Life on the Other Side of Should
By SheHive
Life on the Other Side of ShouldMay 11, 2020
5.1 Standing up for your beliefs
In season 5 of Life on the Other Side of Should, we're focusing on living life in a time of total ambiguity. How do you manage the stress of living a normal life when when nothing is, quote/unquote, normal. What do you do when everything is up in the air, when the goal posts are constantly moving and when all your old tools and coping mechanisms are be tested to the max?
In season 5, episode 1, we focus on the question: How do you stand up for what you believe in when it's hard to know what - or who - to believe?
Joining us for the discussion are SheHive board member and Village of Franklin Council member, Pam Hansen, and SheHive Founding member and Michigan State Senator, Rosemary Bayer. As women in the political field, and simply as women, both Pam and Rosemary have vast experience in learning how to stand up for what they believe in in the face of adversity.
4.15 A Passionate 17 1/2 Minutes About Women, Stress and Resilience
In Season 4 of Life on the Other Side of Should, we are highlighting the collective wisdom of the SheHive. Each week you’ll hear from one of our community members that dared to answer a question we posed on our Facebook group, “What topic could you talk about passionately for 17 1/2 minutes with preparing?”
In Episode 15, Stress Transformation Coach, Lisa Machala, of The Collaborative Body joins us to talk about stress - how it shows up in the body, the damage it can do, and what you can do stop the vicious cycle.
Resources
4.14 Natural Childbirth
In Season 4 of Life on the Other Side of Should, we are highlighting the collective wisdom of the SheHive. Each week you’ll hear from one of our community members that dared to answer a question we posed on our Facebook group, “What topic could you talk about passionately for 17 1/2 minutes with preparing?”
In Episode 14, Cara Rossi joins us to talk about natural childbirth.
A freshman at Kalamazoo College, Cara joined a women’s group where reproductive rights and justice were a hot topic of discussion. The conversations focused on abortion and birth control - important subjects, for sure - but not the whole story. Cara also wanted to learn about reproductive rights and justice for women who wanted to give birth. It led her on the start of a long journey to learn more about medicalization of childbirth and how she could do more to support women who wanted to be mothers.
4.13 Women & Their Money
In Season 4 of Life on the Other Side of Should, we are highlighting the collective wisdom of the SheHive. Each week you’ll hear from one of our community members that dared to answer a question we posed on our Facebook group, “What topic could you talk about passionately for 17 1/2 minutes with preparing?”
In Episode 13, Cara Kennedy joins us to talk about personal finance for women.
Cara Kennedy is a professional Civil Engineer who has recently undertaken a new hobby of real estate investing. Cara believes that personal finance is something that everyone can learn and “It’s only scary because we don’t talk about it.”
4.12 Hacking Stress Relief
In Season 4 of Life on the Other Side of Should, we are highlighting the collective wisdom of the SheHive. Each week you’ll hear from one of our community members that dared to answer a question we posed on our Facebook group, “What topic could you talk about passionately for 17 1/2 minutes with preparing?”
In Episode 12, Angela Zangarola joins us to talk about the Wim Hof Method - a quick hack she discovered after years of research on stress relief.
You might know Angela as our financial and divorce expert at the SheHive, but she is also a self-proclaimed "average woman trying to get through daily life." Desperately searching for a way to manage stress, Angela found sanctuary in meditation - but didn’t have enough time for a regular practice. Years of research finally led her to the Wim Hof method - a quick hack to tackle stress.
4.11 Finding Happiness in the Small Things
In Season 4 of Life on the Other Side of Should, we are highlighting the collective wisdom of the SheHive. Each week you’ll hear from one of our community members that dared to answer a question we posed on our Facebook group, “What topic could you talk about passionately for 17 1/2 minutes with preparing?”
In Episode 11, SheHive community member, Susie Fischer, joins us to talk about finding happiness in the little things.
A former yoga studio manager, Susie, found her life turned upside down when the world went into lockdown in 2020. Out of work and home alone, Susie quickly discovered that if she could “settle the hell down for just a minute,” she could find things all around her that made her feel not only okay, but secure and, ultimately, happy.
4.10 Mental Health and Suicide
In Season 4 of Life on the Other Side of Should, we are highlighting the collective wisdom of the SheHive. Each week you’ll hear from one of our community members that dared to answer a question we posed on our Facebook group, “What topic could you talk about passionately for 17 1/2 minutes with preparing?”
In Episode 10, Rochelle joins us to talk about mental health.
Rochelle, a suicide survivor, has lost many friends and family members to suicide. She joins us to talk about the misconceptions of mental health and suicide, and to talk about her personal journey to wellness.
4.9 Self-Care
In Season 4 of Life on the Other Side of Should, we are highlighting the collective wisdom of the SheHive. Each week you’ll hear from one of our community members that dared to answer a question we posed on our Facebook group, “What topic could you talk about passionately for 17 1/2 minutes with preparing?”
In Episode 9, author and self-care advocate, Lisa Sheldon of How’s Your Good, joins us to talk about self-care.
In her past life as a type-A supermom, Lisa dedicated her life to taking care of everyone else - perfectly - except herself, resulting in an ambulance ride and hospital stay where she discovered she had Graves disease. Join us to learn about how Lisa turned her life around and what you can do to be kinder to yourself.
4.8 The Commercialization of Creative Writing
In Season 4 of Life on the Other Side of Should, we are highlighting the collective wisdom of the SheHive. Each week you’ll hear from one of our community members that dared to answer a question we posed on our Facebook group, “What topic could you talk about passionately for 17 1/2 minutes with preparing?”
In Episode 8, Lisa Schmidt of Your Law Geek joins us to talk the commercialization of writing and how editing for sales has taken all the creativity out of creative writing.
Lisa Schmidt is a writer first and a lawyer second. She has a Bachelor of Arts in Creative Writing (English) from Michigan State University and was on Law Review at Thomas M. Cooley Law School in Lansing, Michigan. A published author, Lisa also maintains several blogs and writes long-form fiction novels in her spare time. Lisa is never at a loss for words and knows how to make difficult topics easy for the public to understand.
4.7 Women’s Health & Wellness
In Season 4 of Life on the Other Side of Should, we are highlighting the collective wisdom of the SheHive. Each week you’ll hear from one of our community members that dared to answer a question we posed on our Facebook group, “What topic could you talk about passionately for 17 1/2 minutes with preparing?”
In Episode 7, Lisa Shackelford-Anderson of The Art of Living Wisely joins us to talk about food as medicine.
Lisa is a certified Health Coach who believes that health and wellness is about taking the canvas God gave us and creating the healthy life we were created to live by properly feeding our mind, body, and spirit.
4.6 Connecting to Source Spirit
In Season 4 of Life on the Other Side of Should, we are highlighting the collective wisdom of the SheHive. Each week you’ll hear from one of our community members that dared to answer a question we posed on our Facebook group, “What topic could you talk about passionately for 17 1/2 minutes with preparing?”
In Episode 6, Ivy of Mystical Soul Work joins us for a passionate 17 1/2 minutes (or so) to talk about Source Spirit and the Divine.
Ivy is an intuitive, mystic, psychic, medium, shaman, and women's soul coach professionally trained in shamanism. At age five she saw her first spirit animal, at age eight had a near-death experience and has connected with the angelic realm since she was a young girl. She is trained in Reiki and Mindfulness-based stress reduction to assist women with stress, anxiety, depression, and pain.
4.5 Building Community Wherever You Go
In Season 4 of Life on the Other Side of Should, we are highlighting the collective wisdom of the SheHive. Each week you’ll hear from one of our community members that dared to answer a question we posed on our Facebook group, “What topic could you talk about passionately for 17 1/2 minutes with preparing?”
In Episode 5, The Creative Fairy Godmother, Amanda Sweet, joins us for a passionate 17 1/2 minutes (or so) to talk about starting over whenever you want and building community wherever you go.
Amanda Sweet is the Curator and Founder of The ReVamp. Driven to support the community by creating immersive experiences that everyone can enjoy, Amanda is a Creative Fairy Godmother, Event Planner, Curve Model, Photographer, and Producer in both Dallas Fort Worth and Metro Detroit. Check her out on Instagram at @amandasweet106.
4.4 Acupuncture & Women’s Wellness
In Season 4 of Life on the Other Side of Should, we are highlighting the collective wisdom of the SheHive. Each week you’ll hear from one of our community members that dared to answer a question we posed on our Facebook group, “What topic could you talk about passionately for 17 1/2 minutes with preparing?”
In Episode 4, Acupuncturist Kat Barber joins us for a passionate 17 1/2 minutes (or so) to talk about how Acupuncture is so important in helping women achieve optimum health and wellness.
While working as an HIV Case Manager in Chicago 15+ years ago, Kat was able to directly witness the transformative impact that the traditional Chinese medicine had on her clients’ quality of life, health and emotional well-being. The discovery led her on a path that had her move across the country - to both coasts - to earn two Master’s degrees and complete a post-graduate, clinical mentorship, and eventually return to Ferndale, Michigan, to launch Kat Barber Acupuncture.
4.3 Career and Life Pivots
In Season 4 of Life on the Other Side of Should, we are highlighting the collective wisdom of the SheHive. Each week you’ll hear from one of our community members that dared to answer a question we posed on our Facebook group, “What topic could you talk about passionately for 17 1/2 minutes with preparing?”
In Season 4 Episode 3, Rachel Bellack joins us for a passionate 17 1/2 minutes (or so) about how to successfully pivot your career or your life. Guided by the mantra of, “Accept the given circumstances,” Rachel has successfully navigated a long and rich career path that started as an assistant in her grandfather’s plumbing business and eventually led to her launching a successful acting school, a consultancy and becoming a Forbes Council coach focused on helping businesses around the world build better teams and develop their top talent.
4.2 Gourds, Kites & Kangaroos
In Season 4 of Life on the Other Side of Should, we are highlighting the collective wisdom of the SheHive. Each week you’ll hear from one of our community members that dared to answer a question we posed on our Facebook group, “What topic could you talk about passionately for 17 1/2 minutes with preparing?”
In Season 4 Episode 2, Gloria Irla Marlow of Morning Glory’s Fine Art and Whimsies joins us for a passionate 17 1/2 minutes (or so) about art, kites and volunteering at the Detroit Zoo as co-host Sonya astonishes all of us with her knowledge about historical gourds.
4.1 Work & Parenthood
In Season 4 of Life on the Other Side of Should, we are highlighting the collective wisdom of the SheHive. Each week you’ll hear from one of our community members that dared to answer a question we posed on our Facebook group, “What topic could you talk about passionately for 17 1/2 minutes with preparing?”
In Season 4 Episode 1, Karen Liska joins us for a passionate 17 1/2 minutes (or so) about work and parenthood. As a young attorney, Karen faced discrimination in the workplace when returning to work after the birth of her second child, so she decided to make a career pivot. Years of research and training later, Karen now coaches working parents through career transitions as the Founder of Transition Point Coaching.
3.2 The Annual State of the Shoulds
New Year, New You?! How about New Year, Same, Beautiful, Goal-driven You? In Season 3, Episode 2 Dr. Corrine Rogers joins us to talk about the fallacy of New Year's resolutions and why setting goals is a healthier approach to self-improvement.
3.1 If This Sh*t Can Fly...
In Season 3, Episode 1 hosts Sonya and Ursula talk about the audacity of bad holiday movies.
2.11 Fish Eyeballs
In Season 2, Episode 11 of Life on the Other Side of Should, hosts Sonya Mastick and Ursula Adams discuss whether you SHOULD be making better time of all your free time now that many of us don’t have to commute to work, slowing down and why your body might just crave fish eyeballs.
2.10 Leadership and Tricycles
In Season 2, Episode 10 of Life on the Other Side of Should, hosts Sonya Mastick and Ursula Adams discuss whether leaders SHOULD be fallible and the fun of not one, but TWO adult tricycles.
2.9 Be Perfect
In Season 2, Episode 9 of Life on the Other Side of Should, Lisa Schmidt of Your Law Geek joins us to talk about whether you SHOULD try harder to be perfect.
2.8 Dead People Are Ideal
In Season 2: Episode 8 of Life on the Other Side of Should with Sonya Mastick & Ursula Adams: Should you allow bad (for you) people back into your life? Should we idealize dead people? Should we care about our own legacies?
2.7 White Feminism
In Season 2: Episode 7 of Life on the Other Side of Should, we are joined by SheHive partner, Dominique Wilson, to talk about white feminism and how white women can be more inclusive.
2.6 Empathy Hangovers
In this episode, host Ursula Adams is joined by a special cohost, Jane Pierce of Tarot Jane, to discuss whether or not you should change your beliefs, the significance of the summer solstice and empathy hangovers.
2.5 Be a Good Ally
In Season 2 | Episode 5 of Life on the Other Side of Should: Should you know everything about racism and being a good ally?
RESOURCES
++ Podcasts ++
> Seeing White Podcast - https://www.sceneonradio.org/episode-32-how-race-was.../ (its a specific episode that is mindblowing).
> Speaking of Racism
> That's Not How That Works
++ Books ++
> Women, Race, and Class by Angela Y. Davis
> Check Your Privilege by Myisha Hill
> Just Mercy by Bryan Stevenson
> White Fragility by Robin Diangelo
> Me and White Supremacy by Layla F. Saad
++ Shows to Watch ++
> 13th
> The Racial Wealth Gap
> Just Mercy
> Dear White People
> When They See Us
2.4 Boobs
Today on the Life of the Other Side of Should podcast, SheHive Founder, Ursula Adams, and special guest co-host, Jessica V of Brazenly Beautiful, Bodies Without Shame, discuss boobs, the kind of working out that doesn't suck, and their most embarrassing moments inside the dance/yoga studio.
2.3 Is it Mothers Day Again?
Season 2 | Episode 3: We explore the shoulds that come along with Mother’s Day… Should you feel bad if you aren’t a mother? Should you mend a relationship with a shitty mother? Should you be expected to know anything different than you mother? Also in this episode, Sonya makes up a new word… glitteroris.
2.2 Fat in Polyester
Season 2 | Episode 2: Should we wait to buy quality clothes until we're the "right" size?
2.1 Productive in a Pandemic
Season 2 | Episode 1: SHOULD you be productive during self-quarantine?
1.9 What Women Fear Most
In Season 1, Episode 9, hosts Ursula, Sonya and Jacki are joined by SheHive KeyHolder, Jessica Van Valkenburgh, to discuss Vegas showgirls, what women fear most, Key Ninjas, coaching our daughters on how to not get raped, civil discourse, pregnancy shaming and how women should not be bitches. Or should they?
1.8 Fat Shaming
In Season 1, Episode 8, hosts Ursula, Sonya and Jacki are joined by SheHive KeyHolder, Jackie Zimmerman, to discuss fat shaming, how we should grieve, working corporate versus owning your own business, and the danger in tying our identities to our jobs.
1.7 Mansplaining
In Season 1, Episode 7, hosts Ursula, Sonya and Jacki discuss big chests, mansplaining, diets, mansplaining, aggressive women, mansplaining, gross foods and more mansplaining.
1.6 You're Too Empathetic
In Season 1, Episode 6, hosts Ursula, Sonya and Jacki discuss ASMR, bonding over gossip, when women are accused of being “too empathetic” in the workplace, and whether we “should” be able to handle everything on our own as strong, independent women.
1.5 Happy Mothers Day?
In Season 1, Episode 5, hosts Ursula, Sonya and Jacki discuss unwritten rules that you should know, caring for family that doesn’t care for you, limiting screen time, farty spouses, and the danger of the HUSTLE culture.
1.4 My Face is in This Bag
In Season 1, Episode 4, hosts Ursula, Sonya and Jacki discuss whether women have to wear makeup, eyebrows that fall off, shaving nipples (yeah, you read that right), the choice to have children and what it means to fail as a leader sometimes.
1.3 234 Things You Should Do Every Day
Self-care: You just can’t win! Either we’re lazy slobs or over-indulgent twats. In Episode 3 of Life on the Other Side of Should, hosts Ursula, Sonya and Jacki discuss the 234 things we should be doing every day and what self-care means to each of us.
1.2 Resting Bitch Face
In Episode 2: Hosts Ursula, Sonya and Jacki discuss what it means to stand alone for a cause, resting bitch face, and whether or not women are obligated to be “more approachable."
1.1 Should Season
In Episode 1: Hosts Ursula, Sonya and Jacki introduce Life on the Other Side of Should, a new podcast of the SheHive, discuss what the concept of "should" means to each of us, dissect "should season" (the beginning of the year), talk silver linings, and dive deep into the fact that we were all today-many-years-old when we learned that there are more than four emotions.