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Pure Gold

By Frank Honess
Pure Gold exists to help you become the person that God has created you to be. Each podcast offers practical tips and suggestions on how to strengthen your character, deepen your transparency, and grow in truth through the power of Jesus Christ.
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Truth & Freedom Are Constant Companions
Which is more important in recovery? Real freedom or simple sobriety. This is the question we explore this week on the podcast. Real freedom has so much more to do with the journey than the destination. And as your recovery becomes as natural as breathing, you will begin to experience deeper places of sobriety that is long-lasting and consistent. For more information about this podcast and other great content, visit Purity For Life.
14:58
July 29, 2022
Tell the Whole Truth & Nothing But the Truth
Recently, I began thinking about one of the most fundamental building blocks of addiction recovery: Honesty. The willingness to drop the walls, drop the facade, and allow others to see inside of your life. A life of honesty refuses to hide, cover up, or deny the truth. It seeks only to be completely transparent, allowing light to shine upon anything unseen. For more information about this podcast and other great content, visit Purity For Life.
14:02
July 11, 2022
Listening to Your Emotions
Throughout our lives, we are trained to listen to a vast multitude of voices. Voices that have a powerful influence upon us. These voices can come from parents, siblings, family members, friends, and co-workers. Depending on the household in which we were raised, those voices determine in many ways the path we find ourselves on in our adolescent years all the way through becoming an adult. Some are incredibly healthy and life-giving while others can be destructive. In this episode, I want to switch gears just a little bit and talk about a different voice. One you may not be totally familiar with: The voice of your emotions. Yes, believe it or not, your emotions have a voice and the real question is this: Are you listening? For more information about this podcast and other great content, visit Purity For Life.
14:12
June 24, 2022
Just Pray Harder
Just Pray Harder Three words that have been spoken by a multitude of well-meaning Christians throughout the years. Words that have traditionally been a response to another Christian’s unhealthy behavior or lifestyle. It may have been directed towards a particular kind of sin or behavior. And in most cases, it was spoken with completely pure intentions. Yet for many these words were the complete opposite message they needed to hear. In this episode, Frank shares the fallacy AND the significance behind this statement. Also, is recovery all on us? Or is it God's responsibility to change us? We explore these questions and more. For more information about this podcast and other great content, visit Purity For Life.
15:31
June 10, 2022
The Lord Will Stand With You
"But the Lord stood at my side and gave me strength, so that through me the message might be fully proclaimed and all the Gentiles might hear it. And I was delivered from the lion’s mouth." (2 Timothy 4:17). On this bonus episode, Frank shares his thoughts from 2 Timothy 4:17. Remember this week that you are not standing alone! No matter what you might be facing, you hold a mighty promise that God's presence and His strength is yours for the taking. We pray this powerful promise blesses you today! For more information about this podcast and other great content, visit Purity For Life.
04:01
February 25, 2022
Creating a Vision for Your Recovery in 2022
Do you have a vision of who you want to be in your recovery journey? In this first episode of 2022, Frank shares the importance of knowing the direction and steps you want to take in your life to become a person of health and wholeness, especially as it relates to your sexual integrity. We look briefly at the life of Paul the apostle and the words he penned in Philippians 3:13. We too can have the same resolve in our lives that Paul had in his. Freedom and healing are possible for us, but before we can walk in it, we have to envision it. We pray this podcast helps you understand the vision for your own personal recovery! For more information about this podcast and other great content, visit Purity For Life.
27:17
February 07, 2022
Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn Proofing Today’s Young Kids
This week, Frank shares an incredible resource for parents to help them begin having healthy conversations with their kids about pornography. If you’re a parent, you’ll definitely want to have this tool in your arsenal.
19:31
November 17, 2021
The Single Greatest Reason You Will Fail In Recovery
Did you know that it is possible for a man or woman to fail in their recovery? The first is most obviously: The moment you quit, you fail. But the second reason may be a little more elusive. This week on the podcast, Frank talks about the single greatest reason you will fail in recovery. And it may not be what you thought! For more information about this podcast and other great content, visit Purity For Life.
10:36
September 27, 2021
Revisit Your Routine
With every season that passes I’m sure you re-examine your routines between school, work, and family. Our schedules, structures, & way of life changes from season to season. The same is true for our recovery journey. On this episode, Frank shares about the importance of re-evaluating the things that are working and not working on your journey. Take time to see what needs improvement or modification in your life so you can continue to grow, heal, & find freedom the struggles you have faced. For more information about this podcast and other great content, visit Purity For Life.
11:31
September 10, 2021
How Shame Paralyzes Us (and what you can do about it!)
Shame is one of the most paralyzing emotions a person can ever feel. Unfortunately, most who struggle with sexual addiction undergo some form of shame. How can a person become free from shame? This week, Frank shares some thoughts from his journey on how you can live in freedom over the powerful grip of shame. For more information about this podcast and other great content, visit Purity For Life.
09:37
July 12, 2021
The Value of Coaching in Recovery
In this episode of Pure Gold, Frank talks about the incredible value of finding a coach for your recovery journey. He also shares three places that you can begin searching for a coach if you're unsure where to find one. For more information about this podcast and other great content, visit Purity For Life.
07:47
July 05, 2021
4 Vital Sources of Community You Can Find Today
Today, nearly twelve years into recovery from a porn addiction that consumed the better part of my adolescent and young adult life, I’m convinced now more than ever of need for healthy community. The presence of various forms of community are the greatest tools I carry, even to this day, in order to live victoriously. This week on Pure Gold, I share 4 vital sources of community you can find today! Every person needs to be apart of life-giving community if they are to find healing, wholeness, and freedom from sexual addiction. Enjoy the podcast! Show Notes: Small Groups Online Purity For Life Music: "Strength" by Legacy: Instrumentals
11:13
April 26, 2021
Lean Not On Your Own Understanding: Thoughts On Proverbs 3:5-6
Thoughts on Proverbs 3:5-6: "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight."
10:13
February 11, 2021
2 Ways Porn Negatively Affects Your Heart (and what YOU can do about it!)
Did you know that your heart is your most valuable possession in life? More than your career, your 401K, your house, even your wife or your kids!! So when the junk in this world tries to infiltrate our hearts, it can do some real damage. Pornography is like a wrecking ball to the human heart. I don’t think we often realize the devastating effects it has upon our lives. In this video, I share 2 ways that pornography negatively affects our hearts and the positive things we can do to combat it! Read the entire article here: http://pflhome.com/.../2-ways-porn-negatively-affects.../ For more information about this content and other great content from Purity For Life, visit us by going to pflhome.com.
07:35
February 04, 2021
What Do You Want From Your Recovery In 2021? Pt.2
If I were to ask you to make a wish list of your top five destinations you’d love to travel to in the entire world,  what would they be? Or what about a bucket list of ten or twenty things you’d like to do in your lifetime? No doubt many of you have already had those dreams.  Here’s a question: What do you want from your recovery in 2021? If I were to ask you to envision what kind of person you’d like to be on December 31, 2021, what kind of person would that be?  I really believe every year around this time we should be looking in two directions: backwards at the previous year we just walked through and forwards towards the new year. How have we grown? What lessons have we learned? Perhaps even a couple harder questions: Where have we struggled? Where have we declined in our progress? We hope you you enjoy the second part of this series from Pure Gold! For more information on this podcast & other great resources, visit pflhome.com. SHOW NOTES: Small Groups Online Ever Accountable
18:11
January 12, 2021
What Do You Want From Your Recovery In 2021? Pt.1
If I were to ask you to make a wish list of your top five destinations you’d love to travel to in the entire world,  what would they be? Or what about a bucket list of ten or twenty things you’d like to do in your lifetime? No doubt many of you have already had those dreams.  Here’s a question: What do you want from your recovery in 2021? If I were to ask you to envision what kind of person you’d like to be on December 31, 2021, what kind of person would that be?  I really believe every year around this time we should be looking in two directions: backwards at the previous year we just walked through and forwards towards the new year. How have we grown? What lessons have we learned? Perhaps even a couple harder questions: Where have we struggled? Where have we declined in our progress? We hope you you enjoy the first part of this series from Pure Gold! For more information on this podcast & other great resources, visit pflhome.com. SHOW NOTES: Small Groups Online Ever Accountable
14:28
January 04, 2021
New Content Coming 2021!
Happy Holidays from Purity For Life & the Pure Gold Podcast! We’re thankful for how God has moved through 2020 and what He will do in 2021. New content from the Pure Gold Podcast is coming in January of 2021! Stay tuned for that. And remember that the One who holds 2021 is the same One who held 2020.
05:31
December 31, 2020
Leaving Fear In the Box: Thoughts from 2 Timothy 1:7
Understanding that fear isn’t something you have to live with is hard. But it’s not impossible. In this episode of Pure God, Frank shares from 2 Timothy 1:7 and encourages listeners to not allow fear to drive their lives, even in the midst of pandemics and elections. For more information on this podcast & other great resources, visit pflhome.com.
13:02
November 05, 2020
Weekend Recovery Tips
On this bonus episode of Pure Gold, Frank shares two really important recovery tips for your upcoming weekend! While it's important to have fun on your time off, you also need to be wise with how you spend your time and who you spend it with -- especially if you're walking in recovery. We hope these tips help you to be successful this weekend in your recovery journey! And don't forget to have fun too!! For more information on this podcast & other great resources, visit pflhome.com.
07:20
September 19, 2020
3 Steps To Discovering Why You’re Addicted
In this episode of Pure Gold, Frank talks about three steps you need to be taking along your journey to discover the reason for your sexually compulsive behavior. Discovering the “why” behind addiction is so important for long-lasting healing & success in recovery. For more information on this podcast & other great resources, visit pflhome.com. SHOW NOTES: Blog: “3 Steps To Discovering Why You Are Addicted” Small Groups Online
24:13
September 15, 2020
How to Experience Peace in Chaos
We’re living in such crazy times! With COVID-19 a new reality in our world today, violent & destructive riots occurring every day, and a highly contentious election coming up, how is one supposed to find peace in their every day lives? And even more so for those who listen to this podcast, how does a person thrive in their recovery journey? This week on the podcast, we share a message that Frank preached recently at a local church on the topic of experiencing peace in times of chaos. We pray that it will be a blessing in your life! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit Purity For Life @ pflhome.com.
01:02:15
August 21, 2020
What's Stopping You From Being Honest? Pt.2
In part two of our series on honesty, Frank shares from an article he wrote a couple years back entitled, "What's Stopping You From Being Honest?".  Specifically, he shares three reasons he sees that stop someone from being completely honest with themselves and with other people. SHOW NOTES: Article: What's Stopping You From Being Honest? Philippians 4:8-9 MSG For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit Purity For Life @ pflhome.com.
20:56
July 20, 2020
What's Stopping You From Being Honest? Pt.1
One of the cornerstones of a successful recovery journey is honesty. A person cannot possibly find freedom, healing, & wholeness in their life without honesty. In this episode, Frank talks about why honesty is so important and how you can start the journey towards freedom today! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit Purity For Life @ pflhome.com.
07:19
July 16, 2020
Agreements: Releasing the Lies We've Believed in Life
This week on the podcast, we go back into the archives as Frank shares a talk he gave a couple years ago on the power of agreements -- subtle lies that come into our heart & mind that we might believe about ourselves, others, and even God. Agreements can take a strong hold of our lives if we're not careful. How do we break the agreements we’ve made in our lives? For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit Purity For Life @ pflhome.com.
34:46
July 07, 2020
4 Questions You Should Be Asking Yourself In Recovery
Our health & success in recovery depends on being honest with ourselves. If we can’t be honest with ourselves and what’s going on inside our hearts, how we can ever expect to be honest with others? This week on the podcast, we talk about four questions that will help you navigate your feelings, thoughts, and the actions you take in your recovery journey. For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit Purity For Life @ pflhome.com.
26:43
June 29, 2020
Position & Practice: Thoughts on 2 Cor. 5:17
What does being made new really look like for someone after they meet Jesus? And how must our POSITION in Christ need to increasingly align with our PRACTICE in life? For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit Purity For Life @ pflhome.com.
10:07
June 08, 2020
Facing the Giant of Addiction
In this podcast, Frank talks specifically to the Church about what addiction is and how we can find healing from compulsive sexual behavior. He also shares his story from addiction into recovery. For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit Purity For Life @ pflhome.com.
25:58
May 28, 2020
One Simple Way to Build Trust with Your Spouse
When a small request is made in the redemptive process, there is a huge opportunity to build trust and security. Our commitment to follow through on the request with intentionality and timeliness makes all the difference. We really appreciate Jason Martinkus for supplying his thoughts for this recovery & marriage tip. For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
09:02
May 20, 2020
How's Your Heart?
Too often, we ignore what’s going on inside our hearts because it’s too painful to look at. Proverbs 4:23 has some excellent advice for us to remain diligent in checking in on our heart on a daily basis. For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
02:34
May 15, 2020
Porn is the Fruit, Hurt is the Root
For years, we've been sharing the importance of understanding the "why's" behind addiction. Until we do that, we can never be truly free from our struggles. In this bonus segment, Frank shares a recent post from X3church and the importance of understanding what's underneath compulsive porn use. For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
09:08
April 29, 2020
How Sex Addiction Can Destroy Your Marriage
This week on the podcast, we're re-releasing what is potentially the all-time most popular podcast since the start of our ministry, Purity For Life. Sex addiction is devastating in a person's life. And it has many consequences that can potentially spill over and affect the people closest to him or her. Our marriage almost ended before it even got started because of my addiction to pornography. But as you'll hear in this episode, not only did our marriage go through great pain, ultimately it went through great healing because I (Frank) stopped hiding and sought help. Tracey & I pray, out of all of our podcasts to date, that this one will bless you and help you to find the same healing we did in our marriage. For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
29:05
April 20, 2020
Temptation: A Shortcut that Leads to a Dead End
Thoughts from Matt. 26:41 & Heb. 4:15-16. This past weekend, Frank jumped on Facebook Live to share some thoughts about temptation. Is temptation really all that bad of a thing? In the past, we've traditionally thought that temptation is simply the diving board that launches us into sin, but what if our various temptations and triggers are actually pointing to deeper needs and desires within us longing to be filled? We hope you benefit greatly from this podcast! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
14:55
April 15, 2020
BONUS: Leaning On Our Unshakable Hope!
Even in the midst the COVID-19 crisis going on in our world where everything seems to have been shaken, we serve a God who is unshaken! And that means we can live that way as well -- when we choose to. In this video, Frank looks at Hebrews 6:19-20 for some biblical perspective on how we can live courageously in uncertain times. For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
10:30
April 10, 2020
BONUS: Exploring the PFL website
In this bonus podcast from Pure Gold, we take a deep dive into the website behind Purity For Life. If you've never been to Purity For Life's website, you'll want to check it out for tons of resources & help for your recovery journey. Explore the podcast archive, articles, links, videos, and even easy ways for you to contact Frank & Tracey Honess for further support. It's all available to you by visiting pflhome.com.
14:23
April 10, 2020
025: Learning to Value the Process of Recovery
This week on the podcast, Frank talks about learning to value the process of our recovery, and not just the destination we have in sight. So often, it's easy for us to only see the end game or the place that we want to get to. We forget about the incredibly special journey we're currently on and what we're learning about ourselves. There is so much gold to be found when we slow down and treasure the moments we're living in. For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
23:36
April 06, 2020
NEWS: Join the Live Free Community!
One of the core truths of recovery is learning that you can’t get better by yourself. And you never will…ON YOUR OWN. We need people and were designed to be in relationship and community with other safe, healthy people. Especially as we recovery from life-controlling addictions. Purity For Life is proud to partner with and incredible online ministry called Live Free. Live Free is a private community for men seeking freedom from porn and lust. The ministry exists in the form of an app you can download on your phone which connects you instantly with a community of people who also struggle with pornography and other sexual addictions. Here you can ask questions, share struggles, and receive encouragement for the journey that you’re on. But it goes further than that. You can also choose to sign up for a weekly group meeting where the community goes deeper. Each week, you’ll have the opportunity to share openly and talk with other men face to face in a live Zoom call led by a trained group leader. There are very few ministries, if any, that offer this kind of quality community experience in such a private, secure way. To learn more about how you can get started in a support group or even just get connected with the app, check out Live Free today!
07:37
March 27, 2020
024: Avoiding Unhealthy Escape During Times of Crisis
What a crazy time we find ourselves in as the world battles the spread of COVID-19 (Coronavirus). We certainly need to be praying for healing for the sick and protection for those who are healthy. But this week on the podcast we want to focus on the temptation to try and escape the pressure, the stress, and the fear that comes along with this virus. It's very easy for many in recovery to potentially slip back into old patterns of behavior with all the extra time home we have now. Screen time has increased and potentially isolation as well. So how can we avoid unhealthy escapes back into pornography? By allowing God's Word to fill us and remind us that He is our safety and protection during this storm. We pray this podcast blesses your recovery journey. For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
27:44
March 23, 2020
BONUS: Are You Abiding?
In this bonus segment form the Pure Gold podcast, Frank shares about the importance of staying connected to and abiding in the One who created us in order to see long-term success in our recovery journeys. Abiding in Christ is an ongoing, daily activity that must take place in order to find freedom and healing from sexual addiction. You can do it! We hope you enjoy this podcast! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com. SHOW NOTES: John 15:1-8 TPT
07:12
February 26, 2020
023: Goodbye Shame, Hello Honor
If you've walked through addiction long enough, you know that shame is a very real part of your life. It tries to convince a person they are worthless and hold no value. This is exactly what the enemy wants us to think, even though we know the opposite is true. Even though you are addicted, you are still loved and worthy of redemption and restoration. On this week's podcast, Frank shares a letter from one of his recovery guys where he addresses the topic shame and honor in the of a recovering sex addict. We hope the truth shared in this podcast will help you find freedom in your life! Enjoy the podcast! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com. SHOW NOTES: Read "Shame and Honor"
20:07
February 17, 2020
BONUS: All In or Nothing At All
In this bonus segment from Pure Gold, Frank shares about the necessity of being all in or all out when it comes to our recovery journeys. If we want to thrive and become the people that God wants us to be, we must lay it all on the table and do whatever it takes. Enjoy the podcast! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
08:02
February 12, 2020
022: 3 Steps to a Fresh Start in 2020
The turn into a new year is a great time to start fresh as many people set out to make New Year resolutions -- hoping to keep them for as many months (or as many hours) as they can! But even just making a few adjustments in your life can be incredibly healthy. Maybe you're in that place right now in your recovery journey where you just feel stuck. In this episode, Frank talks about three keys steps that an individual must take in their recovery journeys if they want long-lasting success. These are super important steps you can't afford to miss! Enjoy the podcast! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com. SHOW NOTES: Covenant Eyes Screen Accountability Live Free: A Private Community For Men Seeking Freedom From Porn & Lust
28:28
February 06, 2020
021: What are your recovery goals for 2020?
Welcome to the new year! And even more monumental, welcome to a new DECADE! While new year's resolutions can often be forgotten, there is always value in creating goals for yourself. And we should do the same for our recovery journey. In this episode, Frank shares why we should have goals for recovery as well as sharing his own goals for recovery this year. Enjoy the podcast! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com. SHOW NOTES: 006: What is your ultimate goal in recovery?
23:01
January 10, 2020
Holiday Purity Tips: Remember Your Story
In this holiday purity tip from Pure Gold, Frank shares about the importance of remembering our stories in recovery. He also shares his story for all those who have never heard it before. It is truly by the grace of God that Frank found freedom from porn addiction and continues to grow healthier today! You can also hear his story by going to the "About" menu on Purity For Life's website. For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
16:29
December 12, 2019
Holiday Purity Tips: Don’t Let Stress Affect Your Relationships
In the first of a series of holiday purity tips, Frank shares the importance of not allowing stress to affect your most closest relationships. The holidays are crazy busy! We get it. But understanding how stress affects your heart & how stress affects others in your life will help you grow in recovery. For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
08:13
December 05, 2019
020: If we both enjoy watching pornography together, is it still a sin?
This week on Pure Gold, we visit a pretty controversial question in our culture today for many marriages: "If we both enjoy watching pornography together, is it still a sin" Wow! Frank shares a segment from the Fierce Marriage Podcast, hosted by Ryan & Selena Frederick. They both do a masterful job at answering this question and giving great instruction from God's Word. Enjoy the podcast! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
21:12
November 26, 2019
BONUS: Deep Breathing & Other Recovery Best Practices
In this bonus tip from Pure Gold, Frank shares some powerful, but very simple recovery best practices -- starting with the discipline of learning deep breathing techniques. We pray that this very simple technique will help you grow in your recovery journey for years to come! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
03:57
November 20, 2019
019: Helping You Find Freedom with Live Free
This week on Pure Gold, we highlight a brand new ministry out there that is offering men a place to find a safe community in their efforts to live with sexual purity. Live Free is a private and safe community for men, struggling with lust and porn, where they can find support, accountability, practical teaching, and most importantly... freedom. Frank also shares some bonus content from Live Free on the topic of having a healthy perspective in recovery. Enjoy the podcast! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
17:32
November 19, 2019
NEWS: Our Thoughts & Prayers for Christian Comedian John Crist
Big news coming out this week about Christian comedian John Crist. In this special segment from Pure Gold, we offer our thoughts & prayers for John and all those involved in this story. Please go to Faithwire here to read the full story.
10:35
November 08, 2019
018: Celebrating the Life of Dr. Mark Laaser
In this special episode of Pure Gold, we honor the life of Dr. Mark Laaser, one of the early pioneers in the field of sexual addiction & recovery. Dr. Laaser passed away early on the morning of September 27, 2019 after a long battle with myeloma cancer. His life & legacy is nothing short of amazing and while I didn't know him personally, I did have the chance to interview him for the podcast in 2014. I share my thoughts of Dr. Laaser as well as the interview I did with him regarding his book, "Taking Every Thought Captive". Mark -- we will miss you, but we thank God for your life and for the thousands of lives your ministry touched on this earth. Friends, enjoy the podcast. For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
24:15
October 03, 2019
BONUS: Can a person stop looking at porn but still be an addict?
Can a person stop looking at porn but still be an addict? I love this question and have encountered it many times in my work with men throughout the years. One of the purity coaches I most respect is Michael Leahy, founder & CEO of BraveHearts, a faith-based, non-profit ministry, whose mission has been to lead people to freedom from sexual sin and sex addiction through a growing relationship with Jesus Christ. Recently, someone asked Michael this question: "Can you define terms you use like slip, minor slip, relapse? If I have been successful in stopping porn use but unsuccessful in stopping acting out behaviors, how do I discern where I am at?" I really loved his answer to the question. It's both helpful and specific but really gets to the heart of the writer's question. Enjoy! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
08:49
September 27, 2019
BONUS: 3 Common Triggers That We Can't Ignore
So many guys I talk to wonder why and how they get themselves into the situations they're in. How did that slip occur? What led to that relapse? Without understanding what happened BEFORE the slip or relapse, we'll keep repeating the same mistakes over and over again. It's what leads up to the point of acting out that really matters. In this bonus episode, Frank shares 3 very common triggers that we can't afford to ignore if we want to get healthy in recovery and become the people that God wants us to be. Enjoy the podcast! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
06:27
September 11, 2019
017: What to Do When You Hit the Wall
This week on the podcast, Frank shares a purity tip on what to do when you reach that point in the week where your tank is empty and you need to be re-filled. We all get there! A crazy week at work, the beautiful demands of family, and of course the circumstances that arise throughout the week that we didn't predict. Life happens and we get tired. That's the reality. But we don't have to stay there and there are some really important things we can do for our soul to get refreshed. Praying this tip encourages you this week! Blessings! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
11:54
August 24, 2019
016: Developing Healthy Discipline(s) In Recovery
Recovery from addiction is a battle fought on many fronts. There is not one key to freedom and healing, but a culmination of little & big decisions that a person must make to get healthy again. It's developing a fierce tenacity and commitment to doing the right thing even if you slip up. But it's also about putting the right practices in place to help you when you're facing a battle. This week on the podcast, we talk about the discipline we must have in recovery & hear from a guest therapist about developing healthy disciplines to guide you along the way. Enjoy the podcast! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
19:33
August 12, 2019
RESOURCE: Screen Accountability from Covenant Eyes 👀
One of the greatest tools a person in recovery needs in their tool belt is good software on all their devices designed to protect them from the junk on the internet and keep their accountability partners in the loop about their progress. Covenant Eyes, in my opinion, is the best out there with their new software they've unveiled, called "Screen Accountability". In this segment, Frank discusses the importance of having software on all your devices & details CE's new resource. Interested in checking out Covenant Eyes? They offer two incredibly affordable plans for individuals & families! Click here to read more about the different tiers and to sign up for screen accountability. Make sure you're covered & protected with Covenant Eyes!
01:41
July 13, 2019
015: Dishonesty Will Destroy Your Marriage
My point of brokenness occurred when my wife (fiance at the time) took her engagement ring off and slid it across the table and said: "I won't marry you". It was as if the Lord was saying: "You've nearly destroyed your life, I won't allow you to destroy my daughter's life." Dishonesty is a destroyer of marriage. The moment you stop being honest with your spouse is the moment you have given up on your marriage. This week, Frank shares from his own life what it took to come out of addiction and into freedom. Also, what is temptation really? Should we be worried or concerned when we're tempted? For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
23:12
June 29, 2019
014: The Truth About Transparency
Transparency in recovery means you're completely honest with your spouse, doesn't it? What do you really share with them? How far do you go in explaining to them how you struggle? This week, Frank & Tracey both attempt to address these questions and more as they talk from their own personal experience of addiction & recovery journeys. Husbands AND wives: You don't want to miss this episode. For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.  
26:24
May 26, 2019
013: 3 Steps to Take BEFORE Talking to Your Spouse about Your Addiction
This week, we continue our conversation from episode three on how we talk to our spouses about our addictions. There are three specific steps we need to begin taking before that conversation happens. Frank shares those three steps & why it's so important to be completely honest with your spouse about your addiction. Enjoy the podcast! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.  
30:03
May 10, 2019
BONUS: Learning to Trust God with Life's Toughest Questions
In this bonus content from Pure Gold, Frank shares a recent message he preached on learning to trust God with life's toughest questions. We all have questions in life that can either lead us towards Jesus or away from Him if we allow them to. The same is true in our recovery journeys. So many men wonder how long it will take them to recover? Why do we struggle? When will I get better? Thankfully, the Word of God helps us gain perspective when we have questions. Frank shares some thoughts from his own journey in this encouraging & challenging message. Enjoy!
41:22
April 12, 2019
012: Renewing Your Hope In Recovery
Pure Gold is back after a long hiatus with a huge episode! This week, we want to bring you a message of hope in your recovery journey. Maybe you're at a tough place right now where recovery just doesn't seem worth it. Or maybe you're at a super strong place. No matter where you're at, you're always in need of hope. Frank shares some passages of Scripture to encourage you along the journey & Tracey shares some hopeful reminders for spouses of sexual strugglers. Also in this episode is the Purity Quote of the Week & a word from Pastor Judah Smith entitled "Jesus Loves Barabbas".  For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com. 
29:03
April 08, 2019
011: The Joys of Living in Recovery
Sometimes, the term "recovery" gets a bad rap. Some view it as some kind of impairment or flaw if you're walking in recovery from an addiction. But the reality is that there's MUCH joy that we can celebrate in recovery. This week, Frank encourages listeners to focus on the joys that one can experience as they walk away from the kind of lifestyles that kept us in bondage for years! Through brokenness, self-discovery, and hard work, joy can prevail as we become the men & women God has created us to be. Enjoy the podcast! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com. 
14:45
March 18, 2019
010: Hitting Rock Bottom Hurts Pt.2
In this episode, we wrap our series on hitting rock bottom by talking about three questions: 1. Can I change? 2. Am I willing to change? 3. What am I doing to change? These are three crucial questions to be able to answer in recovery if we wanting to see lasting change and transformation. We hope you enjoy this episode! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com. 
28:30
February 25, 2019
Would you help support Pure Gold?
Happy Tuesday everyone!!! There's a lot hard work that goes into the ministry every year. Content is produced tirelessly to help individuals live with sexual integrity through Jesus Christ. And the work will continue into 2019! But we need your help & support into the new year! In the six years Purity For Life has been around, we've never asked for support until now. And we understand there is alot to give to at the end of the year but if you've been personally helped or know someone who has been helped by this ministry, would you consider giving to Purity For Life? There are three different tiers of support you can choose from and you can either do monthly giving or a one time gift. It would be greatly appreciated! Please go to our support page here to learn how you can help support Purity For Life. Thank you so much! We appreciate your support!!!
01:48
February 19, 2019
009: Hitting Rock Bottom Hurts Pt.1
How do you know when you've really reached rock bottom? A place of brokenness where you can finally see the damage that your addiction is doing to your life? This has been one of the most intriguing questions for me as I've worked with men in recovery from sexual addiction. In this episode, I share my thoughts on what rock bottom looks like and how we can continually live in a place of complete transparency before men and before God. For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com. 
12:49
February 07, 2019
008: The Importance of Purpose in Recovery
Recently, Frank & Tracey were invited to Gateway Fellowship in Bridgeville, Delaware to talk about the importance of understanding one's identity & purpose. In this podcast, Tracey talks about how we walk in the purpose that God has for our lives. Remember: As you seek God first, all the other details of your lives will be taken care of. We hope you'll be encouraged by this talk! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com. 
19:25
January 21, 2019
007: The Importance of Identity in Recovery
Recently, Frank & Tracey were invited to Gateway Fellowship in Bridgeville, Delaware to talk about the importance of understanding one's identity & purpose. In this podcast, Frank talks about how our purpose derives first from our identity, not the other way around. Remember: WHO you are will always be more important than WHAT you do. We hope you'll be encouraged by this talk! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com. 
29:24
January 14, 2019
006: What is your ultimate goal in recovery?
Kicking off the new year, Frank shares a compelling question for everyone wanting to grow in their recovery journeys: "What is your ultimate goal in recovery?" Where do you envision yourself at the end of this year? What would you like to have accomplished in your journey for sexual purity? These are all crucial questions to be able to answer for all of us. Take some time to reflect on this question for your own life and feel free to share with us your thoughts. We'd love to hear from you! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
09:57
January 07, 2019
Holiday Purity Tips: Stay Rested
In what is quite possibly the most important holiday purity tip that impacts our physical and emotional health the most, getting proper rest probably tops the list. During sleep the brain performs so many incredibly helpful functions that we’re not even aware of including: reinforcing the immune system, resetting stress to zero, repairing the body physically, and even correcting traumatic moments that have occurred. That’s amazing! So remember during the holidays the importance of rest. Even when you’re tempted to stay up late into the night with friends and family (or write an Instagram post like I’m doing right now), make sure you’re getting 7-9 hours of sleep. Your brain, your body, and your recovery will thank you!
01:00
December 23, 2018
Holiday Purity Tips: Stay Connected
Staying connected to your support people is so crucial during the holidays! We're often surrounded by so many friends & family and yet we find ourselves struggling alone. Make it your goal this holiday season to sit down with people who care about your heart & your recovery journey. Share with them how you're doing, what questions you have, and seek the Lord together so you can become the man or woman that God wants you to be! More holiday purity tips coming soon... For more information about this & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
00:52
December 21, 2018
Holiday Purity Tips: Stay Focused
Merry Christmas to all from Purity For Life!!! In the first of a series of holiday purity tips, Frank shares one of the most basic things you can do this Christmas & New Year's for your purity journey: STAY FOCUSED. It's easy to get sidetracked and super stressed out during the holidays -- it seems to happen every year! But we really need to pay close attention to what is going on inside of us. "What am I feeling?" "What are my triggers?" "Why am I feeling pulled to act out?" These are all incredibly valid questions to be asking. The Lord wants to you to slow down and not only capture, but hold your heart close during the holidays. Do your best to stay focused!!! More holiday purity tips coming soon... For more information about this & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
00:47
December 19, 2018
BONUS: Frank’s Story
In this week's bonus content from Pure Gold, Frank shares his story for all those who have never heard it before. It is truly by the grace of God that Frank found freedom from porn addiction and continues to grow healthier today! You can also hear his story by going to the "About" menu on Purity For Life's website. For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
10:43
November 28, 2018
005: How to Practice Gratefulness
In this special Thanksgiving episode Frank shares the importance of practicing gratefulness in recovery and what he's grateful for this year. For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
18:15
November 22, 2018
BONUS: Agreements - Correcting the Lies We've Believed in Life
In this bonus content from Pure Gold, Frank shares a talk he gave recently on the power of agreements -- subtle lies that come into our heart & mind that we might believe about ourselves, others, and even God. Agreements can take a strong hold of our lives if we're not careful. How do we break agreements? Don't miss this one! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
34:27
November 15, 2018
004: The Role of Rest in Recovery
How much sleep do you get on average? Have you ever stopped to think how much your recovery could be affected by the amount and quality of sleep you're getting? This week, Frank talks about how important it is that we get proper rest if we want to be healthy in recovery and within life in general. Also, what does the Bible have to say about rest? More than you might think! Enjoy the podcast! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
13:13
November 12, 2018
003: How do I talk to my wife about my addiction?
This week, Frank and Tracey help answer a question from a man who's getting ready to get married and wants to know how to talk to his (soon to be) wife about his addiction & his recovery? What does that conversation look like and how often should it take place? This is a super important question you don't want to miss the answer to! Enjoy! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
20:14
November 07, 2018
RESOURCE: Protecting Yourself Online with Covenant Eyes 👀
One of many steps you must take in recovery if you want to find freedom and live with sexual integrity is protecting yourself online by using some kind of filtering or accountability software. In this podcast, Frank shares why this is so important for your health and recommends his favorite software that you should install today! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
10:17
November 01, 2018
UPDATE: New podcast, website, & resources!
This week on Pure Gold, Frank highlights some of the major changes going on with Purity For Life lately: a new podcast (RSS feed & iTunes changes), beneficial resources on our website, & how you can best connect with Frank & Tracey at Purity For Life. For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
07:34
October 28, 2018
BONUS: How Sex Addiction Can Destroy Your Marriage
In this bonus content from Purity For Life, we go back to an interview I did with my wife Tracey is 2014 about the pain that she walked through as I struggled with a pornography addiction which greatly inhabited the first year of our marriage. Tracey shares her feelings about our story and where God has brought her as well as gives some great advice to wives who are hurting from their husband's sex addiction. This is one you don't want to miss! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
27:52
October 23, 2018
002: Why Sexual Purity Matters
Pure Gold is back this week with perhaps the most important question we've ever asked: "Why does sexual purity matter?" Frank attempts to unpack this question, give Scriptural backing, and shares an incredible article from Moral Revolution, "10 Lies We Believe About Sexual Purity". If you're questioning whether the journey for sexual purity is worth it or not, please listen &/or watch this episode! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
22:44
October 23, 2018
001: Welcome to Pure Gold!
Welcome to the first episode of a brand new podcast! Pure Gold is an honest, no nonsense take on what it means to live with sexual integrity. Each podcast offers practical tips and suggestions on how to strengthen your character, deepen your transparency, & grow in truth through the power of Jesus Christ. In this premiere episode, Frank talks about what's behind the "Pure Gold" name and shares some characteristics and qualities of pure gold. For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
14:35
October 23, 2018
196: Why God Can't Keep Us Pure
Purity For Life is back! It's been a little while, but we've got some fresh new content for you this week. First up, it's our featured topic: "Why God Can't Keep Us Pure" where we explore what purity really is and what it isn't. Next up is a brand new purity tip you'll really benefit from and finally in our Guest Voice segment, we hear from Pastor John Piper on "Why You Give in to Sexual Sin". Some really eye-opening thoughts to consider! Enjoy the podcast! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
18:42
August 28, 2018
195: The War In Your Head
This week on PFL, we hear from Pastor Bill Johnson of Bethel Church in Redding, California on the warfare that takes place in the mind and how we should be fighting this battle when it comes to our door. We hope you’ll enjoy this special podcast! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
45:01
July 23, 2018
194: Is Your Mariage a Sanctuary or a Battleground?
This week on PFL, we talk about the value of your marriage here on this earth, but also for eternity. Frank & Tracey Honess talk specifically from their marriage and some of the principles that have guided them in the last nine years of their relationship with each other, especially through addiction and recovery. For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
32:12
July 10, 2018
193: Leaving Shame Behind
Shame is all to common among men & women in addiction. This week, we talk about the power of shame in our lives. But guess what? You don't have to live with shame! Find out one of the most powerful disciplines you can begin building in to your life to help you combat shame & condemnation. For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
29:53
June 26, 2018
192: 5S Recovery w/ Jeff Fisher Pt.2
This week, we share part two of our interview with Jeff Fisher on 5S Recovery! We hope this two part series has been a blessing for your recovery and helps you better understand the journey that you're on for sexual purity. Enjoy the podcast! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
22:26
June 11, 2018
191: 5S Recovery w/ Jeff Fisher Pt.1
This week, we kick off a series on 5S Recovery! What is 5S Recovery you ask? Well, we sit down and talk with Jeff Fisher, director of PurityCoaching.com as he shares with us five specific areas we should focus on in our recovery journeys. Enjoy the podcast! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
27:31
June 04, 2018
190: A Worthy Battle
In this Memorial Day episode, we thank all those have fought and are fighting for our country and then move to celebrate those who are fighting a worthy battle for sexual purity in their lives. Frank shares from Ephesians 6:10-18 and talks about the necessity of fighting from God's protection and not our own. Enjoy the podcast! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
16:31
May 28, 2018
189: Is Masturbation Healthy?
Some of the greatest questions within the area of sexual purity revolve around the subject of masturbation. Is masturbation healthy? Is it really that harmful? Can it be addicting? Many within our culture (and the Church) have given this issue a pass, deeming it acceptable. But there's a deeper discussion to be had about this issue and that's what Frank talks about this week in the featured segment. We also pull a fantastic interview from episode 5 where we spoke with Anthony Trader, co-founder of the Underground, a ministry aiming to help men & their spouses find healing from sexual addiction! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
28:45
May 23, 2018
188: BONUS Interview - Accountability Among Believers
Following hot on the heels of episode 187, Frank shares a special interview done recently at a local church where the discussion centered on accountability among believers. We hope you enjoy this bonus content from Purity For Life! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
12:45
May 11, 2018
187: The Art of Accountability
This week on the podcast: Is accountability really that important? And if so, who's it for and what does it look like practically? Frank shares four specific thoughts on what real accountability looks like. Enjoy! 01:49 - Accountability Is For Everyone 05:36 - Accountability Works Best With Safe & Healthy People 11:16 - Accountability Only Works If You're Honest 14:41 - Accountability Starts With the Question: "How's Your Heart?" For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
20:33
May 07, 2018
186: Carrying The Resurrection
This week on the podcast: 04:19 - Message: "Carrying The Resurrection" 30:09 - Closing Thoughts/Future Episode Teaser w/ Tracey Honess For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
32:26
April 23, 2018
185: Is Life Better Without Porn?
This week on the podcast: 03:16 - Why My Life Is Better Without Porn 08:03 - Creating a Sobriety Plan Pt.1 - Matt Fradd 17:07 - Questions or Comments? Leave Us a Voicemail! 18:31 - Thanks for listening this week! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
19:54
April 11, 2018
184: BLAST - A Tool For Understanding Triggers
This week on the podcast: 02:28 - BLAST - A Tool For Understanding Triggers 08:09 - #THANKFUL Series Preview 14:26 - What is Holiness? by The Bible Project 21:02 - The Mind of Christ by Bill Johnson For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
25:23
March 26, 2018
182: Troubleshooting Your Recovery
This week on the podcast: 03:12 - Featured Topic: Troubleshooting Your Recovery 08:33 - 8 Things You Need To Know Before Watching Porn (pt.1) 14:27 - Covenant Eyes Promo 16:02 - 8 Things You Need To Know Before Watching Porn (pt.2) For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
24:14
March 26, 2018
183: Two Recovery Lessons That Changed My Life
This week on the podcast: 02:51 - Two Recovery Lessons That Changed My Life 24:10 - Get the first 30 days of Small Groups Online for free! 25:43 - Questions or comments? Leave us a voicemail! For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
31:13
March 19, 2018
181: Porn Turns People Into Objects
This week on the podcast: 00:44 - Featured Topic: Porn Turns People Into Objects 05:29 - How Do You Treat the Opposite Sex? 10:34 - Guest Feature: Nate Larkin on being a martyr in recovery. For more information about this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
18:36
March 04, 2018
180: God's Possible Impossibilities
This week on the podcast, Frank shares from an article called "God's Possible Impossibilities". Also, an incredible purity tip on guarding our eyes! For more information on this podcast & other great content, visit pflhome.com.
11:47
February 26, 2018
179: I’m Triggered! Now What?
Learning what triggers are and how to best handle them is such a valuable lesson in our recovery journeys. This week, we identify healthy and unhealthy avenues to take when you feel pulled down the wrong direction. Enjoy!
31:44
February 07, 2018
178: Recovery Goals In 2018
We're back with the first podcast of 2018! To kick off the year, we're talking about goals, more specifically RECOVERY GOALS. Are goals even worth making? And if so, what should they be as it relates to our recovery journeys? Maybe you haven't even thought of making goals of where you want to be by the end of 2018. This is the podcast to get you started on your journey! This week, we did something different and recorded the podcast live on Facebook & Instagram (video included below). Thank you to all who joined Facebook Live and watched live on Instagram. Enjoy the podcast!
19:29
January 17, 2018
177: False Starts In Recovery
This week on the podcast we talk about false starts in recovery. What does that mean? Oftentimes, those coming out of addiction begin their recovery with a lot of momentum and great intentions for freedom only to run into a lot of challenges along the way. What are two keys for long-term growth that is sustainable? Frank talks about two reasons why false starts happen in recovery from sex addiction and how to achieve tangible long-lasting growth.
21:08
December 11, 2017
176: Your Spouse Needs This
Oftentimes in a man's recovery, so much attention is given to his journey and what he needs to get healthy that his wife seems to be left in the shadows. What about her needs? What is she needing the most for her own recovery? This week, Frank & Tracey talk about what a wife needs most from her husband as he walks in recovery from sexual addiction.
15:31
November 28, 2017
175: Why Do I Have Sex Dreams?
This week on the podcast, we jump into a question I've gotten quite a bit from guys I work with: "Why do I have sexual dreams?" What do they mean? Are they harmful? Sinful? Is there something wrong with me? I attempt to address those questions and more as we talk some about dreams, the body, and the brain on the Purity For Life Podcast!
28:52
November 12, 2017
174: Why Join a Support Group?
One of the greatest tools a man in recovery from sex addiction can ever utilize is being apart of a support group. Knowing others and being known is so important for your recovery journey! In this episode, Frank talks about why & how you can get involved in a local or online support group.
25:19
November 06, 2017
173: Best Friends With Porn
The Purity For Life podcast kicks off a new season this week with my story from sexual addiction to sexual recovery. For more information & other resources, go to pflhome.com!
16:56
October 29, 2017
172: Recovery Without Jesus
THIS WEEK: Is recovery possible without Jesus? Also, BIG news about our new website! Learning the discipline of gratitude & a purity tip on watching our idle time.
17:27
October 16, 2017
171: The Wrecking Ball
This week on the podcast, we go back to an interview in 2014 between Tracey Honess & myself on how sexual addiction can destroy marriage.
30:11
October 02, 2017
170: The Power of Our Thoughts
THIS WEEK'S SEGMENTS: The Power of Our Thoughts • Where Does Your Peace Come From? • Purity Tip: Journaling What's Inside • Thanks for listening! Visit us: facebook.com/pflde
15:16
September 18, 2017
169: Seasons of Refinement
Welcome the Purity for Life Podcast! This week's topics include an in depth conversation on what we can learn through the hard seasons of life. Also, a purity tip on how we can honor our spouses!
34:15
September 05, 2017
168: The Pornified Brain
THIS WEEK: 3 Traits of True Repentance • Should Christians Watch Game of Thrones? • Purity Tip: Use Social Media Wisely • Dr. Bill Struthers & Porn's Impact on the Brain
27:26
July 30, 2017
167: True Repentance Works
Welcome to the Purity for Life Podcast! • How Our Integrity Influences Future Generations • Repentance in the Life of a Believer • "Repentance" by Corey Russel of IHOP • "Repentance" by Corey Russe...
23:60
July 23, 2017
166: Finding Contentment - Pt.2
Purity for Life Podcast - Episode 166 • Finding Contentment (cont.) • Give Your Kids Attention, Not Your iPhone! • Recovery Tip: Bookending • Recovery Tip: The 24 Hour Rule • Thanks for listening! ...
17:32
July 16, 2017
165: Finding Contentment - Pt.1
PFL 165: Finding Contentment (cont.) • What is contentment? • Learning to walk in contentment is a process! • The secret to contentment... • The Source of our contentment lies in Jesus!
20:25
July 09, 2017
164: The Cost of Freedom
As we approach July 4th, a beloved holiday in our nation, I'm thinking about freedom and the cost that it carries. What has your story of freedom been? Do you need encouragement today? Call in!
06:16
July 02, 2017
163: A New Season!
A New Season!
04:50
July 02, 2017