Domestic Violence; Healing Thru Words

 learned language rather written or spoken is powerful. Words can have a great impact on your life. The words victims of domestic violence or any type of violence use and hear are an important part to their freedom. Healing from domestic violence or intimate partner violence (IPV) is a life long journey that is not meant to be walked alone. So join me by listening at this podcast and allow me to heal with you.

Labels. Some are good for us and some are not. In this podcast we will learn how to rewrite and replace unhealthy coping mechanisms caused by labels and with mechanisms that brings out the best in us. We are going to define the difference between liberty and freedom where as freedom is the state of being free from any oppression, while liberty is the freedom to act in one’s own way. Are you ready to be free and walk in truth? If so you are in the right place.

When speaking of being restored what comes to mind are characteristics and abilities that makes you unique. It’s all about reconnecting to things, such as your personal likes or dislikes, your talents, and or other characteristics that allow you to connect with others in a healthy manner. In this podcast on restoration, you will learn how to change your thinking and as you do so, you will begin to change your reality and not just recover from trauma or abuse but be restored.

Have you felt overlooked? Have you ever felt like your hard work went unnoticed or didn’t make a difference? What’s unfortunate is when we are in an unhealthy relationship or environments and continue to hold on to those feelings or lies. In this podcast, you will learn there is none like you and what makes you unique is your deficiencies. They are what shape you and make you uniquely you and we need you to be complete.

When you look at yourself in the mirror what do you see? Do you see setbacks and disappointments, brokenness and failures? Do you see yourself as tainted, of no use, or unwanted. Unfortunately some have been told those lies and made them their truth and their identity. In this podcast we are going to find beauty in our body image; what we see and tell ourselves. We are going to embrace our differences as hidden gifts and not deficiencies.

When we go through pain, we might ask ourselves self why me? What did I do? In this podcast you will learn how broken things have value, purpose, significant and beauty. You will discover that your tears and trail of broken pieces of pain, hurt, regret, guilt and shame, will lead to the healing you need and desire. So let's heal together.

Who do you think you are? Do you know? Are you what others say you are? Does their definition encourage you and give you purpose? This podcast will help you take off the blinders to see who you really are. And it's not based on how others interpret or label you, but it's based on how God sees you; unique and with a purpose.

Happy New is a common saying at the beginning of the year. Does that mean we forget about last year? No. It just meant that we get to choose what we bring into the new year. Loving me in 2023 is something I hope all of us want to do. For some it's hard, but it is possible. So let's let go of the old; the pain, rejection, disappointment, and self-betrayal and tell yourself "I am going to love me in 2023."

Did you know October is designated as Domestic Violence month? Eventhough we as survivors don’t choose the month, day, or time of our violence and abuse, this is a good time to highlight who we are, what we need, and that our voice matter. This podcast can help you say goodbye to abuse forever, but it starts with you. 

When you hear “I am worthy to be loved,” what comes to mind? One thing that came to mind was acceptance. We all want to be understood, loved, and accepted. Acceptance is important to understand because the deepest wounds in our life often come from rejection and we’ve all experience rejection at some point in our lives. This episode will help you not only say "I am worthy to be loved," but believe it. 

When you hear the words broken, wounded, crushed, afflicted, oppressed, stricken, and pierced, what do you think of? Well these words might describe someone who is abused and the abuser. Both are broken. Both are wounded. Both are in pain. But, where do these feelings really come from? From the outside or from within? This podcast will share when pain is put into words, we heal. 

If your parents were unavailable for you for whatever reason, you might have felt abandon. Connection is important; it is important for growth and it is important to be healthy. However, it you had parents or caregivers who failed to create a healthy connection you carry the feelings of lack, insecurity, and yearning to be loved into your adult life. This podcast will provide tools to help you realize your worth and how special we are.

This podcast is about transparency on the way to healing. It hasn’t been easy walking this journey of healing. There will be road blocks, stumbling blocks, setbacks, and stepping stones. You will get encouraged and discouraged, but don't let it tare you down but build you up. Don't let self-doubt stop you from being the best you. 

The qualities that make up an abusive man are like the ingredients in a recipe. The basics are always present but the amounts per ingredient may vary. Just like a recipe has different ingredients, there are different types of abuse and abusers. We are going to expose the types and characteristics of angry abusive man in this podcast. Hopefully it will encourage you that it is not you and you are not alone.

Your abuser, they don’t want to validate your experience, who you are, and what you have created without him. He wants to unplug your view of reality and replace it with his. You see when someone has invaded your identity enough times you naturally start to lose your balance.

But you can find your way back to who you are; who are you were created to be and this topic will help you do just that.

This podcast is to help you understand the tactics of the abuser and how they try to gain power and control over us. One problem with abusers are they frequently tell us what we should think and try to get us to doubt or devalue our perceptions and beliefs.

Do you often find yourself thinking about the abuser a lot, wondering how to please him, how to keep him from leaving, or try to get him to change? This podcast will help you better understand them so you can make better choices and break the cycle of abuse.

Usually when society thinks of grief, we think of death of a loved one. However, there are so many overlooked types of loss. Today topic is grief and loss after leaving domestic relationship. One of the most overlooked side-effects of leaving an abusive relationship is grief. It may be hard to believe, and maybe even hard for some to understand, but there can be a lot of grief associated with ending an abusive relationship. Even if it was unhealthy, it was still a relationship. This podcast will help you begin the healing. 

Domestic Violence is about power and control. It is one person’s use of abusive tactics to gain power and control over another.  The abuser thrives on using techniques to intimidate and confuse the victim which in all reality, they are reflecting their brokenness. Trauma is a physical or emotional damage caused by an assault that can cause shock, fear, or helplessness. Traumatized people often have difficulty telling other people what happened. This podcast is created to encourage you, you are not alone and how asking What happened to you and How has this experience affected you, in addition to support can change the course of your life.. 

Hope has an impact on your mental health. When we lose hope it can cause depression, anxiety, eating disorders, PTSD, substance abuse, or suicidal thoughts. We don’t live in a perfect world. It is broken and we are broken. Do you want to find hope again. This podcast will show you how. 

Did you know there is a link between domestic violence and drug abuse? We all deal with every day demands such as bills, children, work, and relationships. We all have different ways of coping with these daily demands. Some of us have healthy ways to cope and others have unhealthy ways. However, when you’re in a domestic violence relationship, we don’t always think of healthy ways to cope. Just the opposite, we tend to turn to unhealthy ways and one of those unhealthy ways are abusing drugs. This podcast will help you identify healthy ways and find a new you. 

Circumstances are things that happened to us and around us and often we didn’t have any control. If you’re like many people, your thoughts are filled with lies you’ve heard from others. However moving forward, the way you respond to your circumstances and the thoughts you chose to believe, will shape the rest of your life. This podcast will help take the cards you are dealt and make it a winning hand.

Human Trafficking, what does that have to do with my mental health. Anything that affects our body affects our mind. Human Trafficking, which is also referred to as “modern-day slavery,” is a silent killer like domestic violence. Why do humans think they have the right to rule other humans and who told them they could? In this segment, we are going to look at the cause, effects, and how to break free. 

Did you know that our mental health drives us and if it’s not working well, everything else falls apart? Have you ever heard of “Emotional Neglect?”Emotional Neglect is when something did not happen to you, not something that happened to you. As parentis it’s our job to make sure the house is good, the bills are paid, and the children have a roof over their head. You see emotionally neglectful parents provided the basics, but failed to be there in our moment of crisis; to meet our emotional needs. This podcast will look at parenting styles and how it affected who you are. But it will also remind you of who you are and can become. 

How many of you have yearly check-ups from your doctor or a 6-month oil change for your car? Well, how many of you have weekly or monthly mental health checks? Why do you pay more attention to your physical body and material objects than our mental health? This podcast will help you break free from the power of the past so you can be free the way you were created to be.

Have you heard of “The Battered Woman Syndrome?” The Battered Woman Syndrome is similar to PTSD and some symptoms can include recalling the trauma you experienced. Learned helplessness is apart of the the "Battered Women Syndrome." Listen to this weeks podcast to see how you can overcome learned helplessness and replace it with empowerment.

Defining life goals and values apart from the pressures of others is a precious gift. So often we define ourselves based on the opinions and values of others and lose ourselves trying to be what others want us to be. In this podcast you will discover the importance of finding and living your True Self; the self you were meant to be. 

We are all familiar with failures. We fail at reaching our goals. We fail on our diets. We fail in relationships. However, failure does not define you. It’s ok to be disappointed about your failures, just don’t get stuck. This podcast will help you own up to your failures, grieve them, and move on and see them as set ups and not set backs; for opportunities for growth.

Narcissists can damage people and can damage relationship. Sometimes you can recognize the symptoms, but not the signs. It's almost like a hidden type of abuse. Knowledge is power, and lack of it is dangerous. If you lack understanding in this area, please listen at this podcast. It will help you out that dark place of doubt and lack of love for self.

Narcissist. We’ve heard the word, but do we really know what it means? The narcissist sees you as a fun person that brings excitement and adventure to their dull world. They target us because they see the beauty within. The problem is, is that we don’t see it, but at some point we begin to see the light and that’s when we meet that someone who validates our experiences. Listen to see how you can break free and meet that someone. 

We’ve all been let down by someone or something. Your job, money, health, family, or your significant other. We put our trust in them and at some point they let us down. Trust and hope are powerful tools. What will it take to trust again; you have to open up and be vulnerable. This podcast will tell you how and where to go for support and help to trust again. 

Painful memories of the past can make us bitter. The effects can manifest itself in our behavior such as anger, low self-esteem, and feelings of unworthiness. This podcast will help you embrace and push through your pain and allow it to make you better.

Have you let thoughts overwhelm your day and define you? Have you walked away from a mirror feeling like a failure? What labels do you put on? How do you define yourself? This podcast will reconstruct how you see yourself. You will wear a new label and redefine yourself as precious, valuable, and a masterpiece. 

We all have yearly physicals to make sure we’re well. And if there’re any changes necessary, we make them to stay healthy. But, have you had an emotional checkup lately. Todays podcast we will address what emotionally healthy looks like. 

We often find ourselves making excuses when we don’t want to do something. I will start my diet after the holidays. I will leave my abuser when the children are grown because I don’t want to disturb their education. And my favorite, If I leave my abuser what others will say; I don’t want to be judged. Excuses, excuses. It’s easy to use them as crutches; or as tools to avoid facing our fears and struggles. Listen to the podcast to find how to be free from excuses and walk in your identity. 

Sometimes we get so caught up in life’s ups and downs, we lose ourselves; our identity. Why does identity matter? Because we treat something based on how we identify with it. Or the value you place on it. This podcast will help you find and define your true value; from lost to found.

There are things we don’t like about ourselves and the fear of exposure makes us uncomfortable. Exposed is defined as not hidden. When we hide, what are we really saying? What is it that you don’t want others to know? We need to honestly answer these questions in order to understand our identity. Because our identity and transformation lie in the truth of these answers. Listen to this podcast to find your fear and define your truth.

We take pride in our family name. You heard people say that’s Charlie son. There are times you fought someone because they said something about your name and your family. You protected it because it meant something to you. Well, what happens when that name you were so proud of and fought so hard to protect betrays you or your lack of identity betrays you? Well, listen to the podcast and find out how. 

Emotions are a powerful tool and can be your enemy or your friend. This episode will help you identified which emotions are leading you. Do you like where it's taking you? Or, will you like to control it instead of it controlling you. 

Not knowing your identity can be frustrating and confusing. We listen to so many thing; people, music, and ourselves. We listen to voices telling us who we are and voices telling us who we are not. But the question is, who’s telling the truth? This podcast will help you define your truth.

So often we get lost in doing life and abuse, that we forget who we are. Our identity shapes our every move and if we don’t understand who we are, we cheat ourselves out of so much. However, we don’t have to live another year, in denial of the pain we received from the abuser, or the pain we caused ourselves from lack of identity. You know why, because we are going to discover a new you in 2022. 

Beautifully broken. You might ask how can something broken be beautiful? In this episode you will hear how the battle scars of your pain, sweat, and tears from abuse can be turned into something beautiful; a trophy of residence and hope.  

Can you remember being a victim? Maybe a victim of theft, of a lie, of identity theft, stolen virginity, or maybe a victim of circumstances out of your control or something that was in your control, but you chose to ignore it. One thing is for sure, victimization does not discriminate. Listen at how you can heal from being a victim and help others heal. 

Abuse can happen to anyone. Our special guest experienced abuse as a pastor's daughter, mother, and wife. What type of support did she receive?  Was if from family or friends? How did she turn out? Tune in to this weeks podcast and learn the answers to these questions and many more. 

When you hear church, do you think about abuse? Yes, there are people are sitting right in your church that are being abused. The question is what are going to do about it? This podcast will help those who voice was silent and not heard in the church and those who would like to make a difference. 

Self-Esteem is defined as “confidence in one’s own worth or ability; self-respect.” When you were growing up, did anyone tell you “good job,” “you can do it,” “I believe in you?” Words matter; you matter. Let's take a journey on how to take our words to build our self-esteem, worth, and confidence.

Gas lighting falls in the category of emotional abuse. It makes you doubt and lose trust in your truth or your reality. How do you know if someone is gas lighting you? Well, answer these questions; Do you doubt yourself or constantly doubt your decision making? Do you find yourself apologizing when around the abuser; yet don’t feel that way around anyone else? If you answer yes to any of these questions, you need to listen to this podcast to find healing and freedom.

Do you sometimes think am I crazy? Is something wrong with me? Why do I cry so much? Do you hold yourself hostage to those thoughts? Our guest is going to share how faith and hope helped her get through struggles of mental health and how healing is possible.

Do you sometimes think am I crazy? Is something wrong with me? Why do I cry so much? Do you hold yourself hostage to those thoughts? Well, you don't have to anymore. Listen to how you can be free of those thoughts and create new experiences.

Do you find it hard to forgive yourself, but easier to forgive others? Do you hold yourself hostage for thinking you stayed in an abusive relationship too long? Well, it's time to give yourself permission to forgive yourself and this episode will tell you how. 

When you hear the word broken, what do you think about? Do you think of useless? No good. Or something you want to throw it away? In this episode we celebrate our strength, resilience, courage, perseverance, and victories. We celebrate our wounds and how far we have come. It's to show how beauty was created out of what was supposed to be broken.