Welcome to Push Factor Radio with Sheila Makena where I help you say "wow, I never thought about it that way" with each new podcast I share with you. Each week I want to help you (and me) become better individuals than we were yesterday. If you like this idea then go ahead and subscribe! I'll be posting a new episode each week so stay tuned!
Have you ever met someone, deeply connected with them and within a few minutes, they have already pick up your deepest insecurity?
That one issue that you've been struggling with for the better part of your adult life, this person can see it, clear as day, as though you've held up a sign saying "Hi, I am Sheila Makena and I suffer from debilitating self doubt!"
We can either continue to feel bad about it or use it to our advantage.
In this podcast, I discuss 4 ways to stop beating yourself up when it comes to self doubt!
Making a big life decision can be nerve wrecking, which is a naturally way to feel.
In this video, I break down how you know the decision you are about to make is the right one for you by giving you 3 questions to ask yourself
1. Is this a decision you will regret 10 years from now?
2. What would you advise someone close to you going through the same thing?
3. What would happen if you did not make this decision at all, in other words, did absolutely nothing about it?
These 3 very compelling questions could help you come to the realization that you need to make the big life decision that you need to.
he idea of architecting your life might conjure up ideas like design, building and creating. This can also conjure up excitement at the idea of re-creating your life anew. For people like me, the idea definitely does infuse a level of renewed energy and passion for what I refer to as the second chapter of my life...
In this rant I talk about this idea of architecting one's life. You might find a fresh perspective to consider from it ;-)
The idea of getting comfortable with being uncomfortable is... uncomfortable!
It means making a conscious effort to get out of our comfort zones and actually start doing, thinking and living a little differently
... but the truth is, there is no growth in comfort. It doesn't exist!
In this episode I explore the idea of getting comfortable with being uncomfortable and its benefits to our personal growth.
How do you change the way you talk to yourself, especially because you have gotten so used to the negative things you constantly think?
It's not easy but it is very possible to change your inner narrative and here's how!
Self love and self preservation are two completely different things, and in this podcast, I explore the difference between the two.
As I have gotten older, my definition of self love has changed drastically.
Now, things like self discipline, delayed gratification and making sacrifices are a big part of what my definition of self love is.
But self compassion also plays a big component. It's not all about being your own drill sergeant!
Create Your Own Momentum!
Create Your Own Energy!
Create Your Own Motivation!
Create Your Own Inspiration!
This is what today's podcast is all about. Click on the link below to understand why, now more than ever, you MUST create your own drive!
We all have self-defeating behaviors and beliefs that sabotage us from the kind of life we want to lead. In this video I tackle the topic of self defeating beliefs, where they come from and how to change them!
Being thankful has changed my life.
It has made me more humble and aware of the privileges I have,
It has grounded me and made me more self compassionate,
I believe gratitude is the reason I sleep well at night!
This week I want us all to focus more on the good in our lives, and the things we should be thankful for.
I believe the only way to get out of the "self doubt" rut is to take action.
Doing something consistently everyday will keep you from using that same energy to worry and analyze what is wrong and what could go wrong in the aspects of your life.
My suggestion is that you start a 30 Day Challenge for yourself. You can decide to
- save money
- drink more water
- eat a leaner diet
- get into an easy exercise routine
- wake up an hour earlier
- meditate/do deep breathing exercise
- read a few pages of that book you've been meaning to read!
I created a free daily planner you can use to monitor whichever activity you choose to use!
Click here: http://bit.ly/2DjxVhX
It is free to download, no email address or anything of the sort.
This is an un-edited rant about self sabotage.
What exactly is self sabotage, where does it come from and how do we overcome it? In this video, I delve into this topic to discovery the anatomy of this self destructive behavior and how we can minimize it in our lives
This podcast is dedicated to us with bad tempers... us with anger addictions.
I want to have a deep and honest discussion with you about what triggers our anger, how to control it and most importantly, what to do when we do lose our temper!
How do you improve your emotional intelligence or EQ?
First of all, what exactly IS Emotional Intelligence?
According to the dictionary, here is the definition of emotional intelligence:
"the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one's emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically."
I have broken down, as simply as possible, how emotional intelligence has completely changed my life by doing one thing: being aware of my emotions, both the negative as well as the negative.
Emotional intelligence is about managing both sides of our emotions. It is unhealthy to be too negative as it is unhealthy to be too positive, and I explain why in this video.
How do you re-invent yourself after 35? Or even after 40?
I call life after 35 "The Next Chapter Of Your Life". It's that place where you are not a younger adult anymore, but you are now moving into a whole new sphere of age that comes with a new set of challenges and opportunities.
If you are in a place where you are 35 and above and you feel stuck and frustrated, I share how to change that in this video.
In this podcast I suggest doing only one thing to achieve your goals this year!
If you get overwhelmed easily, then why not decide to focus on one goal each day?
Focus on ONE activity that you want to accomplish. You can even start a 30 day challenge for yourself where you decide to focus on 1 goal, idea, habit, activity, whatever you like.
But you have to promise yourself that you will get it done!
1. Use my daily goal planner to write down the 1 goal you want to achieve
2. Write down what outcome you would like to achieve from this goal
3. Make sure you sign your goal sheet after you have completed your goal, as a sense of pride that you actually did it!
After this age, we have normalized life so much that we are unaware that there are some major barriers that are keeping us from achieving new levels of who we can be.
In this podcast, I lay out 4 main tips to improving your self esteem
- Getting out of your comfort zone
- Finalizing unresolved past issues
- Re-evaluating your relationships
- What to do when your career stagnates
Is the way you are looking at your life right now healthy for you or not? Are you overly critical of where you are right now? If so, this episode is about how to take advantage of any situation presented to you, whether you see it as an opportunity or not.
In this first episode I talk about how my relationship with my father went from anger and resentment to respect, love and appreciation. If you struggle with your relationship with your parents, perhaps this segment can give you some insight!