Fix CPTSD Podcast | Psychology and Philosophy in Narcissistic Times with Richard Grannon

This is inspired by the "No Country for Old Men" film and novel, which I believe confronts the audience with their narcissism.

We will go through all the narcissism DSM traits, along with proposed antidotes to them.

(00:27) Books Recommendation

(02:39) Richard's Disclaimer About Him Going Political

(06:15) "No Country for Old Men" as a Story Deconstructing Our Narcissism

(12:43) Meta-narrative About Storytelling (Narcissism of the Audience)

(13:29) The Red Pill Philosophy for Narcissism

(15:59) Humility as a Skill of Self-examination

(18:45) Being Boundaried in Our Grandiosity (Your Story is Important to You)

(25:06) Prioritizing Truth and Reality Over Fantasy

(27:58) Neediness for Admiration

(32:22) Finding Value in Yourself as an Antidote

(34:38) Entitlement

(40:38) Nobody is Coming to Save You

(42:15) The Antidote - "I'm Not Owed Anything and Don't Really Need That Much"

(43:15) Exploitativeness (Others Also Have Fears, Needs and Lives)

(48:55) Zero Empathy and Empathy Exercises

(50:00) Envy and Gratitude

(50:52) Recap

(51:50) Bullying and Abusing

(53:24) In the History, the Snake Will Always Eats His Own Tail

Narcissistic parent is prone to treat their child in either of two ways.

Overpraising (Golden Child) or shunning and scapegoating (Black Sheep).

What is the reason behind that kind of parenthood and how does it impact the children development?

Find out in this episode.

(01:10) The Big Long Screaming 'Nooo' of Denial

(05:25) Narcissistic Shell (Reality Split)

(08:40) Communication With NPD Through His Shield

(11:16) No Boundaries and the Godlike Position NPD Takes

(13:46) The Story of a Golden Child and a Black Sheep as Narcissist's Two Sons

(20:46) Scapegoat

(24:08) Codependent That Has Been Cast Out Into the Darkness

(27:02) //Q&A Section//

(27:17) "Do you think narcissists despise sensitive emotional children because they are everything they can never be or do, they see it as a weakness?"

(29:07) "Can the black sheep/golden child switch roles continually between two children?"

(29:20) "Can divorce parents reverse the scapegoat and golden child roles with their two kids?"

(29:57) "Can the same child be a golden child and a black sheep simultaneously when there's only one child?"

(30:35) "Would NPD commit suicide or are they too emotionally immature, or do they get others to commit suicide for them?" 

(30:47) "Can the black sheep help the golden child?"

(31:01) "Is it possible for a golden child to change?"

(31:33) "What if the golden child rebels against the parent?"

(31:49) "Is every NPD recruited by another NPD in their mirrored reality?"

(32:11) "There's too much entitlement today"

(33:06) "Why is the narcissistic parent angered by the scapegoat happiness and success?"

(34:13) "Does a black sheep manifest as a codependent?"

(34:37) "Would it help to understand their worldview or is it a waste of time?"

(35:03) "Does the medical community currently recognize the rate of people driven to suicide by NPD's?"

(38:36) "Can the NPD manipulate their children that they rather spend time with him?"

(38:57) "Why as the black sheep, am I the only one to see the evil in the NPD parent?"

Could Social Media be more healthy?

These platforms could be completely redesigned, and even serve us better.

Check out the suggestions how it could be done, alongside with an explanation of social media mechanisms.

(00:03) The Most Recent Studies on the Toxicity of Social Media Part 1

(03:53) The Most Recent Studies on the Toxicity of Social Media Part 2

(07:47) What Can We Learn From These Studies?

(08:28) Sam Vaknin’s Suggestions: Step 1

(11:50) Step 2 and Step 3

(14:37) A Few More Recommendations by Sam Vaknin Part 1

(17:49) A Few More Recommendations by Sam Vaknin Part 2

(21:18) A Few More Recommendations by Sam Vaknin Part 3

(26:10) The Crux of the Matter

(28:36) Why Social Media Should Charge a Fee and Why It Would Work

(33:28) Getting Rid of the Likes

(34:55) Examples of How Some Companies Went From Free to Fee and Benefited

(39:46) Social Media Executive Might All Have the Fraud Syndrome

(44:40) What Would Happen to a Micro-famous Young Person Who Also Thinks It’s a Fraud

(46:30) Sam Vaknin Adds to Richard’s Answer

(51:19) That Constant Pulling Out of the Smartphone to Check Seems to Be Compulsive and Nervous

(55:16) Psychological Background to Why Social Media is So Addictive

(58:28) We All Have Recognition Hunger

(1:02:14) In Social Media It’s Almost Impossible to Obtain the “Positive Stroking”

(1:06:34) The Idea of Six Human Needs

(1:08:45) The Difference Between Conditioning and Addiction Part 1

(1:12:23) The Difference Between Conditioning and Addiction Part 2

(1:16:41) Richard Adds to the Explanation

(1:19:41) Would Bringing Storytelling Back to Social Media Convert Conditioning to Addiction?

(1:22:16) Holocaust Was a Form of Mass-conditioning

(1:27:06) The More Primitive is the Conditioning, the Harder It is to Break

(1:31:25) Is Telling a Story of the Social Media Makes It Less of a Conditional Tool? Part 1

(1:36:33) Is Telling a Story of the Social Media Makes It Less of a Conditional Tool? Part 2

(1:40:16) Social Media is Not an Innocent Tool

(1:42:10) The Ring From the Lord of the Rings Analogy

(1:44:32) They Cannot Claim That They’re Not Trying to Coerce People

(1:48:37) Goodbye

Isn't it dangerous to crush people's optimism with a medical sounding condition?

Depending on which filters/models you use to approach the symptoms, you will get different results.

Realize how much of how we think about the problem impact our ability to solve it.

There is no one and only way of looking at things.

Consider the alternatives - you have a choice.

(00:37) A Metaphor for the Violence Done to Human Psyche

(03:11) How One's Skill of Sitting Alone Comfortably Have Been Warped

(05:16) Reframing of How We Name the Symptoms

(06:51) Is That Label/Model Useful or Disempowering?

(08:14) Let's Consider the Alternatives (Option 1 or Option 2?)

(10:41) Is It Not Dangerous to Crush People's Optimism?

(12:09) Few Suggestions for Bending Back to Shape

How to get through 2020?

How do we deal with what's coming next?

This year poses many challenges.

How to keep going AND come out stronger on the other side?

Here is my short take on this.

(00:01) Trauma Causing Warps in the Human System

(04:18) How Does That Relate to 2020?

(06:59) Altering Our Story & Focusing on Optimism

(11:37) Coping, Humility and Being a Grown Up

Narcissism expert Sam Vaknin talks about a necessary and crucial modality change if NPD is to be treated.

(00:14) Narcissistic Abuse Is A Plea For Help

(04:00) Narcissists Associate Empathy With Pain

(06:37) We Need To Treat Narcissists Like Traumatized Children

(08:01) Sam Talks About Recreating The Traumatic Environment In The Therapeutic Context

(13:00) The Issue Of Perceiving Narcissism As A Personality Disorder

(16:06) The Problem Of Getting The NPD To The Therapeutic Environment

(19:25) Sam Says Why He's Able To Dig Into Multiple Scientific Fields

Can your social status give you depression?

You might have heard about a connection between depression and serotonin.

And a connection between serotonin and your position in a social hierarchy.

How does it really work? What is it that makes us and our neurochemistry happy?

(00:27) Narcissistic Abuse Victim Syndrome

(01:47) Depression/Trauma Causes Low Serotonin, Not the Other Way Around

(02:40) The Social Hierarchy and Serotonin Levels Connection

(03:59) Social Isolation as a Cause for Dropping in Hierarchy

All about recovery from emotional abuse and CPTSD in this Q&A session, also including two live chats.

(00:00) What does setting boundaries with ourselves exactly mean?

(04:27) Richard Mentions His Experience and Qualifications

(06:59) Cultivating the Virtue of Discipline

(09:09) How to deal with anger and realization that you have been used?

(20:11) How do you open yourself up to a relationship again after being in one with a narcissist?

(22:29) Where do I begin to find a treatment or a therapist regarding CPTSD?

(24:15) How do you stand on dissociative personality disorder?

(27:17) The 4 Stress Responses & Explaining the Freeze Response

(31:54) Split Personality, Parts & the Problem With Psychological Models

(37:44) How many sessions on average it takes for somebody to get better?

(41:54) Does the CPTSD and flashbacks go away if someone does the necessary self-help work?

(44:40) Is recovery from childhood abuse kind of reframing and understanding ourselves and what happened?

(45:53) Is it normal for your physical body to get sick or tired during the self-help work?

(49:39) Is it normal for a covert narcissist or borderline to accuse their mate of being a narcissist? 

(52:59) People Willing Playing the Game With Abusers

(55:20) How do we know we are not projecting the narcissism on others?

(58:53) Is everyone who was or is in relationship with narcissist a codependent?

(1:01:09) What do you do when there's hardly anyone left in your left? (avoiding the post-traumatic embitterment syndrome)

(1:08:04) Getting Into a Trauma Bond With Institutions and Programs for People With Addiction

(1:13:32) Is there a way to deprogram this?

(1:14:31) The Golden Child and Scapegoating

(1:16:26) Goodbye

I've said for the past 6 years that I do not believe there could ever be a cure for narcissism. That position is something I've maintained because of the NPD impulse to dismantle the therapeutic process.

If a narcissist could be convinced not to do that (and I explain a possible method of how this could be done in the video) then there is a CHANCE they could be healed.

But it would be very, very difficult and the Narcissist, NOT the therapist, would have to be willing to put in extremely challenging work, every day for a year or so.

In the video I explain why it's akin to someone being in a coma for a long time learning to walk again

I'm not a clinician, I'm not qualified to diagnose or do psychotherapy work with anyone.

Nor have I ever altered someone with full-blown NPD in any but the most cosmetic ways through coaching.

But if there is a chance for full healing, I think it depends on these 5 key points.

(00:49) Understanding of CPTSD

(02:24) Dealing With Emotional Dysregulation

(05:51) Narcissist Trying to Avoid Feelings of Shame

(07:50) NPD is Archetypal (Specific Cluster of Emotions)

(09:50) The Sad Baby Archetype & Recruiting People

(12:18) The Angry Toddler 

(14:34) NPD is Not 'Demonic', It's a Response to Trauma

(19:10) On Overcoming the Superego

(21:39) Parent's Injunctions Instilling the Superego

(24:39) Internalized Bad Vs. Good Superego, Corrosion of Boundaries

(28:20) Narcissist Has No Ego

(30:40) The Unrealistic View of the Self (Two Extremes of Good and Bad)

(38:28) Vulnerable Vs. Grandiose Narcissist, Performative Role of the Grandiose Narcissist

(40:50) The Love Substitute & Narcissist's Adulation

(43:50) The "Don't Rise Too High" Injunction

(47:46) Getting Past the Blockage to Heal

(49:11) Switching on the Ego to Resist Superego

(52:43) Developing a Strong Ego Using Philosophy

This is a quick mnemonic that will make you remember to check, whether, and where, you've given your consent, so you're able to maintain your boundaries.

(00:23) You Are the First Person You Need to Assert Boundaries With

(02:11) It's Not Always Appropriate to Argue (Especially With Non-sincere Communicator)

(03:07) The Biblical Origin of "Non Serviam"

This is a one, long response to a lady's email, giving a counselling on her problems.

As our patterns are often similar, you may find some of these descriptions accurate to your situation, and the solutions presented helpful.

(00:00) Hello

(00:23) Eczema as a 'Thin Skin' (Boundaries)

(02:42) Being Defensive of One's Parents is Natural

(05:13) Massive Parental Expectations

(06:47) Unclear Communication as a Manipulation

(09:02) What is Overachiever Syndrome?

(14:06) Self-parenting & Acknowledging Your Own Achievements

(15:35) Narcissistic Mother & Emotional Abuse Being Like Psychological AIDS

(19:49) Repressed Drives

(22:55) The Zoo Story About Caging Natural Drives

(25:55) Parent's Not Giving a F

(28:19) Inheriting Parent's Toxic Traits?

(30:26) "I Don't Deal With Stress Very Well"

(32:46) Disney's Lion King Death Scene Might Have Been Traumatic

(35:32) Abandonment Anxiety

(36:28) Brain Playing Upsetting Mental Videos (Imagining a Funeral)

(40:01) Anxiety Attacks as a Result of Overachiever Syndrome & Fear of Death

(42:11) It's Great to Finally Process Grief and Anger

(44:32) Richard's Story About Healing His Sadness Part 1

(47:31) Richard's Story About Healing His Sadness Part 2

(48:19) A Technique for Dealing With Provocations From Martial Arts of Psychology

Remember how you were graded, and your performance reviewed over years and years by school and institutions?

What could happen if we reverse that?

How would it be like to actually review the situations and people in your life yourself?

How empowering that could be?

Let's find out!

(00:01) Hello, Good Morning

(02:25) Richard's Story About Being a Product in a Relationship

(06:46) Is There a Consumer Mindset in Relationships & Where Does It Come From? (Grades and Reviews)

(15:15) I Am Not Actually Enjoying the Service You're Providing

(17:26) How We Allow Ourselves to Review Other Things (And Criticism of Bad Story Writing)

(20:37) Expanding the Reviewing Mindset

(21:32) Consumer Ideology in Modern Relationships (and Sam Vaknin Reference)

(24:26) The Problem With Having "Gaggle of Geese"/intimacy Clouds

(28:49) You Can't Ask for What You Don't Offer

(29:56) Passive Consumer's Approach is the Worst for Long-term Relationships

(32:52) You Have a Right to Say "This Sucks and I Don't Like This"

We often listen to the people in high positions, that aren't necessarily qualified to discuss the topics that they do.

In this conversation with Sam Vaknin, we explore the phenomena of the Public Intellectual, and the problems we're facing.

(0:00) What Is A Public Intellectual What Responsibilities Do They Have?

(4:20) Why Is It Hard To Find A Real Public Intellectual These Days?

(7:26) Expertise vs. Anti-Expertise

(12:14) The Problem Of Celebrities Overtaking Qualifications

(15:57) Fake It Till You Make It Philosophy

(18:25) Discussing the Incentive to Radicalize In Order To Get More Money

(21:13) Relativity of Ideas Is To Blame?

(25:13) Some Texts Should Never Be Deconstructed

(27:21) Talking About the Death of the Author

(31:46) The Outcomes Of Interpreting Everything

(33:12) Can A So-Called Public Intellectual Be Involved In Politics?

(35:52) The Role And Responsibilities Of Public Intellectuals

(39:16) Today’s Public Intellectuals Do The Opposite Of What They’re Supposed To Do Part 1

(42:49) Today’s Public Intellectuals Do The Opposite Of What They’re Supposed To Do Part 2

(45:00) Public Intellectuals Launching Their Own Ideology

(49:00) Presenting Ideology as a Science

(53:25) Would Psychology Benefit From Dropping The Pretense?

(56:58) Did Freud Write Controversial Things Just To Sell Books And Seminars?

(1:00:48) Do Sometimes Public Intellectuals Choose To Be Fake In Order To Get What They Want?

(1:03:28) Acquired Situational Narcissism and Today’s Public Intellectuals

(1:06:12) Sam Vaknin Talks About the Public Intellectuals He Admires

(1:10:36) Should Public Intellectuals Comfort People or Tell the Truth?

(1:13:22) Sam Vaknin Talks About Donald Trump

Healing can be a long journey.

It takes time, yet it brings delightful fruits on the way.

Check out this discussion with two, very experienced coaches, Terry McCoy and Steve Heneghan if you want to hear their insights about recovering from emotional abuse.

(00:07) Steve and Terry Talk About the Reasons Why They Quit Their Previous Jobs Part 1

(03:35) Steve and Terry Talk About the Reasons Why They Quit Their Previous Jobs Part 2

(06:37) Resentment as a Symptom of People Pleaser Syndrome

(07:49) A Story About Cutting Off the Goose's Head

(11:14) How Would It Affect a Child to Be Hyperbolically Praised in a Way They Won't Believe? Part 1

(15:37) How Would It Affect a Child to Be Hyperbolically Praised in a Way They Won't Believe? Part 2

(19:17) Feeling Disgust When Being Approached in an Intimate Context Part 1

(24:04) Feeling Disgust When Being Approached in an Intimate Context Part 2

(28:52) Feeling Disgust Because of the Core Belief That They’re Not Lovable

(32:50) Discussing the McGregor Fight

(37:22) Protecting Yourself From a Narcissist

(40:52) Talking About Reacting Seeking Communication and Triggers Part 1

(44:55) Talking About Reacting Seeking Communication and Triggers Part 2

(49:27) Terry and Steve Discuss Changing the Mindset and Getting Neuroplasticity

(54:34) Externalizing the Locus of Control Makes a Person Open for Narcissistic Abuse

(57:26) “How Does Hypnosis Work With a Person’s Past Trauma and Abuse?” Part 1

(1:02:20) “How Does Hypnosis Work With a Person’s Past Trauma and Abuse?” Part 2

(1:08:08) How Imagination Influences the Unconscious and How Noticing Emotions Can Help Part 1

(1:12:19) How Imagination Influences the Unconscious and How Noticing Emotions Can Help Part 2

(1:14:52) Wrapping Up

If you only heard about hypnosis from the mainstream, it's probably wrong.

Why, and how it is mythologized?

What can it REALLY do to people?

Here's everything you need to know about hypnosis, including answers to many common questions!

Check it out now!

(00:00) How Hypnosis is Mythologized

(03:16) The Truth of Hypnosis

(07:34) How is It Possible to Fix Your Lifetime of Trouble That You've Never Been Able to Fix Just by Hypnosis?

(12:58) Advice to Anybody Who Wants to Use Self-hypnosis

(16:43) The Difference Between the Conscious and the Unconscious

(20:15) Laying New Neural Pathways With the Help of Hypnosis

(23:41) Whatever You Do a Lot of, You're Gonna Get Good at

(28:57) Why is the World Not Revolutionized by Hypnosis if It Works?

(31:17) Can a Hypnotist Make It So the Person Starts Barking Like a Dog?

(33:33) How Do You Protect Yourself From Unwanted Hypnosis?

(36:42) Is Hypnosis Gaslighting?

(37:13) I Recently Tried NLP Audio Tapes to Promote Weight Loss Only to Find Out I Keep the Weight on to Protect Myself From Intimacy. What Do I Do?

(38:08) The Difference Between Meditation and Self-hypnosis

(39:31) The Consequences of Bad NLP and Hypnosis

(41:26) Can Hypnosis Wear Off?

(42:33) Would Hypnosis Help With Abandonment Anxiety?

(43:56) Will Hypnosis Open Us Up to Demonic Influence?

(45:51) Talking About the Use of Psychedelics

(49:09) Is It Possible for the Subconscious Mind to Pick Up Negative Messages That Can't Be Heard While Being Awake?

(52:09) Can Hypnosis Work on ADHD?

(53:36) Talking About Ayahuasca

(58:31) Wrapping Up

Differentiating emotional flashback from normal reaction, dating covert narcissist, sense of humor, dealing with people, and more in this Q&A session.

(00:13) Talking About the Difficulty of Reading the “CPTSD: Form Surviving to Thriving” Book

(00:13) Answering Questions About Seminars

(04:38) How to Make a Decision

(06:46) What’s the Difference Between an Emotional Flashback and Righteous Upsetness

(07:33) Talking About Accents

(10:47) Advice for a Person Who’s Dating a Covert Narcissist

(12:34) Mimicking Accents and Telling Jokes About Different Cultures is a Good Boundary Breaker

(14:25) Talking About a Seminar in La

(15:42) A Funny Story About Speaking Chinese

(17:07) What to Do When You’re Feeling Guilty When Taking Care of Yourself

(19:59) How to Un-isolate Yourself After Narcissist Trauma Recovery

(20:34) Recommendation for a Person Who’s Been Diagnosed With Several Mental Health Issues

(22:44) How to Rebuild Neuro Pathways

(24:20) How to Not Experience Fear When Someone Gives a Look or Glares

(30:59) Some People Are Just Dickheads and They Live to Create Chaos

(35:27) Why Do People Like Seeing Others Fail?

(39:54) Why Do People Like to Believe in What’s Fed to Them?

(46:03) Answering Short Questions

(47:25) Talking About Dyslexia

If there is one thing that can save every human right now, I believe it's this.

The cure to the world's insanity.

A medicine for your mind.

A relief for your soul.

That thing is...

(00:07) Bombardment of Content Stressing the Cell

(04:35) What Are You Letting Into Your Brain?

(05:45) The Content Free Stillness

(07:08) Overstimulating Spectacle of Content

(12:02) Associate in Your Own Body, Your Own Space (And Let the Silence Be the Doctrine)

Eckhart Tolle, meditation, MKUltra, social media and more covered in this Q&A Session from February 2019.

(00:01) Hello

(01:37) “How can we encourage others to get off social media?”

(05:03) “Flat earth. Where do you stand on this?”

(06:22) “Are you an atheist?”

(08:09) Answering A Question About Doing An Interview With Gabor Mate

(08:50) Answering A Question About Getting Off Social Media

(11:10) Thoughts On Pickup Artists

(14:09) “What are the points where you disagree with Eckhart Tolle?”

(16:31) Answering Short Questions

(20:16) “Do you meditate?”

(23:40) “What’s the best way to heal codependency?”

(25:34) “Have you seen dirty john on Netflix?”

(27:38) Answering short questions

(31:42) Thoughts in MKUltra Part 1

(35:09) Thoughts in MKUltra Part 2

(39:39) Responding To Short Comments

(40:53) Wrapping Up

What is the Dark Tetrad described by psychiatry?

What are the predatory personalities tactics of manipulation?

Find this out in this short excerpt from a seminar.

(00:25) DSM's Cluster B, Dark Triad and Machiavellianism

(02:27) Differences Between Disorders

(03:44) Megalomania

(05:12) The Zombie Curses and How Do They Work

Live Q&A Session recording from March 2019, covered topic include social media, BPD, mental health and more.

(00:07) Stating Today’s Topic

(02:20) Ending Up With A Slow Poisoning Effect Of A Dogma

(04:53) What The Channel Grew Up From Part 1

(10:36) What The Channel Grew Up From Part 2

(12:41) Talking About Using Social Media In Order To Learn Together

(14:31) Answering Short Questions

(16:31) “Where Did Your Interest In The Effects Of Social Media Stem From?”

(21:09) Talking About Using YouTube

(25:34) Difference Between The God Complex And NPD

(27:01) Talking About Messianic Complex

(28:03) Thoughts On Gabor Mate With Regard To Addictions And Trauma

(30:15) Thoughts On How Social Media Affects Dating Culture

(35:08) “Social Media Makes Me Fear I Cannot Protect Myself Against Infidelity. Any Thoughts?”

(36:56) Social Media Is A Real Issue Amongst People Of All Ages

(38:46) Is Depression Around Birthday Related To CPTSD?

(39:58) How Do You Reparent?

(41:28) What Do You Do When You Have Troubles Falling Asleep?

(44:08) “BPD Victims Get Shunned And Invalidated Because The BPD Overshadows Their Disorder With A Supposed Attached Stigma. Thoughts?”

(48:09) What Do You Do When Your Friends Are Borderline?

(51:13) Friendships Don’t Last With BPD

(53:46) Extreme Jealousy In BPD

(57:46) “How Can We Step Out Of Resentment?”

(58:51) How We Internally Talk Might Affect Our Health

(1:02:30) “Any Recommendations On PTSD Recovery Literature Besides Pete Walker’s Book?”

(1:05:08) Is There An Overlapping Between CPTSD And Asperger’s?

(1:06:26) Responding To Short Comments

(1:09:53) Wrapping Up

This is a short excerpt from a seminar, explaining that persistent annoying emotions might be unconscious alarms.

(00:01) Can You Be at Peace With Yourself About Ex Narcissist?

(00:43) Unconscious Sending You Signals

(02:07) Panic Attack Signals

(03:27) Reality Tunnels Built Around Beliefs

Whenever you've heard of "having no ego", "letting go of your ego", "killing your ego" etc.

Remember that it's mostly watered-down, consumer-friendly western versions of very, very old eastern concepts.

(01:59) Self-esteem Coming From the Unconscious Observing Your Actions

(03:55) Definition of "The Ego"

(05:44) "Having Ego" vs. Attachment to the Ego

(09:07) The Maturity of Eastern Cultures

(10:27) Everything is Context Specific (Including the Teachings)

(12:01) How to Find a Better Source of Self-esteem

In a long-term relationship, nothing is more important than its foundations.

The real reasons why you're together.

Just imagine: if you travel far away and it will take a lot of time and effort, you better make sure you're going in the right direction.

And what is the right direction for you specifically, anyway?

(00:03) Bonding to the Source of Pleasure is Not a Basis for a Long Term Relationship

(02:23) I Do Believe in Them - You Just Have to be Careful

(03:41) Evolutionary Basis for People to Be Together

(06:40) There Are Many Different Models for Relationships That One Can Choose

The cultural standards of masculinity can really badly impact men mental health.

Every human need the connection and the ability to just be OK with what he feels.

How great would it be if we could change these societal expectations towards men.

(00:01) The Issue of an Implicit Culturally Indoctrinated Expectation on Men to Be Strong

(04:00) Being Incompetent and Vulnerable is a Natural Human State

(07:33) We Need to Create Some Kind of Space in Which Men Can Feel Okay With Saying “I’m not okay”

(10:43) Balancing Yin and Yang

(15:05) Bullying Men Because of Their Vulnerability

(16:46) The Young Guys Need to See Other Guys of Their Age Coming Out and Admitting That They Struggle

(20:57) We Just Need Simple Human Connection and Compassion for Each Other

(26:41) Guys Admitting They Don’t Feel Good Needs to Be Hyper Normalized

(30:02) Goodbye

Ok, I get that: it's not that useful to overlabel or overmedicalize things.

Yet, in SOME situations, with certain people you find yourself abondoning what's good for you.

In certain contexts you just go along, not really knowing why.

So what is really going on there and how can we better tackle that?

Listen in now to find out!

Find the course mentioned here: https://spartanlifecoach.com/coachingsummomingtheself/

(00:03) So You're Not Really a Codependent, BUT...

(03:44) Better Psychological Terms for the Issue?

(05:50) Importance of the Sense of Self in a Collective 

(08:56) It is Now Fast Becoming a Crime to Have Individualized Self

(13:23) Certain Contexts That Trigger Codependent Responses

We operate in the world thanks to our internal maps.

Have you found yourself always ending up in the same place?

What could happen if you change these maps then?

Check it out now!

(00:01) Getting Started

(00:40) Internal Maps Based on Meaning and Value Moving Into Morality

(03:50) If You Are Trying and Failing to Overcome a Trauma, the Only Route Out That's Gonna Last is a Deep Change in Your Philosophical Outlook

(07:04) Talking About Neuroplasticity

(12:05) Responding to Comments

(15:29) Talking About the New Star Wars and a Deliberate Attack on Quality and Storytelling

(18:45) Do You Believe There is a Difference Between BPD and CPTSD?

(20:45) Answering a Question About Sam Vaknin

(23:05) "We need a wiki page for Richard's channel"

(26:03) "Why are narcissists everywhere in society? How can anyone cope?"

(28:11) "Do you think the US is way more traumatized than the rest of the world?"

(30:05) "How did you get the Sun" on the inside?" part 1"

(34:57) "How did you get the Sun" on the inside?" part 2"

(37:42) "Do you think ubuntu or a co-op society can work with modern humans aka no central government?"

(40:59) "How could I find out if I'm projecting?"

(44:17) Goodbye

"Do they have broken self worth....one half perceiving they are wonderful the other half thinking they are dreadful?"

They have no self worth.

Now, wait for this because it's a mind twister: 

The NPD has no "healthy narcissism".

The two halves you speak of are the two halves Sam talks about that form the NPD personality: true self and false self.

Or "authentic" self and "hyper idealised" self.

It's a constant desperate fleeing from one polarity to another.

The NPD is created by being torn and twisted between two polarities.

One in which I am a worthless piece of shit, running barefoot and naked to the promised land in which I am God like and all powerful.

The tragedy is of course both are false, both caused by a traumatic break from reality.

How to rapidly recover through contacting our emotions, a technique for that, 1984 propaganda, and more, including Q&A session.

(01:33) What Happens When Someone is Traumatized

(05:34) How to Deal With It

(10:31) Magic of the Right Question

(15:11) Mind Map Steps

(17:55) Positive Emotions and Exercises

(20:38) Past Emotions and Exercises

(24:21) Contact With Your Emotions Will Help You

(28:55) Codependence & Placebo Connection

(39:12) Inquisition Game Through Ages

(47:18) How to Resist

(50:54) Social Media and Dolphins

//Q&A Section//

(52:42) "What happens to a narc when they are exposed beyond all doubt?"

(54:05) "How do I forgive?"

(54:40) "Do you have any hard measured data you could refer to?"

(55:29) "How can you suggest we all move through our day/tasks empowered?"

(56:43) "So what you're saying is... Dolphins in captivity are living in a bubble?"

(59:10) "Why does autism get mistaken for narcissism?"

(1:00:03) "What is the role of the father?"

(1:06:09) "How to escape the living false reality that it and those in it don't want you to heal from your traumas at all costs?"

Affirmations are bit tricky when it comes people with CPTSD.

The risk of triggering is much higher. Why? And why would an affirmation trigger anyone?

Despite the risk, used properly, affirmations can be a great tool in your recovery.

In this episode, we'll dive into the specifics of how to help yourself with affirmations.

(00:04) Hello

(00:50) What If Your Thoughts Do Create Reality?

(05:58) Conditioning And Strengthening The Mind

(08:02) The Universe... What Does That Even Mean?

(12:18) We All Live Inside Language

(15:20) Affirmations Construct The Belief System

(20:54) Richard Talks About How He Was Love Spelled

(25:58) Why Do People With CPTSD Struggle With Affirmations?

(31:14) You Must Not Run From Pain

(34:27) The Idea Of Dharma

(38:11) The Idea Of The Fetishist Split

(40:24) How The Inner Critic Refuses To Accept The Affirmation

(45:30) What Is The Solution?

(50:50) Not Many People Really Want To Overcome Trauma

(54:56) How To Construct Your Affirmations Part 1

(1:00:23) How To Construct Your Affirmations Part 2

(1:05:30) How To Construct Your Affirmations Part 3

(1:10:37) "Is this why some people have a hard time with compliments?"

(1:11:17) "Did you use external reminders for these affirmations?"

(1:13:27) Answering A Question About Sexual Attraction To Narcissists

(1:17:47) Answering A Question About Using Affirmations To Stand Up Against The Abuser

(1:22:51) "You must not run from pain, so true. How to do this at workplace vs relationships?"

(1:24:19) "Can things that got lost in a divorce become a part of your CPTSD?"

(1:25:59) "Would you consider the emotional response of crying as a flashback?"

(1:27:05) "How do you un-catholic yourself?"

(1:30:12) "Could you address how to deal with idealizing and unwanted memories of a narccisist?"

(1:34:05) Answering A Question About Being Sexually Attracted To People Who Frighten

(1:35:39) Using Affirmations To Deal With The Emotional Flashbacks

(1:40:26) Answering A Question About Going Into Therapy With An NPD Husband

(1:44:32) "Can you be more specific on the terms of your affirmations please?"

(1:48:00) "What do you think about ayahuasca?"

(1:51:16) "How do you use affirmations to stop self-isolating and at what level?"

(1:54:49) "Nobody wants to deal with mental health issues, I understand that. Do you think that most suffer from mental issues too?"

(1:57:13) Answering The Last Questions

How to understand what boundaries are (both external and internal), why they are a MUST HAVE, what happens when we're lacking them and how it connects with drug use and relationships.

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(00:18) We Formulate Meaning by Creating Attachments

(02:42) Disclaimer of How I Use the Term 'Codependency'

(06:58) Interesting Comparisons in Vampire's Stories and Codependency

(11:07) Why Codependent Has No Boundaries?

(12:58) People Die Without Their Skin

(15:41) The Castle Metaphor for Internal Boundaries

(18:22) Dropping the Act and the Fantasy of Going Egoless

(22:23) Internal Ego Boundaries for Impulse Control and Safe Attachment

(25:48) Codependent's Usage of Drugs and People

My hypothesis is that if we deliberately put humility back into the system, we do two things. One, we take away the natural conflicting element of the therapeutic process, the natural elements of conflict. There are two humans. There are two egos. They're in a room, and because of the context, it becomes like tennis. It becomes like boxing. It becomes like some competitive sport.

 Nobody means for it to be that way. It's just that, whether you're the coach or the therapist or the client in this scenario, the dumb shaved monkeys that we are, we kind of lean towards playing dominance games, whether we want to or not. That's just the way it goes.

 So before you know it, you're playing ping pong over your depression, you're playing tennis over your anxiety. You're in a boxing match with your coach, with your therapist, over the dynamics of the grieving process, or whether you're doing the right kind of work to help you to grieve for the death and the loss of your last relationship, as an example of a common thing that people would see a coach or counselor for.

 So number one, the humility takes away from that dynamic. It reminds us consciously and with intent, "Look, this is just a conversation between two adults. It's not surgery. I'm not under general anesthetic. Nobody can cut the anxiety out of me." So it kind of reminds us that it's like a Socratic process. It's like philosophy. In fact, we already know it's known that you can trace the roots of psychology back to philosophy.

 But this dynamic of two people talking, I mean is that not the essence of a philosophical method? Is that not like the Socratic method? You're basically debating with the hope that you're going to have a positive outcome. So as well as taking away from this ego versus ego fight, it also reminds us that this is not magic and this is just a conversation between two consenting adults, where it is presumed that we have the same goal in mind, which is to feel better at the end of it. Right?

 The second thing that I think bringing this level of humility in is, it kind of moves the ego out of the way, and when I say ego in this context, obviously it is implicit. I'm not talking about the healthy ego. I'm talking about that side of the self that clings to dominance, that wants to be right, that wants to be in charge, that wants to be in control, that secretly loathes the therapeutic process, secretly loathes the humbling of having to come and ask another adult for help, where the part of life that the ego, one part of the ego is going to be going, "You should be able to do that."

 And if we remind ourselves of our Sanskrit, that side of the ego is the ah Hum kaya. In Sanskrit, it was the ahamkara It is the ahamkara  spoken of in Hinduism and Buddhism. That's the ego that we don't want.

(00:37) Ego Based Issues in the Therapeutic Relationship

(01:07) Humility Necessary for Change

(02:02) Asking for Help

(02:45) Step by Step Advice for Clients/therapists to Integrate Humility

(04:07) How Does It Make You Feel to Ask for Help With the Issue?

(04:32) My Hypothesis on How Putting Humility Back Into the System Accelerates Therapeutic Progress

(05:59) Consciousness and Intent

(07:28) Secret Hating of Therapy as Its Humiliating

(09:43) The Thai Buddhist Monk as Therapist

(12:08) Purifying the Intent of the Therapeutic Relationship

(13:22) Guilt of People Leaving Narcissistic Cults

(14:23) Running From Love for Fear of Vulnerability

(14:59) Necessity of That Vulnerability and Rapport for Therapy to Work

(15:39) Key Technique to Move Beyond Apparent Self Sabotage

(16:28) Integrating the Ideas in This Video Into Therapy

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Have you ever felt stuck in a problematic situation?

Have you felt limited in your options, like there are no other ways to see things?

That was your Reality Tunnel for the time.

This concept was first coined by Timothy Leary and later picked up by Robert Anton Wilson.

In this episode you'll discover it can be used to your advantage.

Here is a simple exercise, that can make you realize a lot of new things about you and your life.

Our values play a huge role in our lives, it's useful to decide on a handful, most important ones to us.

Law of Attraction has become kind of a big thing over the last years.

It's very empowering and attractive concept.

Yet, should we believe EVERYTHING it promises?

In this episode we discuss the hidden dangers that might be lurking in the concepts like Law of Attraction.

If you feel like you might be ready to go beyond LOA, you'll love this episode. Listen right now!

Richard's last bit on LOA referenced: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3Lt51FPammgF2YuQ1tQHru?si=QbRjqIYHSua8Hb7PKb8OXQ

Available for coaching:

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Steve@spartanlifecoach.com

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(00:57) Announcing the Accountability Group

(01:40) Recommending Terry and Steve for Coaching

(02:26) Disclaimer Before Going Into the Topic

(04:40) Amazon as a Law of Attraction & The Magick of Money 

(07:04) The Invisible Ideology Behind Law of Attraction

(10:31) Rationality Test of LOA

(13:17) Is It Good to Want Things?

(20:32) Religiosity, Dogma and Narcissism Link

(23:41) The Enemy is Absolutism and Certainty

//Q&A Section//

(25:23) "Creative visualisation by Shakti Gawain vs. LOA?" (+ on synchronicity)

(28:58) "About your experience and why you started the channel after meeting a Sufi, do you think having dreams every day and taking this path was by chance?"

(32:53) "I haven't got dreams since, I think I broke my head"

(34:23) "When this 30 day accountability group thing might be happening?"

(38:02) "What is going on with the book?"

(39:39) "Emotionally disregulated people throwing their stress out there"

(40:43) "Do you like to eat a raw garlic?"

(42:17) "Have you seen or heard people talking about not having any internal dialogue?"

(43:43) "Any favourite books on self-discipline?"

(44:04) "Seems ancient people thought an idea was the voice of god, and didn't know deep though thinking, it was a trance"

(45:55) About people not having internal dialogue again

(47:05) "Are inverted narcissists extreme codependents with narcissistic tendencies or other way around?"

(49:15) "Your thoughts about Aleister Crowley?"

(53:02) "I worked as a nanny for many years and I know loads of these types" (the naughty boy archetype)

(54:36) "Do you think childhood trauma like circumcision can create narcissistic personality disorder?"

(55:25) "What would you say to someone who says nobody can make you feel a certain way?"

(56:08) "What's your view on though-forms? Been targeted for years with negative psychically attacking energies"

(57:00) Initiates Need to Resolve Their Childhood Trauma

(58:37) Lament of Hermes & Religion/Discipline/Spirituality

(1:08:08) "We keep biting the apple" (Kallisti reference)

(1:09:17) What's the Best Thing in the World?

Jaqui Sansom works with parents to create a secure family to live in.

Jaqui has been a family and child protection lawyer for 20 years.

For more information on her work please visit her website:

https://www.powerless2powerfulparenting.com/about

(00:00) Getting started

((1:08) Is narcissism trait or a disorder?

(03:41) Can you experience trauma beyond the childhood?

(06:43) Is narcissism a scale? How does it work?

(09:00) The signs of narcissism in co-parenting

(10:33) Is it possible for a child to develop narcissistic traits?

(11:38) Children copying their parents

(12:35) Is it possible to balance narcissistic tendencies of a partner, to prevent the relationship negatively impacting the child?

(15:13) Managing contact with narcissistic co-parent in a boundaried way

(17:43) Is it possible to ameliorate the contact?

(21:00) You need a fundamental change if you want to defend yourself

(22:54) Facing the (ugly) reality is empowering

(24:42) As a non-narcissistic parent, do we overcompensate to balance narcissism?

(27:32) Even narcissistic parents can love their children, right?

(29:46) Every NPD's relationship is destined to fall

(30:59) What are the different family dynamics in a narcissistic unit? (golden child & scapegoat)

(35:36) On trauma bonding & dependency

(40:59) Cultural conditioning to bond with a romantic partner

(42:40) Does the narcissists ever recognize their behaviour?

(45:09) Goodbye

An extensive Q&A Live Session focused on the issue of codependency.

-> The Summoning the Self course is out now https://spartanlifecoach-com.mykajabi.com/offers/6LTjhmzZ

-> This is a brand-new course (as of August 2020) dealing with issues related to codependency and people pleasing.

(00:03) Getting started

(01:27) Is it possible to act codependently towards the old, bad programming itself?

(02:00) What should we do if we find ourselves keeping quiet to avoid arguments?

(02:25) Why do we keep staying in toxic relationship even when we recognize it?

(03:01) Can you include techniques for when you are still in a bad relationship and trying to leave?

(04:41) Why when we escape toxic people, we start to feel sorry for them despite of everything they have done to us?

(05:39) Is it possible to get the course with German subtitle?

(06:14) What steps does one take to redirect the programming toward a more positive programming?

(07:02) About codependent how to helping others and not be addicted to it?

(07:28) I am still seeing someone now but still have guilt feelings. Will this course help?

(07:54) Is constant distrust in relationships an emotional flashback or a form of fawn response?

(09:45) How do you differentiate between codependency vs. attachment trauma/parentification?

(11:52) Does codependency exist by itself as a stand-alone issue or is it always a part of a larger issue?

(15:24) Is there a 'happy baby' archetype after recovering from codependency?

(16:21) Can there be people with narcissistic traits and CPTSD or should they be considered NPD's?

(20:11) Narcissism is Manifestation of CPTSD, Not It's Opposite

(33:34) The term codependency always feels elusive to me, what the eff is it exactly?

(37:50) Should abandonment issues be treated similarly or the same as codependency?

(39:08) Does an NPD always try to keep you in a nervous disposition with their drama?

A seminar focusing on the topic of codependency, both in relationships and our entire life.

Many interesting areas have been covered, that also include Q&A.

-> The Summoning the Self course is out now https://spartanlifecoach-com.mykajabi.com/offers/6LTjhmzZ

-> This is a brand-new course (as of August 2020) dealing with issues related to CODEPENDENCY and people pleasing.

(00:58) We Need Neuroplasticity to Make a Lasting Change

(03:11) Marks Left by the Stressed Parents & a Master-slave Dynamic

(08:04) It's Challenging for the Ego to Admit That We're Traumatized

(10:42) The One Piece of Source Code That Ruins the Relationships

(11:52) Fear of Abandonment and the Origins of the Fear of Negative Emotions

(15:15) What Does Fawning Mean?

(17:30) Everybody's an Avatar, Trauma Bonding & Intensity of the Relationship

(21:39) Why is the Sex So Good?

(22:39) Moving Towards the True Self

(24:33) Being Aware of Our Fawning

(26:42) I'll Do Me, You Do You Concept for Codependents

(28:11) Is Boundried Helping for Social Workers Possible & the Reality of Social/service Work

(32:03) Richard's Personal Example of Codependency & Unconscious Positive Intents

(33:34) Are Addictions Related to Unresolved Trauma in a Person?

(34:53) Is Codependency an Addiction, if So, Can You Be Free From It? (Conditioning vs. Addiction)

(39:04) Would You Ironically Start Helping the Narcissist if You Start Playing "the Game"

(40:33) How Can You Manage Your Relationship With a Narcissist?

(41:58) Different Cultural Coordinates & Narcissism/Codependency in Relationships

(46:56) Is There a Link Between Autism and NPD?

(50:07) Are People More Mentally Ill Than They Were 50 Years Ago?

(52:44) Why Can't I Condemn My Narcissistic Girlfriend? Why Do I Pull Away Instead?

(55:58) Saying "The Narcissist" Instead of "My Narcissist"

It is a known fact that social media have been deliberately crafted in a certain, not-so-good for our mental wellbeing, way.

Empower yourself with more awareness about this problem now.

Interview with Sam Vaknin: the TRUE toxicity of social media revealed 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dmXcjvL9VSc

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Human will has always been with us.

It cannot perish, yet it has been suppressed over the years.

What is this force that can lead you to your highest potential?

If you want to be more driven and alive, you might enjoy this episode.

(00:00) The Concept of Human Will

(04:16) It's Very Hard to Deliver Powerful Material That is Almost Impossible to Misinterpret

(06:40) If You Want to Enslave a Lot of People, You Might Want to Make the Concept of Will Unpopular Part 1

(10:25) If You Want to Enslave a Lot of People, You Might Want to Make the Concept of Will Unpopular Part 2

(13:50) Apathy, Indifference and Irony Instead of Will and Individualism

(19:26) Shamelessness is Not Good Also

(24:24) We're Losing Our Social Contracts Now

(30:17) Goodbye

It's worth exhausting all the methods before you try the pharmaceutical solution for depression.

In this episode I present my short take on the problem of depression.

Hopefully some of that will come useful for you.

(00:12) The Major Myth of Chemical Imbalance

(02:02) Living a Life That is Depressing

(02:57) The Need for Progress

(03:39) The Health Aspects

(05:02) Your Mind and Body Needs to Be Disciplined

(07:47) Anger Repression & Psychosomatic Symptoms

There is so much posturing in some of the "spiritual" circles.

It goes even into the Buddhist and academic circles.

Why all that? There's no need to overcomplicate things which were meant to be simple.

(00:25) Kallisti and the Golden Apple

(02:35) Dialectical Behaviour Therapy & Training Objective Constancy With Zen Meditation

(06:31) The Concept of Radical Acceptance

(09:37) When Physical Conflict is Less Painful Than One's Suffering

(12:22) Spiritual Competition & "The Kallisti Effect"

(19:37) Don't Put on a Front (Why Am I Swearing?)

(22:01) The Dangerous Cycle of Idealization, Devaluation, Discarding

(24:38) No Need to Obsess Over Supernatural Aspects of Buddhism or Taking the Stories Too Literally

Can you heal yourself with visualisation?

Maybe that'd be too much to promise.

But isn't the fact that the imagined experience and a real experience is seen as the same by the brain, mind-boggling?

NLP has been used in the context of healing and emotional recovery for some time now.

How and why does it work? Let's dive in into that right now!

(00:01) Hello

(00:48) Your Body and Brain Don't Really Know the Difference Between the Real Experience and the Experience That's Vividly Imagined

(06:16) NLP for Healing

(10:34) Why Does NLP Work?

(15:10) The Heavier Your Story is, the Less Options You Have

//Q&A Section//

(18:07) "Before having a healthy relationship does one needs to be healed?"

(19:03) "Maybe you should come up with a blue belt/black belt system, some of your videos are for people further down the healing path and can come off overwhelming or offensive to newbies"

(20:26) "How do you get sociable in today's climate?"

(21:18) "I seem to attract narcissistic people, my mother seems to be one too. Am I doomed?"

(22:07) "I've got mad and turned the TV off but only because Richard said the truth and I did not want to hear it"

(25:10) "Do you believe that a person can heal and still have multiple narcissists around them?"

(26:21) "How do narcissists handle the conflict of gaining supply from their child success and sabotaging, so they will never leave?"

(28:37) "How did you follow bachata instructions in Prague language wise?"

(30:09) "How do you deal with the loneliness after cutting out a toxic person who was a large part of your happiness before?"

(32:39) "Is being alone bad? I'm not really enjoying people's company, is that bad?"

(33:30) "What if you have no recollection or knowledge of trauma in childhood but you've had some toxic narcissistic relationships and resemble a victim?"

(34:32) "How do you deal with stress when you only know self-harming ways being satisfying?"

(37:47) Talking About the Dark Triad Part 1

(43:25) Talking About the Dark Triad Part 2

(44:45) "Could all the negative emotions be distilled to fear?"

(47:14) "How do I rebuild my credibility after an online slander defamation campaign?"

(49:11) "How can I rebuild my relationship with my mother after going no contact?"

(50:25) "Any tips for co-parenting when you are both likely dealing with c-ptsd?"

(52:43) "Do we all have trauma because the village is gone?" part 1

(56:40) "Do we all have trauma because the village is gone?" part 2

(58:31) "How to build a fresh perception of people after losing the naivety?"

(1:03:43) "Can a black sheep ever really trust and build a relationship with a golden child in the narcissistic family unit?"

(1:08:39) "How's the knee?"

(1:09:44) "Golden child is usually narcissistic? I was temporarily the golden child"

(1:10:59) Goodbye

Meditation is not the only way to achieve mindfulness and mental calm!

Sometimes your brain might need to take a slow walk in nature.

And sometimes just sit on a bench and observe.

If you want to invite more mindfulness into your life then listen right now!

When you pull out of the virtual, created world,

you wake up to the now. The present moment.

The present is simply what is.

How precious is that?

(00:20) The Dangers of Getting Lost in the Story

(04:58) Performing for Others in the Social Media World

(07:53) It's Not a Point-scoring Game & Why Reality is Far Better

(11:03) On Meditation

The world is crumbling all around you?

Everything seems to be falling apart?

Can we achieve meditative states in all of that?

And, without meditation frustrations?

(00:15) Don't Fetishize Meditation

(02:01) How a Moral Philosophy Will Improve Your Life and Meditation

(05:28) What to Do if You Find Meditation Distressing?

(08:49) Visualization vs Meditation & How Social Media Relay on Content

(13:19) Association vs. Dissociation

(15:00) How We Are Reliant on 'The Voice-over'

(20:34) What You Want is to Come Back to Reality

(23:34) The Media Spiking Your Adrenaline and Traumatizing You

(27:47) Take Action in This Reality

(30:27) We're Worshiping the Idols Themselves

(35:23) The Normalized Narcissism and Dissociative Identity in Our Culture

(38:26) People Trapped in Materialism

(40:28) Recommending the Cure for All of That

(45:17) When You Want to Be Kinder to Others

//Q&A Section//

(47:35) "Reducing the suffering in the world as much as you can"

(49:17) "Why do I feel like I'm wasting time if I'm doing nothing?"

(50:33) "Can you speak more to your definition of entitlement?"

(55:03) "Sometimes being seen is the least/most anyone ever wanted"

(57:51) "Is everything in society made to reduce us to our base instincts, so we become more compliant?"

(1:01:28) We Haven't Lost Religion, We Reverted to Fetishism

(1:04:20) We Just Need to Come Back to Ourselves

Don't let meditation make you go bonkers.

This episode will demystify it for you

and make you feel calm and confident about it

(00:33) Guiding Awareness vs. Receiving

(02:38) There's Nothing Better Than Now

(03:56) Why is Not Being in the Now a Problem?

(06:32) Bringing Yourself to the Present Moment

(08:00) What's the Difference Between This, and Disassociation?

Narcissists operate in the same ways, whether it's in the microcosmos or macrocosmos.

They will do everything to turn the truth upside down and gain as much control over you as they can.

Your power is in your agency and will.

Being aware of these tactics will make you stronger more resilient.

(00:13) #1 Key Principle - Isolation & Perception Control

(01:05) Altering the Emotional State

(02:10) #2 Invert Communication

(05:05) Controlling the Narrative

(05:49) Characterization

(07:28) #3 Punish the Truth

(09:25) There's an Opportunity in Crisis

(10:30) Major Changes You Need to Make if You Want to Live as Sovereign Adult

(16:10) Goodbye

Many believe in monogamy, others vote for polygamy, but what is it really all about?

Our thinking about sexuality can be a lot better than it is now.

If you're reading this you probably wish to have a healthy, harmonic and fulfilling sex and intimate life.

If so, you've come to the right place - listen now!

(00:01) Introduction

(01:03) The Argument That Monogamy is Not Natural 

(04:13) That Polyamory is Better

(06:45) Why is Monogamy Not Working Right Now?

(15:51) What Does It Take for Monogamy to Work?

(20:56) Moral Philosophy and Internal Boundaries

(37:43) Treating Others Sexuality Like an Adult and Mapping Your Own Sexuality

(41:46) Sexual Compatibility

(48:26) Compassion and Humanness as Fundaments for Relationships

Why being MAD will make you successful?

How being a taboo breaker is good for your growth?

If you've been perpetually finding yourself spinning your wheels, what I am explaining here might be the reason why.

Listen in and discover the new territory.

(00:00) Starting With a Piece of Advice

(00:47) Why This is a Topic That Needs to Be Explored

(03:34) The Correct Approach to Business

(07:20) The Kind of Self-concept You Need

(09:18) The Beginning of the New Video

(10:08) The Comfort Zone of Repetition

(13:02) What Happens if You Take a New Action

(15:58) Your Brain is Not Goal-oriented, It Likes to Map Things

(18:44) The Reason Why Your Brain Likes the Comfort Zone

(22:22) What is “Madness”? 

(26:48) Why is It So Hard to Be “Mad”?

(28:15) The One Key Element to Success

A joint custody with a narcissist is a horrible place to be in.

It can be a messy situation, but hopefully with this one tip I can give you as a psychologist, you will come out of it safe.