Heart To Heart with Ray Mardia

Ray speaks with Charlotte Schinckel-Brown, artist and coach, about how to navigate the human experience as a sensitive person, the fallacy of comparison, some wisdom from nature about taking responsibility, embracing our light and dark as leaders/teachers ... and much more.

Enjoy and thank you so much for watching! I love you, yes I do :D

😂 PSA: I included some of our pre-show riffs but PLEASE note there's some unfettered swearing in it lol.

✅ The actual podcast starts around 4:50.

RESOURCES:

Charlotte: https://www.facebook.com/charvsb​

https://www.instagram.com/charvsb/

FIND ME HERE: https://www.raymardia.com​

https://www.facebook.com/raymardia​

https://www.instagram.com/raymardia​

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00:00​ - Pre-Show Musings (Warning: Some Swearing lol)

00:01:56 - Do You Know Who The Fuck You Are?

00:03:50 - Masculine Energy in Nature

00:04:10​ - Stop Being Dependent On Me, Moon

00:04:50​ - Podcast Begins - Welcome, Charlotte :)

00:06:30​ - Question: What is the value of making room for our Humanity as leaders?

00:08:45​ - Question: Where have you learned to integrate creativity, dance and growth?

00:10:30​ - Ray: Art and Nature Taught Me the Most about Life, For They Accept The Totality of Experience. All Of You Is Welcome.

00:11:00​ - Question: What role has dancing played in who you are and how you show up?

00:13:30​ - The Creative, Physical, Social and Spiritual Meanings of Movement.

00:14:30​ - Meditations on Sensitivity. Question: Is sensitivity a double-edged sword? A curse or a gift?

00:17:00​ - Charlotte Describes Sensitivity as 'Worthy Opponent'

00:18:30​ - Accept and Honour Support On Your Journey. Let Others Add To The Stories You Tell Yourself.

00:20:00​ - Strategy: Create Boundaries through Language and Meaning To Take Care of Yourself and Navigate Your Sensitivity

00:23:00​ - The Limitations of being the Light all the time.

00:24:30 - Welcoming the Darkness: Bringing Curiosity and the Spirit of Play

00:25:19 - Suppression is the Most Harmful Thing You Can Do for Yourself

00:26:00​ - If There's Room for the Darkness and Hypersensitivity to Exist, You'll Find the next layer of yourself

00:26:50​ - Question: How do you help women express themselves?

00:30:00​ - What actually creates transformation in people? Hint: it's not your skills or the modalities you use. It is the depth of your attention, love, feeling deeply seen, heard and understood.

00:32:47​ - Not a fan of the term ‘Fix’ (you are not broken)

00:33:50​ - Question: what would you say to women who say they have too much or not enough?

00:37:40​ - Question: what practices help you value yourself vs. fearing the loss of love and approval?

00:42:20​ - Question: what question are you delving into?

00:43:00​ - ‘What Now’?

00:44:00​ - Be aware of the tone in which we speak with ourselves; You can very quickly shift to a state of gratitude and purpose by shifting the energy of how you ask questions.

00:45:00​ - Question: What’s your why, Charlotte? What lights you up?

00:45:30​ - Love seeing people in their element (‘doing their Thing’)

00:46:40​ - You are the artist of you life.

00:48:15​ - Question: What would you to tell your younger self?

00:49:00​ - ‘There’s nothing wrong with you'

00:51:15​ - Ray on Creating wholeness within and around us

00:52:30​ - Gratitude and farewells

00:53:15​ - Post-show laughs :D

Music provided by The Sound

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Ray gets real with Hakeem Brookes, who has worked with some of the biggest names in personal development, about the personal development journey, understanding our why, embracing the art of not knowing answers all the time, and the importance of finding beauty in the process.   If you enjoyed this video, subscribe to join in on uplifting, heart-centred conversations :)   Thank you for watching :)

Video: https://youtu.be/DPfIe3wwyII

00:00:30 - Welcome, Hakeem! 

00:01:00 - Question: What Does Facing Your Past Look Like For You? 

00:01:40 - Question: What Is The Value Of Connecting With Your Why? 

00:03:20 - Why ‘Being The Best’ Is To Be Informed By Love, Not Need 

00:05:12 - Nurturing A Love Of Learning From A Young Age 

00:07:20 - Hakeem’s Insights From Tony Robbin’s Platinum Program 

00:09:10 - Pausing To Implement Lessons Is Important (Rather Than Constant Input) 

00:09:38 - The Dangers Of ‘Personal Development Addiction’ 

00:11:47 - The Importance Of Including Loved Ones/Your Past In Your Transformation Path 

00:13:45 - Adversity Happens For Growth 

00:15:35 - How To Navigate Your Growth Vs The Role You Play In Other’s Growth 

00:18:00 - Being the ‘Unsolicited Saviour’ in Other's Journeys 

00:20:00 - The Traps And Conventions Of The Personal Development Industry 

00:21:00 - The Best Coaches Are The Ones Who Are Ready To Be Your Friend 

00:21:20 - Hakeem Discusses His Values 

00:23:25 - The Fallacy Of Needing To Conquer All Our Fears  

00:23:40 - The Myth of Arrival and "Getting There" 

00:25:15 - You Can’t Get Anything Done If You’re Beating Yourself Up 

00:28:05 - The Perils Of Undirected Ambition  

00:30:05 - It Boils Down To The Search For Love And Connection 

00:32:00 - Beware Of Seeking Others To Feel Like Yourself 

00:34:00 - The Butterfly Becoming Itself (Surrender To The Process Of Your Own Becoming) 

00:36:15 - None Of Us Can Do This Alone 

00:38:20 - Heroes, The Alchemist, Will Smith, and ‘Laying This Brick Perfectly’  

00:40:15 - You Are Being Moved By The Universe, Supported On Your Path 

00:42:20 - The Illusion Of Polarity (It's Both, And) 

00:44:29 - Sun Tzu, The Art Of War - The Middle Is Where You Make Decisions That Work  

00:47:11 - There’s Always An Abundance Of Opportunity (Scarcity Kills Creativity) 

00:49:00 - Approaching Fears With Inquisitiveness And Play 

00:49:30 - Question: How Do You Experience Beauty Day-To-Day? 

00:51:00 - Letting Fear Fade Because You’re One With It, Not Because You’ve Fought It 

00:52:00 - Question: How Can Creativity Help Us Find Out Who We Are? 

00:54:11 - When Creativity Becomes Boundary-Breaking Innovation 

00:56:15 - An Openness To Testing New Thresholds To Find Out Who We’re Here To Be 

00:56:50 - Question: What Do You See For Yourself In The Future? 

00:57:10 - Taking A Moment To Not Know 

00:58:00 - Not Linking Your Identity To An Activity  

00:59:40 - Committing Ourselves To Knowing Who We Are 

01:00:00 - Socially Distant Hugs! 

01:00:40 - Hakeem: How This Chat Helped Me Inform Myself 

01:01:55 - Farewells

RESOURCES: 

Hakeem: https://www.instagram.com/hakeembrookes/

FIND ME HERE: https://www.raymardia.com 

https://www.facebook.com/raymardia

https://www.instagram.com/raymardia

Music provided by The Sound

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UImwn5BkSt8