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R&R on Relationships w/ Richard Tatomir, MA, CCC, Relationship Therapist

R&R on Relationships w/ Richard Tatomir, MA, CCC, Relationship Therapist

By Richard Tatomir, MA, CCC
Vancouver Couple and Family Relationship Therapist Richard Tatomir (MA, CCC), owner of relationshipexpertsvancouver.com, with his wife Rachel, explore what it takes for relationships to work--from romance/dating, to friendships, to family. To support this show, anytime you use Amazon, first copy-and-paste on the below link, and a part of ANYTHING you purchase w/i 24 hrs of clicking, will go to the show.
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08. s2e2. A Very 2021 Valentine's: Making the Most of It Without Pulling Your Hair Out (Unless You're Into That).
BCIT student documentarian Hannah Garnett interviews Richard on why and how to celebrate Valentine's despite Pandemic fatigue--and how your (love) life may depend on it. Plus Richard shares a simple 20 minute technique that you and your partner can use on date night/every night, to strengthen your connection with your partner and reduce stress. RESOURCE: Intro to the Stress-Reducing Conversation: https://www.gottman.com/blog/how-to-stress-reducing-conversation/ The worksheet: http://www.peacockandpeacock.com/uploads/8/4/7/1/84715464/stress_reducing_conversation_2019.pdf WORK WITH RICHARD TATOMIR, MA, CCC AT relationshipexpertsvancouver.com. Free REV-Up Your Relationship initial consultation over phone or Zoom, Canada and Worldwide. To support this show, anytime you use Amazon, first copy-and-paste on the below link, and a portion of ANYTHING you purchase within 24 hrs of clicking, will help us make more episodes like this.  Book recommendation: Gottman 8 Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love.  ***Canadian listeners: https://amzn.to/2U5v0Rx ***US and International listeners: https://amzn.to/32pBejX 
22:57
February 11, 2021
07. s2e1. The Not So Newlywed Game
Starting to rehash the same ol’ stories with your partner? Do you ever think there is nothing more to learn about them? Think again. Rachel and Richard beat the Pandemic blues by teaching and playing the not-so-newlywed question-based game which is a great way of updating your Love Maps just in time for 2021 (Gottman). Learn some juicy details about our hosts and consider trying this with your partner. RESOURCES Not-so-newlywed game print-out cards (Free) - https://thelovenerds.com/not-so-newlywed-game/ To support this show, anytime you use Amazon, first copy-and-paste on the below link, and a portion of ANYTHING you purchase within 24 hrs of clicking, will help us make more episodes like this. Canadian listeners: https://amzn.to/2U5v0Rx US and International listeners: https://amzn.to/32pBejX Book: Gottman 8 Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love Canada - https://amzn.to/36x9Fb7 US/Intl - https://amzn.to/2GH7t5Z WORK WITH RICHARD TATOMIR, MA, CCC AT relationshipexpertsvancouver.com. Free REV-Up Your Relationship initial consultation over phone or Zoom, Canada and Worldwide.
18:06
January 18, 2021
06. Pandemic Relationships
Richard Tatomir, MA, CCC, Vancouver Relationship Therapist, on CKNW Newstalk 980 speaking about the impact of the pandemic on relationships and advice on making it through with more resilience. (Charles Adler Tonight, Dec 29 2020). RESOURCES DISCUSSED: The Sound Relationship House (Gottman) - https://www.gottman.com/about/the-gottman-method/ To support this show, anytime you use Amazon, first copy-and-paste on the below link, and a portion of ANYTHING you purchase within 24 hrs of clicking, will help us make more episodes like this. Canadian listeners: https://amzn.to/2U5v0Rx US and International listeners: https://amzn.to/32pBejX Book: Gottman 8 Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love Canada - https://amzn.to/36x9Fb7 US/Intl - https://amzn.to/2GH7t5Z WORK WITH RICHARD TATOMIR, MA, CCC AT relationshipexpertsvancouver.com. Free REV-Up Your Relationship initial consultation over phone or Zoom, Canada and Worldwide.
19:08
January 2, 2021
05. Rituals of Connection
Rituals are the glue that keeps couples together--especially important in these crazy COVID times. How we spend the Holidays or how we greet each other when we come home from work are unique flavours that form the "culture" of our relationship, showcasing our values, and creating a sense of shared meaning that makes life worth living--and our partner and family relationships worth having. To support this show, anytime you use Amazon, first copy-and-paste on the below link, and a portion of ANYTHING you purchase within 24 hrs of clicking, will help us make more episodes like this.  MORE ON RITUALS: The Sound Relationship House (Gottman) - https://www.gottman.com/about/the-gottman-method/ "Evening Ritual for Anxiety" on Rachel's Youtube Channel "Love Your Simple Life," (Please subscribe!) - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rXgQWBqaUmI Book: The Intentional Family - Bill Doherty -  Canadian listeners: https://amzn.to/2U5v0Rx US and International listeners: https://amzn.to/32pBejX Book: Gottman 8 Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love  Canada - https://amzn.to/36x9Fb7  US/Intl - https://amzn.to/2GH7t5Z WORK WITH RICHARD TATOMIR, MA, CCC AT relationshipexpertsvancouver.com. Free 15min REV-Up Your Relationship consultation over phone or Zoom Canada and Worldwide.
17:36
November 9, 2020
04. Dealing with Jealousy
Rachel and Richard Tatomir (MA, Canadian Certified Counsellor) get behind what makes us jealous, and how to increase safety and security in the relationship for both partners, so you are better fighting the "green-eyed monster," together. To support this show, anytime you use Amazon, first copy-and-paste on the below link, and a portion of ANYTHING you purchase within 24 hrs of clicking, will help us make more episodes like this. Gottman 8 Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love (see esp. chapter 3: Sex and Intimacy) Canadian listeners - https://amzn.to/36x9Fb7 US and International listeners - https://amzn.to/2GH7t5Z WORK WITH RICHARD TATOMIR, MA, CCC AT relationshipexpertsvancouver.com. Free 15min REV-Up Your Relationship consultation over phone or Zoom Canada and Worldwide.
19:16
November 1, 2020
03. Sex: 5 Things You Should Be Doing
5 things you should be doing in, and out of, bed, to enhance passion and connection in your sexual relationship. "Every positive thing you do in your relationship is foreplay." -John Gottman, renowned relationship researcher and therapist.  To support this show, anytime you use Amazon, first copy-and-paste on the below link, and a portion of ANYTHING you purchase within 24 hrs of clicking, will help us make more episodes like this. Gottman 8 Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love (see esp. chapter 3: Sex and Intimacy) Canadian listeners - https://amzn.to/36x9Fb7 US and International listeners - https://amzn.to/2GH7t5Z Course - Gott Sex: The Art and Science of Lovemaking (only available in Amazon US Store) - https://amzn.to/3ljNcTn Documentary: Ask Dr. Ruth (2019) - Netflix WORK WITH RICHARD TATOMIR, MA, CCC AT relationshipexpertsvancouver.com. Free 15min REV-Up Your Relationship consultation over phone or Zoom Canada and Worldwide.
16:09
October 5, 2020
02. Down and Dirty with Domestic Duties
Just like a cigar is not always a cigar, a dish is not always just a dish. Chores in a household and how we approach them are often highly symbolic and bring up powerful emotions, for example, clashing with traditional gender norms we didn't know we have, or whether we feel cared for in our love language. Rachel and Richard Tatomir (MA, Canadian Certified Counsellor) discuss with their friends John Welsh and Katie Thompson how to divide up domestic duties, like dishes, in a way that promotes fairness and prevents hurt feelings. To support this show, anytime you use Amazon, first copy-and-paste on the below link, and a portion of ANYTHING you purchase within 24 hrs of clicking, will help us make more episodes like this. Recommended Book: Gottman 8 Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love (see esp. Date 2: Addressing Conflict, Date 4: Work & Money) Canadian listeners - https://amzn.to/36x9Fb7 US and International listeners - https://amzn.to/2GH7t5Z WORK WITH RICHARD TATOMIR, MA, CCC AT relationshipexpertsvancouver.com. Free 15min REV-Up Your Relationship consultation over phone or Zoom Canada and Worldwide.
38:32
September 28, 2020
01. When you are triggered by your partner
Sometimes your partner will say or do things that get under your skin and are very reminiscent of things that happened to you as a child. Rachel and Richard discuss how to have a productive conversation about it rather than get trapped in an automatic cycle. To support this show, anytime you use Amazon, first copy-and-paste on the below link, and a portion of ANYTHING you purchase within 24 hrs of clicking, will help us make more episodes like this. Recommended Book: Gottman 8 Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love (see esp. Date 1: Trust & Commitment, 2: Addressing Conflict) Canadian listeners - https://amzn.to/36x9Fb7 US and International listeners - https://amzn.to/2GH7t5Z WORK WITH RICHARD TATOMIR, MA, CCC AT relationshipexpertsvancouver.com. Free 15min REV-Up Your Relationship consultation over phone or Zoom Canada and Worldwide.
16:44
September 13, 2020