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I Wasn't Ready For This

I Wasn't Ready For This

By Raquel Alfaro

Raquel is just trying to navigate through life and share her truths on what it truly means to "adult."Sharing her thoughts, discussing hard-to-have conversations, giving advice, you name it. I mean let's face it we're still trying to adult so why not go through it together? New Episodes every Thursday at noon.
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Chasing A Financial Stream feat. Evelyn Tatiana

I Wasn't Ready For ThisApr 13, 2023

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Chasing A Financial Stream feat. Evelyn Tatiana

Chasing A Financial Stream feat. Evelyn Tatiana

This is your official invitation to the IWRFT Guest series. A place where you'll learn unique stories, gain perspective, and advice from people. This week Raquel is joined by entrepreneur & business owner Evelyn Tatiana. They discuss topics around experiencing micro-aggressions, misogynistic

behavior, starting a business, and more.


Apr 13, 202346:22
Fake It Till You Make It (VIDEO)

Fake It Till You Make It (VIDEO)

This week Raquel is spilling her truth on what its truly means to be CONFIDENT. Your Confident Consultant the double C's baybee. She shares the downfalls of social media and how it can impact your confidence. So, of course she's sharing advice on how to boost your confidence and the true meaning behind it.
Mar 16, 202315:26
1 Scam Away From Losing It

1 Scam Away From Losing It

Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. This week Raquel returns with an all-new episode with a discussion about college and whether or not it's a SCAM. Career change, taking a chance on yourself, and being lost in your 20s is all a part of life. And if you don't know where to start Raquel has got you covered.  Team Selena or Hailey? Listen to find out!


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Mar 03, 202321:56
Strangers to Lovers to Enemies (VIDEO)

Strangers to Lovers to Enemies (VIDEO)

Breaking up is hard to do. In this episode, Raquel shares her guide to getting over someone during a breakup. She shares her experiences and thoughts on the breakups she's been through. Can you believe that she was broken up with because of her race?? C'MON people do better. 

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Feb 23, 202319:47
Strangers to Lovers to Enemies

Strangers to Lovers to Enemies

Breaking up is hard to do. In this episode, Raquel shares her guide to getting over someone during a breakup. She shares her experiences and thoughts on the breakups she's been through. Can you believe that she was broken up with because of her race?? C'MON people do better. 


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Feb 23, 202319:27
Lessons For A Younger You

Lessons For A Younger You

This week Raquel is taking it back to the good ol' days of her younger self. She discusses lessons she's learned so far compared to when she was younger. Sharing advice based on her experiences and why it's always good to look back and talk to your younger self. Also, can Rhianna drop her next album we get it you want to have a family but we're waiting patiently. 


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Feb 16, 202325:08
Healing Era Truths

Healing Era Truths

As the new era of IWRFT continues, Raquel covers the ugly truths behind going through a healing era or journey. She breaks down the process of what the aftermath of going through a breakup of any sort can cause someone. Behind every aesthetically pleasing TikTok lies the truth of how someone may truly feel during their healing phase. Also, did Harry Jowsey really stoop that low? I guess you'll have to find out.


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Feb 09, 202320:40
Stressed & Depressed

Stressed & Depressed

In this episode, Raquel discusses what it's like to have depression and how to find ways to cope. She shares her own experience with trying to deal with mental health and what has helped her manage it. Did someone say Valentines' Day? If you're anything like Raquel and trying to prevent from going broke she shares advice on how to still make the day of love special, while being on a budget.
Feb 03, 202316:09
Caring Too Freaking Much

Caring Too Freaking Much

Raquel is in her I don't care what people think ERA and you should be too. With the New Year coming up its time for a new positive mindset. She discusses what its like to care too much and how not let it affect you negatively. Along with some helpful skills to help you feel like the bad bish you are. Happy holidays besties babes!

Dec 30, 202221:10
Once Upon A Situationship

Once Upon A Situationship

Situationships Suck. Like seriously, you don't know how you feel about me? You can't be exclusive? We've all done that and it's just not the move. This week Raquel shares her own experience she had while being in a situationship, the red flags, and everything in between. He was engaged the whole time?!? You won't want to miss this.

Oct 27, 202225:14
Turning A New Leaf

Turning A New Leaf

Raquel is back with a solo episode this week! She dives into changes in relationships, changes in personal development, & changes in your social life. We all go feral for fall, but it's also the perfect season for reflection and growth. Change doesn't have to be scary in fact we should all embrace it. Without change how can you become a better version of yourself?  Happy Fall Adulties!


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Oct 14, 202222:52
Leaving Your Mark feat. Sucheta Khurana

Leaving Your Mark feat. Sucheta Khurana

This week Raquel is joined by brand/content creator Sucheta Khurana. The girls discuss what it's like to build your brand and the ups and downs of being an entrepreneur. How's that saying go again? Get your freaking ASS up and create content because it seems like no one wants to be an influencer these days. So kick back and relax because you're in for a ride this week.  Follow me on Instagram: @raquellalfaro & iwasntreadyforthispodcast
Oct 06, 202237:58
Be Delusional Sometimes

Be Delusional Sometimes

Stop living in reality & be delusional. This week Raquel walks you through the combo that is delusion and manifestation and how they go hand & in hand. If you're new to manifesting she's got you covered and teaches you the basics of it all. You're in charge of what you want your reality besties it's time to start acting like it. 

Sep 22, 202223:13
Living With ADHD

Living With ADHD

This week Raquel covers what it's like to live with ADHD. She discusses when she first got diagnosed and how she learned to manage and basically live with it. Mental health matters people!!

Sep 15, 202223:14
Struggles of Being In Your 20s

Struggles of Being In Your 20s

Being in your 20s can be scary and lonely let's be honest. In this episode, Raquel covers what it's like to be in your 20s and honestly how to survive them. Only being 25 herself she walks you through her journey of adulting. Even if it meant shitting her pants?!?  She discusses the importance of taking it easy on yourself and remembering that everything in life will work itself out. 

Sep 08, 202224:02
Getting Your Groove Back

Getting Your Groove Back

In this episode, Raquel discusses what it feels like to be stuck in a funk and go through burnout. I mean it's pretty miserable! So, she breaks down step-by-step how to become a better version of yourself and feel like yourself again.  

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Sep 02, 202222:06
Sunday Reset Routine

Sunday Reset Routine

Sundays don't always have to be scary. In this episode, Raquel dives deep into what a Sunday reset can do for your mind, body, and soul. So listen, unwind, and relax besties. 


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Aug 25, 202223:35
Influencing In Style Feat. Pamela Valdez

Influencing In Style Feat. Pamela Valdez

Raquel is back this week and is joined by the lovely fashion blogger and influencer Pamela Valdez.  Have you ever thought about getting into the influencing world?  Emma Chamberlain was wrong when she said "influencing is dead" thankfully, with Pamela's tips you'll learn the truths of what goes into being a content creator. 

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Jun 16, 202230:11
Journey To Being Healthy

Journey To Being Healthy

Thursdays are your new favorite days. Raquel returns this week to discuss the realities of going through a fitness journey and how to keep yourself motivated! Don't know where or how to start? Well, she's got you covered and yes she spoke to fitness professionals to give you the right information.

Mar 28, 202225:52
Self-Made Women

Self-Made Women

Happy Women's History Month! This week Raquel talks about the realities of being a self-made women entrepreneur & of course how to be successful doing so. Kim Kardashian said what?! Yup, apparently women aren't working hard enough according to miss Kim. And we'll dive into her statement.  

Mar 17, 202224:55
From Party Animal To Homebody

From Party Animal To Homebody

Is anyone in bed by 9 p.m.? There may a reason why and Raquel is here to explain. She discusses what it was like from going out every day of the week in college to now being a cat momma who likes to stay at home. Are you unsure if you're a homebody? Or maybe you're isolating yourself? Raquel discusses signs to look out for that may be depression instead of homebody characteristics. Enjoy adulties!

Mar 08, 202225:58
Less Is More Theory

Less Is More Theory

I'm sure you've all heard the theory, "less is more." But, what does it truly mean? Well, Raquel is here to dissect the theory for you and give tips on how you can apply it to your everyday life. Euphoria Sundays are now over. Were you satisfied with that finale or did you enjoy Love Is Blind S2 more? Get ready because Raquel is going to unpack it all this episode, and just trust and believe you weren't ready for this.

Mar 01, 202225:23
You Weren't Ready For This Rebrand

You Weren't Ready For This Rebrand

Raquel is here to stay & back better than ever. She's rebranding her show and wants to welcome all you adulties to it! Kanye did what? Listen here to find out! Raquel also discusses proper work etiquette and how to deal with annoying work anxiety. Welcome to a new chapter, adulties!
Feb 21, 202225:17
N.Y.E Resolutions Toxicity

N.Y.E Resolutions Toxicity

Raquel isn't holding back, especially in the new year. She goes over-celebrating N.Y.E. and how the holiday's meaning has changed over time. She discusses why people may feel pressured and the depression that comes with the back-to-back holidays ending. New Year, new you? Yeah not accurate at all. Change doesn't happen in a day. Anyways, Happy Freaking Adulting!

Jan 11, 202225:23
Tis The Season: Adultmas

Tis The Season: Adultmas

Hello fellow adulties & tis' the season! Raquel is back with an all new episode. She discusses everyone's worst nightmare during the holidays and their lack of conversation etiquette. Raquel also shares ways to smoothly meet your bf/gf family over the holidays while leaving a good impression. And you can't forget the stress of buying gifts but as always Raquel has got you covered. Happy Freaking Adulting! Follow Raquel on Instagram @raquellalfaro & @dearadultingpodcast Episode promo codes: Better Help: https://betterhelp.com/dearadulting for 10% off your first month of therapy.
Dec 23, 202125:42
Growing Up Too Fast
Nov 15, 202126:29
Grieving & Trying To Heal

Grieving & Trying To Heal

In this episode, Raquel discusses what it's like going through loss and trying to heal from it. Whether it's dealing with a loss of a friendship, a pet, breakup, and a loved one it all hurts. She also shares some devasting news and her personal experience with dealing with losing a loved one and how she has been able to cope. Happy Freaking Adulting!

Oct 20, 202127:25
Over Here Manifesting

Over Here Manifesting

She's back with an all-new episode. Raquel finally explains where she's been all month and why she took a mental break! She recently learned what manifestation is and how to apply it to your everyday life. Yup, she ran out of options on how to get the future she wants. It's time to get the life you want people and she isn't holding back. Happy Freaking Adulting!

Sep 27, 202127:20
Everyone Is Settling Down

Everyone Is Settling Down

In this episode, Raquel discusses the effects of seeing everyone else's accomplishments on social media. It seems like everyone is either getting engaged, married, buying houses, etc. And she's had enough of feeling sorry for herself, which she'll explain to you later. So sit back and enjoy, cause you may not like what you'll have to hear. Happy Freaking Adulting!
Aug 29, 202125:24
Mental Health Check

Mental Health Check

She's baaaaaaack. Raquel is back with an all-new episode discussing wheres she has been and new life updates. New job??! Yup, she's back in the working field and podcasting. She's back living at home and is better than ever. It's also time to normalize mental health and coping mechanisms! Happy Freaking Adulting!
Aug 15, 202129:42
Relationship Tell-All Feat. Harry Jukes

Relationship Tell-All Feat. Harry Jukes

This week, Raquel is joined by boyfriend Harry Jukes in which they both describe what it's really like to be in a relationship. They discuss relationship anxiety, handling arguments, and love languages. Raquel also has some news to share! Happy Freaking Adulting!

Jul 25, 202143:27
You've Been Rejected

You've Been Rejected

Raquels back and better than ever! VOMITING on the 4th of July, Rejection, and ghosting from jobs or dating?? She's got you covered. Raquel also discusses how to handle rejection when going through it and why people ghost. Happy Freaking Adulting!

Jul 11, 202130:26
More Than Just A Gay BFF feat. Kendall Stokes

More Than Just A Gay BFF feat. Kendall Stokes

This week Raquel is joined by her friend Kendall Stokes... they discuss sexuality and how the LGBTQ+ community is often put in a box. Kendall shares a very crazy story that ultimately led him to come out with no choice and the stereotypes that were placed on him while going to school. Happy Freaking Adulting!
Jun 27, 202145:32
Pick Me, Choose Me Girls

Pick Me, Choose Me Girls

In this episode, Raquel talks about that one girl we all know who can't seem to just sit down and relax. Their what we call pick-me girls and yes they are very annoying to deal with. Thankfully, Raquel discusses how to handle them and why they're even pick-me girls. Girl code? She's got you covered! It really shouldn't be that hard to be a decent human being. Happy Adulting!

Jun 20, 202130:48
Just A Bit Basic feat. Danielle Costa

Just A Bit Basic feat. Danielle Costa

Raquel's back and better than ever! She collaborated with Danielle Costa podcast host of Back to Basic and they did not hold back. They discuss job rejection, anxiety, friend breakups, and pop culture. There's nothing wrong with being basic and these girls explain why. Enjoy and Happy Freaking Adulting!

Jun 13, 202150:18
Cheers To 24

Cheers To 24

Raquel is turning 24 next week which led her to do some reflecting. She discusses the perks of aging, becoming wiser like the monkey from Lion King, and being a BIRTHDAYZILLA. She just enjoys being boujee for her birthday. Don't we all? Happy adulting!

May 30, 202127:58
The Rollercoaster of Body Positivity

The Rollercoaster of Body Positivity

In this episode, Raquel talks about the ups and downs of dealing with body image and self-esteem. Trigger Warning: She shares her experiences dealing with body dysmorphia and binge eating while she was adulting. Social media and society don't help by pressuring girls or even guys to look a certain way. 

May 23, 202128:24
Moving Away From Home

Moving Away From Home

Raquel picked up her bags and left home. She discusses the stress and reality of what it's like to move. Her personal experiences with terrible roommates just didn't and how they didn't understand the concept of adulting. Living at home can make you feel comfortable, but sometimes you have to take a chance and move out for personal growth. Happy Adulting!

May 16, 202128:32
Guide To Being Independent Periodt

Guide To Being Independent Periodt

Welcome to Raq's To Bootcamp: In this special episode, Raquel takes you to a self-loving, motivating class. Which will have you feeling independent by the end of this episode. She discusses validation, "you-days," and organization.
May 09, 202126:06
Taking Solo Trips

Taking Solo Trips

Raquel ended up where? In this episode, she dives into her experience with traveling alone, and what her overall thought on it is. Vlogs, pictures, EATING, lots of eating best describes her recent experience taking on Richmond, Virginia. And she explains, how she ended up in such a random place. You gotta trust the process and expect the unexpected when solo traveling you adults in training!
May 02, 202129:45
Job Hunting

Job Hunting

Unfortunately, professional napping isn't a job. But, Raquel's got you covered on how to land your ideal job while navigating through career searching. Remember, no one knows your experience better than you so it's time to own your job interviews. Raquel also discusses different work industries and lowering your expectations on what you consider a perfect job. You've got this!
Apr 25, 202128:42
Coffee O' Clock

Coffee O' Clock

Raquel has been told she may have a caffeine addiction problem, but that hasn't stopped her from drinking her cup of Joe. In this episode, she discusses the ups and downs with coffee, some solutions to the downs, and her overall thoughts on what kind of person you are based on your coffee preference. Happy adulting!
Apr 18, 202123:41
Birthcontrol & Being Crazy Emotional

Birthcontrol & Being Crazy Emotional

In this episode, Raquel speaks her truth on what taking birth control really does to your body. And her life being a SHITSHOW when going through changing her birth control. Water weight? She's got you covered with a few tips on how to manage weight gain and weight fluctuation. Welcome to Sex ED you adults in training!
Apr 11, 202126:51
From Friend to Foe

From Friend to Foe

In this episode, Raquel discusses what a toxic friend group or friendship looks like. She mentions that not all friendships end with a nasty breakup and what to do if you're in the midst of one. Sometimes, friends drift and that's okay Raquel discusses how to handle growing apart from a friend and how you can rekindle the friendship.
Apr 04, 202125:45
Can We Swipe Left On Dating? Feat. Bri

Can We Swipe Left On Dating? Feat. Bri

In this episode, Raquel and her longtime best friend discuss the realities of dating in your 20scompared to when you were younger. They discuss the stigma around dating apps, a time Raquel almost got into an accident looking for answers for Bri, and the ins and outs of dating someone you meet online or in person.
Mar 28, 202146:11
The Celebrity Effect

The Celebrity Effect

We all had celebrities that impacted our lives and influenced us to be a certain way. Well, what if it was all a lie? Raquel discusses the impact celebrities have on kids compared to adults and why we have to stop believing everything we see on social media. Raquel believes it important to change the way we view celebrities and most importantly staying true to ourselves.
Mar 14, 202125:04
Namaste Loving Myself

Namaste Loving Myself

Loving yourself is something we hear often. But it can be quite a long, confusing process. Raquel goes into detail on some steps that can make the journey of loving yourself easier and simpler to understand. She talks about positive self-talk, self-care, and building a relationship with yourself. And she added two new segments to the show that she knows you'll love.
Mar 07, 202123:31
Honey, They Just Weren't Meant To Be

Honey, They Just Weren't Meant To Be

Love can be a tricky thing to define, receive, and GIVE. Raquel doesn't believe that you can meet the right person and it just wasn't the right time. She shares her experiences with dating and why she doesn't believe in that narrative. While being in a relationship herself she notices that knowing each other's love language can be very important for the relationship.
Feb 28, 202127:24
I'm 23 Still Livin' At My Momma's House (And That's Ok)

I'm 23 Still Livin' At My Momma's House (And That's Ok)

Raquel discusses the stigma around living at home in your 20s being a "bad thing" and how it needs to stop. She shares ways on how to stay productive and actively plan for the future. While also throwing it back to when she was 17 and reflecting on where she's at now with her family while quarantining with them.
Feb 21, 202130:04
Why'd You Take My "Friends?"

Why'd You Take My "Friends?"

In this episode, Raquel reflects back on old friendships with not-so-great people. She discusses losing friends as you get older, toxic friend qualities, and personal experiences she had with said "friends." Raquel shares the importance of being respected by friends and she doesn't care if you're feminist respect is respect.
Feb 14, 202131:43