Rainbow Pajamas: Stories of Long-Term LGBTQ Relationships
By Rainbow Pajamas
Rainbow Pajamas: Stories of Long-Term LGBTQ RelationshipsMay 31, 2022
12. Meeting Your Love ❣️in Unexpected Places (aka on a Toilet Break)
Most people still meet their partners offline. 66% of people between 25-34 found their partners offline, compared to only 21% of those who met online, according to YouGov research in the UK in 2019. Gays, Lesbians & Bisexuals are more likely to meet their partners online, but it appears to be the minority.
This is not unlike our guests today, Monique and Ellie. They met when Ellie was going to the toilet at London pride 🏳️🌈 and saw Monique with her friends across the bar. (Tip: they had help from a wingman.)
In this episode, the engaged couple talks about how they quit their jobs in the UK to travel in Australia, taking on vastly different jobs in hospitality. They also share how they navigate some of their personality differences, have fun and ... their 💍 proposal ;)
🌁 See pictures of the couple and their social profiles on our Instagram (@rainbowpajamas_).
#LGBTRelationship #Sheandshe #GayCouple
11. Dating Apps Suck, Until They Suddenly Don’t
Before meeting Angel, Nicole said her dating life was "non-existent". However, their lives changed completely after meeting each other online. After 3 months of dating, Nicole proposed to Angel. 💍
Fast forward to now, they've been together for 6 years, married for 5. They are also raising 6 children together while working full time in New Jersey 🇺🇸!
If you’re having tough luck with dating apps, in this episode, Nicole shares a few tips on how she made dating apps work for her. Nicole's dating profile was special – it came in a package of three beautiful humans – her 2 kids and herself. Curious how she found success on the dating app after "kissing a lot of frogs"?
In this episode, they discuss how they met, how they knew they were meant for each other, family approval, racism and of course, how they manage to raise 6 kids while working full time!
🌁 See pictures of the couple and their social profiles on our Instagram (@rainbowpajamas_).
10. Two Christian Wives Marrying 🇨🇱Latin and 🇸🇬Asian Cultures
Kylie and Sophia’s relationship made it into international newspapers when they were forced out of the Christian sorority in UC Berkeley where they had first met. Before they met, neither had ever envisioned themselves in a same-gender relationship. However, when their friendship deepened into a romantic relationship, they were removed from the organisation.
Sophia is the daughter of 🇨🇱Chilean immigrant parents and was raised Roman Catholic in the 🇺🇸US, while Kylie is originally from 🇸🇬Singapore and was raised conservative Evangelical Protestant.
In this episode, they tell us the fascinating story of their relationship, including: how they dealt with the hostility and fall out caused by their relationship in the sorority, how they have navigated other challenges in their relationship such as their very different personalities, cultural backgrounds, and winning the hearts of family members who were not initially very accepting. Kylie’s mom initially just referred to Sophia as “she/her” instead of her name.
We also discussed in detail how they planned a 💍wedding ceremony with influence from Catholic and Protestant practices, Latin culture and Singaporean-chinese culture. This meant a wedding with food and drinks from different continents, different styles of wedding dress, unique wedding traditions and religious ceremonies.
By the way, have you thought about how the queer community invite their family members to their weddings when not all of their family knows about their sexual orientation and partners? We also talked about that and I thought how they did it was fascinating!
Huffington Post article on their story about the sorority fall out: www.huffpost.com/entry/love-thy-sister_n_4899529
9. 17-year Gay Couple🏳️🌈 on Love & Marriage Despite Homophobic Parents
Did you realize that many LGBTQ couples get married without telling their parents? Jason & Rich, a gay couple of 17 years, shares in depth how the relationship with his homophobic parents "dictated" everything in their relationship, how he dealt with it and why he eventually decided to go full "no contact" with his parents.
Despite the difficulties, the couple offer hope and optimism on how they nurture the relationship for 17 years. Both identified as introverts with social anxiety, Rich and Jason discuss why they chose to be monogamous instead of being open, and why we can't build a relationship entirely based on excitement and novelty.
🌁 See pictures of the couple and their social profiles on our Instagram (@rainbowpajamas_).
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8. Ukrainian Queer Woman on War, Homophobia & LGBT community in Ukraine
🇺🇦 We interviewed a 20-year-old Ukrainian bisexual woman, who's now hiding in a bomb shelter in Kharkiv. She talks about her last date with her girlfriend, her life before the invasion and how the 🏳️🌈 queer community in Kharkiv is defending the country.
To LGBTQ Ukrainians, the Russian invasion not only means a breach of sovereignty, but also a threat to their freedom of expression and love. It is crucial for us to document the living history of people in this crisis and let the marginalized communities be heard.
The #LGBTQ community, like other marginalized communities, faces additional challenges during the war. Some organizations are supporting the specific needs of LGBTQ Ukrainians in this crisis, such as providing LGBTQ-friendly accommodation, medical care, psychological support, ARV or hormone therapy, including to those who are fleeing to other countries.
Donate to these suggested organizations below and feel free to add more in the comments:
- Kyiv Pride, which is channeling its funding to organizations in need
- OutRight's Ukraine Emergency Fund (looking for donations)
- Pride Košice, which is supporting LGBT+ refugees (looking for $, transportation & housing)
- All Out (working with organizations to coordinate evacuations for queer refugees from Ukraine)
Donate to RedCross for humanitarian assistance in Ukraine: www.icrc.org/en
Our guest in this episode also asks you to:
- Speak up for Ukrainian people
- Join the anti-war demonstrations
- Ask celebrities and powerful figures to speak up & stand by Ukraine
The interview was recorded in the evening of Feb 27, 2022.
7. 30-Year Gay Couple🏳️🌈 on Building a Relationship Despite Homophobia
6. 8-year Relationship That Started in a 🏊🏻♂️ Swimming Pool
The 🇦🇺Australian gay couple Ed & Alex met in a very unique way in the changing room of their local swimming pool, with neither of them knowing whether the other was gay. (Disclaimer: it was not a promiscuous encounter). As well as talking about the benefit of pushing your comfort zone to meet dates organically, the couple discuss how they saved money by house sitting in Sydney and manage finances as a couple. Ed, a personal coach focused on helping gay men, also shares his thoughts on some issues common to gay dating, such as cheating, low self-esteem, shame, and how to overcome risky or destructive sex habits and integrate them into relationships.
#gaycouple #gayhusbands #gayhusband #gayrelationship #gayrelationshipgoals #gayswithstories #lgbtpride #lgbt #lgbtcouple
5. 🇨🇦Pansexual Triad on Polyamory and Living True To Yourself
After their respective divorces, Tessa, Sam and Thierry eventually found themselves the happiest and the most authentic in their current pansexual triad relationship. The triad in Canada 🇨🇦, who have a 36-year age gap, openly discuss how their friendship gradually turned into a romantic polyamorous relationship, what's necessary to make a triad work, how to manage jealousy (if at all) and keep a healthy distance from family and people who may not be supportive of their relationship.
#Pansexual #PansexualRelationship #Polyamory #OpenRelationship #LGBTQCanada #LGBTQCanadians #LGBTQ #LGBTQRelationship #LGBTRelationship
4. From Grindr to Gay Parents in Rural Ireland🇮🇪
Jon & Patrick are husbands based in a 🇮🇪 small town in Donegal, Ireland and fathers to their 6-month-old daughter Wren. After many bad experiences with dating apps, they eventually met each other on Grindr. In this episode, they share the special tricks they used to go from chatting on the popular app to becoming one of the first gay male couples to have a child through surrogacy in Ireland. From couple expectations, egg donation drama, legal difficulties, surrogacy costs to walking in the village with a pram/stroller – Jon & Patrick share all.
3. Singapore Lesbian Couple on Handling Conservative Family & Society
Emily and her partner L spoke to each other online for 10 years before they ever met. Now after dating for 7 years, they bought a property together using a special legal arrangement, as Singapore does not allow same-sex marriage. As well as dealing with their own relationship problems, such as having different religious beliefs, they have had to deal with their conservative families - at one time, L's mother even referred to Emily as "that ugly person" and asked her daughter to stop hanging out with her. Although they are not fully out, they have been happily dating for 7 years.
Correction: in Singapore, generally speaking, you can buy an HDB (subsidized housing) if you're married. If you're single, you have to be 35 years old to qualify. This puts LGBTQ couples in an awkward situation.
2. From Young Summer Romance To 15-Year Relationship
Stefan and David met during their ☀️summer jobs in Greece when they were 19 & 21 respectively. The now married couple has since moved to the Czech Republic, Ireland and now Singapore. Their enviable relationship hasn't always been easy – with long distance, language barriers, youth, and different personalities sometimes getting in the way – learn how the couple make it work in this episode of Rainbow Pajamas. (Bonus: they mention how couple therapy helps them through their challenges.)
1. Introducing 🌈 Rainbow Pajamas
Listen to this episode to learn why we're launching 🏳️🌈 Rainbow Pajamas and what you can expect in the future episodes.
Rainbow Pajamas is a podcast sharing stories from around the world of long-term LGBTQ+ relationships from 5 years to more than 50 years. You’ll hear personal details from our guests about how they met, what they fight about, their sex lives, to practical matters such as having kids, financial planning and retirement, and we’ll also discuss controversial topics like exclusive vs open relationships, polyamory and marriage.
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