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Relating to Self

By Joachim Brackx

A podcast that helps you create a better relationship with yourself.
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Relating to SelfApr 22, 2021

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Everything Spills Over Into Everything Else {with Suvarchala Narayanan}

Everything Spills Over Into Everything Else {with Suvarchala Narayanan}

In this episode of Relating to Self, Joachim speaks to Suvarchala Narayanan for whom wealth is a state of mind and who cultivates her eroticism.

Suvarchala is a tech and business journalist and has a business as a consultant designing and guiding identity change, next-level relating, and eroticism.

You can find Suvarchala and her work here:

Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode:

  • The foreign concept of Self-Love and the problem with it
  • Centering the Self
  • The Nature of Self as Love
  • Love as Acceptance
  • Learning to Remember
  • Letting Go (what is good)
  • The Paradox and Multitude of Life
  • Pain without Suffering
  • Tension
  • And much, much more!

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Mar 14, 202353:52
The Art of Re-Seeing Ourselves {with DanRam}

The Art of Re-Seeing Ourselves {with DanRam}

In this episode of Relating to Self, Joachim speaks to DanRam who has continuously reinvented himself.

DanRam is an MC for huge conferences, a 5 times TEDx speaker, a transformational coach, and a powerful influencer.

You can find DanRam and his work here:

Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode:

  • The tools we are given vs the tools we find in our journey of Relating to Self
  • Using different personas to explore who we are
  • Self-development in community
  • Getting better at re-seeing ourselves
  • The dark side of self-development
  • Habits and DanRam's 5G routine
  • Start Now, Start Simple

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Mar 07, 202356:60
The Relational Self and Authentic Desire {with Khuyen Kasper Bui}

The Relational Self and Authentic Desire {with Khuyen Kasper Bui}

In this episode of Relating to Self, Joachim speaks to Khuyen Bui who sees the self as inherently relational.

Khuyen Bui wrote the book "Not Being: The Art of Self-Transformation" with co-author Steven D'Souza. He is an executive coach and has talked at TEDx, the Drucker Forum, Creative Mornings, and companies like Danone.

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Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode:

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Feb 28, 202346:49
Forge your own path to health and healing {with Dr. Rhea Mehta}

Forge your own path to health and healing {with Dr. Rhea Mehta}

In this episode of Relating to Self, Joachim speaks to Rhea who takes better care of herself than anyone in the world. 

Rhea Mehta is the founder of Living Rhea, a scientific wellness consultancy with services including 1-on-1 health coaching (Institute for Integrative Nutrition), scientific communications (writing, research, talks, interviews), and strategic advisory. 

She is the co-founder of Bowhead Health, a cutting-edge Canadian company leveraging blockchain and smart contract technology to help individuals safely track, own and manage their health and wellness data.

You can learn more about Rhea and her work here:

Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode:

  • How to practice kindness towards yourself 
  • Mindvalley events and workshops 
  • Neuroplasticity and how to retrain your mind
  • Joachim & Rhea's combined experience as musicians 
  • Fibromyalgia
  • Burning man 
  • Ayahuasca 
  • How suffering can catalyze self-transformation
  • Mantras to practice openness & acceptance 
  • The relationship between openness and holding strong boundaries 
  • The power of saying no
  • Heuristics to assess the transgression of boundaries 
  • How to build a strong support system 
  • Creating space by detaching from relationships that no longer serve you 
  • Discerning fear vs. intuition 
  • Breathwork to develop willpower 
  • Rhea's music & mantras
  • And much, much more!

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Dec 08, 202240:22
The woman in the mirror {with Eleonora}

The woman in the mirror {with Eleonora}

In this episode of the Relating to Self podcast, Joachim speaks to Eleonora, who relates to the woman in the mirror.

Eleonora is a Ph.D. candidate who helps researchers and businesses access "neuroscience-as-a-service."

Learn more about Eleonora and her work here:

Topics, resources, and valuable links mentioned in the episode:

A parting quote from Eleonora:

"You can’t prepare the path for the person, You can only prepare the person for the path."

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Nov 17, 202247:11
How to cultivate a growth mindset through TED Talks {with Amy}

How to cultivate a growth mindset through TED Talks {with Amy}

In this episode of the Relating to Self podcast, Joachim speaks to Amy, who cultivated a growth mindset through Ted Talks. 

Amy is the Founder of Next Gen Facilitation and helps prepare the Next Generation for Modern Life.

Learn more about Amy and her work here:

Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode:

  • The shortcomings of traditional education
  • Internal vs. external motivation 
  • How Amy cultivated a growth mindset through Ted Talks 
  • The importance of rest in personal development 
  • The many benefits of exercise 
  • Psychotherapy as a tool for self-exploration 
  • Finding and updating your core values 
  • Amy's advice for reaching out to people, seeking help, and finding your people

A parting quote from Amy:

"You can’t prepare the path for the person,
You can only prepare the person for the path."

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Nov 03, 202250:13
Transforming unremarkable into extraordinary 🚀 {with Stephen Ladek}

Transforming unremarkable into extraordinary 🚀 {with Stephen Ladek}

In this episode of the Relating to Self podcast, Joachim speaks to Stephen, for whom daily happiness is entirely relationship-driven. 

Stephen Ladek is an explorer & entrepreneur who helps others find focus, fulfillment, and freedom through radical accountability. 

Learn more about Stephen here:

Learn more about his work in online education here: 

Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode:

  • How Stephen views relating to self as an act of introspection 
  • What are the most important questions you have to ask to improve any relationship?
  • The limitations of online identities
  • Letting go of one identity to embrace your more authentic self
  • Why Stephen identifies first and foremost as an explorer
  • Joachim & Stephen discuss the different impacts of their childhood 
  • How growing up in middle-class America prompted a path of exploration 
  • Stephen's transformation from living an unremarkable life to becoming a person of extraordinary capacity
  • Why mediocrity is the word that gives Stephen the most fear?
  • The importance of intentionally investing in deep relationships 
  • And much, much more! 

A parting quote from Stephen: 

"Why not commit to saying yes? Let's make this a moment. Let's make this extraordinary."

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Oct 13, 202250:02
A perspective shift about intimate relationships {special turn-the-tables episode with Eagan}

A perspective shift about intimate relationships {special turn-the-tables episode with Eagan}

In this special turn-the-tables edition of the Relating to Self podcast, former guest Eagan interviews Joachim about trauma, healing, intimate relationships, and much more. 

Eagan is an entrepreneur & digital marketer with a deep passion for philosophy. You can learn more about his Eagan and listen to Eagan's first appearance here:

In today's episode, Eagan & Joachim speak about: 

  • The success of the Relating to Self podcast
  • Joachim's journey of healing
  • Habitual patterns & hedonistic pleasures 
  • The practice of stepping into pleasure
  • How trauma patterns can manifest differently
  • How to remove negative people from your life
  • Joachim's thoughts on intimate relationships 
  • The value of deep human connections 
  • The importance of sitting with hardships 
  • How to work through trauma in intimate relationships
  • Holding space and taking ownership of responsibility
  • Joachim's 'controversial' take on traditional marriage
  • The perceived value of eternal life
  • An alternative approach to celebrating intimate human connection  
  • And much, much more! 

A parting quote from Eagan: 

"There is so much we are not ready to hear." 

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Oct 06, 202238:28
Healthy habits, morning routines, and storytelling  📚 {with Maxwell}

Healthy habits, morning routines, and storytelling 📚 {with Maxwell}

In this episode of the Relating to Self podcast, Joachim speaks to Maxwell who begins each day with journaling with poetry.

Maxwell is a storyteller, filmmaker and creative. He currently works as a partner and Creative Director at Telescope Studios.

You can learn more about Maxwell and his work:

Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode:

  • The difficulties of relating to others 
  • Morning routines (and how to create them) 
  • Habit creation and sustained motivation 
  • How to create and maintain a journaling practice
  • Reducing friction 
  • Starting small and celebrating small victories 
  • Atomic Habits by James Clear
  • Habitual cues and trigger action points 
  • Habit stacking 
  • Creating a wind-down routine 
  • Learning from trauma 
  • When is the best time to meditate? 
  • Learning how to be a good partner
  • Listening and questioning stories that we tell ourselves

A parting quote - "Collect moments, not things." 

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Sep 22, 202235:48
Imaginary suffering and the search for self-compassion {with Anna V}

Imaginary suffering and the search for self-compassion {with Anna V}

In this episode of the Relating to Self podcast, Joachim speaks to Anna, or is it a conversation with one of her parts?

Anna V is a clinical scientist, brainstormer, believer, and storyteller on a mission to bridge the gender health gap.

Learn more about Anna and her work:

Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode:

Parting quote:

“We suffer more often in imagination than in reality”

— Seneca

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Sep 15, 202247:41
What is your attention telling you? {with Ben Tirone Nunes}

What is your attention telling you? {with Ben Tirone Nunes}

In this episode of the Relating to Self podcast, Joachim speaks to Benjamin Tirone Nunes for whom whatever he gives his attention has something to tell him about himself. 

Creative at heart, Benjamin is passionate about giving expression to human possibility, always seeking to explore drivers of transformation. He is the Managing Director at Rebundance. 

You can learn more about Benjamin’s work and listen to his curated playlist here:

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Sep 08, 202238:52
Take responsibility and own your pleasure with Aurore Fagnen 💜

Take responsibility and own your pleasure with Aurore Fagnen 💜

In this episode of Relating to Self, Joachim speaks to Aurore Fagnen who is consciously entering in a relationship with her own fingers. 

Aurore accompanies women to heal and reveal themselves through the power of their sensual bodies and their sexual energy.

You can learn more about Aurore and her work here: 

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Sep 01, 202239:55
Psychedelic wellness, integration, & riding the wave of life with Amanda Efthimiou 🏄‍♀️

Psychedelic wellness, integration, & riding the wave of life with Amanda Efthimiou 🏄‍♀️

In this episode of the Relating to Self podcast, Joachim speaks to Amanda Efthimiou, who believes that slowing down can speed things up.

Amanda is a strategist & storyteller working at the intersection of mental health advocacy, technology, and psychedelic wellness.

You can learn more about Amanda and her work here:

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Aug 25, 202242:09
The Magic Zone of Boundaries with Natasha Figueroa

The Magic Zone of Boundaries with Natasha Figueroa

In this episode of Relating to Self, Joachim speaks to Natasha Figueroa, whose magic zone is the narrow gap between out of the comfort zone, but within the boundaries.

In this conversation, they explore a wide array of topics including:

Natasha Figueroa is the founder of Jellyfish Heart, whose mission is to:

  • Support people to embrace vulnerability
  • Lead to intimacy & connectivity
  • Foster a loving relationship with self
  • Realize & release  judgements
  • Refocus on heart & body over mind
  • Share tools to be our most authentic selves

She also works with Art International as a facilitator for their program, “The Art of Being Human.”

You can follow Natasha on Instagram:

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Aug 18, 202245:02
How improv can improve your most important relationship {with Mary Lemmer}

How improv can improve your most important relationship {with Mary Lemmer}

Mary Lemmer brings joy to empowering people to improve themselves and the world around them. She believes that improvisation is a practice that can lead to a better relationship with yourself. 

Mary is the founder of Improve, a company that improves people’s lives by using techniques inspired by improv comedy and behavioral research. 

In this fascinating conversation, Joachim and Mary explore: 

  • The improv warm-up technique “Crazy Eights” 
  • How to use rituals to prepare for podcasts or important events in our daily lives 
  • The importance of letting go of thoughts and getting into our bodies 
  • How Mary incorporates different breathing techniques like pranayama into her daily routine 
  • Mary morning routine of meditation routine and “Morning Pages” the journaling technique popularized by Julia Cameron 
  • Joachim’s experiment with lucid dreaming and maintaining a dream journal 
  • The inspiration and insight of dream interpretation 
  • How the fundamental improv principle of “Yes, and…” directly impact your relationship with yourself 
  • Mary’s belief that improv provides a psychologically safe space to practice new beliefs, behaviors and habits. 
  • How improv not only helped Mary with honing her skills as a comedian, but also allowed her to deepen her perspective, self-inquiry and exploration. 
  • Talking to yourself (or your pet) as a technology for thinking 
  • Joachim’s experience as a professional musician and the idea “that there is nothing that engages the brain more than performing music.” 
  • The difference between rote memorization and improvisation 
  • How improvisation allows you be more fully in the present 
  • “We don't see the world as it is, we see it as we are” ― Anaïs Nin 
  • The benefits of shadow work and Internal Family Systems 
  • The improv technique first word last word 

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Aug 11, 202251:37
Relating to Self - Joachim & Troy

Relating to Self - Joachim & Troy

Relating to Self is a podcast that explores how we relate to ourselves. Joachim has conversations with interesting people to learn how they improve their relationship with themselves in order to bring positive change to their lives. "

My story of self is exactly that - a story." - Joachim 

He opens with a story about meditation. And how his first dip into it gave him a breath of clarity. This, he concludes, was the beginning of the healing process of his core trauma. Meditation on unconditional love opened him up to release the tension he holds for certain people. In working to help people feel love in his own mind, Joachim has embarked on a journey he is now cruising on. The current scene is that of turning to himself for tension resolution. Troy mentions the strange violence that is considered normal when somebody exerts the tension they feel onto others. To not having a space to express himself outwardly growing up, Joachim has responded with expressing himself through music in his mind. And then making it all about expressing himself through the music he composes. Troy's observation on that is how creatives who come from intense trauma tend to be overly focused on creating the perfect piece that would make people understand them. Now Joachim has turned to understanding and accepting himself. 

"Meditation is sitting with what is" - Joachim, as quoted by Troy. Let's sit for a moment with this final episode of the first season of Relating to Self. 

The host who is visiting today, invites you all to ask your questions. Send them to stela@relatingtoself.com and they shall reach him. You can find Joachim on Twitter: https://twitter.com/joachimbrackx 

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Aug 11, 202250:36
Relating to Self - Sara

Relating to Self - Sara

Relating to Self is a podcast that explores how we relate to ourselves. Joachim has conversations with interesting people to learn how they improve their relationship with themselves in order to bring positive change to their lives.
Sara tends to lose herself in a conversation as she tends to focus on other people's needs more than her own. She has devised an approach to counter this. It consists of 3 steps. The first one is to acknowledge what the other person needs, then to acknowledge what she needs herself and finally to voice that need. Elaborating on being authentic with others, Joachim compares conversing with dancing, in the sense that the more experienced your partner is, the better the flow. "Why do you need a second person to be yourself?" Sara asks herself.
The two discuss difficult thoughts and how simply acknowledging them and being present can help alleviate them. "Instead of quieting the thoughts, I enter the kinder garden" remarks Joachim.
Sara leaves us with the sentiment that "It's so beautiful in this relationship with ourselves. It's that it's always changing and always evolving... if we're not afraid of relating to ourselves."
Our guest has a podcast herself. It's called Learning Day and can be found on all of the major streaming platforms. Here's a link for convenience:
anchor.fm/learning-day
And they have a web page at learningday.community
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Aug 11, 202245:02
Relating to Self - Isla
Aug 19, 202144:54
Relating to Self - Julius
Aug 12, 202139:01
Relating to Self - Georgie

Relating to Self - Georgie

Relating to Self is a podcast that explores how we relate to ourselves. Joachim has conversations with interesting people to learn how they improve their relationship with themselves in order to bring positive change to their lives.

"The beliefs I have about myself are what defines which actions I take and do not take" Georgie feels responsible and cares for who she is going to become. She is mindful of the long term impact that her actions might have. In the sense of teaching herself to act and be a certain way. "If I don't do things because I am afraid, and I stay with the familiar, the long term impact of that is that I never grow."

Our guest sees the inner critic as a helpful voice that helps us manage our expectations of ourselves. It tries to make sure that we don't try something we'd fail at to prevent us from not trying it ever again. She advices us to embrace that voice and thank it for protecting us. But recognize sometimes that you shouldn't be listening because there are other parts speaking that may know better.

Georgie and Joachim agree that boundaries and being specific improve both our relationship with ourselves and the ones we have with others.

Georgie's company website is at https://www.triggerconversations.co.uk/

Their social media accounts can be found at  https://www.instagram.com/triggerconversations/ and https://www.facebook.com/TriggerConversations/

And you can follow our guest's thoughts at https://conversationswithgeorgie.substack.com/

You can find Joachim on Twitter: https://twitter.com/joachimbrackx

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Aug 05, 202146:11
Relating to Self - Sam
Jul 29, 202116:41
Relating to Self - Ayah
Jul 22, 202145:29
Relating to Self - Annelies
Jul 15, 202159:41
Relating to Self - Alina

Relating to Self - Alina

Relating to Self is a podcast that explores how we relate to ourselves. Joachim has conversations with interesting people to learn how they improve their relationship with themselves in order to bring positive change to their lives.

"Self love isn't about anything in particular, it's a state of being."

For Alina, curiosity is the safe way she can meet herself. It does not nag her as other parts of her inner voice would. She compares it to the Joker. And shares that it allows her to play, shift things around. In embodying the Joker, Alina tries to not take herself too seriously. This part of her justifies itself and pulls her out of dark places.

It is important to make a second between impulse and response. This gives you the power to make a choice, she tells us. Alina has a strong intuition and a lot of energy to follow it. This sometimes leads her to cross her boundaries. The way she counters this is with her breath. It helps her return back to herself.

Our guest's methods of relating to herself include swimming and swirling like a Dervish. She also enjoys being her best lover. Overall, she is in tune with what she needs in a given moment and gives it to herself.

If you want to follow more of her thoughts and insights you can find her on Instagram @i_embrace.life.

She also shared her website with us. Head to https://wefeast.life/ to find a juicy bit more.

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Jul 08, 202146:09
Relating to Self - Grace
Jul 01, 202146:48
Relating to Self - Matteo

Relating to Self - Matteo

Relating to Self is a podcast that explores how we relate to ourselves. Joachim has conversations with interesting people to learn how they improve their relationship with themselves in order to bring positive change to their lives.

For Matteo, relating to self brings a sense that there is something other than himself that he is relating to, or rather, different parts of him that relate to each other in different ways. There's him and then there's the judgement or assessment of him.

Our guest goes on to talk about the concept of shadow work - there are parts of ourselves that because of being denied expression in a natural way, find a way to manifest themselves in a destructive manner. People mistakenly think that they can get rid of these parts that they don't like. Our guest points out that this is more likely to be possible if we first accept them and bring them to light. For Matteo, martial arts and track and field have been a way to bring out his aggression in a healthy and controlled way.

He suspects that our unwillingness to change the parts of us that don't serve us is connected to a fear of ego death. Or losing the story that we have about ourselves. "I think some sense of physical strength and power can support a little bit more safety even in adventuring in a space when it feels unsafe psychologically."

"You will change, your relationship will change as a result. And not everybody will stay. You have to be ready for that if you're gonna learn how to do this well." Matteo is a coach who trains others to be coaches. He says that the skillset of a coach helps people have a more in-depth understanding of the underlying dynamics between people.

You can connect with our guest on LinkedIn at https://uk.linkedin.com/in/matteo-trevisan-coach?trk=people-guest_people_search-card

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Jun 24, 202150:51
Relating to Self - Laura
Jun 17, 202147:56
Relating to Self - Nissa

Relating to Self - Nissa

Relating to Self is a podcast that explores how we relate to ourselves. Joachim has conversations with interesting people to learn how they improve their relationship with themselves in order to bring positive change to their lives.

For Nissa, relating to self is on a deeper level than self-love. It is the ability to see and recognize who you are and where you are and to fully bring compassion and love to that. Self-love can overlook the reality. But relating to self pushes you to accept it and then love yourself. Joachim adds that relating to self happens even when you don't love yourself.

Our guest used to have a very rigid understanding of meditation, where you sit down with your legs crossed and that would be the only way. But over time she got to a point where she sees life itself as a meditation. She believes that any moment offers an opportunity to begin again.

Both discuss how when making a frequent small mistake, some people label themselves as a certain thing that makes that mistake. But that only gets them to identify as that thing and perpetuates the pattern. There is maybe this idea that "If I say it first, then they can't say it", that they will know we're aware of it and possibly working on it. But in labeling ourselves a certain way is accepting that this is how we are and that we can't be changed.

Nissa is working on a project called Sōsai, which is the Japanese word for counterbalance. The handle on Instagram is @sosaiorg and they are also on substack.com under the same name.

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Jun 10, 202151:57
Relating to Self - Leah

Relating to Self - Leah

Relating to Self is a podcast that explores how we relate to ourselves. Joachim has conversations with interesting people to learn how they improve their relationship with themselves in order to bring positive change to their lives.   

"Life is a journey of deepening your relationship to self. We can go through tough times or good times, or easy times... but things become so much easier to navigate when you have a solid relationship with yourself." This is how Leah defines relating to self. She believes that everything we go through in life deepens our relationship to ourselves. Tough times present us with opportunities to strengthen the bond we have with ourselves and understand it better.   

Leah believes that trust and love are core values that help us alleviate tension we might have within ourselves. It is important to trust ourselves so that we know whatever life throws at us, we can handle it. Maybe it won't turn out for the best, but we will be able to endure it.  

We don't have much control over things, Leah believes. But what we do have control over is how we choose to react. Realizing things are your of your control is scary but freeing as well. When things do happen, the bigger our reaction to them, the more important they are to us.  

For Leah unconditional love for yourself means being there through good and bad times. Joachim ads that for himself this love is one that doesn't ask for anything. A simple desire that somebody lives a wonderful life. And how you relate to other people is determined by how you relate yourself.   

You can find Leah on a number of social media with the handle @leahebae. She is most active on Instagram.  

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Jun 03, 202139:59
Relating to Self - Rebecca

Relating to Self - Rebecca

Relating to Self is a podcast that explores how we relate to ourselves. Joachim has conversations with interesting people to learn how they improve their relationship with themselves in order to bring positive change to their lives.   

"I see relating to self as being very grounded in understanding the self." At first, Rebecca's relationship with herself was about understanding, then fixing herself. It has now evolved to also be about acceptance. She carefully picks when to support herself and when to challenge herself to become better. "The choices that I see as worthwhile are the ones that require me to grow and that will challenge me and force me to step into my higher self and overcome challenges." she adds. We have a choice when we notice something about us that is in our way. We can either work on it or we can accept it as it is.  

Rebecca and Joachim also discuss triggers. And how we have options there as well. They agree that when we are triggered we can either remove ourselves from the situation, maybe even avoid it in the first place, or we can choose to endure it so that we grow through the challenge. Rebecca keeps a trigger journal in which she details what triggered her. After a triggering situation has fully passed, she thinks about how she would like things to be.  

The two discuss trust and how we need to trust ourselves in order to be trustworthy. We can learn to trust ourselves by being consistent with our practices. If we make plans about practices we do and then we blow them, we won't trust ourselves and that will result in negative feelings towards ourselves.  

Rebecca is on Instagram where she will be posting updates on a book she is writing: https://www.instagram.com/therelationshipdesigner/?hl=bg

You can find Joachim on Twitter: https://twitter.com/joachimbrackx 

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May 27, 202147:28
Relating to Self - Songya

Relating to Self - Songya

Relating to Self is a podcast that explores how we relate to ourselves. Joachim has conversations with interesting people to learn how they improve their relationship with themselves in order to bring positive change to their lives.   

"In order for me to really know who I am, there's an element of myself that needs to relate to others." Songya began her journey of relating by thinking about how kind and compassionate she is toward others. This then turned into an exploration of how kind and compassionate she is toward herself.   

For Songya, relating to herself is intertwined with how she is perceived by those around her. She lets their perception of her guide her own. In all her connections, she strives to be a person one can be fully themselves with. And much like the kindness and compassion, she turned this back to herself, asking how much she allows herself to be authentic. 

Both Songya and Joachim agree that we cannot focus solely on self-love as this neglects parts of ourselves that still require some work.  Being authentic means acknowledging your shortcomings and, Songya points out, if we try to suppress and hide them, they find a way to express themselves in negative ways.  

Our guest has a website where you can learn more about leadership and executive coaching: http://songyakesler.com/ 

Songya would like to leave us with the following sentiment: Learning to express our emotions (good, bad, and ugly) in a healthy way is a giant leap towards cultivating self-love because it requires us to accept how we are feeling and to trust ourselves enough to let it out. Trust and acceptance (of self and others) are paths to love.

You can find Joachim on Twitter: https://twitter.com/joachimbrackx 

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May 20, 202138:11
Relating to Self - Galy

Relating to Self - Galy

Relating to Self is a podcast that explores how we relate to ourselves. Joachim has conversations with interesting people to learn how they improve their relationship with themselves in order to bring positive change to their lives.   

"For me, relating to self is attending to the needs of the whole body" says Galy. In this talk we learn of the many ways she relates to herself. She goes through what she does in order to feel comfortable in her own skin. That might sometimes takes a toll on her. But not because she does it. Sometimes her reasoning is not aligned with self-love. 

  
Galy has a busy schedule of relating to self. She would like to share some of her methods with you.
She recommends Kyle's website for yearly reflection deep dive:
https://whichritual.com/2020-2021-ultimate-reflection-integration-guide and Michael Pollan's book: https://michaelpollan.com/books/how-to-change-your-mind/
Then she points to a Gratitude journal she uses and tips us that it also has a nice newsletter on self-care: https://www.intelligentchange.com/products/the-five-minute-journal

Galy's field of work leads her to be a proponent of psychedelics as a means to aid mental health, especially in terminally ill cancer patients.
She points us to the most prominent non-profit for psychedelics - MAPS: https://maps.org/
As well as the company she works for: https://www.atai.life/

Finally she wishes to bring light again to Haneen's Sex Homework Society and recommends the handbook, as well as the course itself: https://sexhomeworksociety.com/

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May 13, 202145:16
Relating to Self - Joshua
May 06, 202149:55
Relating to Self - Asya
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Relating to Self - Eagan
Apr 22, 202143:37
Relating to Self - Cayo

Relating to Self - Cayo

"You can love yourself in almost every small action during the day"

Relating to Self is a podcast that explores how we relate to ourselves. Joachim has conversations with interesting people to learn how they improve their relationship with themselves in order to bring positive change to their lives.

"I choose to see the beauty of myself and that can amplify self-love", Cayo points out early on. He then goes further to suggest that we should love ourselves as we love those we've fallen in love with - with compassion and unconditionally. He reminds us that this is available to everybody.

"It's the small deeds, the mindful little tweaks that I do, mindfully at the beginning and then at some points they're just there." speaks Cayo about his self-love practice. And although he admits that more of the things he does in a day are not self-loving in particular, as opposed to the expressions of his self-love, his mindset allows him not to focus on what he's not doing or what he cannot do.

Cayo also has a suggestion for a way we can relate to ourselves: he advises us to appreciate parts of our body before they are in pain or no longer functioning. Touch them and look at them. "And if you are very brave you can go to the parts that you don't love and have compassion towards that"

You can find Cayo's Facebook page here: https://www.facebook.com/jancayo.fiebig

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Apr 15, 202145:32
Relating to Self - Troy
Apr 08, 202145:38
Relating to Self - A conversation with Roel, the creator of Scenario Cards

Relating to Self - A conversation with Roel, the creator of Scenario Cards

Relating to Self is a podcast that explores how we relate to ourselves. Joachim has conversations with interesting people to learn how they improve their relationship with themselves in order to bring positive change in their lives. The relationship you have with yourself is the only relationship that you will always be in.

"There's also another way of relating to myself, which is way more loving. Which is that it's okay to be mediocre. You don't have to be the best. You don't have to ruin yourself with work and with sports, and whatever competition you want to win. But it's also okay to just be who you are, and appreciate that." - Roel

You can find Roel and his amazing Scenario Cards at https://www.instagram.com/scenariocards/

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Apr 01, 202143:50
A conversation with Haneen, who runs the Sex Homework Society

A conversation with Haneen, who runs the Sex Homework Society

"Pleasure is our birthright" 

This is only one of the many gems that Haneen expressed in our conversation. In this very first episode of this podcast, I talk to Haneen Khan. I met Haneen when I enrolled in her online course about sex, the Sex Homework Society. I felt an immediate connection with her that went beyond her work as a facilitator. She is such a warm and joyful person. 

I am absolutely delighted that she was my first guest. 

You can find her here: https://sexhomeworksociety.com/

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Mar 25, 202155:28