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Growing "Give-N-Take" Kids: Power Traits for Life™

Growing "Give-N-Take" Kids: Power Traits for Life™

By Victoria & Mariaemma

Our mission - empower parents and educators to empower kids to give and receive respectfully:
•Find out how your child/student learns, works, and communicates
best.
•Deal with school issues and gain the confidence to reframe labels
such as ADD, learning disabled, slow, lazy, or “just average”.
•Strengthen communication among family/class members.
•Acknowledge and encourage the strengths and “power traits” of
each family/group member and their unique contributions to the
world.
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Growing "Give-N-Take" Kids: Power Traits for Life™Jul 30, 2019

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The Impact of Feelings & Needs in the Classroom
Jul 07, 202154:35
Talking in Class - It's Essential for Learning!
Apr 03, 202140:25
Solution-Focus vs Blame-Focus - What's the Difference?
Mar 07, 202107:47
Anxiety Free Testing!
Feb 28, 202109:39
The Magic of Focusing on Interests: Our #1 Motivators
Feb 22, 202111:10
Effects of Trauma on Learning & Behavior
Feb 14, 202137:48
What Has COVID Taught Our Kids and What Are Our Kids Teaching Adults Part 2 - The Adults
Feb 06, 202132:30
What Has COVID Taught Our Kids and What Are Our Kids Teaching Adults Part 1 - The Kids
Feb 03, 202130:05
F.I.T.T. Series Episode 4: Track Successes
Sep 22, 202023:20
F.I.T.T. Series Episode 3: Take the Pressure Off
Sep 18, 202018:37
Back to School - Small Environment Changes That Make a Big Difference!
Sep 01, 202015:27
F.I.T.T. Series Episode 2: Identify Goals
Aug 16, 202024:11
F.I.T.T. Series Episode 1: Focus on Solutions
Aug 11, 202024:45
Game Curriculum Part 2
Jul 17, 202039:12
The Game Curriculum Part 1
Jul 14, 202027:12
Self-Care for Parents & Teachers
Jun 22, 202019:43
What About Summer School?
Jun 15, 202021:01
Schooling & Learning - What's the Difference?
May 24, 202018:48
Identifying Feelings & Needs - What's the Big Deal?
May 17, 202024:13
School At Home Made Easier: Be F.I.T.T.T.!
May 07, 202020:18
School at Home Made Easier: Different Learners, Different Needs.
May 01, 202026:10
Forced Homeschooling: The Importance of the Emotional Factor During the Corona Virus Lockdown

Forced Homeschooling: The Importance of the Emotional Factor During the Corona Virus Lockdown

Mariaemma interviews Edie Lanphar - teacher, educational therapist, and now director of curriculum & instruction at her current school. Edie shares the importance of taking into account the emotional factor affecting our children during this difficult time: how to focus on their strengths in the learning situation, as well as on their feelings and needs — not only for learning but for their overall health and emotional well-being. 

For more information or questions: email m@learningsuccesscoach.com, call 805-648-1739 or visit powertraitsforlife.com

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Apr 08, 202027:08
Forced Home Schooling: How to relax and even enjoy it!

Forced Home Schooling: How to relax and even enjoy it!

Because of the Coronavirus, many families are now in the third week of schooling at home. In this episode Mariaemma interviews educator Dawn Jackson, who is also the new owner/director of Solimar Academy, which was founded more than a decade ago by the LearningSuccess™ Institute. Dawn shares her expertise and passion for teaching and learning, with great tips for parents on how to relax, let go of fears, and enjoy the adventure!

For more information or questions: email dawn@solimaracademy.com or m@learningsuccesscoach.com or visit: solimaracademy.com, powertraitsforlife.com

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Mar 31, 202034:11
Opportunities versus "Mistakes"

Opportunities versus "Mistakes"

In order to be successful at anything, including learning, you have to be willing to make mistakes. The more we can see "mistakes" as opportunities and incorporate this concept into our everyday family life, the better it will be for our kids. We need to make it "safe" for them to make mistakes. If children don't feel emotionally safe to explore, try, and take risks in their learning, their potentials will not be realized. If parents and teachers point out what students are doing "right" and if "mistakes" are treated as learning opportunities rather than "problems," our kids will get the idea!

For more information or questions email us:  info@learningsuccesscoach.com or visit aselfportraitonline.com,   powertraitsforlife.com, solimaracademy.com

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Mar 15, 202007:51
Relieving Homework Stress

Relieving Homework Stress

Most kids dislike homework. They've been in school all day and now they are home and have to do more of the same. If it were up to us there would be little or no homework. However, since many students get homework here are a few learning style tips that could help relieve some of the stress - for kids and parents!

For more information or questions email us:  info@learningsuccesscoach.com or visit aselfportraitonline.com,   powertraitsforlife.com, solimaracademy.com

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Mar 11, 202011:54
For Homeschoolers: Strenghts-Based Learning in the Home Part #2

For Homeschoolers: Strenghts-Based Learning in the Home Part #2

Today's guest, Marianne Sunderland, is the mother of 7 children who have reading and learning difficulties when it comes to traditional schooling, and one child who is like her mom and thrives with traditional school work. Her website HomeschoolingwithDyslexia.com offers resources and encouragement to parents who homeschool "outside the box" learners. Do you lack confidence in your homeschool program? Do you have lots of materials and curriculum that sit on a shelf because they just don't work for your kids? Are you afraid that you are not doing the right things or that your child is missing out on important learning that might take place in the traditional school setting? In this 2-part series Marianne and Mariaemma discuss the benefits of creating a strengths-based learning program that allows your child to focus on his/her interests, talents, and passions, and meets learning needs specific to his/her Dispositions, Modalities, and Environment. With this approach confidence is instilled in both student and teacher (you), because it allows all students to thrive and develop to their fullest potentials, as they discover and apply their strengths in daily learning as well as goal-setting and career exploration.

For more information about Marianne go to https://homeschoolingwithdyslexia.com

To get the Self-Portrait™ Power Traits Assessment for your family use this link for $5.00 off each assessment: http://www.aselfportraitonline.net/store/default.asp?promo=LSAbunLife

For more information about Mariaemma and LearningSuccess™ Institute go to powertraitsforlife.com, solimaracademy.com, learningsuccessinstitute.com

copyright 2020 Reflective Educational Perspectives LLC

Feb 09, 202035:50
For Homeschoolers: Strengths-Based Learning in the Home Part #1

For Homeschoolers: Strengths-Based Learning in the Home Part #1

Today's guest, Marianne Sunderland, is the mother of 7 children who have reading and learning difficulties when it comes to traditional schooling, and one child who is like her mom and thrives with traditional school work. Her website HomeschoolingwithDyslexia.com offers resources and encouragement to parents who homeschool "outside the box" learners. Do you lack confidence in your homeschool program? Do you have lots of materials and curriculum that sit on a shelf because they just don't work for your kids? Are you afraid that you are not doing the right things or that your child is missing out on important learning that might take place in the traditional school setting? In this 2-part series Marianne and Mariaemma discuss the benefits of creating a strengths-based learning program that allows your child to focus on his/her interests, talents, and passions, and meets learning needs specific to his/her Dispositions, Modalities, and Environment. With this approach confidence is instilled in both student and teacher (you), because it allows all students to thrive and develop to their fullest potentials, as they discover and apply their strengths in daily learning as well as goal-setting and career exploration. 

For more information about Marianne go to https://homeschoolingwithdyslexia.com

To get the Self-Portrait™ Power Traits Assessment for your family use this link for $5.00 off each assessment: http://www.aselfportraitonline.net/store/default.asp?promo=LSAbunLife

For more information about Mariaemma and LearningSuccess™ Institute go to powertraitsforlife.com, solimaracademy.com, learningsuccessinstitute.com

copyright 2020 Reflective Educational Perspectives LLC

Feb 02, 202025:43
Literacy: The Reading/Writing Connection & Where It All Begins

Literacy: The Reading/Writing Connection & Where It All Begins

Mariaemma is joined by special guests Edie Lanphar and Dr. Phil Fitzsimmons to discuss Literacy and the Reading-Writing Connection. Literacy begins at birth and the foundations for learning to read and write begin in the home. What happens next in classrooms is also crucial!

For more information or questions email us: info@learningsuccesscoach.com or visit aselfportraitonline.com,  powertraitsforlife.com, solimaracademy.com

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Jan 20, 202043:56
The Brain & Learning Part 3

The Brain & Learning Part 3

Mariaemma is joined by special guests Dr. Phil Fitzsimmons and Edie Lanphar to discuss the Conditions for Learning.  For more information or questions email us: info@learningsuccesscoach.com or visit aselfportraitonline.com, powertraitsforlife.com, solimaracademy.com

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Jan 12, 202041:52
The Brain & Learning Part 2

The Brain & Learning Part 2

In this episode Edie Lanphar and Mariaemma discuss the Neuroscience of Learning. When students are upset—frustrated, angry, sad, discouraged—a stress response occurs that tells the adrenals to release chemicals that affect the emotional regulation center of the brain. The brain then prepares to fight, flee, freeze, or fawn and the "thinking brain" basically goes off-line. Edie explains how this happens and how parents and teachers can model strategies for balancing the emotions, and get the thinking brain back online so that real learning can take place.

For more information or questions email us:   info@learningsuccesscoach.com or visit  aselfportraitonline.com,  powertraitsforlife.com, solimaracademy.com

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Jan 05, 202036:34
The Brain & Learning Part 1

The Brain & Learning Part 1

Edie Lanphar is back with Mariaemma to discuss the connection between learning strengths and social-emotional learning. Knowing how to identify feelings, interests, values, and strengths leads to self-confidence, one of the key ingredients for successful learning AND life experiences. Teaching students how to regulate their emotions is also an important ingredient in the equation that leads to effective learning practices . Edie shares how crucial it is for parents and teachers to understand the important role emotions have—to either facilitate or hinder learning.

For more information or questions email us:   info@learningsuccesscoach.com or visit  aselfportraitonline.com,  powertraitsforlife.com, solimaracademy.com

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Dec 29, 201931:33
The Curious Disposition

The Curious Disposition

Do you know someone who is always asking questions, wants to know how and why things work, likes to tinker, takes things apart and sometimes doesn't put them back together, loves to experiment and discover, loses track of time when focused on a project? In this episode Mariaemma describes the Curious Disposition characteristics,  including learning needs, career ideas, and what they contribute to the  family or group.

For more information or questions email us:  info@learningsuccesscoach.com or visit  aselfportraitonline.com, powertraitsforlife.com, solimaracademy.com

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Dec 22, 201912:08
The Spontaneous Disposition

The Spontaneous Disposition

Do you know anyone who needs to move, move, move? Someone who isn't into planning so much, can do things on the spur of the moment, thrives with adventure, or maybe is a natural "entertainer?" In this episode Mariaemma describes the Spontaneous Disposition characteristics, including learning needs, career ideas, and what they contribute to the family or group.

For more information or questions email us:  info@learningsuccesscoach.com or visit  aselfportraitonline.com, powertraitsforlife.com, solimaracademy.com

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Dec 18, 201914:49
I Wish My Child's Teacher Knew...

I Wish My Child's Teacher Knew...

In this episode Mariaemma discusses how powerful it can be when teachers know what their students and their students' parents wish they knew!

For more information or questions email us at  info@learningsuccesscoach.com or visit  powertraitsforlife.com, reflectiveed.com, solimaracademy.com

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Dec 09, 201907:16
Celebrations & Gratitudes

Celebrations & Gratitudes

In this episode Mariaemma discusses ways to honor and celebrate your children, your students, and any special people in your life. For questions, email Mariaemma - m@learningsuccesscoach.com

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Dec 01, 201907:12
Turnaround Stories 7: From a Classroom Teacher & Principal

Turnaround Stories 7: From a Classroom Teacher & Principal

Today we have a guest sharing turnaround stories from traditional classrooms. Edie Lanphar brings years of education and experience as a classroom teacher and principal. In this episode she talks about the importance of providing emotional safety in any learning situation, and the value of teachers understanding the role of social-emotional learning and its effects on the brain's ability to learn. She gives examples of how students respond when these concepts are in place and the focus is on learning strengths!

For more information or questions email us at  info@learningsuccesscoach.com or visit  aselfportraitonline.com, powertraitsforlife.com, reflectiveed.com

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Nov 25, 201938:38
How to Teach Kids to Read - What Does Dyslexia Really Mean?

How to Teach Kids to Read - What Does Dyslexia Really Mean?

There are so many misconceptions about learning to read. The very first misconception is that all kids need to begin early - as early as 3 or 4 years old! This is the very thing that causes problems for so many students and often results in eventually labeling a child dyslexic. Some students are just not developmentally ready that young and need to wait until they are 8 or 9 years old to BEGIN to learn to read! These students are usually Picture or Hands-On type learners who need specific step-by-step instruction and practice with Orton-Gillingham type methods. In other words, the majority of students won't learn with the standard, uncorrelated  "reader/spelling workbook/phonics worksheet"  curriculum. In this episode Mariaemma discusses all this and more about how to make reading successful for all students.

For more information or questions email us at   info@learningsuccesscoach.com or visit  aselfportraitonline.com,    powertraitsforlife.com, reflectiveed.com

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Nov 17, 201921:46
Learning Disabilities or Learning Strengths? Episode 3

Learning Disabilities or Learning Strengths? Episode 3

 What comes to mind when you hear, "Learning doesn't have to hurt?" In this episode you will hear the story of a student who was encouraged to use her Verbal Modality strength when taking a test she didn't think she could pass. She got a B!

For more information or questions email us at  info@learningsuccesscoach.com or visit  aselfportraitonline.com,   powertraitsforlife.com, reflectiveed.com


Nov 10, 201905:59
Learning Disabilities or Learning Strengths? Episode 2

Learning Disabilities or Learning Strengths? Episode 2

Magic happens when students are looked at through the lens of different learning needs, instead of being given a learning disability label. The possibilities for students are endless when educators choose to focus on strengths: EVERYTHING changes and EVERY child thrives!

For more information or questions email us at  info@learningsuccesscoach.com or visit aselfportraitonline.com,  powertraitsforlife.com, reflectiveed.com

Nov 03, 201906:28
Learning Disabilities or Learning Strengths? Episode 1

Learning Disabilities or Learning Strengths? Episode 1

What is a learning disability? What is a learning strength? Are learning "disabilities" really hidden learning strengths? Why is it important to focus on strengths in the learning situation? Find out in this episode!

For more information or questions email us at  info@learningsuccesscoach.com or visit aselfportraitonline.com,  powertraitsforlife.com, reflectiveed.com

Oct 18, 201924:35
Turnaround Stories 6: Downshift or Uplift?

Turnaround Stories 6: Downshift or Uplift?

We have done several Turnaround Story episodes and they have all been about positive turnarounds. But there is another kind of turnaround that is not so positive - it is what we call the downshift turnaround. To illustrate, Victoria and Mariaemma share two poems - The Little Boy and Animal School. And then they share examples of uplifting turnarounds.

Oct 06, 201924:34
Turnaround Stories 5: Where Are They Now?

Turnaround Stories 5: Where Are They Now?

In this episode Victoria and Mariaemma share stories of families who decided to homeschool because their children were sinking in traditional school. As soon as their learning needs were met they began thriving. It's been several years now since these students graduated from high school - find out what amazing things they are doing now!

Sep 29, 201923:10
Turnaround Stories 4: Multiple Turnarounds!

Turnaround Stories 4: Multiple Turnarounds!

In this episode Victoria and Mariaemma tell several stories of students who struggled with reading, math, and writing - some to the point of tears. What's the secret to their magnificent turnarounds? Find out!

For more information or questions email us at info@learningsuccesscoach.com or visit aselfportraitonline.com, powertraitsforlife.com, reflectiveed.com

Sep 22, 201914:11
Turnaround Stories 3: Math Facts Lead to Planning for the Future

Turnaround Stories 3: Math Facts Lead to Planning for the Future

In this episode Victoria tells the story of a 4th grader who was having trouble memorizing the multiplication tables. She looked to his learning styles for clues to the best strategies to meet his learning needs. Find out how he went from being discouraged to tracking his own progress with enthusiasm! And then, something unexpected happened- tune in to find out what!

For more information or questions email us at  info@learningsuccesscoach.com or visit aselfportraitonline.com,  powertraitsforlife.com, reflectiveed.com

Sep 20, 201918:41
Turnaround Stories 2: REAL Hands-On Learning with a Surprise Ingredient!

Turnaround Stories 2: REAL Hands-On Learning with a Surprise Ingredient!

No matter what age the student is, the best, most authentic, long-term learning takes place when the student is allowed to experiment, make mistakes, and discover principles, concepts, and processes on his/her own. Find out what happens when a four-year-old is given a jar, a spoon, a funnel, and some millet! For more information or questions email us at info@learningsuccesscoach.com

Sep 08, 201917:39
Turnaround Stories 1: A Thinker in a Family of Athletes

Turnaround Stories 1: A Thinker in a Family of Athletes

Greg was having difficulties at school and also didn't seem to fit in with his family. All of them were athletic, energetic, and noisy! Except for Greg. No one could understand why he didn’t want to go to game after game, why he became upset and edgy and crabby. Once they understood that he needed quiet, reflective time, time to just be alone with his thoughts, time to invent and create, a few simple changes were made. And then the magic started to happen! For more information or questions email us at info@learningsuccesscoach.com or visit aselfportraitonline.com, powertraitsforlife.com, reflectiveed.com

Sep 01, 201918:14
C.A.R.E.S. Series Episode 6: Switch On Confidence
Aug 25, 201911:18
C.A.R.E.S. Series Episode 5: Expand Your View of What Motivates Your Child or Student
Aug 18, 201914:52
C.A.R.E.S. Series Episode 4: Respond Rather Than React
Aug 11, 201916:12
C.A.R.E.S. Series Episode 3: Accept Your Role as Your Child's or Student's Coach
Aug 07, 201912:43