The Three L’s—Down to earth mental health and wellness commentary on living, learning, and loving

When was the last time you reflected on where your time and energy was going to? Do you feel like you are currently engaging in people, places, and things that support your core values system? Today, Rachel Ann Dine, LPC is breaking down what it means to live the quality over quantity lifestyle complete with tips for you to engage in your own self-assessment. Learn to understand what is serving you and what may NO longer be serving you well in your life. 

Have you ever felt frustrated with the dating scene, maybe wondered whether or not to try online dating? Feel like you are still looking for your other half?! With the holidays around the corner, sometimes this time can be hard—especially if you are single. Really at any time, embracing being single and or learning to create a life you love as well as find someone to spend in your life can be trying/difficult. 

We are covering it all today: Whether you are single or dating someone right now, listen in as Rachel Ann Dine, LPC welcomes Dr. Christie Kederian, relationship expert on to the show today! Dr. Kederian shares the latest stats on online dating, tips to find your person, and tips to navigate dating both online and in real life.

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If you have been in the workforce at any level, any time in life, any age, whatever the case may be--then you may have come across a difficult coworker situation. Having a colleague who demonstrates toxic behaviors can be extremely stressful! Today on The Three L's Podcast, Rachel Ann Dine, LPC is breaking down 5 different (difficult!) coworker archetypes, providing take action tips you can implement to deal with these different kinds of coworkers, and normalizing this unfortunate toxic experience that can happen. As an adult, you may spend more time at work then at home. When your work environment is unhealthy or downright toxic, it can absolutely cause great stress. Listen on in for the complete breakdown of difficult or toxic behaviors of coworkers in the workplace and receive strategies for navigating. Be empowered to deal with difficult coworkers in a way that is healthy for you!

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Understanding motorphobia: how to know you have driving anxiety and what you should do to COPE! Driving anxiety, otherwise referred to at times as motorphobia, is actually a pretty common form of anxiety. Almost all forms of anxiety or phobias stem from an intense fear. Experiencing anxiety while driving or riding in a car can happen to just about anyone and because of a variety of different reasons. As an anxiety therapist, I always want to normalize different mental health issues, provide down to earth and relatable information on anxiety issues, and of course, give you realistic coping strategies you can implement. In understanding what is sometimes referred to as motorphobia, my goal is to share how to know you have driving anxiety and what you should do to cope! With motorphobia, or driving anxiety, there ARE ways you can learn to manage anxiety symptoms and feel more confident behind the wheel. Stay tuned to the end of the episode for 4 different ways you can realistically cope with motorphobia and or driving anxiety. Anxiety can often be a part of life and happen to any one of us, but I want you to feel encouraged in knowing there ARE ways to manage anxiety symptoms.

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Are you familiar with relationship anxiety? Do you have generalized anxiety? Relationship anxiety can cause you to feel nervous or anxious in your romantic relationship. However, relationship anxiety can even show up in platonic relationships. Today on the Three L's Podcast, Rachel Ann Dine, LPC is explaining exactly WHAT relationship anxiety is but also goes a step deeper to talk about the root causes of relationship anxiety and signs that relationship Anxiety may be causing you to feel nervous In your romantic relationship. Anxiety can affect a person on multiple levels and it can absolutely show up in a romantic relationship. Learn to understand the reasons why you may be feeling nervous in your romantic relationship, get to know the signs of relationship anxiety, and better yet, receive coping strategies for dealing with relationship anxiety. Symptoms of relationship anxiety can vary and this episode shares easy to use, realistic interventions that you can start implementing right away to better manage relationship anxiety that you may be experiencing. Knowledge is power! 

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Today on the Three L's, Rachel Ann Dine, LPC is outlining problematic unregulated life coaching strategies and how to spot them. We are currently in the age of life coaching exploding onto the scene in our culture. Whether it is the Instagram coach, or motivational speakers like Rachel Hollis or Tony Robbins, there are several tactics to be aware of that most of these individuals appear to be using to gain followers and clientele.  

Life coaching is a completely unregulated industry at this current time of recording and there are some major differences between therapy and life coaching being shared in today’s video. From understanding the problematic nature of the Rachel Hollis hustle culture toxic positivity to shaming language used by motivational speakers like Tony Robbins and other coaches, the goal with this episode is not to demonize the self-help field but instead point out areas to be aware of in your quest for self improvement.  Rachel Ann is a firm believer in reaching out for help and working on yourself, and is sure that there are some ethical coaches, but, with the explosion of the unregulated life coaching strategies and industry, her hope is to point out problematic areas of this industry, talk about the difference between therapy and life coaching, and provide you with some information that helps You navigate the field of self-help.  

**Please take note that this video is for educational purposes, commentary, and a critique on certain strategies used in the life coaching industry. This video is my reaction as a therapist to observed problematic strategies used by life coaching which is at this time, an unregulated industry.   

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If your mood changes as the seasons change or you know that you have symptoms of Seasonal Depression (AKA Seasonal Affective Disorder) then knowing how to combat and manage symptoms is key! Sometimes your doctor may prescribe an antidepressant to assist in managing symptoms and be empowered to explore this option if it feels right for you, but there are also several other holistic treatment options available. Listen in today as Rachel Ann Dine, LPC talks about 4 holistic treatment strategies you can realistically start implementing in your life to combat and manage symptoms of seasonal depression.

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Have you wondered why your mood changes as the seasons change? Do you notice year after year, your mood changes with the onset of fall or winter, even spring or summer? Today I'm talking all about what Seasonal Affective Disorder is, other wise known as Seasonal Depression and WHY it happens. Understanding how your body operates in conjunction with seasonal changes can be helpful in understanding how to cope. This episode first discusses mood changes that happen as the seasons change, and then outlines all of the symptoms of seasonal affective disorder that can occur in both fall/winter and spring/summer. Seasonal Depression can look a lot like major depression disorder but there are some small nuances and symptoms that can arise, tune in to see what symptoms can come up as the seasons change! 

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Ever wondered what happens in your first therapy appointment? Are you going to your first therapy appointment in the near future? I made this video to help ease any anxiety you may be feeling about starting therapy and understanding what to expect in your first counseling appointment! The hardest step can be reaching out to someone for help, so be proud of yourself for making that first appointment. Thinking about going to therapy or counseling (the terms are interchangeable!)? Watch as I break down the most commonly held events that happen and talk about what happens in that very first therapy appointment. I'm a licensed counselor and am here to explain what I do personally, plus hopefully encourage you to make that first appointment if you've been curious about what that first appointment is like!  

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Wondering if you should start therapy? I'm sharing the big signs therapy could be helpful for you especially if you're dealing with these things in your life! Starting therapy for the first time can absolutely feel scary and even hard to do. Sometime wondering if you're at the point where therapy would be helpful can even come up. As a licensed therapist, I often see clients who are starting therapy for the very first time and I want to normalize for YOU 1. How the making the first call to a therapist can be difficult and 2. Share some big signs therapy could be helpful for you (especially if you're currently dealing with some of the problems I talk about in the video). I want to normalize going to mental health counseling and treating your mental health like you would treat a physical health issue. Tune in and let me know your thoughts on starting therapy! Hoping this helps provide validation on getting your therapeutic journey started.

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Is high functioning anxiety the same thing as generalized anxiety disorder? What are the signs? Let's talk high functioning anxiety, what it looks like, why it can go unnoticed, and coping strategies for high functioning anxiety. In many ways, high functioning anxiety has seemingly positive traits to it (successful at getting a lot done, being a hard worker, being well-liked by others), but there are some root causes to high functioning anxiety I'm sharing today to help you along on your self-awareness journey.  Have you ever asked yourself, "why am I such a perfectionist?!" Listen to learn more about symptoms of high functioning anxiety and how perfectionism and HFA go hand and hand. 

As an anxiety therapist, I primarily focus on helping people who have high functioning anxiety reduce symptoms of anxiety and understand more about what drives them. Listen today to hear all the signs and symptoms of high functioning anxiety, plus get mental health resources to help manage high functioning anxiety if you find this video resonates with you! 

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If you have anxiety or depression, at one point or another, you may have considered starting an antidepressant or anti-anxiety medication. Or, you may be wondering for the first time whether or not you should start taking medication for symptoms of anxiety or depression. Today on The Three L’s podcast, Rachel Ann Dine, LPC is breaking down most common pros and cons of starting and taking medication for anxiety or depression. This is a non-biased episode that is packed full of information to help you along in your journey and allow you to hopefully make a very well informed decision on whether or not you want to take medication! Be empowered to always do what is going to feel right for you and hopefully, this episode helps to get you there. 

Conflict in life is unavoidable, but also, can be difficult to navigate! Whether you identify as a people pleaser, have difficulty being assertive, or are on the other side of the spectrum and feel high levels of anger when conflict arises, learning how to deal with conflict will always serve you well. Conflict resolution and management styles can vary greatly. Managing conflict is often something we learn to do based upon the models we had growing up, our experiences, and our unique personality traits. On today's episode, Rachel Ann Dine, LPC breaks down what the 5 conflict management styles are, healthy versus unhealthy conflict resolutions skills are, and shares tips for navigating conflict effectively. Here's to navigating the unavoidable conflicts that life sometimes brings in an effective and empowering way for you!

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Making friends in your 20's and 30's can take a whole different shape! This is a topic that Rachel Ann Dine, LPC has talked with many people about and today on The Three L's, she is breaking down the most common reasons making friends as an adult can be a bit more difficult. You also know that in addition to talking about the reasons why making friends as an adult can be a bit err, complicated, Rachel Ann also shares her favorite strategies for branching out and meeting new people. As always, Rachel Ann would love to hear your thoughts. How has it been for you to make friends as an adult? Have you noticed it's been more difficult? Reach out on IG or email (linked below!). Here's to making healthy friendships but also being validated that making friends as an adult can be hard!  

Family dynamics! We all have them and they can fall on a spectrum of healthy to unhealthy. Today, Rachel Ann Dine, LPC is analyzing a current relationship (Britney Spears and her father) to share about how upbringing can come into play in the present moment, toxic traits of family dynamics, screening questions to ask yourself, and also breaking down what's happening now with Jamie Spears stepping down from Britney's conservatorship and some potential problems with the ambiguity of him leaving. There was a backstory here with Britney Spears and her father, and today, I'm sharing my analysis of family dynamics through the lens of Britney and her father. From emotional blackmail, gaslighting, power and control, learn to recognize the signs of toxic family dynamics. While this episode is an analysis of Britney Spears and her father, I also hope you are able to learn warning signs to look out for, as well as better recognize when negative family dynamics may be at play! What are your thoughts on this situation or on family dynamics in general? I'd love to know!

Andrew Cuomo is the latest to have been found to have used destructive leadership practices that are keen to what is called the toxic triangle. Why does abuse of power keep happening? What is the toxic triangle? Today on The Three L's, Rachel Ann Dine, LPC is sharing her analysis on this most recent development with Cuomo, how the toxic triangle theory applies, the 9 traits of narcissistic personality disorder, and defining what sexual misconduct and harassment are in the workplace (and beyond). The abuse of power continues and the Cuomo story is only another instance of many where a person in a leadership position becomes destructive. Learn to recognize the elements that go into destructive leadership as well as the toxic triangle and trickle down method. Knowledge is always power. Rachel Ann wholeheartedly supports the women speaking up and hopes this episode continues to shed light on WHAT sexual harassment and misconduct are.

We've all had those moments where we didn't feel the most confident, or even good about ourselves. If not feeling good about yourself becomes chronic, though, this is when depression and severe anxiety can start entering into your life. Listen in to The Three L's today to hear Rachel Ann Dine, LPC break down how you can start implementing these strategies to feel more confident. You absolutely deserve to feel good about yourself no matter where you are in your life journey, what previous mistakes you may have made (you're human!), or hardships you have been through!

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We all know Simone Biles has decided to withdraw from the Tokyo Olympics, and today, as a therapist, I'm sharing my reaction along with info on Simone's journey in life, career explained, and how she has continued to overcome. Simone has been vocal about her mental health journey, paving a path to continue to destigmatize mental health.   

Also discussed is information on the athlete mindset, high potential personalities, how identity can become engrained, and why mental health advocacy is so important. Simone Biles is a person who has demonstrated choosing to honor her mental health through withdrawing from the Olympics, and a lot can be learned from her! I'm breaking down some key moments in her past that may have led her to this decision in addition to talking all about what a high potential personality type is, and how Simon Biles is creating mental health awareness for us all. Life can be stressful. Being an Olympian carries great pressure with it. Combine it all with being in the spotlight and stress can be compounded! Cheers to Simone for her bravery. #mentalhealthishealth #takecareofyou

Spiritual abuse is a real occurrence and can show up in a variety of ways and areas in life. Today on The Three L's, Rachel Ann Dine, LPC welcomes Natalie Kember, LCSW onto the show to discuss what spiritual abuse is, the signs, and the process for overcoming and healing. Join in as we discuss shaming language to watch out for, signs of leaders who are narcissistic or use manipulation, and how cults function. Spiritual abuse can occur on a spectrum and Natalie shares what it looks like on many different levels. This is a must listen!

Where did feminine beauty ideals come from? When did make-up come about in popularity? And does the beauty industry capitalize on insecurities to push products? Listen in to The Three L's today as Rachel Ann Dine, LPC covers all these questions plus more! Be empowered to express yourself through make-up or without-and know that you can create and already are-your own beautiful just by being you.

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What is love-bombing?! Love-bombing can be an intoxicating process and one that's hard to recognize. It can be easy to become swept up in love-bombing, but what happens when the façade of the narcissist or abusive person cracks? Listen in to The Three L's today as Rachel Ann Dine, LPC highlights the tell-tale signs of love-bombing, why love-bombing happens, and questions for reflection. 

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There are family dynamics in EVERY family. And with family dynamics, comes family roles. One role in particular is The Outsider (or Black Sheep which is an antiquated term and for today's show, Rachel Ann is using The Outsider). Listen in to The Three L's to hear an in depth description of how feeling like the outsider of the family can affect biology, present itself in adulthood, defense mechanisms that can develop, and strategies for relearning and rebuilding an identity of self-acceptance that is authentic to who you are. 

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We are bombarded with messaging all the time when it comes to money, wellness, and women centric business concepts. But is there a toxic underbelly to some of the messages floating around? Listen in to The Three L's Podcast today as Rachel Ann Dine, LPC dissects several messages that tend to float around. Hear a deeper look on the podcast today about potential downfalls of these messages that could create unrealistic views, potentially cause a person to feel they aren't doing enough, and hear validating encouragement for you to structure your life in a way that feels good to you-because we all have different needs! Chip in with this discussion (contact info below!) because Rachel Ann is curious if you've noticed these messages or any others that need to be further discussed.

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Social media. It's everywhere and has become a prominent fixture in our lives! But is your relationship healthy or unhealthy? How to tell? Listen in to The Three L's Podcast today to hear Rachel Ann Dine, LPC share the latest stats on social media use, the signs the relationship with social media could be negative and how social media has positively affected our live. Ps. The documentary Rachel Ann recommends you watch is called: Fake Famous on HBO

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Happy to be here for this bonus episode, today on The Three L's, Rachel Ann Dine, LPC responds to a question from a listener writer in! To self-disclose or not self-disclose in the therapy room? Is it appropriate? Are there certain things to keep in mind? The answer is yes all around-but there are some rules of thumb when self-disclosing. Thanks for the great question and keep them coming! Feel free to e-mail or message on Instagram your question or comment (contact linked below)! Secondly, Rachel Ann shares brief updates she's been aware of on the abuse of power with a prominent person in the media right now and briefly talks how they fit the Toxic triangle discussed in episode 67.

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Being lied to is an awful feeling. The emotions, the betrayal, and the experience can feel devastating. So why do people do it?! Listen in to The Three L's Podcast today as Rachel Ann Dine, LPC talks the anatomy of a lie. Why do people lie? Research suggests there are 9 common motives for telling a lie. Can you really spot a lie, are there tell-tale signs? The short answer-yes and no-it's complicated! And what exactly constitutes a pathological liar? There are some major contributing factors that go into pathologically lying and Rachel Ann is unpacking them on today's episode.

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Welcome back to season 3 of The Three L's Podcast! Rachel Ann Dine, LPC is SO happy to be back and today is unpacking WHAT the abuse of power is and how it can show up in everyday life. With the recent explosion of the self-help industry, there are also certain tactics being used she wants you to be aware of that borderline on more harmful than helpful.

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Woohoo! Season 3 of The Three L's is kicking off on June 1, 2021 with a whole new line-up of spicy topics! Listen in today as Rachel Ann Dine, LPC shares a sneak peek of what's to come this season, how public figures are promoting mental health awareness, stats on the vaccine, and stats related to Mental Health Awareness Month. Can't wait to get this next season started and hope you enjoy the kick off to season 3 today!

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As season 2 of The Three L's comes to a close, Rachel Ann Dine, LPC is SO glad you have joined in! Today is an off the cuff episode on what is happening with The Three L's Podcast, tips for the coming new year (setting SMART goals, engaging in the New Year reflective process that naturally occurs every New Year's, plus making changes to be the more content version of yourself), and where we can stay in touch for more podcast episodes! Thank you for being a listener and here is hoping you have a reflective start to 2021.

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Today on The Three L's, we are starting to wrap up season 2 with a special guest on the show! Join in as Rachel Ann Dine, LPC interviews her very own mom, Suzanne, a former nurse, flight attendant, and mother of two, on what she has learned in life. We talk all things healthy traits of being human, how to be kind to self and others, the mother/daughter relationship, making the choice to have children/not have children, and we discuss family dynamics! Rachel Ann is happy to share a piece of her life (and the conversations she often has with her mom!) and we are happy to provide practical advice to inspire and empower you to create life from a place of confidence.

Manifesting your desires into reality. It sounds beautiful, but does it really work? 

Listen in today as LPC, Rachel Ann Dine talks from a pragmatic point of view about visualization and manifestation. Plus, hear ways you can put into practice visualization and manifestation, similarities between self-fulfilling prophecy and manifestation, and how to let go of limiting beliefs and define the desires you have in your life!

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Narcissistic abuse is real and sometimes as an adult, you can look back at how your were raised, the family dynamics, and how you felt growing up and catch on to unhealthy traits of parental figures. Learn to recognize the signs and understand more what narcissism is, how it can manifest itself in parent to child interactions, and gain more self-awareness with this episode on the The Three L's Podcast with Rachel Ann Dine, LPC.

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Anxiety. In all honesty, it's pretty much unavoidable! But there are ways you can better understand yourself + know how to cope. Listen in to The Three L's today as host Rachel Ann Dine, LPC has guest, Marquita Myrick, LPC on to talk all about managing anxiety, implementing realistic strategies to feel empowered, and knowing when to reach out for help! Be empowered to better understand how anxiety can show up + ways you can handle! If you've been feeling extra anxious lately, or already know you have anxiety, this episode is for YOU. 

Emotions. A part of our lives no matter who you are or what you may be going through. But do you know how to actively acknowledge and accept difficult emotions? This can be a touch experience of living and this episode is here to help!

Listen in as Licensed Professional Counselor, Rachel Ann Dine talks all about the empirically evidence based strategy and therapeutic modality of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, built upon the foundation of mindfulness and acceptance along with behavior change strategies. ACT is a great set of techniques to achieve the goal of being more resilient and psychologically flexible. And who doesn't need that?!

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"I feel anxious." --Said by everyone at one point or another, but did you know there is another pervasive form of anxiety called High Functioning Anxiety? HFA looks slightly different than Generalized Anxiety Disorder in that there are some seemingly positive attributes of HFA.

This episode is a must listen if you identify as high achieving, perfectionistic, and or Type A! Rachel Ann Dine, LPC is going deep into the characteristics of High Functioning Anxiety, how it can be helpful (say what?!), difficult, and the root cause of high functioning anxiety.

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Food and you! Eating is a necessary part of our daily existence, but how healthy is your relationship with food? For Kelly King, creating this healthy relationship is all about being realistic, compassionate with yourself, and listening to what your body needs. Listen in today as LPC, Rachel Ann Dine, talks with the owner of RealEATable Wellness, Kelly King on REALISTIC strategies for achieving a healthy relationship with what you decide to put into your beautiful bod!

Have you ever thought about or wanted to start your own mental health private practice or wellness based coaching biz?! Do you currently own your  private practice and want to hear what other clinicians are doing to run their businesses effectively? Need guidance on policy setting and ways to create a practice that helps you thrive personally AND professionally?! 

We've got your back with this episode.

Today on the show, we are mixing things up and having Hannah Dorsher, LPC and newer private practice owner of her biz, Hannah Dorsher Counseling, LLC on for a candid conversation on ALL things owning a private practice with Rachel Ann Dine, LPC, owner of  Humanitas Counseling and Consulting, LLC. Listen in to hear our open, transparent Q and A with Rachel Ann on setting healthy boundaries in business ownership, responding to client contact after hours, charging a late cancel and no show fee, and niching down + STICKING to it!

Growing a business can be overwhelming! Where to start?! How to grow?! Where to spend money?! 

Listen in today as Rachel Ann Dine, LPC and owner of her successful mental health private practice, Humanitas Counseling in Chesapeake, Virginia, shares the ESSENTIAL free advertising resources every entrepreneur should be using to grow your business! They’re FREE! ⠀ 

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There's a new term on the streets and it's called pandemic fatigue. Mental health is being tested at every turn and if you've been experiencing an underlying sense of weariness or hopelessness, you are not alone! Listen in today to this bonus, off the cuff episode Rachel Ann Dine, LPC felt compelled to make to spread awareness on what pandemic fatigue is and validate you if you are having a hard time, and of course, offer some guidance to help you in your journey.