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I Don't Know Jack About Parenting

I Don't Know Jack About Parenting

By Ryan Roy

Parenting done the right way... usually. Well, it's a learning process and Ryan Roy will give it to you straight.
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I Don't Know Jack About ParentingJan 17, 2019

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300 Thank You - Goodbye - FBI Dads Podcast Next

300 Thank You - Goodbye - FBI Dads Podcast Next

0:55  Final episode

1:10  Next step - FBI Dads: The Podcast

1:15  Thank you to each and every one, even if you only listened to one episode

2:30  I hope it saves even one marriage

3:10  Having a father in the home improves to odds of success for the kids

3:45  I hope the FBI Dads podcast helps give parents tools they need

4:00  Thanks to all the people that have helped make this possible

7:30  FBI Dads, at my kid's school, grew from 6 dads to 155 dads (consistently)

8:05  Now it's morphed to a virtual meeting

8:25  A brief overview of FBI Dads meeting

10:05  There are 3 things a parent should tell their child every single day

12:00  Kids are intuitive, they know what's important

13:00  Magic happens when they have conversations around important things

14:15  "Look what MY dad said about ME!"

15:35  I was told "dads don't want to be involved"... I proved them wrong!

16:20  I find the dads at the kid's sporting events, but they often fall short when it comes to saying "I Love You"

17:40  I know a LOT about being fatherless, and I know having an involved father is MUCH better

18:20  I don't plan on ever stopping my mission to help dads get involved

19:00  See you on FBI Dads: The Podcast

Dec 11, 202019:36
299 Creating Leaders

299 Creating Leaders

1:25  I've been thinking about this leadership podcast for a while

1:40  If you "lead" your household, you will create leaders

2:03  Let them KNOW they are leaders

3:35  Wait, stop, think... don't just follow, you are a leader

3:10  I've recorded 300 podcasts, I'm a self-motivated leader

3:30  I lead things at school

3:55  I lead my clients to success.

4:10  I bring organizations at school together

4:40  I'm on the board of the Sock-it-to-em sock campaign foundation

5:15  As I'm recording this, I'm pulling up to the car pickup line

6:00  My son wanted to run for class vice-president

6:40  Help them believe early on that they ARE a leader

7:45  I grew up in survival mode, I didn't have the luxury of "frivolous" knowledge

8:50  I was more concerned about meals than leadership

10:20  Let your kids know they are loved unconditionally through words and actions

10:30  Let them know that they are safe

11:00  More is shown through your actions than can possibly be conveyed in words

12:50  "I want both", here's the deal... then back it up

15:05  Leaders follow through on their promises

15:10  I love that YOU, the listener, are working to learn and get better

16:05  This podcast has helped me pay more attention and get better

Dec 04, 202017:43
298 Glenn Lundy: Father of 7 plus 1

298 Glenn Lundy: Father of 7 plus 1

1:00  Glenn Lundy:

3:00  Intentional activities

4:00  Productivity and fulfillment

4:30  Principles of success in parenting: #1 morning routine

5:05  TheMorning5.com  Download Glenn's free ebook

5:15  Glenn's BIG 5 things to do every morning

5:40  The typical car business routine... is failing them

7:45  The "67 Day Challenge"

8:15  That's how long it takes to have a physiological change

10:10  Structure and morning routines are the bedrock of parenting

11:07  Preparing for the trip vs surprise

14:45  I never know God's plan but I know it's good

15:03  I know I'm not powerful enough to keep my kids on course or knock them off of it

18:30  Even with COVID: you can NOT take a kid off their path

21:20  We've created generations of sheep following others instead of leading

24:00  Don't plant the seeds in your children, water them

25:00  You can either be a consumer or producer. Start producing

26:25  You need to come to an FBI Dads breakfast to understand

27:25  "How do kids spell LOVE?"

29:15  Kids will love those that serve them with what they need

30:10  Just 15 minutes a day with a child can be all they need

31:30  We can argue or we can say yes

33:35  Talk to them as if they understand now

34:45  Go the GlennLundy.com to find all the ways to get in touch with Glenn

35:50  Glenn's Facebook group has raised over $700k for various causes

41:00  Are you 100% in sync and integrity? If so, your spouse will follow and support


Nov 27, 202045:21
297 Parenting Success: The Jewish Phenomenon

297 Parenting Success: The Jewish Phenomenon

0:55  This is MY goal "The respect of my adult children" and no thing or no fling will get in the way

1:15  Examples of HOW that looks along the journey

3:00  We're getting close to the end of this podcast series

3:15  "FBI Dads" podcast is starting 2012

3:45  There is a certain group of people that have a higher level of success

4:00  The Jewish phenomenon

4:45  Education: flexibility, options, knowledge

5:40  The 5 to 6 year jumpstart

6:10  Culturally, Jewish people declare their children to be adults much earlier

7:10  Then expectations are set options are laid out and plans are made

7:45  Professions, schools, grades, money, scholarships become part of the planning

8:45  At 13, they start acting like an adult with intention

9:05  When you're treated like an adult, you start acting like an adult

10:40  No one did it for me, but I want to break the cycle

11:00  I want to be the one to guide and encourage my children

12:10  I don't need to be Jewish to follow the things they do

13:12  You may want to start planning

Nov 20, 202014:14
296 Parenting Is A Team Sport

296 Parenting Is A Team Sport

1:03  Children change every day and I have to learn and adjust

1:20  "FBI Dads" podcast is coming in 2021

3:20  Last night me 9 year old had a meltdown about internet service

4:02  Internet "Glitchy" made him a little internet "_itchy" :/

5:05  Voices escalated back and forth, tensions are rising

7:05  After the baseball game, wind down... and it starts up again

8:00  My challenge as a dad... I love my kids but I also must support my wife

9:40  Certain words can be damaging, it's a tough balance

10:40  I had to explain what happened and smooth things over

12:01  Coaches like to bring up challenges and successes

13:10  Acknowledge to people around you that help you along the road

13:40  Parents should "huddle up" at night and get on the same page


Nov 13, 202014:55
295 Watching Your Kids Grow Through Sports

295 Watching Your Kids Grow Through Sports

1:00 3-year-old jumping and sticking the landing

1:30  Baseball with the 9-year-old

2:25  Energy is everything, highest energy wins

3:45  One by one they gave him a tap

4:40  Things started going our way and the energy got higher

5:55  I'm NOT a baseball fan, but I am a fan of competition etc.

7:00  Technical advice in the middle of a game?

7:50  Up 9-5 and the closer is brought in

9:05  Momentum going into last night's game

11:05  Then the batting order got switched up

12:10  When you ARE there, be fully present

13:05  This show is my documentation of my journey

13:40  Episode #300 will be the last podcast

14:15  Next is "FBI Dads" podcast (Fathers Being Involved)

15:25  Thank you for being part of my journey so  far

Nov 06, 202016:40
294 Halloween COVID Style

294 Halloween COVID Style

1:00  I LOVE Halloween

2:05  Halloween was always big in my home growing up

2:50  COVID style... leaving the candy out? Bagged?

3:12  The value in Halloween IMHO is the interactions

4:10  The value is in the questions, gifts, leaving comfort zone

5:15  Ask, get rewarded, learning to face possbile rejection

6:10  Children are being taught to get the reward without effort

8:40  Go, do nothing, get gifts is not the lesson I want for my kids

9:10  Practice is important!

10:30  Virtual learning vs Face to Face learning

11:00  It's about the experience NOT the result!

Oct 30, 202011:34
293 The Litter Rippler Effect

293 The Litter Rippler Effect

1:25  My fault, I don't like to ask for help

2:10  We cleaned up part of a road near our home

2:30  "Adopt a Road", elderly and needs help

3:10  We asked the city for help

3:45  We did our part, we helped the city

5:10  Neighbors saw us and thanked us on Nextdoor.com

5:35  But now most everything we need is being taken care of

6:45  People pay attention, a spark can create a fire

9:25  We need leaders to allow followers to do their work

Oct 23, 202010:17
292 To Litter Or Not To Litter

292 To Litter Or Not To Litter

0:55  Kids learn from our examples... Do YOU litter?

1:25  Do we pick up litter when we see it?

2:02  My boys, even at young ages, pick up litter in the park

2:25  "Why do others throw trash on the ground?"

3:20  Follow through, lead by example, whatever it is

4:02  A small area by the train tracks by my house

4:25  Beer and booze bottles and cans and lack of respect

4:50  Respect for our bodies and the planet

5:35  Lack of respect, does it lead to other problems?

6:03  Consequences, following rules, incarceration, picking up trash

7:18  "Dad, why do WE have to do it?"

7:30  If we see something wrong and don't do our part, WE are part of the problem

8:40  Look in the mirror and ask what you are modeling to your kids

9:05  What are the long term implications? I think about these things

Oct 16, 202010:34
291 Timing The "Birds and Bees" Conversation

291 Timing The "Birds and Bees" Conversation

1:00  Most of us dread this conversation

1:35  We just got back from a cabin retreat

1:55  On a hayride we heard about pumpkins, birds and bees

2:45  One of the parents had just had "the conversation"

3:30  Do I want a 10 year old telling my son or should I?

4:10  I usually research how to do these things

5:00  The boys are busting each other's chops

6:00  Here's my gut, I'll give him what he needs to know

6:25  First, it comes from a place of love and intimacy 

7:25  "You did that to her?!?!"

8:20  Remember, kids have access to the internet

9:02  I'll be the one sharing this because of XXX

9:55  When it comes from a parent first, they will come to us too


Oct 09, 202010:58
290 The Social Dilemma

290 The Social Dilemma

1:10  The Movie: The Social Dilemma 

1:30  Devices designed to keep us attached

2:20  He wants toys that he sees online

3:20  Ads pop up, they get data, it holds our attention

3:50  How do they keep me on the screen

4:30  I watched something months ago, but Google is still tracking me

5:55  This is the 'adult brain'... what happens to children?

6:45  They will be enticed to click again and again!

7:35  It was wasting my time so I deleted them

8:35  At what age does my son need a phone?

10:00  In his pocket 24/7, free reign?

10:20  The more we know the harder the decision becomes

Oct 02, 202011:14
289 Get 100% Effort From Your Kids?

289 Get 100% Effort From Your Kids?

1:02  2 games into the baseball season

1:20  As long as he gives 100% effort, the skills will come

1:40  1st goal of every game: have fun, give effort

2:20  Unfortunately, we're results based too often

3:00  It translates into the classroom

3:55  If your 100% effort is "C" work? I applaud you

4:30  Back to baseball practice last night...

5:10  The game ball went to the player who gave 100% effort EVERY game

5:30  Then I gave him the details of how he gave the effort

7:10  Don't talk about winning and losing

2:20  Don't talk about grades

2:30  Talk about effort

8:00  Don't focus on the results... focus on the process!

8:35  I'm not supposed to say or think this: you are my favorite

9:50  As a dad, I'm worried every day that I'm not doing this right

10:05  Outside confirmation makes me proud to be his father

Sep 25, 202011:01
288 Getting Your Kids To Do The Right Thing

288 Getting Your Kids To Do The Right Thing

1:00  Because of fear? Not taught?

1:18  Kids mimic our behavior

1:45  What's the right thing?

2:05  I saw a gentleman walking with a cart full of beer

2:50  5 people "stuck like Chuck"

3:50  I don't know, we can't control other people

4:05  I found a wallet though

5:30  With the unrest, and with my looks, I was concerned

7:05  My wallet was lost once, all I ask is to pay if forward

7:55  There is a LOT of good that doesn't make it to the news

9:10  The only thing it took out of my life is 30 minutes

9:20  But it ADDED this list of things TO my life

10:00  The ripple effect starts here

11:05  The Rewind and Wife's perspective

11:45  "Why would you do that?"

12:10  Just so you know! 

12:42  Here's the challenge 

13:05  Yeah but, but, there are always "buts" 

14:10  Motherly instincts of protection

15:05  It may not make sense to everybody but it does to me

Sep 18, 202015:46
287 Jeremy Roadruck Interview

287 Jeremy Roadruck Interview

1:05  Jeremy Roadruck - Author: Your Best Child Ever

3:00  The one thing that really grabbed me... child trafficking

3:25  #SaveOurChildren

4:04  80-90% of kids are traumatized, are victims of people they know

4:40  People in places of incredible power are abusing kids

5:10  "You can trust me" is spoken by the abusers and the parents

7:20  Parents, listen to your gut

7:55  I took action and it caused a family uproar

9:40  Trust your intuition

9:55  Wearing down the defenses

12:30  Things that make you go "hmmmm" 

13:30  You and your child are more important than someone else's feelings

14:00  That bell has been rung

15:50  The quality of your life is directly related to this

18:00  FEAR: Face Everything And Rise

20:05  Get really good at asking questions

21:05  Have a flow of information

21:50  Don't come from judgment and/or fear

23:30  Pre-framing with adults

24:30  I have no problem with my stance

25:25  Theft comes from inside most of the time

26:00  The continuum of good and bad and the 90% of us

28:30  Parents are almost always the problem, not the child

29:30  Under stress we do what we've experienced unless we've been taught

31:00  It's not what I wanted to do, but it's what I was forced into

32:40  I can't be a bully with my students because they'll quit

33:40  The secret to being invited back wherever you go

34:05  The secret script to getting your kids to clean up after themselves

38:00  If you buy one copy it won't change my life, but it WILL change yours

39:30  My book is a framework to hang other tools on

40:25  Pick something that works for you that you can continue

40:55  We are energy junkies, know it and use it with your kids

43:40  The 12-Week program from Jeremy

50:00  Contact Jeremy at Jeremy@TheParentingProgram.com




Sep 11, 202051:37
286 Virtual School - First 2 Weeks

286 Virtual School - First 2 Weeks

0:55  Some of you may hate me for this

1:15  My wife is consumed with it... it's new to everyone

1:40  I personally refuse to engage and I'm avoiding it

2:35  My update from the first 2 weeks... day by day

3:25  Independent learning day

4:35  By the end of the week, it seemed they had the technology under control

5:10  Kindergartners in front of a computer screen? Really?

6:55  I was expected to go to school, pay attention and do well

8:00  I know a LOT of teachers that feel they can't connect the way they'd like to

9:00  As technology fails, we'll find ways to work around it

9:45  Overall my son is less stressed than we are behind the scenes

11:02  My conclusions so far

12:14  All of us are stressed, stress makes us emotional, emotions take our IQ lower


Sep 04, 202014:28
285 Above The Chatter With Bruce Pulver

285 Above The Chatter With Bruce Pulver

0:55  Bruce Pulver: Above The Chatter, Our Words Matter

1:45  I listen to how people talk to themselves

2:25  The words we say to ourselves matter

3:05  We were about 30 minutes from the hospital

4:05  She lived another 22 years, the other record was 72 hours

5:00  My father was the "word guy"

6:02  My father's words and my mother's positivity came together

7:30  Be in a place of gratitude, it's incompatible with negativity

9:30  GIFTS: God Installed Features To Share

11:45  My family started with 3 important words: Yes I Can

12:40  You Expect Success In Challenging Activities Now

14:00  Listening without action is worthless

15:00  The "Power Of Yet"

17:20  Kick the Can'ts... don't use words that end in "n't" 

21:25  Sometimes you just hit a wall

22:08  "Here's what I CAN do"

25:50  Daughters develop self confidence through their fathers

29:00  Bruce's word shops

31:18  AboveTheChatterOurWordsMatter.com

Aug 28, 202032:41
284 Remote Learning With Liliana Herrera

284 Remote Learning With Liliana Herrera

0:55  Virtual Learning with Guest Liliana Hererra 

1:25  A LOT of parents are finding themselves in new roles now 

2:22    First, let's deal with the mindset 

2:55    Now, instead of just parents, we're also teachers 

3:25 Come from a place of calmness, it will all be okay 

3:45  From my coaching practice, I teach that the strongest energy wins 

4:10    Your kids are watching, they will imitate you 

5:05    I'm a single mom and want to be a part of their world 

5:45    Recognize we're not teachers, but we do know about school 

6:15    Your kids have no classmates now unless they have siblings 

6:25    Network with other parents to get together with whomever has specific expertise 

8:00  Necessity is the mother of invention, now we have learning "pods" 

8:45  Learning "styles" 

9:20  The schools are on a learning curve too, they've never done this either 

10:08    It's an opportunity to get a customized learning  1

1:10    Observe what your child gravitates to 

13:00  My son and I wrote a book one Saturday afternoon 

14:04    My son loves reading up on technology 

16:40    They may get a little more "comfy" at home, but it's okay if they are still focused 

17:45    I had to learn to monitor and adjust for his style 22:30  Dedicated learning space 

24:02    See what works, try different places and environments 

26:10    Commitment and consistency come with time 

29:14  Be realistic as a parent, be patient, get them moving 

31:20    This is one of the best times as a parent, to spend time with your kids 

34:40  Show your kids your "best self"  

Get in touch with Liliana:  

realtorlilianaherrera.com 

lilianaherrera@kw.com

Aug 21, 202037:40
283 I Don't Know Jack About Virtual Learning

283 I Don't Know Jack About Virtual Learning

1:00  No one really seems to know about "virtual school"

1:15  I'm grateful that there is a community trying to figure this out

2:30  There are a lot of questions and doubt

4:35  I guess this entire podcast is about patience

5:00  Show some grace and understand we are all doing the best we can

5:50  You all get 3 questions!

6:45  The first two weeks is just orientation and getting practice

8:05  Special needs, special questions

9:15  I wish you luck and I pray for wisdom and guidance

9:50  Stay calm so your kids will too


Aug 14, 202010:34
282 Children Are Born With Only 2 Fears

282 Children Are Born With Only 2 Fears

1:08  The only 2 fears babies are born with

1:45  But as parents, what are YOU fearful of?

2:00  My wife is afraid of bugs, so my kids are too

3:15  Hurricane, winds, thunder and frightened kids

4:08  Do you know you're safe in daddy's arms?

4:25  It's all about how you share what's happening to the kids

6:10  The fear of the bugs were shared by my wife and her sisters

7:50  Is fear based in the past, present or future?

9:05  Work on overcoming your own fears and don't pass them along

Aug 07, 202010:26
Dads Are A Little Dumb

Dads Are A Little Dumb

When most guys find out they're going to be a dad, they imagine the kid at five years old already... they don't think about all that goes into getting them to five years old!

Aug 06, 202014:10
281 Five Things You Should Never Say To Your Child

281 Five Things You Should Never Say To Your Child

0:50  I read an article today with the same title...

1:40  He gives the problem but NOT the solution

2:30  1- Sarcasm is not a good idea + my alternative

5:12  2- If you do that again, I'm going to turn this car around + my example

7:30  3- I love how you think about yourself all the time + my way of looking at it

9:45  4- Don't touch yourself there, it's dirty + I don't agree with that at all

12:27  5- What is wrong with you? + the implication


Jul 31, 202017:56
280 How To Make Really Good Parenting Decisions

280 How To Make Really Good Parenting Decisions

1:15  "When emotions are high, intelligence is low"

2:00  You've lived a really dull life?

3:30  You can't satisfy 100,000 parents

4:00  There are a lot of things going on now that raise emotions

5:15  Find the most grounded people in your life

5:30  You need to find something to trust

6:45  Push through fear

7:25  Fear is the killer of dreams

9:30  Is he strong enough to say "that's not right for me!"

11:30  Have the guts to listen to your own gut

Jul 17, 202012:22
279 Do I Send My Kids Back To School

279 Do I Send My Kids Back To School

1:00  When should we send the kids back to school

1:30  Our school gave us a few options

2:18  Then they hit us with a curve ball!

3:00  There are parents out there that have had MAJOR challenges

4:30  Meals for kids... how do they even pick it up?

6:15  A big part of us just wants them to go back to make things easier on us

7:05  Outgoing extroverted kids really need interaction

8:25  None of us are qualified to teach kids

8:50  I want to leave math, Spanish, history etc up to the teachers to teach

10:20  What do we do? Brainstorm with other parents

11:00  We have a plan we've devised, but you need to find your own

11:40  I just hope, looking back, we're happy with our decisions

12:50  In a world where we're used to having others tell us what to do, this can be difficult

14:10  We already have parents involved and getting the school ready

15:40  I'm asking and empowering you to talk, discuss and find a plan that works for you

Jul 10, 202016:54
News and TV are Destroying Your Children

News and TV are Destroying Your Children

1:00  Last week was about five things to say to your kids every day

1:40  This guess what... TV disruptes everything you're saying

3:15  Our kids have to be confused between what they've been taught and what they see on TV

4:00  The best advice is, don't watch the news

6:20  The mainstream media is destroying what we're trying to teach our kids

8:40  Listen to the words you say, listen to the news in "your" time

9:25  My mom knew she had flaws, but she didn't want to pass them on to her kids

11:10  At her core, she knew she was wrong

11:35  Kids do as WE do, not what we say

Jul 03, 202012:17
277 Five Things You Should Say To Your Kids Every Day

277 Five Things You Should Say To Your Kids Every Day

0:50  Welcome back after Father's day

1:35  We don't always realize how powerful our words are

2:25  I believe there are a lot of lessons by becoming a 'producer' versus a 'consumer'

3:10  Researching and coding vs just playing

4:50  1: 3 words that many dads have trouble saying "I Love You"

6:25  2: "What are your plans for the day?"

7:10  3: "I am so grateful to be your dad"

7:50  4:  "Have a great time at school and don't forget who you are"

10:28  5:  Words of encouragement and affirmation - The power of "yet", I trust you, I believe in you

Jun 26, 202013:39
276 Father's Day Series (4 of 4) Happy Father's Day - Be The Dad You Wish You Had

276 Father's Day Series (4 of 4) Happy Father's Day - Be The Dad You Wish You Had

0:50  Happy Father's Day!!!

1:10  Review of the last 3 episodes in the series

2:02  What works for ME to be a great dad... the 40 lessons from my book

2:40  Get a free copy of my book at http://BeTheDadYouWishYouHad.com

3:25  Guys, I wrote this book for you!!! It's short and simple!

3:55  On Facebook, look up "first time fathers" group

4:35  In chapter 8, "create a schedule"

7:50  Our job is to comfort them and take care of their needs

9:15  "Tell them 'I Love You'"... Lesson #34

11:10  If you don't exercise your parenting muscles, you will grow weak

12:40  Let me end on this thought...


Jun 19, 202015:50
275 Father's Day Series (3 of 4) I'm Never Going To Be Like My Father!

275 Father's Day Series (3 of 4) I'm Never Going To Be Like My Father!

1:50  Go back and listen to episodes 273 and 274 if you haven't already

2:35  What are the strongest memories of your Dad?

2:55  Whatever you remember MOST, is likely the type of dad you had

3:55  I had the absent father, because I was abandoned at 5 years old

4:30  I'm a life coach so I've seen it AND I've experienced

5:00  What are the happiest moments you remember with your Dad?

6:00  Write down the memories that you have...

6:15  What are the negative memories you have of your Dad?

8:15  Whatever it is that you wished of your father, be that for your child

8:55  Don't say what you're "NOT" going to do

9:20  What's the biggest fear you have with raising your child?

10:45  I have a mantra, or goal... I wish to have the respect of my adult children and no "thing" or no "fling" will come between that

12:00  There are only two things that kids really need: to feel safe and feel loved

12:40  Write down 5 things that YOU believe a good father should do or be (feel free to reference last week's podcast)

13:40  Name 3 things you hope to accomplish as a father (and here are my 3)

14:50  Name three things that you do NOT want to repeat from what your dad did

15:35  Tell your kids these three things EVERY day

16:10  I'm sure my 8 year old "gets" it now

17:25  What's your biggest insecurity about being a father?

17:50  Write down 2 to 10 positive male role models you had growing up

18:55  What's your relationship with your mother like?

20:05  All of these things add up to being the dad you wish you had

20:25  You cannot be in a place of gratitude and angry about the way you were raised at the same time

21:40  Break the cycle. This is your chance.

Jun 12, 202022:43
274 Father's Day Series (2 of 4) The 7 Traits Of A Good Dad

274 Father's Day Series (2 of 4) The 7 Traits Of A Good Dad

1:10  First identify the type of dad you are or that you had

1:55  I challenge dads to look at the 8 types of dads and become a "Good" dad

2:20  Don't tell kids what "not" to do, tell them what "to do"

3:10  Tell yourself, like you would tell your kids, what you DO want to do

3:55  Just because you set the goal of "not being like your dad" doesn't give you proper direction

4:40  The 7 traits of a good father https://www.beliefnet.com/love-family/parenting/7-traits-of-a-strong-father

5:01  Trait 1: Patience

6:14  Trait 2: Morality

9:25  Trait 3: Open-Minded

11:47  Trait 4: Loving

15:15  Trait 5: Loyalty

17:20  Trait 6: Honesty

18:01  Trait 7: Leads by example



Jun 05, 202021:56
273 Father's Day Series (1 of 4) The 8 Types Of Fathers

273 Father's Day Series (1 of 4) The 8 Types Of Fathers

0:55  This is part 1 of a 4 part series as Father's Day is nearing

1:15  It's good to know where we come from

1:35  It can help us change our poor habits

2:00  "God Distorted" by John Bishop and the 8 types of Dads

3:15  This is all about becoming a better dad and getting help

4:15  Dad type #1: The Absent Father

4:35  Dad type #2: The Passive Father

5:43  Dad type #3: The Demanding Father

7:05  Dad type #4: The Enabling Father

8:45  Dad type #5: The Controlling Father

9:45  Dad type #6: The Abusive Father

10:50  Dad type #7: The Accuser Father

11:50  Dad type #8: The Good Father

May 29, 202015:31
272 Take A Look In The Mirror

272 Take A Look In The Mirror

0:55  What do you see when you look in the mirror

1:25  From my son... "It this pandemic thing coming to an end?"

2:45  Many of us have become homeschoolers, cooks, and other things

4:10  Question from a friend... What are you learning most about yourself during this pandemic?

5:15  My life hasn't changed much because of my lifestyle before

5:45  How have you changed?

6:45  We've been playing a lot more games together

7:30  Here is your homework...

9:20  Look in the mirror and ask if you've been self-reflective enough

May 22, 202010:04
271 What Do You GET To Do During This Pandemic?

271 What Do You GET To Do During This Pandemic?

1:05  I'm thinking about those who have suffered a loss

1:50  How am I going to handle all of the changes

2:15  What are the positives? What can we do as parents?

3:25  What do you "GET" to do?

5:00  What advantage do you have now that you didn't have before!

6:00  You get to choose gratitude instead of lack

7:05  There is a happy balance with all of the changes and opportunities

8:10  I have seen a lot of things over these weeks that I wouldn't change

10:02  From a 13-year-old... "I learned I have a LOT to live for"

10:50  What are you waiting to get back to?

11:00  Some are so impatient to get to the next phase that they aren't present today


May 15, 202014:07
270 Mother's Day Interview With My Son

270 Mother's Day Interview With My Son

1:00  Mother's Day... it can be a thankless job

1:25  Today is a little different I have my son on the Podcast with me

2:00  Tell us a little about your mom, Cristian!

2:40  Why is your mom a superhero?

3:00  Tacos, pizzas and hamburgers

3:45  What is she really good about doing when you go shopping?

4:40  Suggestions on what to do for Mother's Day (listen for details)

7:00  Ryan thanks his guest and takes over

7:20  Cristian takes a great deal of pride in his parents and what they do

9:00  We are modeling how to appreciate moms and wives and parents

10:00  Presents, time, letters... Lots of ways to show appreciation

11:45  One year I just didn't have time to write my mom... she noticed!

12:40  I am still my mom's "baby" even though I'm 44 years old

13:10  I presented a lot of challenges to my mom and I cherish her

13:40  There are a lot of resources out there to help you become better


May 08, 202014:50
269 Are You Going Stir Crazy?

269 Are You Going Stir Crazy?

0:53  I live in the GREAT state of Georgia... and we're starting to open back up

1:20  When you lead, when you are the first, you will be critisized 

2:15  Unemployment checks to millions

3:15  Many people measure success by how they contribute

4:15  We can't continue living in a state of fear

4:35  This is a life podcast right now

5:32  With responsibility (parenting?) comes judgement

7:10  Monday morning quarterbacks second guessing everything

8:15  The greatest depression in our history

9:01  Lack of freedom? Unconstitutional?

9:48  I applaud leaders that lead


May 01, 202012:33
268 You Have Commitment Issues

268 You Have Commitment Issues

1:15  I'm growing the "rona" beard

1:45  I taught myself how to shave because I didn't have a dad to teach me

2:50  The 'rona is making me do things I haven't done before

3:30  At least by Christmas, if all else fails, I should have a Santa beard

4:05  I had to learn how to grow a beard? Oils? Tools?

6:15  During these downtimes, we have a chance to learn new things

6:35  Cooking, assembling furniture, finances will ALL be easier for MY kids

9:15  My mom learned typing on a typewriter! But she made me learn the skill

10:45  I KNOW you know SOMETHING!!!

11:00  Teach is to your children... in a POSITIVE way!

Apr 24, 202011:42
267 Justin Timberlake Sucks As A Parent?

267 Justin Timberlake Sucks As A Parent?

1:02  I'm talking about this because of an article I read

1:40  Parents are frustrated with his comments

2:10  He's really busy, but he's probably not the "hands on" dad

3:10  He believes he's doing his part by going to Montana

4:12  He also gave up much of his childhood to entertainment

5:03  He probably hasn't experience being a full time parent

5:35  "this isn't easy dad!"

6:12  I actually applaude him for staying put and not hyping himself up

7:11  I get it... but a lot of people apparently don't

8:03  I literally talked to someone who bought lunch, sat down outside, and a cop sent him home

9:18  All of us parents are going through something, don't put Justin on a pedestal

10:01  I sympathize with all parents trying to do their best

11:03  If everyone just did what the Timberlakes did, this would be over quicker

Apr 17, 202011:59
266 The Craziness Of A Pandemic

266 The Craziness Of A Pandemic

1:03  Schools are out and in lockdown

1:30  We've run through on some essentials: milk, eggs, bread etc.

2:45  People aren't talking while social distancing

3:20  We are told to stay away, not stop interacting

4:15  Connect with someone, check in with people, ask a question and listen

7:45  Let the people on the front lines of this pandemic let them know you care

8:40  During these challenging times is when people tend to pull together

9:15  "Dad, you know everybody... why do so many people want to talk to you??

10:30  A friend growing up had a really rough time. He was broken, like I was

11:40  Reach out to someone in isolation right now and show them they can reach out too

Apr 10, 202012:40
265 Newfound Gratitude For Teachers

265 Newfound Gratitude For Teachers

1:02  Educating your own child will help you have gratitude for their teachers

1:30  Streaming options for school interactions

2:15  However, teachers are relying on parents to do their job

2:50  Not only are the teachers educating the students, they're having to educate the parents too!

4:00  A well respected teacher expressed a negative opinion in the wrong way

4:50  Personally, I wish there was less homework

5:10  As a life coach, my clients need me more than ever!

6:20  Other people's lives have changed in other ways, easier, harder, more, less...

6:50  Something has changed for ALL of us

7:40  Show your teacher you appreciate them, send a letter or a card... but do something

8:45  Express your thankfulness

9:15  When people thank me, it makes me want to do more for them


Apr 03, 202010:36
Weathering The Pandemic Storm

Weathering The Pandemic Storm

0:50  Weathering the storm

1:10  Kids take on the energy of the parents

1:30  We have all weathered storms

2:15  Storms come and they go

3:30  People are not prepared and are panicking

4:00  When you see the storm coming, get prepared

5:40  Heed the warnings to wash hands, stay home

6:45  Kids are more affected by panic than YOU are!

7:40  Are you putting others at risk due to your behaviour?

8:40  But what can I do? Stay Home!

9:20  Listen to the experts and do what they say

Mar 30, 202010:33
263 Parenting In A Pandemic

263 Parenting In A Pandemic

1:10  100% straight from the heart

1:40  The opportunities as a parent

2:40  Even though I'm thankful for the teachers, they don't have this advantage

4:10  It's just a 1/2 day, but this seems longer

5:05  Kids crave certainty and schedules

5:50  ... so we created the same schedule at home to keep him in his routine

7:00  We also fixed the Bball nets and picked up some trash

8:10  I've been through hurricane aftermath, it helps me understand and deal with this

8:40  We also made it fun, and turned it into a math lesson

10:02  I actually thanked Covid 19 for the extra time with my boys

10:20  They will be gone around age 18... will they ever come home?

10:30  Most of the time we will spend with our kids will be before they leave 

12:25  We had all we could handle today, don't worry about tomorrow

13:50  We have been gifted with at least two weeks with our kids

14:45  What's unimportant in the grand scheme is getting homework done

16:10  It's time to slow down and enjoy our kids

Mar 20, 202016:53
262 Document Your Parenting Journey

262 Document Your Parenting Journey

1:05  How do you come up with so many ideas?

1:40  What works for me is documenting the process of parenting

1:55  Many of our challenges as adults started with things that happened in childhood

3:05  I guess I need to start posting this stuff on Instagram

3:55  I'd rather talk about it, but a picture is worth 1000 words

5:00  Got TONS of video at Rock and Jump

6:00  Got LOTS of pictures of the first baseball game of the season

7:18  It just doesn't stop... parenting happens continuously

7:55  There's a lot of moving parts in this thing called parenting

8:55  #1 was a piece of cake... #2 is like handling 20 kids

10:06  Document your journey, it's SO easy now to do

11:05  There's too much happening every day to not capture some of it

12:30  Yes, I did all of this and more with you... I have proof!


Mar 13, 202013:52
261 You Are A NOOB!

261 You Are A NOOB!

1:00  NOOB Caused someone to get a bloody mouth today

1:25  It seems to be the equivalent of a 'jerk'

2:01  Two came off the bus in tears

2:20  There's blood on his teeth

3:50  My son called him a noob

5:15  They're boys, they're going to figure it out

6:20  Acknowledge something is wrong

7:05  What exactly are you sorry for?

7:25  Do you accept the apology?

7:40  ... but the body language was off

10:10  What I did was reestablish consequences

10:55  Usually he chooses worse punishments than I would

11:35  THAT, my friends, is called parenting

12:15  The sooner you implement this strategy, the sooner they become responsible for their own actions and parenting becomes a LOT easier

Mar 06, 202012:60
260 What Can I Learn From Your Family

260 What Can I Learn From Your Family

1:05  "Why don't you post your family on social media?" 

2:06  "Oh... I'm NEVER doing that!!!" 

3:10  Buying a cabin, doing the research 

4:45  They like doing puzzles 

6:25  They don't know they are learning and growing 

7:00  Another friend has grown children helping with a BIG project 

9:05  After these examples, what can you learn from others? 

9:50  I talk, listen, create boundaries 

10:50  We set new expectations and boundaries 

11:10  Both families show up from a place of love and respect 

12:25  I'm pulling out a notepad and taking notes!!!

Mar 05, 202013:06
259 American Idol Makes Me Cry

259 American Idol Makes Me Cry

1:03  Every year it sucks me in

1:20  Didn't look the part...

1:50  My older son started his second season of baseball

2:40  The stories are amazing

3:02  If you're a parent, you envision your own kids

4:32  Yesterday was the first day of practice

5:35  I got lost in the moment playing with my son

6:50  Only 5 showed up, and there was a LOT of hustle

7:45  He was very encouraging though

8:40  I was glued to these young kids growing

9:40  Being THAT present, brings tears to my eyes

10:02  Be as present as possible as often as possible

Feb 21, 202010:54
258 Listening To Your Partner

258 Listening To Your Partner

0:55  It goes for men AND women

2:12  We donate our time and energies in a lot of areas

2:28  If feels like we're ships passing 

2:50  There are a LOT of scheduled activities most nights

4:35  Not a lot of downtime...

5:03  I hear loud and clear that my wife needs more attention

6:00  The relationship MUST stay strong

8:00  Let's have our kids what us set a good example of how to relate

Feb 14, 202008:43
257 Interviewed by: Motherhood Simplified -With A Dad

257 Interviewed by: Motherhood Simplified -With A Dad

This week Ryan was interviewed by Krista Lockwood, AKA Motherhood Simplified. She and her audience wanted a Dad's perspective... and Ryan was happy to oblige! 

Feb 07, 202001:03:46
256 Kobe Bryant The Storyteller

256 Kobe Bryant The Storyteller

1:05  I'm not a big basketball fan

1:50  I have an appreciation for his talents

2:20  Interview: Kobe and Lewis Howes

3:05  What do I do next if my career ends?

3:39  "Stories move the world"

4:35  My kids light up when I tell stories

5:28  A joke is nothing more than telling a story with humor

7:30  Read to your kids, because it's telling stories

8:15  Through repetition I become the character when I read 

9:00  I thank my children for teaching me to enjoy reading

10:05  Like Kobe, I've become a better storyteller

11:05  After watching Kobe videos, I've become a fan of his ability to tackle something new

11:40  Impact your children through reading stories to them


Jan 31, 202012:31
2020 Parenting Goals

2020 Parenting Goals

1:00  Living with intentionality

1:20  Goals and kids with amazingness

1:58  Respectful, disciplined children

2:20  My ultimate goal: to have the respect of my adult children

3:00  No thing and no fling will ever get in the way of that

3:10  No material goods, additions or momentary lapses in judgement

5:10  A contract to self for parenting

5:40  What do you want to accomplish as a parent

7:15  18 and 12 a decade from now

8:25  As the year winds down and the new year is beginning, make some parenting goals

Dec 27, 201909:33
254 I Feel Like I'm Doing It All Wrong

254 I Feel Like I'm Doing It All Wrong

1:05  Hopefully much of the Christmas chaos is behind you

2:05  I created a life where I could be involved with my children

3:02  My focused time with my kids is not where I want it to be

4:00  There must be a reason for it

5:20  I don't keep my time just to myself and family

6:05  As I'm saying this out loud...

7:30  He enjoys it even though he falls a thousand times

8:25  Sustaining happiness

9:25  I'm bringing some of my own junk into it

10:20  Tomorrow is the last of the daily podcasts

Dec 26, 201911:12
253 Merry Christmas!

253 Merry Christmas!

1:00  It's been a wonderful year!

1:20  The craziness is behind you

1:40  It can be a lonely emotional time

2:05  It's a time to reflect on what's important 

2:35  Pick up the phone, even if you don't want to

3:05  From my family to yours: Merry Christmas

Dec 25, 201903:41
252 Kids Get Frustrated When You Don't Listen

252 Kids Get Frustrated When You Don't Listen

0:55  My 2-year-old is learning English

1:30  Santa was shocked!

2:10  His words aren't perfect... yet

3:15  The Lucky Charms have been lingering for a while

4:00  He gets PISSED!

4:35  Do you get made? Do you pay attention?

5:50  He started pushing me...

6:25  He felt heard

6:50  Listen to them and acknowledge them when they listen to you

Dec 24, 201907:44