Hello and welcome back my lovers! Wow.. this one is a whirlwind. (I pronounce their last name right but fuck up their pronoun in the first 10 seconds..)
My dear queer non-binary friend Kai walks with me through the rabbit holes of gender, sex work, anarchy, feminism, the publishing world, egos & narcissism, toxic relationships and the beauty of Montreal.
We met smoking cigarettes on a university bench a decade ago and have taken very different paths to today, but I'm so very thankful for conversations like these. Please do give this one a listen, and wonder with us about the state of our beings.
Let's create a nurturing society and express our frustrations at our harmful internalized notions of self.
You can listen to Kai's radio program QueerCorps on CKUT 90.3 FM on Mondays at 6pm EST or online.
Welcome back my lovers!!!! Let's kick off SEASON 2! Episode 56 stars my newest friend Jen Doan!
Jen is a sexuality empowerment coach based in Vancouver, BC. She came over to my actual living room to tell me her story and talk about SEX. We may or may not have been flirting with each other so, sorry about the giggles. That's what happens sometimes when two powerful women find themselves on a comfy couch and a similar wavelength. ;)
Her obsession with sex begins in her teenage years in the privacy of her studies, and progresses supporting our dear Jordan Gray in the infancy of his business. Shen then walks me through the winding road she took from being a successful marketing entrepreneur to hanging it up to pursue her passion. We talk about the benefits of hiring a life coach, about the pressures of success and financial gain, and about how hard it can be to make a change when your life seems to be peaking already.
More topics covered: archetypes & "self-help", breakups that kick your life into gear (always and forever a thing), masturbation, getting to know yourself, libido & sex as a toxic tool, harnessing your sexual energy in everyday life, being conscious of your internalized "isms" and "ginys", body image and some more nonsense. Do click and dive into the depths of it with us.
For more on Jen & her SlutSchool (and the free orgasm tutorial), go to www.jenniferdoanconsulting.com or listen to the The Inner Badass Podcast on your favorite Podcast apps.
Much, much love to you my darlings. Thanks for your patience and your loyalty. You are the bestest. Do pitch in with your opinions on Instagram or Twitter!
Your little C.
Welcome to the last episode of Season One of #RWWC!
This episode has been a long time coming and I am so glad we managed to make it happen.
Alix, my darling friend, is a ridiculously talented actor, voice-over artist, feminist, activist and recently, director! Her and I met at Cannes in serendipitous circumstances, and bonded over our fierceness. (Thanks Adam Lannon for bringing us all together.)
Her short-film She Lies Sleeping is currently in competition in Sci-Fi London’s 48h Short Film Challenge. Alix will also soon star as Mary Shelley in A Nightmare Wakes. Check out her IMDB here or @AlixWiltonRegan on Insta and Twitter.
In this vulnerable and emotionally-charged episode, we discuss: feeling like you never do enough, politics & the state of our society (based largely on a Western European critique), fake news vs. definitions of objective fact, privilege and unlearning, the necessity of all of us being “IN PROGRESS”, body image and the ultra-skinny industry requirements, gender diversity and imposter syndrome, and SO MUCH MORE.
This is for you. You, who has ever been told to “Shut up, (woman)” and haven’t let it stop you from speaking your truth.
I CANNOT SAY THIS ENOUGH: THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU. This has been an incredible year of learning, evolving, growing and unlearning. I love you and I can’t wait to bring better, stronger, deeper conversations to your ears in just a short couple of months.
From my grateful and loving heart,
your little C.
Angèle, Balance ton quoi, 2018 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hi7Rx3En7-k
Let's talk about Sex baby! Welcome the lovely Jay to the famjam. She's a sex and empowerment coach based out of Vancouver, BC, Canada. She was introduced to me by a friend via her instagram page @femmeforth. I was thrilled to have her on for one of the last episodes of Season 1 of #RWWC! As per tradition, we start at the origin story. How does a 24 year old get to run workshops aimed at exploring and improving femme sexuality?
Today, the episode covers: somatic therapy, the information gaps within sex literature, sex as a common denominator for humankind (whether you have lots or none of it), internalized objectification, Nicki Minaj's influence on the orgasm gap, sexual boundaries: stating them and respecting them, the four components of sexuality: sensuality, intimacy and relationships, gender/sexual identity & sexual health, communication and non-monogamy, AND SO MUCH MORE!
For more about the workshops, Jay herself, or her writing, go to www.jaylenecoaching.com.
(Sorry about my nosey voice. I was fighting a hard-core cold... The show must go on!)
Thanks so much for following the podcast. You are the best. Tell your friends, neighbours, parents and lovers about it! Let's talk about this shit peoples!
I love you.
Stay tuned for 55! xx
Welcome back Amy! It's been A YEAR!!!!!! HOLY SHIT! One year since the first three episodes aired! Holy crap. I can't even explain how much it means to me that you guys stuck around, brought your friends along, and made this community what it is today!
It was therefore only natural to bring Amy back for this personal episode of more BITCHING and running wild!
Topics we bitched about:
conflicting needs: Security vs. Freedom, changes, the unexciting reality of everyday life, silver linings, adapting to living with your significant other, the fear of losing oneself within a couple, FEARS in general, social pressure, monogamy vs not, choosing to have kids or not, what makes you truly you, and much more.
This one is full of rabbit holes and we go on rants and catch up, but hey this is where this podcast came from! Therefore join us for this conversation that goes all over the place! Bottom line: it's ok not to know what you want, yet. It's ok to get what you wanted, and realize it comes with a whole new set of issues and fears.
Long live the wild ones.
The French podcast is "Vieille Branche" with Catherine Robbe-Grillet. You can find the episode here.
If you still haven't, check out justbadtiming.com for more about Amy, me and the adventures.
After Tyler Harris' male perspective, we welcome camgirl Ashley Taylor to the RWWC family! Thank you Kelly Tatham, for the universe-driven introduction!
Ashley and I sit down for this deep and vulnerable chat about the nature of beast. Ashley now cams under her own name. Her profiles do not separate between her acting, directing and camming activities. Her openness is astonishing, and I am so thankful for her wanting to share her story with me. We start talking about her Virginia upbringing, her LA adventures, and how getting dumped was the catalyst to her current and fulfilling life! (We have that in common!)
Topics covered: early twenties love stories, her ex's gender transition, breakups and their uglier sides (strong emotions displayed), going from a financial hole to financing her award-winning indie film, the unexpected life force & creative aspects of camming, butt plugs (!), public image & censorship, fear, boundaries & personal safety, and so much more!
Join us for this crazy ride down some pretty surprising rabbit holes with Ashley! You can contact us and send us comments or questions on Twitter @ashleytaylortv_ and @christinewild_
For more about the film, go to dressedasgirlmovie.com . For the curious ones, I point you to her MFC Profile: https://profiles.myfreecams.com/AshleyTaylor_
As always, PLEASE do subscribe, like, follow, applaud this episode and the podcast in general! If you have extra pennies, click to support this podcast! With love, C.
Meet Maggie Anderson from the anti-club @GraceClubYvr. Tavia Cosper and Maggie started Grace Club as a space for feminists to come together to empower those in our communities to make positive and much needed change in the landscape of our civic, social, and economic advancement. They believe that the act of coming together in storytelling, and education, supports their mission, and creates new opportunities, ideas and conversations that will lead to greater healing, growth and prosperity for womxnkind.
Today Maggie came over to my actual living room for some much needed real talk. She starts by walking me through how the Trump election and the Women's March were the wakeup call she needed to step into the activist's shoes she'd always wanted to wear. We explore the creation of Grace Club and what happens at their events. We then move on to her personal experiences as an individual with feminism and inequality. Stick around until the end, because that's where the good stuff is.
Topics & TWs: "One can only preach to the choir for so long!" intersectionality & inclusion, personal growth, grief and suicide, drug addiction, storytelling as a tool for empathy and humanization, parenting for social change, privilege awareness, fear & shame, and the benefits of community and in-person sharing, to name just a few.
"The first thing you should know about me is that I'm not you. A lot more will make sense after that." Unknown.
Please do check out www.graceyvr.com if you are interested in a platform that welcomes everyone, whether you are just starting to delve into feminism, or whether you want to help them dig deeper into issues of social, economic and civic inequality.
Thank you for listening to this episode. We hope it raised some thoughtful questions about how you personally can make an impact in your own community. "What is it like to move in the world as you?"
As always, please follow, subscribe, support this podcast so I can keep investing in us, and our shared vulnerability as humans.
Shownotes & References:
"In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction" by Gabor Maté, MD
"Down to This: Squalor and Splendour in a Big-City Shantytown" by Shaughnessy Bishop-Stall
"Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype" by Clarissa Pinkola Estes
Meet Kelly Tatham, an award-winning filmmaker, writer, and photographer whose work explores the search for love and the quest for the true nature of reality. Kelly is also a rad lady that I met via Girl Gang! (plug plug)
For today's episode, we discuss: her short film “Multiverse Dating for Beginners”, magical realism, living home-free, hustling as a media creative, internalized misogyny, serendipity, the struggle for love, metaphysics & conscious agence theory, vulnerability and so much more.
What's your stance on the universe? Do you spend your time thinking about the tiny little choices you make/have made that have changed the course of your existence? Join us in this exploration of meaning and communication. "Life is just performance art."
Forgive our struggles with the language because, as Kelly sarcastically puts it, "like words aren't cages for consciousness..."
Kelly is currently in pre-production on a documentary about the search for the true nature of reality. To find out all about her work, go to her instagram page @kellytatham. Check out the aforementioned 2018 collage on Medium here.
As always, I urge you to subscribe, follow, like and applaud this podcast to support this hugely time consuming endeavour. It's so important my lovelies, to be able to get these conversations out there! Also, it's been a while since I pointed you towards my site www.justbadtiming.com! Buy my book!
Shownotes & References:
The Chronology of Water: A Memoir by Lidia Yuknavitch
Oh my lovelies, let me introduce you to Jordan Gray. Jordan is a full-time sex and relationship coach, Amazon best-selling author, and prolific blogger. I have been trying to get him on #RWWC for months, but it wasn't until we first met IRL at an 18-person pansexual play party that he agreed to come on. We obviously tell you more about the sex party but that's merely circumstantial.
For today, I invite you to join us for this beautifully rabbit-holly episode. Topics covered: starting his business, travelling, writing about relationships, pricing your services, the men's club he's a part of, his ideal coaching clients, the reasons why he does his work and the criticism he faces for pushing men to explore their emotions, shame alleviation and shadow work, radical honesty and SO MUCH more.
If you're curious to know what the life of a relationship coach looks like, and how one becomes an expert at removing emotional blocks and encouraging thriving intimate relationships, here's your chance!
You can find out more about Jordan, his coaching and his writing at jordangrayconsulting.com. You can also buy some of his books on Amazon!
As always, sending love and vulnerability to you my lovers. Have a wonderful weekend.
With love, C.
PS: Of course, I got my tech issues on his episode, so I apologize for the light intermittent buzzing throughout the episode! (We are all humans and we do our best.)
PPS: Please do subscribe, like, follow and download this podcast. Also, buy my book. Thanks!
On this wonderful International Women's Day and the first birthday of my book, I wanted to speak with a very special story-teller. Amanda Chatel is a sex & relationships writer for Bustle, a feminist and as of recently, a novelist.
She makes me laugh and cry on a weekly basis via her writing and sarcastic Insta stories. I'm therefore inviting you to sit with us for this beautifully hilarious episode of storytelling. Amanda walks me through her incredible personal journey. We talk exes, revenge, horse shit (literally), soulmates (lol), writing, divorce parties at the Plaza, death & ill-wishes, forgiveness, birds and so many more unbelievable things.
Hold on tight; this is quite the journey! Enjoy the laughs!
For more on Amanda, check out her writing on Bustle, her Facebook Page @lachatel, or find her on Twitter @angrychatel .
ps: Please, please, please consider buying my book, Just Bad Timing, on this beautiful day of celebrations. If you are in Vancouver, I'll be at Havana on Commercial Street drinking mojitos anytime after 5pm today.
pps: As always, like, subscribe, download, applaud, all the things to support this podcast. I love you so very much my dear listeners. And to all my inspiring, gorgeous Womxn out there, have a wonderful day and do whatever the FUCK you want.
Your little C.
Meet Ricardo Scipio, your friendly neighborhood sex photographer. Trinidad-born, Ricardo grew up in Toronto. After attending The Nova Scotia College of Art and Design, he started his art career as a fashion photographer and then later as a fine art nude photographer.
As per our usual we discuss life's weird way to take us down its rabbit hole to endeavoring to photograph "authentic people, having authentic, unapologetic, unashamed, real sex." The Sex Goddess Project is a very diverse, sex-positive and body-positive project that pushes back against slut-shaming and challenges the way sex is depicted.
A very diverse group of women and transpersons of all shapes, and sizes and colours and gender-identities celebrate their sexuality, through these glorious moments of joy, connection, intensity, ecstasy, and abandon.
Topics covered: growing up in a born again Christian background, career transitioning, spontaneous masturbation, how his goddesses led him from nudes to sex, fear & sex, porn as sexual education, body image and so much more.
"Sex is too important to leave in the hands of pornographers." Ricardo Scipio, 2016.
Check out his work at sexgoddessproject.com and if you're local, consider attending this coming Wednesday's event at the Art of Loving, 7.30-9.30pm.
Please, please, please, consider donating to, liking, subscribing to or applauding this podcast. I love watching you guys listen, but I crave some more discussion with you about your thoughts on the pod!
Meet Hallie Lieberman, historian and author of Buzz: The Stimulating History of the Sex Toy (Pegasus Books, 2017). Today, she walks me down her life path to discovering her passion for history, while being an illegal sex toy home party salesperson. Her book traces the history of sex toys in the US since the 1950s and we go through what it was like to research the key elements of her findings. Hallie is also gracious enough to let me in on her future work regarding the global history of male sex workers who service women.
Topics discussed: university indecisiveness & waiting tables, sex positivity, the right to sexual pleasure, the disability rights movement, sex work, gigolos, non-sexual nudity and more!
The documentary about Scotty Bowers: "Scotty and the Secret History of Hollywood", directed by Matt Tyrnauer.
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Meet Dr. Lori Brotto, a Professor in the Department of Obstetrics and Gynaecology at the University of British Columbia, clinical sex researcher and psychologist, and author of "Better Sex Through Mindfulness" (Greystone Books, 2018).
Today, as per our tradition, we retrace the steps she took throughout her life to get to being talked about in the New York Times and helping women improve their sexual lives.
We talk about her childhood on a farm, her first experiences in a lab (watching rats have sex), the history of clinical research on sex, her pivotal transition to mindfulness as a tool for treatment, and landing a job as a psychologist in a surgical department.
Lori educates me about the discrepancies between self-reported arousal and desire issues in women and the physical responses to stimuli, teaching other medical professionals about sex and health, and how mindfulness can improve sexual desire and mental health.
Our human striving to feel not alone in our struggles is highlighted again by the response readers have had to Lori’s book. Pick up your own copy today. She is now also working on a digital app to bring her work to a broader, general audience.
As always, you can reach us on Twitter @DrLoriBrotto and @christinewild_. Please rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast for more content like this. If you’re able and willing, you can also donate to support this podcast.
Emily Nagoski’s “Come As You Are”
More on Dr Lori Brotto at www.drloribrotto.com
Meet Andrea Loewen, Vancouver writer and theatre manager, member of Girl Gang, and newly published author of Feeling Better: a field guide to liking yourself (and maybe even loving yourself).
Today, we discuss self-loathing and depression, through the lense of Andrea's personal story. She walks me through how she even realized she was depressed in the first place, how she started working her way through the tools she researched, and what she hopes her book will accomplish.
As in most cases, we talk about imposter syndrome, mental health, relativity, gratitude practices, showing up and self-esteem!
If you're going through depression, or bouts of self-loathing, listen in, there's almost no resistance to putting on an episode and listening. And then perhaps buy her book? Let us know what you thought of this episode!
Rollkuchen are Mennonite Fritters!
Info on Lucia Frangione here.
Find out more about Andrea here.
Please like, follow, applaud, subscribe and perhaps DONATE to support this podcast! What would you like to hear next?
Well... this is a topic that the universe sent me in the shape of Tyler on New Year's Eve. When he told me what he does for a living, I drunkenly insisted he must come on the podcast and slipped him my business card! To my surprise, Tyler reached out a week later, and was incredibly candid and open about his career as a sex worker online.
Listen in on our conversation about how he got into camming: from growing up in a small town in Canada and suffering from anxiety, to living in Las Vegas with pornstars and beginning to grow into himself.
We discuss: the first time he logged in, the effects of isolation and digital objectification, the fetish that made him draw a line in the sand, fear & morality, rim jobs and toxic masculinity, communication & expectations during sex, and the importance of empathy when working with other humans.
I'm so grateful for all the insights and this incredibly vulnerable and real conversation. If you'd like to talk to Tyler, do no hesitate to email or DM me and I will give you his email address, no questions asked. Alternatively, you can find him on Twitter @tylerharris241.
Thank you for listening. I'm so thankful for Tyler discussing his area of sexwork with me and would love to open the floor to anyone within the industry. Please reach out, I would love to hear your story.
As always, I love you folx. Your little C.
Meet Chelene Knight, author of Braided Skin and Dear Current Occupant, CEO of #LearnWritingEssentials and all around powerhouse, comes on the pod to discuss writing and investing in your community. While diving into the story behind her online courses for writers, we discuss the importance and cruciality of storytelling.
Rabbit Holes include: the little pushes we need from life to trust our creative talent and potential, stories by WOC, authenticity & perceived permission to speak, imposter syndrome, and knocking down isolation barriers.
To quote Chelene:
"Writing and publishing are not based solely on craft or talent, there’s a privilege involved. It’s our goal to reach and support underrepresented writers and to give space to those writers who are often muted or silenced. Inclusivity, open-mindedness, creativity, teaching through mentorship, and freedom to share stories are all values that we place at the forefront of everything we do.”
To find out more and/or sign up for the upcoming Memoir writing workshop, head over to cheleneknight.com/ecourses or check her out on Twitter @PoetChelene (I'm still @christinewild_ by the way!)
THANK YOU for listening. Please do favorite, applaude, subscribe, download or SUPPORT the podcast so we can make more awesome conversations happen! <3
It's a warm welcome back to our dearest Anita Cassidy and Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey. Lori is a psychologist and sex and intimacy coach, and Anita is a writer and founder of Alethya.com
We are back to talk about the repercussions of boundaries, new year's resolutions and expectations! It's a big one for anyone struggling with the enormous amounts of pressure we feel around this time of year to "improve ourselves" according to capitalism & patriarchy's standards.
Instead, let's focus on communication and accountability.
Anecdotes contain examples from: polyamory/non-monogamy, writing, single life, friendship, setting historical context to labels, inability to accept complexity, and living outside of boxes.
Take sweet care you wonderful souls. Do the work, without the expectations, and be aware of your intuitions when inevitably curveballs happen!
On Twitter, you can reach us at @drbisbey, @anitacassidy76 and @christinewild_ . You can find out more about Lori at drloribethbisbey.com and Anita at alethya.com. Do watch out for Lori's new weekly radio show "The A to Z of Sex" in the sexy lifestyle network part of Voiceamerica, coming this year!
HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!
In this amazing first episode of the year, we delve into Depression and Sex! Meet JoEllen Notte. She runs redheadbedhead.com, and is a writer and sex educator, committed to challenging stigma, offering resources, and helping folks feel seen, heard, and supported.
As per usual, we go through how life put her on this path and what led her to just recently signing a publishing deal for her upcoming book: The Monster Under The Bed: Sex, Depression and the Conversations We Aren't Having! As part of the book research, JoEllen surveyed 1,100 people and interviewed close to 200 about their experiences and shares some insights with us.
Topics covered: moving across the country to soothe a broken heart, resentment as relationship cancer, "empathy, strategy or distraction", trends in the sex-positive movement, non-monogamy and lastly tools for how to deal with depression within a relationship.
We reference Elle Chase, author of Curvy Girl Sex, check her out, and Stephen Biggs @psybiggs on Twitter. We also bring up Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are, because obviously. Read it.
Thank you Steph Auteri, for introducing me to JoEllen.
Please, rate, follow, subscribe and if you wish you can now support the podcast financially to help me get better content out to you!
WELCOME TO THE LAST EPISODE OF 2018!
Julia is a new favorite powerhouse of mine! I met her at a community-based event called Expressions of Intimacy. This was the latest in a series she runs, called Expressions of Self, where each installment centers around a particular topic relating to how we define ourselves.
She is currently pursuing a Master's degree at UBC's School of Population & Public Health, focusing on a qualitative study that investigates primary antenatal care provider perspectives regarding anxiety & depression during pregnancy.
Most importantly for today, she is the creator "So I had an Abortion", a multimedia platform aiming to destigmatize abortion through storytelling. Julia bravely tells us her story, and goes into depth as to how sharing your experiences can be helpful with reducing anxiety and shame.
We naturally digress and run into topics far and wide: imagining fertility problems, family dynamics, morality and shame, UNlearning, STD's, storytelling, reproductive justice issues and grief. (The words she was looking for around 47' are "relative privilege and competitive victimization.")
You can find out more at www.soihadanabortion.squarespace.com , on Twitter and Facebook @soIhadanabort and on Insta @soihadanabortion. You can also go to www.expressionsofself.com for the 2019 events!
Thank you so much for listening in on this incredible first year of rabbit holes. May we all have gained some knowledge from each other's experiences and feel more connected to our common humanity.
I love you.
Speak to you in January. xox
What's your first thought when I say: Body Image? Noun: the subjective picture or mental image of one's own body.
This week, I had the pleasure to welcome Jen Larsen, author of Stranger Here (Seal Press, 2012) and Future Perfect (Harper Teen, 2015), for this episode about bodies! Jen and I started very much in the same way, inspired by strangers responding to our anonymous blogging, except that Oprah once said her name! In our usual fashion, we discuss how life unfolds, taking detours along the way. Her memoir discusses her experience with Weight Loss Surgery, Depression and the myth of "Skinny=Happy". We take winding turns talking about the publishing industry, aging and invisibility, awkwardly flirting with fellow women, Newfies, catcalling & contradictions, female rivalry and so much more.
We discuss why saying things how they are, loudly discussing the issues that matter to us and basking in vulnerability is SO FUCKING IMPORTANT.
For more, head to www.jenlarsen.net, to Twitter and Facebook @jenfoo.
This week we talk about entrepreneurship and pleasure products! Casey Murphy is a sexual health educator, entrepreneur and business coach. Casey started The Pleasure Parlor in 2017, a Portland-based business which incorporates an online retail website, expert curated subscription boxes, and a traveling educational pop-up shop. Currently her primary focus is business coaching; teaching step-by-step strategy to female entrepreneurs who desire to create impactful, profitable pleasure-based businesses.
We discuss what it takes to believe in your skills, your knowledge and your worth enough to partner with the right clients and create value beyond expectations. We also discuss talking about sex publicly, educating college students, the challenges of marketing adult products and orgasms! We obviously also get into talking about pleasure itself, and how hard it can be to make room for and prioritize pleasure for ourselves.
SURPRISE! Casey was generous enough to give you guys 15% off all products on www.thepleasureparlor.com using the Promo Code WILD.
Give yourself some pleasure just ahead of the stressful Holiday season!
You can also find out more information about ongoing and future coaching masterclasses on her website!
(Sorry about some of the glitchy audio, we're a work in progress over here!)
It's a warm welcome back to our dear Anita Cassidy and a perfect introduction to Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey. Lori is a psychologist, sex and intimacy coach. Her mission is to take sex and conversations about sex from the shadows to the light. She divides her time between client work, speaking, live events, podcasting and writing. You can hear here on the A to Z of Sex ™ weekly and Sex spoken Here weekly.
Today we decided to delve into the difficult arena of setting and respecting boundaries! When it comes to intimacy, parenting, time, consent and so many more circumstances, how do we navigate our need for self-care and the fickleness of shifting wants and needs? What does it mean to have to be firm and ask for what you "need", when a little voice in the back of your head second-guesses those same demands?
We discuss what the hardest part about boundaries is for each of us, and then take a slippery slope down the areas of fear, trauma and intuition. Take a seat on this communal couch with us and let's share our beautiful vulnerabilities....
On Twitter, you can reach us at @drbisbey, @anitacassidy76 and @christinewild_ . You can find out more about Lori at drloribethbisbey.com and Anita at alethya.com. Do watch out for Lori's new weekly radio show "The A to Z of Sex" in the sexy lifestyle network part of Voiceamerica, coming in 2019.
You can find out more about The Gift Of Fear here: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/56465.The_Gift_of_Fear
Please do let us know if you have any comments, questions or ideas for future topics that you want to hear us discuss! Happy Friday and please show us some love!
A huge Welcome Back to Matthew Keegan, from Ep. 3! If you missed him like I did, you'll be delighted to hear us talk about Nina Power's One Dimensional Woman (2009, Zero Books). Based on Marcuse's One Dimensional Man, this short read is FULL of amazing starting points for this wild run down interesting rabbit holes. Topics covered: The Cooptation of Modern Feminism (and its contradictory definitions), Consumerism & Marxism (and its economic consequences), The Role of Cinema and many more rabbit holes! Please, please, please join us, in this TOUGH conversation and do SHARE your thoughts, however flawed or incomplete, with us.. that's how we learn.
Thanks Nina, for putting all my goals into perspective and reminding me of all the structural capitalist issues of my gender identity. And thanks Zero Books for the feels!
Matthew and his friend Leon Sandler are launching a podcast called "The John David Ebert Podcast", with John David Ebert. Their first episode will be about Deleuze's "Postscript on the Societies of Control." Watch out for it on the guys' twitters: @johndavidebert, @sandler_leon and @Keegan_am!
Parting words from Marx himself, on why Capitalism isn't compatible with Feminism: "The bourgeois sees his wife a mere instrument of production. He hears that the instruments of production are to be exploited in common, and, naturally, can come to no other conclusion that the lot of being common to all will likewise fall to the women. He has not even a suspicion that the real point aimed at is to do away with the status of women as mere instruments of production."
Dr. Marina Adshade, professor of the Economics at the University of British Columbia, welcomed me into her home to talk about sex robots and marriage! How might the recent technological changes affect the concept of marriage and relationships more broadly? If Sex Robots can fulfill you sexually, does that take sex compatibility out of the relationship equation? Does it open the door to conversations about non-monogamy?
Marina started a course on the Economics of Sex, which turned into a blog, and turned into "Dollars & Sex" the book! More recently, she published an article in Slate called "How Sex Robots Could Revolutionize Marriage—for the Better" (Aug 14, 2018). By way of this article, we cover a full range of rabbit holes including: morality, economic factors of relational compatibility, defining love, why we marry, emotional labour and self-awareness.
I am so grateful for Marina's time and honesty, and I love how personal we end up getting! What do you guys think? Get at us on Twitter @christinewild_ and @MarinaAdshade
Here's the Slate article: slate.com/technology/2018/08/sex-robots-could-totally-redefine-the-institution-of-marriage
I highly recommend you read and watch more of Marina's work on www.marinaadshade.com
Here's the link to Carrie Jenkins that Marina references regarding defining love: www.carriejenkins.net
Star Trek episode reference:
The Perfect Mate, Star Trek: The Next Generation episode (season 5, episode 21)
Thank you for your likes, favorites, subscribes, reviews and ratings! Love you.
This is a fun one for me! José, the character from Just Bad Timing, and my OG bestie in Vancouver, runs wild with me about culture shock, life progression, perfect storms, dancing salsa and smoking weed, amongst many many other topics. If you're heartbroken, and/or overweight, and/or depressed, we got some hot tips for you. "Non-toxic judgment" and opposite approaches are the foundation to our friendship, and we'd like to know if you know what we mean!
In our usual style, we start with how we met, tell tales of UBC days, and end up promoting his new Sports Podcast "Sports and More from the 604!"
Be sure to check it out on insta @sportsandmore604 and listen here: anchor.fm/sportsandmorefromthe604
Also Vancouver people! Salsa Showcase November 9-10-11, aka STARTS TODAY! Bravo Dance Company, Amateur Team! Let's cheer them on! https://squareup.com/store/SHOWCASE2018
Ps: You're welcome for my slip ups on his actual name. Hahaha! See if you can spot it ;)
Pps: Sorry about all the F%*$king swearing.
Oh boy. You're in for a fun, wordy, all over the place one with gorgeously talented Kristina. Musician, Actress, Poet, Kristina does it all. Listen in for a bit about her life journey, but mostly zoom in on the Words with us.
We discuss a song she wrote called "Rows" as an introduction to individual artistry versus collective activism. How do we talk about what is, before leaping into what is to be done? What role does art, writing and music have to play in today's society? How do we realize our self-efficacy and freedom of choice, without taking the power of opinion for granted? Where and when do we develop emotional intelligence? Who's talking to you: your gut, your heart or your mind?
Big questions... almost no answers. As per usual. Come and have a think with us.
Around 20', there's a big moment of learning, where we get words wrong entirely and find our way around messing up! MISTAKES ARE PART OF LIFE. Please don't be afraid to try and have deep and tough conversations, because that's what this exploration is for, evolving together.
For more about Kristina, visit www.kristinalao.com or @mykristinalao on Twitter and Instagram.
Welcome to this very vulnerable episode about life after sexual trauma. Joanne O, my dear friend, was just published in the New York Review of Books (Oct 25, 2018) in Responses to ‘Reflections from a Hashtag’. She was one of the women victimised by Gian Gomeshi back in 2013, and wanted to share her story with me. I highly recommend you read her piece and listen to this incredibly insightful story of hers. She walks me through the past four years of consistently being triggered by the media and the ways she has been coping with how trauma fundamentally changed her. Amongst other things, we discuss rape culture, being in a relationship now, what "normal" means, sex & orgasms and simply existing in today's world.
Next time you click, think about whose story is worth more to you?
Bottom line: it's ok to make mistakes. And this is how you apologize:
1. Admit your mistake. 2. "This is how I fucked up". 3. Sincerely apologize. 4. "How can I start attempting to make it better?" = ACCOUNTABILITY.
As promised, here’s your diva cup resources: www.divacup.com
You can find the original post on Jo's blog: thepersonalispolitical2.wordpress.com and reach her on Twitter @JoLynneO
Welcome to a fascinating episode! Morten Rand-Hendriksen, educator for LinkedIn Learning on Web Design and Interaction Design instructor at Emily Carr, walks me through his life journey from university politics in Oslo, to his 16 year-long "life experiment" in Vancouver. In our usual RWWC pattern, we follow life's unexpected twists and turns, while remaining conscious of how privileged certain opportunities are, to get to today's main topic: Ethics (or the lack thereof) in Design and Tech. What kind of world are we creating?
What lessons from philosophy can we apply to design as a language? Why is the industry trying to come up with a whole new set of ethics? How do we take ads and money out of the equation and replace it with human betterment? We are conscious that tech is built to keep us engaged are distorting our understanding of reality, but what now?
My fave quote: "Your life is actually this huge loop, where you go somewhere and you abandon it for a very long time, and it just naturally comes back, then you realise that that’s what you’ve been doing all along.”
For more, go to www.mor10.com or follow Morten @mor10 on Twitter.
Please subscribe, favorite, rate or review for more of this kind of awesome content. Love to all.
Alright Lovers! Let's steer away from all this seriousness in the air. Naomi Loud and I decided to take you on a little ride through our weird little brains.
We talk about our personal approaches to social media and grappling with the fact that total strangers know some of the most secret parts of us. We talk about memoir writing, painting, curating your creative process, doing drugs (and not doing them) as an intro! We then focus on Astrology! Naomi introduces me to definitions of psychic, clairvoyance and weird empath things that happen.
Our dear darlings, listen to yourselves! Lots of easy self-care and therapy advice in here, in a very personal way, to deal with anxiety and feelings.
For more on Naomi, follow her Instas @naomi.loud or @witchywaters and don't forget to check out her youtube page https://buff.ly/2QyK2f1 and her Medium page: medium.com/@naomiloud
Thanks again for listening! Please, please, please share, subscribe, favorite and all the clicks. Love you!
(Sorry about my hangover voice... life happens.)
Lutze Segu, PhD student at the Social Justice Institute at UBC, is my guest for this riveting episode - the Fourth instalment on Feminism.
She's been a social justice organizer and social worker for over 6 years, and took the time to speak to me about all things critical race theory, intersectionality, #metoo, patriarchy and consent!
I want to thank her for taking the time and emotional labour to teach me about my privilege (time and time again), radical inclusion, #blacklivesmatter and social justice.
Bottom line: Empathy is good - but we got work to do.
Check out Lutze's Twitter @FeministGriote
Kimberlé Crenshaw, American civil rights advocate and a leading scholar of critical race theory: @sandylocks on Twitter
Debby Irving, "Waking Up White": www.debbyirving.com
Brooke Takhar, from MissTeenUssr.com, came over to chat about life with me. This incredibly open conversation made me feel so good about sharing feelings, stories and connecting with people on a deeper level. Topics covered: Motherhood, Writing, Sexual Awakening, Contraception, Periods and Miscarriages, via bitching about random life inconveniences. Trust Brooke to make you laugh through some of the cringey-est of experiences! Listen in for your daily dose of belly laughter and vulnerability!
Check out her FB page @missteenussr for more! :)
Bryce, a dear friend of mine, is now one of Canada's most successful Powerlifters! He will be the subject of an upcoming documentary and his willingness to be vulnerable obviously hit all of my nerd spots. Listen in on his personal journey from a scrawny, metal band frontman/bartender, to setting two world records, winning three medals at world championships and being a successful entrepreneur! We discuss how life changes in tiny little increments, and how eventually life takes you to the unexpected. I couldn't help but think: where are my small choices taking me? Food for thought y'all, food for thought!
Please subscribe to this podcast for more random and vulnerable content!
Check out Calgary Barbell's youtube channel below, and @calgarybarbell on Instagram!
For more about powerlifting and apparel head to: www.calgarybarbell.com
This week Rebekah, film producer extraordinaire & marketing PM, shares her journey with me from turning 30 (and understanding what not giving a fuck means) to starting Fired Up, her own production company, detouring via the role dedication and passion have played in her creative successes.
Honesty, respect and vulnerability are discussed as they relate to leadership, career transitioning and working for free sometimes! (Ooh controversy.)
Listen to this very exciting, fun and bubbly episode if you've ever felt stuck, like time was running away from you and like everyone else was achieving their goals except you... because we have! This can be your pep talk (weird choice for a pep talk surely, but if you're here, we already know you're a bit weird!).
You can check out Rebekah's films on her website: rebekahrenford.com and check her out on twitter @b3kah! Check out "I Want To Make You Happy" for her latest project! twitter.com/@IWTMYHfilm
As always, please please please SUBSCRIBE!
Nell from woman-on-top.co.uk came over to my virtual living room to talk about her goals, normalising sex (!), our books and general misdemeanour. Nell and I have lots in common, so sorry if we just agree a lot, but listen in if you still wonder what the benefits of being open about sex are! She also gives you a bit of courage to say what you mean in certain circumstances (awkward families for example), cause we all need a little push! (Intersectional feminism also discussed, because duh.)
Sorry about some of the feedback at some points, tech can be tricky!
Check out Nell's instagram because it's amazing: instagram.com/womanontop_nell
Thanks for listening my darlings! As always, favourite, follow, subscribe, like... all that jazz.
Dr Neil Fox from the cinematologists.com podcast comes to speak to me about his film Wilderness (baracoapictures.com/wilderness) and relationships in general. We ramble on about loving ideas, living in confusion, privilege, and unlearning destructive habits & assumptions.
Listen in if you want to share some deep dark thoughts about creativity, voices that need/needn’t be heard and unsure answers.
For more about Neil and all of his projects head to drneilfox.com !
Please follow, subscribe, rate and review this podcast if you like it!
Well, well. Steph and I had a great time recording this one!
She was gracious enough to send me a galley of her book "A Dirty Word" to read, and boy do we get into some serious topics.
Ranging from body and soul, to pathologizing women's sexuality, to non-consensual, coercive sex, to the lack of desire or orgasms, to making family members super awkward, we cover it all! In the name of helping us all be more comfortable with the uncomfortable, and hopefully paving the way to a better sex ed system, and a healthier and safer sex-positive future. We are not broken, nor deficient. We are all in this together.
For more on Steph and her amazing list of resources: www.stephauteri.com
Don't forget to pre-order her book!
Hello lovers! We are back!! Let me introduce you to one of my oldest and dearest friends, Sophie. She's a Human Rights professional, a intelligent, purposeful feminist and a kick-ass wife. She and I take twists and turns trying to redefine relationships, communication channels, values and self-confidence for ourselves. What does a contemporary feminist marriage look like for her today? What do her and I have in common? What can we do to set ourselves free of society's pretty little boxes and live without the weight of labels? Tune in for more.
(Also, sorry about the rambling at some point, we had to do this one twice due to equipment failure. Humans are imperfect, we did our best! Also thankfully Sophie got us back on topic!)
OK! Disclaimer: suicide and depression discussed in depth. My lovely friend Devon S. was gracious enough to let me into his head, his battle against depression and our common difficulty staying on topic. We do go down a few rabbit holes: Are creatives more prone to depression? Why can’t people just listen? How are European universities free? But in between random celebrity and film trivia, Devon tells me about his experience calling a Suicide Hotline.
Anyhow: this is a good episode if you want to know more about what it might feel like to be depressed and how to potentially speak to a loved one who might be/is depressed.
Random thing I said I would put in the bio:
“White Cat, Black Cat,” by Emir Kusturica
For help and support in the UK: www.samaritans.org
For the US lifeline: suicidepreventionlifeline.org
In Canada, www.crisisservicescanada.ca
James Gates, writer for Culture Trip, and I discuss today’s topic: Toxic Masculinity. After reading “The Descent of Man” by Grayson Perry (https://buff.ly/2L1HhDI), James had a pivotal moment of understanding his own consciousness of gender stereotypes. The book is a great read, but according to James, recognising how detrimental to society as a whole it is, creating awareness is not enough. Creating dialogues about toxic masculinity is where it needs to start.
Therefore, we go into our individual experiences, into the toxicity of labels and the changes we try to make every day. Most importantly, we address the reality that change is hard. Challenging norms is hard work and vulnerability really should become the basis of human interactions.
For more on James: https://theculturetrip.com/authors/james-gates/
@jamespetergates on Twitter & Insta
Shout outs & References:
Jo on Twitter! @Jowebber1981
Satan’s Whiskers, https://buff.ly/2LAvWHG
On Eurydice Dixon, https://nyp.st/2HRSbX4
Adam Lannon and I discuss his experience being a feminist from a male perspective, in a Post-Me Too world. We talk about meeting at the Cannes Film Festival, the changes we've seen, and most importantly the differences we can make as individuals. Part of the problem with this challenging topic is that it’s really hard to speak about it. Whatever we say will be wrong for somebody. So indulge us. We really did our best, from our limited individual experiences.
To know more about Adam, you can find him on Insta @iamadamlannon, on twitter @adamlannon and here https://buff.ly/2KNbCXg
Please rate, review and subscribe!
Shout outs to: Frank Mannion! You rockstar.
Alix Wilton Regan: https://buff.ly/2N40bHz and Twitter @AlixWiltonRegan
Young Hot Bloods, at the Long Sight Theatre: https://www.longsighttheatre.com/young-hot-bloods
Dr Neil Fox @drneilfox
Ashes, by Sophie Black: https://buff.ly/2m5yF0T @sophieblackfilm
Video version of this podcast to come @RealTimeRadical on Youtube & Facebook
Welcome back to #RWWC! Today, you meet Léa, one of the women behind femmedufutur.wordpress.com Through her blog, she advocates for a whole new brand of feminism, open conversations with a healthy dose of self-awareness and doing whatever the f*$k you want in the end! Dudes, this is an episode that you will like, because we are genders at peace! Enough pitting people against people: let's love and support each other.
Léa is a kick-ass French friend of mine, who, like me, has been a single gal in her twenties for a little while.. and so naturally we decided to talk about Commitment! Woop! There's so much to say about this feared topic and we must never ignore the systemic factors of individualism and cultural background, gender implications and relationship expectations. Yet again, communication and consciousness are the tools we need. It's not easy, but it's so evident: become aware of what you want and need, and make compromises!
In this funny yet insightful episode, Paulie and I discuss life in all its glory, messiness and difficulty. Starting off with the drunken debauchery of how we met, we move on to travel and being a chef, and cannot go on without addressing the news of Anthony Bourdain's suicide. We do our best to discuss depression, seeking help, our personal experiences with mental health and the extraordinary effects of speaking out. If you are struggling, we see you, we love you and we need you. If you are not able to reach out, we will. You can reach Paulie @pauliechef84 on Instagram, and as for me, it's still @christinewild_ on both Twitter and Insta! Thank you for listening, be gentle with yourself and remember we are all doing the best we can.
For help and support in the UK: www.samaritans.org
For the US lifeline: suicidepreventionlifeline.org
In Canada, www.crisisservicescanada.ca
Anita Cassidy is back! We know how much you loved Episode 6, so we are back for another round of deep questions on social standards in our relationships. We all prefer to feel good, don't we? But what happens when we experience "negative" feelings within relationships? How do we discuss them in relationships that do or don't have solid communication tools in place? We give you our best advice and share some personal stories of our recent struggles.
For you London folk, Anita and I will be in London on July 5th at her social on Extraordinary Conscious Relationships. Meet us between 6-10pm at Black & Blue, across from Waterloo station. More info on Anita's site nomoradicalrelationships.club
Let's take this conversation IRL and have some drinks! As always, please rate, review and subscribe so I can keep doing this awesome work.
Hello lovers! Meet Sunny. Sunny is my wicked smart friend. She's drop dead gorgeous and a solid gal. Together, we decided to discuss the challenges we face when dating, when choosing jobs, or merely being ourselves. If you too face the problem of being called "intimidating" or "scary", this one is for you.
We also discuss privilege, unconventional career paths, relationships as they evolve through your twenties and the hard task of letting yourself be vulnerable. I thank her for speaking from the heart, because this one was super real.
Join the #vulnerability and #honesty revolution. Subscribe and rate this podcast for more awesome content.
Well, this week, we decided to give your brain a bit of break. So have a glass of wine and talk nonsense with Amy and I. We catch up post-Cannes (still sorry about my voice) and tell you about the weird instances when acupuncturists knew us better than we know ourselves. There are also some Book Two scoops in here, never before told stories of mine.
Are you open to the universe?
Please, subscribe rate and review this podcast on iTunes so we can start trending, y'all. And do tell us what you want to hear! @christinewild_ are my insta and twitter handles. In the meantime, enjoy your weekends.
As Amy would say, coeur coeur love.
Well, ladies and gents, it was my pleasure and privilege to chat with Dr. Shannon Chavez about masturbation, Body Sex workshops, mediation, Mind/Body approaches to sexual health and fulfilment and so much more! Shannon has so much positive energy radiating out of her and I hope you can all feel it through your headphones. This is your time to think about your orgasms, your me time, the place you allow pleasure to take in your life!
I'm so sorry about my voice - I had just come back from the Cannes Film Festival, and let's just say it was taxing!
Her website is a phenomenal source of information, so please go check it out: www.drshannonchavez.com
You can also find out more about Betty Dodson here: www.dodsonandross.com
Episode Ten has my friend Kelly S. and I chatting about feeling like we don't ever fit in. From travelling to unlikely careers, we share our experiences. We also discuss some of our crazier drunken black outs, and life's crazy rollercoasters. Never before divulged stories inside!
To all my "outsider" friends, we're here, and we love you just as you are.
For more about her businesses in Geneva, check out:
www.hashtagpopup.ch and these two handles on Instagram: @creativenomad_ and @kelloushka.
Mine is @christinewild_ on both Twitter and Instagram, if you somehow didn't already know! Please subscribe, rate and review so we can get more content out to your ears!
You're in for a treat! Chris Erickson, professor of Political Science at UBC, and as off recently Certified Tantric Practitioner with the Institute of Authentic Tantra Education, in Vancouver, BC, chats with me about Sex and Politics. What could the two have in common? Way more than you think! In this episode, Chris and I unpack our understanding that the approach to healthy societies is in many ways the same as the approach to a healthy sex life. The most helpful tools seem to be honesty, mindfulness, compassion, and my personal favorite, empathy. Tell us what you think about our analysis!
Check out www.authentictantra.com for more information on Chris' Wife Devi's institute, and if you're at #UBC, take his classes. I'm serious, do it. It changed my life.
My friend Dani and I discuss our personal differences, but also similarities, in our approaches to defining success and happiness. We also detour through the meaning of sexual intimacy and relationships, and taking leaps of faith! Enjoy our little trip down some rabbit holes. This episode isn't a conversation between experts, it's an exchange between curious beginners at this thing called life.
For his music, check out: https://www.mixcloud.com/dny_ocean/
Episode 7 has me chatting with Madison James, a 38-year-old Male Escort, with a keen interest in sexual development, Tantra and BDSM. We discuss his eBook, a mental guide for BDSM relationships, vulnerability, sensuality and the role of sexual energy. We question our stances on transactional relationships, social constructs around promiscuity and escorting, and the way we communicate!
For more information, access to his eBook and blog, check out www.themadisonjames.com
In this sixth episode, Anity Cassidy and I discuss her book Appetite (http://amzn.eu/3dAVyBn), her approach to conscious relationships and writing about sexuality. We also share our takes on affairs, secret online lives, the difficulties we face as women, holding on to all the different sides of ourselves. Making mistakes is how we learn most often, don't you think? And what we've learned is that the secret to healthier relationships might be quite easy. Listen to find out!
For more information, check out her website: www.anitacassidy.uk
We also refer to Esther Perel. Check out her Ted Talks here: www.ted.com/speakers/esther_perel
In this super exciting episode, Girl on the Net and I chat about censorship, Eroticon, sex advice, non-fiction, social justice and basically any other topics that our brains ventured down. It was a privilege to chat with her and do go check out her stuff!
(We also plug Meg-John & Justin because how could we not.)
For more info:
In this installment, Amy and I discuss friendship and social contracts! Why are female friendships so rare and fickle? Can heterosexual men and women be friends? How do we navigate competition, jealousy and the undertone of seduction in the workplace?
In this episode, my friend and fellow writer Matthew and I discuss philosophy, the loneliness of creative ventures and why sitting alone with your depressing thoughts matters. Matthew and I met on Tinder, bonded over critical theory and continue to disagree on a regular basis. It's a hoot. (Listeners discretion is advised as the words "socialism" and "Marx" are discussed at length.)
In Episode Two, my publicist Kat Knox and I discuss imposter syndrome and growing balls. Not literally, though. We do go into detail about the reality of pursuing your passions, and ridding yourself of the thought that careers (or relationships) are linear. Kat also represents Jeff Bauman, and tells us about her personal experience surrounding the Boston Marathon Bombing ahead of its fifth year anniversary on April 16th. So remember, roses will always smell good. Be free little vines, reach for all kinds of goals and recognize your strengths.
The First Episode of Running Wild with Christine!
Let's go straight to the slippery subject of "What's your number?" of sexual partners! What's a high number? How does it differ for men or women? Why is it such a f#*$ing sensitive topic? Plus, you get to meet Amy, my all time bestie and recurrent character in Just Bad Timing, my newly released memoir. (Pardon her French accent, but it's cute as hell.)