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Sex Manswers

By Jacob Johnston

The Sex Manswers show ignores political correctness in providing unfiltered direct advice specifically for women looking to improve their sex & relationship with the man in their life. Advice from other women lacks knowledge of the inner workings of the male mind, men hold back on couples hosted Podcast and if asked directly face to face, men will play safe with politically correct answers. If you want the real unfiltered answers, this is the show to get it. If you listen, it's assumed you're a woman looking to take the first steps to improve your relationships.
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The Simplest Secret For Women Looking For Their Best Relationship Possible

Sex ManswersJan 18, 2020

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Ep 102) The Self Inflicted Dry Spells

Ep 102) The Self Inflicted Dry Spells

The time will come in your relationship where your sex life hits a dry spell. Sometimes this is caused by the normal hustle and demands of daily life, however, sometimes that dry spell is self-inflicted. The self-inflicted dry spell happened recently with my Wife as a result of getting addicted to a show on Netflix.

When this happens, you need to talk about it with your partner and agree on how you're going to overcome this and prevent this self-inflicted dry spell from happening again.

Aug 06, 202142:34
Ep 101) In-Laws Are Complicated & Questions Answered

Ep 101) In-Laws Are Complicated & Questions Answered

In the first half of this episode, I ramble on a bit about in-laws. These dynamics are complicated especially for men. The relationship with a father-in-law can be difficult and that's before you consider how men communicate and bond. If there is no common ground or interest, men will spend their time with in-laws in complete silence.

In the second half of the episode, I answer more relationship questions.

Jul 09, 202101:05:48
EP 100) Women, Grow A Fu*king Backbone

EP 100) Women, Grow A Fu*king Backbone

In this episode, I read and respond to women seeking answers to their relationship questions.

Question 1: Plan to get married next summer, boyfriend stops in the middle of sex to answer a daily phone call with his parents. Is it wrong for me to be upset?

Question 2: Found out my boyfriend posted on social media about a year ago that I was terrible at BJs, I only recently found out, since so much time has passed should I confront him or just let it go?

Question 3: My Husband has cheated on me for the third time, is it worth continuing to fight to stay together or leave the marriage?

Jul 02, 202151:06
Ep 99) Money Over Happiness: Men Like To Dominate

Ep 99) Money Over Happiness: Men Like To Dominate

If given the choice, most men will choose making a lot of money doing something they have than making just enough doing something they like. Usually, this mentality has to deal with financial insecurity much like workaholism. There are ways to deal with this.

Men have the need to dominate in their life. Feeling helpless or as if they are not in control is just not an option for most. Domination can be good or bad. Domination in one's career can lead to success, domination in the bedroom can be a healthy fetish if your partner loves to be dominated (submissive). Domination in the overall relationship can be toxic.

Jun 25, 202156:44
Ep 98) A Man's Special Birthday Request

Ep 98) A Man's Special Birthday Request

A man's birthday is a special day. For one, it's the one day of the year in which a man can take a day off of work and not have a to-do list of work needing to be done around the house. It's also a day in which he can just relax and do the things he enjoys or simply watch TV without having to pause the show dozens of times because of interruptions.

Another reason why a man's birthday is a special day is the special birthday request. A day in which he can request trying something new in the bedroom from his wife. The old sitcom joke was that a man's two favorite days of the year were his birthday and Christmas because those were the only two days he would get a blowjob. Maybe that's an over-exaggeration, but that may not be too far off. His birthday is a day he can request trying something new in the bedroom that his wife would not be willing to try any other day of the year. Some she will find out she likes, some not so much.

With the focus being only on his pleasure, it leaves his birthday as the only day of the year in which he has guilt-free permission to be selfish in bed holding nothing back, not having to be concerned about his wife's sexual pleasure that day. The lessons I have learned reflection back on my birthdays over the years has provided some revelations that I share in this episode.

Jun 18, 202154:60
Ep 97) You're Man Is NOT A Mind Reader

Ep 97) You're Man Is NOT A Mind Reader

Communicate what you're thinking. It's unreasonable for you to expect that your man should be able to telepathically read your mind.

Jun 04, 202136:34
Ep 96) Flirting Advice

Ep 96) Flirting Advice

Women, you have the natural advantage in a relationship, this is especially true when it comes to flirting. Confidence and motivation are more important than technique.

Feb 18, 202156:24
Ep 95) Taking Your Intimacy Outside

Ep 95) Taking Your Intimacy Outside

Having sex outside can be exciting. The thrill of possibly getting caught might be just what you need to feel the excitement you use to get about having sex when you first started getting laid.

Feb 15, 202126:37
Ep 94) Avoid Self-Inflicted Wounds In Your Relationship

Ep 94) Avoid Self-Inflicted Wounds In Your Relationship

You may not intend to do so, you may not realize you're doing it but if you're not careful you may be self-inflicting wounds into your relatioship.

Jan 28, 202142:26
Ep93) Women, Don't Be Lazy In Bed

Ep93) Women, Don't Be Lazy In Bed

Women, you can't be lazy in bed yourself and expect him to stay motivated enough to care about your orgasm.

Dec 19, 202028:31
Ep 92) On Your Knees Ladies

Ep 92) On Your Knees Ladies

If your partner loves to receive oral sex then oral sex is not optional. Oral sex is great both as a stand-alone act or as foreplay. As foreplay, it's a way to tease him up a little bit and desensitize him so he lasts longer during penetration so that you have enough time or have an orgasm. As a stand-alone act, oral sex is a way to relieve sexual tension if you don't have a lot of time in your busy schedule that day.

If you like to receive oral sex then you should be willing to perform oral sex on your spouse otherwise you're just being selfish in bed. I don't mean half-assing it either, when you go down on your partner you're to give it your best efforts. The more motivated you are, the better you perform oral sex on your partner the quicker they will get off and the less time you will be on your knees.

Dec 09, 202028:26
Ep 91) Is Your Perception of Sex and Marriage Backwards?

Ep 91) Is Your Perception of Sex and Marriage Backwards?

One trend that is toxic is that of women going on social media to bash and trash men. Complaining about their dating problems and then asserting that all the problems are because of men and couldn't possibly be them. This type of attitude in dating will bleed into your marriage if you manage to keep a man long enough to get to the alter. Being full of yourself is toxic.

Some of you women have your sex life backward. You're supposed to be hard to get when you're single and easy to get for your spouse.

Dec 04, 202044:08
Just a Quick Update

Just a Quick Update

I understand there hasn't been an episode in the past couple of weeks. NO the podcast is not ending.

I have been comparing software and plugins attempting to improve the audio quality of the show. Also, I have been completely distracted by what's going on in the election and what both sides are claiming. I don't know if there is or is not any truth to the election fraud claim, but it's more entertaining than anything Hollywood has put out in the past few years.

The show will be coming back with a new episode next week.

Nov 23, 202004:20
Ep 90) Intimacy After Sex

Ep 90) Intimacy After Sex

We spend a lot of time on the lead up to sex and what to do during sex but what about after sex? Intimacy after sex is just as important and it's what men have the hardest time with. What makes after sex intimacy difficult is time constraints when you consider the need for after sex cleanup.

Nov 05, 202001:02:44
Ep 89) Emotional Outrage Transference

Ep 89) Emotional Outrage Transference

Actors are great at being able to mimic the emotions of a character they are playing. We can unintentionally do the same in our personal life. Over-identifying with victims or victim groups can cause us to filter our news feeds for only information about victimized people causing us to believe a problem that is statistically rare is running rampant. 

What's worse is that when the victims are those we identify as having something in common with we start to feel angry as if we were the victims and start blaming those we identify with having something in common with the perps. If you're not careful you can end up destroying your relationship feeling victimized by something that never actually happened to you and taking it out on your spouse who didn't do anything wrong themself.

Oct 29, 202054:12
Ep 88) Zodiac Signs & Aphrodisiac

Ep 88) Zodiac Signs & Aphrodisiac

Does your zodiac sign have anything to do with your personality or sex life? Aphrodisiacs have been around for a long time but do natural aphrodisiac work or are they a myth?

Oct 23, 202048:23
Ep 87) Studies Show Most Unhappy With Their Sex Life
Oct 16, 202042:51
Ep 86) Recognizing What's Not Working

Ep 86) Recognizing What's Not Working

Sometimes your partner has a passion, a dream they want to accomplish. However, no matter how hard they work or how much effort they put into their passion it's not going anywhere. It's hard for them to see sometimes but you can't put yourself as an obstacle to their passion, instead, you have to help them realize for themself that what they are doing isn't working.

Love how some "experts" write about the secrets to successful relationships and then give common sense advice everyone already knows.

Oct 09, 202053:40
Ep 85) Does Your Man Still Have Balls?

Ep 85) Does Your Man Still Have Balls?

With the culture the way it has become, too many men have become neutered by society too afraid to speak up about anything. Women, be honest here, there is a gap between the men you find sexually attractive and want to spend your life with and the type of man many of you advocate for in society. In this episode, I use clips from the show Cobra kai to highlight some of my points.

The last segment of the show is for men and advice some of the best techniques for performing oral sex

Oct 02, 202001:03:26
Ep 84) Pre-Marital Counseling & Netflix's Cuties

Ep 84) Pre-Marital Counseling & Netflix's Cuties

What is pre-marital counseling mean & is it effective?

Fetishes are not always healthy

Does Netflix's "Cuties" cross a line and what does it say about society today.

Sep 18, 202050:53
Ep 83) Working Together To Home school Our Kids

Ep 83) Working Together To Home school Our Kids

We talk a lot on this show about sex but sex while fun is really a means to an end in our relationships. Bonding in the bedroom leads to bonding out of the bedroom high greater affection towards each other, increased communication, and working together. I discuss in this episode a major decision my wife and I made, the results we are seeing, and how we need to work together with high levels of communication to ensure success.

Sep 10, 202051:12
Ep 82) Are Fetishes Weird? & How To Introduce BDSM Into The Relationship.

Ep 82) Are Fetishes Weird? & How To Introduce BDSM Into The Relationship.

In this episode, I talk about fetishes and how some are embarrassed to bring up or admit their fetishes to their partner because of fear of judgment. How to bring up BDSM in your relationship and getting BDSM started in the bedroom. Don't take the initial surprise reaction the wrong way but if you're unsure how your partner feels about BDSM bring it up slowly and don't just surprise them in the middle of sex.

One sign that politics is going too far in invading every aspect of our lives (Funny).

Aug 27, 202057:22
Ep 81) Remove The Ceilings From Your Relationship

Ep 81) Remove The Ceilings From Your Relationship

Why do you put limits on your relationship? If you're going to spend your life together you need to remove boundaries and actually live your life together. In or out of the bedroom, having limitations is saying that you're not really married, your just economic partners with benefits.

The limitations you place may be a result of your own insecurities and lack of confidence. That's true out of the bedroom as well. lack of confidence is unsexy and off-putting. Raise your confidence and remove your limitation, once you do you can remove the limitations in your marriage.

Answering listener questions.

Aug 21, 202001:11:35
No episode this week due to power outage caused by big storm

No episode this week due to power outage caused by big storm

On Mondays storm passed through my city with Winds of up to a hundred miles an hour. Been without power ever since, hopefully she'll will be back up next week
Aug 14, 202001:58
Ep 80) Creating A Marriage With Intentional & Purpose

Ep 80) Creating A Marriage With Intentional & Purpose

Everyone wants to know the secrets to success and often disappointed by the answer. Why? They think the "secrets" are easy and effortless. In reality, it takes effort and planning. Here I discuss one tool that can help you build a happy and fulfilling marriage.

The I talk about the 7 habits of happy couples and the 12 mistakes your may be making in your sex life.

Aug 06, 202001:12:02
Ep 79) Wife Shows Excitement In Bed After Getting Financial Tightwad To Open The Wallet
Jul 09, 202059:22
Ep 78) Question You Shouldn't Ask Your Partner & NY Recommends Glory Holes For Safe Sex

Ep 78) Question You Shouldn't Ask Your Partner & NY Recommends Glory Holes For Safe Sex

Searching the internet you can find all types of advice on sex and relationships, some of that advice is so horrible though you wonder if the person is trying to set you up for a fight or they have some far out there sexual fetishes.

We have seen a lot a crazy & funny things happen as a result of the CoronaVirus, but hearing NY Department of heath recommending Glory Holes and group video masturbation has be be around the top of the funniest moments of 2020.

Jun 13, 202044:39
Ep 76) Cockblocked By My 3 Year Old

Ep 76) Cockblocked By My 3 Year Old

Some times no matter what you do or how well you plan, your kids can and will interfere with your sex life.

Men you need to be nice and grateful, get her some knee pads.

Is there a way to give him that virgin first time feel? Yes and here is why guys will love it.

May 08, 202039:38
Ep 75) Porno Consumption Skyrockets & Sound-Wave Orgasms.

Ep 75) Porno Consumption Skyrockets & Sound-Wave Orgasms.

After catching up on some movies I am starting to get curious if certain things work or not. I was watching Private Parts, a movie about Howard Stern. I am curious if sound-waves really could trigger an orgasm.

With everyone at home all day, the one industry that is skyrocketing is the porno industry. With that said, the one things I don't understand with porno is animated porn. How that hell can anyone find watching cartoon characters like Marge Simpson doing porn appealing.

If I could do a study on anything it would be to find out how many woman are naturally bi-sexual. Even straight women check each other out starting at another woman's butt or breasts. Unfortunately I don't think there is anyone to find out for sure if woman are naturally bi-sexual or not.

Apr 23, 202057:57
Ep 74) Home-Made BDSM Toys & Top Marriage/Sex Questions Answered

Ep 74) Home-Made BDSM Toys & Top Marriage/Sex Questions Answered

With all the stay-at-home orders you may be having more sex if for no other reason then for entertainment to pass by the time. With that you may be getting board with your current toys and with non-essential businesses shut down getting more toys to add to your collection may not be an option. There are items around the house that you can use to substitute for BDSM toys. I have scanned through the internet to look at what the top dating, marriage, & sex questions people have. I ignore what the so-called experts would advise and give you my unfiltered advice to give you the answers and solve your problems.
Apr 17, 202001:03:42
Ep 73) Listener Questions | What To Do, I Feel Like His Mother Instead of His Lover

Ep 73) Listener Questions | What To Do, I Feel Like His Mother Instead of His Lover

On this episode, I address a listener question. They have been living together for about a year and not yet married. She is doing the laundry, the cooking, packing snakes for him to take to work and so much more while she is a full-time student.

Women, Should you still trust buying a vibrator made in China?

Should you and your spouse consider making videos for PornHub as a means of earning money during the economic shutdown.

Disaster story from people working at home. Hint, you should pay more attention to if the camera is on and where it's pointed.

Apr 02, 202050:06
Ep 72) NY Offers Safe Sex Advice, Over Analyzing Lesbian Use of Sex Toys, & Random Thoughts

Ep 72) NY Offers Safe Sex Advice, Over Analyzing Lesbian Use of Sex Toys, & Random Thoughts

This episode is less structured than previous episodes as we are all dealing with Covid-19 and the ramification financially and in our relationships. On this episode I go through NY safe sex advice (which to normal people is mostly reckless), I over analyze the concept of lesbians using strap on to simulate straight sex, Talk a little about home schooling, personal finances, and preparing for emergencies in the future.

Mar 27, 202046:40
Ep 71) The Lock Down From The #CoronaVirus Give You An Opportunity In Your Marriage

Ep 71) The Lock Down From The #CoronaVirus Give You An Opportunity In Your Marriage

With being stuck inside with limited travel for the next two to three weeks for much of the population, this will give you time to work on your communication, sex life, goal planning, and even starting a home based business. However this also mean that there is a chance to fix sexual dysfunction in your relationship.

Also I give my recommended activities list to keep yourself entertained and to fight cabin fever for a recommended movie list and games.

Mar 19, 202030:25
Ep 70) Sex Robots? WTF
Mar 12, 202050:20
Ep 69) Tips For Oral Sex and Increasing Intimacy
Mar 05, 202001:15:48
Ep 68) 5 Questions Women Need To Stop Asking Their Husbands

Ep 68) 5 Questions Women Need To Stop Asking Their Husbands

We need to think about the question that are commonly asked in relationship. Some questions are designed to fish for a compliment other questions seem to be designed to start an argument

Feb 28, 202055:54
EP 67) Sometimes You're Just Not In The Mood
Feb 12, 202001:03:16
Ep 66) Don't Be A Man Hater and Wonder Why Your Relationship Sucks
Feb 06, 202052:16
Ep 65) Spice Up The Bedroom With Bondage Play
Jan 30, 202055:19
The Simplest Secret For Women Looking For Their Best Relationship Possible
Jan 18, 202048:29
Best Of | Getting Started With Anal Sex

Best Of | Getting Started With Anal Sex

Since Anal Sex episodes seems to be everyone's favorite, this episode from the archives gives advice on how to get started with Anal sex now that you have decided to try it. 

Jan 12, 202039:15
Single Sex VS Married Sex | Why Sex Is Much Better After Years of Marriage.
Jan 09, 202047:32
Best of | Women, Keep Your Down Under Maintained
Jan 02, 202028:24
Best of | Oral Sex Is A Must In A Relationship
Dec 30, 201929:54
Best of | Anal Sex & Butt Stuff
Dec 26, 201937:05
Getting Away with Sex During The Holidays
Dec 23, 201931:50
Men: You Need To Do Your Part In Improving The Relationship Too
Dec 20, 201954:05
Women: How To Hit Your Sexual Peak Sooner and Make It Last Longer
Dec 13, 201901:11:24
Sex Fails

Sex Fails

Sometime when we try something new it doesn't go as planned. Take the time before hand to learn what you need to know to pull it off successfully but no matter what happens don't give up experimenting just because it didn't go right the first time.

Nov 20, 201918:45
What's In A Name?

What's In A Name?

To some, what holds them back sexually is what we call certain sex acts or body parts. The names make them feel dirty, subservient, or that they are just a sex toy for their partner. You will have to learn to get over what we call certain position or acts if your going to fully enjoy your sex life with your partner 

Aug 30, 201931:21