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Afterthought on The Military Family

Afterthought on The Military Family

By Redj Ortiz

A show where US and Philippine military families are encouraged & empowered to live their best life as a military family through stories of people who have lived it. Welcome to the Afterthought on the Military Family podcast! I'm your host, Mami Redj. In this show, I'll share, not only my experiences as a military wife but also the stories of military members' spouses, children, and even parents who have faced disappointments and excitements, challenges and celebrations of this chosen lifestyle. Excited to explore adventures as a military family? Subscribe now and don‘t miss an episode!
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EP 14: Getting Candid With Cris About His 10 Years in the Military (Part 2)

Afterthought on The Military FamilyAug 05, 2022

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EP 24: How Sonny Sets Foot in the US Military's Tip of the Spear by Choosing the Army (Part 2)

EP 24: How Sonny Sets Foot in the US Military's Tip of the Spear by Choosing the Army (Part 2)

How true is this: You can take the Pinoy out of the Philippines but you can't take the Philippines out of the Pinoy?

My guest moved to the US when he was two and always wanted to serve in the military since he was five. He served in the US Military and US Foreign Service, yet married a Filipina.

Even though he doesn't speak Filipino, he didn't let it stop him from teaching in the PMA. For free. Why? So he can give back to the Philippines. How? By helping senior PMA cadets be the best versions of themselves using the West-Point way.

Listen to this episode to learn from Sonny Busa how to take your own path and live life your own way without forgetting to look back.

About the Guest:

In 1976, Sonny Busa graduated from the United States Military Academy at West Point. He was an Army officer before entering the State Department as a Diplomatic Officer, serving in Honduras, Korea, Hong Kong, the Philippines, Ethiopia, and Kuwait.

He returned to the United States to work as a Professor of International Relations at West Point, and then he taught at the Philippine Military Academy in the Philippines.

He is married to Ceres Kawagas from Samar, and they have three daughters and four grandchildren.

Why you’ve got to check out today’s episode:

  • Discover the wonders and rewards of teaching as a profession
  • Learn why the US Military prioritizes military families the same way as service members
  • Learn how military members can get help for mental health issues within the service.

Check out these episode highlights:

  • (01:28) - From Latin America to Asia as a Consul General
  • (02:56) - His humbling experience serving in the Philippines
  • (04:31) - Getting called back to West Point to give presentations
  • (04:55) - His West Point teaching career
  • (08:54) - How he was "convinced" to teach in the Philippine Military Academy (PMA)
  • (10:36) - The advantage of being the only one to teach both at West Point and PMA
  • (13:37) - The benefits of entering the PMA and the culture within the campus
  • (17:03) - Comparing the mental health issues of the past with today
  • (19:03) - Struggles of the PMA cadets compared to West Point cadets
  • (21:17) - The importance of having a family while doing overseas assignment
  • (24:53) - His message to the military families
  • (27:11) - His advice to members struggling with their mental health
  • (28:31) - What the military means to him
  • (29:22) - How the military helps him to be a better person

Connect with Mami Redj:

Do you want to hear more stories about military families? This is the podcast for you. You can listen to it wherever you are, and it’s completely free. Subscribe to our podcast on Spotify today.

DISCLAIMER:

The views and opinions expressed on this podcast are those of the host and guests, and do not reflect the views, positions, and opinions of the U.S. Military, its Foreign Counterparts, and/or other entities they represent.

Oct 14, 202232:53
EP 23: How Sonny Sets Foot in the US Military's Tip of the Spear by Choosing the Army (Part 1)

EP 23: How Sonny Sets Foot in the US Military's Tip of the Spear by Choosing the Army (Part 1)

How do you choose one dream job over the other? Should you really give up one? Or should you do both?

Sonny Busa, my guest for this week, pursued both by using one goal as a stepping stone. He may have hated what he had to do to get in and stay at West Point, but he was able to achieve both. How? By having the discipline to finish what he started, by being clear on what he really wants, and by doing what's necessary to get there.

Listen to this episode to learn how his optimism even at a young age paved his success in the military.

About the Guest:

In 1976, Sonny Busa graduated from the United States Military Academy at West Point. He was an Army officer before entering the State Department as a Diplomatic Officer, serving in Honduras, Korea, Hong Kong, the Philippines, Ethiopia, and Kuwait.

He returned to the United States to work as a Professor of International Relations at West Point, and then he taught at the Philippine Military Academy in the Philippines.

He is married to Ceres Kawagas from Samar, and they have three daughters and four grandchildren.

Why you’ve got to check out today’s episode:

  • Learn the 3 areas you need to excel in to get into West Point
  • Learn about the different branches of the United States Army
  • Discover the steps Sonny took to move from the US Army to the US State Department

Check out these episode highlights:

  • (03:01) - The irony of marching back to West Point with cadets decades after Sonny did it himself
  • (06:13) - How his fun experience as a Navy brat inspired him to get into the military
  • (09:52) - How having an eye condition led him to do fun stuff in the army
  • (11:06) - The 3 areas you need to excel in to get into West Point: Academics, Athletics, and Leadership
  • (12:43) - Getting in at 18 and the most challenging part of his 47-month stay at West Point (And it's not what you think)
  • (15:21) - A year of training before his first overseas assignment
  • (16:18) - The different branches of the Army and the role of a foot soldier (Hint: Saving Private Ryan)
  • (17:58) - Why everything about his Panama assignment was memorable and how it differed from his next assignment at Fort Ord
  • (20:19) - Getting selected to attend graduate school to continue his international relations studies
  • (20:46) - Why he refers to himself as the ‘world’s worst engineer’
  • (22:23) - Assignment versus Deployment
  • (23:03) - The many languages he knows
  • (24:10) - Giving up the army after 10 years to pursue his other dream job
  • (25:48) - Assignment in Honduras as an FSO
  • (27:45) - How he met his wife and the pros and cons of being married to a nurse
  • (29:37) - His two-year assignment in Korea as a Vice Consul

Connect with Mami Redj:

Do you want to hear more stories about military families? This is the podcast for you. You can listen to it wherever you are, and it’s completely free. Subscribe to our podcast on Spotify today.

DISCLAIMER:

The views and opinions expressed on this podcast are those of the host and guests, and do not reflect the views, positions, and opinions of the U.S. Military, its Foreign Counterparts, and/or other entities they represent.

Oct 07, 202231:22
EP 22: How the Unwavering Faith of an Ex-call Center Agent Made Her Dream of Having a Podcast Marketing Agency a Reality

EP 22: How the Unwavering Faith of an Ex-call Center Agent Made Her Dream of Having a Podcast Marketing Agency a Reality

Don't get me wrong. Keeping faith and manifesting work BUT unfortunately it's not enough.

With her unwavering faith as her guide, Eloi was able to make one of her dreams a reality simply by not waiting for it to happen.

How? By taking action.

So listen to this episode to see a different side to Eloi as she bares it, fears and all, to share with us how she's able to build her agency, and eventually become the mentor she was meant to be through ValuePod Productions' Mentoring Program and The ValuePODcast Show.

About the Guest:

Eloisa Almonicido is the empowered "Tyang" of today's thriving podcast management service industry.

Her main purpose is to turn Filipinos into indispensable podcast managers or podcast agency owners in order to change their lives for the better.

Why you’ve got to check out today’s episode:

  • Discover how freelancing is a realistic career choice, in addition to foreign and local employment
  • Understand how podcast skills are related to one another
  • Find out about the deadly combo you can use to get the results you want

Check out these episode highlights:

  • (02:53) - Who Tyang Eloi was before she entered the podcast industry
  • (04:06) - How she ended up working as a call center agent for 7 years
  • (05:15) - The major reason why she left her call center job
  • (06:53) - Learning freelancing from Jomar Hilario and Natasha Rivera
  • (08:31) - How she pursued podcast service as a long-term career
  • (10:35) - How she started doing it by herself
  • (14:08) - The real definition of a premium client and the types of clients she has
  • (17:11) - Eating rejections for breakfast, lunch, and dinner
  • (20:23) - How ValuePod Productions started
  • (26:29) - The ValuePod Bootcamp 1, 2, and 3
  • (30:38) - Podcast service industry for military members and their family
  • (36:34) - Her goals and aspirations for the next 3 years
  • (37:53) - Her message to military moms, spouses, and veterans on how to find themselves so they can figure out what to do next with their career
  • (40:56) - What is next for ValuePod Productions

Connect with Eloisa Almonicido - Co-founder of ValuePod Productions and Podcast VA School by ValuePOD:

Connect with Mami Redj:

Do you want to hear more stories about military families? This is the podcast for you. You can listen to it wherever you are, and it’s completely free. Subscribe to our podcast on Spotify today.

DISCLAIMER:

The views and opinions expressed on this podcast are those of the host and guests, and do not reflect the views, positions, and opinions of the U.S. Military, its Foreign Counterparts, and/or other entities they represent.

Sep 30, 202243:48
EP 21: Struggles In Life of An Engineer Mom That Built Her Podcast Management Career

EP 21: Struggles In Life of An Engineer Mom That Built Her Podcast Management Career

Are you an OFW who's longing to be with your family in the Philippines?

Are you tired of doing physical jobs and curious to transition to working from home?

Do you want to pursue a career in podcasting but don't know where and how to start?

In these changing times, we really need to learn how to adapt; otherwise, we would be left behind.

But how do you do that? By following Ce's roadmap and how she prepared for life's changes and challenges.

In this episode, she shares her journey from a conflicted wife/first-time mom/licensed civil engineer to a successful agency owner/podcaster/mentor by simply embracing herself as an empowered mom.

About the Guest:

Cecilia Mercado-Mojica is a former OFW wife and a former Civil Engineer working in a Quadruple “A” Construction Company who became a podcast agency owner and one of the sought-after mentors of ValuePod Productions.

Why you’ve got to check out today’s episode:

  • Find out how to start your podcast management career using free resources from Podcast VA School and The ValuePODcast Show
  • Discover the secret sauce to freelancing
  • Learn from her struggles in her WFH career and how it all shifted once she changed “earning money” to “learning skills” as her motivation

Check out these episode highlights:

(04:30) - Why Ce felt torn between being a first-time mom and a successful Civil Engineer

(07:23) - The one painful line her husband said to her and the opportunity that made his fear disappear

(09:29) - The ultimate decision Ce had to make for the sake of her family

(10:10) - The traces and clues that led her to her breakthrough in freelancing

(11:36) - Why she pursued having a WFH career

(12:56) - Her struggles in her WFH career and how it all shifted once she changed “earning money” to “learning skills” as her motivation

(15:24) - Realizations when her husband lost his job overseas

(17:14) - The two things that made Ce fall in love with Podcast Service

(19:16) - What made her let go her OFW Life

(22:56) - What helped Ce become the bravest introvert in the industry?

(26:03) - How finding about Ce and Eloi inspired me to try to dream again

(30:38) - What ValuePod Mentoring Program is, its mission, and who it's for

(34:53) - Why Ce thinks podcast services is perfect for military spouses, moms, and veterans as a career

(37:32) - The secret sauce to freelancing

(38:34) - How to start your podcast management career through Podcast VA School

(40:29) - What to expect from ValuePod Mentoring Bootcamp

(42:24) - What they share on The ValuePODcast Show

Connect with Ce Mojica-Mercado - Co-founder of ValuePod Productions and Podcast VA School by ValuePod:

Connect with Mami Redj:

Do you want to hear more stories about military families? This is the podcast for you. You can listen to it wherever you are, and it’s completely free. Subscribe to our podcast on Spotify today.

Sep 23, 202246:00
EP 20: The Secret to Managing an Online Community, a Podcast Agency, and Her Own Home With Nilyn Matugas

EP 20: The Secret to Managing an Online Community, a Podcast Agency, and Her Own Home With Nilyn Matugas

How did Nilyn, a pastoral intern whose parents are both pastors, end up working as an inventory assistant for a US-based retail company?

Has she always done things her own way?

And what's behind her fearlessness when it comes to switching careers even though it will make her start all over again?

In this episode, you'll hear from Nilyn how she uses her humble beginnings as a driving force to not only have a better life for herself and her family, but to also help others by teaching them about podcast production and management.

About the Guest:

Nilyn Matugas is an empowered woman, a beautiful wife, a caring mother, an entrepreneur, and Zencastr's full-time customer assistance manager.

She founded the first podcast virtual assistant Facebook community in the Philippines - Podcast VAs Philippines, and she owns a rapidly-expanding podcast agency.

Why you’ve got to check out today’s episode:

Check out these episode highlights:

  • (03:51) - Nilyn's humble beginnings and perseverance in spite of challenges and rejections
  • (07:47) - How she found out about home-based jobs and her field of expertise
  • (12:37) - How military spouses can relate to her and her husband's love story
  • (13:28) - Their three-year LDR and its challenges
  • (17:41) - What you should do when your mental health is at risk
  • (19:19) - The start of her career growth all because she chose herself first
  • (21:58) - How she unexpectedly landed an opportunity to work for Zencastr
  • (24:17) - What led her to start Podcast VAs PH in 2012
  • (28:04) - How she handles burnout
  • (29:40) - How her support systems help her juggle time for home and work
  • (33:00) - How she grew her team
  • (36:24) - Zencastr’s new features
  • (39:30) - Why I use Zencastr to record my episodes
  • (42:03) - Zencastr’s humble beginnings
  • (42:38) - How your existing skills can help you in podcast production/management
  • (44:54) - The one superpower moms have that help them in their career
  • (48:33) - Reasons why podcast production/management is perfect for parents

Connect with Nilyn Matugas - Customer Support Manager of Zencastr:

Connect with Mami Redj:

Do you want to hear more stories about military families? This is the podcast for you. You can listen to it wherever you are, and it’s completely free. Subscribe to our podcast on Spotify today.

DISCLAIMER:

The views and opinions expressed on this podcast are those of the host and guests, and do not reflect the views, positions, and opinions of the U.S. Military, its Foreign Counterparts, and/or other entities they represent.

Sep 16, 202253:11
EP 19: A Former House Helper's Leap Of Faith Turns Her To A Successful Podcast Manager

EP 19: A Former House Helper's Leap Of Faith Turns Her To A Successful Podcast Manager

How did Rowela transition to a white collar job while working as a domestic helper?

What is the biggest reason why Rowela renewed her faith in God?

How can military spouses, housewives, or mothers take advantage of the internet and work-from-home opportunities despite their hectic schedules?

In this episode, Rowela discusses the reasons why she chose to be an OFW over getting a college degree, her European adventures, as well as the turning point in her life that led her to become a Podcast Manager.

About the Guest:

Rowela Rabi is an empowered woman, mom, and wife.

She helps business coaches in selling their brand story from podcast planning to post-production all the way to syndication, allowing her clients to focus on what is most important: Providing content with their listeners.

Why you’ve got to check out today’s episode:

  • Find out ways you can earn at home while taking care of your kids or having a hectic schedule
  • Discover how to overcome life’s limitations and adversities
  • Learn about Rowela’s 6 tips to attracting premium clients

Check out these episode highlights:

  • (02:08) - Highlighting Filipinas in Podcasting during International Podcast Month
  • (04:22) - Working as a domestic helper in Portugal
  • (06:28) - How being an OFW runs in Rowela’s family
  • (10:39) - Her realization to try a new career path
  • (14:21) - Nailing the interview and getting hired as customer support
  • (16:03) - The statement that got her promoted to senior customer support
  • (16:43) - How their vacation in Monaco turned into a migration opportunity
  • (18:08) - The one thing that turned Rowela’s life around
  • (28:49) - Their migration challenges and how she resolved them
  • (30:10) - The similarities between being an OFW and a military spouse
  • (32:29) - How she turned her limitations to new career opportunities
  • (37:42) - Starting her own podcast management services
  • (40:00) - Why military spouses should check out podcast management as a career
  • (43:45) - Her 6 tips to attracting premium clients

1. Invest in yourself and keep learning
2. Look for mentors and be a part of communities
3. Hire a coach
4. Optimize your profile/s
5. Don’t overthink
6. Surround yourself with the right people

  • (50:21) - The making of AMFP
  • (52:09) - Advice to military and civilian spouses or moms
  • (56:10) - Promoting her services

Connect with Rowela Rabi - Podcast Manager and Editor:

Connect with Mami Redj:

Do you want to hear more stories about military families? This is the podcast for you. You can listen to it wherever you are, and it’s completely free. Subscribe to our podcast on Spotify today.

DISCLAIMER:

The views and opinions expressed on this podcast are those of the host and guests, and do not reflect the views, positions, and opinions of the U.S. Military, its Foreign Counterparts, and/or other entities they represent.

Sep 09, 202259:27
EP 18: Former US Ambassador Harry Thomas Jr. Shares His Service Life & Military Advocacy (Part 2)

EP 18: Former US Ambassador Harry Thomas Jr. Shares His Service Life & Military Advocacy (Part 2)

How does the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs help U.S. military veterans in the Philippines?

What are the benefits available to U.S. military veterans residing in the Philippines or the United States?

What are the military values that children learn or adapt from their parents who serve in the military?

In this episode, Former U.S. Ambassador Harry Thomas Jr. talks about how he never ceased reaching out to and assisting retired military veterans and their families after his foreign service retirement, his experiences growing up in a strict military household, and how you can help by sponsoring VetCoin HQ.

About the Guest:

Harry K. Thomas Jr. is a former US Ambassador to the Philippines. He is a retired head of US mission service in the Philippines for 3 years, the senior strategic engagement leader at special operations command, and a VetCoin HQ board member with the advocacy to help military veterans and military families.

Why you’ve got to check out today’s episode:

  • Discover the G.I. Bill benefits that a military member can use even after retirement
  • Know what it was like to grow up in a generation where parents lived by the saying "spare the rod, spoil the child."
  • Learn how you can help military veterans by supporting VetCoin HQ

Check out these episode highlights:

  • (02:31) -  His transition from foreign service to civilian life
  • (04:28) -  New venture in assisting military families
  • (06:07) -  Assisting veterans especially veterans in the Philippines
  • (08:31) -  Improvement in veteran assistance
  • (11:53) -  What the public needs to know
  • (13:22) -  What ifs
  • (16:28) -  What he got from his parents: Love to help others
  • (19:01) -  Military values instilled in him
  • (21:02) -  Having strict parents; Listen and follow
  • (23:41) -  New generation: Respect and setting boundaries
  • (26:07) -  Message to service members and their families
  • (27:55) -  Message to individuals interested in joining the service
  • (29:16) -  VetCoin HQ and other projects for military families

Support VetCoin HQ Foundation:

Connect with Mami Redj:

Do you want to hear more stories about military families? This is the podcast for you. You can listen to it wherever you are, and it’s completely free. Subscribe to our podcast on Spotify today.

DISCLAIMER:

The views and opinions expressed on this podcast are those of the host and guests, and do not reflect the views, positions, and opinions of the U.S. Military, its Foreign Counterparts, and/or other entities they represent.

Sep 02, 202235:23
EP 17: Former US Ambassador Harry Thomas Jr. Shares His Service Life & Military Advocacy (Part 1)

EP 17: Former US Ambassador Harry Thomas Jr. Shares His Service Life & Military Advocacy (Part 1)

What role does foreign service play in aiding the families of deployed military personnel?

What are some of the ways society can assist and support military service members, veterans, and their families?

What are the differences between military service and foreign service careers?

In this episode, Former US Ambassador Harry Thomas Jr. discusses how he got started in the foreign service and why he chose the foreign service despite coming from a military family background. He also shared why some of his acquaintances feel a sense of longing and incompleteness despite their success in life and the importance of giving assistance to military veterans and their families.

About the Guest:

Harry K. Thomas Jr. is a former US Ambassador to the Philippines.

He is a retired head of US mission service in the Philippines for 3 years, the senior strategic engagement leader at special operations command, and a VetCoin HQ board member with the advocacy to help military veterans and military families.

Why you’ve got to check out today’s episode:

  • Get a chance to visit other countries and meet its people when you pick foreign service as a career.
  • Get to understand the feelings of a person who has not met or are yearning for their parents.
  • Be inspired by success stories from people who had served in the military and a person's advocacy to help military veterans

Check out these episode highlights:

  • (04:51) - Reminiscing our Foreign Service days
  • (07:31) - Military influence in the family
  • (09:55) - His thoughts about joining the service
  • (10:58) - Who influenced him to join the foreign service
  • (12:11) - First overseas post as a foreign service officer
  • (12:26) - Foreign Service: Traveling Perks
  • (13:27) - Encounters with military families
  • (14:10) - American Citizen Services applicants
  • (15:02) - Sense of Longing; Irresponsible Fathers
  • (20:12) - Roy Archer's father, Lee and Reginald Lewis Stories
  • (21:40) - Afterthought of the Military Family Podcast (AMFP) goal
  • (22:54) - Assisting military families of deployed service members
  • (25:59) - Importance of society's participation
  • (29:07) - Military & Foreign Service: similarities & differences

Support VetCoin HQ Foundation:

Connect with Mami Redj:

Do you want to hear more stories about military families? This is the podcast for you. You can listen to it wherever you are, and it’s completely free. Subscribe to our podcast on Spotify today.

DISCLAIMER:

The views and opinions expressed on this podcast are those of the host and guests, and do not reflect the views, positions, and opinions of the U.S. Military, its Foreign Counterparts, and/or other entities they represent.

Aug 26, 202234:01
EP 16: Mami Redj Reacts to EP 04; When Should You Stop Parenting and Simply Be A Parent?

EP 16: Mami Redj Reacts to EP 04; When Should You Stop Parenting and Simply Be A Parent?

What do military parents really go through?

How did Episode 4 affect me as a mother?

When should you stop parenting and simply be a parent?

In this episode, I try out a different episode format, where I react to my earlier episodes. So please share your feedback and suggestions with me so I can create better content for you.

Why you’ve got to check out today’s episode:

  • Discover how mothers can relate to one another whether they're a military parent or not
  • Learn ways you can encourage your children to pursue a career in the military.
  • Learn when to stop parenting and continue to be a parent instead

Check out these episode highlights:

  • (01:33) - Asking you Troopers for feedback and suggestions about experimental episodes
  • (03:12) - Why I chose to react on Episode 4
  • (05:33) - What military parents go through
  • (09:15) - How I was at 18
  • (14:34) - How Episode 4 affected me as a mother
  • (20:28) - When to stop parenting and continue to be a parent instead
  • (22:34) - Sharing an article from a military mom
  • (23:28) - You’re No Longer In Control
  • (25:51) - You Learn Resilience
  • (28:36) - You Find New Ways to Enjoy the Holidays
  • (30:33) - Oh The Places You Will Go
  • (32:32) - You See Your Child In A Different Light

Reference:

5 Ways Parenting Changes When Your Child Joins The Army

by Army Mom Strong

Connect with Mami Redj:

Do you want to hear more stories about military families? This is the podcast for you. You can listen to it wherever you are, and it’s completely free. Subscribe to our podcast on Spotify today.

DISCLAIMER:

The views and opinions expressed on this podcast are those of the host and guests, and do not reflect the views, positions, and opinions of the U.S. Military, its Foreign Counterparts, and/or other entities they represent.

Aug 19, 202236:32
EP 15: From Becoming An Army Dude, then Band Vocalist Husband, to Being the Best Dad!

EP 15: From Becoming An Army Dude, then Band Vocalist Husband, to Being the Best Dad!

How does the boot camp experience in the United States Army compare to other branches of the United States military?

How does the US military prepare service members for civilian life once they retire?

What are the similarities and differences between military service and foreign service careers?

In this episode, listen to Edwin discuss his life, from being born in the United States to growing up in the Philippines, why he chose to enlist in the United States Army over other U.S. military branches, how his life in the U.S. military was, how and where he met his wife, and how he transitioned from the military into the foreign service industry.

About the Guest:

Edwin Estayo is a former colleague of Mami Redj when she was still employed under a foreign service agency. He is a supportive husband to his band vocalist wife, Jen, and a wonderful father to his lovely daughter, Maxine.

He was born in Los Angeles, California, but spent most of his life in the Philippines. He's a young military veteran, and he's the first AMFP guest to represent the United States Army. He enjoys airsoft as a hobby.

Why you’ve got to check out today’s episode:

  • Discover how a military recruiter convinced a civilian into the United States Army.
  • Listen to a U.S. Army serviceman's advice on how to handle the boot camp training
  • Understand why Edwin would choose to reenlist in the U.S. Army despite the risks

Check out these episode highlights:

  • 01:16 - How “Dude!” and I met
  • 03:41 - His growing up years in the Philippines and moving back to the U.S.
  • 07:48 - How he decided to join the military
  • 08:29 - His U.S. Military Recruitment Process
  • 10:04 - Why he chose the U.S. Army over the other branches
  • 12:19 - His Army boot camp experience
  • 16:36 - His body type when he entered the boot camp and his dislike for running
  • 17:39 - His unexpected experiences in the boot camp
  • 19:09 - His first assignment doing air defense duties
  • 20:47 - Basic combat and weapons training
  • 22:37 - His airsoft experience before joining the service
  • 23:58 - Was he ever deployed
  • 24:58 - The importance of foreign language training
  • 25:24 - His reason for leaving the service
  • 26:55 - His love story made in Korea
  • 33:19 - How he transitioned to Foreign Service
  • 34:44 - Similarities and differences between military and foreign service
  • 37:20 - How he adapted to civilian life
  • 39:46 - Will he allow his daughter to join the military
  • 41:35 - Will he encourage her
  • 43:30 - The importance of military families to service members
  • 48:06 - Coming out of retirement if the need arises
  • 51:17 - Promoting his wife's band, Silk

Guest Links:

Connect with Mami Redj:

Do you want to hear more stories about military families? This is the podcast for you. You can listen to it wherever you are, and it’s completely free. Subscribe to our podcast on Spotify today.

DISCLAIMER:

The views and opinions expressed on this podcast are those of the host and guests, and do not reflect the views, positions, and opinions of the U.S. Military, its Foreign Counterparts, and/or other entities they represent.

Aug 12, 202254:01
EP 14: Getting Candid With Cris About His 10 Years in the Military (Part 2)

EP 14: Getting Candid With Cris About His 10 Years in the Military (Part 2)

How does a US Navy service member handle relationships while on ship duty?

What can you expect on your first PCS?

What are the ways you can take care of yourself and your mental health?

In this episode, Cris Balce shares how his relationship with his then fiancée, now wife, was put to the test to the point they almost broke up. Also, you’ll hear about his military retirement plans that will surely melt your hearts.

About the Guest:

Cris Balce was born in Quezon City, Philippines. He holds a double major in Management and Marketing from the Philippine School of Business Administration. Before joining the US military, he worked as a restaurant banquet manager.

He is presently a US Navy Chief Petty Officer. His IG handle begins with Iceman, yet his heart is full of warm love for his lovely family.

Why you’ve got to check out today’s episode:

  • Learn about military lessons you can apply in your life as a civilian
  • Know the value of family support during your military career
  • Listen to a senior navy serviceman's advice to his juniors about career opportunities in the US Navy

Check out these episode highlights:

  • 01:00 - Meeting his wife, Cathly, in college
  • 03:15 - How their relationship started
  • 04:00 - How the relationship was put to test and how they made it work
  • 05:23 - Why LDR is not for everyone
  • 05:58 - How Cris manages his relationship with his family
  • 08:02 - Their PCS experience as a married couple
  • 10:05 - Advantages and disadvantages of starting a family at a young age
  • 11:00 - How Cris takes care of himself and his mental health
  • 14:06 - How he sees himself 10 years from now
  • 16:42 - Importance of military families to service members
  • 18:31 - How the military helped him as an individual
  • 22:05 - His message to military members
  • 26:11 - Promote his wife's business

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Aug 05, 202230:15
EP 13: Getting Candid With Cris About His 10 Years in the Military (part 1)

EP 13: Getting Candid With Cris About His 10 Years in the Military (part 1)

What are the advantages of learning everything about your assigned duties or tasks as a military service member?

What exactly does the US Navy Fleet do when it’s stationed or deployed overseas?

What are the advantages and disadvantages of serving aboard a ship or being sent to strategic regions through a US Naval Ship?

In this episode, Cris Balce talks about his decision to switch careers, his promotion within two years in the service, and how he met his wonderful wife prior to his military service.

About the Guest:

Cris Balce was born in Quezon City, Philippines. He holds a double major in Management and Marketing from the Philippine School of Business Administration. Before joining the US military, he worked as a restaurant banquet manager.

He is presently a US Navy Chief Petty Officer. His IG handle begins with Iceman, yet his heart is full of warm love for his lovely family.

Why you’ve got to check out today’s episode:

  • Understand how ship duty assignments can easily make or break your decision to serve in the US Navy
  • Take a look at where you could be deployed as a sailor during ship duty
  • Witness how he and his wife’s relationship developed from college acquaintances to being meant for each other

Check out these episode highlights:

  • 02:44 - How I invited Cris to guest for the show
  • 04:07 - His growing up years
  • 05:33 - Taking up two majors in college
  • 08:00 - How he joined the military
  • 12:51 - Why the US Airforce was his first choice and how he ended up in the US Navy
  • 14:25 - His memorable first days at the boot camp
  • 16:22 - Why he finds the younger recruits impressive
  • 17:37 - What you need to do to survive the boot camp since giving up is not an option
  • 18:27 - His first two years in the service
  • 21:02 - Getting promoted within two years
  • 21:38 - His first ship duty and how long it lasted
  • 24:31 - His deployment experience participating in CARAT exercises
  • 26:17 - The good and bad about deployment
  • 28:06 - Meeting his wife, Cathly, in college

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Jul 30, 202231:18
EP 12: Heart to Heart With Joseph: How Having a Supportive Family Helped With His Military Career Success

EP 12: Heart to Heart With Joseph: How Having a Supportive Family Helped With His Military Career Success

What can family members do if their military service member is experiencing work-related stress and burnout?

What are the advantages of practicing martial arts or maintaining a fitness regimen while serving in the military or being deployed?

What are the favorable attitudes and characteristics that propel our guest's military service career to success?

In this episode, Joseph will discuss his triplet sister's reaction to his choice to join the military, why he selected the Airforce over the Navy despite his swimming ability, and what his plans are for his military career and personal life.

About the Guest:

Joseph Ramos is the first AMFP Airforce active-duty guest. He was born and raised in the Philippines, but he carried his ideals and love for his family with him wherever he went.

He knows how to stay fit by practicing Muay Thai. He enjoys experimenting with new things. He's traveled to a number of places and sampled a variety of foods. He has started checking things off his bucket list that he wants to try.

Why you’ve got to check out today’s episode:

  • Learn how to deal with stress and maintain your mental health during your military career.
  • Get a sneak peek at how to start a romantic relationship while on military service or deployment
  • Hear a heartfelt message from an Airforce serviceman to his family, friends, coworkers, and other military families.

Check out these episode highlights:

  • 03:51 - What he does in the Airforce
  • 05:11 - Why he joined the service
  • 05:50 - Why he picked the Airforce over the Navy
  • 08:07 - His first impression on military life
  • 08:51 - His first days in the boot camp
  • 09:52 - Hardest part in their boot camp training
  • 11:37 - Who knew he was joining the service and their reactions
  • 13:27 - Joseph's Before and After joining the military
  • 15:02 - His overseas assignments vs deployment
  • 15:33 - Why he wants to be assigned in Afghanistan
  • 15:52 - Military dependents' take on war zone deployments
  • 16:54 - Bidding of assignments in the military
  • 20:31 - His love life status
  • 21:00 - How they met
  • 24:41 - How he takes care of his mental health
  • 29:28 - What help do service members need
  • 30:50 - Why leaders should be more understanding and voicing out concerns
  • 32:02 - His message to his family, friends, co-airmen, and their families
  • 34:56 - How his family was supportive during his struggles in Turkey

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Jul 22, 202237:30
EP 11: This Girl Doesn’t Only Set Goals; She Scores Them

EP 11: This Girl Doesn’t Only Set Goals; She Scores Them

What is the benefit of including Filipino values in the boot camp?

How did Dada manage to finish college with departmental honors while serving the country?

How can military members de-stress?

In this episode, Dada, a US Navy service member, tells her journey not just as an active duty member, but also how she overcame obstacles to complete her college degree while in the service. Dada also discussed how she and her fiancé managed their seven-year long-distance romance.

About the Guest:

Dada loves Hello Kitty. Her favorite color is lilac and collects Sanrio, anime and bumblebee items. She is a certified Lola’s girl who has a bubbly child-like personality that everyone loves. She is an active service member, awarded Sailor of the Year in 2019 and recently graduated summa cum laude at the University of La Verne, CA while serving the country.

Why you’ve got to check out today’s episode:

  • Learn the difference between men and women’s boot camp training
  • Find out what Dada went through on her first deployment
  • Check out how military changed her as a person

Check out these episode highlights:

  • 04:19 - Her reason for joining the military
  • 06:33 - Why it took her 12 years to finish college
  • 07:05 - Her boot camp days
  • 08:27 - Most memorable experience for her in the boot camp
  • 14:03 - Her bestfriend, now fiancé being proud of her military achievements
  • 15:22 - Her first deployment experience
  • 17:31 - Cross rate/How she changed her military career path
  • 20:10 - How we knew each other
  • 22:01 - Reason why she ended up taking college while in the service
  • 22:42 - Importance of Prioritization
  • 25:38 - Her daily routine at work and in school
  • 28:45 - How she destress
  • 29:09 - How she handled their LDR
  • 30:06 - Fiancé interested in joining the military
  • 31:10 - Changes in Dada after joining the service
  • 32:23 - You really need to work hard in the military
  • 33:57 - Her message to people struggling in the military journey
  • 36:40 - Her encounters with military members who are struggling
  • 37:09 - Be thankful and use your talents to help others
  • 37:31 - Her long-term goals for the next 10 years

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Jul 15, 202240:41
EP 10: Just Chillin’ With Mac on Conquering Her Mental Health Struggles

EP 10: Just Chillin’ With Mac on Conquering Her Mental Health Struggles

Why would you choose the Navy over the other branches of the U.S. military?

How can a military member deal with homesickness while deployed?

How do service members maintain their mental health while deployed?

In this episode, we'll learn why Mac chose the Navy over pursuing culinary arts in college, how she dealt with her mental health concerns throughout her deployment, and how she learned to perform various tasks through military programs.

About the Guest:

Mac has been a Navy Corpsman for the past six years. She was born in the Philippines but spent her childhood in Boston. She does physical therapy in the Navy, enjoys snorkeling, is an excellent cook, participates in CrossFit training, and has a strong desire to travel.

Why you’ve got to check out today’s episode:

  • Know how to use your hobbies as a guide for choosing your career
  • Learn to have a second family by befriending colleagues throughout your military service assignment.
  • Witness how to overcome mental health struggles the military way

Check out these episode highlights:

  • 02:28 - Mac's reason for joining the military
  • 05:17 - Her family’s reaction to her joining the military
  • 07:47 - Sports she was into and how being athletic helped her at the boot camp
  • 08:36 - Her boot camp experience
  • 09:38 - Kept the friendship intact
  • 10:35 - How the military is her second family
  • 11:01 - Thoughts about quitting the service
  • 11:08 - Missing family gatherings and other special occasions
  • 11:26 - Why service members can't just leave work
  • 12:03 - How long did her homesickness last
  • 13:25 - How technology helped her during covid
  • 14:19 - Importance of letters at the boot camp
  • 15:32 - First duty station; A-School
  • 16:07 - Taking Physical Therapy in A-School
  • 19:01 - Culinary as her first career choice
  • 22:04 - Moving forward through self love
  • 23:08 - Physical, Emotional & Spiritual Journey: The Military Way
  • 25:29 - How she adapted from the military life
  • 29:48 - Seeking professional help
  • 30:47 - Mental health struggles in the military
  • 31:37 - Good support system
  • 31:51 - Advice: There are other resources
  • 32:57 - Knowing what to do but don't do it
  • 33:28 - Needs from the society
  • 35:09 - A look into the future: Mac 10 years from now
  • 36:41 - How service members are not so different from civilians
  • 37:25 - Who can join the military
  • 38:37 - How military programs can teach you how to do things

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Jul 08, 202240:47
EP 09: Gracey Under Pressure: Hear Her Out. Promise! She Has Five Good Points

EP 09: Gracey Under Pressure: Hear Her Out. Promise! She Has Five Good Points

Why would a parent want their children to pursue a career in the military?

How do you instill patriotism in children?

What are the benefits of including CAT and ROTC training in your school curriculum?

In this episode, we’ll hear from Gracey Aleki her take on teaching, serving in the military and the proposed mandatory ROTC, as well as the Five Points of Military Discipline she learned during her CAT days in high school.

About the Guest:

Gracey Aleki, a preschool teacher by profession, has been a dance teacher and performer for 15 years. She traveled, studied, and lived in many countries in the last 14 years, and is also a full-time housewife and mother to her beautiful daughter, Ava.

Why you’ve got to check out today’s episode:

  • Front-row seat to a CAT officer’s story about their CAT program experience
  • Know the information about the proposed mandatory ROTC
  • Learn how to embrace change for the good and happy things to happen

Check out these episode highlights:

  • 04:02 - How she ended up being called Gracey
  • 05:54 - Her childhood, hobbies, and interests
  • 08:37 - What she wanted to be when she was a kid
  • 10:04 - How her grandmother's stories about the Japanese occupation inspired her to be a sniper
  • 11:08 - Her parents' take on her joining the PMA and why it didn't happen
  • 11:50 - Family members with military influence and her military dream for Ava
  • 13:45 - Mothers being vocal/supportive of their children's chosen careers
  • 15:00 - How she teaches children about patriotism through storytelling and modeling because they’re like sponges
  • 17:12 - Her CAT experience
  • 18:36 - My thoughts on being a CAT officer
  • 18:56 - Gracey’s journey on becoming an officer and who it’s for
  • 19:24 - The Five Points of Military Discipline she adapted from her CAT training
  • 22:13 - How she has mastered grace under pressure
  • 23:11 - How I found her on TikTok because of the mandatory ROTC
  • 23:27 - What is the mandatory ROTC about?
  • 24:44 - We shouldn't rely on other countries during the war
  • 25:22 - How ROTC/CAT training can help individuals
  • 26:23 - Proposed mandatory ROTC will go thru a long process
  • 27:13 - A lot of people enjoyed CAT Training
  • 27:25 - What did the training teach the cadets
  • 28:06 - Mami Redj's realizations about the training
  • 30:11 - Battle Scars in life will make you a better individual
  • 30:32 - This episode does not insist on Gracey's opinion
  • 31:14 - Public's concern on health issues
  • 31:47 - Exemption squad; Mami Redj was with MP/MEDIC Squad
  • 32:47 - CAT Demonstration in Camp Aguinaldo
  • 33:36 - How she can show support to military families
  • 33:48 - Gracey shares the difference in military appreciation

Guest Link: Gracey Aleki TikTok

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Jul 01, 202247:44
EP 08: The Chief and His Fiancée: From Going Dutch to Getting Hitched

EP 08: The Chief and His Fiancée: From Going Dutch to Getting Hitched

Was it difficult to date a military service member?

What are the ways partners can show their love and support to one another?

How do you stay emotionally connected with a service member during LDR?

In this episode, you’ll learn from Jessa how she and Travis keep their relationship strong by building a strong foundation based on respect, love, trust, faith, and mutual encouragement.

About the Guest:

Jessa Tamonan is a strong, independent woman, who’s currently based in the Philippines working as a virtual assistant. She’s a former OFW in Japan and Bahrain and is the fiancée of our previous guest, Navy Chief Travis Darling.

The couple is behind Jessa & Travis on TikTok and YouTube, where they share their love story and day-to-day life as a military couple.


Why you’ve got to check out today’s episode:

  • Learn ways to show love and support to one another
  • Find out the right mentality you should have as a military partner
  • Learn how to establish a strong relationship with a military service member


Check out these episode highlights:

  • 03:15 - How Jessa and Travis met
  • 04:16 - Regular communication and “stalking” social media accounts
  • 04:43 - The one fact that made her realize how honest he is
  • 05:09 - Why she asked her friends to accompany her during their first meet-up
  • 05:50 - How he tested her independence and why she never got offended by it
  • 07:47 - How they proved their genuine interest towards one another
  • 08:33 - Exclusively dating and engagement
  • 10:18 - Her first impression on Travis being a military man
  • 11:31 - The challenges they faced as a military couple and how they overcame them
  • 13:29 - Ways they show love and support to one another
  • 18:30 - How Jessa deals with the homesickness
  • 19:16 - The what-ifs and expectations in the military
  • 21:56 - Early orientation on military PCS (Permanent Change of Station)
  • 23:04 - Resilience of military spouses
  • 24:05 - Jealousy vs. Reassurance
  • 25.06 - Her career goals, plans, and working as a team of two
  • 27:11 - Common misconception about military salaries
  • 27:32 - Her religious upbringing and family values
  • 29:46 - Her plans of joining the military
  • 30:40 - The right mentality as a military partner
  • 32:25 - Solid military relationship advice from Jessa
  • 33:44 - What is next for Jessa & Travis

Guest Links:

Connect with Jessa & Travis

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Jun 24, 202236:49
EP 07 - Truths About Life, Learning, Leadership, and Love From a Former Yeoman Now Navy Chief

EP 07 - Truths About Life, Learning, Leadership, and Love From a Former Yeoman Now Navy Chief

Why is military service a good option when thinking of your future career?

What are the pros and cons of deployment?

How can serving in the military help you far more as an individual than receiving a paycheck?

About the Guest:

Travis Darling is the other half of a fast-growing YouTube channel and TikTok tandem, Jessa and Travis.

He is an active service member who loves going to the gym, motorcycling, and is finishing his Master's Degree in Homeland Security.

Why you’ve got to check out today’s episode:

  • Find out how the younger generation gets influenced when deciding on their career path
  • Learn how to handle LDR when your partner is deployed
  • Check out ways to improve mental strength to combat stress and anxiety

Single Quote:

I think the Navy is a great choice, it's a great career, it definitely isn't for everybody, and it is sacrifice because you sacrifice a lot, you leave everything you know to go and serve the country for people who either do support you, or don't support you, and then if they don't support you, they don't understand that they sleep at night safely because of those like myself and your husband.

Because someone is out there doing the job that they won't do. So I like to always make sure it's expressively noted that, you know, we do get a lot of support but there are some people that don't understand why we do what we do.

So it's great that you have a podcast like this, a show like this to get that word out, to make that awareness, 'cause people aren't aware.” - Travis Darling

Check out these episode highlights:

  • 03:30 – How he ended up in the Navy and why he stayed
  • 07:00 – How civilians get turned into sailors
  • 08:53 – His toughest adjustment during boot camp
  • 09:45 – How his last name helped him become a Yeoman
  • 11:11 – Perception on structures and functions of the military branches
  • 13:07 – Why service members do what they do, the importance of civilian support, and appreciation on what AMFP is about
  • 15:27 – Deployment overseas and exposure to different cultures
  • 17:55 – The pros and cons of deployment
  • 20:14 – Relationships before meeting Jessa
  • 21:26 – The differences between their cultures
  • 22:17 – Going dutch on the first date
  • 24:22 – Admiration over Jessa and Travis' chemistry
  • 25:30 – Why communication is the key to success
  • 28:36 – Understanding what makes military LDR different and difficult
  • 29:23 – The what ifs and expectations

Guest Links: Jessa & Travis

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Jun 17, 202249:29
EP 06 - How She Swiped Right For Mr. Right

EP 06 - How She Swiped Right For Mr. Right

How is it like to have a relationship with a service member?

What happens during PCS?

Should military spouses also pursue their passion or career?

In this episode, you’ll learn from Chrish the challenges that come with being a military spouse, all while pursuing her passion/career and being pregnant at the same time.

About the Guest:

Chrish is a military spouse, who’s also five months pregnant with their first child.

Having recently immigrated to the U.S., this didn’t stop her from empowering herself to be a podcast service provider/manager, a voice-over talent, and an all-around host.

She bravely handles life changes while being away from her own family by being an active member of her church and military community.

Why you’ve got to check out today’s episode:

  • Discover the importance of love languages in relationships
  • Learn the benefits and drawbacks of being a military spouse
  • Explore how to cope with being away from loved ones

Single Quote:

“Being married to a service member is a choice that we choose everyday…not just me but also you… it’s a choice that we choose every day, and it is a lifelong commitment that not everyone has the strength to fulfill”. – Chrish

Check out these episode highlights:

  • 2:18 - How Chrish and I met
  • 3:26 - What happens when you swipe right for Mr. Right
  • 5:25 - Why service members report their every move to their commanding officers
  • 5:56 - The kind of partner Chris and Jordan are based on their love tanks and languages, its significance, and how distance affect them differently
  • 8:37 - Why I’m so happy for the couple
  • 9:02 - Jordan’s revelation on their first date and why she had mixed feelings about it
  • 11:32 - The steps she took to move on from her ex
  • 11:55 - The nth on the list of things we have in common and how we see LDR differently
  • 13:26 - The common struggle service members have while dating
  • 13:55 - Her first PCS (Permanent Change of Station) experience
  • 16:15 - The ups and downs of her pregnancy journey
  • 17:38 - How the couple have regular talks about military life
  • 18:20 - Her involvement in church and local military community
  • 18:50 - 3 things she learned as a military wife
  • 20:04 - What made it easy for her to immigrate to the U.S.
  • 20:24 - How challenges and rewards are the same for her
  • 22:00 - The African proverb she lives by
  • 22:45 - Why acceptance is the key to always being ready
  • 24:25 - Why it was easy for her in-laws to accept Jordan's decision to join the military
  • 25:27 - The one trait their husbands have in common
  • 26:30 - How citizens show them their appreciation and what it means to them as their spouses
  • 28:29 - How sacrifice is a call of duty
  • 28:52 - Advice to military spouses as a person and a partner
  • 32:48 - Why I am excited about what’s next for her
  • 34:25 - What she will do instead of encouraging her child/ren to enlist

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Jun 10, 202237:48
EP 05: A Military Brat’s Journey Back to Civilian Life

EP 05: A Military Brat’s Journey Back to Civilian Life

How is life out of military service?

What is the role of military families and/or spouses to the overall preparedness of the force?

How can society help in supporting military families?

Do civilian families face the same challenges as military families?

Let's hear it straight from Vicky, a brat and a veteran, her difficult yet fun experiences in transitioning from being an active-duty service member to a civilian. Get a glimpse of how military families live a unique lifestyle while serving the country, as well as the society's role in supporting them.

About the Guest:

Vicky Dizon, a US Navy Veteran, is a good friend of Mami Redj. She loves to work out, read books, and enjoys being a fur mom to her fur baby, Julia. 

Before her enlistment, she held a corporate job in Makati.

Her fascination towards her Dad’s sea stories in the US Navy and her admiration of his bravery inspired her to join the military after the events of 9/11.

She is currently out of uniform and living the civilian life in the Philippines.

Why you’ve got to check out today’s episode:

  • Common challenges and advantages during readjustment and transition
  • Importance of families and/or spouses to active service members
  • Simple ways on how society can support military families.
  • Learn how to be understanding of the unique challenges that military families face

Single Quote:

“My message to our listeners, to our troopers, is when somebody in the military or a military dependent or family is going through something, lend them ear. Sometimes all they need to do is vent because they can't find anyone to vent to or to get it off their chest, and sometimes that helps a lot. Just getting it off your chest like talking to somebody who will listen to you unconditionally and unjudgementally”. - Vicky Dizon

Check out these episode highlights:

  • 3:17 - When, at what age, and the branch she joined
  • 4:15 - Who inspired her to enlist and why
  • 5:20 - What happens during recall
  • 5:58 - The event that sparked military recruitment again in 2001
  • 7:38 - The challenges of being the oldest recruit and why she thinks it’s better to enlist when you’re younger
  • 10:58 - 3 things she adapted in the military
  • 14:27 - Her length of service and when it ended
  • 15:35 - What made her leave the military
  • 16:53 - Her first year as a veteran and who she missed the most
  • 18:50 - The one military task she feels relieved not doing anymore after she got discharged
  • 20:10 - Why home-cooked meals is synonymous to homecoming
  • 20:41 - What she learned about herself after she left the service
  • 22:43 - How self realizations and self searching empowered Vicky
  • 24:00 - Her relationships and engagement with fellow service members
  • 25:30 - Her hopes and plans for her future
  • 28:05 - The important role of military families to service members
  • 31:22 - The importance of spouses in military families
  • 32:26 - What civilians can do to help military families aside from saying thank you and giving military discounts
  • 36:15 - Sharing military experiences and stories
  • 37:24 - #HugeSacrifice: Why serving in the military is synonymous to sacrifice
Jun 03, 202239:05
EP 04: From a Proud Military Sister to an Honored Military Mom

EP 04: From a Proud Military Sister to an Honored Military Mom

What do military parents or siblings go through emotionally when their kids or siblings enter military boot camp?

What noticeable changes do military parents or siblings see when their trainee graduates from the military boot camp?

How do military parents or siblings prepare themselves when talking about their kids’ or siblings’ military deployment?

In this episode, you’ll hear straight from Mommy Madge her story as a military mom and sister to service members. She will give you a heads-up on the ups and downs of having two family members serving in the military.

About the Guest:

Mommy Madge is mom to Charles and sister to Garry, with both men serving in the US Military. She’s been married for 21 years. This mom of three is a KDrama fanatic, certified plantita, and pasta lover who’s also into arts and crafts.

Why you’ve got to check out today’s episode:

  • Explore new life experiences in the shoes of a military member’s family
  • Get to know the reasons why one should support a family member in entering the military service
  • Advice from a military parent to a parent whose kid is interested in joining the military

Single Quote:

“Kuya, I just want you to know that Dad and I are really really proud of you. Kasi hindi dahil pinilit ka namin pero dahil you really want to join the military, and naging sobrang independent ka, yung hindi ka umasa sa amin tapos naging mature ka, you help your sisters, kahit malayo ka you make time and effort na makipag-communicate with them para maramdaman nila na you’re still their Kuya. Sobrang you make us proud.”

- Mommy Madge

Check out these episode highlights:

  • 01:36 - Mommy Madge: the military mom and sister
  • 04:18 - How Garry and Charles were like growing up
  • 08:45 - When and how Charles told her he's joining the service
  • 10:30 - Her reaction when they were informed about their interest in joining the service
  • 12:30 - The day the two men left for the boot camp and how it felt like for her
  • 16:34 - Phone call privileges and importance of letters in the boot camp
  • 22:21 - Most memorable part of the letter she received from Garry, reminiscing hardships during boot camp, and graduation day
  • 27:34 - The changes she saw in both men after graduation
  • 30:54 - What is her take on deployment
  • 32:40 - The importance of joining military support groups
  • 34:33 - How she will support her other children if they decide to join the service
  • 35:24 - How honored she is of becoming a military mom
  • 37:10 - Advice she gave to a parent who has a child interested in joining the military
  • 38:45 - Her message to Charles
  • 39:57 - Her message to other military children

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The views and opinions expressed on this page and podcast are those of the host and guests, and do not reflect the views, positions, and opinions of the US Military and/or other entities they represent.

May 27, 202243:14
EP 03: Meet My Military Man - The Sailor

EP 03: Meet My Military Man - The Sailor

Episode Description:

What does it take to turn a boot camp trainee into a service member?

How do the separation and commitment of a military spouse affect their families?

How can the community help military families adjust to new assignments?

In this episode, you’ll hear it straight from Garry about his personal experience in his military journey.

Also, we will give you a glimpse of what we go through as a couple living the military life.

About the Guest:

Garry of the US Military is the Husband of Mami Redj.

He used to work in a BPO company before his enlistment. He joined the military because he wanted to give back to the US for accepting him with open arms when he moved. He is currently stationed overseas assisting in providing medical care to military personnel and their families.

Why you’ve got to check out today’s episode:

  • Feel what it's like to be at boot camp
  • Understand the sacrifices made by the military and their dedication to their country
  • Learn about the role families and communities play in order for service members to survive during assignments

Single Quote:

“And that’s also good for us kasi hindi namin nafi-feel na parang they don’t care about us. Kasi kahit na ang tawag natin is freedom, akala ng mga tao is that it’s free. It is not. People are working hard for it. Kaya mayroon tayong freedom. Pero kung wala tayong military baka wala tayong freedom.” - Garry

Check out these episode highlights:

  • 03:47 - How Garry told his family and friends about serving in the military and their reaction
  • 07:23 - What he had to go through during boot camp
  • 08:35 - What almost made him quit and what changed his mind
  • 10:35 - His most memorable time in the boot camp
  • 12:38 - What he felt on graduation day and who he shared it with
  • 17:30 - Military: Reality versus expectations
  • 18:32 - Why civilians are grateful toward service members and how they express it
  • 21:17 - How serving in the military directly affects families
  • 22:17 - Why a scene in one Captain America movie rings true to him
  • 23:07 - The sacrifices service members make to serve
  • 24:06 - Some of the difficult times in our relationship
  • 25:24 - My realizations on Garry's training days
  • 28:44 - His thoughts during the pandemic
  • 30:58 - Technology as our bridge for communication
  • 31:48 - His first overseas assignment
  • 34:00 - What he wants our children to know about military service
  • 35:23 - Why the military is all about helping each other
  • 36:20 - Encouraging our children to join the service
  • 37:26 - Encouraging our children to end up with a service member
  • 39:26 - His advice to military couples and families
  • 41:14 - The importance of community

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Do you want to hear more stories about military families? This is the podcast for you. You can listen to it wherever you are, and it’s completely free. Subscribe to our podcast on Spotify today.

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The views and opinions expressed on this page and podcast are those of the host and guests, and do not reflect the views, positions, and opinions of the US Military and/or other entities they represent.

May 20, 202244:50
EP 02: An Overview of the Military Through the Eyes of a Service Member

EP 02: An Overview of the Military Through the Eyes of a Service Member

What does it take to serve in the military?

Why is it that there are people who are actually thinking of being a part of it?

What are the pros and cons of having a family while in the service?

If you’re wondering what the military is all about, then this episode is for you.

Let’s hear it straight from a service member as he gives us a brief overview of the military.

About the Guest:

Garry of the US Military is the Husband of Mami Redj.

He used to work in a BPO company before his enlistment. He joined the military because he wanted to give back to the US for accepting him with open arms when he moved. He is currently stationed overseas assisting in providing medical care to military personnel and their families.

Why you’ve got to check out today’s episode:

  • Learn the requirements, qualifications, roles, culture, and training in the military.
  • Find out the tangible and intangible benefits of being a military member.
  • Know the housing arrangements of military families and discover the importance of having a family while in the service.

Single Quote:

“In terms of belongingness, andyan ‘yung mag kasama mo. Kung wala kang family, itong mga kasama mo, yan ang magiging family mo. So, dun pa lang sa training namin, tinuturuan ka tanggalin 'yung individuality mo.” - Garry

Check out these episode highlights:

  • 03:42 - What the military is all about and what it is for
  • 04:26 - The basic requirements to join the military
  • 06:04 - The six branches of the US Military
  • 08:20 - Gender classification in the military
  • 09:51 - What’s more to the military than being physically fit
  • 12:08 - How service members are motivated during boot camp: Then versus Now
  • 14:32 - Reasons why recruits quit the boot camp
  • 17:57 - The importance of having a family while in the service and its treatment in the military
  • 26:04 - The difference between training and deployment
  • 29:23 - Why each and every role in the military is essential 
  • 32:30 - Basic training versus primary training
  • 34:47 - Why military families are not allowed in areas of deployment
  • 36:31 - Housing arrangements in the military
  • 37:51 - Who gets to live off-base (if it’s advisable) and why
  • 40:56 - Why does Garry prefer having a family while in the service and why others don’t
  • 42:58 - The pros and cons of having a family while in the service
  • 44:50 - Recognizing strictness and discipline in the military

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DISCLAIMER: The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the host and guests, and do not reflect the views, positions, and opinions of the US Military and/or other entities they represent.

May 13, 202245:52
EP 01: My Own Afterthoughts on the Military Family

EP 01: My Own Afterthoughts on the Military Family

Are you curious about how military families live a life of constant changes and uncertainties?

Do all military families face the same challenges?

How do they make a house a home only to leave it behind in two to three years?

In this episode, I will share with you my very own afterthoughts on the military family.


Why You’ve got to Check out today’s Episode

  • Learn what made me decide to start this podcast
  • Find out how this podcast serves as a safe space for you and your loved ones
  • Know the challenges military members and their families face and how you can support them


“Nearly 1 million or 43% of military personnel are actually parents. Can you imagine the struggle of these parents when they actually try to complete their mission or do their service while attending to their family’s needs? It’s a challenge for sure.” - Mami Redj


Check out these episode highlights:

  • 02:50 - What is my goal for this podcast
  • 03:19 - Why civilians have difficulty understanding military family life
  • 03:49 - Why military families find it difficult to connect with others
  • 04:47 - Why do I consider myself lucky in comparison to other military spouses/families
  • 05:43 - How my husband and I survived five years of LDR
  • 08:09 - The you-know-and-you-don't-know scenario in deployment
  • 09:28 - How this podcast can be a safe space through connection
  • 11:08 - How military families are similar and different at the same time
  • 13:39 - The people you will hear stories from
  • 15:26 - How I conceptualized the show by viewing it through the perspectives of our own military family members
  • 18:15 - The rollercoaster ride of heartbreaking isolations/relocations and heartwarming homecomings
  • 20:56 - One of my important afterthoughts on the military family
  • 22:58 - How the right mindset helps me prepare for the inevitable
  • 24:32 - What I am experiencing right now as a military spouse
  • 28:09 - How military families adapt
  • 30:42 - The challenges military families face
  • 36:31 - What I want to focus on through this podcast
  • 37:58 - What my mission is for this podcast
  • 38:35 - What I have learned while living the military family life


Resource:


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DISCLAIMER:
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May 06, 202243:25
EP 00: Navigate Military Life with Mami Redj

EP 00: Navigate Military Life with Mami Redj

What is it like to live the military life?

It's like navigating uncharted waters, where changes are both inevitable and frequent.

But you don’t have to go through it alone.

Let's navigate military life together through Afterthought on the Military Family Podcast.

Let me share with you how to be a supportive spouse and how to manage long-distance marriage for years.

Let's dive into the challenges service members and their families face.

And if you’re not from a military family, don't worry.

Get a glimpse of the realities of military life through inspiring stories from service members and their families.

Excited to explore adventures as a military family? Subscribe now and don‘t miss an episode!

DISCLAIMER:
The views and opinions expressed on this page and podcast are those of the host and guests, and do not reflect the views, positions, and opinions of the US Military and/or other entities they represent.

Apr 30, 202202:19