I share the grieving process I went through over the past week as we attended a going-away dinner for my son's friends who are all leaving for college. I hope you find something valuable in here!
11:35
August 21, 2019
Ep 355 Are you driving the speed limit in your life?
Are you driving the appropriate speed limit for a parent? Join me in today's episode to find out! 
09:01
August 20, 2019
Ep 354 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) Making the most of what's left of this summer
In this episode, I encourage you to find ways to make the most of what's left of this summer. Join me, won't you? 
06:14
August 19, 2019
Ep 353 The trouble with youth sports, part 2
In this throwback to episode 17 of Maximizing Life in the Middle, we come back to finish talking about a particularly aggressive soccer game that our son was involved in recently. Jay wanted to ponder what might be going on in the minds of the coaches, players and parents on both teams, so join us as we take this little journey into their minds....
51:28
August 16, 2019
Ep 352 Are you afraid of your child failing?
In today's episode, we review verse 13 of The Parents Tao te Ching, Fear of Failure. Hopefully, you will get some useful nuggets out of this one!
06:32
August 15, 2019
Ep 351 Finding the good in childhood transitions
Today's episode was inspired by the Back-to-School season we are entering. This is a big time of change for kids every year and here, I share my thoughts on how we can make the most of it. Join me! 
12:53
August 14, 2019
Ep 350 Reframing nervousness to something more productive
In today's episode, I share a technique that I learned from the book I am currently reading, High Performance Habits by Brendon Burchard. My daughter was nervous about the start of tryouts for the high school volleyball team which she hopes to make. This one technique I learned from Brendon really helped her and I share it here in the hopes that it might help your child too!
06:11
August 13, 2019
Ep 349 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) A technique to ground yourself when you are anxious
In today's MOM episode, I share a technique you can use yourself when you are anxious, or with your child when they are anxious. Join me!
04:45
August 12, 2019
Ep 347 In order to create a quiet place for your child, you must do THIS first
How can you create a quiet place for your child? Tune in to today's episode to find out!
09:16
August 8, 2019
Ep 346 The 2 things you MUST consider when getting your kids ready to go back to school
Everyone is thinking about pencils and backpacks this time of year, but I have two things that are even more important for you to consider when you help to prepare your child for this new school year. Tune in to find out what they are!
07:14
August 7, 2019
Ep 345 Is it normal for your teen to spend so much time alone in their room?
I know I used to wonder this very thing myself. Today's episode was inspired by my own teenagers and an article I read in Grown and Flown talking about this very subject! Tune in if you've got a teen at home who likes to be alone! 
09:57
August 6, 2019
Ep 344 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) All about our Vagus Nerve!
In this MOM episode, I share all about our Vagus Nerve and how important it is in helping us to calm down. Join me to calm your Vagus Nerve!
05:46
August 5, 2019
Ep 343 The problem with youth sports, part 1
In this throwback to episode 16 of Maximizing Life in the Middle, we talk about a game that our son played in during last week's soccer tournament. This game illustrated a lot of what is wrong with youth sports today. We talk about many different aspects of the game and the situation, but Jay brings up some powerful questions that are so good, we decided to save them and cover part 2 of this topic in episode 17 next week! Join us!
34:22
August 2, 2019
Ep 342 Being the Still Point in your child's life
Today's episode is based on verse 11 of the Parents Tao te Ching. Are you the still point in your child's life? Tune in to find out!
05:24
August 1, 2019
Ep 341 The stories we tell ourselves are not usually productive
In today's episode, I share a story about a story my daughter told herself and how it turned out to be based on fiction instead of reality. Perhaps you have found your child or yourself doing this?
07:30
July 31, 2019
Ep 340 A parents' strategic use of the word "No"
In this episode, I share why you should really try to limit your use of the word "no" as well as how this can help you in the future. Join me!
12:24
July 30, 2019
Ep 339 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) Take a mindful walk with me!
In today's episode, I talk about the benefits of taking a walk and what to tune in to when you go on one. Join me today for a mindful walk!
04:58
July 29, 2019
Ep 338 Talking teenagers!
In this throwback to episode 15 of Maximizing Life in the middle, we talk about a time when our son found himself in a situation where he got a chance to utilize one of the things we discussed with him months earlier. In this story, we share the value of open communication and why it is so vital to build that line of communication between you and your child.
33:51
July 27, 2019
Ep 337 Children are the best mindfulness teachers
In today's episode, I review verse 10 of The Parents Tao te Ching, As They Are. This verse talks about how children, if you allow them to, will teach you better than anyone else how to tune in to the present moment. Ah, but can you do it? Join me to hear more!
05:40
July 26, 2019
Ep 336 The ability to shift focus is a parental super power!
In this episode, I talk about how important it is to be able to shift focus as a parent. This is not something I was born easily able to do. As a task-oriented, goal-driven, organized person, I know what I want to do and I work hard to accomplish it. Children don't always allow you to achieve those goals and until I realized that and learned how to shift focus, I struggled mightily. I share my story here with you today in the hopes that it helps you get there faster!
11:07
July 25, 2019
Ep 335 When life gives you lemons....be grateful!
I recorded today's episode just a few minutes before I published it. A storm knocked out our power last night and it's still not on today, and so I am working from the library which thankfully still has power. Tune in to find out how I navigated my way through this challenging situation without slipping into negativity and misery, which never gets you anywhere. 
15:18
July 23, 2019
Ep 334 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) Get outside!
We are at about the midpoint of summer, at least according to our school schedules. How much have you been outside so far? If not, I encourage you to listen to this episode and get out there ASAP! Join me!
05:15
July 22, 2019
Ep 333 The monster of distraction and how we deal with it!
In this throwback to episode 14 of Maximizing Life in the Middle, we talk about how easy it is to get distracted when you live a maximized life. How do we manage all the stimuli that is coming at us? And how do we support each other when we do get distracted? This is the ultimate question, right? In this episode, we talk about some ideas to help keep the Monster of Distraction at bay!
34:37
July 19, 2019
Ep 332 Can you make room?
Today, I discuss verse 9 of The Parents Tao te Ching, talking about making space in your life and in your world. Join me to learn more! 
08:56
July 18, 2019
Ep 331 A review of Life360
Today, I wanted to share an app that I am using with my new teenage driver son and why I love it so much. Join me!
11:16
July 17, 2019
Ep 330 The SECRET to vacation success!
In this episode, I share with you the ONE thing you must do in order to have a successful summer family vacation. Join me to find out what it is!
10:07
July 16, 2019
Ep 329 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) Practicing gratitude can alter your experience of life
In today's MOM episode, I talk about how powerfully practicing gratitude can change your life. The crazy thing is, the circumstances in your life don't have to change, but if you change your perspective and practice gratitude, your experience of life will change dramatically!
06:17
July 15, 2019
Ep 328 Your perspective is EVERYTHING
In today's episode, Jay and I talk about some expenses that came up for us recently, and how he moved through from a place of lack and scarcity to a place of gratitude. Join us, as this might just help you too! Oh and here is the link to the commercial that he references in this episode!
26:27
July 12, 2019
Ep 327 Modeling contentment
In today's episode, we look at verse 8 of The Parents Tao te Ching. Are you modeling contentment for your children?
05:04
July 11, 2019
Ep 326 THIS is the example of being a good sports parent!
Coco Gauff just had a remarkable run for a 15 year old at Wimbledon. Today, I share an article written about her parents, and I find it so inspiring for how we should all treat our young athletes. Here is the link to the article if you'd like to read it too!
06:04
July 10, 2019
Ep 325 A nifty tip for work-from-home moms!
In today's episode, I share with you a helpful idea I came up with for being able to work in the summer while all the kids are home. I hope this helps you too!
07:46
July 9, 2019
Ep 324 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) Making mindful choices
In today's episode, I share an experience we had last week and how I initially struggled through it, but then found a way to structure it so that I did not get drained in the process. Living mindfully is such an important and helpful way to live. Join me!
10:56
July 8, 2019
Ep 323 When life gets full
In this throwback episode to episode 13 of Maximizing Life in the Middle that Jay and I recorded, we talk about the first week back to school and how it flew by and how it went in our family. Sometimes, life goes faster than we can keep up and sometimes it goes slower. That is part of why I am fascinated by time. Join us!
34:42
July 6, 2019
Ep 322 Can you be present for all, whether it is your child or someone else's?
Happy July 4th to all of my American listeners! Today, I discussed Verse 7 of The Parents Tao te Ching. Its message REALLY applies to youth sports and other things of that nature. I invite you to join me!
12:00
July 4, 2019
Ep 321 I don't know what I'm doing any more than you do
This episode was inspired by a conversation I had with a friend when she was struggling with her teenage son. I hope this inspires you if you find yourself in a similar situation. Join me!
08:47
July 3, 2019
Ep 320 Celebrating the differences between moms and dads
In today's episode, I share a conversation I had this weekend and how it got me to thinking about how moms and dads are different and how we can embrace those differences to benefit everyone. Join me!
08:46
July 2, 2019
Ep 319 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) How's your transition to summer going?
In today's episode, I touch base to see how your transition to summer is going with your children. Join me!
05:09
July 1, 2019
Ep 318 Does it benefit us to be attached to material possessions?
In this throwback to episode 12 of Maximizing Life in the Middle, we share our thoughts Hurricane Harvey, and talk about the positive reminders we can take away from this devastating event. We talk about how Dr. Shefali shows us that Hurricane Harvey offers us a reminder of how important it is to reduce our attachment to material possessions, because they can all be gone in a moment. 
37:37
June 28, 2019
Ep 317 Should we relax our "grip" on our children?
In today's episode, I review verse 6 of The Parents' Tao te Ching. May this offer you a new perspective! 
08:44
June 27, 2019
Ep 316 How should our children handle a peer who is being unkind?
In today's episode, I share a story about my daughter and how she processed how or whether to respond to a peer who was being kind and what the outcome was. I hope this helps you in your home. Join me! 
12:54
June 26, 2019
Ep 315 If something special breaks, is it the end of the world?
In today's episode, I share a story of when a special collection of my children's artwork dropped and broke and how I worked through the experience. I hope this gives you some value in your own life! 
14:20
June 25, 2019
Ep 314 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) Making a smooth transition into summer
Today marks the first week of summer break for my kids, and my friend helped me to remember how important it is to set an intention with our kids when we are transitioning. It is important to talk about expectations, desires as well as limits and boundaries. I hope this one gives you some great value as you head into this wonderful season!
06:04
June 24, 2019
Ep 313 Changing identities and how that impacts us
In this Throwback episode to our 11th episode of Maximizing Life in the Middle, Jay and I talk about his decision to transition from comic book artist to comic book writer and what a surprising challenge that has been for him. But in this transition, he learned a lot about the importance of not attaching too much to our identities, as that can impede our growth. Join us!
25:15
June 21, 2019
Ep 312 Seeing to the heart of your child
In today's episode, we discuss verse 5 of The Parents Tao te Ching. This may be my all-time favorite verse in this wonderful book as it is another way to explain the iceberg that I always talk about. Join me!
05:46
June 20, 2019
Ep 311 An idea to help your serious child lighten up a little and have fun
This weekend was my daughter's 8th grade dance, which is a huge deal in our schools. She was quite nervous leading up to it, but I gave her an idea that helped her to tremendously enjoy herself, which was a surprise to both of us. Join me if you have a serious kiddo at home! 
07:46
June 19, 2019
Ep 310 Must-have tip for teaching your teen to parallel park!
Today's episode was inspired by taking my son out yesterday to practice parallel parking in preparation for his upcoming driver's test. He was struggling to get the feel of the car just right, and I happened upon this little nugget to help him. Once I did, he parked perfectly within 4-5 inches every time. If your child is getting ready to take their driver's test, you don't want to miss this episode! 
06:20
June 18, 2019
Ep 309 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) A meditation for those with anxiety
In today's episode, I share a beautiful meditation from Corinne Zupko's book, From Anxiety to Love. This will help anyone suffering with anxiety, so if that is you or your child or partner, join me!
05:40
June 17, 2019
Ep 308 It may be hard for a man to ask for help, but it's much easier for a man to offer help
This episode just may be my favorite episode of all time. Jay and I sat down to discuss the suicide of a dear friend of his. During our discussion, he happened upon an idea that I think could pretty much change the world for men and change the course of our history. I know that sounds hyperbolic, but please join us to hear more and see what kind of value you can get out of his profoundly simple yet powerful idea.  This episode is dedicated to the amazingly talented Eric Zaun, gone far too soon. Fly free, Eric. 
34:53
June 14, 2019
Ep 307 What is our deepest responsibility to our children?
In this episode, I share with you verse 4 from the Parents Tao te Ching. This is one of my favorite verses and it offers us the highest and deepest goal we can aspire to as parents. Join me!
14:50
June 13, 2019
Ep 306 Your reputation can hurt or help you
In this episode, I share a valuable learning experience that my daughter had recently in school and how her reputation helped her, but she didn't see it at the time. I hope this inspires you in your home. Join me! 
10:47
June 12, 2019
Ep 305 Communication is a vital part of a healthy relationship
Communication is so vital to a healthy relationship, but sometimes when we are busy it can be so hard to keep that at the top of our list. However, when we are busy, it is even more important to have good, solid, clear communication. I made a mistake with my teenager this week and I wanted to share it with you in the hopes that it helps you in your home. Join me!
12:33
June 11, 2019
Ep 304 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) Filling your own bucket
In today's episode, I talk about the importance of filling your own bucket. You may have heard the quote that you can't pour from an empty cup? You can't show up as the parent you want to be when you are drained and depleted. Take some time with me today to fill your own bucket!
07:06
June 10, 2019
Ep 303 Mile Markers on the journey called life
In this throwback to episode 10 of Maximizing Life in the Middle, we talk about our annual camping trip that now includes over 35 people most years and how it has changed in the 20+ years we have been doing it. This has been a great opportunity to watch marriages flourish (or perish), watch children grow and see how lives weave together but uniquely on their own journey.
39:08
June 7, 2019
Ep 302 Happiness is contagious
In today's episode, I read verse 3 from The Parents Tao Te Ching, where it talks about true happiness and how we can teach and model that for our children. Join me! 
08:17
June 6, 2019
Ep 301 Learning the moves of the Intricate Boundary Dance with our children
This episode was inspired by a conversation I had with a new client about how to connect with her child while also not "allowing" their less-than-desirable behavior. This can be one of the most difficult things to do as a parent and also one of the most important. Join me to learn more! And if you want to check out our course, The Chaos Cure, click here! 
10:15
June 5, 2019
Ep 300 Why self-care is absolutely vital as a mom
My dear friend Louise joined me for today's episode. She and I spoke at the Rise Gatherings retreat this weekend, and before I took her to the airport to fly home to Canada this morning, we recorded this episode based on a HUGE message that we got from and observed this weekend. Join us - it is a very important episode for moms. 
27:41
June 4, 2019
Ep 299 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) A few minutes of peace for you
I don't know about you, but May and the end of the school year seem to dramatically increase the demands on our time. It can make us feel stressed! Today, I want to offer you a short respite from the hectic pace of it all. Join me! 
06:16
June 3, 2019
Ep 298 (Throwback) Maximize your life by decluttering!
In this throwback episode to Maximizing Life in the Middle episode 9, we continue our talk about decluttering, but this time we are not talking about decluttering our physical space. Rather, we talk about decluttering our mind, our time and our lives overall. We asked an important question - how do you determine what is a priority in your life and then how do you go about prioritizing it? 
41:24
May 31, 2019
Ep 297 Be careful with labels...
In this episode, I read verse 2 from The Parents Tao Te Ching, where it talks about how we must be careful with labeling things and people and how that can have unintended consequences. Join me! 
12:08
May 30, 2019
Ep 296 What does your child REALLY need most from you?
In this episode, I share some thoughts on what our children really need from us and sadly, it's often different from what parents actually give to their children. Join me!
05:43
May 29, 2019
Ep 295 Manifesting the career of your dreams with Dr. Shefali
This is a special episode for me as I chat with my dear friend, Dr. Shefali about her new Conscious Coaching School. This is so exciting because I have been "bugging" her to create this school for about six years. And I love that she didn't do it until SHE was READY. I love how she lives her teachings every day. Join us!  For more info on her coaching school, click here.
18:00
May 28, 2019
Ep 294 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) The power of the pause to build connection with your teen
In today's episode, I continue the discussion from last week about helping our children to build resilience, independence and self-confidence. In order for us to become our teen's Trusted Advisor, we must build trust with them and that cannot be done when we are constantly overreacting to what they do or say. In this episode, I share with you what you can do instead. Join me! 
10:18
May 27, 2019
Ep 293 (Throwback) The amazing benefits of decluttering!
Today's episode is a throwback to episode 8 that Jay and I did in the Maximizing Life in the Middle podcast. In this episode, we talk about the process of decluttering and all of its benefits to living a higher quality life. When we have excessive "things" in our homes, it not only robs us of space, but it robs us of time as we now have to dedicate time to dealing with all of the "stuff." We talk about how to accomplish keeping an organized and decluttered house with children. Is it possible? Stay tuned to hear what we think and then weigh in by emailing us!
32:49
May 24, 2019
Ep 292 Words of life - when to teach and when to allow
Today I am beginning a new series on the podcast where I will cover chapters in The Parents Tao te Ching: Ancient Wisdom for Modern Parents by William Martin. In this episode, I read verse 1 and discuss its meaning. Join me! 
06:41
May 23, 2019
Ep 291 Do you want your child to call you as an adult?
Today's episode is part 2 of episode 290 where I talked about an article looking at why Generation Z is so depressed and anxious. In today's episode, I share with you what YOU can do to prevent this. Join me! 
14:17
May 22, 2019
Ep 290 Are overprotective parents making kids depressed?
In this episode, I discuss an article I read called Why is Generation Z so Depressed: Overprotective Parents. I share my thoughts about why this might be true and I will cover what we can do about it in part 2, episode 291. Join me! 
12:41
May 21, 2019
Ep 289 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) Recharging after "Mental Gymnastics"
Do you ever feel like you are doing mental gymnastics all day with your children and all the other stimulation that comes along with life? Today's episode was inspired by a conversation I had with a mom a few days ago and how we can all recharge after doing "mental gymnastics" all day long. Join me! 
07:06
May 20, 2019
Ep 288 (Throwback) Surviving a crazy schedule
This episode is a throwback to episode 7 of Maximizing Life in the Middle that Jay and I recorded. We recorded this episode at the end of a particularly crazy week for all of us. In this episode, we process the week that we had, and how we navigated it. Sometimes things don’t always turn out the way we envision them, and how do we adjust to that on the fly? We talk about how important mindfulness is to successfully making it through challenging periods of time. We also discuss the “elephant” in the kid’s room – screen time. How do we balance screen time with time in the 3D world, and how do we help our kids balance that as well? Some of the summer-fun things I have done with my kids include games, bike rides, tennis, playing at the park, and watching Dude Perfect videos - my favorite you-tubers!
31:48
May 17, 2019
Ep 287 How do you react when your child brings home a bad grade?
This is such a common struggle for parents, and when we overreact to our child's poor grade, it helps no one, as it closes down the lines of communication between us, and doesn't help them to do a better job next time. Join me to find out how to navigate this situation in a much more productive way. 
15:31
May 16, 2019
Ep 286 Using the "Sacred NO" with your teen
How often do you say "No" to your teen? How does it work for you? In this episode, I explain how we can look at that word as sacred, especially with our teens, and how effective it is to minimize its use. Join me to get some useful nuggets! 
09:20
May 15, 2019
Ep 285 Making the transition from main organizer to advisor to our children with Deanne Barrett
On today's show, I talked with teen expert Deanne Barrett about how we can be leaders in our home with our growing children. She explains brilliantly how we can help our teens practice and strengthen their critical thinking skills, something they will need throughout adulthood. We also talk about asking good, productive questions of our teens without having a judgmental tone in our voices, which can be challenging! But we must if we want our children to come to us as trusted advisors. This episode is packed full of useful nuggets so whether you have teens at home or will someday, be sure to to tune in! You can find out more about Deanne at https://www.gratitudework.com/.
49:50
May 14, 2019
Ep 284 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) A bit of peace and a gentle nudge in this crazy month of May!
To follow up on last week's discussions of the craziness of the end of the school year, I wanted to offer you this little bit of wisdom today....
04:45
May 13, 2019
Ep 283 What is the "right" age to reduce the size of your child's birthday party invite list?
Today, Jay and I talk about our son's 12th birthday party last weekend with 13 of his closest friends, which got us to wondering when is the right age to begin pairing down that list? Join us to hear more! 
11:32
May 10, 2019
Ep 282 The relentlessness of modern parenting
I was inspired to record today's episode based on this article that I read yesterday. What are we doing to ourselves and our children, and what can we do to change it? Join me to hear more! 
14:01
May 9, 2019
Ep 281 Every child has a superpower with special guest Bolaji Oyejide
Today, Jay and I talked with a very special guest who is a dad and a writer who has created a series of books to inspire children who may feel different, or marginalized. His stories help children to realize that each and every one of us has something that makes us special and unique and we must celebrate it. I hope you find some good nuggets in here! You can check out Bolaji's wonderful books at http://bravernewworld.us/.
41:32
May 8, 2019
Ep 280 Surviving the craziness of May with school-aged children
This episode was inspired by a listener who wrote in talking about how crazy May can get and how to stay sane during this end-of-school-year month. Join me! 
11:11
May 7, 2019
Ep 279 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) The platform technique to combat anxiety
Today, I revisit the Platform Technique and talk particularly about how it can help to combat anxiety, either for you or for your child. Join me! If you are new to my podcast, welcome! If you have been listening for a while, thank you. It means the world to me. I would really appreciate if you'd hop over to iTunes and leave a review!  
18:21
May 6, 2019
Ep 278 (Throwback) Celebrating life together
This is a Throwback to episode 6 of Maximizing Life in the Middle that Jay and I did for a while. I hope you enjoy!  Maximizing Life in the Middle goes on the road! We recorded this episode on our drive to celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary in Cape May. We talked about the privilege of being together for 20 years and how we have made it work all these years. We talk about how you really pay homage to your loved one and whether it requires a greeting card :) We also cover the 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman and how helpful it is to keep them in mind when trying to show your loved one how you feel. And we remember my dear friend Kerri, who tragically died of breast cancer only a few short years after she married the love of her life. Life is precious – let’s appreciate it while we can.
18:34
May 3, 2019
Ep 277 What you should REALLY focus on as a parent
This episode was inspired by a video I saw from Jay Shetty about what we should really focus on as parents. Hint: often times, it's NOT what we tend to focus on. Join me! 
07:57
May 2, 2019
Ep 276 Can prayer be our go-to in tough times even if we are not religious?
This is a very special episode, and one I was very much looking forward to. I chatted with my good friend, Aaron Schiller, who shared his family's journey over the past few months through his wife's near-death experience with something that began as the flu. In this episode, Aaron and I talk about the lessons that he has learned thus far and he updates us on how his wife is doing now. We dove deep into the topic of prayer, which was not necessarily our plan. But the conversation turned on to it and it was too beautiful not to share. I hope you get something really valuable out of today's episode.  In the episode, Aaron mentions Love it Forward List, a wonderful organization that has been supporting Aaron's wife Megan with get-well letters from around the world. You can check them out on Instagram here.  Aaron also mentions the great work his wife has done through her work at The Art Pantry. 
55:45
May 1, 2019
Ep 275 What makes a great dad?
I dedicate today's episode to my dad, who was the greatest dad of all time, in my humble opinion. He would have turned 81 on the day I recorded this episode, and I thought it fitting to talk about what makes a dad great. He was a wonderful example of everything a dad should be. I hope you find inspiration and joy in this episode. Happy birthday in Heaven, Dad
14:39
April 30, 2019
Ep 274 How practicing mindfulness can turn into a living meditation
In this episode, I share how a regular mindfulness/meditation practice helps you to be mindful not only for five or twenty minutes while you are sitting in silence, but for your entire day. I hope this episode inspires you to make this a regular part of your life! 
08:58
April 29, 2019
Ep 273 Your perspective changes EVERYTHING!
Today's episode is a throwback to Episode 5 from Maximizing Life in the Middle, the podcast that my husband Jay and I did.  In episode 5, we talk about our son's freshman year of high school playing on the varsity volleyball team and helping him to see his frustrations with the season from a different angle so that he could see all the good that came out of it. We can apply this technique in all of our challenging or frustrating situations, even when dealing with a serious illness, loss or something similar. We also talked about a concept we heard about giving 100% of yourself to every interaction you have with another person for an entire day. Could you do it? Finally, we talk about being vigilant about not making negative or limiting statements. They are so subtle sometimes that we might not even recognize them when we say them.
25:48
April 26, 2019
Ep 272 Self-care and mindset are vital to parenting well!
In this episode, I illustrate through a tumultuous yesterday, how important self-care and mindset are. I hope you find some valuable nuggets in here! 
29:40
April 25, 2019
Ep 271 Nurturing persistence in our children even when it's not convenient
In today's episode, I share a story that happened with my daughter and how my husband came to my rescue to help nurture our daughter's persistence (a valuable life skill) when I did not want to. Join me! 
08:21
April 24, 2019
Ep 270 How do I spend time with my teens when they don't want to spend time with me?
Today's episode is an answer to a listener's question - shout-out to Loyal Listener Lucy! Lucy wanted to know how to spend time with her teenage girls when they are not interested in spending time with her. This one's for you, Lucy - and anyone else who wonders this same thing! 
10:46
April 23, 2019
Ep 269 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) The importance of practicing mindfulness
In today's episode, I talk about the importance of practicing mindfulness on a regular basis. The more we practice, the easier it gets! 
06:59
April 22, 2019
Ep 268 Why it's so hard to parent teens - from a dad's perspective, part 2
In this episode, Jay and I continue our discussion about why it's so hard to parent teens - from a dad's perspective. In this episode, we talk about the Boundary Dance and how it gets even trickier when our children become teens!
19:40
April 19, 2019
Ep 267 A very personal story about how a child's environment affects them
Today, I went back in time and shared a very personal story from my childhood. In talking with my mother-in-law last week, I came to a profound realization about a situation from my childhood and I think it will be really helpful for you. Take a listen and see what nuggets you might get out of this for your parenting or even understanding your child a little bit better. 
29:42
April 18, 2019
Ep 266 What can we learn from Tiger Woods' comeback?
I was inspired to talk about Tiger Woods' comeback after he won a Master's last weekend after 11 years. There are a lot of lessons here for us - join me! 
11:49
April 17, 2019
Ep 265 Fishing can be beneficial for reasons you might not have considered!
My son recently went fishing for the first time since he was a young boy and he LOVED it. It was remarkable to hear him articulate why he loved it so much, and I wanted to share it with you here in the hopes that it inspires you in some way with your teen!
07:06
April 16, 2019
Ep 264 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) An update on Analytical Meditation!
I tried Analytical Meditation this week and was AMAZED at the experience. In here, I share with you what it did for me in the hopes it inspires you to try it as well!
06:33
April 15, 2019
Ep 263 Why it's so hard to parent teens - from a dad's perspective, part 1
In today's episode, I asked Jay for his perspective on why it's so hard to parent teens as a dad. His answer took us on an entirely unexpected adventure and it was so rich that we decided to record part 2 for next Friday! Join us here for part 1!
27:01
April 12, 2019
Ep 262 Teaching our young teens to advocate for themselves
In this episode, I talk about the value of teaching our young teens to advocate for themselves and illustrate it with a story from my family. Join me! 
10:42
April 12, 2019
Ep 261 The Illusion of Pressure for Teens
In today's episode, I share a concept that I just recently learned about called The Illusion of Pressure and how it affects our teens and what we can do about it. Join me! 
11:38
April 10, 2019
Ep 260 Parenting teens is SO hard - and here's why!
If you have a teen at home, do you ever feel lost, confused and stressed? It didn't used to be this hard, did it? Odds are, it wasn't! And it's getting harder, but why? Tune in to today's episode to find out! 
13:59
April 9, 2019
Ep 259 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) Analytical Meditation
Today, I share a new form of meditation with you - one that helps you to directly solve problems. Intrigued? Join me to hear more!
08:41
April 8, 2019
Ep 258 The challenges and pitfalls of being your child's sports coach
In this episode, we talk about the potential pitfalls and traps of being a coach of your child's team and what you have to be careful to avoid as their coach. Join us! 
30:16
April 5, 2019
Ep 257 For all you single parents out there...
This episode is in honor of my best friend who is a single mom. We were talking this weekend at our girls' weekend about the very real challenges of being a single parent. I hope you find some useful nuggets in here to help you in your parenting whether you are single or not!
09:28
April 4, 2019
Ep 256 The unbelievable value and importance of sleep!
Recently, I have been helping my son improve his sleep hygiene, and even though I am a believer in the importance of sleep, even I am shocked at how much it is helping him! Join me to find out more about why you should help your children AND yourself get a better night's sleep!
09:27
April 3, 2019
Ep 255 Helping our kids manage the stress of Junior year of high school
In this episode, I share some of the journey my son has been on this year and how stressful it has been, even with us as parents trying not to pressure him! There is so much coming at him from the outside that it's almost too much. Here, I share how we are helping him to manage the onlsaught of junior year. If you've got a high schooler, you will likely find good value in this, and if you've got a younger child, it will help you for the future. Join me!
19:00
April 2, 2019
Ep 254 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) Self-care is of utmost importance for you!
Nothing is more important than self-care for being the kind of parent you want to be and the kind your children need. Join me to find out more! 
09:28
April 1, 2019
Ep 253 Juggling schedules in a busy household
This is a throwback to episode 4 of the podcast that Jay and I did for a while. In this, we talk about juggling schedules in a busy household. I'm thinking you can relate???? Join us to hear more! 
26:52
March 29, 2019
Ep 247 A special guest who will open your heart just a little bit more!
In today's episode I have my very good friend, Heidi Dellaire joining me. Heidi's book Roots and Tendrils will be released tomorrow. In this chat, we talk about her book and how it came to be. Join me for a delightful conversation! And if you'd like to purchase a copy of her book, you can do so here! 
23:16
March 28, 2019
Ep 252 What is your biggest fear as a parent?
In this episode, I talk all fear and how it negatively and subtly impacts our parenting. Join me! 
11:51
March 28, 2019
Ep 251 The many benefits of nature
With the arrival of spring, I thought it was the perfect time to revisit the many benefits of nature, and how you can bring some more of it into your life. Join me! 
11:06
March 27, 2019
Ep 250 An intro to Restorative Justice in Schools
Today I wanted to share a program with you that I learned about a while ago that I'm very excited about. It's called Restorative Justice and is being used with great success in schools all across the country. Tune in to learn more about it and see if it might be a good fit for YOUR school! 
14:49
March 26, 2019
Ep 249 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) The power of a 1-minute meditation
Today, I share with you a mindfulness study I am participating in and how powerful the effects have been so far. Maybe you'd even like to join me! 
07:16
March 25, 2019
Ep 248 Go for what you want in life!
In today's episode, I update you on my daughter's attempt to make the track team at her middle school for the first time as an 8th grader. This experience taught her a very valuable lesson about life. Join me to find out about it! 
05:19
March 22, 2019
Ep 246 A PSA about ticks and Lyme disease
With the weather getting warmer here in the US, I thought today was a great day to talk about ticks and Lyme disease and what you can do to be on the lookout for possible signs and symptoms. As with everything I do, my goal is not to instill fear and panic in you as a parent, but rather to educate and inform you so that you are equipped to NOT be fearful of this treatable condition. Join me! 
14:59
March 20, 2019
Ep 245 If you're even willing to try, you've already won
My daughter was really nervous last night about her next track tryout tomorrow and whether she will make the team. Through our discussion, I was able to help her to recognize that regardless of whether she makes the team, she's already won because she had the courage to try something new without being assured of the outcome. I hope this helps any listeners out there who's child may be nervous about an upcoming tryout or event where the outcome is not guaranteed! 
08:49
March 19, 2019
Ep 244 Mindfulness on Monday (MOM) This too shall pass
Today, I wanted to share a bit of advice my dear mother-in-law gave me and how helpful it is to remember. Join me! 
05:03
March 18, 2019
Ep 243 What we can learn from the college cheating scandal
In today's episode, Jay and I talk about the recent college cheating scandal that has involved many high-profile, wealthy and powerful individuals. We can learn a lot from looking at this story from many angles as well as take a word of caution from it all. Join us! 
31:40
March 15, 2019
Ep 242 How long after having a child does it take to get a good night's sleep again?
Do you have young children? Do you feel like you are just running on fumes and that good sleep is nothing but a distant memory? A recent study might help explain why. Tune in to today's episode to learn more and find out what you can do to get a good night's sleep!
06:17
March 14, 2019