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P.S. Let's Talk Love

P.S. Let's Talk Love

By P.S. Consulting
Marsha & Solveig here -- we’re Communication Professors and Dating & Relationship Coaches. We love love. More importantly, we love talking all things dating and relationships. You don't have to navigate the weird world of dating alone, we're here to help. In each episode we'll explore all the ins and outs of romantic connection -- the exciting and delightful, messy and complicated, strange and bewildering. We'll share practical tools to improve your communication and enhance your relationships.
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Ep. 19 "Play the F***ing Game"
In this episode, we explore Emotional Bids - a cornerstone of relational happiness! Also - Happy Pride Month! We love love. In each episode, we'll have a Q&A segment at the end, send us your questions about all things dating, relationships, and love by clicking HERE. If you're looking for ways to show up for abortion access, checkout these resources. Do you have a future podcast topic you'd love to hear us discuss? Let us know! You can email us, or DM us through social media, too. ... Sending the Ukrainian people our love and support. To donate, we've included a couple options below: Red Cross CARE NPR has compiled a longer list of donation options. ... You can find out more about our online courses & dating & relationship coaching at our website: https://www.pscurators.com/ You can connect with us on social media, too: Instagram: @ps.welovelove  TikTok: @psconsulting Email us at: psrelationshipcurators@gmail.com Special Thanks to Medium Build for our show music.
59:39
June 27, 2022
Ep. 18: Openness & Privacy
In this episode, we explore Relational Dialectics Theory - and look at the interplay between openness and privacy - and how this might play out in your dating & relationships. Also - Happy Pride Month! We love love. Movie Recs: Fire Island on Hulu & Hustle on Netflix Get To Know You Games like: 36 Questions in Love & We're Not Really Strangers Armchair Expert podcast episode about Disclosing Addiction with a Partner In each episode, we'll have a Q&A segment at the end, send us your questions about all things dating, relationships, and love by clicking HERE. If you're looking for ways to show up for abortion access, checkout these resources. Do you have a future podcast topic you'd love to hear us discuss? Let us know! You can email us, or DM us through social media, too. ... Sending the Ukrainian people our love and support. To donate, we've included a couple options below: Red Cross CARE NPR has compiled a longer list of donation options. ... You can find out more about our online courses & dating & relationship coaching at our website: https://www.pscurators.com/ You can connect with us on social media, too: Instagram: @ps.welovelove  TikTok: @psconsulting Email us at: psrelationshipcurators@gmail.com Special Thanks to Medium Build for our show music.
01:07:10
June 20, 2022
Ep. 17: Predictability & Novelty
In this episode, we explore Relational Dialectics Theory - and look at the interplay between predictability & novelty - and how this might play out in your dating & relationships.  Also - Happy Pride Month! We love love.  Molly Shannon's New Memoir - Hello, Molly  Love Life (Season 2) on HBOMax In each episode, we'll have a Q&A segment at the end, send us your questions about all things dating, relationships, and love by clicking HERE. If you're looking for ways to show up for abortion access, checkout these resources. Do you have a future podcast topic you'd love to hear us discuss? Let us know! You can email us, or DM us through social media, too. ... Sending the Ukrainian people our love and support. To donate, we've included a couple options below: Red Cross CARE NPR has compiled a longer list of donation options. ... You can find out more about our online courses & dating & relationship coaching at our website: https://www.pscurators.com/ You can connect with us on social media, too: Instagram: @ps.welovelove  TikTok: @psconsulting Email us at: psrelationshipcurators@gmail.com Special Thanks to Medium Build for our show music.
01:26:15
June 13, 2022
Ep. 16: "Big P*ssy Energy"
Fun things happening in this episode, as you can tell from the title. ;)  Solveig is back from Ireland, AND - we have our FIRST INTERVIEW in this episode with the brilliant Lauren.  In this episode, Marsha chats with Lauren about being single and dating in small town Alaska. We love this conversation, and also want to celebrate Pride Month with y'all. In this episode, Lauren shares about her experiences as a single & dating person, dating both men & women, and what it's like to date in a big city (Chicago) & a small town (Fairbanks, Alaska).  Love Life on HBOMax Dropout on Hulu Wired Article: People Are Dating All Wrong, According to Data Science In each episode, we'll have a Q&A segment at the end, send us your questions about all things dating, relationships, and love by clicking HERE. If you're looking for ways to show up for abortion access, checkout these resources. Do you have a future podcast topic you'd love to hear us discuss? Let us know! You can email us, or DM us through social media, too. ... Sending the Ukrainian people our love and support. To donate, we've included a couple options below: Red Cross CARE NPR has compiled a longer list of donation options. ... You can find out more about our online courses & dating & relationship coaching at our website: https://www.pscurators.com/ You can connect with us on social media, too: Instagram: @ps.welovelove  TikTok: @psconsulting Email us at: psrelationshipcurators@gmail.com Special Thanks to Medium Build for our show music.
01:19:13
June 06, 2022
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This is a quick note letting you all know there were some technical issues, so no new episode this week!  We hope you all have a lovely long weekend!
01:20
May 30, 2022
Episode 15: What's the research say?
Solo ep! Solveig is off galavanting in Ireland still, so Marsha takes on some current research in all things dating and relationships. How did Covid impact dating? What about divorce rates? What can data science teach us about dating? This episode has a little bit of everything.  Pew Research Center Buzzfeed Article: Pandemic Dating Divorce & Covid  Wired Article: People Are Dating All Wrong, According to Data Science In each episode, we'll have a Q&A segment at the end, send us your questions about all things dating, relationships, and love by clicking HERE. If you're looking for ways to show up for abortion access, checkout these resources. Do you have a future podcast topic you'd love to hear us discuss? Let us know! You can email us, or DM us through social media, too. ... Sending the Ukrainian people our love and support. To donate, we've included a couple options below: Red Cross CARE NPR has compiled a longer list of donation options. ... You can find out more about our online courses & dating & relationship coaching at our website: https://www.pscurators.com/ You can connect with us on social media, too: Instagram: @ps.welovelove  TikTok: @psconsulting Email us at: psrelationshipcurators@gmail.com Special Thanks to Medium Build for our show music.
01:05:58
May 23, 2022
Episode 14: It's okay to need space
We've got a special guest joining Marsha for the check-in this week!  You know that feeling where you like, or love a person...but you also need them to not be in the same room as you for a few hours? There is a theory to explain that need! In this episode we dig into a commonly used Communication theory, Relational Dialectics. This episode focuses on the first of three primary dialectics, connectedness-autonomy. In each episode, we'll have a Q&A segment at the end, send us your questions about all things dating, relationships, and love by clicking HERE. Just a reminder, if you're looking for ways to show up for abortion access, checkout these resources.  Links & resources from from today's episode: The Last Kingdom, Seasons 1-5 are available on Netflix.  Top Chef is currently airing on Bravo.  If you're loving this conversation and want more support with your dating life, we invite you to check out our online course - called How the Eff Do I Date? ... Do you have a future podcast topic you'd love to hear us discuss? Let us know! You can email us, or DM us through social media, too. ... Sending the Ukrainian people our love and support. To donate, we've included a couple options below: Red Cross CARE NPR has compiled a longer list of donation options. ... You can find out more about our online courses & dating & relationship coaching at our website: https://www.pscurators.com/ You can connect with us on social media, too: Instagram: @ps.welovelove  TikTok: @psconsulting Email us at: psrelationshipcurators@gmail.com Special Thanks to Medium Build for our show music.
59:54
May 16, 2022
Episode 13: Bridgerton Vibes
In this episode, we talk about the Netflix show "Bridgerton". We discuss plot points, Solveig's love of romance, Marsha's aversion to romance, betrayal, honesty...and a lot of other things.  In each episode, we'll have a Q&A segment at the end, send us your questions about all things dating, relationships, and love by clicking HERE. Links & resources from from today's episode: Resources for how to show up for abortion access. The Netflix show: Bridgerton If you're loving this conversation and want more support with your dating life, we invite you to check out our online course - called How the Eff Do I Date? ... Do you have a future podcast topic you'd love to hear us discuss? Let us know! You can email us, or DM us through social media, too. ... Sending the Ukrainian people our love and support. To donate, we've included a couple options below: Red Cross CARE NPR has compiled a longer list of donation options. ... You can find out more about our online courses & dating & relationship coaching at our website: https://www.pscurators.com/ You can connect with us on social media, too: Instagram: @ps.welovelove  TikTok: @psconsulting Email us at: psrelationshipcurators@gmail.com Special Thanks to Medium Build for our show music.
01:00:54
May 09, 2022
Episode 12: The Ultimatum
In this episode, we talk about the Netflix show "The Ultimatum," and our conversation leads to ultimatums in general - and how they function in a relationship.  In each episode, we'll have a Q&A segment at the end, send us your questions about all things dating, relationships, and love by clicking HERE. Links & resources from from today's episode: The Netflix show: The Ultimatum If you're loving this conversation and want more support with your dating life, we invite you to check out our online course - called How the Eff Do I Date? ... Do you have a future podcast topic you'd love to hear us discuss? Let us know! You can email us, or DM us through social media, too. ... Sending the Ukrainian people our love and support. To donate, we've included a couple options below: Red Cross CARE NPR has compiled a longer list of donation options. ... You can find out more about our online courses & dating & relationship coaching at our website: https://www.pscurators.com/ You can connect with us on social media, too: Instagram: @ps.welovelove  TikTok: @psconsulting Email us at: psrelationshipcurators@gmail.com Special Thanks to Medium Build for our show music.
54:34
May 02, 2022
Episode 11: Long Distance Relationships
In this episode, we talk about long distance relationships - including what's great about them, what's tough, and a few tips for being successful if you're in a long distance relationship now.  In each episode, we'll have a Q&A segment at the end, send us your questions about all things dating, relationships, and love by clicking HERE. Links & resources from from today's episode: Relationship Check In Prompts & Questions -- if you want to do this, too! Here are the questions we discussed towards the end of the show - as revised by us on the show. :) (Please email us & let us know how it goes, if you do! We'd love to hear!! Also, let us know what other questions you like to ask one another. As you can tell, we geek out on this stuff.) One thing that would make our relationship even better is if we committed to... When I dream without limits, in one year I'd like to... What turns me on most (about you) lately is... What turns me off (in general) is... What I really want, but I'm afraid to admit is... What I see in the next version of you is... Where I've experienced you as most confident lately is... If you could have one wish, what would it be? Is there anything you want to be free of? What experiences do you want to have (more of)? Where do you think I could step it up even more (in my life)? What skills do you want to grow? We also referred to some research on long distance relationships, including these articles: https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2019/05/long-distance-relationships/589144/ ​​https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/01463370701658002 If you're loving this conversation and want more support with your dating life, we invite you to check out our online course - called How the Eff Do I Date? ... Do you have a future podcast topic you'd love to hear us discuss? Let us know! You can email us, or DM us through social media, too. ... Sending the Ukrainian people our love and support. To donate, we've included a couple options below: Red Cross CARE NPR has compiled a longer list of donation options. ... You can find out more about our online courses & dating & relationship coaching at our website: https://www.pscurators.com/ You can connect with us on social media, too: Instagram: @ps.welovelove  TikTok: @psconsulting Email us at: psrelationshipcurators@gmail.com Special Thanks to Medium Build for our show music.
01:02:20
April 25, 2022
Episode 10: Relationship Check-ins
In this episode, we talk about a key to relationship maintenance -- checking in!  In each episode, we'll have a Q&A segment at the end, send us your questions about all things dating, relationships, and love by clicking HERE. Links from today's episode: TV Shows we discussed: Bridgerton, Shadow & Bone, The Ultimatum (all on Netflix)  Books we discussed: The Shadow & Bone Series by Leigh Bardugo  Relationship Check In Prompts & Questions -- if you want to do this, too! Here are the questions we discussed towards the end of the show - as revised by us on the show. :) (Please email us & let us know how it goes, if you do! We'd love to hear!! Also, let us know what other questions you like to ask one another. As you can tell, we geek out on this stuff.) One thing that would make our relationship even better is if we committed to... When I dream without limits, in one year I'd like to... What turns me on most (about you) lately is... What turns me off (in general) is... What I really want, but I'm afraid to admit is... What I see in the next version of you is... Where I've experienced you as most confident lately is... If you could have one wish, what would it be? Is there anything you want to be free of? What experiences do you want to have (more of)? Where do you think I could step it up even more (in my life)? What skills do you want to grow? If you're loving this conversation and want more support with your dating life, we invite you to check out our online course - called How the Eff Do I Date? ... Do you have a future podcast topic you'd love to hear us discuss? Let us know! You can email us, or DM us through social media, too. ... Sending the Ukrainian people our love and support. To donate, we've included a couple options below: Red Cross CARE NPR has compiled a longer list of donation options. ... You can find out more about our online courses & dating & relationship coaching at our website: https://www.pscurators.com/ You can connect with us on social media, too: Instagram: @ps.welovelove  TikTok: @psconsulting Email us at: psrelationshipcurators@gmail.com Special Thanks to Medium Build for our show music.
50:26
April 18, 2022
Episode 9: Expectations in a New Relationship
In this episode, we talk about setting expectations early on in a relationship. In each episode, we'll have a Q&A segment at the end, send us your questions about all things dating, relationships, and love by clicking HERE. Links from today's episode: Bridgerton (Season 2) - on Netflix Life & Beth - on Hulu If you're loving this conversation and want more support with your dating life, we invite you to check out our online course - called How the Eff Do I Date? ... Do you have a future podcast topic you'd love to hear us discuss? Let us know! You can email us, or DM us through social media, too. ... Sending the Ukrainian people our love and support. To donate, we've included a couple options below: Red Cross CARE NPR has compiled a longer list of donation options. ... You can find out more about our online courses & dating & relationship coaching at our website: https://www.pscurators.com/ You can connect with us on social media, too: Instagram: @ps.welovelove  TikTok: @psconsulting Email us at: psrelationshipcurators@gmail.com Special Thanks to Medium Build for our show music.
53:27
April 11, 2022
Episode 8: Love is Blind - Part 2
In this episode, we talk about more about Love is Blind: Season 2 - and we discuss some of the relationships that were formed in more detail. We explore concepts like self-disclosure, intimacy, conflict navigation, and fear. (Look for Part 1 of this series, in Episode 7, if you want more context about the show itself.) You don't need to have watched the show to follow this episode, but beware, there are spoilers. In each episode, we'll have a Q&A segment at the end, send us your questions about all things dating, relationships, and love by clicking HERE. Links from today's episode: Upload (Season 2) - on Amazon Prime Bridgerton (Season 2) - on Netflix Green Goddess Cabbage Salad Recipe  Love is Blind - Season 2 - on Netflix If you're loving this conversation and want more support with your dating life, we invite you to check out our online course - called How the Eff Do I Date? ... Do you have a future podcast topic you'd love to hear us discuss? Let us know! You can email us, or DM us through social media, too. ... Sending the Ukrainian people our love and support. To donate, we've included a couple options below: Red Cross CARE NPR has compiled a longer list of donation options. ... You can find out more about our online courses & dating & relationship coaching at our website: https://www.pscurators.com/ You can connect with us on social media, too: Instagram: @ps.welovelove  TikTok: @psconsulting Email us at: psrelationshipcurators@gmail.com Special Thanks to Medium Build for our show music.
01:01:55
April 04, 2022
Episode 7: Love is Blind - Part 1
In this episode, we talk about Love is Blind: Season 2 -- specifically the format and one of the major themes we noticed, body issues. You don't need to have watched the show to follow this episode, but beware, there are spoilers.  In each episode, we'll have a Q&A segment at the end, send us your questions about all things dating, relationships, and love by clicking HERE. Links from today's episode: Our Flag Means Death -- available to watch on HBO Life & Beth -- watch on Hulu The Wonder Years reboot -- watch on Hulu  If you're loving this conversation and want more support with your dating life, we invite you to check out our online course - called How the Eff Do I Date? ... Do you have a future podcast topic you'd love to hear us discuss? Let us know! You can email us, or DM us through social media, too. ... Sending the Ukrainian people our love and support. To donate, we've included a couple options below: Red Cross CARE NPR has compiled a longer list of donation options. ... You can find out more about our online courses & dating & relationship coaching at our website: https://www.pscurators.com/ You can connect with us on social media, too: Instagram: @ps.welovelove  TikTok: @psconsulting Email us at: psrelationshipcurators@gmail.com Special Thanks to Medium Build for our show music.
50:19
March 28, 2022
Episode 6: What Makes for a Great First Date
In this episode, we talk about what makes for a great first date!  Whether you're online dating or meeting people in person, this episode will help you level up your first date experiences.  In each episode, we'll have a Q&A segment at the end, send us your questions about all things dating, relationships, and love by clicking HERE. Links from today's episode: You can see a list of some options to donate - and we are thinking of the people of Ukraine right now Solveig shares about her amazing coach - Natalie Mossayebi - and what she's learning about conscious relationships these days We talk about emotional bids in relationships & the Gottman Institute  If you're loving this conversation and want more support with your dating life, we invite you to check out our online course - called How the Eff Do I Date? ... Do you have a future podcast topic you'd love to hear us discuss? Let us know! You can email us, or DM us through social media, too.  ... Sending the Ukrainian people our love and support. To donate, we've included a couple options below: Red Cross CARE NPR has compiled a longer list of donation options. ... You can find out more about our online courses & dating & relationship coaching at our website: https://www.pscurators.com/ You can connect with us on social media, too: Instagram: @ps.welovelove  TikTok: @psconsulting Email us at: psrelationshipcurators@gmail.com Special Thanks to Medium Build for our show music.
55:58
March 21, 2022
Episode 5: Bad Date Stories
In this episode, we'll share with you a sampling of some of our own bad date stories, as well as a story from one of our listeners. (We love it when you share your stories with us!)  We hope this brings some humor to your week, and perhaps a few lessons on things not to do on a first date. But also, mostly we just hope it gives your a laugh, and reminds you, that if you're single and dating right now -- we've been there, too -- and we get it.  In each episode, we'll have a Q&A segment at the end, send us your questions about all things dating, relationships, and love by clicking HERE. Links from today's episode: You can see a list of some options to donate - and we are thinking of the people of Ukraine right now We mention the Iditarod & musher Lisbet Skogen Norris - who is running the Iditarod 2022 - & also the person who taught Solveig about Glerups slippers The SNL skit Lazy Sunday  The bookstore Barnes & Noble  ... Sending the Ukrainian people our love and support. To donate, we've included a couple options below: Red Cross CARE NPR has compiled a longer list of donation options. ... You can find out more about our online courses & dating & relationship coaching at our website: https://www.pscurators.com/ You can connect with us on social media, too: Instagram: @ps.welovelove  TikTok: @psconsulting Special Thanks to Medium Build for our show music.
53:25
March 14, 2022
Episode 4: Mistakes on First Dates
In this episode, we talk about common mistakes we see, hear, (or have experienced ourselves) on first dates!  In each episode, we'll have a Q&A segment at the end, send us your questions about all things dating, relationships, and love by clicking HERE. Links from today's episode: You can see a list of some options to donate - and we are thinking of the people of Ukraine right now We talk about the Apple TV+ show After Party, Netflix' Love is Blind, Sex Lives of College Girls of HBO+, & True Story on Peacock ... Sending the Ukrainian people our love and support. To donate, we've included a couple options below: Red Cross CARE NPR has compiled a longer list of donation options. ... You can find out more about our online courses & dating & relationship coaching at our website: https://www.pscurators.com/ You can connect with us on social media, too: Instagram: @ps.welovelove  TikTok: @psconsulting Special Thanks to Medium Build for our show music.
42:35
March 07, 2022
Episode 3: The Slowburn
In this episode, we talk about the value of a "slow burn" relationship. Let's romanticize building a strong foundation for our relationships! In each episode, we'll have a Q&A segment at the end, send us your questions about all things dating, relationships, and love by clicking HERE. Links from today's episode: We talk about the Apple TV+ show After Party Check out the Taylor Swift "All Too Well" music video We mentioned I Want You Back - a slow burn romcom on Amazon Prime.  Read more about love at first sight in the Journal of the International Association for Relationship Research.  We also discussed Glennon Doyle & Abby Wambach's love story in the book - Untamed New York Time's "36 Questions to Fall in Love" Falling in love with a narcissist.  How to have a simmering, mindful relationship.  Cluster B Personality Disorders ... Sending the Ukrainian people our love and support. To donate, we've included a couple options below: Red Cross CARE NPR has compiled a longer list of donation options.  ... You can find out more about our online courses & dating & relationship coaching at our website: https://www.pscurators.com/ You can connect with us on social media, too: Instagram: @ps.welovelove  TikTok: @psconsulting Special Thanks to Medium Build for our show music.
55:59
February 28, 2022
Episode #2: Ideal Partner Expectations
In this episode, we talk about the helpful and unhelpful expectations you might have about your ideal partner as you're meeting & getting to know new people.  What and who shaped your ideas of who you're looking for? And what do you REALLY want now? We hope our stories will help illustrate and invite you to check in on the expectations you have for your ideal partner.  In each episode, we'll have a Q&A segment at the end, send us your questions about all things dating, relationships, and love by clicking HERE. Links from today's episode: We talk about the latest season of Love is Blind on Netflix.  We also mention the TV show: Scrubs We also refer to some old school Disney movies. You're welcome. :)  ... You can find out more about our online courses & dating & relationship coaching at our website: https://www.pscurators.com/ You can connect with us on social media, too: Instagram: @ps.welovelove  TikTok: @psconsulting Special Thanks to Medium Build for our show music. 
45:59
February 21, 2022
Episode 1: Valentine's Day
In our first episode, we talk all about Valentine's Day -- what we think, what others think, and how to navigate this holiday with as much ease as possible.  In each episode, we'll have a Q&A segment at the end, so send us your questions about all things dating, relationships, and love by clicking HERE.  Links from today's episode:  We talk about Costco, Netflix, and Perfect Bar (not because we're sponsored...yet!) :)  We also mention the TV shows: How I Met Your Father & Are You the One? Here's the Elite Daily (2017) article on Valentine's Day Stan Tatkin's book: Wired for Dating ... You can find out more about our online courses & dating & relationship coaching at our website: https://www.pscurators.com/ You can connect with us on social media, too:  Instagram: @ps.welovelove  TikTok: @psconsulting Special Thanks to Medium Build for our show music.
53:54
February 13, 2022
P.S. Let's Talk Love Trailer
Subscribe now so you'll be the first to know about new episodes!  You know those friends who you always go to for dating advice? The ones who won’t judge you but will give you honest feedback? That’s us –  and bonus – both of us also have over a decade of experience teaching communication techniques at a university. We know the why and how of human interaction and our goal is to share that expertise with you, so you can find and develop the relationship of your dreams. In each episode we’ll cover an element of relationships – from mindset, to navigating the dating landscape, to defining the relationship, setting expectations, building a happy, healthy, thriving relationship, navigating conflict, and much more. In each episode, we'll have a Q&A segment at the end, so send us your questions about all things dating, relationships, and love by clicking HERE. Learn more about our work: pscurators.com Follow us! Instagram: @ps.welovelove TikTok: @psconsulting
01:51
February 08, 2022