Sexy Sunday with Bonnie Weeks

Today my friend Marcus Stanback makes his third visit to the pod.

We explore how he and his life have evolved in the four years since divorcing his high school sweetheart; how sexual exploration, yoga, and cultivating self-love have helped Marcus find his way to more authentic living; the practice of transparent communication and how it has allowed him to experience more of the love and relationships he desires; and so much more!

Today we're joined by Tiffany Chambers Goldberg, a sensuality coach who helps women tap into their sensuality to improve their range of motion, ease pain, and empower themselves.

This is a big, juicy conversation exploring:

- the disconnect many women feel from their femininity and the impact it has on their lives

- the journey of embracing sensuality and the continual growth and learning that comes with it

- physical pain and its connection to emotional states

- aging, impermanence, and the fear of death

- healing sister wounds

- how sensuality and pleasure can nourish and feed all aspects of life

- navigating a long-term relationship, marriage, and social judgment when on a path of transformation

- the practice of howling and its connection to permission, shame, and pleasure

and much more!

My sister Anna joins us today, for her third visit to the podcast.

Anna's marriage ended two years ago. Together we explore the complexities of love and relationship post-divorce: fear of loss, capacity to love again, self-love, jealousy, communication, sexuality, and finding grace through the many iterations of self and relationship.

Today, my lover Jason (aka Jazzy) returns to the pod. Together we reflect on Naked 40, the nude portrait project and gallery show that we co-created as a way to celebrate my 40th birthday.

We talk about the inspiration behind the four-month-long project, what it was like to hold space for and create with dozens of friends, and how this experience changed us.

We also share news about some upcoming opportunities to make nude art with us!

We begin this one talking about the song WAP. Yep. This is a full on party! Taylor and I speak directly from our female-identifying experiences. What do women want to give to their partners? How does surrender come to play? What about the word honor? What do we want? Do we get turned on by the end again?? Do you??
This episode is part of an ongoing series called "Let's Talk about Sex" with my friend Taylor. Our goal is to normalize conversations like this to encourage others to do the same. We believe it will create stronger and more enjoyable relationships with ourselves and partners if more people are talking about sex.

Communication is so much more than just words. It's meaning what you say AND saying what you mean. Selfish honesty asks us to look INSIDE rather than responding the way we "think" someone wants us to. It's observing. It's reflection. It's important for all genders to be acknowledged for their brains and emotions to feel well f---ked in our bodies. Teaser word: toes. You're invited to practice paying attention to what you really want and owning it. 

This episode is part of an ongoing series called "Let's Talk about Sex" with my friend Taylor. Our goal is to normalize conversations like this to encourage others to do the same. We believe it will create stronger and more enjoyable relationships with ourselves and partners if more people are talking about sex.

If there's anything worth getting up EARLY for, it's to podcast about masturbation! We talk praying to the pussy, share toys we like, and give deets about our own journeys with masturbation. M&M's!

This episode is part of an ongoing series called "Let's Talk about Sex" with my friend Taylor. Our goal is to normalize conversations like this to encourage others to do the same to create stronger relationships with ourselves and partners. If more people are talking about it, more people can enjoy it.

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Love and pleasure are not meant to be split into small portions, they are meant to be feasted upon. Allie Monday held back on the feast of joy, sensuality, pleasure, and love for so long, but now it’s her goal to eat as much of it as she can. Many of us spend our formative years being afraid of being seen and held, ashamed of our sexuality, and unable to express our desires as we fight through deep wounds of shame and trauma. As we free ourselves of the things that bind us, life becomes so much more beautiful. Now, Allie chooses herself. For as much love from others as she consumes at the feast, Allie always comes first. Let’s all feast together, as long as we put our own pleasure at the front.

What you’re about to hear is from a series originally hosted on Yoga Strong, called "Let’s Talk About Sex." I always wanted to have conversations around sex, and thus, this series was born. I had so much fun with it that it became it’s on show. I figured it was time to bring all of that over here. So, if you’re listening to it for the first, second, or third time… Let’s talk about sex.

(Please note: Adult Content included in this episode, listener discretion is advised)

What you are about to hear is an experiment. Because who makes the rules of what is and isn’t allowed, what is and isn’t acceptable? This episode is a Sequel to Episode 13 of this podcast, where I attempted to read a story while my lover went down on me, and what follows. This time, we’re flipping the script, and he’ll be reading some bell hooks, while I give him pleasure. 

My hope is that you listen with a brave and curious heart. When we talk about sex, we have more and better sex. And the more we are open and honest about our experiences in life, the more we walk around the world feeling more like ourselves, and then we can meet each other with more authenticity. Who doesn’t want more of that?

Dim the lights and cozy up on the couch for the kind of conversation that just makes you giggle. This episode is the sexy, sultry, sweet kind of pillow talk I had with my own Lover. We spoke about buttholes, balls, the various lengths of hair (pubic, leg, and facial) and the best part of each kind of hair—especially the pussy-scent-absorbing qualities of beards.  

It’s my favorite day of the week and I’m talking with my one of favorite people, my sister, Anna. It’s been so much fun to be able to have this relationship with my sister, to celebrate each other, and have the types of conversations about sex that we were never able to have growing up. It’s been a process of redefining ourselves and claiming our pleasure without judgement or shame. In this week’s Sisters, Sisters conversation, Anna and I talk about the fact that sex shouldn’t feel like work, my kids overhearing the sounds of sex, the pressure to perform, and a story about a pounding that lead to a discovery of a new need.

Sex shouldn’t feel like work [6:38]

Kids overhearing the sounds of sex [13:15]

Having conversations about joy and pleasure without judgement [19:00]

How to express what doesn’t feel good (without dying) [25:54]

The origins of our shame [29:24]

In need of a good pounding [36:29]

Play without orgasm, and pleasure in openness [46:27]

Landing in trust [53:05]

The ebbs and flows of pleasure [59:13]

In order to get what you want, you first have to own it, and then you have to communicate it. And if you don’t have a deep, sensual relationship with yourself, how will you ever know what you want? When you know yourself deeply and intimately, you drip with a magnetic and sensual energy, and you begin to crave pleasure enough to communicate it to others. Marcus Stanback has never been afraid to own his hoe phases, and it’s brought him to some of the best sexual experiences of life; he’s having real orgasms, and yes, it’s different than the usual ejaculation.

Do we place too much value on sex? [4:43]

Honesty in a hoe-phase [6:51]

How to tell when someone is hitting on you [10:02]

The power to say what you want [15:48]

Ejaculation is not orgasm [19:27]

Giving without reciprocity [28:47]

Taking care of typical caretakers [33:31]

Dripping sensual energy [38:20]

Building a relationship with yourself [46:52]

The vulnerability of asking for what you need [53:51]

A lack of clarity is not compassionate [1:02:35]

I’ve been experiencing some pain lately, and it’s been a humbling experience for my in a lot of ways. I had a moment the other day, alone with my vibrator, where I was overcome with rage and sorrow. I stood there and yelled because I do not want to feel this pain, but it does not get to control my life. My pain does not get to control my joy and my pleasure, because I own that. I get to own my orgasm. So if you’re feeling defined by the circumstances of your life, reclaim that story. Tell it as your own.

Happy New Year, Sexies! Today I want to tell you a little story about dough, and the sweetness and sexiness of sticky buns. There are a lot of ways in our lives we have to be firm and rigid, and take charge. But what would happen if, even just for a moment, we were soft and pliable just like dough? There’s a sensuality to dough, the way it’s kneaded, its suppleness and the way it stretches… Mmmmm… I think we should all be a little more like dough.

Embracing softness, like dough … 1:15

A poem about “making bread” … 3:47

Candid conversations on what it means to be human … 5:03

Our stories are worth listening to … 9:04

Finding both strength and softness in our sexiness … 12:53

There is so much shame and stigma surrounding sexual health and STI’s. If sex is a part of life that we want to talk about openly, then we need to be discussing our health as well. That’s one reason I’m so damn excited for you to hear this episode, but that’s not all—today I had the pleasure and the privilege of talking to my sister, Anna Strange. Anna and I talk about our sexual health journeys, how having these conversations can begin to destigmatize this very real part of being a sexually active human, finding permission in self-exploration, armpit-f*cking, and a virus that sounds a little bit like a spell from Harry Potter. You should be able to feel free in your body, to discuss what it means to be human without shame, fear, and judgement. It’s all yours to explore.

Appreciating our bodies as siblings … 3:01

Taking care of your sexual health … 10:17

Learning about molluscum contagiosum … 16:28

Feelings of dirtiness … 23:33

Holding shame and emotional pain around your genitals … 26:15

Finding new ways to feel sexy … 35:35

Conversations to help destigmatize … 41:58

How to f*ck an armpit … 46:56

Something can be learned from every experience … 50:18

Sex gives us permission to fully know ourselves … 59:33

Give yourself permission to make a change 1:11:05

If you want something different, do something different … 1:18:44

Taking up space and inviting others to do the same … 1:20:24

Playful hypotheticals … 1:24:03

Empowering others to feel free in their bodies … 1:31:28

Sex and relationships are connected in many ways, yes, but you don’t have to have one in order to have the other. Co-parenting with my kids’ dad has been an experience full of learning, and joy, and grief, and everything in between as we have learned to navigate change. With the setting of new boundaries within that relationship, when a yes meets a no, it can bring about a lot of pain… but that doesn’t mean we can’t make room for excitement and start something new. It’s never too late for that.

Sex and relationships are connected … 2:40

Navigating new changes … 5:26

You don’t have to be married to have a relationship … 9:31

The setting of new boundaries … 11:39

Restore and restory … 15:52

Expecting the best of each other … 18:54

Different can be okay … 23:23

Tap into yourself and trust … 27:02

There is a special power in owning who you are, exactly how you are. This is Lion’s superpower. Lion shows up in a way that feeds courage to the people around him, letting his fears and discomforts bring him closer to beauty and to light. Lion is a champion for body positivity in masculine identifying people, a space that is typically occupied by people on the opposite end of the gender spectrum. Lion shows us that life—and sex!—is best when we embrace the fullness of our selves, and the boldness, loudness, silliness, and even hairiness we all possess.

Making “hairy” sexy … 3:14

Being led by the universe towards self love … 13:02

Body positivity shouldn’t be limited for one gender … 20:21

Letting shame bring you closer to your lineage and history … 22:55

Your fears will lead you to your greatness … 27:57

How embracing yourself changes your sex life … 32:04

Feeling drained by modern dating … 38:48

Honoring the space between people … 45:01

The sexiest night of Lion’s life … 48:28

The power of boldness and living unfiltered … 54:55

Coming from a shame-heavy culture … 1:06:31

Things learned from lovers … 1:16:10

Having better, longer sex … 1:26:31

I was married for 10 years before I allowed my husband to lick my pussy. Life looks a lot different now: I’m no longer married and oral sex is a non-negotiable for me. That has everything to do with being open about sex and pleasure. Oral pleasure is like an act of worship, and it’s a pleasure you have power over. Allow someone to worship you. Find yourself lost in the worship of your lover, too. That’s when the real fun begins.

A story about oral sex … 1:49

You don’t have to prove your pleasure … 5:28

An act of worship … 7:26

Why this is important to talk about … 12:09

There is power in your pleasure … 14:39

5 tips for giving excellent oral sex … 17:12

5 tips for receiving excellent oral sex … 21:10

Growth is the fun part … 28:24

We are all more than one thing. But when we deny the many parts of ourselves, we live a life less full than the one we deserve. It’s important to Angela Rockwell to fully embrace and embody their authentic self so they can support others to do so too. For Angela, that looks like asking about clients’ masturbation habits in session, learning the difference between a hotdog and a problem, and even pole-dancing in the bedroom (but then posting that to Instagram). We talk about our public sexual exploits, finding safety in breath, owning their queerness and sexuality, and even how to break a penis.

A poem on being more than one thing … 1:33

The path to becoming a “real” person … 7:51

Finding a safe space in your own body … 12:17

Learning from society how we should feel about our bodies … 15:56

A broken dick and Amanda’s (clumsy) sex life … 20:29

The eroticism of clothes … 32:57

Experimenting with pole dancing … 36:33

Connecting to body and breath … 41:21

Queerness and having fun in your sexuality … 49:28

Great sex needs great communication … 1:02:11

A pause for breath … 1:08:14

Claiming their sexuality as a BIPOC individual … 1:13:44

Only do shit you wanna do .. 1:20:30

Fun places to have sex … 1:21:51

Being open to talking about sex … 1:31:39

How’s your sex life? Katy Fay’s is the best she’s ever had. Great sex isn’t some myth or something reserved for only a select few. Anyone can be having great sex, and as always, it comes down to communication and trust. There’s nothing sexier than asking for what you want, and there are no problems clear communication and trust can’t solve. If you can master that, great sex will surely come, and you will too ;).

Having a really great sex life … 1:47

Communication is sexy … 7:43

Feelings of joint ecstasy … 13:25

Sex and relationships are completely different … 19:05

Communication bridges everything … 29:25

Hip width and flexibility … 38:52

Fitting like a puzzle piece … 43:09

Katy’s worst “date” … 48:45

Meeting and ghosting … 57:31

Love is available to us all … 1:10:21

Lately I’ve been embracing my sexuality as both human and yoga teacher. I found my own sensuality and sexuality within yoga, and while I will always place my role as a teacher above my own sexual attraction and fantasies, it can be fun to blend the two. The yoga studio will always be a safe place for anyone of any gender or sexual orientation, but sometimes it can be a really sexy place.

A short story, by me … 4:06

Touch during shavasana … 11:00

Blending reality and fiction … 14:07

Energy that exists as a knowing … 15:26

The transformative power of movement … 18:13

The yoga studio can be a sexy space … 21:00

Where the sexiness lies … 24:42

Working out and building muscle makes you sexier. And it isn’t because of the changes you might see in your body—you’re sexy enough the way you already are—but because of the way you carry yourself, knowing what your body is capable of, and feeling like you’re the shit. Then the next magical thing happens: the sexier you feel, the better sex you’ll have. Don’t we all want better sex?

Tara Laferrara and I talk about how our physical practices make sex better, exploring new positions and self-pleasure, celebrating our own bodies, the taboo of talking about sex, and how lube and leggings are related.

Working out gives you better sex … 1:52

How sex has changed over an 8 year relationship … 6:09

A Catholic home and learning about sex … 9:17

New explorations … 18:56

The taboo around sex and masturbation … 23:07

A 30-day sex challenge … 29:54

A training practice and sex … 34:32

Giving your body ample rest … 44:27

Trying butt stuff … 50:42

Lube and leggings … 58:36

Celebrating ourselves and our sexiness … 1:06:27

Setting the tone for sex … 1:15:24

Sex injuries … 1:23:21

You don’t have to change your body to love it … 1:26:05

We can eat an orange thousands of times in our lives, but every time we do, the experience is different. Maybe you can eat the orange outside, or take the peel off in one large piece, or maybe you can bite into it like an apple—it’s always the same fruit, but the experience is different. And yes, we’re talking about oranges here, but we’re also talking about sex.

That’s what Alicia Dell’Aria is practicing: tapping into that curiosity inside herself, and ask “what if?” What if I try a new way to eat this orange today, what if I try a new sexual experience today? All the while, removing the shame and the “should” of exploration and experimentation. Will you do the same?

Removing the “should” from sex … 3:43

The playfulness of sex … 9:47

Car sex, hooking up with Lyft drivers, and Jell-O wrestling … 12:05

Having third-eye orgasms … 24:58

The curiosity to ask, “what if?” … 31:49

A snake sheds its skin in order to grow … 38:49

Falling in love with a guitar … 41:17

Finding ourselves so we can find others … 50:07

Removing sex from intimacy … 57:02

The connection between the womb and the universe … 1:03:29

Slowing down to feel fully 1:10:24

Explore and experience without shame … 1:13:30

The power of telling your story … 1:17:56

Rocky Heron says that in the gay community, sex is often like a handshake; you have sex first and then look for a deeper connection. People fear depth and connection, and often a deep energetic exchange feels more penetrating and vulnerable than physical penetration. But Rocky has a penetrating aura, and he isn’t looking for sex to fill a void anymore.

This is part one of my conversation with Rocky. We talk about finding transcendent self-love, discovering sexual identity, open relationships, leaning in to jealousy, and so much more. Make sure to tune in for part two, coming soon!

Our youthful sexual experiences often tend to be one sided: a lot of giving and not much receiving. That’s one of the gifts of getting older—releasing the shame and breaking free of the molds of what sex “should” be, and finding the courage to communicate our true sexual desires.

That’s Krystal Martos’ journey, from thinking there can be only one person to meet all your needs, to being able to say “You are my person” to several people in your life, and understanding that only you are responsible for your own happiness. Nothing comes to you if you don’t ask for it.

And just as it’s up to you to ask for what you want, you have to have the strength to turn away what isn’t for you. We talk about the connection found in sex clubs, our sexual non-negotiables, and our sexual-misadventures, including chewing on banana flavored condoms in the middle of the desert.

Jazz flows; it’s about improvisation, give-and-take, it’s about connection. I want sex that’s like jazz. For many people, sex ends up being about seeking control rather than seeking connection, and that control will never leave you with satisfying results. So many of us are taught about sex and love as one specific thing, and we try to force it to be that. We start playing a role in someone else’s dream, and try to control sex to fit that narrative.

Release that. Release the expectations, and experiment with what sex means to you. Try to find what the core of your sexual experience is, discover what sex means to you. Improvise. Adapt. Play. You might be surprised at what you find.

We all need to talk about vaginas more often. What they look like, how they feel in yoga pants, what goes in them, and how to give them love. The way out of vulva shame, and all bad sex for that matter, is talking about it—it’s communication. That’s a theme that comes up a lot on this podcast: knowing yourself, asking for what you want, and owning your own choices despite what people think. Talking about sex leads to better sex, deeper connection, and more satisfaction for everyone. And isn’t that the kind of word you want to live in?

Connect with Amanda: Instagram

Ashley Pardo had the ultimate “guarantee,” and yet… she wanted more. She left, she chose the promise of a happier uncertainty. Like many of us, Ashley was raised to follow to rules, and not to ask for what she wanted or needed. It was only when she began to explore her own pleasure—in food, sex, and life—that Ashley began to uncover her own truth. And even though the comfort of a label or a guarantee will never come, that’s okay, because Ashley has learned to trust herself to navigate whatever happens. That is true security. It’s the only guarantee we have: the person you end up with at the end of the day will always be yourself.

I connected with Jack Squire after recognizing the necklace he was wearing as a vibrator. Isn’t that fascinating, that by how we choose to present ourselves—our clothes, our hair, our accessories—we can attract the exact kind of people who can connect with us on a deeper level. And that’s what Jack wants everyone to know: a long relationship doesn’t mean a “deep” one. In relationships with friends, family, sexual partners… the depth of your relationship is defined by your own communication, not by the length.

Jack and I talk about our hot-buttons of jealousy, the savior-victim-villain complex, how a lack of communication leads to resentment, porn and it’s relationship to sex, Jack’s weight-loss journey, and just how sweaty sex can be.

Have you ever gazed into your own pussy? Or required a lover to get to know your pussy before they’re allowed inside? Do you know how to ask for what you want, or even what feels good to you?

Rebecca Sunshine, better known as Sunny, is one of my sexiest friends. Sunny is tuning in to her pussy: checking in with it, how it reacts to different people, letting it take charge. Sunny is advocating for her own needs (and her pussy’s), and learning the power of demanding more from her sexual partners. She’s not looking for Mr. Right, she’s looking for Mr. Right Now. She’s rapping, twerking, dancing, and feeling sexy along the way.

What you are about to hear is an experiment. Because who makes the rules of what is and isn’t allowed, what is and isn’t acceptable? This episode includes a clip of me attempting to read a story while my lover goes down on me, and what follows.

My hope is that you listen with a brave and curious heart. When we talk about sex, we have more and better sex. And the more we are open and honest about our experiences in life, the more we walk around the world feeling more like ourselves, and then we can meet each other with more authenticity. Who doesn’t want more of that?

Taylor and I wanted to recap what we’ve been up to. What was originally the Tabernacle Retreat turned into a day to celebrate our bodies. And celebrate we did, both as individuals and as a group. My favorite places to be are the places we can show up with curiosity and with bravery, where a container can be created in which we can hold space for each other and meet others exactly where they are.

We celebrated our bodies, and we got to know each other in a deep, intimate way. We sat in the circle together, and we are all the better for it.

I want to tell you a story today about selfish honesty—a time when I didn’t practice it, and when things could have turned out differently if I had. Selfishness doesn’t have to be a bad thing. Selfishness can look like expressing our want and our needs, so that we don’t have to be putting ourselves last. Communicate what you want out of your sex life, because the best foreplay is talking about sex. The more we talk about it, the more we’re going to have.

Just because we’re adults doesn’t mean we don’t want to play with toys. Vivienne Amijee is in love with a toy of her own… her vibrator. Vivienne is on a new journey—one where her pleasure and her self are at the forefront. Gone are the days of making someone else (including their happiness, their pleasure) the center of your life, when they won’t do the same thing. There is so much left un-spoken when it comes to the dynamics of relationships and sexual preferences. Sex (and life!) is about communication, about conversation and exchange. If you want something, you have to go out there and demand it. You have to choose yourself. What happens when you do?

There is so much power in our voice. Teaching a class, a vocal art piece, the voice of an alter-ego, speaking on a podcast, or practicing the noises we make during sex… It is complicated, but it is so beautiful. We can only show up in the world as truthfully as we express ourselves, and so much of that begins with our voices, with the conversations we have.

JQ Williams’ story begins with a lot of body shame and the fear of letting herself be seen. But as she eased into her own journey, JQ came into herself with grace and curiosity and began the work of learning the freedom of self-love and how to have the difficult conversations that sometimes need to be had about pleasure and body confidence. She unlocked the power of her own voice.

Maybe it’s your turn now. Maybe it’s time to start with the guttural, soft, loud, boisterous, out of control noises we make in life. Maybe it’s time to practice your sex noises.

Connect with JQ: @yogawithjq

This is the longest Sexy Sunday episode yet, but trust me when I tell you that listening to Marcus Kent speak will leave you breathless and begging for more ;)

Like so many of us, Marcus’ first memories surrounding sex are centered on guilt and shame, that sex is a thing to be avoided at all cost, and if you have to have sex, it is for procreation only. But after a photography job-turned-career in Japanese bondage as an art, Marcus found meaning and a new kind of pleasure in the kink community.

Marcus puts it this way: sex clubs and kink parties are a kind of window shopping for pleasure. You don’t know what’s out there until you see it, and you don’t know what you like until you try it on. The sexiest thing a person can do is to know what they want and ask for it. Communication is the best tool we have for our own sex lives; once you master that, watch how your sex life lights up.

We also talk about the beauty of the energy exchange within sex, how each of contains divine masculine AND feminine energy, and what it truly means to be “beautiful.”

This conversation is magic. You don’t want to miss it.

It is a big (and often scary) thing to have conversations like the ones we have on this podcast. But, as you’ll hear my guest Jessie Beale say, the way we grow is by stepping out of our comfort zones. And if we want real, honest change in the world, we all have to participate. This conversation is just the start.

Jessie is a yoga teacher and naturalist—which is not the same as a nudist, you’ll find out the distinction between the two in this episode. Jessie is on a journey of discovery, of exploration, of vulnerability, and of honesty. She’s playing in the space beyond what is platonic, but not quite sexual or romantic. She’s finding out what it feels like outside of being defined by your sexual gratification to others. She’s shaking off stigma and shame around sex-talk... and she’s joyfully naked along the way.

Being a hoe is more than just our actions… It’s a way of life.

“Hoe energy” isn’t just about your sexual exploits. Hoe energy is confidence, honesty, vulnerability, directness. Being a hoe isn’t degrading, it means ownership, empowerment, and sexual freedom. Showing up in your hoe energy? It’s a goddamn public service.

In my conversation this week with Marcus Stanback of Daily Growth Yoga, we’re owning our hoe energy. We talk all about the person Marcus is beyond the yogi people see, the different cultural expectations behind sex, the inherent sexiness of normal-human sh*t, and how we show up as our best selves when we own our sexuality. My biggest hope is that you leave this episode fully ready to embody the power and freedom of your own hoe energy.

I want to share a devotional with you this week, an episode about part of my journey of sexual exploration and play and why, after experimenting with non monogamy, I decided to leave my marriage. I want to share my story with you not to paint me as a victim or a villain, but to celebrate the fact that I am human.

Sex is not only about how we interact with others, but it is a part of the deep, intimate relationship we have with ourselves. It is that intimacy that I believe will change the world. Do you know who that “self” inside of you is? Here’s Bonnie—a part of her, anyway. I can’t wait to find out more about her, and you, too.

Morgan Tyler grew up in strict purity culture. She was taught that the female body was shameful. Sex education was male-centered. Women’s pleasure was never mentioned.

Now she’s writing her own story. After years of purity culture and shutting down any connection to her self, she’s learning that its okay—and safe—to feel. We talk about EMDR therapy, and the innate knowledge within our bodies that is safe to trust. We talk about the healing power of movement and yoga. We talk about oral sex, the joys of being a lesbian, finding play within sex, and the fact that we have nothing to prove to anyone—except ourselves.

One thing that fills me with so much joy and pride in Morgan is how time after time, she chooses herself. She chose her own pleasure and joy, and put down the shame that held her captive for so long. Morgan chose connection above the shame she was conditioned to feel, and we are all the better for it.

Dr. Uchenna “UC” Ossai hasn’t always been the person she is today… so how did she get here? I suppose you could say it all started with a bookshelf full of hidden, scandalous books and some open conversations and experimentation with sex. Now, UC educates people about sex in a positive, shame-free way that many people have never experienced before.

Sex is about learning and evolution, it’s about exploration, fun, abundance… but it’s also our histories, our gender, our race, our socioeconomic status, and so much more. Sex is many things added up that influences how we show up and how we feel at any given moment. UC knows this, she teaches this. She takes a pleasure-centered approach and brings her personal experience to the table to help people be seen and find joy in sex again.

Let’s talk about the many facets of sex, the realities of the orgasm gap, owning your sexy-self, and how to cultivate desire and intrigue in our own sex lives. Let’s use experimentation to combat sexual shame.

Let’s chat with my friend, Taylor-leigh. Taylor and I started talking about sex 2 years ago on my podcast, Yoga Strong, and we never want to stop.

One thing we love about sex is sharing not only the ways we are different, but the ways we are the same as well. From pubic hair and aging, to having open communication about sex with our kids, to breaking the rules of what divorce “should” look like.

Taylor shares her first memories of sex, and the journey she has been on to discover what sex actually looks and feels like, and not just what we see on screen. Sex—and talking about sex—doesn’t have to be pornographic. It is natural and normal and regular people do it every day.

There is bravery in sharing about our sex lives. Be bold, talk about sex: put everything out there, have a conversation, and know you can change your mind whenever you want.

Why Sexy Sunday? The name comes from weekly poetry prompts I have been sharing on my Instagram account every Sunday since December of 2019. It’s something I started when, for the first time, I started exploring what it means to be a sexual being. I grew up in the Mormon church, and if you’re familiar with that culture, you might know that sex is not often spoken about, and it’s definitely not something to be explored. And what I discovered was not shameful, but beautiful, joyous, and powerful.

Sexy Sunday was born out of my own bravery to do the thing, to approach sex with curiosity and joy. It exists to show you—and me—that we are not alone, that when we talk about sex, we normalize our own experiences and share a little more of what it means to be human.

I’m so excited to invite you along for the ride. Sexy Sunday is real and it is honest and it is so, so fun. Let’s play.