Semi-Together

Semi-Together

By Gillian Burgess & Melia Dicker
Semi-Together is a podcast by sisters Gillian Burgess and Melia Dicker about having some of your life together all of the time. They’ll help you get it together as they get it together, taking steps toward their goals, celebrating little victories, and learning to take the advice that they’d give a friend.
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Ep. 29: 20 for 2020 Goals
Happy New Year! Melia and Gill are excited to reveal their 20 for 2020 lists of goals. Since 2018, they have been doing this alternative to New Year's resolutions, inspired by the Happier with Gretchen Rubin podcast. 20 for 2020 can be a mix of one-time tasks, big milestones, or ongoing goals, or a themed list. Melia and Gill share their goals and the reason behind each one, plus five tips to help you stay on track with your own goals. Find us on the web: https://www.semitogether.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/semitogether Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether Subscribe to our biweekly e-newsletter for episode roundups, tips to steal + extras: https://www.subscribepage.com/semitogether Become a patron of the podcast and access bonuses and extras: https://www.patreon.com/semitogether
59:29
January 8, 2020
Ep. 28: The 7 Principles of Kwanzaa, with Wendy Shenefelt
Melia and Gill interview Wendy Shenefelt, an educator and nonprofit programs director, about the seven principles of Kwanzaa and the practice of self-reflection. Kwanzaa is an annual celebration of family, community, and culture that takes place from December 26 - January 1. It’s an African-American and pan-African holiday, and people from all backgrounds are welcomed to join in the celebration. Wendy shares how Kwanzaa’s seven principles can inspire reflections on personal values and intentional living – during the holiday and throughout the year. Melia and Gill finish up the year -- and the decade! -- with the segment "I used to ... but now I," in which they each share three ways in which they've evolved between 2009 and 2019. Find us on the web: https://www.semitogether.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/semitogether Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether Subscribe to our biweekly e-newsletter for episode roundups, tips to steal + extras: https://www.subscribepage.com/semitogether Become a patron of the podcast and access bonuses and extras: https://www.patreon.com/semitogether
54:03
December 25, 2019
Ep. 27: Wrapping Up the Year & Revisiting Our Goals
The end of 2019 is a couple of weeks away, and next year we start a new decade! Melia and Gill look back on how they’ve done on their 19 for 2019 goals and what they’ll still be working on in 2020. Find us on the web: https://www.semitogether.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/semitogether Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether Subscribe to our biweekly e-newsletter for episode roundups, tips to steal + extras: https://www.subscribepage.com/semitogether Become a patron of the podcast and access bonuses and extras: https://www.patreon.com/semitogether
45:01
December 11, 2019
Ep. 26: Practicing Gratitude + More on Self-Compassion
In our last episode, we did a deep dive into why perfectionism is harmful and how we can manage it with self-compassion. But we knew we couldn’t cover the entire topic perfectly in one episode. So we have a follow-up segment on self-compassion before getting into our main topic, practicing gratitude – which is an evidence-based tool for healing perfectionism and boosting happiness. Gratitude helps us feel more positive emotions, improve our health, deal with setbacks, and strengthen relationships. Learn how small gratitude practices can make a big difference in your life. Find us on the web: https://www.semitogether.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/semitogether Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether Subscribe to our biweekly e-newsletter for episode roundups, tips to steal + extras: https://www.subscribepage.com/semitogether Become a patron of the podcast and access bonuses and extras: https://www.patreon.com/semitogether
31:20
November 27, 2019
Ep. 25: Perfectionism & Self-Compassion
In our culture, we often talk about perfectionism like it’s a positive character trait. The classic example is answering the dreaded job interview question, “What’s your biggest weakness?” with “I’m a perfectionist,” as a way to show how hardworking and attentive you are. But perfectionism is actually self-defeating and harmful – and its antidote is self-compassion. Melia and Gill share research on the dangers of perfectionism, their own experiences with it, and strategies to help manage it. Find us on the web: https://www.semitogether.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/semitogether Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether Subscribe to our biweekly e-newsletter for episode roundups, tips to steal + extras: https://www.subscribepage.com/semitogether Become a patron of the podcast and access bonuses and extras: https://www.patreon.com/semitogether
47:32
November 13, 2019
Ep. 24: The Shame File
Shame is something we all experience (except sociopaths!), but no one wants to talk about. Melia and Gill give a brief overview of Brené Brown's research on shame – including why it's harmful, how it affects women and men, and how to overcome it. They share how shame shows up in their own lives (hint: The Shame File is an actual document Melia keeps) and steps we can all take to identify our shame triggers and begin to free ourselves of them. Find us on the web: https://www.semitogether.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/semitogether Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether Subscribe to our biweekly e-newsletter for episode roundups, tips to steal + extras: https://www.subscribepage.com/semitogether Become a patron of the podcast and access bonuses and extras: https://www.patreon.com/semitogether
38:26
October 30, 2019
Ep. 23: How to Make Time for What Fuels You
Our busy schedules at work and home can deplete our energy, leaving us feeling scattered and worn out. When we don’t replenish the fuel in our tank, we find ourselves running on empty and heading toward burnout. We know it’s not always easy to make time for activities that make you feel happy, fulfilled, or energized. But just a few minutes a day, every day, will help renew your energy and sustain you during difficult times, allowing you to make your fullest contribution to your goals and to other people. In this episode – and a free downloadable workbook, linked below, Melia and Gill share tips for figuring out which activities fuel you and how to make space for them. Download the free workbook that accompanies this episode: http://www.subscribepage.com/fuel Find us on the web: https://www.semitogether.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/semitogether Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether Subscribe to our biweekly e-newsletter for episode roundups, tips to steal + extras: https://www.subscribepage.com/semitogether Become a patron of the podcast and access bonuses and extras: https://www.patreon.com/semitogether
33:12
October 16, 2019
Minisode: Change the Plan
When you work toward a goal, you can get so focused that you lose sight of why you're doing it or more effective ways of accomplishing it. In this minisode, Melia and Gill talk about how to Change the Plan (this is a meta topic because they changed their own plan for the podcast this week!). It helps to Practice the Pause, their tip from the previous minisode, and think, “What if we did this another way – or not at all?” Those three words, “What if we…” open up a whole new range of possibilities than what you might have considered. Find us on the web: https://www.semitogether.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/semitogether Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether Subscribe to our biweekly e-newsletter for episode roundups, tips to steal + extras: https://www.subscribepage.com/semitogether Become a patron of the podcast and access bonuses and extras: https://www.patreon.com/semitogether
11:05
October 2, 2019
Minisode: Practice the Pause
We often react to the things that happen automatically, with anxiety, stress, or anger. In this minisode, Melia and Gill talk about Practicing The Pause, putting a bit of space between what happens and how you react to it. Opening up that space helps you tap into your wiser self and choosing how you respond. Find us on the web: https://www.semitogether.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/semitogether Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether Subscribe to our biweekly e-newsletter for episode roundups, tips to steal + extras: https://www.subscribepage.com/semitogether Become a patron of the podcast and access bonuses and extras: https://www.patreon.com/semitogether
05:50
September 18, 2019
Minisode: Celebrate a Second New Year
The beginning of the school year feels like a fresh start – even if it’s been years since you were in school. In this minisode, Melia and Gill talk about why September is the perfect opportunity to celebrate a “second new year,” stepping back and reevaluating your priorities. What do you want to recommit to? What do you want to let go of? Find us on the web: https://www.semitogether.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/semitogether Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether Subscribe to our biweekly e-newsletter for episode roundups, tips to steal + extras: https://www.subscribepage.com/semitogether  Become a patron of the podcast and access bonuses and extras: https://www.patreon.com/semitogether
06:23
September 4, 2019
Minisode: Know When to Take a Break
Do you know when it’s time to take a break? In this minisode, Melia and Gill talk about why, how, and when to recharge – and the short season break they're taking for the next few weeks. 
07:14
August 21, 2019
Ep. 22: Why We Procrastinate & What To Do About It
We often think about procrastination as a time management or productivity problem – but it’s actually an emotional issue, a way to avoid feeling triggered by our task lists. Melia and Gill share some of the ways that procrastination creates roadblocks in their lives, as well as strategies to overcome it.
32:23
August 7, 2019
Ep. 21: Personality Types in Relationships & Life, with The Dudes
Melia and Gill spent a few days together in New Orleans and recorded this episode in person. They invited their husbands, Darren and Brian, back for their second guest appearance on the podcast, to talk about personality types in relationships and in life.  They discuss their own personality types, which can help you figure out your own and those of the people in your life. By knowing our strengths and challenges and what makes us tick, we can better manage conflict and thrive in our work and relationships.
44:38
July 24, 2019
Ep. 20: Self-Care Is Not Just For Women, with Chris Myers
In our culture, we often talk about self-care as if it’s only for women. But it’s just as important for men to prioritize their physical and mental health.  Melia and Gill interview their friend and listener Chris Myers, an architect and the father of two young kids, about a guy’s experience with self-care. Chris talks about managing anxiety, making time for habits like meditation, and raising kids (boys in particular) to have good emotional health. And he shares advice for building strong friendships, even when time i
51:07
July 10, 2019
Ep. 19: The Year So Far
We’re halfway through the year...what?! In January, Melia and Gill came up with a list of 19 for 2019 goals (inspired by the Happier with Gretchen Rubin podcast) – some small, some large, some one-offs, some ongoing – to accomplish by December. They talk about where they’re making progress and where they’re not, and share strategies for overcoming obstacles that you can apply to any goal you’re working on.
40:34
June 26, 2019
Ep. 18: How Our Language Shapes Our Reality
The language we use matters, especially when talking to and about ourselves. Melia and Gill explore the ways our words shape the way we think, feel, and act, and how to use them to empower ourselves. 
31:49
June 12, 2019
Ep. 17: Balancing the Past, Present, and Future
Do you tend to long for the past, wish for the future, or appreciate the present? Research shows that a healthy mix of all three tendencies – a balanced time perspective – fosters greater happiness, optimism, well-being, and life satisfaction. Melia and Gill share their own time perspective tendencies and offer five strategies for finding an optimal balance.
30:06
May 29, 2019
Ep. 16: Breaking Through Limiting Beliefs
The beliefs we have about our capabilities aren't actually facts, and they can often hold us back from change and new possibilities for ourselves. Melia and Gill discuss their own limiting beliefs and how to replace a fixed mindset with a growth mindset. 
33:59
May 15, 2019
Minisode: Regrets & Should-Haves Check-In
Melia and Gill check in on how they're dealing with regrets and should-haves. They share a listener question on the topic and a couple of reasons to be grateful for finding your path later in life.
08:35
May 10, 2019
Ep. 15: Choosing Optimism
Your genes and your environment are only part of what makes you an optimist or a pessimist. Scientific happiness research shows that you can adopt small daily practices to rewire your brain for a more positive worldview. Melia and Gill talk about their own tendencies and the "happiness hygiene" habits they're trying. 
29:00
May 1, 2019
Minisode: Stop Shoulding Check-In
Melia and Gill check in on how they're doing with erasing "should" from their vocabulary. They share some listener feedback on the subject and even more reasons to stop shoulding.
07:13
April 26, 2019
Ep. 14: How to Deal with Regrets & Should-Haves
We can spend a lot of time dwelling on regrets, those small and large “should-haves” that haunt us. But obsessing over mistakes and missteps can have a negative impact on our mood, sleep and behavior. Melia and Gill talk about their battles with should-haves and the 5-step process they’re using to make peace with them.
33:00
April 18, 2019
Ep. 13: Stop Shoulding
There’s a simple but life-changing action that you can take to be happier starting today: Eliminate the word “should” from your vocabulary. There is no “should” – it's totally made up! There's only could, want to, and will, and you get to decide which actions fuel the life you want. Melia and Gill discuss their own struggles with “should,” how liberating it is to stop saying it, and what to say instead.
32:15
April 3, 2019
Ep. 12: Triggers & How to Cope
We all have triggers that send us into negative moods or downward spirals. When we can identify and be on the lookout for them, we can figure out how to cope. Melia and Gill talk about their own triggers and share in-the-moment audio diaries that capture their raw emotions and strategies to tame them.
39:40
March 20, 2019
Ep. 11: Paid Work vs. Real Work
For some of us, our paid work doesn’t fully embody who we are. We may have creative projects, family commitments, side hustles, or jobs we dream of doing that we think of as our most important work at the moment. Melia and Gill explore the concept of what we consider real work vs. paid work and more inclusive alternatives to the question “What do you do?”
31:34
March 6, 2019
Ep. 10: Making Your Dreams Real with Kristen Ley
Melia and Gill interview entrepreneur Kristen Ley, founder of creative studio Thimblepress, which has a loyal following around the world. Kristen talks about letting her heart guide her toward her dream job and how she’s adjusted course to stay true to what makes her happy. She shares advice for making your own dreams real and believing that you will succeed.
40:07
February 21, 2019
Ep. 9: Change Your Environment to Change Your Habits
It’s surprising how much we can change our habits just by changing our surroundings. Trying to strengthen our willpower or alter our personalities usually sets us up for failure. Instead, you can make some simple, research-based tweaks to your environment to make desirable behaviors easier and undesirable behaviors harder.
23:35
February 6, 2019
Ep. 8: The Dudes
Melia and Gill bring their husbands, Darren and Brian, onto the podcast for a special episode, and they all tell the story of how they met. The guys, both entrepreneurs, share a best practice for creating your own business in a segment called Livin' the Dream, as well as a lifehack for Steal This Tip. The episode wraps up with a couples' edition of Get It Together / Got It Together.    
25:49
January 23, 2019
Ep. 7: Tighten Up & Lighten Up
Melia and Gill record in person for the first time! At the beginning of last year, both tried a new way to set New Year’s resolutions, creating “18 for 2018” lists of goals inspired by the Happier with Gretchen Rubin podcast. In this episode, they share their successes and flops from “18 for 2018” and highlights from “19 for 2019," with tips on how to stick with your own goals.
34:21
January 9, 2019
Ep. 6: Prioritizing What Matters, Part II
In the second part of a two-part series, Melia and Gill continue their conversation on the topic: Prioritizing What Matters. They talk more about the process they're using to align their actions with their top priorities and share tips on what’s working for them. 
20:44
January 2, 2019
Ep. 5: Prioritizing What Matters, Part I
In the first part of a two-part series, Melia and Gill discuss how to prioritize what matters to you. They introduce a three-step process to help you define your priorities and focus on what’s most important first. They talk about how they're doing with Step 1 and will dig deeper into Steps 2 and 3 in the next episode.
21:52
December 19, 2018
Ep. 4: Staying Sane During the Holidays
The holiday season felt magical when Melia and Gill were kids, but it's become more stressful as they've gotten older. With a special holiday edition of Steal This Tip, they share what's helping them focus on the meaningful and not the frenzied part of the holidays.
23:13
December 5, 2018
Ep. 3: Have I Evolved?
Melia and Gill ask the question: Have I evolved? When you look back on your past self, how have you changed? What challenges do you face year after year? What do you think you have more together now? They examine a theory of learning called the "spiral curriculum," then introduce a new segment called Like I Always Say.
19:57
November 21, 2018
Ep. 2: How to Stick with Resolutions & Goals
Melia and Gill talk about resolutions and goals and how they approach them in each of their lives. They share some of their recurring obstacles and strategies that have helped them stay on track. Then they discuss why the tip, "Visible is memorable," is helpful for reaching goals.
13:58
November 21, 2018
Ep. 1: False Starts & Fresh Starts
In the first episode of Semi-Together, Melia and Gill talk about how they are making a fresh start with the podcast after a false start years before. They introduce Get It Together/Got It Together, a segment sharing something in their lives that needs work, and something that’s going well. Then they discuss how to avoid the sunk cost fallacy: wasting more time and energy when something's just not going to work.
19:26
November 18, 2018
Semi-Together Trailer
Semi-Together is a podcast by sisters Gillian Burgess and Melia Dicker about having some of your life together all of the time. They’ll help you get it together as they get it together, taking steps toward their goals, celebrating little victories, and learning to take the advice that they’d give a friend.
01:30
November 18, 2018