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10 years and counting

10 years and counting

By Tony Stephan
Talking with friends about different dating and relationship topics, going through the ups and downs of the dating scene and relationships.
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45. F*ck Them Kids/ ChildFree
Cory is back and we dive in to the reasons why we don't want kids and tackle the different stigmas that childfree people hear. 
April 9, 2021
44. Jealousy + Chaotic Audio
The audio is all over the place with this episode there are times Dave and I end up talking on top of each other either way we talk about jealousy and other random topics. You can also find his music within his Instagram account:
March 31, 2021
43. Stay single instead of settling/ Dating as a Marketplace
Andrea returns back to the podcast, we discuss how online dating feels like online shopping, we’re in no rush to settle. Also I was too lazy to put the questions together
September 4, 2020
42. Setting Boundaries
Adrianna is another Twitter friend/ fellow TV enthusiast to join the podcast and we talk about dating and relationship boundaries. Also search for her podcast: First Gen Views
June 25, 2020
41. Talking Depression
Cory- the first person to be on the podcast 3 times comes back on and we go on a deep dive talk about depression: how we deal with it, talk about it and much more
June 18, 2020
40. Complacency
I call Savvy and we talk about why she's been complacent in previous relationships, why I've been complacent of my singleness and why people stay complacent in their love lives. Also places to sign petitions and donate for black lives matter:
June 11, 2020
39. Red Flags 🚩
I call Brittany up, another friend that I met on Twitter. We speak about the difference between red flags and deal-breakers and we go through some red flags many of us don't notice until it's too late. 
May 15, 2020
38. How family affect our relationship perspectives
Dom joins the podcast, we talk about how our family and friends affect our dating and relationship perspectives. From a family of divorce and a family or successful marriage to friends who have relationship trouble and dating issues. 
May 7, 2020
37. When to settle
Everyone has things they want to know before settling into a relationship. Paola and I talk about our need to knows such as wanting kids, communication styles and how considerate someone is
May 1, 2020
36. Perfectionism
Called in Katelyn, another Twitter friend to make it on the podcast and we talk about the dangers of perfectionism in life, dating, and relationships.
April 23, 2020
35. The Single Friend
Liz returns to the podcast and we discuss the pros but more cons of being the single friend in a group of couples and even being the person with advice for both coupled and single friends. 
April 16, 2020
34. Rushing the healing of a break up
Skip returns on the podcast after RTing a tweet I sent out. We talk about the need of therapy, and discuss why people need to enjoy the singleness, get through the healing of a break up and always don't rush in to a relationship. You can find him on all social media platforms -> @skipfrombk
April 9, 2020
Season 3 is coming
Needed to publish something, new episodes are on its way
April 1, 2020
33. Logical + Emotional Daters
Lauren returns to the podcast to talk about how emotional thinkers approach dating, realizing I'm not the logical thinker I thought I was. Taking quizzes, invoking awesome quotes and more... The goal is to use both logic and emotion but we're human and that's never as easy as it sounds.
October 3, 2019
32. Codependent/Interdependent Relationships
Chris joins the podcast to talk about his experience with codependent partners,  my reaching 12 years of independence from relationships and we find the middle in interdependent relationships. We used answers from my IG Story question and the article below as our resource for this conversation:
September 3, 2019
31: Dating Chemistry🧪/ Compatibility 💯
Samantha joins me on the podcast to talk about how people approach dating and how their search for chemistry can be confused with compatibility. Also she has her own pod called Sext in the City which can be found on:
July 30, 2019
30: Self Sabotage
I think everyone has self sabotaged in a relationship or in my case in my singleness. Venus and I talk about the way we and our partners have used this defense mechanism. 
May 24, 2019
29. Dating/Relationships in Media: The Sequel
Now it's finally Round 2 of Ray's return.  After talking about movies we move over to TV Shows, more movies and books (and their adaptions) and more unrealistic expectations. We talk about love triangles and other typical tropes we find in media. 
April 18, 2019
28. Dating/Relationships in Media (Part 1) Movie Edition
Ray is back for Round 2.... 1.5. We're both movie nerds so the first half of this two parter focusing on us talking about the unrealistic expectations that are set by movies when it comes to sex, dating and relationships. 
April 5, 2019
27. Emotionally Unavailable
Spending time in therapy has made me a more self aware person. Men are known to be emotionally unavailable so I decided to call up Savvy and talk about the difficulties of dating someone who is the complete opposite of her empathetic emotionally available self. 
March 14, 2019
26. Open Relationships
Talking 🦄, Naj’s experience in an open marriage, my experience as a secondary and the complexity of being and talking about being in an open relationship.
February 28, 2019
25. We’re on a break...from dating
Skip and I talk about the pros of taking a break from dating and relationships. It's time figure yourself out, enjoy your own space, don't be scared of vulnerable and clear that baggage. His social media (Twitter+IG) handle is @skipfrombk
February 14, 2019
24. Friends of the Opposite Sex
As being one of the few male friends to my female friends it’s always interesting how they approach introducing me and how awkward it can be. I’ve been friends with Jessica for about 23 years and what better person to bring on the show. She even asked some compelling questions for when I do get in to a relationship.
December 20, 2018
23. Does dating need an end goal?
I wanted to speak about this question because I saw a tweet where someone said that if you've been in a relationship for 2 years and not planning to get married then what are you doing? I decided to ask Pam to come on the show because I officiated her wedding and figured what better person to ask about dating, relationships and even marriage. She also has this awesome podcast where she and her husband Scott (from the LDR episode) talk about fandoms:
December 4, 2018
22. 'Tis the Cuffing Season
Cory comes back on the pod, this time we are both sober. We talk about her getting back to using dating apps to find a cuffer and also that dreaded 2/14 during the breezy season.
November 20, 2018
21. Friends with Benefits
Is FWB a kind of relationship? Do you need to be friends beforehand? What are the 4 stages of FWB? Alex and I talk about setting rules early and answering other questions about being in a friends with benefits.
November 7, 2018
20. Why do people rush/jump into Relationships?
Dania and I start off year 2 going through Instagram stories and answering why is it that people rush in to relationships.
October 23, 2018
19. Dealbreakers
Traveled out to Chicago to drink wine with Cory and talk about dealbreakers such as wanting kids, not liking dogs and how can you not understand our humor. Changes of volume occur in: 10:44 18:14 21:04 49:40
September 14, 2018
18. Evolution of dating culture
I ventured out to Long Island to speak with Jeff about the evolution of dating culture. Venturing to how dating culture changed from when our parents dated to during our college days to the current dating app culture.
September 6, 2018
17. Defining short term/long term dating and relationships
Mercedes and I try to define what we consider short and long term dating/relationships. We also get to our experiences and the confusion of communicating one or the other.
August 29, 2018
16. Dating in the Social Media era
When do you follow someone you’re getting to know on social media? The complexity of being in a relationship when social media and the outside world plays a factor. Also Michelle asked me how I felt about sharing SM passwords.....😳
August 21, 2018
15. The importance of Communi(Kate)ing
Kate and I discuss the importance of communication when you’re getting to know someone and in relationships. How technology (texting and social media) plays a factor in the beginning. Also knowing that when you’re in a relationship you have to eventually talk about the difficult topics in order to grow as a couple. In order to contribute to the podcast Anchor included a Listener Support tab which can be found on
August 13, 2018
14. Cheating (Emotional vs Physical)
Richard and I discuss an Instagram Story poll I ran where I asked what kind of cheating is worse: emotional or physical. We also discuss our experiences and how values factor into how people see cheating.
June 18, 2018
13. Dating Life as a Single Parent
I use the call in feature in Anchor to talk with Cynthia about what dating life is like as a single parent. Theres going to be some minor audio snafus in the episode.
April 16, 2018
12. Setting Expectations
Brian and I talk about the range of setting expectations, also where and when to draw the line of your expectations when dating and getting in to a relationship.
March 26, 2018
11. Insecurities
Trying the call in feature on Anchor. Jordan and I talk about the vast spectrum of our own insecurities in the dating realm.
March 14, 2018
10. Opening up
Made it to double digits. Ray and I talk about how difficult it is to open up your feelings with a significant other.
March 7, 2018
9. LDR (Long Distance Relationships)
Scott and I talk about our experience with LDRs. You can find his podcast Fanboys in the hood here:
February 25, 2018
8. Avoiding the talk
Jasmin and I talk about avoiding talking about what people are looking for and not defining the relationship.
February 25, 2018
7. Dating As An Only Child
Jaz and I talk about being only children and how complicated we are.
February 25, 2018
6. Staying friends with an ex
Greg and I talk about the complexity of staying friends with an ex.
February 25, 2018
5. Mental health and dating
Andrea and I talk about when's the best time to bring up mental health while dating someone.
February 25, 2018
4. Playing hard to commit
Mike and I talk about the difficulties of settling after being single for 5 (Mike) and 10 (me) years.
February 25, 2018
3. Ghosting
Lauren and I talk about ghosting and how we feel when we do it and when it happens to us.
February 25, 2018
2. One Date Stand
Liz and I talk about first dates. The awkwardness of it and the odd questions we get asked.
February 25, 2018
1. Swiping Right
Chirag and I talk about online dating: swiping, messaging and meeting your date. Combined cut off short with full episode.
February 25, 2018
Intro to the podcast
Here's an intro to the podcast, why I'm doing it and what to expect
September 20, 2017