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10 years and counting

10 years and counting

By Tony Stephan

Talking with friends about different dating and relationship topics, going through the ups and downs of the dating scene and relationships.
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4. Playing hard to commit

10 years and countingFeb 25, 2018

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52. Snip Snip (Vasectomy)

52. Snip Snip (Vasectomy)

Took in questions from Twitter and friends, I’ll answer questions about preparing for the snip, the surgery itself and some post surgery/miscellaneous ones as well
Nov 01, 202224:15
51. Meeting friends and family

51. Meeting friends and family

David joins the podcast as we shit talk and discuss meeting dates/significant others friends and family members
Mar 01, 202201:30:52
50. Dating in A New City

50. Dating in A New City

Sam joins the podcast and talks about her experience of dating in NYC as I prepare my transition to moving to the west coast.
Feb 08, 202201:22:46
49. Why Are People Jaded

49. Why Are People Jaded

Setoiyo joins the show and we talk about many things such as why people are jaded, why we aren’t that way anymore and just allowing things to happen if they do
Oct 29, 202101:12:02
48. Taking Accountability

48. Taking Accountability

Nitasha joins the pod and we talk about the complexities of taking accountability, how it starts from childhood, leads to our work environment and relationships. We mention the apology languages and how we as people have to be okay with making mistakes and learning from them
Oct 18, 202101:38:53
47. ADHD

47. ADHD

Amanda joins the pod and we talk about the complexities that come from having ADHD and how it affects all types of relationships.
Jun 03, 202101:15:47
46. Dating during COVID
May 25, 202101:02:28
45. F*ck Them Kids/ ChildFree

45. F*ck Them Kids/ ChildFree

Cory is back and we dive in to the reasons why we don't want kids and tackle the different stigmas that childfree people hear.
Apr 09, 202101:34:21
44. Jealousy + Chaotic Audio
Mar 31, 202101:18:40
43. Stay single instead of settling/ Dating as a Marketplace

43. Stay single instead of settling/ Dating as a Marketplace

Andrea returns back to the podcast, we discuss how online dating feels like online shopping, we’re in no rush to settle. Also I was too lazy to put the questions together
Sep 04, 202001:30:24
42. Setting Boundaries

42. Setting Boundaries

Adrianna is another Twitter friend/ fellow TV enthusiast to join the podcast and we talk about dating and relationship boundaries. Also search for her podcast: First Gen Views
Jun 25, 202001:08:20
41. Talking Depression

41. Talking Depression

Cory- the first person to be on the podcast 3 times comes back on and we go on a deep dive talk about depression: how we deal with it, talk about it and much more
Jun 18, 202001:39:28
40. Complacency
Jun 11, 202001:05:53
39. Red Flags 🚩

39. Red Flags 🚩

I call Brittany up, another friend that I met on Twitter. We speak about the difference between red flags and deal-breakers and we go through some red flags many of us don't notice until it's too late.
May 15, 202056:39
38. How family affect our relationship perspectives

38. How family affect our relationship perspectives

Dom joins the podcast, we talk about how our family and friends affect our dating and relationship perspectives. From a family of divorce and a family or successful marriage to friends who have relationship trouble and dating issues.
May 07, 202001:53:43
37. When to settle

37. When to settle

Everyone has things they want to know before settling into a relationship. Paola and I talk about our need to knows such as wanting kids, communication styles and how considerate someone is
May 01, 202001:48:48
36. Perfectionism

36. Perfectionism

Called in Katelyn, another Twitter friend to make it on the podcast and we talk about the dangers of perfectionism in life, dating, and relationships.
Apr 23, 202001:15:09
35. The Single Friend

35. The Single Friend

Liz returns to the podcast and we discuss the pros but more cons of being the single friend in a group of couples and even being the person with advice for both coupled and single friends.
Apr 16, 202001:47:49
34. Rushing the healing of a break up

34. Rushing the healing of a break up

Skip returns on the podcast after RTing a tweet I sent out. We talk about the need of therapy, and discuss why people need to enjoy the singleness, get through the healing of a break up and always don't rush in to a relationship. You can find him on all social media platforms -> @skipfrombk
Apr 09, 202001:13:42
Season 3 is coming

Season 3 is coming

Needed to publish something, new episodes are on its way
Apr 01, 202001:40
November 14, 2019

November 14, 2019

Nov 14, 201900:60
33. Logical + Emotional Daters

33. Logical + Emotional Daters

Lauren returns to the podcast to talk about how emotional thinkers approach dating, realizing I'm not the logical thinker I thought I was. Taking quizzes, invoking awesome quotes and more... The goal is to use both logic and emotion but we're human and that's never as easy as it sounds.
Oct 03, 201901:30:35
32. Codependent/Interdependent Relationships
Sep 03, 201901:56:37
31: Dating Chemistry🧪/ Compatibility 💯
Jul 30, 201947:08
30: Self Sabotage

30: Self Sabotage

I think everyone has self sabotaged in a relationship or in my case in my singleness. Venus and I talk about the way we and our partners have used this defense mechanism.
May 24, 201957:16
29. Dating/Relationships in Media: The Sequel

29. Dating/Relationships in Media: The Sequel

Now it's finally Round 2 of Ray's return. After talking about movies we move over to TV Shows, more movies and books (and their adaptions) and more unrealistic expectations. We talk about love triangles and other typical tropes we find in media.
Apr 18, 201952:41
28. Dating/Relationships in Media (Part 1) Movie Edition

28. Dating/Relationships in Media (Part 1) Movie Edition

Ray is back for Round 2.... 1.5. We're both movie nerds so the first half of this two parter focusing on us talking about the unrealistic expectations that are set by movies when it comes to sex, dating and relationships.
Apr 05, 201950:08
27. Emotionally Unavailable

27. Emotionally Unavailable

Spending time in therapy has made me a more self aware person. Men are known to be emotionally unavailable so I decided to call up Savvy and talk about the difficulties of dating someone who is the complete opposite of her empathetic emotionally available self.
Mar 14, 201901:29:57
26. Open Relationships

26. Open Relationships

Talking 🦄, Naj’s experience in an open relation...now marriage, my experience as a secondary and the complexity of being and talking about being in an open relationship.
Feb 28, 201959:45
25. We’re on a break...from dating

25. We’re on a break...from dating

Skip and I talk about the pros of taking a break from dating and relationships. It's time figure yourself out, enjoy your own space, don't be scared of vulnerable and clear that baggage.
His social media (Twitter+IG) handle is @skipfrombk
Feb 14, 201958:38
24. Friends of the Opposite Sex

24. Friends of the Opposite Sex

As being one of the few male friends to my female friends it’s always interesting how they approach introducing me and how awkward it can be. I’ve been friends with Jessica for about 23 years and what better person to bring on the show. She even asked some compelling questions for when I do get in to a relationship.
Dec 20, 201801:10:53
23. Does dating need an end goal?
Dec 04, 201801:02:44
22. 'Tis the Cuffing Season

22. 'Tis the Cuffing Season

Cory comes back on the pod, this time we are both sober. We talk about her getting back to using dating apps to find a cuffer and also that dreaded 2/14 during the breezy season.
Nov 20, 201845:16
21. Friends with Benefits

21. Friends with Benefits

Is FWB a kind of relationship? Do you need to be friends beforehand? What are the 4 stages of FWB? Alex and I talk about setting rules early and answering other questions about being in a friends with benefits.
Nov 07, 201845:03
20. Why do people rush/jump into Relationships?

20. Why do people rush/jump into Relationships?

Dania and I start off year 2 going through Instagram stories and answering why is it that people rush in to relationships.
Oct 23, 201853:35
19. Dealbreakers

19. Dealbreakers

Traveled out to Chicago to drink wine with Cory and talk about dealbreakers such as wanting kids, not liking dogs and how can you not understand our humor. Changes of volume occur in: 10:44 18:14 21:04 49:40
Sep 14, 201801:19:01
18. Evolution of dating culture

18. Evolution of dating culture

I ventured out to Long Island to speak with Jeff about the evolution of dating culture. Venturing to how dating culture changed from when our parents dated to during our college days to the current dating app culture.
Sep 06, 201859:45
17. Defining short term/long term dating and relationships

17. Defining short term/long term dating and relationships

Mercedes and I try to define what we consider short and long term dating/relationships. We also get to our experiences and the confusion of communicating one or the other.
Aug 29, 201801:01:33
16. Dating in the Social Media era

16. Dating in the Social Media era

When do you follow someone you’re getting to know on social media? The complexity of being in a relationship when social media and the outside world plays a factor. Also Michelle asked me how I felt about sharing SM passwords.....😳
Aug 21, 201801:00:48
15. The importance of Communi(Kate)ing
Aug 13, 201855:59
14. Cheating (Emotional vs Physical)

14. Cheating (Emotional vs Physical)

Richard and I discuss an Instagram Story poll I ran where I asked what kind of cheating is worse: emotional or physical. We also discuss our experiences and how values factor into how people see cheating.
Jun 18, 201852:01
13. Dating Life as a Single Parent

13. Dating Life as a Single Parent

I use the call in feature in Anchor to talk with Cynthia about what dating life is like as a single parent. Theres going to be some minor audio snafus in the episode.
Apr 16, 201858:41
12. Setting Expectations

12. Setting Expectations

Brian and I talk about the range of setting expectations, also where and when to draw the line of your expectations when dating and getting in to a relationship.
Mar 26, 201856:13
11. Insecurities

11. Insecurities

Trying the call in feature on Anchor. Jordan and I talk about the vast spectrum of our own insecurities in the dating realm.
Mar 14, 201856:17
10. Opening up

10. Opening up

Made it to double digits. Ray and I talk about how difficult it is to open up your feelings with a significant other.
Mar 07, 201801:32:19
9. LDR (Long Distance Relationships)
Feb 25, 201826:30
8. Avoiding the talk

8. Avoiding the talk

Jasmin and I talk about avoiding talking about what people are looking for and not defining the relationship.
Feb 25, 201801:14:58
7. Dating As An Only Child

7. Dating As An Only Child

Jaz and I talk about being only children and how complicated we are.
Feb 25, 201801:00:04
6. Staying friends with an ex

6. Staying friends with an ex

Greg and I talk about the complexity of staying friends with an ex.
Feb 25, 201832:22
5. Mental health and dating

5. Mental health and dating

Andrea and I talk about when's the best time to bring up mental health while dating someone.
Feb 25, 201847:27