Seeing Other People
By Ilana Dunn
Seeing Other PeopleJan 06, 2022
Q&A: Exclusive Vs. Relationship, Bringing Up Moving In & Getting Engaged, Age Gaps and More
My best friend Sara Curwin and I sit down to answer your questions! We discuss what to do when he invites you to his party but his other hookup is there and they are flirting, how to handle bad manners on a first date, whether or not there's a difference between being exclusive and being in a relationship, how to have conversations about longterm plans with your significant other, age gaps, breaking the ice when you match with someone you kind of know, when to let go of someone who seemed promising but can't commit, and more.
What Makes a Marriage Last? With Rabbi Manis Friedman
In this episode, I’m joined by world-renowned author, counselor, lecturer, and philosopher Rabbi Manis Friedman to discuss why people get married, what makes a marriage last, what intimacy really means, and what it means to be a husband or a wife. He explains why we shouldn’t date if we have no intentions of getting married within the next five years and why we need to be selfish when we date.
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Unfiltered: The Craziest Dating Stories You Will Ever Hear
Get ready for the most jaw dropping, hilarious, and heartwarming Unfiltered episode yet! This week’s guest shares three wild dating scenarios she found herself in. No spoilers here!
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Early Signs a Relationship Won’t Work Out with Hilary Weinstein, LCSW
I’m joined by Hilary Weinstein, LCSW and Founder of HLW Therapy, a therapy practice that is currently accepting new clients. We discuss the importance of taking time to reflect on your dating experiences, the most common mistakes women are making in dating, getting back out there after going through a traumatic relationship experience, and how to have a “Who do I want to pick?” mindset instead of a “Pick me!” mindset. We answer listener questions about early signs a relationship won’t work, if relationships should be easy for a certain amount of time, and what to do when you feel demoralized about dating because of your past experiences.
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Unfiltered: Stop Comparing Yourself & Staying Present with Stella Stephanopolus
I’m joined by Stella Stephanopolous, host of the Everyday Endorphins podcast to discuss dating intentionally. We chat about focusing on how the person makes you feel, staying present on the date, why it doesn’t matter if someone has never been in a relationship before, how to stop comparing your timeline to those around you, forgiving yourself for not being where you want to be, how to end a bad date, and whether to reject someone at the end of the date or wait until the next day.
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Expectations Vs. Reality of Marriage with Maya and Hunter
I’m joined by Maya and Hunter, high school sweethearts turned married couple who are breaking the internet by breaking gender norms. We discuss how Hunter became a “Stay-At-Home Husband” and why their reversal of gender roles is so important for our society to see. Maya and Hunter share how they navigated their most transformative years as they grew and changed both individually and as a couple. We chat about what goes into a successful partnership, the realities of taking a break, how social media portrays unrealistic standards of relationships, and the magical moment that recently happened as they were celebrating their first wedding anniversary.
Follow Maya and Hunter on Instagram (@mayaandhunter) and TikTok (@maya.and.hunter)!
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Unfiltered: Questioning Chemistry and Learning from Mistakes
I’m joined by a 23-year-old man who shares his dating experiences over the past year. He opens up about putting too much pressure on himself to make potential relationships work out, misreading signs because of how much he wanted the connection to be there, and how overanalyzing and obsessing over someone fuels our anxiety.
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Get 25% off all Liquid IV products at liquidiv.com with code seeingotherpeople.
You’re Only as Needy as your Unmet Needs with Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick
I’m joined by Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick, PhD, LPC to discuss how our upbringing impacts our relationships. Elizabeth teaches us all about relational programming, how the way we grew up impacts who we choose as a partner, how we can move past our traumas to end up in healthy relationships, reprograming negative core beliefs, learning to differentiate what feels like a threat vs. what actually is a threat, understanding your triggers and more.
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Unfiltered: A Cross-Border LDR
I’m joined by a woman from Canada who shares the story of the LDR she was in during COVID while the America/Canada border was semi-closed. We discuss meeting someone who restores your hope in dating, the added pressure that comes with texting someone for a while before meeting, keeping communication strong when you aren’t seeing each other for a while, whether or not it means something when the cadence of texting changes, how the stakes are raised when you’re traveling for dates, and the stress of not knowing when you’ll see them again next, and more.
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Schedule a 1:1 with me at direct.me/ilanadunn
Support the show by buying me a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/ilana.dunn
Get 25% off all Liquid IV products at liquidiv.com with code seeingotherpeople.
Being Friends with Exes, Dating After Addiction and Learning from Heartbreak with Emily Ruhl
I’m joined by writer, producer, actress & model, Emily Ruhl. We discuss sharing your fears and anxieties with the people you’re dating, learning from each heartbreak, loving and hating someone at the same time, and how the length of a relationship does not equal the emotional impact of the relationship. Emily shares her experience dating after addiction, being friends with multiple exes, and how she prioritizes maintaining her independence when in relationships. Check out Emily’s short film Blue Moon here or at publicschoolpictures.com.
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Overcome your dating anxiety just like I did by taking Mindset Wellness CBD's Happy gummy before a date and Calm gummy after! Grab yours today at mindsetwellness.com and use code SeeingOtherPeople for 20% off and free shipping.
Schedule a 1:1 with me at direct.me/ilanadunn
Support the show by buying me a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/ilana.dunn
Unfiltered: When Religion is a Dealbreaker
I'm joined by a 23 year old woman in NYC who shares her experience dating within the Jewish community. We discuss being raised Jewish, deciding to pursue relationships with other Jews, and filtering within the community for what we're looking for. She shares date fails and hilarious dating stories, which apps worked and didn't work for her, why she opted to go on shorter first dates, and how she met her current partner.
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Is Timing Everything? With Justin & Slavo
I’m joined by Justina and Slavo from the LA-based indie pop duo, Fly By Midnight. They share how they’ve supported each other through different stages of their dating lives, how where they were in their career at different times impacted their ability and desire to pursue serious relationships, and how they’ve made it work with their partners through various stages of their lives and careers. We discuss how everyone has different communication needs, the importance of having difficult conversations, how their personal lives inspire their music, what music has impacted us, and more.
Check out their new music on Spotify!
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Unfiltered: Self Sabotaging & Post-Breakup Mistakes with Mackenzie
I’m joined by Mackenzie (24) who hosts the podcast Taste of Blonde. We discuss her breakup from a healthy long-term relationship, how she handled seeing him move on so quickly, getting back out there too soon, self-sabotaging new connections, how her disorganized attachment style plays into her dating life, how family matters can complicate relationships and breakups, and more.
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Helping My Ex Realize He’s Gay with Jordan Paul
On this episode, I'm joined by my ex Jordan who I dated for six months in the beginning of the pandemic until he ended things, seemingly out of the blue. After not speaking for two years, we recently reconnected when I saw his Instagram post announcing and celebrating that he came out. Jordan and I sit down to discuss his coming out journey, including years of experimenting, moving to a new city where he could fully explore his sexuality, and finally coming out to his friends and family after keeping it a secret for so long. We chat about our relationship and our breakup, how dating me helped him realize that he liked men, the differences in dating men and women on apps, and how it feels to finally be his most authentic self.
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Unfiltered: He Met My Dad, but Was Still Active on Bumble
On this Unfiltered, I’m joined by a woman who thought things were going well with the guy she was seeing until she when saw a Bumble notification pop up on his phone, after establishing they had both deleted the apps. She shares how she approached confronting him, what his explanation was, whether or not she believed him and could trust him, and unfolded from there.
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Romance Isn’t What We See on Instagram with Couples Confessional
I’m joined by the anonymous founder of @couplesconfessional, an online safe space for relationships, dating, and singles to share stories, ask questions and start related conversations with other followers – anonymously. We discuss what led her to start Couples Confessional, the benefits of getting advice from strangers, what people are struggling with the most in modern dating, and the most relatable and memorable confessions. We hear confessions about struggling to get over someone you never actually dated, feeling like you’re “too much,” and seeing someone who cuts off communication and then comes back, over and over.
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Unfiltered: What Men Think Women Get Wrong About Dating
In this episode, I'm joined by a male in his late twenties to discuss the differences in the dating advice that men and women get. We discuss mixed messages, playing games, shooting your shot, commitment, rejection, and everything in between. He shares what he wishes girls did differently in dating, what conversations girls should be less afraid to bring up, the importance of saying what you mean and meaning what you say, and more.
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Dos and Don’ts of Texting Someone You Want to Date with Erika Ettin
I’m joined by dating coach Erika Ettin aka @alittlenudge to break down everything you need to know about texting when it comes to dating. From messaging on the apps, to planning the date, following up after the date, and communicating between dates, we’re giving you the full Texting 101 college course in this episode. We answer listener questions about texting for a month before meeting up, determining whether or not someone is starting to slow fade you and what you should do, and how to handle when someone overshares and is a little too comfortable opening up before meeting IRL.
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Unfiltered: Starting Over After a Broken Engagement with Kyle Axman
I’m joined by fitness entrepreneur Kyle Axman who shares the story of getting back out there and finding love after breaking up with his partner of five years just a few months after getting engaged. We hear how they originally met, how their relationship progressed, what led to them calling it quits, and what it was like starting over. He shares how he got back out there and dated without using dating apps, how he determined what he was looking for, when and how he brought up his previous engagement, and how he and his now-girlfriend never would have matched on a dating app.
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The Art of the One Night Stand with John Franklin
On this hilarious episode, I’m joined by John Franklin, comedian, musician, and star of Netflix’s “The Circle.” We hear how his time on The Circle changed his life, his history of being a “relationship guy,” absurdly funny date stories, epic date fails, do’s and don’ts for one night stands, and more.
Check out John’s live shows on his website https://www.johnfranklincomedy.com/.
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Unfiltered: Everyone's Getting Engaged and Married (Except Me)
On this Unfiltered, I’m joined by Jenna, a 26-year-old living in Austin, Texas. Jenna opens up about being one of the only single people in her friend group, what it’s like being on different timelines than her friends, the pressure singles often face of getting unsolicited dating advice from everyone in their lives, trying not to be the bitter single person, letting go of people who weren’t meant to be, and more.
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From Feeling Hopeless to Finding Love with Carly Silverman
On this episode, I’m joined by Carly Silverman, TikTok star and Lox Club’s Senior Growth Manager. We hear how she went from feeling lost and heartbroken while living and working with her ex boyfriend to having her faith restored in modern dating through her role at Lox Club. We discuss how to make dating more fun, the bold first moves she made with her now-boyfriend, FaceTime dates, transparency around healing from an unhealthy relationship, what you don’t know about your partner until you move in together, being on the same page about your timeline, and more.
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Unfiltered: The Abortion Episode
The majority of this episode was originally recorded with an anonymous guest in February, 2021. After hearing the devastating news of SCOTUS overturning Roe v. Wade, she and I jumped back on the mic to share how we are feeling, how this impacts someone who has previously gotten an abortion, what we can do to help, and how it feels to be a woman in 2022. Then, we replay the original episode where she shares the story of her unplanned pregnancy her senior year of college. She shares the moment she found out, how her friends and family helped her through it, why she decided to not tell the guy she had slept with, the trauma she's dealt with as a result of the unplanned pregnancy, how you can support your friends who are going through something similar, and more.
Navigating Sex & Sexual Health in the Age of Hookup Culture with Alyssa Ljub
I'm joined by Alyssa Ljub, Sex & Relationship Coach and recent star on Netflix's 'The Circle.' Alyssa shares how and why she became a sex coach, tips for creating genuine connections over text, when and how to have conversations around condoms and STI testing before having sex, how to communicate about sexual needs, fears and previous traumas with a new partner, and more.
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Unfiltered: Overcoming the Pressure to Find "The One"
On this episode I'm joined by a 40 year old woman who shares the pressure she's felt over the last twenty years to find her person, get married, and settle down. We discuss how our society makes us feel like we're running out of time and have to meet someone by a certain age, what it's like to see your friends get into relationships and move forward with their partners while you're not, and how to accept that some relationships aren't right, no matter how much we sometimes wish they were. We hear how she's learned to get comfortable with the idea of being alone and appreciate the amazing life she's built for herself.
Embracing Singlehood with Helena and Laurina
I’m joined by Helena Rosen (Former SOP Guest “27 Years Single”) and Laurina Sachetti, hosts of Funny Girls podcast. Helena reflects on being in her first relationship at 28 years old, how she met someone shortly after accepting that being single, and how the conversation went when she told her now-boyfriend that she had never been in a relationship. We hear about Laurina’s bizarre dating experiences including learning her date had a kid from his phone background, and being taken to a funeral on a date. She shares how she wen from being the bitter single person to embracing her singlehood, and we hear about her experience being guarded after an unhealthy relationship and how she’s turned that experience around to help her filter out who isn’t right for her.
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Unfiltered: He Took Back the Relationship
I'm joined by a woman who tells us about her partner asking to remove the "boyfriend/girlfriend" label just weeks after he asked her to be his girlfriend. We hear how his request fueled her insecurities, left her feeling confused, led her to feel like she had to play games to win him back, and ultimately resulted in a painful breakup.
Schedule an Emotional Support Human session or a Dating App Profile Revamp with me at direct.me/ilanadunn.
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Stop Believing these Dating Myths with Jared & Jordana
I’m joined by Jared Freid and Jordana Abraham, hosts of Betches’ U Up? Podcast', or as I like to call them, the mom and dad of modern dating. We discuss whether or not there’s truth to the most common dating phrases we hear including “you’ll find someone when you stop looking,” “there’s someone out there for everyone,” “you have to love yourself before you can be loved by someone else,” and more. Later, we answer listener questions about vulnerability, overcoming nervousness and date anxiety, determining your dealbreakers (and sticking to them), if women wrongly read into situations like meeting the friends, and how to make sure you’re on the same page as the person you’re dating.
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Unfiltered: What I Learned from Working with a Matchmaker & Dating Coach
I’m joined by a 30-year-old man from Washington, D.C. who shares what his dating journey has been like since it began when around 27 years old. We hear about how being bullied in school ultimately led to anxiety and self-confidence issues that held him back from putting himself out there in the dating world. He shares what he learned from working with a dating coach and a matchmaker, the feedback he received from his dates that helped him improve, how he navigates not being able to use his phone during the day due to his government job, and how he’s developed a growth mindset and tries to be upfront and work on his issues head-on.
Schedule an Emotional Support Human session or a Dating App Profile Revamp with me at direct.me/ilanadunn.
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Finding Yourself and Prioritizing What Matters with Molly Fedick
I’m joined by Molly Fedick, my former Hinge colleague and the founder of Buzzkill Wines, an Alcohol-Removed Sauvignon Blanc. Molly shares sober dating tips and reads a hilariously relatable excerpt from her high school journal. Later, Molly opens up about how going to rehab helped her rediscover herself and reevaluate her values, how therapy helped her realize she had been going for the wrong types of people, why we’re way too quick to judge someone, how she approaches meeting people IRL instead of on dating apps, and how she’s setting herself up to live the life she wants and have children even if she doesn’t meet someone to do it with.
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Unfiltered: I Was Raised Mormon & My Ex-Husband Was a Sex Addict
On this Unfiltered, I'm joined by a woman who was raised Mormon. She shares how she lived by the rules, was extremely obedient and felt promised that if she did everything right and married a "good guy," she would be blessed. After 11 years of marriage, she learned that her husband had been unfaithful nearly their entire marriage and was a sex addict. Fast forward and she's exploring the dating world for the first time while reevaluating her faith, her values, and her beliefs about sex.
What Guys Think of Dating Rules with Sam and Parker
On this episode I’m joined by Sam Panitch and Parker Yablon, the men of Elevation Nation. We hear about what problems guys face in dating that women don’t realize, where they get their dating and relationship advice from, why more men should be in therapy, the key to building a healthy relationships from the start, what a perfect date looks like, and their thoughts on playing games and following dating rules. Later we answer listener questions about why he texts you after the first date but doesn’t ask you out again, catching your boyfriend in a lie about exclusivity, being friends first, and more.
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Unfiltered: When Life & Death Get in the Way
On this Unfiltered episode, I'm joined by a 28-year-old man from Scotland who is dating for the first time in 12 years due to the chronic illness diagnosis he received when he was a teenager, accompanied by a cancer diagnosis shortly after. We hear what his journey has been like and how it's impacted his relationships, friendships, and mental health. He shares his fears surrounding putting himself out there and we hear how his 31-year-old brother who recently passed away helped give him the push he needed to get back into the dating world.
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The Dating App Episode with Finding Mr. Height
Ali AKA Finding Mr. Height is back on the show for the most requested episode yet. We’re giving you a Dating Apps 101 course covering everything you need to know about dating apps. We discuss which dating apps you should be on, mistakes you’re probably making, do’s and don’ts for prompts, photos, conversation starters, how long you should chat for, getting from the app to the date, and everything in between.
Schedule an Emotional Support Human session or a Dating App Profile Revamp with me at direct.me/ilanadunn.
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Unfiltered: The Nuances of Dating After 30
I'm joined by a 33-year-old woman who shares her dating experiences. We discuss her dating app profile and conversation pain points, how she's maintained a healthy friend with benefits situation for over a year, why and how she investigated the pool of daters out there through a fake dating app profile, being the only single one in the friend group, balancing talking to multiple people at once, worst and best date stories.
My Anxieties, Can Guys & Girls Be Just Friends, Saying ILY, Maintaining Independence & More. Solo Ep
I kick off this solo episode by opening up about career growing pains, feeling sad about the dating world, and the pressure I put on myself to succeed. After concluding my vent session, I answer listener questions about when and how to say "I love you," whether or not I think guys and girls can be just friends, how to handle If someone treats you like a boyfriend or girlfriend but won't call you that, maintaining your independence when you start talking to someone new and being newly single when your friends are in relationships.
Schedule an Emotional Support Human session or a Dating App Profile Revamp with me at direct.me/ilanadunn.
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Unfiltered: Dating with Cancer
I'm joined by a man who shares his experience fighting cancer throughout his 20s. He discusses how it's impacted his dating life and his social life, how he navigated ending things with someone he started dating in remission as his cancer came back, how he feels about the possibility of putting himself out there to date again, when and how he would approach discussing his medical history with a potential partner, and more.
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Who Should Pay? The Money Conversations You Should be Having with Katie Gatti
I’m Joined by Katie Gatti, AKA Money with Katie, to discuss the most common money issues that singles and couples face. We discuss who should get the check and what it means if you split it, when and how you should talk about how much money you make, having a different financial situation than your friends, dealing with families and money when wedding planning, and how to navigate when your partner makes more than you.
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Unfiltered: The Classy Fckboy
I'm joined by a girl who shares her experience with a "Classy Fckboy," someone who knows how to win you over with their words, but is a professional at making empty promises. We hear about how each time she was ready to give up and move on, he reeled her back in by convincing her he was looking for something serious, too. She shares the red flags she identified in hindsight, why she gave him the benefit of the doubt, how she tried to communicate openly with him, and what her dating life looks like now.
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How to Stop Going for the Wrong People with Therapy Jeff
I'm joined by Jeff Guenther, LPC, to discuss how we can overcome our dating anxiety, make better decisions, and approach the early stages of dating in a healthier way. We discuss what to do when your anxiety is holding you back from dating, tips for staying calm when going on a first date, why we go for people who send us mixed messages and don't treat us well, how to choose better people, why you should take it slow in the beginning, and if attraction can build over time.
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Unfiltered: What I Learned From Going on 300 Dates in One Year
I’m joined by a man who shares the the ups and downs he experienced in his hyper-active pursuit of love, which ultimately led him to meet his fiance. We hear how he fit so many dates into his schedule, what he was looking for, how he balanced dating multiple women at the same time, what he learned from all of his dates, how he kept track of them, and how it felt to finally meet the person he was searching for. At the end of the episode, he shares his movie-worthy proposal story.
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Why Am I Still Single? With Mariah Grippo
Mariah Grippo, TikTok’s dating queen and founding member of Little Words Project, joins the show to talk about the struggles she and many other women face in their dating lives. We discuss how draining it feels to continue to form connections and relationships with people only to be told they’re “not ready,” questioning if there’s something wrong with us when it keeps not working out, staying with people for too long, making purpose out of the situations that break us, and finding a partner who unconditionally supports your passions.
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Unfiltered: Afraid to Fall For The Wrong Person (Again)
I’m joined by a listener who shares the story of the relationship and breakup that changed her and set her years back on the timeline she had imagined for herself. We discuss going from that high of being so in love with someone who loves you back to breaking up and feeling the lowest you’ve ever felt in your life, what it felt like to see her ex in a relationship with someone new shortly after their breakup and the fear and anxiety surrounding falling for the wrong person again that is holding her back in her dating life.
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It’s Okay to Feel Sad About Your Dating Life with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
In this episode, I’m joined by Whitney Goodman, LMFT, author of Toxic Positivity, and the brains behind the popular account @sitwithwhit. We discuss how our culture doesn’t allow for negativity and has become a competition for who can seem happiest and most positive, how toxic positivity invalidates people struggling with relationship problems, how we can better support our friends and loved ones who are unhappy with their timelines and their singlehood, the overuse of the term “gaslighting,” and how we can learn to accept our negative emotions.
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Unfiltered: I Thought He Was The One
I sit down with my friend Sammy who shares her highest highs and lowest lows throughout her dating journey. We hear about a six-year relationship that ended because he was having doubts, going through her “hoe phase” in her mid-twenties, how she’s managed to stay friends with most of her exes, finding out her most recent relationship ex was in a relationship with someone else weeks after they called it quits, and what she says when someone says they feel more of a friend vibe after a date.
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Breaking Dating Rules, Our Biggest Challenges, The Honeymoon Phase + More with My Boyfriend Jake
Jake and I answer listener questions about our relationship and reflect on how we got to where we are now as a couple. We discuss what Jake thinks of dating rules, the honeymoon phase and if we’re still in it, the biggest challenges we've faced together, how we knew we wanted to commit to each other, who said “I love you” first, if we ever run out of things to talk about, the surprising perks of dating someone who’s never been in a relationship before and more.
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Unfiltered: I Don't Want Kids
On this episode, I sit down with a woman who is navigating dating while knowing she doesn’t want kids. We hear when she decided this, why she stands by her decision, and how it impacts her dating life. We also discuss her personal preference for dating nonamericans and how their dating behavior appears drastically different from the Americans she’s dated.
How Do You Know If They're The One? with Kate Steinberg
On this episode I’m joined by Kate Steinberg, the internet’s early 2000s queen who met her fiancé Chad on HBO Max’s “12 Dates of Christmas.” Kate shares how she remained calm and confident while knowing Chad was going on dates with other women and the benefits of not sharing every detail of your dating life with friends. We discuss how you know if someone’s the one, the importance of being your truest self when dating, and how everything is not what it seems on reality TV.
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Unfiltered: Dating a Divorcee
On today's episode I talk to a woman who reached out to me after listening to the unfiltered episode called "Married at 25, Divorced at 26, Dating at 27". She wanted to share her story of being on the other side of that situation, dating someone who was married at 25 and divorced at 27. She shares how their relationship unfolded, what her initial reaction was to him sharing that he was divorced and how his previous marriage has impacted their current relationship. She gives advice for anyone dating a divorcee and for divorcees getting back in the dating world
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The Attachment Styles Episode with Rikki Cloos
On this episode, I’m joined by Rikki Cloos (@anxiousheartsguide) to discuss the basics of attachment theory. We learn how our attachment styles are shaped, if we can change attachment styles, how our style shows up in our dating lives and our relationships, how to navigate your partner’s attachment style, and more.
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