10 years and counting

10 years and counting

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By Tony Stephan
Talking with friends about different dating and relationship topics, going through the ups and downs of the dating scene and relationships.
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Episode 30: Self Sabotage
I think everyone has self sabotaged in a relationship or in my case in my singleness. Venus and I talk about the way we and our partners have used this defense mechanism. 
57:15
May 24, 2019
29. Dating/Relationships in Media: The Sequel
Now it's finally Round 2 of Ray's return.  After talking about movies we move over to TV Shows, more movies and books (and their adaptions) and more unrealistic expectations. We talk about love triangles and other typical tropes we find in media. 
52:40
April 18, 2019
28. Dating/Relationships in Media (Part 1) Movie Edition
Ray is back for Round 2.... 1.5. We're both movie nerds so the first half of this two parter focusing on us talking about the unrealistic expectations that are set by movies when it comes to sex, dating and relationships. 
50:07
April 5, 2019
27. Emotionally Unavailable
Spending time in therapy has made me a more self aware person. Men are known to be emotionally unavailable so I decided to call up Savvy and talk about the difficulties of dating someone who is the complete opposite of her empathetic emotionally available self. 
1:29:56
March 14, 2019
26. Open Relationships
Talking 🦄, Naj’s experience in an open relation...now marriage, my experience as a secondary and the complexity of being and talking about being in an open relationship.
59:44
February 28, 2019
25. We’re on a break...from dating
Skip and I talk about the pros of taking a break from dating and relationships. It's time figure yourself out, enjoy your own space, don't be scared of vulnerable and clear that baggage. His social media (Twitter+IG) handle is @skipfrombk
58:37
February 14, 2019
24. Friends of the Opposite Sex
As being one of the few male friends to my female friends it’s always interesting how they approach introducing me and how awkward it can be. I’ve been friends with Jessica for about 23 years and what better person to bring on the show. She even asked some compelling questions for when I do get in to a relationship.
1:10:52
December 20, 2018
23. Does dating need an end goal?
I wanted to speak about this question because I saw a tweet where someone said that if you've been in a relationship for 2 years and not planning to get married then what are you doing? I decided to ask Pam to come on the show because I officiated her wedding and figured what better person to ask about dating, relationships and even marriage. She also has this awesome podcast where she and her husband Scott (from the LDR episode) talk about fandoms: https://anchor.fm/theshed
1:02:43
December 4, 2018
22. 'Tis the Cuffing Season
Cory comes back on the pod, this time we are both sober. We talk about her getting back to using dating apps to find a cuffer and also that dreaded 2/14 during the breezy season.
45:15
November 20, 2018
21. Friends with Benefits
Is FWB a kind of relationship? Do you need to be friends beforehand? What are the 4 stages of FWB? Alex and I talk about setting rules early and answering other questions about being in a friends with benefits.
45:02
November 7, 2018
20. Why do people rush/jump into Relationships?
Dania and I start off year 2 going through Instagram stories and answering why is it that people rush in to relationships.
53:34
October 23, 2018
19. Dealbreakers
Traveled out to Chicago to drink wine with Cory and talk about dealbreakers such as wanting kids, not liking dogs and how can you not understand our humor. Changes of volume occur in: 10:44 18:14 21:04 49:40
1:19:00
September 14, 2018
18. Evolution of dating culture
I ventured out to Long Island to speak with Jeff about the evolution of dating culture. Venturing to how dating culture changed from when our parents dated to during our college days to the current dating app culture.
59:44
September 6, 2018
17. Defining short term/long term dating and relationships
Mercedes and I try to define what we consider short and long term dating/relationships. We also get to our experiences and the confusion of communicating one or the other.
1:01:32
August 29, 2018
16. Dating in the Social Media era
When do you follow someone you’re getting to know on social media? The complexity of being in a relationship when social media and the outside world plays a factor. Also Michelle asked me how I felt about sharing SM passwords.....😳
1:00:48
August 21, 2018
15. The importance of Communi(Kate)ing
Kate and I discuss the importance of communication when you’re getting to know someone and in relationships. How technology (texting and social media) plays a factor in the beginning. Also knowing that when you’re in a relationship you have to eventually talk about the difficult topics in order to grow as a couple. In order to contribute to the podcast Anchor included a Listener Support tab which can be found on Anchor.fm/sarcastony
55:58
August 13, 2018
14. Cheating (Emotional vs Physical)
Richard and I discuss an Instagram Story poll I ran where I asked what kind of cheating is worse: emotional or physical. We also discuss our experiences and how values factor into how people see cheating.
52:00
June 18, 2018
13. Dating Life as a Single Parent
I use the call in feature in Anchor to talk with Cynthia about what dating life is like as a single parent. Theres going to be some minor audio snafus in the episode.
58:40
April 16, 2018
12. Setting Expectations
Brian and I talk about the range of setting expectations, also where and when to draw the line of your expectations when dating and getting in to a relationship.
56:12
March 26, 2018
11. Insecurities
Trying the call in feature on Anchor. Jordan and I talk about the vast spectrum of our own insecurities in the dating realm.
56:17
March 14, 2018
10. Opening up
Made it to double digits. Ray and I talk about how difficult it is to open up your feelings with a significant other.
1:32:18
March 7, 2018
9. LDR (Long Distance Relationships)
Scott and I talk about our experience with LDRs. You can find his podcast Fanboys in the hood here: https://soundcloud.com/user-322099689
26:30
February 25, 2018
8. Avoiding the talk
Jasmin and I talk about avoiding talking about what people are looking for and not defining the relationship.
1:14:57
February 25, 2018
7. Dating An Only Child
Jaz and I talk about being only children and how complicated we are.
1:00:04
February 25, 2018
6. Staying friends with an ex
Greg and I talk about the complexity of staying friends with an ex.
32:22
February 25, 2018
5. Mental health and dating
Andrea and I talk about when's the best time to bring up mental health while dating someone.
47:26
February 25, 2018
4. Playing hard to commit
Mike and I talk about the difficulties of settling after being single for 5 (Mike) and 10 (me) years.
38:26
February 25, 2018
3. Ghosting
Lauren and I talk about ghosting and how we feel when we do it and when it happens to us.
1:09:42
February 25, 2018
2. One Date Stand
Liz and I talk about first dates. The awkwardness of it and the odd questions we get asked.
48:38
February 25, 2018
1. Swiping Right
Chirag and I talk about online dating: swiping, messaging and meeting your date. Combined cut off short with full episode.
55:49
February 25, 2018
Short: Avoiding the talk
The second Jasmin and I talk about avoiding talking about what people are looking for and not defining the relationship. Full episode: https://www.podomatic.com/podcasts/castony/episodes/2018-01-31T08_51_08-08_00
04:53
January 30, 2018
Short: Dating An Only Child
Jaz and I talk about being only children and the difficult of dating us. Full episode: https://www.podomatic.com/podcasts/castony/episodes/2018-01-29T07_35_28-08_00
04:58
January 26, 2018
Short: Staying friends with an ex
Greg coming in from Denver to talk about the complexity of staying friends with an ex. Full episode: https://www.podomatic.com/podcasts/castony/episodes/2018-01-06T13_19_42-08_00
04:53
January 6, 2018
Short: Playing hard to commit
Mike and I talk about the difficulties of settling after being single for 5 (Mike) and 10 (me) years. Full episode: https://www.podomatic.com/podcasts/castony/episodes/2017-12-05T11_09_48-08_00
04:59
November 21, 2017
Short: Ghosting 👻
Lauren and I talk about ghosting and how we feel when we do it and when it happens to us. Full episode: https://www.podomatic.com/podcasts/castony/episodes/2017-12-05T11_07_59-08_00
04:59
October 3, 2017
Short: One Date Stand
Liz and I talk about first dates. The awkwardness of it, questions being asked and an interesting stat I found. Full episode: https://www.podomatic.com/podcasts/castony/episodes/2017-12-05T11_06_01-08_00
04:46
September 27, 2017
Intro to the podcast
Here's an intro to the podcast, why I'm doing it and what to expect
04:59
September 20, 2017
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