Your host, KaZ Cruse Akers, and her podcast have been called “sassy, irreverent, observant, blunt, bold, proud, real, funny, honest, accessible, unapologetic”
Short and to the point.
Through prose, poetry and short stories KaZ addresses aging and ageism.
KaZ is a professional writer & certified meditation master. She spent 35 years professionally in entertainment and often supported her entertainment habit by working with animals.
I love information. Maybe I am a purveyor of information. But I don’t just blindly believe anything and everything people tell me. Even “experts”. I do my research and what works for me, works for me. It may not work for you. You need to find that out for yourself. Don’t trust what everyone tells you. That can be trouble. Not everything is what you are told it is. Do your due diligence. Research. Ask questions. If it sounds too good to be true, yes, it is. Labels that say “natural“, “approved“ or “pure“ don’t mean a thing. Nothing is going to cure what ails you “in record time“, “before you know it“, or “Faster than anything on the market“. When you see those labels – RUN!
I’m sure for some people that social media has its place. Personally, I think social media like Facebook, Instagram, & Twitter have a monopoly. And they’re watching you. An article just came out about Facebook and Instagram monitoring you even when you’re not on the platform. That’s scary to me. We are moving farther and farther away from face-to-face encounters. Or at the very least a call, a text, or a video chat. We’ve replaced social media for any meaningful interactions. I get it if you’re a shut in, ill, not very mobile or don’t really know many people. I’ve met a couple of lovely people on social media and we’ve become friends. But out of the thousands and thousands others I encountered when I was on social media, nothing of real substance. Or people who were or had been real friends became only social media friends. They were too busy to communicate in any other way. And the communication was often just a thumbs up, like, quick, short comment, or a happy birthday after they had been reminded by the app. It feels just too insidious for me. We are being watched all the time in so many ways. Through our big screen TV or Alexa or even our cell phone. There’s very little privacy and there’s very little one-on-one interactions. It’s incredibly addictive and people have told me again and again they just can’t live without it. No, you can’t live without air, food, or shelter. You can live without social media. At the very least you can live without being on social media hours and hours every day announcing every single facet of life. I’m a big fan of Cal Newport, who has never been on social media. You can find him online – his website, blog and his TEDTalks. He’s brilliant, well-adjusted and has no problem in his relationships, work or avocations. Hey, if Stephen King has decided that Facebook is not for him it’s time to sit up and take notice.
KaZ examines logical and illogical ways we live our lives as we age. From keeping the gas tank in our cars half full , and our cell phones charged, to letting go of eating crap, hoarding stuff, living our lives through our children and not getting enough sleep. It’s blunt, to the point, and oh so right on target.
Is happiness “just an illusion”? Let’s look at “Don’t worry, be content” instead of “don’t worry be happy”. Happiness is a constart swinging pendulum. Contentment may be what we need to address. Pretending to be happy isn’t happiness. Pretending to be perfect is anything but. Release the pressure you put on yourself or on others to be perfect. Contentment and peace are less manic. Does happiness exist or is it really contentment we all desperately need? Too much is too much or anything, even “happiness”.
Because of what has been going on in politics for a while it’s very important to be a critical, independent thinker. To think for yourself. To form your own ideals, ideas and opinions. Arguments because people don’t agree on politics are futile and a waste of time. I don’t believe everything I hear or read from anywhere. Neither should you. Hearsay, rumors, gossip, propaganda are all just that. None of it is based in fact. Zero. You have to look at the empirical evidence. Being a critical, independent thinker is healthy. It helps us age better and release less cortisol: that fight or flight hormone. There’s a lot of that swirling around these days. Cortisol makes radical changes in our bodies. Those radical changes aren’t always good. It’s good when we’re trying to escape an oncoming car or a bear in the woods. But in the long run on a day-to-day or hour by hour basis it’s not Pro – aging. We all have our biases. Formed from years of interactions, experiences and, well, life. Information and facts are power! Unless a situation is so egregious is there really a need to engage? Is defending our “opinion“ worth the arguments, attacks, and verbal or physical violence? I don’t think so. Scratch that, I know it’s not. I believe. In agree to disagree, dialogue, plus not everyone has to see eye-to-eye. That’s what makes life so interesting. But how we handle that is an entirely different matter.
Sometimes I think ignorance is bliss. We are bombarded with information 24 7! When is too much information, too much information? And what’s wrong with I don’t know? Either not wanting to know, not really knowing or being able to say “I don’t know”. Ya know?! I guess I don’t know feels too vulnerable and some people think It makes us look ignorant. But faking it till you make it, to me, is not preferential to saying I don’t know. Or I don’t know, but I’ll find out. There are many days that I don’t know and I don’t want to know and that feels just fine to me.
My life has the interesting (mis)fortune to have revolved around several cockroach incidences. Yes, the creatures that Mother Nature can’t kill. Here are three funny and ironic stories from my pro-aging past that help me have a better understanding of positive aging. Yea, cockroaches, who would have thought?? Not me!
We’ve all been there, unless we fly first class. Seats getting closer together. Having a passenger recline their seat into your face. Liquid spilled on us. Grumpy flight attendants. My question is: if we want to recline our seat do we ask the person behind us? Do we just tell them we are reclining or do we go ahead and do it? Is polite passé on a plane? Have we becoming herded sheep getting on and off the “friendly” skies? I’ve had terrific experience on planes: Aloha Hawaiian and thank you, Alaska. AND some horrific experiences: I’m looking at you American! Here’s my take on the foibles of flying.
We are in an age of anything goes. That can be a good thing or not a good thing. Invariably, when we speak we strike a chord or a nerve with others. A chord is more comfortable and striking a nerve makes us uncomfortable, we get angry and we are triggered. Violent communication is not just hurling profanities. It’s also the words we choose to speak to others and speak to ourselves. Accusatory words, and in the age of social media responding to someone with argumentative or controversial intent. That’s going nowhere fast. It’s not dialogue, it’s not agree to disagree, it’s not discourse. It’s just speaking to hear ourselves and our opinion. Do people resort to violent communication to make sure they are not seen as lesser than the person they are engaging with in violent communication wordplay? I don’t have the answer to that BUT it’s up to all of us to discover what non-violent communication means, what non-violent communication does for us, and how it contributes to the world of conversation.
Balance is not generic. It is on a case by case, person by person basis. Being out of balance is sometimes a good thing. It is part of life and a part of appreciating being life. Complete balance does not exist and being out of balance is not always a negative. Even those we look up to and teach us have imbalances. Imbalances make us who we are. How we handle imbalances is a key to life. What may be balance for me may not be balance for you. Don’t judge yourself for what others tell you needs to be YOUR balanced life.
I’ve decided to take my passion for PRO-aging to the next level. What does that mean? Being as real, open, honest and transparent as possible. That also means being vocal, informative, and establishing a dialogue. Fearlessly addressing aging and what it means to age today. Things are getting more real in here. You may agree or disagree and that’s just fine. I’m going to cover some controversial topics,too! We aren’t fighting aging here. It’s not a disease, curse or battle. It’s a gift to get to age. Take it or leave it PROAGE RAMPAGE is jumping into the deep end of healthy aging for every generation. Focusing on those 50 and over, because we need all the help we can get, BUT not ignoring that everyone is aging every single moment of every single day. Thanks for listening. https://www.kazakers.com
Pro-aging is saying yes to positive aging. Living Out Loud is the best thing we can do for ourselves as we move forward in life. Be willing to express yourself, and show who you are. Be unafraid and proud of where you’ve been, where you are, and where you’re going. Especially for anyone who has been marginalized. Your host, Kaz Cruse Akers-a professional writer-talks about pro–aging through prose, poetry and short stories.
Bodily functions are perfectly normal. Here I discuss teaching in juvenile justice and how bodily functions in class, after my students had dinner, made for a very interesting classes. In the film Shrek, Shrek would say “better out than in“. Sometimes it is better to let out what you’re holding in. For your physical and mental health. It’s all in how you do it. Sometimes it’s healthy and sometimes it is a physical or mental challenge. We just have to determine what is the healthy way to let things out.
There is almost nothing more wonderful than a family dog. They are loyal companions. They love us unconditionally. But, an untrained dog, even with the most basic of commands can be a challenge for your family, your community and your dog. Untrained dogs become the alphas. They run your family and household. They can also be dangerous. An untrained dog is known to bite and be aggressive. Or to be skittish and afraid. Training your dog with the basic commands of: sit, down, stay, off, leave it changes everything. Allowing your dog to be free to run around the neighborhood is dangerous. It can also get you into legal trouble. You don’t want your dog to end up at the pound or worse put to sleep. You don’t want to end up with fines. As a former veterinary technician who has worked with a myriad of animals domesticated, feral and wild, too many times I’ve seen what an untrained dog can do. Training your dog is loving your dog, your family and your community. Thanks so much for listening. https://www.kazakers.com
The title might not sound like it but this is an end of life story. The story of a mother suffering from Alzheimer’s and her daughter who helped care for her. It’s actually a funny, poignant story. If you yourself or anyone you know is suffering from Alzheimer’s go to www.alz.org for more information and for help. Background music: Acoustic Inspiration HAAWK
No one else defines you, YOU define you. Aging is not a curse. Why would any of us want to anti-age? The alternative is so much worse. We’ve become obsessed with the clock not moving forward. Is it vanity, fear, ego, insecurity, societal pressures? All of it? Do whatever you can to look and feel the best you can. Perfection does not exist. Especially someone else’s idea of your perfection. We may not have what we had when we were younger, however we probably have a lot more. We are still talented, creative, valued and valuable. When you look around the world you see most are not obsessed with looking like they are the younger version of themselves. Most want to Pro-age. So Let’s Get Real with Pro-Aging. Thanks for listening. I love talking with you. Feel free to contact me if you have anything you want to discuss or a podcast you’d like me to record. https://www.kazakers.com Background music: Acoustic Inspiration HAAWK
Life is messy. We are always trying to “figure it out”. We don’t have to figure it out. Let’s let go of the “what if’s and what happened?” Learn to flow more like water. Water flows over and around rocks and boulders. Be like water or get the tools you need. We can find ways to allow the answers to reveal themselves without being in a constant state of anxiety. Isn’t that a wonderful place to be! Yes! And it’s not only probable. it’s possible. Thanks for listening! https://www.kazakers.com. Background music Acoustic Inspiration HAAWK