Holding yourself to a certain standard is one thing, accommodating your standards to meet someone else's is another. Make time for the people in your life who deserve it. It doesn't have to be everyone!
The word "um" is a filler. Usually fillers are used to communicate that you want to continue speaking, implying that you shouldn't be interrupted. But fillers do a lot of other things to your communication too...
Phone and technology usage is a problem because we are using it in place of authentic social interaction, rather than as a tool to create opportunities for authentic social interaction. Tip presented by "Back to Human" author Dan Schawbel.
Monday - Try Something New Just Because
Tuesday - Grateful for 2018
Wednesday - Success Requires Sleep with Arianna Huffington
Thursday - "2019. Just believe that good things are on their way."
Friday - Take Ownership
Monday - "I don't have time" vs. "it's not a priority"
Tuesday - How to Win with Gary Vee
Wednesday - Overcome Activation Energy
Thursday - Genuine Gratitude on Thanksgiving
Friday - How to Admit when we are Wrong
Trying out a new format but just as action packed - check out this full length interview with Bradley Tusk, and what he shares about his new book "The Fixer: Saving Startups from Death by Politics", as well as his personal maintenance techniques and general impressions.
Monday - Custom Alarm Clock
Tuesday - Instill Mentality with Howard Schultz
Wednesday - Optimal Tension
Thursday - "Not all storms come to disrupt your life, some come to clear your path."
Friday - Accepting and Welcoming Change with Lucia Giovannini
Monday - Have Self Control
Tuesday - Create Your Own reality with Gerard Adams
Wednesday - Daily News Source
Thursday - "A positive attitude gives you power over your circumstances."
Friday - Talk About Others First
What good is knowledge if you can't share it? Sharing value not only is a great way to make an impact, but it is a great personal branding technique, which is a growing requirement in professional settings.
I might be late to the party, but I just started using the Screen Time feature in my iPhone. Essentially, it gives me specific mobile usage data that I will use to better manage my time spend on my phone. Have you given it a try?
Thinking about starting a business? Well doesn't it make more sense to pick something that you know and are passionate about? Ryan Robinson, the founder of ryrob.com explains how we can use our own experience and efforts to make things happen!
Do you ever feel like you need to defend your position when trying to make a decision? Try sitting next to the person you are working with instead of across from them. This helps mitigate the confrontation in the situation, because concerns and criticism are no longer directed at the other person.
This tip comes as something I personally had to work on a lot. Although asking for something might disrupt the peace and create confrontation on some settings, it is important to be able to stick up for yourself and get what you want.
Monday - Spread Kindness with Drake
Tuesday - Quit Hiding your Body
Wednesday - Have Something to Chase
Thursday - "I am too busy loving the people who love me.”
Friday - Turn Nervousness Into Excitement
It is more motivating to follow in the path of something or someone than to long for it alone. This point is best illustrated in Matthew McConaughey's Oscar acceptance speech, and how chasing his hero helped get him to the top.
You'll notice this from now on - it is human nature to exhibit a defense mechanism that involves protecting vulnerable areas, essentially hiding your body from that. This communicates certain things to others that indicate a lack of comfortability and confidence, and if you can rework your posture, you will be perceived in a different way.
It takes very little effort to treat someone well. Inspired by Drake and the contributions he made while filming the music video "God's Plan", I encourage all of us to take part in our own Kindness Challenge.
As contributors to this world we all find ourselves on different teams. It is best that we work well within these teams, and each team relies on each individual to play their own role. Even Kobe Bryant knows that his role is just one piece in the team's overall dynamic.
I am going to give this productivity tip a try and I encourage you to do the same - dedicate 50 minutes to undistracted, laser-focused work, then take 10 minutes to tend to all of the things that came up all at once.
Monday - Don't Take Shortcuts
Tuesday - Change Your Password to a Positive Affirmation
Wednesday - Respect History
Thursday - "The best view comes after the hardest climb."
Friday - Don't Feel Bad for Yourself
Knowing and respecting history is a necessary component to appreciating your life. History provides perspective, and thinking about all of the people that sacrificed to give you the opportunities you have today, is a really humbling feeling. Pay respects to the things that got you where you are and gain some perspective.
Fill your days with opportunities for development that work for you. One simple thing you can do right now is change your password. By incorporating an important or concept in your password, you are forced to repeat that affirmation throughout the day, where it can sit actively in your subconscience for longer.
Go about getting things the right way. This means being deliberate in your work, and refusing to take shortcuts. You will reap benefits from this in 3 key ways - your mentality, quality, and efficiency.
Instead of making a To-Do list, make a To Be list. Figure out the person you want to be, and reverse engineer the steps you need to take to become that person. It is about doing those things today that bring you closer to who you want to be tomorrow.
Sharing another dose of positivity, this time referencing worrying. By choosing positivity, you can counteract the cascade of negative effects that come with worrying and stress, and set yourself up to overcome the challenges rather than fall to them.
Although it might not always feel like there is a tangible product of your efforts, have faith in the journey, know that everything adds up, and believe you will reap the benefits one day. THAT is playing the long game.
Jeff Bezos learned very early in his career and work with Amazon how we wanted to make big decisions. Calling it his "Regret Minimization Framework", he talks about how at the end of the day we are going to regret the things we didn't do, rather than the things we failed at.
In practice of Labor Day, I wanted to share a quick message about the real spirit of labor - Hard work. When working hard, it's not just the amount of hours you put in, but the quality of those hours as well.
Monday - Productivity in Writing
Tuesday - Fight for a Larger Cause: A Tribute to John McCain
Wednesday - Speech Tics
Thursday - "Create the life you can't wait to wake up to."
Friday - Build Morning Momentum
Oooh. Ahhh. Ummm. All of us have speech tics, but it is possible to remove them from your repertoire! Kim Kaupe suggests recording yourself to identify your speech tics and bring them into your awareness.
A lesson from the late John McCain - "Nothing in life is more liberating than fighting for a cause larger than yourself.” If you aren't in a position to dedicate your life to a larger cause, you can still aid in the fight by making decisions that contribute to the cause in a more simple way.
Reflecting on an article I wrote that was published by Addicted2Success Magazine, I realized the concepts had applications everyday. The 5 skills I learned while abroad - Build relationships from nothing, gain self-awareness, take ownership of poor results, independent problem solving, and trust your instincts.
Mel Robbins describes a simple 3 step process to overcoming procrastination-related behaviors. First is to forgive yourself, second is to look from the outside in, and third is to engage in a starting ritual that helps you take action.
In sales training, I was taught this communication technique to be more effective when clarifying a point. By placing the potential for misunderstanding on yourself, you give your client more opportunities to be honest about their decision making process. Listen to find out why!
Having trouble being organized with your creative process? Try creating a vision board. Get all of your ideas out in front of you so that you can create associations and focus your energy on the task at hand.
Don't hesitate and act! The longer we wait, the more we rationalize our urges and reject the idea of doing something new. This is because or brains are hardwired to avoid uncertainty. Move fast and beat it!
The Eisenhower Matrix is a decision making matrix built around two things - how urgent something is, and how important it is. If it is urgent and important, do it now. If it is urgent but not important, delegate it. If it is not urgent but important, schedule a time to do it. And if it is neither important nor urgent, eliminate it!
Priming is when factors in your environment create a disposition to think a certain way that usually occurs outside of conscious control. Use the power of priming to change your mentality to a point where that association is natural.
This one goes against the grain for a lot of people but it is important to hear. As great as accountability is when setting goals, telling everyone about your goals could be doing more harm than good. Listen to hear why!
This topic comes from a popular TedTalk. Doing something new, and out of our normal routine, wakes up our brain from autopilot and helps us process and appreciate the time that we are spending. Do something out of your way today!
Did you miss a tip?
Monday - Approach Avoidance Behavior with Erik Eklund
Tuesday - Curiosity Marketing with Chalene Johnson
Wednesday - Go First
Thursday - Don't Devalue Yourself with Jay Shetty
Friday - Park in the Back
Looking to incorporate a little more exercise into your day? Make the conscious decision to park in the back of a parking lot and walk to your destination. Small workouts throughout the day serve an important function in your metabolism and body's maintenance. Give it a try and not how you feel!
Life is very competitive, and sometimes it is impossible to compare yourself to those around you. Just know that anytime something happens, it is adding to you and what you offer, and never subtracting. Listen to this story from Jay Shetty to understand why that is true.
Ready for a small act of courage? Decide to go first, whether that is in a presentation or in a Q&A session. It takes a certain confidence to do it, and practicing that skill will turn it into a longer term mentality!
Our goal orientation works in one of two ways - we move toward our goals, or away from them. Avoidance is defensive to minimize risk, while approach is welcoming and optimistic. Framing your mind to approach your goals instead of avoid your goals will lead to something great!
Ever feel like life is falling apart? In those emotional moments, try this technique - writing down and revisiting your issue helps address the issue face on, while providing perspective that life will go on. Revisit the issue in a few days, weeks, or months, to bring the process full circle.
Real success comes from doing the little things right, and the 80/20 Rule states that practicing and focusing on the 20% that you really need to be successful with 80% of your time will lead to results!
Mindfulness has the capability to improve the quality of your life, increase focus, and decrease stress. However, we often aren't practicing it right. Phil Boissiere's 3x3 method is the most practical solution - pick an object, state it plainly, and take a deep breath. Do that 3 times.
Hindsight bias is a psychological phenomenon that misrepresents reality. We note time when particular things happen, and forget all of the times when it didn't happen, and have a distorted perception of reality. Eliminate hindsight bias by practicing objectivity and seeing things for how they actually are!
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Monday - Law of Attraction
Tuesday - Champion Boxing Impression
Wednesday - Tony Robbins' Morning Routine
Thursday - Will Power Workouts
Did you know that will power acts like a muscle? It fatigues with use and can be strengthened with training. There are two great ways to raise your will power threshold - "Warming Up" and "Conditioning".
Tony Robbins, debatably one of the most efficient and productive people on this planet, engages in the same morning routine every day. It's a 10 minute routine that primes him for success - 3 minutes of gratitude, a 3 minute prayer for family and friends, and listing his 3 goals for the day.
A corny tip but I love it - at the end of a workout, when you feel that endorphin rush and the satisfaction of completing your exercise, put your arms up like a champion boxer. This positive body posture will feed your momentum and energize you to stay productive.
If you want to make something happen, you need to unequivocally believe that it will happen. The law of attraction has been adopted by stars like Denzel Washington, Oprah, and Conor McGregor. Believe in something so much that you will it into existence.
The best things in life aren't earned all at once. Fabio's quote "I don't really know what I am doing but I know that what I am doing is leading somewhere good." Let small things compound and open doors, and believe that it will all work out.
What do you really prioritize? Formalize those things into core principles so that they can serve as a cornerstone for your decision making process, and ensure that your activity aligns with the person you want to be.
Katie Wallace shares 10 ways you can start living a more sustainable life, starting today. Learn the true definition of sustainability and the best ways to think about sustainability - people, planet, and profits.
Your actions are a better indicator of your intentions than your words are. That's why we say "Let actions speak louder than words." Put your intentions on display and let your actions speak through random acts of kindness or letting someone important in your life know you care.
A valuable piece of personal branding real-estate that we often overlook is our email signature. It is a place where we can direct people in our network to areas where our personal brand is on display. If you're not actively building your personal brand, then you can still use this space for affirmational or optimistic benefit!
Exercise is an important part of keeping your body in the right shape to perform. But did you know that frequency of exercise is just as important as intensity? This is true even within the same day! That's why incorporating exercising opportunities is so beneficial to your health. One choice you can make today - take the stairs.
Who else thinks that we are a little too addicted to our phones? It makes sense, it is a comfortable and reliable place. But too much of anything usually isn't a good thing, and this is no different. Try extra hard to resist the urge to check your phone the next time you are in a low-stimulus situation!
This is a great way to add a new habit to your repertoire. By using a previous habit, you can add a new habit simply by anchoring a new habit to that old habit. Use that first habit as a trigger to do the other.
The first step to getting comfortable being uncomfortable is exposure. But that doesn't need to happen all at once, you can introduce subtle changes to your routine that will help you improve in uncomfortable situations. Things you could try are setting your wake-up alarm for an odd time, or brush your teeth off-handed.
This tip applies for just about anyone who has ever felt like they were busy but didn't get anything done. Kim Kaupe suggests you split your to-do list into things that are important and and things that are urgent. Tackle a few in each category for a productive day.
Our brain and thought patterns largely influenced by the way we feel and perceive things. Therefore, treating ourselves in a way that sets us up for success is should be a priority, and we can do that by priming our brain to feel a certain way.
Embrace adversity because it is a blessing in disguise. Practical resilience is the concept of having the mental thought patterns to overcome challenges. This is explained more in Tofe Evan's book "Everyone Has a Plan Until Sh!t Hits the Fan".
Have you ever benefited from something somebody did out of the goodness in their heart? Sometimes they do this for a very simple reason - paying it forward. Doing something for someone else with no expectation for anything in return is a great way to be self-reflective and provide perspective in your life.
The friendliest form of competition is competition with yourself. It is the truest spirit of self-improvement, and motivates you to be better than you were yesterday. This tip features great video from Addicted2Success that demonstrates the power of self-competition.
We all can afford the time to take a phone call with someone in our network. Even if it comes from a place of mentorship, these conversations keep you sharp and you always learn something new. Give it a try!
Influence is a byproduct of the value you are using to serve an industry or individual. It comes about by doing things for the right reasons - with good intentions and the right motives. To test this, pick someone important in your life and ask yourself the question, "Are they proud of the reasons why I am doing this?"
Monk Gaur Gopal does provides some real perspective in this one. "Whether you're flying economy or you're flying business, the destination you are heading remains the same doesn't it."
"We work ourselves up so much in increasing the standard of living that we forget to increase the standard of our life".
To all my pack-rats, hoarders, and collectors, simplifying your situation brings great value to your life. It allows you to live more in the moment while decreasing stress, boosting concentration, and helping you sleep better. Remember those possessions digitally and clean up!
One way to stick to a commitment is to use interpersonal accountability. Three techniques to create this accountability are sharing your goals with someone else, having a Peak Performance Partner, or sharing your ambitions on social media.
Asking for help is strength! It's an expression of confidence and makes you more relatable as a human being. The only way to truly extrapolate the value around you is by leaning on their experience and asking for help.
This is a really good one from Mel Robbins about If-Then planning. Basically, when you have identified a negative thought pattern, you can plan ahead to substitute a behavior with something more beneficial. This technique is 60% effective!
Captivating speaker and public figure Simon Sinek shares what he believes is the most important part to a speech - the story. When doing this right, you can set the tone for the rest of the presentation.
Take advantage of your down time by learning a foreign language! Duolingo is an incredible resource that gives many people access to education. Inspired by Luis Von Ahn and the Duolingo team and their efforts to even the playing field!
In the face of adversity, be persistent. Young entrepreneur Alexandria Marrow talks about the importance of experience hardship and knowing that it is part of the growing process. "You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated." - Maya Angelou
In a business setting, a great display of respect is to stand up when someone enters the room. Although you might stand out when doing this, the act really does portray a lot and is great for first impressions and relationship building.
It is important to reflect on times you failed when identifying room for improvement. This tips proposes that you turn outward when rationalizing problems and ask the question "Why?" 3 times to get to the root cause. Then you're in a place where you can manage the problem appropriately.
This tip comes from Charlie Houpert and his YouTube channel "Charisma on Command". In the show he explains how Chris Pratt is a comedic genius, and how it all stems from the way he chooses to perceive situations. Simply, by placing a positive spin on everything, you can open the door to comedic brilliance and general charisma.
Learn how to deal with embarrassment or certain emotional situations by taking a deep breathe, smiling, and saying thank you. It increases the way others perceive your self-confidence and establishes rapport.
Tony Robbins is an incredible person because his behavior is built around incredible habits. Every morning he does the same routine that includes 3 minutes of gratitude, 3 minutes sending love to people, and writing 3 goals down for the day.
Performing "How Do I Feel" Checks allows you to get a good sense of your mental state and find any small problems before they grow into big problems. Find a solid trigger that will help you engage in the behavior multiple times a day!
Mirroring is when we replicate the behavior of someone else. This from an evolutionarily perspective has played a huge role in relationship building because it is an indicator of similarity. By being aware of the role mirroring plays in conversations, you will be better prepared to have better conversations!
As a content marketing and strategy expert, Kaya Ismail shares the importance of organization and planning within his industry. However, his core lesson revolves around the importance of having good organizational habits that translate in all areas of business and life!
It is simple - make your bed every morning. By doing so, you set yourself up for success by completing the first task of the day, and having it as reference when other things don't go right. This is an old Marine lesson shared first by Admiral William McRaven.
Innately we are already limited in how much information we can retain and recall. In a conversation, a lot of the information shared is not remembered by the recipient. Active listening, instead of listening with the intent to respond, increases recall and leads to better quality conversations.
Jake Jordan shares that we lose a ton of time everyday because of distractions, and suggests that we are smart with the way we do spend productive time. This comes in two forms - time blocking and scheduling every minute of your day.