Relationships Rock

In this episode, we will discuss anxiety, what it is, the medication that is often prescribed, and how to better have a discussion surrounding anxiety when it comes up in relationships.

This episode is not instead of medical advice, but rather for educational purposes. If you feel you have anxiety, I highly recommend speaking to a professional.

You can always reach out to Raquel on whatsapp/phone: +15614000679.

We are joined by six voices from the Shidduch RoundTable where we discussed all things shidduchim!

Can you make a decision in the first five minutes of a date? Should girls send shidduch pictures? Gender roles in shidduchim? Should you marry someone who says they will change? And so much more!

Thank you again, Rafael, Yekusiel, Ben, Etty, Raquel, and Adina for coming on!!

Looking forward to our next conversation!

This is the recording of a live episode (with an audience!). We were joined by Miriam Zeitlin where we discussed the question, "Should Shomer Negiah Be Hard?" We then answered your questions on all things shomer!

Miriam Zeitlin is a certified dating/relationship coach, kallah teacher, and shadchan. Having been through the shidduch and dating scene with her boys, Miriam saw a huge need for dating coaches who understand the frum shidduch system. Miriam grew up in Brooklyn and attended school in Chicago, so she understands and connects well with people from all  backgrounds. You can contact Miriam: +1 (718) 909-6256

I love hearing your feedback, you can contact Raquel: +1-561-400-0679.

In this episode we discuss the idea of a "Shidduch Crisis". Does it exist? What can we do to make this journey better? And some insights and gems along the way.

You can reach Raquel on Whatsapp/Phone at: +1-561-400-0679.

We are joined by Miriam Zeitlin where we discuss the first year of marriage. What are some challenges? What are some rocks of advice? And at the end we take of the questions that you submitted!

Miriam Zeitlin is a certified dating/relationship coach, kallah teacher, and shadchan. Having been through the shidduch and dating scene with her boys, Miriam saw a huge need for dating coaches who understand the frum shidduch system. Miriam grew up in Brooklyn and attended school in Chicago, so she understands and connects well with people from all  backgrounds.

You can contact Miriam: +1 (718) 909-6256

We have all felt stuck at some moment in our lives. Whether in childhood, in dating, in our marriage, at work, or somewhere in between. In this episode, we will discuss that natural human emotion of feeling stuck and go through some tips on how to get unstuck.

This was such a fun episode, reminiscing on the magical quotes and themes of Harry Potter. If you are a Harry Potter fan, you will enjoy remembering the magic. And even if you are not, you will gain from the meaningful quotes and their applications to relationships. Gems and rocks for everyone!

You may not be able to diagnose a Narcissist after this episode, but you will be able to recognize unhealthy personality traits that you may want to stay away from!

We are joined by my cousin Shana, where we discuss weight in dating, body image and #lovingyourself!

Welcome back to Relationships Rock! Season 2 is finally upon us! Today we will be discussing forgiving others and ourselves. Sometimes in order to open up a new door, we need to fully close the one behind us.

We are joined for our season finale by Lisa Elefant. Lisa is one of the founders and now full time director of AAS. ADOPTASHADCHAN is a network of over 300 shadchanim across the world who are on the forefront of making shidduchim as less stressful as possible. You can reach AAS at 718-957-2270 and check out their website: www.adoptashadchan.com!

This episode is dedicated in honor of Lisa's son, Chaim Elefant z"l.

See you in Season 2!

A fun and light-hearted conversation analyzing a Disney classic, "The Little Mermaid".

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You can always contact me for one-on-one sessions! Till soon! https://calendly.com/raquelbetesh

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We are joined by Shadchanim and Dating Coaches Danielle Aronovitz and Riselle Naimark where we discuss the biggest frustration in shidduchim: "What I Want Does Not Want Me".

Danielle is a shadchan and dating coach for many years for all types of people (as well as a Speech Pathologist!). She can be reached via Whatsapp at: 5163161902.

Risselle Naimark is a Professional Freelance Makeup Artist and Skincare Consultant , who has been in the beauty industry for over 30 yrs.  She is a Shadchan and Dating Coach as well.

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In this episode we are joined by Rivky, where we discuss navigating shidduchim while coming from a divorced home. We discuss the challenges, the questions to ask, and many other insights. Whether you come from a married home, a divorced home, are a single or a parent, there are a lot of rocks in this episode about having the awareness of the type of home you grew up and the type of home you want to build.

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We are joined by Miriam Zeitlin where we discuss expectations for the first few dates, dropping the shadchan, and getting engaged!

Miriam Zeitlin is a certified dating/relationship coach and shadchan. Having been through the shidduch and dating scene with her boys, Miriam saw a huge need for dating coaches who understand the frum shidduch system. Miriam grew up in Brooklyn and attended school in Chicago, so she understands and connects well with people from all  backgrounds.

You can contact Miriam: +1 (718) 909-6256

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We are joined by my friend Yocheved where we discuss shifting your mindset, having Emuna, and how to find strength and positivity during dating! Thank you Yocheved for coming on!!

In this episode we are joined by my cousin Shana where we discuss the importance of discussing finances during dating!

We are joined by Rebbetzin Yocheved Goldberg, the Rebbetzin of the Boca Raton Synagogue in South Florida. We discussed the role community leaders, community members, and singles can do to help singles feel connected and included in Jewish Communities.

Rebbetzin Goldberg is also a shachan and kallah teacher. She can be reached at: Goldbergmom@gmail.com.

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We are excited to have Dr. Yossi Ives back on the podcast, this time talking about the very important topic of Shomer Negiah.

Doctor Yossi Ives is an expert in dating. He is a qualified life coach and author of two books on coaching psychology, including Relationship Coaching. He has worked with over a hundred singles, helping them towards marriage. He runs a humanitarian organization and is the Rav of a community in Pomona. It was an honor to have him on the podcast!

You can reach him at: www.datewell.org 

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We are joined today by the amazing dating coach Hanna Kahana where we discussed all about attraction: What is attraction? What does it feel like? How is it different than infatuation? Can it grow? How much attraction do you need to get engaged? And more!

Hanna Kahana is a certified life coach that specializes in dating and first year of marriage. She is focused on assisting young adults with any questions or concerns they may have as they navigate the dating world. You can reach her at: HannaKahanaCoach@gmail.com. You can also check her out on Instagram: @HannaKahanaCoaching

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Family is family and yet....there are always triggers, specially during the holidays! Today we are discussing how to make your family time as pleasant as possible, have the right perspective, and at the same time, make time within the social setting to recharge.

Chag Sameach!

Ten things your kallah teacher wants you to know, with a bonus #11 at the end. Whether single, engaged, or married, here are some important tips to keep in mind!

We are joined today by Eliyahu and Yosef, who share their thoughts and experience on dating a second time around.

-How can you find out what really happened?

-What are red and green flags when dating divorcees?

-Is someone less ready to commit because they went through a divorce?

And many more questions!!

Whether you are dating the second time around or even the first, there are a lot of gems to gain from this episode!

In this episode we discuss getting clarity and closure after a break up and moving on!  Dealing with the pain of letting someone go, gaining clarity on why it didn’t work, getting closure that this person was not for you, allowing you to fully closer that door, and knowing when to revisit an idea. This is part of the journey, and thought painful, can have a very significant impact!

This is the episode that started all the episodes, the conversation that I would have so many times that I decided to start this podcast! How can you use your feminine energy in dating and beyond? Tune it!

Back by popular demand, the guys are back in the zoom studio answering your questions! Thank you Noach, Yoni and Joshua for coming on and sharing your answers with us!

This week we are joined by my cousin, Shana, who joined us in the second episode! We discussed some of the awkward scenarios that you sent in a few weeks ago:

-Not liking your engagement bracelet

-Guy turns on non-Jewish music in the car.

-Job offer when you just started dating someone.

-Listening to your gut! And more!

This week we have the girls in the studio, thank you Shira and Sara for joining us! We are answering questions from the guys and giving the female perspective on kosher flirting and shidduch dating. 

In this episode we are joined by Joshua, Eliyahu, and Noach who were gracious to share with us their insights and also answer your questions!

Listener discretion advised. 

DISCLAIMER: This episode is about Porn ADDICTION. There is a distinction between an addiction and something you do sporadically (that while not encouraged), you can stop and do not need professional help for. At no point am I vilifying guys and girls who struggle with being single and not having an outlet. I am not an alarmist nor do I believe that anyone who has watched Porn will automatically struggle with intimacy and marriage. There is a lot more to say on this topic and I am happy to have started the conversation on a topic that is very taboo. Life is not black and white and neither is any conversation! Perhaps we will re-visit this on a future episode.

The nature of this topic is very sensitive and private and it is because of that I wanted to put this important information on here. Our guest speaker is Naomi Lewis Afriat, LCSW, a Licensed Social Worker who has spent 15 years working with teens, young adults, couples and families.

Naomi relocated to Los Angeles in 2020 after living in New York for 15 years. Before leaving New York, Naomi worked with teens, parents, and families in overcoming challenges. She also ran a crisis hotline for parents and provided support in clinical settings. Naomi obtained her Masters in Social Work from Touro College in 2009. She also has a certificate in Crisis Counseling, is trained in EMDR and is a CSAT (Certified Sex Addiction Therapist). In her role as a CSAT, 

Naomi is passionate about supporting addicts, their spouses and their families struggling with sex addiction, intimacy disorders and related issues. The majority of her work in this area is focused on supporting Betrayed Partners of addicts, and helping couples reconnect after betrayal. Naomi is married and enjoys cooking and pursuing her artistic interests in her free time. She is licensed, and practices in CA, NJ, NY, FL, VA & NV.

For more information about Naomi and the work she does, please visit www.intomeyousee.org. She can also be reached via email at NaomiLewisLSCW@gmail.com. 

This episode is dedicated to parents of children in shidduchim. Let's bridge that gap between your child and yourself, and use this challenging time period to bring you even closer! 

We are joined by Rabbi Doctor Yossi Ives where we discuss "Why Do Singles Get Stuck in Dating?"

Rabbi Doctor Yossi Ives is an expert in dating. He is a qualified life coach and author of two books on coaching psychology, including Relationship Coaching. He has worked with over a hundred singles, helping them towards marriage. He runs a humanitarian organization and is the Rav of a community in Pomona. It was an honor to have him on the podcast!

You can reach him at: www.datewell.org 

We are are joined once again by the amazing dating coach Hanna Kahana, where we discuss whats, the whens, the whys, and the hows of dating coaching. 

Hanna Kahana is a certified life coach that specializes in dating and  first year of marriage. She is focused on assisting young adults with  any questions or concerns they may have as they navigate the dating  world. You can reach her at: HannaKahanaCoach@gmail.com. You can also  check her out on Instagram: @HannaKahanaCoaching

Jealous of your friends getting engaged? Feeling burnt out from dating? Tune in!

Tips and tricks for making long distance work and going the distance!

Join me in this real and vulnerable conversation with an amazing friend Rifky as she looks back at her own dating journey and shares "rocks" of wisdom that she has gained through the years. 

Rifky is a co-host of the amazing podcast #spillthetea, check it out: https://open.spotify.com/show/4sKSucFYQMm9ZsoYwoDc9x?si=doE1uufORDyjJDgLlkQlUw

We are back! To flirt or not to flirt? THAT is the question! A follow-up on last week's episode, responding and commenting on the feedback we got. 

Hanna Kahana is a certified life coach that specializes in dating and first year of marriage. She is focused on assisting young adults with any questions or concerns they may have as they navigate the dating world. You can reach her at: HannaKahanaCoach@gmail.com. You can also check her out on Instagram: @HannaKahanaCoaching

We are joined by the amazing dating coach Hanna Kahana where we discuss how to flirt--the kosher way! 

Hanna Kahana is a certified life coach that specializes in dating and first year of marriage. She is focused on assisting young adults with any questions or concerns they may have as they navigate the dating world. You can reach her at: HannaKahanaCoach@gmail.com. You can also check her out on Instagram: @HannaKahanaCoaching

Today we are joined by the amazing Miriam Zeitlin, where we discuss red flags (STOP!), yellows flags (hmm, maybe?) and green flags (reasons to say yes!). 

Miriam Zeitlin is a certified dating/relationship coach and shadchan. Having been through the shidduch and dating scene with her boys, Miriam saw a huge need for dating coaches who understand the frum shidduch system. Miriam grew up in Brooklyn and attended school in Chicago, so she understands and connects well with people from all  backgrounds.

You can contact Miriam: +1 (718) 909-6256

An important and sensitive subject on how to reveal information and how to receive it. 

Continuing the conversation about unrealistic expectations. What should you compromise on and how can you become more realistic?

My most controversial episode as of yet! Are you being realistic? Tune in to find out...

In this episode, we have a conversation about not despairing, staying positive, tips and tricks for feeling gratitude and living a fulfilling and happy single life, while waiting. 

Let's answer one question together: "What should you look for in a spouse?" And let's answer that question by asking another question, "What truly matters in a marriage?"