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F*ck Is Our Mantra: Life Conversations with Richard & Steve

F*ck Is Our Mantra: Life Conversations with Richard & Steve

By Richard and Steve
When was the last time life slapped you back into reality? "F*ck Is Our Mantra" offers a real and honest look at what life serves you and learning how to carve your own space in this world, tackling the challenges while embracing the life as it comes at you - all with hilarious stories, great food and craft coffee.
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Sometimes the Fear Never Goes Away
We take some Q & A time and one of the questions goes pretty deep on some scares we both carry with us. In the end, we have a simple goal for the rest of the year you're not going to want to miss.  Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.
31:21
October 16, 2020
Pina Coladas for Everyone, Including Coati!
We are back from vacation ... we were rested for a few days, then Kennedy decided to cut a new tooth. No bueno! But, we are finally in fall and excited for what's ahead!  Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.
24:11
October 2, 2020
Chicken Bits & Love
After five years of marriage (8 total together), things get a little real. LOL! It's been a funny week in our house ... we cover that and take a trip down lover's lane with a look back at our wedding and reception from five years ago.
31:11
September 18, 2020
Maintaining Balance & Positivity
What a two weeks it has been! Our "fuck of the week" kicks us off on the most positive of notes and we keep the theme going, covering how we are managing to maintain positivity in our lives in a BLM, COVID, and political downpour-world. Hug your friends, friends. Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. Find us online: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve & http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
34:16
September 4, 2020
Two Down, One To Go
Sorry for the delay ... that's what happens when you turn 37 (hint: Steve) and then get sick. But that's two negative COVID-19 tests out of the three of us. We catch you up on everything and talk about some random but fun things we want to do. Enjoy! Follow our friends Graham & Bradlee: http://instagram.com/grahamary and http://instagram.com/bradleeharderaychuk Support the Alzheimer's Association: https://act.alz.org/site/TR/Walk2020/IA-Iowa?px=10459621&pg=personal&fr_id=13399 If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.
34:53
August 21, 2020
The Case of the Murdered Chicken
A combined "Fuck of the Week" is how bad it was for us. And how does McDonald's run out of soda at 3.45am!? And we have our second murder on the show ... And it's also true.  Support the Alzheimer's Association: https://act.alz.org/site/TR/Walk2020/IA-Iowa?px=10459621&pg=personal&fr_id=13399 Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. The Case of the Murdered Squirrels: https://fuckisourmantrapodcast.wordpress.com/2020/04/07/episode-7-the-case-of-the-murdered-squirrels/:  If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.
25:38
July 24, 2020
Can a Guy Wear Nail Polish?
A curious question from Steve as Kennedy starts to wear nail polish: Can a guy wear nail polish? The poll results were a bit interesting, but it got us both thinking about normalizing behavior and how empowering that can be for us all. Curious to your thoughts ...  Support the Alzheimer's Association: https://act.alz.org/site/TR/Walk2020/IA-Iowa?px=10459621&pg=personal&fr_id=13399 Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.
32:04
July 10, 2020
The World You Want
We are halfway through 2020, six months to Christmas, and still basically in quarantine. What's next? We talk about health, the state of our world, and how we can make it better. Inspired by Switchfoot. :)  Support the Alzheimer's Association: https://act.alz.org/site/TR/Walk2020/IA-Iowa?px=10459621&pg=personal&fr_id=13399 Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.
36:24
June 26, 2020
#BlackLivesMatter
It has been a challenging 2020; now we are dealing with the reality of racial inequality across the country. We are finally being forced to have difficult and truthful conversations about race in this country. We decided to have a conversation of our own about #BlackLivesMatter and are listening to the truths about our current society. We are here to listen ... send us a message!  Support the Alzheimer's Association: https://act.alz.org/site/TR/Walk2020/IA-Iowa?px=10459621&pg=personal&fr_id=13399 Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.
45:48
June 12, 2020
A Hot Seat for the Both of Us
It's gonna be ... June? Instead of us coming up with the questions, we took a few from a recent New York Times article, inspired by Story Corps, and asked each other three questions designed to get to know each other. It was a fun, and quick look at some decently heavy questions. Oh, and we are preparing to celebrate an anniversary in the midst of COVID. Support the Alzheimer's Association: https://act.alz.org/site/TR/Walk2020/IA-Iowa?px=10459621&pg=personal&fr_id=13399 Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.
27:09
May 29, 2020
Tasty Cow, eh Meg?
We've always known we are special ... but our love of the movie Twister is second-to-none. Go with on a trip down memory lane and relive our favorite moments and some back stories along the way!  Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. Watch the Fuck of the Week on YouTube: https://youtu.be/MPd99yWBi8I If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.
24:26
May 15, 2020
How We Side Hustle
In these times, many people have started to "side hustle." Richard has been doing it off and on for years, and Steve just started a new one! It's all about balance and passion. Take a look inside our crazy lives.  Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. Support the Alzheimer's Association: https://act.alz.org/site/TR/Walk2020/IA-Iowa?px=10459621&pg=personal&fr_id=13399 Watch the Fuck of the Week on YouTube: https://youtu.be/MPd99yWBi8I If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.
32:31
May 1, 2020
Houston, We Have a Problem
50 years after Apollo 13, we should talking about discovery, and failure was an apt topic. Steve is the space / science geek of the family and Richard loves it because even if he doesn't "get" science, he loves discovery. Come along for the ride!  Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. Bruck & Co.  Instagram: http://instagram.com/bruckandco Twitter: http://twitter.com/bruckandco Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Bruck-Co-100153808317819/ Apollo 13 Podcast: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/w13xttx2/episodes/downloads  The Universe on Netflix: https://www.netflix.com/title/70143831?s=i&trkid=13747225 Cosmos on Amazon Prime: https://www.amazon.com/gp/video/detail/B00IJL0CB4/ref=share_ios_season  Watch the Fuck of the Week on YouTube: https://youtu.be/mG7PjC59bdA If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.
32:42
April 17, 2020
The Fucks of our Lives, LOL
We weren't cancelled after our first season! So we decided to celebrate by re-living some of our favorites of the past year; and even some of the downtimes. We talk cookie wars, Semper Fi, and a killer re-finance.  Oh, and check in on each other. We are all in this together. Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.
27:39
April 3, 2020
Preview: Live it Well with Richard Dedor
This is a preview episode for the upcoming podcast series, Live it Well, hosted by Richard Dedor. This preview is with Nick McCarvel who will be the season's opening guest! Subscribe wherever you listen: https://anchor.fm/liveitwellpodcast Follow Online: http://instagram.com/LiveItWellPodcast Host: Richard Dedor (richarddedor.com & http://instagram.com/richarddedor) Produced by Sprout Media: http://gosproutmedia.com Music: Ukulele Fun  by Rafael Krux Link: https://filmmusic.io/song/5441-ukulele-fun- License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/
11:00
March 31, 2020
We Need a Laugh (slightly NSFW)
With all the COVID-19 news and social-distancing, we decided this podcast would be funny (and hopefully less serious). So, we each asked the other five fun and random questions. Enjoy!  Oh, and check in on each other. We are all in this together.  Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com. If you want to watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/FHcU4yPc52c
30:20
March 20, 2020
We have a fucking one year old (plus bonus content)
What a year. Over the past two weeks we watched Mayor Pete drop out of the race and our daughter turned one. ONE. Fuck. It's real. As a special bonus, we have a quick Q&A and the full audio of Richard's speech from the Des Moines Register's Storytellers event at Hoyt Sherman Place!  Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com. You can also watch the bonus content on YouTube: https://youtu.be/n_HpNp4LgO0
40:31
March 6, 2020
After One Year, We Wish We'd Known
As Kennedy nears her first birthday, we thought it might be fun (and rather reflective) to look back on things we wish we had known when she was born. Trust us, this is f-cking funny and real as hell.  If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.
24:53
February 21, 2020
BONUS: Preview of Season 2 of Gen2Gen
With a house of sick people, we are sharing this preview of Season 2 of Gen2Gen: Love is in the Air.  P.S. Happy Valentine's Day Subscribe here: http://www.richarddedor.com/podcasts/gen2gen-podcast/
06:45
February 14, 2020
Two Marketers Have Dinner ... (possibly NSFW)
Two marketers are married. What do they talk about at dinner? Marketing. That's right. In this episode, we find some gems online (some NSFW) that you're going to love. We also talk a bit about the upcoming Super Bowl! (Go 9ers!)  If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.
24:26
January 31, 2020
Finding Joy in Chaos
Joy can be elusive. Especially when you're working hard, raising a toddler, and building a life. Now that Richard is 36 and we are into a new year and new decade, we thought it was time to talk about joy; and how we find it.  Support the Alzheimer's Association: https://act.alz.org/site/TR/Walk2020/IA-Iowa?px=10459621&pg=personal&fr_id=13399 If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.
31:10
January 17, 2020
Richard Got Scared by a Naked Man
We start the year off with a classic Fuck of the Week from Richard ...  Then we cover our New Year's Resolutions and how we are planning to approach this new year, and new decade. So much has changed but we are move forward in such a positive and healthy direction, we wanted to share that with you all! Happy New Year! Support the Alzheimer's Association: https://act.alz.org/site/TR/Walk2020/IA-Iowa?px=10459621&pg=personal&fr_id=13399  If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.
27:06
January 3, 2020
Richard was an Eggnog Virgin Until Steve
It's true. Until Steve, Richard didn't know the joy that is eggnog. In this special Christmas episode, we talk about our traditions, our holiday highs and lows and our favorite Christmas movies. It's going to be the hap, hap, happiest Christmas! NYC: A State of Mind Link: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1502906120 If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.
43:41
December 20, 2019
I Spent the Weekend in the Hennepin Co. Jail (with Deadra Stanton)
We can't wait for you to enjoy this episode ... we welcome our dear friend and retired teacher, Deadra Stanton to the show! We cover what it was like having Richard as a student, her journey as a teacher, her love of Christmas, and the weekend she spent in jail.  Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. Support the Alzheimer's Association: https://act.alz.org/site/TR/Walk2020/IA-Iowa?px=10459621&pg=personal&fr_id=13399 If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.
59:31
December 6, 2019
Did Someone Hear a Turkey?
Happy Thanksgiving!  We both love Thanksgiving ... Potatoes! Pumpkin Pie! And Steve's homemade cranberry sauce! We talk traditions and what we are thankful for in this tremendous year of change.  NYC: A State of Mind Link: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1502906120 If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.
28:29
November 22, 2019
Is it time for Christmas music?
You hear it every year: “It’s too early for Christmas music!” Steve and I debate when it’s okay to play Christmas music, watch Christmas movies, and put up Christmas decor.  We end the episode with a recap of this same week in 2018 and a lesson for you all.
37:31
November 8, 2019
It's Just a Bunch of Hocus Pocus
Spooky! We take a trip down memory lane in this special Halloween episode! We talk about our favorite (and not-so-favorite Halloweens as a kid. Our favorite candy, and our favorite scary movies! So, grab your buckets of Smarties and Reese's and enjoy this week's episode.  If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
 and you can learn more about Steve here: http://lifeasdaddy.com and Richard here: http://richarddedor.com. 
32:07
October 24, 2019
Dear 20-Year-Old ...
We've both been through a lot and thought it would be fun to turn-back the clock and talk to our 20-year old selves. Oh, and thank goodness Morgan is okay and thanks to Switchfoot for a great show last week!  We also quote Will & Grace in this episode ... and it's a lesson about setting yourself up to be ready for the good things in life instead of focusing on getting them.  If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
 
42:27
October 11, 2019
Vomit and Dating (But not at the same time)
What a week it has been! We dealt with vomit from two of the three of us. And since we just celebrated our fourth wedding anniversary, we thought it would be fun to talk about dating before each other. Trust us, there are some doozies in here.  If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
 and you can learn more about Steve here: http://lifeasdaddy.com and Richard here: http://richarddedor.com. 
48:07
September 27, 2019
Travel, Intoxication, Send Help! (Redux!)
Don't get on Steve's bad side. (We're talking about you Similac and Hy-Vee.) We also tell some personal stories from 9/11. With the 9/11 anniversary, we both got to thinking about our love of New York City and wanted to share some of that with you. We love to travel (currently planning our next trip!), have enjoyed a few drinks in our day (Steve's story here folks you don't want to miss it!), and we ask for your help in planning our next trip. Connect with us on Instagram or Twitter: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve / http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra

41:46
September 13, 2019
The Streets of Heaven
After a two-week hiatus, we come with *bonus* fucks of the week and a major fuck of the week for you! We have an adoption update (YAY!) and we talk about September 11 and its impact on Richard's political life and our lives today.  If you have more questions send us a message on IG or TW:  http://instagram.com/richardandsteve http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
 Meet Steve: http://lifeasdaddy.com Meet Richard: http://richarddedor.com  Check out Gen2Gen: http://www.richarddedor.com/podcasts/gen2gen-podcast/
38:55
August 30, 2019
Preview: Gen2Gen Podcast (Hosted by Richard)
In lieu of a new F*ck is our Mantra episode comes this preview episode of Richard's latest project, Gen2Gen: Conversation with Perspective. This year is the 18-year anniversary of September 11, 2001, and Richard brings together five people of unique backgrounds and ages to talk about that day. It's a unique and new look at one of America's darkest days.  Subscribe Here: http://www.richarddedor.com/podcasts/gen2gen-podcast/
08:44
August 16, 2019
The Hot Seat Welcomes Richard
Now Richard is on the "hot seat" with Steve asking all the questions (including some from the audience)! We find out Richard wanted to be an astronaut, loves Taco Tico ($1.09 tacos!), and picks books over music. (Yes, Steve is still praying for Richard.)  We dive into coming out, his three most influential people, and a final lesson for himself and you.  If you have more questions send us a message on IG or TW:  http://instagram.com/richardandsteve http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
 Anthem Podcast: https://anchor.fm/anthem Meant to Live by Switchfoot: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OXcrEVFZOXs Live It Well by Switchfoot: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ov_lnXy7tkQ
47:29
August 2, 2019
Life Lessons From a Five Month Old
Now that Kennedy is almost five months old, we’ve learned a lot. Like the value of food. And sleep. And the great outdoors. What else has our silly kid taught us? Listen and find out.  Support the Alzheimer's Association: https://act.alz.org/site/TR/Walk2020/IA-Iowa?px=10459621&pg=personal&fr_id=13399 If you have more questions send us a message on IG or TW:  http://instagram.com/richardandsteve http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
 Meet Richard: http://richarddedor.com 
33:11
July 19, 2019
Steve is on the Hot Seat
Happy July 4th! This holiday has new meaning for us as a newly minted Marine family. This episode is all about Steve … Richard interviews him about life, his grandparents, coming out, and the least favorite food Richard has ever made him.  If you have more questions send us a message:  http://instagram.com/richardandsteve http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
 Meet Steve: http://lifeasdaddy.com Meet Richard: http://richarddedor.com 
49:07
July 5, 2019
The Case of the Murdered Squirrels
It’s been a bit of a challenging week … from travel with Kennedy, to two sick “kids”, an assault, and a murdered family of squirrels. Yes, you read that right.  Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. Support the Alzheimer's Association: https://act.alz.org/site/TR/Walk2020/IA-Iowa?px=10459621&pg=personal&fr_id=13399 If you have more questions send us a message on IG or TW:  http://instagram.com/richardandsteve http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra

37:23
June 21, 2019
To GoT or Not ...
Netflix & chill. It’s a new phenomenon in our culture these days and as cord-cutters, it’s our way of consuming all the new (and old) television programming. We talk about our recent favorites including some oldies like, The West Wing, WAG, Catch-22, Bloodline, The Crown, Homecoming, and The Assassination of Gianni Versace.  If you have more questions send us a message on IG or TW:  http://instagram.com/richardandsteve http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
 Meet Steve: http://lifeasdaddy.com Meet Richard: http://richarddedor.com  

19:22
June 7, 2019
Special: Semper Fi
Hey podcast listeners ... special bonus episode! We have some special news we wanted to share! Give it a listen and be sure to tell us about a challenge you're fighting through or one you've overcome either on Instagram or Twitter.  http://instagram.com/richardandsteve http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra Music Credit via Free School: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MSMvC9xiAcU 
07:51
June 1, 2019
When You Use the Wrong Pasta Noodles
This last week, Steve made dinner and all hell broke loose when he poured the wrong noodles into the water. It reminded us both how many mistakes we’ve made and doubly reminded us how we try to approach those same mistakes … by taking the damn lemons and squirting the lemon juice into someone’s eyes because that is way more fun than lemonade. Through all the mistakes, Steve ends with a touching story of love and its unpredictability.  If you have more questions send us a message on IG or TW:  http://instagram.com/richardandsteve http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
 Meet Steve: http://lifeasdaddy.com Meet Richard: http://richarddedor.com  

23:12
May 24, 2019
Overworked and How We Cope
Steve is back to work full-time while Richard is still a stay-at-home dad (for one more week) and Steve is learning how to balance work and being a dad; hence the title, “Overworked.” We also introduce a new segment, “Fuck of the Week”, where we each cover something crazy from the past week … and this episode includes bad drivers, whiskey, and music. If you have more questions send us a message on IG or TW:  http://instagram.com/richardandsteve
 http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
 Meet Steve: http://lifeasdaddy.com Meet Richard: http://richarddedor.com  Mentioned in This Episode:  Switchfoot: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gQevo3OfR4A  Glenlivet: http://theglenlivet.com Templeton Rye: 
http://www.templetonrye.com/
22:02
May 10, 2019
Our Origin Story
What do you get when you have a hopeless romantic and a frisky post-marathon runner both with Grindr? Answer: A match made in heaven. We take you through our origin story from first date to our amazing engagement on the ice at Rockefeller Center.  Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. Follow Us:  IG: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve TW: http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra Show Links A Podcast About Nothing: https://twitter.com/nothingpodcast7
26:45
April 26, 2019
Adoption 101 - Everything You Need to Know
After nearly four years of planning and saving, on February 26, 2019, we were blessed with the birth of our daughter. We wanted to share some of that experience with you all, and answer the most frequently asked questions about the whole adoption process.  Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. If you have more questions send us a message on IG or TW:  http://instagram.com/richardandsteve http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra Other Resources:  The Adoption Consultancy: https://www.theadoptionconsultancy.com/ Building Arizona Families: https://www.buildingarizonafamilies.com/ Southwest Airlines: http://southwest.com
59:09
April 12, 2019
Who ate the last of the Doritos?
In our first episode, we (hosts Richard and Steve) introduce ourselves to you and welcome you into our crazy lives. This podcast is an inside -- and real -- look at life as two passionate men starting a family in the Midwest who pull no punches. Especially when it comes to Doritos.  Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. 
17:08
March 26, 2019