Healthy ADHD

ADHD After Dark with Dr. Ari Tuckman

An episode of Healthy ADHD

By Liz Lewis
If you're trying to understand ADHD, what it is, what it isn't, or looking for strategies to help improve your life, you're in the right place. Each episode explores some aspect of ADHD. Whether you embrace it as a gift or mainly struggle with executive function challenges, you will learn through guests' personal stories, ah-ha moments, or tips and tricks to try yourself, there's always something to take away.
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Parents WITH ADHD
There are millions articles online about parenting ADHD children, but there are very few about Parents With ADHD. I've written about it. ADDitude Magazine has had some coverage of it. But there is not a lot of research available about how having ADHD as an adult impacts our ability to parent. As you can imagine, I got REALLY excited when I noticed Dr. Marcy Caldwell's session on the 2019 ADHD Conference website. Her session is entitled, Permission Slips, Lunches, Bedtimes and Beyond: Strategies for Surviving Parenthood with ADHD. You know me when I get excited! I fired off an email to Dr. Caldwell asking her to be on the podcast and spilling my guts about this website and my interest in parenting WITH ADHD. After we got our schedules aligned we talked. And the results are this amazing podcast episode. When we have kids our own issues become amplified. In this episode you will hear: Why life management is where we need to start Calming the chaos can actually be very emotional Why you can't just focus on practical strategies without working on the emotional side at the same time The struggle to juggle all the balls as a parent with ADHD Why distracted parenting is a big problem for us How being a parent with ADHD might be an advantage if your child also has ADHD The role of self-care in being the parent you want to be (and treating your ADHD) For more info or to contact Dr. Caldwell: Dr. Marcy Caldwell Rittenhouse Psychological Assessments
45:08
October 10, 2019
Meal Planning Made Simple
 Meal planning is only hard if you make it that way. There I said it. This is going to be a practical, straight-forward lesson on meal planning for busy women.  I am doing a pop-up at this year's ADHD Conference about meal planning. Because I'm good at it and well...I love it. This is the breakdown: Stock your kitchen - make sure all you/your family's favorite foods are on hand. (This makes your life easier when you don't have an actual plan)  Keep it simple - do not cook every day, do not try fancy recipes that require 25 ingredients Use the magic of the interwebs to find easy recipes, OR Start with a protein, then add side dishes Don't force yourself to meal prep, even though it's trendy Always shop with a grocery list (favorite foods + what you need to make a couple meals) Tools of the trade - crock pots, Instant pots (affiliate link) and toaster ovens Meal planning services are affordable and NOT a luxury Consider grocery pick-up or delivery because it will save your sanity Here is the link to the 2019 ADHD Conference - Come and hang out with me, Dani Donovan, and Jessica McCabe from How to ADHD. Here is the link to my inexpensive ebook collection - Including my Meal Planning ebook Link to the ADHD Enclave - to hang out with me and my girls
15:40
October 3, 2019
The Healthy ADHD Podcast
Same podcast, new name.
01:56
October 1, 2019
Limiting Beliefs
In this episode I talk about some of the limiting beliefs and fears that have impacted my life and my business. Then I delve into the top 6 limiting beliefs I hear from ADHD women. Including Everyone is judging me I cannot/will not be successful I'm not worthy or deserving I always experience rejection It's too late to make changes in my life I'm not strong enough to change/handle my life Just a heads up: These are all BS.  LINK TO MY PRIVATE COMMUNITY LINK TO THE ADHD CONFERENCE
14:17
September 19, 2019
Letting Go and Moving On
The audio version of the written post. Not a post about ADHD. Or at least, not directly. We with ADHD often see things in black and white ways, so letting go of people and beliefs can be quite difficult for us. If you’re anything like me, you don’t catch the lessons that are layered in the middle of the shit sandwich. A lost relationship, or personal failure, is very hard for us to come back from and we have trouble seeing how any of our current suffering might benefit us in the future.
13:20
September 12, 2019
ADHD After Dark with Dr. Ari Tuckman
I was going to call this episode something funny like "Lets talk about (ADHD) SEX."  Just to get people's attention.  But then I decided to behave like a professional and name it after Dr. Ari Tuckman's new book, ADHD After Dark. About a year ago I walked up to Dr. Tuckman after hearing him speak and sort of got all fan-girl on him. But he was really nice about it, and didn't even seem freaked out when I emailed him randomly and asked if he would talk about his book on my podcast. So we scheduled a time AND I enlisted the Hubs to talk about our sex life.  I'll be writing a more detailed post about ADHD relationships, sex, and Dr. Tuckman's book in the future.  For now, enjoy this funny but also VERY informative conversation.  In this episode, you will hear: The origins, and results of Dr. Tuckman's sex survey The ADHD effect on relationships and sexual satisfaction Gender differences in, "mixed" ADHD couples  The sexual eagerness cluster in men & women The importance of managing ADHD  All the ways ADHD squeezes out time for sex The parent-child dynamic My sex life (if you are curious) ADHD AFTER DARK - link to buy MORE ATTENTION, LESS DEFICIT - link to buy UNDERSTAND YOUR BRAIN, GET MORE DONE (EF WORKBOOK) - Link to buy
46:17
September 5, 2019
Liz Gets Some Career Coaching from Shell Mendelson
Do you LOVE what you do? I mean really, really love it. Like you wake up on Monday morning and you are so excited to start another week. Ooooh here's another question: How many careers have you had? We with ADHD tend to have a fraught relationship with work.  Our interests and passions are forever changing. Even work we love can become routine and boring. And with ADHD boredom = inaction. Shell Mendelson is an ADHD coach with a background in vocational counseling - and yes, she has ADHD!  Listen in as she talks about : Her own diagnosis in her 50s The super successful business she created that ultimately FAILED Her training in the, "Parachute Method" from Richard Bolles The role of childhood passions in finding adult fulfillment Self-accommodation at work The importance of environment/working conditions for ADHD folks The true purpose of an interview How we limit ourselves based on our perceived limitations And enjoy listening to Liz get some career coaching of her own. 
1:00:40
August 29, 2019
Samantha Cooper has an Unconventional Mindset (about ADHD)
Listen in as Samantha Cooper and I discuss her unconventional approach to coaching adults with ADHD. Samantha Cooper is a graduate of ADDCA and has a background in public health and epidemiology and takes an interest in recently diagnosed adults with ADHD and other comorbid conditions. Samantha is passionate about social justice and welcomes clients who have (or have had) unconventional, non-normative, and/or marginalized experiences and identities, including but not limited to: blended families (e.g. divorce, separation, adoption, multiple co-parents, chosen family, etc) family estrangement transgender, non-binary, and gender non-conforming LGBT, LGBTQIA, QUILTBAG — lesbian, gay bisexual, queer, asexual, pansexual, intersex polyamorous, polyamory, polyam, open relationships BDSM / kink unconventional occupations (e.g. activists, artists, performers, sex educators, sexuality coaches/surrogates) During this conversation you will hear Samantha explain the concepts such as intersectionality, boundaries, and verbal processing. Samantha will be presenting at the Annual International Conference on ADHD this November.
46:41
August 23, 2019
Parenting for College and Career Success
Parents can help or hurt the process of our children finding their life's work - it's as much about controlling our own expectations as it is about guiding theirs. In this podcast you will hear: - What is a gap year? - How parents can avoid negative messaging - Why college is NOT for everyone - Managing parental expectations - Common challenges in college - Choosing and changing majors - The importance of doing research - Utilizing on-campus resources - Anxiety as an underlying factor for the success of our kids Don't forget to pick up Lynn's free download just for See in ADHD Listeners! - lmrcoaching.com/seeinadhd
44:34
August 19, 2019
316 | Back to School Tips for ADHD Moms
My son is entering third grade, so I've had four years to figure out how NOT to handle back to school. I decided this year to attempt*** to be more intentional with my preparations.In this episode you will hear:- The importance of checking the school website (even if you don't want to.)- Shopping for back to school as a way to get kids excited- Shifting routines incrementally back in the direction of school-day schedulesBoth kids and parents need support in making this transition. And no matter how you play it - it is a transition. Back to school is not easy, but it can be simple. Link to the ADHD Enclave -https://the-adhd-enclave.mn.co/settings/landing-pageLink to the 2019 ADHD Conference - theadhdconference.orgClick to view: show page on Awesound
15:12
August 1, 2019
316 | Back to School Tips for ADHD Moms
My son is entering third grade, so I've had four years to figure out how NOT to handle back to school. I decided this year to attempt*** to be more intentional with my preparations.In this episode you will hear:- The importance of checking the school website (even if you don't want to.)- Shopping for back to school as a way to get kids excited- Shifting routines incrementally back in the direction of school-day schedulesBoth kids and parents need support in making this transition. And no matter how you play it - it is a transition. Back to school is not easy, but it can be simple. Link to the ADHD Enclave -https://the-adhd-enclave.mn.co/settings/landing-pageLink to the 2019 ADHD Conference - theadhdconference.orgClick to view: show page on Awesound
15:12
August 1, 2019
315 | Join Me at the 2019 ADHD Conference
This year's Annual International Conference on ADHD will be taking place November 7-9th in Philadelphia, PA.If you have ADHD, or love someone who does this event is the best source of information and inspiration you are going to find.Let me break it down:1. The conference is not just for doctors. All kinds of people attend - from parents, to adults, to school counselors. And regular people like me!2. There are sessions about everything under the sun. Everything. 3. The best experts and researchers will be there. And you can ask them questions.4. There are fun non-session activities as well, and time to meet other people. It's a very warm and relaxed environment. Here is the link to the registration website. - theadhdconference.org/homeClick to view: show page on Awesound
11:37
July 25, 2019
315 | Join Me at the 2019 ADHD Conference
This year's Annual International Conference on ADHD will be taking place November 7-9th in Philadelphia, PA.If you have ADHD, or love someone who does this event is the best source of information and inspiration you are going to find.Let me break it down:1. The conference is not just for doctors. All kinds of people attend - from parents, to adults, to school counselors. And regular people like me!2. There are sessions about everything under the sun. Everything. 3. The best experts and researchers will be there. And you can ask them questions.4. There are fun non-session activities as well, and time to meet other people. It's a very warm and relaxed environment. Here is the link to the registration website. - theadhdconference.org/homeClick to view: show page on Awesound
11:37
July 25, 2019
314 | ADHD, Gut Health, and Creating Simple Meal Plans
For ADHD moms, it's tough to balance healthy eating, planning ahead, and then listening to a houseful of picky eaters complain.If you've ever spent hours prepping and preparing a new recipe only to have your family complain, OR if you've attempted to lower your own stress by serving leftovers and listened to the whining, you know exactly what I mean.So I brought in a holistic health coach friend of mine, Anna Rubano, to talk about all of this as well as the role of gut health in managing ADHD. Feel free to listen if you don't wish to read.In this episode you will hear:- Anna's personal history with ADHD- How ADHD shows up in her life- What led her to become a holistic health coach- The underrated, but VERY important, impact of diet on your functioning with or without ADHD- Why we need to lose the guilt about pleasing everyone in our house- Keeping it simple when meal planning for both you and your familyIf you enjoyed this conversation, you will probably enjoy hanging out with me in my private community. Check us out! The Enclave has no ads, no trolls, and I'm not selling your info! - the-adhd-enclave.mn.co/plans/8951?bundle_token=bd114edd828dc9916fce597c66bb2fc8&utm_source=manualLearn more about Anna's coaching services here - intunewithannak.comStalk Anna on Instagram here - instagram.com/intunewithannak/Our Transformative Journey Book - amzn.to/2lkyxgWClick to view: show page on Awesound
54:31
July 16, 2019
314 | ADHD, Gut Health, and Creating Simple Meal Plans
For ADHD moms, it's tough to balance healthy eating, planning ahead, and then listening to a houseful of picky eaters complain.If you've ever spent hours prepping and preparing a new recipe only to have your family complain, OR if you've attempted to lower your own stress by serving leftovers and listened to the whining, you know exactly what I mean.So I brought in a holistic health coach friend of mine, Anna Rubano, to talk about all of this as well as the role of gut health in managing ADHD. Feel free to listen if you don't wish to read.In this episode you will hear:- Anna's personal history with ADHD- How ADHD shows up in her life- What led her to become a holistic health coach- The underrated, but VERY important, impact of diet on your functioning with or without ADHD- Why we need to lose the guilt about pleasing everyone in our house- Keeping it simple when meal planning for both you and your familyIf you enjoyed this conversation, you will probably enjoy hanging out with me in my private community. Check us out! The Enclave has no ads, no trolls, and I'm not selling your info! - the-adhd-enclave.mn.co/plans/8951?bundle_token=bd114edd828dc9916fce597c66bb2fc8&utm_source=manualLearn more about Anna's coaching services here - intunewithannak.comStalk Anna on Instagram here - instagram.com/intunewithannak/Our Transformative Journey Book - amzn.to/2lkyxgWClick to view: show page on Awesound
54:31
July 16, 2019
313 It s not just about ADHD, it s about your life
We have come a loooong way. But there is still a ton of confusion around ADHD and neurodiversity in women.We need more research into hormones, and gender roles, and all the things. And we will get there with the help of pioneers like Sari, Dr. Frank, and my friend Terry Matlen.In the meantime, many of us are left feeling alone and overwhelmed trying to put into words what the struggle feels like.This book and the important conversations that come from it are going to be the driving force for change.In this thoughtful conversation about life for ADHD women you will hear:-Dr. Frank's feelings about ADHD as a gift or a curse-The importance of acknowledging ADHD and other invisible conditions-The concept of realistic hope-The belief that we are not enough, or we are too much-My meltdown after giving birth-The role of gender in our expectations for ourselves-Realizing you are not a burden, and it's ok to take up space in the world-Misunderstandings about therapy and other support-Common relationship issues in, "mixed" couplesHere is an affiliate link to the book - amzn.to/2LnMbutLink to Dr. Frank and Sari Solden's website - soldenfrank.comSolden and Frank on Facebook - facebook.com/soldenfrankandassociates/?__tn__=%2Cd%2CP-R&eid=ARBE4qfpOzmKuaSunhz9J2SoATCwvIx1eMcDUE7hSNfecah61F-Bm312U1wH2QYxq9FeGi3fNGP6Vi3oDr. Frank on Instagram - instagram.com/adhd_doc/Click to view: show page on Awesound
1:01:18
July 2, 2019
313 It s not just about ADHD, it s about your life
We have come a loooong way. But there is still a ton of confusion around ADHD and neurodiversity in women.We need more research into hormones, and gender roles, and all the things. And we will get there with the help of pioneers like Sari, Dr. Frank, and my friend Terry Matlen.In the meantime, many of us are left feeling alone and overwhelmed trying to put into words what the struggle feels like.This book and the important conversations that come from it are going to be the driving force for change.In this thoughtful conversation about life for ADHD women you will hear:-Dr. Frank's feelings about ADHD as a gift or a curse-The importance of acknowledging ADHD and other invisible conditions-The concept of realistic hope-The belief that we are not enough, or we are too much-My meltdown after giving birth-The role of gender in our expectations for ourselves-Realizing you are not a burden, and it's ok to take up space in the world-Misunderstandings about therapy and other support-Common relationship issues in, "mixed" couplesHere is an affiliate link to the book - amzn.to/2LnMbutLink to Dr. Frank and Sari Solden's website - soldenfrank.comSolden and Frank on Facebook - facebook.com/soldenfrankandassociates/?__tn__=%2Cd%2CP-R&eid=ARBE4qfpOzmKuaSunhz9J2SoATCwvIx1eMcDUE7hSNfecah61F-Bm312U1wH2QYxq9FeGi3fNGP6Vi3oDr. Frank on Instagram - instagram.com/adhd_doc/Click to view: show page on Awesound
1:01:18
July 2, 2019
312 | ADHD Women and Productivity Shame
What is productivity shame? Well, I didn't come up with the name. In fact I stole it from Jocelyn K. Glei. I highly recommend her podcast called Hurry Slowly and her website.If you sat down and tracked how many hours of your day you spend checking email, scrolling, texting and otherwise avoiding your own thoughts - I guarantee you would be shocked.We fritter away so much time on useless activities.Sometimes we do it so we appear busy and in demand, while other times we are actually trying to escape our own thoughts or the problems in our lives.The same thing happens to stay-at-home-moms, EXCEPT we have much less tolerance for, "wasted time," when a woman works in the home.In this episode you will hear:- Productivity Shame- False productivity and business- The difference between speed and efficiency- Multitasking does NOT work- Less doing. More Being.- Energy management leads to productivityjkglei.comhealthyadhd.lpages.co/the-adhd-enclave/Click to view: show page on Awesound
14:28
June 27, 2019
312 | ADHD Women and Productivity Shame
What is productivity shame? Well, I didn't come up with the name. In fact I stole it from Jocelyn K. Glei. I highly recommend her podcast called Hurry Slowly and her website.If you sat down and tracked how many hours of your day you spend checking email, scrolling, texting and otherwise avoiding your own thoughts - I guarantee you would be shocked.We fritter away so much time on useless activities.Sometimes we do it so we appear busy and in demand, while other times we are actually trying to escape our own thoughts or the problems in our lives.The same thing happens to stay-at-home-moms, EXCEPT we have much less tolerance for, "wasted time," when a woman works in the home.In this episode you will hear:- Productivity Shame- False productivity and business- The difference between speed and efficiency- Multitasking does NOT work- Less doing. More Being.- Energy management leads to productivityjkglei.comhealthyadhd.lpages.co/the-adhd-enclave/Click to view: show page on Awesound
14:28
June 27, 2019
311 Surviving the Emotional Tornado of ADHD
For many people diagnosed as adults, the stages of the emotional tornado might feel similar to the stages of grief.Denial, Relief, Regret, Sorrow, Anger, Guilt. All the emotions show up.They say that ignorance is bliss. And sometimes, "knowing" doesn't make things easier, it makes things more complicated.Listen in as Rick Green and I discuss the emotional landscape of life after the adhd diagnosis.In this episode you will hear:-After you've struggled for so long, the profound to realization that you are NOT alone-The "death" of the old you, or who you were before the diagnosis-Challenges and barriers to diagnosis-The Evolution of Totally ADD-The big issue of how ADHD shows up in your life, and your sense of self-The stages of dealing with the diagnosis-Anger, depression, and feeling things sooooo deeply-Staying open to therapy and other support, even when you want to resist-Cognitive Behavioral Therapy - that you can apply yourself!-Living the ADHD (reactive) life - and learning the power of the PAUSE-Learning to externalize and manage self-talkTotally ADD on Patreon - patreon.com/TotallyADD/overviewTotally ADD Store - totallyaddshop.comLink to written post - wp.me/p60iCk-ViClick to view: show page on Awesound
49:29
June 18, 2019
311 Surviving the Emotional Tornado of ADHD
For many people diagnosed as adults, the stages of the emotional tornado might feel similar to the stages of grief.Denial, Relief, Regret, Sorrow, Anger, Guilt. All the emotions show up.They say that ignorance is bliss. And sometimes, "knowing" doesn't make things easier, it makes things more complicated.Listen in as Rick Green and I discuss the emotional landscape of life after the adhd diagnosis.In this episode you will hear:-After you've struggled for so long, the profound to realization that you are NOT alone-The "death" of the old you, or who you were before the diagnosis-Challenges and barriers to diagnosis-The Evolution of Totally ADD-The big issue of how ADHD shows up in your life, and your sense of self-The stages of dealing with the diagnosis-Anger, depression, and feeling things sooooo deeply-Staying open to therapy and other support, even when you want to resist-Cognitive Behavioral Therapy - that you can apply yourself!-Living the ADHD (reactive) life - and learning the power of the PAUSE-Learning to externalize and manage self-talkTotally ADD on Patreon - patreon.com/TotallyADD/overviewTotally ADD Store - totallyaddshop.comLink to written post - wp.me/p60iCk-ViClick to view: show page on Awesound
49:29
June 18, 2019
310 | ADHD Women and Mothers Need Support
ADHD women and mothers need support and connection. And we often don't get it.You've probably joined some of the Facebook groups. And you've probably experienced why that doesn't really "connect" us.ADHD in adult women is still widely unrecognized and misunderstood. Many of us are stumbling through life, not sure of how to handle our lives.What is the one thing we all have in common?We want to feel understood and accepted. And we want to feel less overwhelmed and burned out.That's my job. In the ADHD Enclave show you that a totally flawed, disorganized, flaky ADHD mom can build a life that she loves and a business that makes an impact.It's not easy, but it is possible.I set out to create a safe space where we could talk openly about all of the issues.Whether you have been recently diagnosed, or you have been living in hiding for years, I invite you in.Click to view: show page on Awesound
25:31
June 11, 2019
310 | ADHD Women and Mothers Need Support
ADHD women and mothers need support and connection. And we often don't get it.You've probably joined some of the Facebook groups. And you've probably experienced why that doesn't really "connect" us.ADHD in adult women is still widely unrecognized and misunderstood. Many of us are stumbling through life, not sure of how to handle our lives.What is the one thing we all have in common?We want to feel understood and accepted. And we want to feel less overwhelmed and burned out.That's my job. In the ADHD Enclave show you that a totally flawed, disorganized, flaky ADHD mom can build a life that she loves and a business that makes an impact.It's not easy, but it is possible.I set out to create a safe space where we could talk openly about all of the issues.Whether you have been recently diagnosed, or you have been living in hiding for years, I invite you in.Click to view: show page on Awesound
25:31
June 11, 2019
309 | Lets Get Real
Lets get real about all of it.Because I'm forty and I just don't care as much any more about appealing to everyone. What's that expression?If you try to serve everyone, then you end up serving no-one.In this episode you will hear me get real (With a little help from the Velveteen Rabbit) about ten realizations I've come to in my forty years on earth.-Nobody has a perfect childhood (your kids won't either)-Children are more perceptive than we like to believe-School is great, but an EDUCATION is what really matters-Look for mentors, you will need them-You need female friends-People suck sometimes-People are also amazing and profound and confusing-Practice tolerating discomfort-Learn how to ask for what you need-Keep it real. Always.healthyadhd.lpages.co/the-adhd-enclave/Click to view: show page on Awesound
25:31
June 4, 2019
309 | Lets Get Real
Lets get real about all of it.Because I'm forty and I just don't care as much any more about appealing to everyone. What's that expression?If you try to serve everyone, then you end up serving no-one.In this episode you will hear me get real (With a little help from the Velveteen Rabbit) about ten realizations I've come to in my forty years on earth.-Nobody has a perfect childhood (your kids won't either)-Children are more perceptive than we like to believe-School is great, but an EDUCATION is what really matters-Look for mentors, you will need them-You need female friends-People suck sometimes-People are also amazing and profound and confusing-Practice tolerating discomfort-Learn how to ask for what you need-Keep it real. Always.healthyadhd.lpages.co/the-adhd-enclave/Click to view: show page on Awesound
25:31
June 4, 2019
308 | 4 Ways for ADHD Women to Be More Self-Compassionate
ADHD and self-compassion are not often discussed together, but they can coexist. As you learn more about how your ADHD brain is wired and what works you will eventually (I promise) get to a place where you are ready to move forward, and practice self-compassion.The Negative Thought Vortex of ADHD, combined with the Executive Function difficulties inherent to the condition, make it difficult to manage emotions, plan ahead, and maintain meaningful relationships. You will certainly have days that feel like a struggle.But you will also have progress. And days where you feel like anything is possible.Read more...wp.me/p60iCk-K5adoseofhealthydistraction.com/self-talk-for-emotional-management/Link to Self-Compassion by Dr. Kristen Neff - amzn.to/2Wt2oosClick to view: show page on Awesound
22:51
May 28, 2019
308 | 4 Ways for ADHD Women to Be More Self-Compassionate
ADHD and self-compassion are not often discussed together, but they can coexist. As you learn more about how your ADHD brain is wired and what works you will eventually (I promise) get to a place where you are ready to move forward, and practice self-compassion.The Negative Thought Vortex of ADHD, combined with the Executive Function difficulties inherent to the condition, make it difficult to manage emotions, plan ahead, and maintain meaningful relationships. You will certainly have days that feel like a struggle.But you will also have progress. And days where you feel like anything is possible.Read more...wp.me/p60iCk-K5adoseofhealthydistraction.com/self-talk-for-emotional-management/Link to Self-Compassion by Dr. Kristen Neff - amzn.to/2Wt2oosClick to view: show page on Awesound
22:51
May 28, 2019
307 | Anxiety, ADHD, and Future Tripping
Anxiety and ADHD can show up in your life in some really sneaky ways. You might be walking around seeing the world through the filter of anxiety and not even realize how it affects your mood, your relationships, even your work.In honor of Mental Health Awareness Month, I decided to revisit and expand upon my written post on the subject.In this episode you'll hear:-Several examples of how ADHD and anxiety show up in my life-The connection between anxiety and hypersensitivity-Perfectionism-Negative ruminations-Avoidant behaviors that signal anxiety-Fear of negative feedbackI also explain my theory on, "future tripping" and why dwelling too much on the past OR the future can also increase our anxiety. RELEVANT LINKSadoseofhealthydistraction.com/cognitive-distortions-adhd/adoseofhealthydistraction.com/adhd-anxiety/Anxiety ToolKit Book - amzn.to/2DZdGq0The Healthy Mind Toolkit - amzn.to/2VrYdJONotes on a Nervous Planet - amzn.to/2HdxSq7Click to view: show page on Awesound
17:05
May 14, 2019
307 | Anxiety, ADHD, and Future Tripping
Anxiety and ADHD can show up in your life in some really sneaky ways. You might be walking around seeing the world through the filter of anxiety and not even realize how it affects your mood, your relationships, even your work.In honor of Mental Health Awareness Month, I decided to revisit and expand upon my written post on the subject.In this episode you'll hear:-Several examples of how ADHD and anxiety show up in my life-The connection between anxiety and hypersensitivity-Perfectionism-Negative ruminations-Avoidant behaviors that signal anxiety-Fear of negative feedbackI also explain my theory on, "future tripping" and why dwelling too much on the past OR the future can also increase our anxiety. RELEVANT LINKSadoseofhealthydistraction.com/cognitive-distortions-adhd/adoseofhealthydistraction.com/adhd-anxiety/Anxiety ToolKit Book - amzn.to/2DZdGq0The Healthy Mind Toolkit - amzn.to/2VrYdJONotes on a Nervous Planet - amzn.to/2HdxSq7Click to view: show page on Awesound
17:05
May 14, 2019
306 | The HealtyADHD Husband Speaks
We who have ADHD rarely talk about our partners without ADHD. When it comes to relationships and ADHD some patterns emerge.One common issue occurs when the partner without ADHD doesn't understand what the diagnosis means and cannot offer any level of feedback or support. Or they feel overwhelmed by the needs of the ADHD partner, and feel useless and unable to help.Alternatively, the non-ADHD partner does not want to understand or feels that any mental health diagnosis is shameful.Within my community, I've been told that many non-ADHD partners actually refuse to attend counseling or acknowledge the diagnosis at all. My husband is very partnership oriented, and has always been curious and willing to learn.So many people have asked me about the Hubs and how we keep our relationship strong. The truth is much simpler (read: not easier) than you might think.So I gathered questions from some of my community members, and some followers on social media. Then the Hubs sat down with me in my uber professional recording booth in the spare bedroom and answered them.Some of his answers surprised even me. And he has offered to come back again as needed to discuss "mixed" relationships in the future.In this episode you will hear:- How we met- How he he discovered I had ADHD-The most annoying parts of living with me- His thoughts on gender roles in modern marriage/relationships- Why seeking mental health treatment should not be shameful- Our collective feelings about couples counseling- Things he likes best about meIf you have any other questions for the Hubs submit them to healthyadhd@gmail.comClick to view: show page on Awesound
31:46
May 6, 2019
306 | The HealtyADHD Husband Speaks
We who have ADHD rarely talk about our partners without ADHD. When it comes to relationships and ADHD some patterns emerge.One common issue occurs when the partner without ADHD doesn't understand what the diagnosis means and cannot offer any level of feedback or support. Or they feel overwhelmed by the needs of the ADHD partner, and feel useless and unable to help.Alternatively, the non-ADHD partner does not want to understand or feels that any mental health diagnosis is shameful.Within my community, I've been told that many non-ADHD partners actually refuse to attend counseling or acknowledge the diagnosis at all. My husband is very partnership oriented, and has always been curious and willing to learn.So many people have asked me about the Hubs and how we keep our relationship strong. The truth is much simpler (read: not easier) than you might think.So I gathered questions from some of my community members, and some followers on social media. Then the Hubs sat down with me in my uber professional recording booth in the spare bedroom and answered them.Some of his answers surprised even me. And he has offered to come back again as needed to discuss "mixed" relationships in the future.In this episode you will hear:- How we met- How he he discovered I had ADHD-The most annoying parts of living with me- His thoughts on gender roles in modern marriage/relationships- Why seeking mental health treatment should not be shameful- Our collective feelings about couples counseling- Things he likes best about meIf you have any other questions for the Hubs submit them to healthyadhd@gmail.comClick to view: show page on Awesound
31:46
May 6, 2019
305 | Connection Heals: The link between ADHD, PTSD and emotional balance
Allison Arkfeld, MA AMFT, is a Somatic Psychotherapist working out of Long Beach, CA.In episode 305 Allison explains that the traditional model of ADHD, as a brain-based neurodevelopment disorder separate from any somatic symptoms is becoming outdated.We now know that several somatic diseases are linked to ADHD, and that the ADHD mind works in concert with the body.There is growing evidence that a multi-modal approach to treating ADHD that includes body work, meditation, medications, traditional therapy, and coaching - holds great benefit.In this thought-provoking episode you will learn about:-Empowerment within the body-Using body sensations to self-regulate-Multi-modal support for ADHD-Real-life applications for polyvagal theory-The difficulty in treating PTSD with an ADHD mind-The healing power of human connection-Defining trauma (it's not what you think!)-Corrective experiences that heal-How ADHD and PTSD affect social interactions/interpersonal relationshipsThis is episode will open yours eyes to the connection between your ADHD mind and your body.ptsd-adhd.comallison@ptsd-adhd.cominstagram.com/ptsd__adhd/Click to view: show page on Awesound
1:08:36
April 30, 2019
305 | Connection Heals: The link between ADHD, PTSD and emotional balance
Allison Arkfeld, MA AMFT, is a Somatic Psychotherapist working out of Long Beach, CA.In episode 305 Allison explains that the traditional model of ADHD, as a brain-based neurodevelopment disorder separate from any somatic symptoms is becoming outdated.We now know that several somatic diseases are linked to ADHD, and that the ADHD mind works in concert with the body.There is growing evidence that a multi-modal approach to treating ADHD that includes body work, meditation, medications, traditional therapy, and coaching - holds great benefit.In this thought-provoking episode you will learn about:-Empowerment within the body-Using body sensations to self-regulate-Multi-modal support for ADHD-Real-life applications for polyvagal theory-The difficulty in treating PTSD with an ADHD mind-The healing power of human connection-Defining trauma (it's not what you think!)-Corrective experiences that heal-How ADHD and PTSD affect social interactions/interpersonal relationshipsThis is episode will open yours eyes to the connection between your ADHD mind and your body.ptsd-adhd.comallison@ptsd-adhd.cominstagram.com/ptsd__adhd/Click to view: show page on Awesound
1:08:36
April 30, 2019
304 | Shame Is Not Your Story
Shame is a tricky thing, because it comes with experiences and is wrapped into other emotions. At the end of my conversation with Dania Chebib I asked her how we should end our recording. And she said, "Shame is not your story." It was perfect, so I made it the title of episode 304.Dania is a psychotherapist practicing out of Kelowna, British Columbia. Her areas of specialty include: ADHD/Autism in adults, negative self-talk/self-esteem, grief, trauma, anxiety, depression, LGBTQQI, sleep disorders, substance abuse, chronic pain, HSP's, and stage of life issues.Are you impressed, yet?Hear about:-Dania's ADHD story-Rewriting your own story and developing self-compassion-Knowing when to walk away from an unhealthy situation-ADHD discrimination-Creating your own sense of credibility in your work-Shame as an inhibitory emotion-Recognizing shame-Mental health stigma as a societal issue-The difference between shame and guiltDania teaches you how to go into your bodyduring minutes 37-47 so be sure to listen to this!FIND DANIA:helixintegrativehealth.ca/dania-chebibpsychologytoday.com/ca/therapists/dania-chebib-kelowna-bc/363340instagram.com/daniachebib/Click to view: show page on Awesound
1:11:40
April 23, 2019
304 | Shame Is Not Your Story
Shame is a tricky thing, because it comes with experiences and is wrapped into other emotions. At the end of my conversation with Dania Chebib I asked her how we should end our recording. And she said, "Shame is not your story." It was perfect, so I made it the title of episode 304.Dania is a psychotherapist practicing out of Kelowna, British Columbia. Her areas of specialty include: ADHD/Autism in adults, negative self-talk/self-esteem, grief, trauma, anxiety, depression, LGBTQQI, sleep disorders, substance abuse, chronic pain, HSP's, and stage of life issues.Are you impressed, yet?Hear about:-Dania's ADHD story-Rewriting your own story and developing self-compassion-Knowing when to walk away from an unhealthy situation-ADHD discrimination-Creating your own sense of credibility in your work-Shame as an inhibitory emotion-Recognizing shame-Mental health stigma as a societal issue-The difference between shame and guiltDania teaches you how to go into your bodyduring minutes 37-47 so be sure to listen to this!FIND DANIA:helixintegrativehealth.ca/dania-chebibpsychologytoday.com/ca/therapists/dania-chebib-kelowna-bc/363340instagram.com/daniachebib/Click to view: show page on Awesound
1:11:40
April 23, 2019
303 | ADHD men struggle, too
As a society, we need to start looking at mental health in our young men. It's one thing to diagnose a little boy with ADHD and give him some medication - but we need to provide more emotional support. And we need to make it socially acceptable for parents to seek help for their sons. So that when they grow into men, they know it's ok to ask for help.Marc Almodovar is willing to have these conversations. He believes in telling his own story, and empowering other men to share theirs, too.wellnesswithmarc.com/blankinstagram.com/wellnesswithmarc/Click to view: show page on Awesound
44:31
April 16, 2019
303 | ADHD men struggle, too
As a society, we need to start looking at mental health in our young men. It's one thing to diagnose a little boy with ADHD and give him some medication - but we need to provide more emotional support. And we need to make it socially acceptable for parents to seek help for their sons. So that when they grow into men, they know it's ok to ask for help.Marc Almodovar is willing to have these conversations. He believes in telling his own story, and empowering other men to share theirs, too.wellnesswithmarc.com/blankinstagram.com/wellnesswithmarc/Click to view: show page on Awesound
44:31
April 16, 2019
302 | David Darwin the One Man (ADHD) Sideshow
David Darwin is a stage performer, a father, and an adult living with ADHD.Highlights include:- the nature of persistence and intrinsic motivation- growing up with ADHD- parenting with ADHD- trying not to psychologically damage our children- juggling- entrepreneurshiponemansideshow.comdaviddarwin.comClick to view: show page on Awesound
1:00:20
April 9, 2019
302 | David Darwin the One Man (ADHD) Sideshow
David Darwin is a stage performer, a father, and an adult living with ADHD.Highlights include:- the nature of persistence and intrinsic motivation- growing up with ADHD- parenting with ADHD- trying not to psychologically damage our children- juggling- entrepreneurshiponemansideshow.comdaviddarwin.comClick to view: show page on Awesound
1:00:20
April 9, 2019
301 | 5 Tips To Go From Chaos to Calm (with ADHD)
As adults living with ADHD, we often find ourselves in crisis. Sometimes the crisis is real - while other times the crisis is more in our heads.Episode 301 gives 5 simple, (but not easy), tips for managing your life with ADHD.***Don't forget to leave comments and ratings on iTunes!***The ADHD Expert Database can be found here: adoseofhealthydistraction.comThis is the link to the private membership community: the-adhd-enclave.mn.coClick to view: show page on Awesound
20:08
April 2, 2019
301 | 5 Tips To Go From Chaos to Calm (with ADHD)
As adults living with ADHD, we often find ourselves in crisis. Sometimes the crisis is real - while other times the crisis is more in our heads.Episode 301 gives 5 simple, (but not easy), tips for managing your life with ADHD.***Don't forget to leave comments and ratings on iTunes!***The ADHD Expert Database can be found here: adoseofhealthydistraction.comThis is the link to the private membership community: the-adhd-enclave.mn.coClick to view: show page on Awesound
20:08
April 2, 2019
300 | Life Skills for ADHD
The ADHD Homestead is one of my go-to resources for information and perspective on being a woman living with ADHD. In this recording we discuss:- BS'ing our way through the educational system- The ADHD affect on marriage- Becoming a writer, author- Finding your, "Why"- Real-life organizing for ADHD- The power of the pause with ADHD- The idea that Failure is not a permanent state- Jaclyn's upcoming project management appSHOW NOTES:adhdhomestead.netDo The Thing App - mailchi.mp/dothething.app/mailinglistGetting Things Done - amzn.to/2uoCGl2Is It You, Me, or Adult ADD? - amzn.to/2ul3bIlOrder from Chaos - amzn.to/2U6SkQDClick to view: show page on Awesound
1:08:54
March 26, 2019
300 | Life Skills for ADHD
The ADHD Homestead is one of my go-to resources for information and perspective on being a woman living with ADHD. In this recording we discuss:- BS'ing our way through the educational system- The ADHD affect on marriage- Becoming a writer, author- Finding your, "Why"- Real-life organizing for ADHD- The power of the pause with ADHD- The idea that Failure is not a permanent state- Jaclyn's upcoming project management appSHOW NOTES:adhdhomestead.netDo The Thing App - mailchi.mp/dothething.app/mailinglistGetting Things Done - amzn.to/2uoCGl2Is It You, Me, or Adult ADD? - amzn.to/2ul3bIlOrder from Chaos - amzn.to/2U6SkQDClick to view: show page on Awesound
1:08:54
March 26, 2019
299 | STOP Using ADHD As An Excuse
In this episode of the See in ADHD Podcast I go more in-depth about why we need to stop making excuses about ADHD. And also, why we need to stop using ADHD as an excuse.Highlights include:-Refusing to acknowledge or treat ADHD does not free you from responsibility for your actions-Creating excuses for NOT treating ADHD is damaging to your sense of self (and your chances for success)-Untreated ADHD cannot be used as an excuse for bad behavior and making poor choices-The world is not going to change for us, we have to adapt in order to get ahead-An example of impulsive behavior and time blindness from my life-A call to action for us to show the world what empowered ADHD adults CAN doadoseofhealthydistraction.com/adhd-is-not-an-excuse/Click to view: show page on Awesound
20:16
March 19, 2019
299 | STOP Using ADHD As An Excuse
In this episode of the See in ADHD Podcast I go more in-depth about why we need to stop making excuses about ADHD. And also, why we need to stop using ADHD as an excuse.Highlights include:-Refusing to acknowledge or treat ADHD does not free you from responsibility for your actions-Creating excuses for NOT treating ADHD is damaging to your sense of self (and your chances for success)-Untreated ADHD cannot be used as an excuse for bad behavior and making poor choices-The world is not going to change for us, we have to adapt in order to get ahead-An example of impulsive behavior and time blindness from my life-A call to action for us to show the world what empowered ADHD adults CAN doadoseofhealthydistraction.com/adhd-is-not-an-excuse/Click to view: show page on Awesound
20:16
March 19, 2019
298 | Talking about Life with Laura, The ADHD Mama
Laura and I discuss EVERYTHING from finding the career that works for you, to reframing the way you think*** about yourself with ADHD. Enjoy this fun, candid episode with The ADHD Mama.Click to view: show page on Awesound
45:02
March 12, 2019
298 | Talking about Life with Laura, The ADHD Mama
Laura and I discuss EVERYTHING from finding the career that works for you, to reframing the way you think*** about yourself with ADHD. Enjoy this fun, candid episode with The ADHD Mama.Click to view: show page on Awesound
45:02
March 12, 2019
297 | 4 Huge Reasons Why Facebook Is The Worst Thing for ADHD
Facebook was designed to bring people together. Unfortunately, it has evolved into this massive, overstimulating vortex that does the opposite of it’s original intent.And it’s become a nightmare for anyone with self-regulation issues. Yes, we need information about ADHD. And Yes, we need social support. But you can get better information and support OFF of the 'Book.Articles Cited:time.com/5505441/mark-zuckerberg-mentor-facebook-downfall/asam.org/resources/definition-of-addictionadditudemag.com/facebook-addiction-and-adhd-how-to-break-the-habit/ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6025609/Click to view: show page on Awesound
21:55
March 5, 2019
297 | 4 Huge Reasons Why Facebook Is The Worst Thing for ADHD
Facebook was designed to bring people together. Unfortunately, it has evolved into this massive, overstimulating vortex that does the opposite of it’s original intent.And it’s become a nightmare for anyone with self-regulation issues. Yes, we need information about ADHD. And Yes, we need social support. But you can get better information and support OFF of the 'Book.Articles Cited:time.com/5505441/mark-zuckerberg-mentor-facebook-downfall/asam.org/resources/definition-of-addictionadditudemag.com/facebook-addiction-and-adhd-how-to-break-the-habit/ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6025609/Click to view: show page on Awesound
21:55
March 5, 2019
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