Not Your Average Autism Mom

In Episode 179 of the Not Your Average Autism Mom Podcast, host Shannon Urquiola dives into the world of understanding and addressing stressors for children on the autism spectrum.

Shannon breaks down the seven common stressors faced by these children, including sensory challenges, level of interest, uncertainty, degree of control, performance demands, social demands, and length of time. She explores real-life scenarios where these stressors might show up and provides practical examples and strategies to support our children proactively.

Listeners learn how to recognize and lessen sensory overload, navigate uncertainties, provide their children with a sense of control, and ease social and performance-related stressors. Shannon emphasizes the importance of understanding and accommodating these stressors to set our children up for success in various environments.

When you can assess the stressors and plan appropriate accommodations, you can help your children navigate challenges with confidence and resilience.

For Not Your Average Autism Mom members, there is a 7- Stressors Worksheet for you to download in the portal in the Behavior Support section that will help you figure out potential stressors in different situations and plan appropriate accommodations.

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Is the educational journey overwhelming and confusing for you?  Our member portal has an array of training and resources with everything you need to know about Special Education and you can join LIVE ZOOM calls with an Advocate to get any of your specific questions answered.  

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In episode 178 of the "Not Your Average Autism Mom Podcast," host Shannon Urquiola dives into the complexities of Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) within the autism spectrum.

Shannon emphasizes why a specific PDA diagnosis isn't always paramount when autism is already in the picture. She walks listeners through common scenarios, parents, may encounter, offering practical strategies for navigating the challenges associated with severe avoidance and anxiety.

The episode explores the fear of uncertainty, unexpected events, and the need for control that often characterizes the behavior of children with PDA or intense anxiety within autism. Shannon provides real-life examples to illustrate these concepts, helping parents relate to the daily struggles they might face. She dives into the importance of understanding and respecting a child's comfort zone, regardless of the diagnostic label, and highlights the significance of collaboration over control.

Throughout the episode, Shannon provides specific strategies for parents, emphasizing the importance of predictability, consistency, and reducing external pressure. She addresses the performance anxiety and social challenges these children may encounter, offering valuable insights into building trust and minimizing meltdowns.

In the end, the episode encourages parents to focus on the unique needs of their children, emphasizing collaboration, understanding, and support. Whether dealing with PDA or severe anxiety within autism, this episode serves as a guide for parents navigating the intricate world of their extraordinary children.

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In this episode of the Not Your Average Autism Mom Podcast, your host, Shannon Urquiola is talking about the complex world of repeated questioning in our autistic children.

As parents, we know firsthand the exhaustion and frustration that can come with hearing the same question over and over again. But why do our children engage in this behavior, and how can we lessen its impact on both them and you?

Shannon explores the various reasons behind repeated questioning, from seeking reassurance to managing anticipatory anxiety or simply craving attention. Understanding the underlying motives is crucial in developing effective strategies to address this behavior.

She discusses how repeated questioning impacts your emotional well-being and the importance of validating your child's attempt to communicate.

The heart of this episode lies in practical strategies. I'll guide you through techniques that reduce questioning and build communication. Shannon talks about the power of reciprocal interaction, providing answers that go beyond a simple 'yes' or 'no,' and expanding on topics to redirect your child's attention.

Moreover, we discuss the emotional toll repeated questioning can take on parents and offer self-care strategies to maintain our well-being amidst the challenges. By fostering open communication, setting realistic expectations, and prioritizing our own needs, we can navigate this journey with resilience and compassion.

Tune in as we embark on a journey to transform frustration into connection, one question at a time.

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In this episode of the Not Your Average Autism Mom Podcast, host Shannon Urquiola digs into the complex world of socialization within the autism spectrum.

Shannon explores the diverse social interests and preferences among autistic individuals, shedding light on the challenges they face in navigating social interactions while also emphasizing the beauty of their unique perspectives.

Drawing from personal experiences and insights from autistic adults, she discusses the detrimental effects of conforming to neurotypical social norms, commonly referred to as "masking." She highlights the exhaustion, anxiety, and loss of self-identity that often accompany efforts to suppress autistic tendencies in favor of fitting in.

However, Shannon also offers hope and practical strategies for parents and caregivers. She emphasizes the importance of understanding each child's strengths, interests, and comfort zones when it comes to social connections.

Throughout the episode, she emphasizes the power of authenticity over conformity, urging listeners to embrace the unique qualities of their child and celebrate their diverse ways of relating to the world.

Tune in to learn how to break free from societal expectations.

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In this episode of "Not Your Average Autism Mom" podcast, Shannon digs into the challenging world of self-injurious behaviors in children with autism.

We explored the various forms these behaviors can take, from hand/arm biting to head banging, and discussed why they occur, often as a means of releasing stress chemicals when the nervous system becomes overwhelmed.

Throughout the episode, we provided practical strategies for parents and caregivers to address these behaviors effectively.

Listeners learn the importance of identifying triggers and reducing stressors, as well as the value of teaching alternative communication methods for nonverbal children.

We emphasized the need to understand the function the behavior serves and to replace it with healthier alternatives through consistent practice and reinforcement.

By empowering parents with knowledge and actionable steps, we aimed to provide hope and support for families navigating the complexities of autism-related self-injury. Through understanding and compassionate intervention, we can help our children overcome these challenges and thrive.

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In this episode, host Shannon Urquiola goes deep into the complex world of disciplining children on the autism spectrum.

She begins by emphasizing the importance of setting clear boundaries and expectations for all children, particularly for those on the spectrum who may struggle with understanding unwritten social rules.

She provides practical strategies for parents, such as using visual aids and consistent consequences, to help their children navigate these boundaries effectively.

Throughout the episode, Shannon illustrates these strategies with specific scenarios that parents commonly encounter, such as managing public meltdowns and handling homework battles. By empowering parents with practical tools and strategies,

Shannon aims to help you navigate the unique journey of disciplining children on the autism spectrum with confidence, compassion, and above all consistency.

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In this episode of the Not Your Average Autism Mom Podcast, host Shannon Urquiola takes the wheel and guides you through the essential art of staying in control while parenting a child on the autism spectrum.

Drawing on her expertise as a Life and Parent Coach exclusively for moms on this journey, Shannon explores the metaphorical road trip of autism parenting, emphasizing the importance of being the driver and choosing your passengers wisely.

From teachers and professionals to friends and relatives, Shannon discusses the valuable support you'll encounter along the way.

Discover the importance of positive conversations, maintaining a collaborative spirit, and gracefully letting go of those who hinder your progress. Through relatable examples, Shannon illustrates how to navigate challenges, overcome roadblocks, and celebrate the triumphs of this unique journey.

As the podcast unfolds, Shannon shares practical advice on taking breaks, regrouping, and enjoying the scenic moments with your child. The episode closes with a poignant reminder that this is not a race but a long journey, urging listeners to stay positive, collaborate, and revel in the joy of the ride.

Tune in to gain insights, tips, and a renewed sense of empowerment for your autism parenting journey. Whether you're just starting or further along the road, "Driving with Purpose" offers a roadmap for a fulfilling and positive experience. Don't miss this transformative episode - your front-row seat to navigating the autism journey awaits!

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In Episode 172 of the Not Your Average Autism Mom Podcast, host Shannon Urquiola talks about the challenges faced by individuals with autism on the journey to self-actualization.

Inspired by her son Jordan, she explores the delicate balance of fitting in while ensuring our loved ones receive the dignity they deserve.

In a world that may perceive them differently, finding this balance is necessary. The struggles, from clothing mishaps to social norms, highlight the unique lens through which individuals with autism experience the world.

As parents, we advocate for embracing diversity while equipping our children with the tools to navigate the world successfully.

A plea goes out to educators, caregivers, and administrators to treat our children with the same care and respect they would afford their own. Collaboration is key, and concerned parents are encouraged to speak up in IEP meetings, seeking support from their teams.

Mindblindness adds complexity to the challenge, emphasizing the importance of respect and fostering self-awareness. The spotlight extends beyond visible struggles to include all children, deserving acceptance and understanding in every environment.

The episode concludes with a reminder that self-awareness is a journey for both parents and children. Reflecting on love, joy, anxieties, fears, passions, and priorities is a vital step in understanding.

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Remember, it's not just about fitting into a neurotypical world; it's about empowering our children to coexist with authenticity.

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In this episode, host Shannon Urquiola goes deep into the often misunderstood challenges of self-initiation and sustained attention in autistic children.

Acknowledging the frustration parents may feel when their child appears unmotivated, Shannon emphasizes the importance of understanding these difficulties as linked to executive functioning skills rather than attributing them to laziness.

She provides insights into the workings of the pre-frontal cortex, the brain's command center responsible for managing tasks, making decisions, and regulating emotions.

Shannon explores the hurdles autistic children face in initiating tasks and sustaining attention, highlighting the tendency for misconceptions due to these challenges.

She encourages parents to support their children by breaking down tasks into manageable steps, offering visual checklists, and providing gentle prompts. The paradox of sustained attention is discussed, emphasizing the need to comprehend why children can focus on preferred activities but struggle with seemingly mundane tasks.

Practical strategies for parents are outlined, including building structured schedules, implementing visual morning routines, preparing for transitions, and avoiding assumptions of incompetence.

She shares insights on homework strategies, mealtime challenges, and bedtime routines, offering practical tips to support initiation and sustained attention.

The episode concludes with a call to maintain high expectations for autistic children, advocating for active participation and independence while acknowledging ongoing support needs.

Shannon urges parents to help their children get started but allow them to finish, emphasizing the importance of providing necessary support to navigate their unique brain differences.

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In this episode, host Shannon Urquiola takes you on a journey into the world of routine mastery and skill-building for children on the spectrum.

Shannon guides listeners through practical strategies to integrate new skills seamlessly into existing routines.

Discover how to celebrate progress, reward success, and stay motivated in the face of setbacks. Uncover the secrets of being specific and realistic to ensure lasting success.

Join Shannon as she explores the nuances of routine mastery, and shares insights, examples, and tips to create positive changes in your family's life.

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In this episode, Shannon explores the unique challenges our children on the spectrum face in understanding and navigating the social world.

The episode sheds light on the difficulty some children have in predicting how others think or feel. Shannon provides practical strategies for parents to help their children develop these essential social skills.

The goal is to help our children build the skills necessary to actively engage in social interactions while predicting and adjusting their responses based on an understanding of the social setting.

The episode encourages parents to make the learning process enjoyable, turning it into a game and fostering a mindset of being a "social detective."

Shannon guides parents through things they can do to practice these skills, making the learning process enjoyable for both parents and children.

The episode encourages a fun approach to social learning, emphasizing the role of parents as detectives and social interpreters in their child's journey.

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In Episode 168 of the Not Your Average Autism Mom Podcast, host Shannon Urquiola takes listeners on a fascinating journey into the intricate world of the autistic brain.

The episode begins by unraveling the consequences of overload – impaired processing, deteriorating levels of cognition, and the accumulation of stress chemicals that lead to physical pain and panic. Communication becomes a challenge, with language skills weakening, and attempts to reason often exacerbating the overwhelm. The heightened senses of autistic individuals add an extra layer to this complex experience.

Shannon then introduces the concept of the brain as a circuit, illustrating the relationships between the brain stem, limbic system (emotion center), and frontal cortex (thinking center). The metaphorical racecar encounters a double whammy as poor filtering systems bombard the Limbic System with intense stimulation, while weak connections with the frontal cortex render thinking centers unable to control emotional floods. This dynamic often results in strong emotional reactions.

The explanation of how these dynamics contribute to meltdowns, where processing, thinking, and problem-solving skills fall apart, provides valuable insights into the challenges faced by autistic individuals.

She explores shutdown as a protective mechanism when the brain is overwhelmed. Gradual exposure to stress may lead to a shutdown, where one or more senses close down, and the individual becomes lethargic and unresponsive. Unfortunately, this defensive response is often misread as daydreaming or noncompliance, leading to increased prompting and potential meltdowns.

Listeners are encouraged to embrace a deeper understanding of the autistic experience, recognizing that the challenges are rooted in brain-wiring rather than intentional behavior.

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In this episode, we get into one of the most common challenges faced by parents of children with autism: sleep disruptions.

Join host Shannon Urquiola as she provides a comprehensive guide to understanding the intricate relationship between autism and sleep, along with practical tips and strategies to improve your child's sleep and overall well-being.

She explores the impact of sleep disruptions on behavior, talks about common sleep challenges faced by children on the spectrum, and uncovers potential causes that might be keeping your child awake at night.

If you're a parent seeking to enhance your child's well-being through better sleep, this episode is a must-listen. Join us as we navigate the path to more restful nights and happier days.

Tune in now to discover practical strategies and gain valuable insights on how to improve your child's sleep journey.

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In this empowering episode of Not Your Average Autism Mom Podcast, host Shannon Urquiola explores a crucial topic: the journey to understand and appreciate the unique neurology of individuals on the autism spectrum.

Inspired by a thought-provoking article titled "Be True to Their Neurology," Shannon discusses the pitfalls of trying to mold individuals with autism into neurotypical expectations.

Delving into the concept of neurology, Shannon emphasizes the importance of embracing the diverse neurological profiles that shape how individuals experience the world.

Listeners are invited to reflect on the profound insights shared in the article, encouraging a shift in perspective towards fostering the strengths inherent in each individual's neurological makeup.

The episode encourages listeners to reflect on the unique neurological profiles we all possess.

As Shannon explores the profound insights from the article, she invites the audience to join the conversation, making this episode a powerful exploration of neurodiversity, authenticity, and the path to true happiness.

This episode invites you to celebrate the uniqueness of the autism spectrum. Join Shannon as she advocates for a world where differences are not just acknowledged but celebrated.

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In Episode 166 of the Not Your Average Autism Mom Podcast, host Shannon Urquiola delves into the common challenge of perseveration in children on the autism spectrum.

Perseveration, or getting stuck on a particular behavior, activity, or thought, can be a source of frustration for both parents and children.

Shannon explores the reasons behind this phenomenon, emphasizing the weak executive functions in the frontal cortex of the brain that often contribute to the difficulty in shifting focus.

Drawing from personal experiences and expert advice, the episode provides practical strategies for parents. From using warnings and visual timers to creating concrete endings and incorporating oneself into the child's activity, Shannon shares actionable tips for easing transitions.

The episode highlights the importance of understanding that perseveration is a neurological challenge, requiring gentle assistance rather than demanding an immediate stop.

Furthermore, Shannon addresses the emotional toll perseveration can take on parents and offers self-care strategies.

The episode closes with a message of support, reminding listeners that they are not alone in facing these challenges and encouraging a sense of community strength.

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Join your host, Shannon Urquiola for a transformative journey in this episode of the Not Your Average Autism Mom Podcast.

Shannon dives into the powerful concept of saying "I don't know" in the realm of parenting children on the autism spectrum. Discover how uncertainty can be your greatest ally, propelling you toward growth and confidence.

From navigating new and daunting situations to overcoming the fear of the unknown, Shannon provides practical strategies for parents to face challenges head-on.

This episode is not just a conversation about the struggles; it's a guide to turning uncertainties into opportunities for connection, understanding, and, most importantly, magic.

Reflect on the vulnerability that comes with acknowledging the unknown and find strength in sharing your journey with others. Embrace the unfolding nature of parenting a child on the spectrum, creating room for growth and unexpected joys.

Tune in to uncover the beauty of not having all the answers and learn how to navigate your parenting journey with grace and confidence.

Don't miss this empowering episode that will leave you inspired and ready to face the unknowns of autism parenting with a newfound sense of strength.

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Parenthood, often described as a rollercoaster of emotions, takes a unique turn when partners find themselves on opposite ends of the parenting spectrum.

Are your differences in parenting currently a source of negativity and conflict in your relationship?

In this episode, host Shannon Urquiola, Life and Parent Coach explores the intricate dynamics parents face when raising autistic children, particularly when their parenting styles don't align.

Shannon talks about the common scenario where one parent often takes the lead in research and advocacy, while the other parent may have different perspectives on their child's behavior. The episode emphasizes the importance of unity in parenting and understanding the three main parenting styles.

Shannon discusses the significance of recognizing and embracing each partner's parenting style, offering insights into the authoritarian, permissive, and authoritative approaches.

Shannon highlights the power of self-awareness and the willingness to adapt, emphasizing that meaningful change starts with oneself.

The podcast also addresses the impact of childhood experiences on parenting styles, discussing how parents may unconsciously recreate or react against their upbringing.

Listeners gain practical strategies and actionable goals for fostering a healthy relationship between parents, including effective communication, private discussions, and avoiding disagreements in front of children.

The episode serves as a guide for parents raising autistic children, offering a roadmap to navigate challenges, promote unity, and create a supportive environment for their child's unique needs.

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In this episode, Life and Parent Coach Shannon Urquiola provides a comprehensive guide for moms raising children on the autism spectrum, offering strategies to navigate the holiday season with less stress, anxiety, and frustration.

She explores the power of preparation, emphasizing the importance of visualizing events and creating detailed plans to anticipate challenges.

She also highlights the significance of managing expectations, encouraging realistic outlooks, and open communication with family members.

Self-care takes center stage, with Shannon urging moms to prioritize their well-being during the holidays. Flexibility becomes a valuable skill, and Shannon shares strategies to adapt to changing plans with ease.

Finally, she highlights the power of gratitude, encouraging moms to find moments of appreciation amidst the challenges.

Overall, this episode provides practical strategies to survive and thrive during the holiday season with your children on the spectrum.

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In this episode of the Not Your Average Autism Mom Podcast, host Shannon Urquiola explores the topic of talking about your children on the spectrum with others. She shares her emotional journey, acknowledging moments of sadness and discouragement but also emphasizing a sense of hope and belief in possibilities.

Shannon encourages using positive language when describing children with autism, opting for "challenges" instead of "weaknesses," or "deficits".

Explaining autism to your child’s peers and their parents and just onlookers when you are out and about in your own communities is an essential step in creating a more inclusive and accepting world for individuals on the spectrum. 

By fostering understanding and providing education to help those who don’t know, we can bridge the understanding gap and build a supportive network for our children.

Your experience with autism will teach you profound life lessons.

In this episode of Not Your Average Autism Mom Podcast, your host, Shannon Urquiola talks all about emotional resilience for parents raising children on the autism spectrum.

She discussed the significance of emotional resilience, emphasizing that it's not a fixed trait but a skill that can be cultivated over time. She also explored specific scenarios where you can gain resilience, from managing meltdowns to navigating the educational system.

She introduced the concept of cognitive reframing, encouraging parents to notice, challenge, and replace negative thoughts.

Emotional resilience is not about perfection but progress.

Remember, you are not alone on this journey, and together, we can navigate the extraordinary adventure of parenting children on the autism spectrum.

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Is the educational journey overwhelming and confusing for you?  Our member portal has an array of training and resources with everything you need to know about Special Education and you can join LIVE ZOOM calls with an Advocate to get any of your specific questions answered.  

Maybe you are feeling alone on your journey or maybe you are looking for other moms to connect with in a PRIVATE community who understand your day-to-day challenges, be sure that you check out ALL THE BENEFITS available for you when you BECOME Not Your Average Autism Mom.

We know for many families, the holidays and travel can be a source of joy, but for families like yours and mine it also presents unique challenges when you're raising a child on the autism spectrum.

Traveling during the holidays can be a sensory overload for our kids right? The unfamiliar environments, crowded airports, and even family gatherings can be overwhelming. I've experienced this firsthand, and I know many of you have too.

Our children on the spectrum usually thrive on routine and predictability. They offer a sense of safety, predictability, and structure. But when we travel during the holidays, these routines are often disrupted leading to heightened anxiety and negative behaviors.

So, how can we balance the need for routine with the necessity of adapting to a new environment?

Through this episode, your host, Shannon Urquiola answers that question and much more.

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In this episode, Shannon focuses on unique challenges and effective strategies for teaching personal hygiene skills to children on the autism spectrum.

Exploring the hurdles faced by children with autism, such as fine motor skill deficits, sensory issues, and more, she provides a comprehensive guide for parents and caregivers.

She discusses the importance of creating daily routines, using visual supports, and providing fading prompts to help children develop independence in essential hygiene tasks.

With practical examples and considerations for privacy and safety, this episode equips parents with valuable tools and expert insights to empower their children's journey toward hygiene independence.

Join Shannon and discover the path to Hygiene Skills and Autism – a fundamental episode for parents navigating this vital aspect of autism parenting.

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Raising a child on the autism spectrum is not a linear journey and it’s by far, not easy.  I think that one of the most challenging aspects of raising a child on the autism spectrum is the constant search for what works.

It's a topic that many of us have faced and continue to wrestle with – those moments when we feel like we're on the edge when the challenges of raising a child on the spectrum seem overwhelming. It's the feeling of wanting things to be easier, even if just for a moment.

Maybe you tell yourself, "I've tried everything, I've done it all, and nothing is working." Sound familiar? 

Something that many of us experience when raising a child on the spectrum is the feeling of defeat when our child isn't making progress, or perhaps they're experiencing regression in their skills.

In this episode, I share why is it unhelpful to buy into this "nothing is working" narrative. When it feels like progress is stagnant or there's regression, it's essential to take a step back and assess the situation.

As parents, our role is to support, encourage, and believe in what is possible for our children. Embrace their uniqueness and celebrate the progress they make, no matter how small it may seem.

Let's embrace the quirks, the challenges, and the extraordinary love that defines our lives. After all, it's in these shared experiences that we find strength, compassion, and the reassurance that we're part of a community that truly understands.

Together, we can overcome challenges and create a brighter future for our families.

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In this episode, I'm talking about the impact of electronics on our kids and how they can become addicted to screens.  It's a subject that hits close to home for me, and I believe it's one of the most critical issues we face as parents and caregivers.

I’m sure that you’ve questioned the impact of social media, YouTube videos, and video games on your child’s overall well-being, right?  How many times have you tried to encourage them to go outside or read, but it felt like they were always choosing screens over anything else?  You’re not alone. 

And please, don't get me wrong; I'm not here to demonize electronics or the internet. In many ways, they can be incredible tools, offering learning opportunities, connections, and entertainment. But we can't ignore the fact that there are real consequences to excessive screen time and honestly, our children with autism can be particularly vulnerable to the negative aspects, and that's what we're going to explore today.

The pros and cons of screen time, and how many families have found that the benefits of unplugging far outweigh the challenges.

The problem arises when it becomes a never-ending rabbit hole, and children, particularly those on the spectrum, find themselves glued to screens for hours on end. It's easy for them to miss out on real-life experiences.

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Join me as I chat behind the scenes with real moms just like you who are raising children on the spectrum and finding balance and happiness along the way!

These women are MY VILLAGE as much as I am theirs.

Each of their stories is different, yet similar. You might just hear your story in theirs.

They were drowning and felt overwhelmed and since becoming Not Your Average Autism Mom they are becoming who they want to be along this unique parenting journey we are on.

They are learning to stop resisting and instead, they are embracing their life, just as it is. Chaos and all, because well, that's autism, right?

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The path of being an autism mom is a unique and often challenging one. It's a journey that begins with a diagnosis, then often becoming consumed with confusion, fear, and uncertainty. Many of us start this journey feeling overwhelmed by the unknown that lies ahead. We fear the unknown. We fear for our child's future, their well-being, and our ability to navigate this complex world we weren’t prepared for.

In this episode, I speak to your fears, share some examples and scenarios, and, above all, provide you with hope and encouragement because I firmly believe that you are absolutely meant to be your child's mom.

When our child is diagnosed with autism, it can feel like we've been thrown into a world where nothing is familiar. Imagine for a moment that your child is like a puzzle, and this diagnosis is the first piece. It may not make sense right away, but as you gather more pieces along the journey, the picture becomes clearer. 

Guilt is a constant companion for many of us. Autism is not anyone's fault, and perfection is an unrealistic standard. You are doing the best you can, and your love and commitment are what truly matter.

Being an autism mom is a remarkable, transformative journey. It will challenge you, test your limits and for sure your patience and forgiveness many many times, and it will change you in profound ways. But it will also fill your life with love, strength, and purpose beyond measure.

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Why Do After-School Meltdowns Happen?  Imagine your child was an absolute star at school, but as soon as they get home, it feels like all heck breaks loose. You're not alone in this, trust me, many moms face the same thing. I know this can be puzzling and confusing but please know, that nothing has gone wrong and it is quite normal in fact.

We always want to provide a safe space for our children to release their emotions while also teaching them healthier coping mechanisms.

Try different things, explore various methods and adapt them to meet your child’s unique needs, there just isn’t a one-size-fits-all along this parenting journey and we all know that. 

Consistency is key. Stick with these strategies, and you will hopefully begin to see improvements in your child's after-school demeanor.

As parents, we have the privilege and responsibility to shape the lives of our children.  When you have an unwavering belief in their abilities, it can be a transformative force that opens doors, breaks barriers, and unlocks their fullest potential. 

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Asking "Why" is a natural response to life's challenges, a way to make sense of our experiences. But there are a few reasons why asking "Why" may not be as helpful as we think.  Asking why is really just us searching for insight, right?  We are trying to make sense of what we think are our negative experiences in life. But here's the thing - we can't always know or figure out the reasons why things outside of our control happen. 

So, what's the alternative to constantly asking "Why"? What can you do when those "Why" questions seem to be consuming you?  

Join me in this episode as I share strategies and examples for moving past the "Why" and regaining a sense of control and purpose in your life.

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Individuals on the spectrum have what we can describe as different brain wiring. Their neurological connections between various brain centers are not as strong, which makes it challenging for them to process multiple pieces of information rapidly. This can make navigating our fast-paced world incredibly exhausting and difficult for them.

Neurotypical people like you and me can effortlessly filter out around 80% of information that's not relevant to the task at hand. We focus on what's important.  This filtering mechanism allows us to quickly process information despite this fast-paced world. We immediately and subconsciously filter out all the information irrelevant to that objective.

For some of our kids, this might be only a mild problem, but for others, this is severely disabling, making the world very confusing and overwhelming. It's essential to be patient, give extra time to process and respond, and above all, be proactive to provide them with tools and strategies that work for them.

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Today's episode is one that hits close to home for me. We're going to talk about maintaining relationships successfully while raising autistic children. As a Master Certified Life and Parent Coach, I've made it my mission to help families like yours navigate these challenging waters and I'm also here to tell you that it's possible to thrive as a couple and as parents raising autistic children.

I’m going to share with you the top 10 reasons that relationships tend to fail when you're raising autistic children.

And more importantly, I'm going to offer some relationship-saving strategies to help you stay connected and on the same parenting page with your partner.

So, grab a cup of coffee, take a deep breath, and join me.

Neglecting your own well-being can lead to burnout and resentment, affecting your relationship.  Those feelings of resentment can build up if one of you feels like you're carrying the majority of the caregiving.

One of you might be more accepting of the diagnosis, while the other may struggle to come to terms with it or even adamantly resist it. And then what happens is that this discrepancy in coping mechanisms can create tension and misunderstandings.  Share your fears, your hopes, and your concerns about your child's future.

Coming to terms with your child's diagnosis can be a long and challenging road.  Be patient with each other, recognizing that you may be on different timelines in processing the diagnosis.

By understanding, respecting, and supporting parents like us, you can contribute to a more inclusive and compassionate world for all individuals, regardless of their differences.

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Today's episode is all about a topic that's near and dear to my heart - the guilt that often accompanies us on this incredible journey of parenting that we weren’t prepared for. When you are parenting a child with autism, this journey may take on unique dimensions.

Guilt tends to creep in when we dwell on our perceived shortcomings. It can manifest in various ways:

We all make mistakes, but sometimes, we dwell on them for too long and beat ourselves up for not being perfect. I'm not doing enough, taking time for myself is selfish, comparing your child's progress, self-blame, and constantly second-guessing your choices.

Whether your child is neurotypical or on the spectrum, there is no one-size-fits-all approach to being a perfect parent. We all have moments when we wish we had handled a situation differently or said something else. The key is to recognize that these moments don't define us as parents.

Let's embrace the quirks, the challenges, and the extraordinary love that defines our lives. After all, it's in these shared experiences that we find strength, compassion, and the reassurance that we're part of a community that truly understands.

Together, we can overcome challenges and create a brighter future for our families.

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It's remarkable how our journey evolves over time.  Every moment you're navigating, every lesson you're learning, it's all building a foundation of skills and resilience that you'll carry forward as your child grows. With each new challenge, you'll be able to lean on the expertise you're cultivating right now. 

Even though Jordan is older now, I vividly recall those early years that taught me skills that I still use, even now. With each year that passes, you'll grow more confident, tapping into the wisdom you've accumulated. Whether you're facing the uncertainties of age 3 or navigating the complexities of the teenage years, the experience you're gaining today will be your guiding light for what’s to come.

You know, being the parent of a child with autism is a role that requires an immense amount of strength, patience, and understanding. I firmly believe that we, as parents, are the ultimate resources for our children. It's our ability to ride the waves of challenges, to take care of ourselves, and to be resourceful that truly serves both us and our children.

And more importantly, your ability to weather the storm, to prioritize self-care, and to tap into your resilience, it's not just for you. It's the foundation for supporting your child. I truly believe that our collective strength and mutual support are game-changers in shaping our children's lives.

Have you ever noticed how, once you're deeply involved in the world of autism, it can feel like you're seeing autism everywhere?

All of a sudden, you've got these glasses on, you might have heard them referred to as “autism-colored glasses” and it's like the world is illuminated by autism traits.  

It's like a new perspective opens up, and you begin attributing behaviors to autism even in people you've known for years.

You've known people for years, but now, with this new perspective, you're questioning if their quirks might be related to autism.  There isn’t a family member that is exempt from this personal evaluation.  AND Let me say this – autism-colored glasses aren't necessarily a bad thing.

Our autism-colored glasses sometimes can lead to increased anxiety and misguided actions. This happens when we attribute all behaviors, even unrelated ones, to autism, which can inadvertently create unnecessary stress for us and our children.  

When you attribute every behavior to autism, you might miss the bigger picture and end up feeling more stressed and anxious.

Sometimes if you start relating all your child's feelings and behaviors to their autism, that mindset can lead you to believe there's something to fix, that every behavior tied to autism is a problem and that simply isn’t true.

Comparing our child's progress with neurotypical children can be disheartening. Each child's journey is their own. For us, even small achievements are significant. Our children and adults on the spectrum have a wide range of abilities and levels of independence. Some might require more support than others.

By understanding, respecting, and supporting parents like us, you can contribute to a more inclusive and compassionate world for all individuals, regardless of their differences.

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Every week I talk about topics that directly impact your life along this parenting journey and today, I’m talking about a fascinating topic that many parents and caregivers encounter on their journey: verbal stimming. Verbal Stimming is a behavior that many autistic children will do. 

It's like a window into your child's world, helping them cope with various situations and even express themselves.

Interestingly, these sounds aren't just about auditory pleasure – they provide a comforting vibrating sensation in their inner ears which is soothing and feels good to them. You might even notice them covering their ears when humming, which enhances that internal vibration sensation.

It might be an enjoyable rhythmic pattern, that allows them to create a predictable and controllable sensory experience. It could be a way of calming their nervous system, especially when they're over-stimulated. And on the flip side, it can also help alert and engage them when they're feeling under-stimulated or bored.

Imagine verbal stimming as a tool for our children to manage their sensory experiences and emotions. It's not just a random behavior – it's their way of self-regulating and adapting to the world around them.

Remember, we all engage in forms of self-stimulation to regulate our nervous systems. The key is teaching our children when and where it's appropriate while respecting their individual needs. Let's create an environment where everyone can live comfortably while understanding and accommodating each other.

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Our journey begins with an autism diagnosis, a diagnosis that flooded you with a wave of emotions and the weight of uncertainty like you’ve never experienced before. 

And then as you begin to navigate all the uncertainty, you're told that "one day," your children will overcome their challenges and live lives similar to their neurotypical peers. But what happens when that "one day" doesn't unfold as expected?

The truth is, that the allure of that day, though well-intentioned, can lead you down a path of unrealistic expectations, overshadowing the uniqueness of your children's journeys and that’s what I don’t like about the whole “one-day” thing.

As mothers, our well-being is intricately intertwined with our children's happiness and progress. The weight of our aspirations for that "one day" can have unintended consequences on our mental and emotional health. It's easy to overlook the present joys, accomplishments and even struggles when you become preoccupied with a future that may not unfold as you imagined.

When you can shift your focus from "one day" to today, it allows you to embrace your life, just as it is, right now, chaos and all. 

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Raising a child on the autism spectrum presents unique challenges that can be difficult to grasp for those who haven't experienced it firsthand.    I really believe that the difficulties we face out in the world often stem from a lack of understanding about autism.

I hope that by increasing awareness and embracing inclusivity, together we can bridge the gap and create a more supportive and understanding environment for all families, regardless of their experiences with autism.

While some kids on the spectrum may have unique abilities most of our kiddos are not like Rain Man or the Good Doctor.  Autism is not what you see in the movies and on TV. Many kids on the spectrum struggle to learn the very basics like independent toileting, using words to communicate, and avoiding self-injurious behavior.

Society's misconceptions about autism can add to the confusion.

We appreciate your genuine interest in learning about autism. Remember that autism is a spectrum disorder, and each individual is unique. What works for one child may not work for another.

Raising a child on the spectrum often involves navigating unique communication styles and social interactions. Many autistic individuals may struggle with verbal communication, making it challenging to express their needs and emotions. Nonverbal or atypical communication methods can be confusing for those unfamiliar with autism.

Comparing our child's progress with neurotypical children can be disheartening. Each child's journey is their own. For us, even small achievements are significant. Our children and adults on the spectrum have a wide range of abilities and levels of independence. Some might require more support than others.

By understanding, respecting, and supporting parents like us, you can contribute to a more inclusive and compassionate world for all individuals, regardless of their differences.

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As the new school year begins, I know many of you may be feeling a mix of emotions - excitement, anxiety, and maybe for some of you, a bit of sadness as summer comes to an end. For our children on the spectrum, this transition can be particularly challenging.

Open communication and collaboration with your child's school team will pave the way for your child's success. Communicating with your child’s teacher is critical to their success at school and in the classroom. You can be a tremendous resource in helping your child have a smooth transition into a new classroom with a new teacher. Share information about your child's strengths, and challenges, and share with them what has and hasn’t worked in the past.

Make sure you are well informed about the services and accommodations your child is entitled to and advocate for them if necessary.

If you’ve been with me for any amount of time, you know I always say that if your child is going to need additional educational support, learning and understanding Special Education isn’t optional, it is necessary. 

Transitions can be especially difficult for our kids on the spectrum. They might struggle with new people to meet, new routines to learn, and the sensory overload of a busy school environment.

Mindset matters and managing your expectations is crucial. Instead of expecting everything to fall into place immediately, recognize that progress takes time. and it's okay if things don't go perfectly from day one. Focus on small victories, celebrate them, and remember that changing your perspective can make a world of difference.

Remember, building their independence is a gradual process, and each child may require different levels of support and guidance.

I want to encourage you to remember that the new school year might have its challenges, but with the right support and strategies, it can be a rewarding experience for both you and your child.

Believe in yourself and your ability to advocate for their needs.  I wish you and your children a wonderful new school year filled with making memories and above all endless possibilities for their continued growth and development.

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Society has certain expectations regarding social norms, which can be challenging for families like ours raising children on the spectrum. We live in a world that values conformity and often overlooks individual differences.

Certain unwritten rules govern how we interact, communicate, and behave in society. For neurotypical children, these norms are often picked up naturally through observation and imitation. However, for children on the autism spectrum, the social world can be puzzling and overwhelming. Boundaries, as they relate to social norms, refer to the unspoken rules that dictate appropriate behavior in social interactions. In society, there are generally accepted norms for personal space, physical touch, sharing, and conversational topics, among other things.

You don’t stand too close, you don’t pull a chin hair off a woman behind you in line, and you don’t touch people. 

There are specific topics you know when and where to and not to talk about. 

Our children on the autism spectrum usually have difficulties understanding and following these boundaries, which you guessed it, can lead to misunderstandings and sometimes negative perceptions from other people.

Societal expectations for social norms can take a toll on families like ours, affecting us emotionally, mentally, and even physically.

If you find yourself constantly striving to meet societal norms it can leave you feeling overwhelmed and anxious, worried that your child may be excluded or judged for their differences.

You might feel isolated, both from mainstream social circles and even within the autism community, if your child's challenges are different than others.

So while the negative impacts of social expectations can be significant, you can shift your perspective, advocate for awareness and pave the way for a more inclusive and understanding world.

It's essential for us to challenge these societal expectations and advocate for understanding and acceptance.

I believe that together, we can build a more compassionate and inclusive society.

As parents, we have the privilege and responsibility to shape the lives of our children.  When you have an unwavering belief in their abilities, it can be a transformative force that opens doors, breaks barriers, and unlocks their fullest potential. 

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Maybe you recently received an autism diagnosis for your child or maybe you’ve been navigating life for however long with your child but you spend a lot of time feeling discouraged and disappointed or maybe even sad, if this is you, this episode is for you.

Do you find yourself wishing, hoping, and dreaming your life was different?

I want you to know that it is completely normal to have a range of emotions, from confusion or grief to fear about the future.

The journey of parenting a child with autism can be both rewarding and demanding.

I dive into an important topic that many parents face: accepting an autism diagnosis for their child.  I’m discussing the significance of acceptance instead of resisting it, the benefits of early intervention, a little bit about the outside world and their inability to understand, and why finding support within a community is crucial for navigating this unique parenting journey successfully.

It's completely natural to have a wide range of emotions when receiving an autism diagnosis for your child. You might feel overwhelmed, confused, or even fearful about what the future holds. The diagnosis simply provides insight into their strengths and challenges. Acceptance, early intervention, allowing yourself to have understanding and grace with others who don’t understand, and being part of a supportive community is the cornerstone of your family thriving along this journey. 

Embrace your child's unique journey and remember that they are the same wonderful child they were before the diagnosis. 

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I am going to explore some reasons why our children might lie and why it is important for you to recognize when you find yourself feeling betrayed or angry or frustrated when it happens.

As parents, we know our children on the spectrum face unique challenges in communication, social understanding, and problem-solving skills.

Lying becomes an easier way out for them because it allows them to navigate situations that feel overwhelming or confusing.

Most often, kids lie to avoid trouble. If they don’t have another way out, and because our kids often have challenges with forward-thinking and their executive functioning skills are lacking, rather than suffer the consequences, they lie to avoid getting into trouble.

They don’t have the skill set necessary to deal with a problem or conflict or problem solve. Sometimes it’s the only way they know how to solve a problem.

Reinforce the understanding that lying will not change the situation.

So to them, it’s a survival skill, albeit a faulty one.

Talk about the consequences of lying and how it can impact trust in relationships. Reinforce the importance of honesty and set clear expectations moving forward. Lying is a problem–solving issue. Lying is a lack of skills issue and an avoiding consequences issue.

Your children lying is not a result of your failed parenting. Your child isn't lying to hurt you. Your kids are not broken and you are not a terrible parent.

This journey isn’t easy.

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Our life is surrounded by technology. Electronics are a part of everyone’s life but it is important that you understand the negative effects too much screen time can be causing for our children with autism.

Some studies suggest that increased screen time in young children is associated with decreased cognitive ability, impaired language development, mood, and autistic-like behavior including hyperactivity, short attention span, and irritability.

You have to establish clear rules, boundaries, and schedules for electronic use.  Until you RIP OFF THAT BAND-AID of their dependency on electronics they don’t have the need to have any other interest.

Listen with an open mind.  Be willing to consider that making some changes just might work.  

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We know that in autism our children's repetitive and fixated behaviors are generally the strategies they use to reduce the chaos and minimalize their overload by seeking the predictability and routine of sameness. These are their attempts to decrease their overwhelm from the stimulation and provide some sort of order to the confusing overwhelming world they are in.

Our children struggle with being flexible because of their need for sameness and being in control and when things have to change or you have to drive a different way home because of a traffic accident their ability to be flexible is nowhere to be found, right?

Our world honestly is way too uncertain and unpredictable for our kids on the spectrum. What applies in one situation doesn’t necessarily apply to the next and that results in increased anxiety and sometimes anger when things don’t go the way they anticipated.

Our goal is never to overwhelm them but we want them to mentally engage and tackle their uncertainty and reduce that rigid thinking. We want them to be able to evaluate options when there is a roadblock or something doesn’t go as planned. Everyone makes mistakes until they practice and get better. You have to learn what doesn’t work to ultimately learn what does work, right? That is what we want to teach them.

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Raising our children is difficult at times, we know that. When they exhibit often unexpected and disruptive behaviors it can be hard to determine if it is just a phase they are going through or if there is more.  Autism is not a single disorder, but a spectrum of closely related disorders that share core symptoms, and while every child on the spectrum will struggle to some degree with social interaction, communication, and behavior, the level of disability and combination of symptoms varies tremendously from each individual.

No diagnostic label can tell you exactly what challenges your child will have. Your job as your child’s mom and the best thing that you can do is to seek treatment that addresses your child’s individual needs and not focus on what to "call" the problem.

Here is what I believe. I believe that yes, our children, all children but especially our children with autism, need to have clear rules and consequences, I also believe that you have to be the parent who is willing to listen and willing to help them navigate what they don’t understand.

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This is a HOT topic in the autism world today.  Autism diagnosis or being autistic.  

Puzzle piece or no puzzle piece.  

Our company name, Not Your Average Autism Mom, and what our values and beliefs are.

Who we are and what we do and do not do as a growing company in the autism community.  

Do you believe that medical professionals and certain autism organizations are harmful to you or your child?

This is an episode where I get a little passionate, so stay with me through until the end because my hope is that by the end you might just have a different outlook or some new things to consider.  

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Assuming competence means recognizing that our children have thoughts, feelings, and dreams just like every other child.

But why is assuming competence so crucial? The answer lies in the power of belief. When you believe in your children, you instill in them a sense of self-worth and the confidence to believe in themselves.  Your belief in them becomes a driving force behind their determination, resilience, and ability to overcome challenges.

When our children see that you believe in them, it fuels their own belief in themselves.

Assuming competence and believing in what is possible doesn't mean that you are ignoring the challenges they face. It means acknowledging their struggles while focusing on their strengths and potential.

Our children may face setbacks and obstacles along the way, but whatever you do, don’t let that discourage you from maintaining your belief in their abilities.

As parents, we have the privilege and responsibility to shape the lives of our children.  When you have an unwavering belief in their abilities, it can be a transformative force that opens doors, breaks barriers, and unlocks their fullest potential. 

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If there’s one thing that I see over and over, it’s like, we know summer is coming, but we’re not prepared for it, and then what do we do? The kids are home, there’s no school, there’s no structure, there’s no routine, and we feel panic.

You have to ask yourself, “What it is that you want? What is your big why and what are you committed to doing?”

Once you have those questions answered, you have to prioritize what is most important to you because they can't all hold equal value.

Things you want to do for yourself, things that want to do with the kids, things that need to be done at home or for work. All of these things must be prioritized.  When you look at your summer, when you look at the time that you have with your kids, what do you want that to look and feel like?

You have to get creative in ways that you will do things that are important to you.  Put it on your calendar.

So many times, we just keep pushing things aside, because it just seems like one more thing to do, but in order to FEEL the way you want, you have to do the things that will get you there. 

Whatever it is, get creative, get resourceful, and be determined to figure it out because that is what it will take. 

How can you move towards what you want and how you want to feel, instead of just putting out all the little fires all summer and just getting through without even being present? 

You have so much more control over your life than you give yourself credit for, and when you slow down and really decide, “How you want to feel and then take action from that, you will be amazed at what you can create. 

You have to be intentional, you have to live your life with purpose and have a plan whether it’s summer or not.

You need to supervise your brain. You need to become aware of what you are thinking.   Learning to manage your mind and control your emotions along this journey is a game changer and will literally transform your life if you are willing to do the work. 

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Many typically developing children will do some toe walking prior to age three, but for our children on the spectrum who continue to toe walk past the age of three or four, there may be some cause for concern.

Toe walking is fairly common in children on the spectrum. It is a walking pattern in which a child walks primarily on their toes instead of using their entire foot.  One of the most significant impacts is delayed motor development and toe walking limits the engagement of certain muscles that are required for proper walking.

Another important thing to consider is could their vestibular system not be functioning properly. When you understand the potential role of a dysfunctional vestibular system, interventions should focus on providing appropriate stimulation that will support the development of a more typical walking pattern.

Understanding the complex nature of toe walking in autistic children is so important for effective and early intervention. 

It is up to you to observe the signs, seek a professional evaluation, explore appropriate interventions, and actively involve yourself in their interventions. 

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As a parent coach working exclusively with moms raising autistic children, I continue to see how challenging it can be to explain to other parents and other kids why your child acts and behaves differently. In this episode, I am sharing some ideas to hopefully help make it a little easier for you. 

Maybe it’s on the playground.  Maybe it’s at a local restaurant or maybe you are in the line at Target or your local grocery store and you see a child or parent staring, yes, we’ve all been there and while that moment becomes what you make it, I say this is the perfect time to spread autism awareness. 

Explaining autism to your child’s peers and their parents and just onlookers when you are out and about in your own communities is an essential step in creating a more inclusive and accepting world for individuals on the spectrum. 

By fostering understanding and providing education to help those who don’t know, we can bridge the understanding gap and build a supportive network for our children.

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The word “triggered” comes up a lot when I am coaching and I think that understanding the truth about where it comes from will be so helpful for you. 

Whatever it is your kid does or doesn't do, that is not what is triggering you. The trigger is coming from a thought you have about what they did or didn't do. If you want to see changes in the way you parent, then you have to figure out what you are thinking every time they do something that you think “triggers” you to act or react in a way that you don’t want to.

When your kid does the thing that triggers a thought for you, you have to figure out what you feel at that moment.

When we ask why is she doing that and we can’t answer it because we don’t know their motive, we don’t know what they’re thinking, we get triggered. The real answer is why is she doing that? Well, because she is. That’s why.  When our brain can’t answer a question, it often leads to a feeling of frustration. Frustration is a gap between expectation and reality. The bigger the gap, the bigger the frustration.

You need to supervise your brain. You need to become aware of what you are thinking.   

Learning to manage your mind and control your emotions along this journey is a game changer and will literally transform your life if you are willing to do the work. 

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As parents raising autistic children we are all likely very familiar with the challenges that come with language development for our children. 

Language is a system of communication that involves words, and grammar, and it allows us to express what we are thinking and feeling, share our thoughts, and connect with others.

However, just because someone has language, it doesn't mean they can use it functionally. For instance, some individuals on the spectrum might have an extensive vocabulary and be able to recite facts, but they may struggle with using language in social situations.

Having language means that a child has learned words and can use them to express themselves. However, being able to use language functionally means that a child can use their language to communicate effectively and appropriately in social situations. It's important to note that these two things are not always the same. Some children may have a large vocabulary but struggle to use their language in a meaningful way in social situations.

Many of our kids might develop language skills at a similar rate to their neurotypical peers but they struggle with the functional use of language in social situations, which is known as pragmatic language.  Pragmatic language refers to the social use of language, including the ability to understand and use nonverbal cues, take turns in conversation, and understand the underlying meaning behind what is being said.

In this episode, I talk about what to look for as well as what you need to have when you are ready to sit down and collaborate with your child's team to discuss interventions.

Having language is not enough. Children with autism need to develop functional language skills, particularly in the area of pragmatic language. Successful use of pragmatic language involves understanding social cues, adjusting language depending on the situation, taking turns in conversations, understanding figurative language, and using language to build relationships.

By focusing on developing our children's pragmatic language skills, we can help them communicate effectively and appropriately in social situations, leading to greater success in all areas of their life.

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